As an Intuitive Thinking type, you approach relationships a little differently than the average person. You have a lively mind and an appetite for ideas. More than any other type, you like to spend time with people who can keep up with you mentally and who expose you to new ideas and worldviews. Ultimately, what you are looking for in relationships is intellectual stimulation—although you also appreciate people who can draw out your softer side.
Are ENTJ and INTJ personality types compatible? See how ENTJs and INTJs get along in this guide to ENTJ/INTJ relationships. If you're an ENTJ in a relationship with an INTJ, discover how you'll communicate, interact, and relate to each other in daily life.
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How ENTJ and INTJ Get Along
ENTJs and INTJs have some common themes that often arise when they get to know each other. As an ENTJ, you'll want to keep these issues in mind when you get to know an INTJ.
When interacting with your counterpart, be aware that as an Intuitive Thinking type, they will primarily be looking for an intellectual connection. NT types feel close to someone when they have a meeting of the minds, particularly when they are able to have a discussion that leads them to learn something new or think about things in a different way. NT types aren't devoid of feeling—they're human just like everyone else—but they're very much in their heads, and their relationships tend to start with a mental spark rather than an emotional one.
You're likely to instantly recognize this person as someone who speaks your language. You may connect over a shared interest in science, technology, philosophy, or just a passion for understanding how the world works. You both prefer to dispense with small talk and dive into a discussion of something intellectually meaty, and your conversations are likely to get interesting (and even peculiar) very quickly.
People who observe you interacting with this person might be surprised at how contentious your discussions can get. You are both people who enjoy a good debate, and rarely take offense to your ideas being challenged. This tendency can lead to almost every one of your conversations turning into an argument. Most likely, you'll appreciate this; you'll both know that you don't need to worry about hurt feelings, and it can be freeing to finally be able to speak your mind bluntly and know that it won't be taken as an attack.
On the other hand, although neither of you is eager to say it, you do both have feelings. Relationships between two people as analytical as yourselves can sometimes turn competitive, critical, and even combative. With nobody particularly interested in bringing up emotions or other touchy-feely matters, your relationship runs the risk of being somewhat cold.
For the best results with this unique and potentially rewarding connection, make sure that you express your appreciation for one another. You don't have to turn yourself into a sentimental marshmallow; your shared outlook is such that even a well-timed "I enjoyed that conversation" is likely to be taken as a heartwarming display of affection.
This person tends to prefer a slower, calmer pace in social interactions and life in general. They may find your energy level exhausting, especially when you are excited about something. Be mindful of their energy level, and don’t take it personally if they need some time to themselves.