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The INFJ at Work

At work, the INFJ is focused on the task of bettering the human condition. INFJs are dedicated, helpful, and principled workers who can be relied on to envision, plan, and carry out complex projects for humanitarian causes.

Although they are typically driven by lofty ideals, Counselors gain the most satisfaction from their work when they can turn their ideas into reality, creating constructive change for other people.

INFJs are typically organized and prefer work that allows them to complete projects in an orderly manner. They are often independent and tend to prefer a quiet environment that allows them the opportunity to fully develop their own thoughts and ideas.

The ideal work environment for an INFJ is harmonious, industrious, and oriented to a humanitarian mission, with co-workers who are similarly committed to positive change. The ideal job for a Counselor allows them to use their creativity in an independent, organized environment to develop and implement a vision that is consistent with their personal values.

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Top Careers for the INFJ

The top driver for INFJs in choosing a career is the opportunity to do something that is consistent with their values. Often, INFJs choose careers in helping professions like health care, education, or counseling. INFJs are thinkers by nature and appreciate careers that allow them to use their intellect on problems that interest them. Often, these are people problems, for instance in psychology, but INFJs can also be found in other areas of the sciences and even engineering.

Many INFJs have a creative streak which can be seen in the top INFJ career trends. Working with language is especially popular for INFJs, but they can also be found in various fields in the arts.

Top career choices for INFJs include:

Health Care

Health care careers are a wonderful opportunity for INFJs to combine their deep caring for the welfare of other people with their often formidable intellectual capabilities. Many INFJs enjoy the sciences and find it extremely satisfying to put their scientific knowledge to use in helping others. Sample health care careers for INFJs include:

Counseling and Social Service

INFJs are typically wonderful listeners and deep, insightful thinkers when it comes to personal problems. They have a high degree of intuition about people and a deep well of patience in dealing with sticky emotional situations. All of these qualities make them talented, compassionate counselors, social servicepeople, and religious workers. Sample counseling and social service careers for INFJs include:

Sciences

INFJs often enjoy the intellectual challenge of the sciences, and can be found in scientific careers that relate to their values. Sample science careers for INFJs include:

Business & Law

INFJs are often found making the business world a little more human, in HR, training, or the more humanitarian professions within the law. Sample careers for INFJs in the business and legal fields include:

Education

Although teaching in front of a classroom is a typically Extraverted activity and can be a challenge for more Introverted INFJs, they often find it deeply satisfying to help children and adults grow and develop. Education careers that involve working with smaller groups, or one-on-one, are an especially good fit. Sample education careers for INFJs include:

Language and Arts

Many INFJs love the expressive quality of language, and they typically have the focus and concentration necessary to be excellent writers and editors. Other areas of the arts appeal as well. Sample artistic careers for INFJs include:

INFJ Careers to Avoid

It is important to note that any personality type can be successful in any occupation. However, some occupations are well suited to the natural talents and preferred work style of the INFJ, while other occupations demand modes of thinking and behavior that do not come as naturally to this type. Occupations that require the INFJ to operate outside their natural preferences may prove stressful or draining, and often sound unappealing to Counselors who are choosing a career.

The following occupations have been found to be unpopular among INFJs, based on data gathered from surveys of the general population.

The INFJ on a Team

INFJs are creative solvers of people problems, and bring innovative ideas for fostering human potential. They are usually perceptive in observing the talents of others, and good at encouraging teammates to contribute their skills. They are mindful of group process, listening attentively to the opinions of others and synthesizing varied priorities to create a unified vision. Because they prefer to accommodate all points of view, Counselors may have trouble on very competitive or conflictual teams.

On a team, the INFJ acts as a source of quiet inspiration and vision, and provides clarity of purpose to the group. INFJs seek meaning and truth, and will reflect on ideas to create a deeper understanding. Although they don’t often call attention to themselves, they can provide insight into the ethical and humanitarian issues at hand, and can often elegantly articulate the group’s mission. Counselors work best on a supportive team where they can consider issues of ethics and values and act with integrity. Teams which move to act quickly without taking time to reflect may alienate the INFJ.

The INFJ as a Leader

In leadership positions, INFJs motivate others by sharing a positive vision. Counselor leaders are often quiet and unassuming, but win other's dedication through their own hard work, strong principles, and inspiring ideas. They are at their best when guiding a team to commit to a common vision, and when creating organizational goals to benefit people. They are insightful and creative, and bring a sense of confidence and commitment to projects they believe in.

Because INFJ leaders are often motivated by personal values, they do best in organizations with a mission consistent with these values. Their challenge is to keep their ideas and initiatives realistic, and to consider practicalities as they plan for change.

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Aron (not verified) says...

I am quite sure INFJ is not so uncommon. I can pass as ENFJ if I were to answer the questions based on my public / work persona. INFJ when I am grounded .

Besides , INFJ T is a whole another personality. You would have serious difficulty coping with INFJ T if they are not scientifically rooted. I believe people shift from one to another.. It takes a lot of dialogue and inner refinement to get your Briggs sorted . ..

INFJ Guy (not verified) says...

As an INFJ just ask yourself do people give you energy or take it?  As far as professional vs proivate we INFJ's hold ourselves to the same standards.  INFJ's are also not overly emotional.  We have an easy time discerning what you want from a situation and what drives your decesions.  In fact we usually have to take a step back and not discredit what you want because usually others are driven by selfish desires.  Having worked in corporate America for decades it usally comes down to creating win win situations.  You get what you want as long as some others benefit as well.  Fairness, equality, compassion drive us and greed discusts us.

kristina mcclure (not verified) says...

Our work personality is based upon our stage persona and not truly based on our true self whether you are being grounded or not. INFJ personality types can be quite ungrounded. Piss one off, see how that goes for ya. 

INFJ - Jonathan (not verified) says...

"I can pass as ENFJ..." To the novice of MBTI, I do think ENFJ and INFJ can feel really similar. If you had experience with the two types it would be easier for you to see the clear differences.

 

The INFJ is brave and selfless and desired by many, but desires Few. The ENFJ trys to be desired by everyone and is not brave. In comparison ENFJ is almost like an INFJ wannabe. 

 

INFJs always want to be alone. ENFJs never want to be alone and are wonderful but ENFJs are not introverted. INFJs pretend not to be but 100% are introverts. This does not insinuated they do not have a care for humanity, big difference.

 

Purpose of Comment: The test does not determine your type. If you cannot answer questions correctly because you don't understand question well enough or for example cannot read etc.. You will get incorrect results. 

 

Your real type is undeniable because the letters you get back for example INFJ equate to something. The something being a set of cognitive functions that have an order of desired use along with a natural ability/power potential associated with it. This combination and order give you a "personality type". Having your first two functions ordered as Ni/Fe will be different than Fe/Ni. These equate to clearly different things which is obvious upon research.

 

These functions determine your type. The test is just a tool for you to get an idea of your type without a professional to help you understand. This does not mean you cannot get the wrong result on the test, because for example you want to be extroverted but are not really and so instead of being objective you move it more towards nuetral answers etc..

 

LAST: Check your cognitive functions to know and verify your type. You are one or the other. When you understand more you will realize how incredibly foolish it sounds when people say stuff like "I am a INFP/J" or your own case here, "I/ENFJ. 

 

PS. No hate, I love ENFJs. One of my favorite types. Hope this info helps give some deeper perspective.

Amos (not verified) says...

Gotta disagree with you there. I tested equally for ENFJ, INFJ and ENFP. 48% introvert, 52% extrovert which is more or less what I've always said about myself. I don't think they are mutually exclusive and aspects of both describe exactly what I believe about myself.

Abigail says...

I type as an INFP as my top type, but I feel so much more like an INFJ. And I'm so confused because I feel good when I counsel others, but lately I can't seem to have any one talk to me. I have been more of a talker than a listener. I have always had a deep desire to heal others souls, and when I don't have anyone to talk to me I become talkative, and it feels so wrong. I have also been having an extremely tough year, which is contributing to my more talkative side popping up. It's even worse because people think I'm really weird and I know I'm not myself, and it's just awful. I keep wrapping myself in these sad and dark thoughts, because I can't find the light and the dark is so comfortable and strange it's hard to leave. I hate talking too much, I want to talk as little as possible but I want people to know me so bad I feel like I need to sacrifice my wants to find someone who will understand. But no one ever does and none ever really will. 

I am not the emotional INFP, but I'm much better at hiding my emotions, and I see all the INFP stuff and don't really relate, but almost all of the INFJ I DO relate to. Am I mistyping? I know my top three are INFJ, INTP, and INFP, but based on my personality it seems they should be in that order in stead of the other way around. No one understands me, including myself. Ugh.

 

Swati R (not verified) says...

Hey.... so reading your comment just made feel like I'm not the only one who has a difficulty in finding people who understand me. Being an INFJ I perfectly understand what you're feeling, I'm presently going through something similar. 

But we INFJs have the tendency of being perfectionists, and that often leads us to be hard on ourselves. If someone doesn't understand you, it is their problem, not yours. Don't be hard on yourself for wanting to talk. It's normal to want to talk more, because you just want to be heard. I kinda did that these past few years, so I get it. But no one needs to understand you more than you need to understand yourself. You are the most important person in your life. You must always come first, you become your own priority,  because no one is going to do that for you. Learn to accept and love who you are, you are a unique person. Believe that, understand that, love that.

I probably went overboard with this rant, but yeah. :P

Genevieve (not verified) says...

Speaking as an INFJ I observed that you go into great detail about youself and that should give you a big clue that you are not an INFJ. I mean this in nicest way but INFJ's realy don't share the details of thier inner world unless they can trust you with their very sensive, complex selves. Also, introverts  will reach within for answers and extroverts reach out. I wonder therefore if you are an extrovert perhaps? You say that you become talkative when others are not. In reality I am glad to have the silence so I can have a break from people and retreat back into myself. Silence is a wonderful thing for me and unless I am passionate about  somthing. I am reserved and secretive most of the  the time.  Look the world needs all types and being an open and expressive person is just as impactful on others but in a different way. Be yourself and celebrate you! Check out ENFJs. That might be your type. They are very simular to INFJs. 

Proshat (not verified) says...

Dear Abigail,

It seems like you have problem wirh understanding yourself and your personality. The tests are not 100% correct, they are just some guesses. Moreover, personality types are not fixed and they might change from time to time. So it is natural to feel confused. What that matters is not the personality type itself, it just matters that you finally understand yourself, your functions and the reason behind your behaviour and thoughts. All of these test are just some tools to give you a better idea of yourself, of who you are. So take it easy my friend :) You and the way you feel are important not the test results.

I admire your curiosity, your passion to keep looking for the true you. I believe you are not weird. But you are very special, unique and rare. You have the courage to discover your hidden parts and that is something the not everyone can do.

Finding out your personlity type is not enough to find out everything. Just keep looking with different perpectives and believe that you are on a right path, a path that leads you toward happiness, which is the result of discovering how precious you are.

Take care

your "me" (not verified) says...

The SecretLife of Walter Mitty 2013

watch this movie

it's amazing.

Private INFJ friend (not verified) says...

U know what? I sometimes just can't stop thinking about all the mysteries around me, and sometimes my friends say that I am too shy and always TOO PRIVATE! But what's the point? I love thinking about others and my personal problems ( although sometimes I can't even sleep at night.) But to all the INFJs out there: just be yourself!

confused (not verified) says...

Hi  I came out as a ISTJ in the test but while parts seemed to apply to me I feel like INFJ fits me far better.  On the IQ test I scored high in visual perception, Pattern recognition and Analytical thinking  (lower then the other 2)  I tend to over look details when looking at the whole picture.  I have found that I see things from a different perceptive then other people and I like seeing results.  I have degree's but I had to work for them and I have continued to do study,  I get annoyed by things that are not fixed and stand out like broken rails. Why would I come out as a  ISTJ?

Anonymous 10 (not verified) says...

I am INFJ-T myself, and I have studied the MBTI  test for a while. From the way you talk, you do sound like you're more ISTJ to me. I am not an expert in this field, so you might want to talk to someone professional to understand your personality type. But I do trust my intuition and I tend to understand how people think or feel simply reading between the lines.  

no.body (not verified) says...

I as an infj just have one little problem

I think too much, and i should anlyze everything but i am not trying enough.

Are you the same ?

Is it so bad ?

Jena (not verified) says...

Yes i am the same. It's actually not bad at all. I know where you are coming from because I am a INFJ Too.

brave & alone (not verified) says...

A religious infj boy, is the loneliest person in the world.

bobiscool (I'm not bob though) (not verified) says...

You know what's even worse? Someone who holds all the values of religious people, but isn't religious. It's so much harder, because non-religious people are normally so liberal in terms of morality, which is the one thing I absolutely cannot stand. I will stand for my moral values even if it means death. But then, I'm not religious, so I can't relate with religious people either. Sigh....

INFJ1960 (not verified) says...

Lol!!! I'm a Christian and being an INFJ (unbeknownst to me at that time) was such a challenge in my younger years because of my inquisitive questioning mind, and not being able to conform with 'what's happening now in the Church' box. Translated I didn't have faith, thought too much, or just plain annoyed people lol! 

Kate RN (not verified) says...

Until he meets a religious infj girl - another lonliest creature in the World... 

Grant Kelly (not verified) says...

I feel you as a religious INFJ man.  I've been in a men's group for around 2 years and a small group for 3 years through my church.  No matter how hard I try to fit in, I just don't and get the, "wow this guy is strange"-looks.  Don't get me started on Sunday School class......

Rima Muryantina (not verified) says...

The prophets in Abrahamic religions are very lonely because they are male and they are INFJs.

Same (not verified) says...

Religious infj girl and over thinks everything

Hnnnn (not verified) says...

Why do you feel that way?

brave & alone (not verified) says...

too idealistic .

Jennifer Elliott (not verified) says...

We always want to help others. As the advocate/counsellor we can attract the Narcissist personality type. I had to learn this the hard way. But I now know that "pitying" people is a way of enabling bad behaviour. I refuse to have pity for people and will not let guilt cloud my judgement. 

Sabina Miah (not verified) says...

Hey I feel the same. I'm still recovering from my covert narcissist ex and bcs of of the fact that I people please and wasn't that good at conflict resolving (most things were apparently my daily and ofc I took all the blame)... I wasn't strong enough to fight for myself and as a result, I was gaslighted and manipulated. When I learned more about myself and realised that I wasn't the toxic one and started changing, my ex became more miserable and disposed of me when I was looking for answers. It's hard to accept the reality. Only look inwards to make sure you learn and don't fall for another narcissist again and so you can run ASAP. Don't hold onto any good that you see in such people too as it'll cloud your intuition and judgment, you have to be a bit selfish and say no before they drag you down with them

Emma (not verified) says...

I would have to think that we are better off with people simalr to us. We get into our own heads far too much. We long for understanding- But the only people who can understand us seem to be ourselves.

adam_99 (not verified) says...

One question :

Are INFJs good for INFJs ?

 

Melissa184848392 (not verified) says...

This all makes so much sense in my situation. I recently left my job of 10 years where I climbed the ladder to Manager. I wanted to help everyone and did as best as I could, worked my ass off, but the company itself was awful and unethical. I tried my hardest but found it hard to discipline people especially when I knew their work ethic and what was going on in their lives. It was hard for me to purposely hurt their records when I knew I could help them instead. In the end I was more of a friend than a boss and I hated that I couldn't command respect and was uncomfortable with conflict. When I left though they missed me as a person and my style of working because I did what I could for them and I guess they took it for granted? I felt so good leaving and so much stress lifted I did not fit and could not be a jerk like the other managers. Whew well that was my piece 

Lost INFJ (not verified) says...

Your experience is quite similar to me. I want to leave my job of 10+ years as well. Did you leave after you got another job or are you still looking for another job now? What job do you think is more suitable for you?

This job stresses me too much that I want to leave immediately but I'm not sure I can find a job that suits me, esp in this pandemic situstion.

Lost INFJ (not verified) says...

Your experience is quite similar to me. I want to leave my job of 10+ years as well. Did you leave after you got another job or are you still looking for another job now? What job do you think is more suitable for you?

This job stresses me too much that I want to leave immediately but I'm not sure I can find a job that suits me, esp in this pandemic situstion.

Chez (not verified) says...

I get it, Melissa.  I've twice had to leave jobs that I believed were unethical.  The misery and stress it causes isn't worth it.  The relief on that last day when you walk away, knowing you'll never have to return is so liberating - like a ton of weight being lifted off your shoulders.   I hope you found a job that gives you satisfaction. X

Hey Ryan, Sup! (not verified) says...

Hello guys! I recently confirmed that I'm an INFJ too.  And with that.I just want to share my experiences of being an INFJ (curious if it's just me or it's common with most INFJs). 

1. For me it's hard to be an INFJ when you're a guy. hahahah! I don't know, I find myself different from most guys. It's like I'm more sensitive, and more in touch with emotions that I fear that women will not see me as "manly" enough. I know shouldn't be comparing myself to others but I tend to keep trying to blend in to the norm and it's so hard. (But also, I see the perks of being sensitive, usually I'm the "counselor" in my own circle of friends which I really like to do.)

2. I feel different. I actually have many circle of friends but there's always a time that I feel like I'm not fitting in. I actually feel like an alien trying to blend it so people will not be suspicious. HAHAHAH. I constantly try to change myself to blend in and it's actually tiring. Though I know my friends still accept me for who I am but I still keep adapting myself just to feel normal. hahhaha

3. (Last negativity then I'll start with the positive/interesting ones hahaha) I have really low self-esteem. I don't know, I always think that I'm still not the best version of myself and I should aim to be that. Even though many people keep saying to me that I'm talented, good-looking, kind, I tend to feel embarrassed when hearing it. (just even typing the 3 descriptions of myself made me feel uncomfortable hahaha) It's like my brain just disregard that strengths and would prefer to focus on the flaws that I have to fix. And with this part, I just want to add how ironic it is that I have self-esteem issues yet I'm ambitious with my dreams and my goals. I always caught myself thinking I'm a big shot, imagining my rise to stardome while jamming to Panic! at the disco's High Hopes. hahaha! I have this part of me thinking that I'm special. It's weird getting caught with low self worth and thinking that I'm something superior actually. 

4. (interesting traits coming up) Is it just me or is it common to other INFJs to be attracted to classy things? I usually prefer being sophisticated with my style of clothes. I tend to gravitate on things that have this beauty and exclusiveness in its attributes. Hahahahah!

5. Adapting. I don't know but I think it's common to all INFJs that we're good at adapting Is that right? It's like for me, I can switch from being the shy, timid type of guy into an extroverted, out-going person if the situation requires me to. There's a time where I'm involved in shooting a film then I saw a newcomer joined us. As I observed this guy, I quickly absorbed his feeling of awkwardness and being shy that what I did is I become a really extroverted type for the person. I tell stories and share jokes with him, introduce him to my friends, I even make small talks (that's uncomfortable for me to do). I don't know, I think it depends on my environment. I can switch from being passive, shy person, into a dominant, sociable leader in seconds. 

6.There's a time where I met this new group of friends and I really did spend a lot of time with them. Then all of the sudden I start to "absorb" or adapt to their personalities. I became an outgoing extrovert for a week that I never knew I can actually become. Then after that I think I had a "low-battery" then I spent a week locking myself inside my house "reverting to my usual self. hahahaah

As I end my post, I think I just want to state that being an INFJ can be interesting, fun, and sometimes it's hard, exausting perhaps. There's a time where you want people to know you more, like you really are trying to open up but you still end up feeling misunderstood. plus, INFJs have the feeling of being different or left-out to also deal with. What I'm saying is that it's really tiring to be an INFJ but I just want to cheer up the person who's reading this that there is someone who really understand us which is our God! He knows our struggles, and even our flaws and weaknesses and yet He's there to accept us. Also He even know your big and small victories in life that some people may miss out (and I know it excruciating to feel unappreciated 'cause there's a side in us which want to please people) but God knows all your victories even if it's simple and He's proud for you accomplishing it. Whenever we feel terrible, or tired, let's remember that God's there for us to give us comfort and rest :) (Matthew 11:28)

Kristopher (not verified) says...

I relate 100% I loved reading your post! And yes! God always understands us perfectly and is always there! :)  <3 

Esras (not verified) says...

Hey, I just read your experiences with and thoughts on being an INFJ and were just like yes! Even as a woman I could very much recognise myself in all of your six points. I'm also a christian INFJ, which can essentiate the feeling of alienation that you mentioned earlier even further. The last part and bibleverse was very encouraging, so if you ever even read this I guess I'd just want to thank you for your open, kind and hopeful words and let you know that there's other people out here that think, feel and experiences very much the same. God bless. [Sorry for any grammatic errors, I'm Swedish] :) 

Rae (not verified) says...

I just found out that I'm an INFJ! Wow...has this new world of understanding things just opened up. I can relate to about 90% of what you've mentioned, with the biggest difference being rooted (I'm sure) in that I'm female. I'll elaborate in the same order you listed yours. 
 

1. My issue with emotions isn't in being sensitive to how I feel, but rather being overly sensitive to the feelings of everyone around me. Actually, I've been doing it for so long that it takes a great deal of effort for me to know how I really feel about something. In many ways, this makes me feel like I'm not "woman enough" because I'm not personally as sensitive as others think I should be. However, I feel good about the fact that I can nurture my friends and others in intimate ways that they can't get from other personality types. 
 

2. I feel different too. I have many different friends from wildly different circles. Most of the time I appear to mesh really well with them, but that's only because I'm super skilled at either tapping into a certain part of my own personality or adapting to the environment. I'm not sure that I've ever felt I could be utterly and completely 100% myself with any one of my friends. There always seems to be a reservation. 🤔

3. You are very interesting! I don't struggle with low self-esteem. At least I'm pretty sure I don't. I have always been confident in the attributes that I have for as long as I remember. I know that I'm beautiful, hard-working, gentle-hearted, etc., but I'm still always looking to improve or get better. It's not a negative though. You mentioned God later in your post. I think my confidence is almost entirely rooted in my knowledge that I am His and that I was made exactly the way I should be. I remember reading this book as a young child titled "I'm Glad I'm Me." I've learned to love me unconditionally, and so any changes or upgrades I look forward to and strive for are just ways for me to grow. I don't need fixing- you don't need fixing either. I'm intruigued by this feeling you have that you're special; I feel like I have the same one. 
 

4. It's just you! Lol, just kidding. I can't speak for others, but for myself, I was built for luxury and class. I find it really funny because I certainly wasn't born into it. Although, being raised at the poverty line has certainly provided creative opportunity and an appreciation for beautiful and quality things. So my style is a combination of grunge and class if that makes any sense. Black is my favourite colour (I know it's a shade 😒) and I prefer a gothic or punky look, but it's always pretty and sometimes (I dare say..) elegant. I'll call it Pretty Punk haha. 
 

5. You're totally right in my opinion. I actually didn't know this about myself until recently. Or at least I didn't know it was a personality trait to be adaptive; I just always thought I was being a 'different part of myself.' But, as evidenced by the various text messaging threads I've revisited on my phone, I change who I am or how I communicate based on who I'm talking to. Lol, I might even be doing it now! (I don't think so in all honesty....I feel like you might understand real me.) But now that I've realized this, I wonder how much of my adaptations I've taken on and assumed to be me? I'm currently doing some soul searching, so hopefully I'll find an answer soon. 
 

6. I didn't realize that I've need a vacation from being extraverted at times until you mentioned it. In fact, I also didn't know that I was an introvert until two days ago. I think that due to a traumatic childhood I learned how to adapt quickly to my situation, and the coping skills stuck. So I've always thought being around people helped me feel better, when really it's probably a combination of my extreme empathy for others that makes me feel useful and my familiarity with chaos that made me think I was supposed to feel exhausted after spending time with others. Anyway, now I understand my valleys after being overstimulated and feel less guilty about not texting someone back right away. 
 

Haha, leave it to an INFJ to type an encouraging message at the end of their post! It's such an important reminder though; for everyone. That we are wonderfully made! And that our differences- our weaknesses, strengths, struggles, and triumphs- No matter what personality type we may have or what our experiences may be, that you are good enough just the way you are and you have purpose! God doesn't only accept our flaws, He created us with them! He doesn't want us to be perfect, but rather to grow. And without inadequacies, we wouldn't have room to explore our potentials. So the flaws are a gift :) 

Suddenly, Jeremiah 29:11 comes to mind. Thanks for the reminder of the verse you listed. I've wanted to get it printed on the back of a sweater for work for awhile now. Thought it would be rather encouraging in a hospital setting. ☺️

Sarah C. (not verified) says...

I agree with a lot of what you say and experienced nearly all the same things. But I would be interested to know what you and any others think about being labeled an introvert. Most people, including my own family, would classify me as an introvert. I very strongly think I am a very empathic ambivert. Some might refer to this as being an extroverted introvert. I agree on a lot with being an INFJ, but find myself in a lot of gray areas the world as a whole doesn't seem to understand or being flexible enough to care about.

JennyLetty (not verified) says...

Yes!! Thank you so much for your post! I completely agree with everything you said. My friends often are surprised to hear I'm an introvert because of how adaptable I am to my surroundings and the people around me. I can be the life at the party for a few hours and then be completely exhausted afterwards. Bringing different circles of friends together is so overwhelming for me because of how different I am with each group of friends that I have! And it can be hard having so many friends yet feeling like nobody really understands you. I feel that way often. 

INFJ guy (not verified) says...

"Bringing different circles of friends together is so overwhelming for me because of how different I am with each group of friends"

This sentnce really hits home. I understand what you mean. I am a slightly different version of myself with each group, and I try to avoid any situation where 2 different group pf friends would meet or get intrduced to each other.

I always thought I was strange for  felling this way, because others had no issues whatsoever with mixing all their friends together.

Thendrian says...

This was almost like reading from my own heart, except I'm a girl lol. Thank you for the encouragement!

Sharifa Abdi (not verified) says...

Hi Ryan I can totally relate to what you're saying. I just confirmed am an INFJ about a month ago and been reading all the content about us all through. I wish someone had told me that I am normal and I don't need to try be like other people to fit in. But I believe that if I master myself enough I can be more content with who I am. 

Alex. F (not verified) says...

Wow. I read this and felt it was so spot on with how I view my own life, both the positive and negative aspects. It's so refreshing to come across other people with similar outlooks on life as I always felt like such an outsider. Thanks for sharing this Ryan!

Cintia (not verified) says...

I'm an infj grom argentina and I totally agree with you excep for the part of God... I was wondering how it would be being a male infj with sll our particular sensitivity. 

Michael-113 (not verified) says...

Wow man, It's like you are in my mind, I can feel everything you said. Thank you, really thank you, I can feel less weird right now (HAHAHAHAHA).

MissT (not verified) says...

I agree with all of this especially the low self-esteem. I've been told I'm an attractive girl but I don't see myself that way. People tend to stare at me or talk to me when I just go to the grocery store and it makes me super uncomfortable. I just want to be invisible and get through my day without anyone noticing me. I wear hats... like every day. Big floppy felt hats in the Winter and fedoras in the Summer. People comment on how trendy/classy I look but it's really so that I can partially hide and thus face the world with any sort of confidence. Anyway, totally needed to read this right now. God IS proud. I freaking love you! Ha! Thank you for writing this. 

bella (not verified) says...

Every point was on point with how i feel in literally EVERY situation... it like were the same lol

Thabiso (not verified) says...

Just want to say, what you wrote is a spot on reflection of my own personality hahaha.. I practically experience the same things and into the same things too,haha ha it's sooo weird reading about someone else that views the world the same as me. Anyway thanks for your words. They just made my day bro.👍

Arvin (not verified) says...

Hey Dude. You are not the only one.. btw what a wonderful explanation.. i think you are one of us... welcome to the INFJ's World of Up's and Down's haha xd...

Anna Louisa (not verified) says...

Hi Ryan. Many of your experiences of being an INFJ sound familiar. As I was reading your post, with your comments about feelings awkward sometimes as a guy and being an INFJ and mentioning that you were filming something,  I thought of Steven Spielberg whom I believe seems like an INFJ. There is an HBO documentary on his filmmaking with bits of interviews with him describing his feelings of great sensitivity with his parents’ divorce and his drive to create a world of his making through film. He also surrounds himself with a core group of highly creative, talented people who totally get him. This documentary made me believe that there is indeed a successful path for INFJ’s if we believe in ourselves, set high goals and surround ourselves with others of like mind/heart.

i too find great comfort in knowing that God knew me first and always loves me and cares for me. All the best to you .

HeySusan Sup (not verified) says...

I feel exactly all those same things, Ryan. Great description in every way. And I LOVE the song High Hopes--it really gets me fired up!! Thanks for the Bible verse. God is who I turn to when I feel misunderstood, which is most of the time. I wish you all the best! Thanks for posting. 

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