Are ENTJ and INTJ personality types compatible? See how ENTJs and INTJs get along in this guide to ENTJ/INTJ relationships. If you're an ENTJ in a relationship with an INTJ, discover how you'll communicate, interact, and relate to each other in daily life.

How ENTJ and INTJ Get Along

ENTJs and INTJs have some common themes that often arise when they get to know each other. As an ENTJ, you'll want to keep these issues in mind when you get to know an INTJ.

As an Intuitive Thinking type, you approach relationships a little differently than the average person. You have a lively mind and an appetite for ideas. More than any other type, you like to spend time with people who can keep up with you mentally and who expose you to new ideas and worldviews. Ultimately, what you are looking for in relationships is intellectual stimulation—although you also appreciate people who can draw out your softer side.

When interacting with your counterpart, be aware that as an Intuitive Thinking type, they will primarily be looking for an intellectual connection. NT types feel close to someone when they have a meeting of the minds, particularly when they are able to have a discussion that leads them to learn something new or think about things in a different way. NT types aren't devoid of feeling—they're human just like everyone else—but they're very much in their heads, and their relationships tend to start with a mental spark rather than an emotional one.

You're likely to instantly recognize this person as someone who speaks your language. You may connect over a shared interest in science, technology, philosophy, or just a passion for understanding how the world works. You both prefer to dispense with small talk and dive into a discussion of something intellectually meaty, and your conversations are likely to get interesting (and even peculiar) very quickly.

People who observe you interacting with this person might be surprised at how contentious your discussions can get. You are both people who enjoy a good debate, and rarely take offense to your ideas being challenged. This tendency can lead to almost every one of your conversations turning into an argument. Most likely, you'll appreciate this; you'll both know that you don't need to worry about hurt feelings, and it can be freeing to finally be able to speak your mind bluntly and know that it won't be taken as an attack.

On the other hand, although neither of you is eager to say it, you do both have feelings. Relationships between two people as analytical as yourselves can sometimes turn competitive, critical, and even combative. With nobody particularly interested in bringing up emotions or other touchy-feely matters, your relationship runs the risk of being somewhat cold.

For the best results with this unique and potentially rewarding connection, make sure that you express your appreciation for one another. You don't have to turn yourself into a sentimental marshmallow; your shared outlook is such that even a well-timed "I enjoyed that conversation" is likely to be taken as a heartwarming display of affection. 

This person tends to prefer a slower, calmer pace in social interactions and life in general. They may find your energy level exhausting, especially when you are excited about something. Be mindful of their energy level, and don’t take it personally if they need some time to themselves.

Communication Between ENTJ and INTJ

Communication can be a challenge between any two people, and communication between ENTJ and INTJ personality types is not the exception. By being aware of the issues that often arise when ENTJs and INTJs communicate, you can learn how to reach an understanding more quickly.

You and your counterpart share an abstract style of communication. Your conversations will tend to focus on your impressions, ideas, opinions, and theories. You may find yourselves discussing philosophy, the arts, the latest advances in science, or your ideas about how to make the world a better place.

You are likely to find one another interesting and stimulating to talk to. Neither of you is terribly interesting in recounting events in tedious detail or sharing dry facts without any context, and since both of you probably have the experience of getting stuck in such mundane exchanges with other people, talking to one another should be a refreshing break.

Although you share a similar general style of communicating, there is still potential for misunderstandings between the two of you. When working on projects together, you may find that you tend to discuss the overall goals, but neglect to hammer out the details. You are both inclined to talk more about the general idea, and less about the facts and practicalities. When working together to create a plan, make sure you attend to any details that need to be decided, and don't just assume you're on the same page.

When communicating with this person, you'll probably find that you tend to do more of the talking. You're naturally more inclined to express yourself, and you tend to translate your thoughts into speech more easily than your counterpart.

Your partner may be happy for you to take the floor; many Introverts prefer friends who can carry the conversation, so they don't feel pressured to come up with lots of things to say. However, watch out that you don't steamroll your friend. Everyone likes to be listened to, and Introverts especially appreciate it when someone takes the time and attention to listen carefully to what they are saying.

To be sure you're hearing out your friend, give them plenty of time to think through their ideas before sharing. You may need to learn to tolerate some silence in your conversation as they get their thoughts together. Don't be tempted to fill every lull in the conversation with chatter! The best of your Introverted friends will come out when you give them time and space to share. Slow down, listen carefully, and ask thoughtful questions to draw out your friend.

ENTJ vs. INTJ Values

Values are intensely personal, and while an ENTJ and an INTJ can find common ground, there will always be some differences in what you hold dear. However, understand how your ENTJ approach to values compares with your INTJ counterpart's will help you to appreciate and overcome your differences.

The two of you share a strong belief in the importance of logic and reason. Both of you tend to feel that the pursuit of truth and justice is the highest possible goal. You both tend to value factual, empirical ways of understanding things, and may share a love of science or mathematics. You appreciate the value of fairness, admire intelligence, and seek competence. As Rational types, you both appreciate people who are open-minded and willing to consider things from all angles, and you value a free exchange of ideas. You will find that you connect easily in places where intellectual discussion is encouraged.

Although you and your counterpart have a similar way of understanding things, it would be a mistake to assume that you’ll agree on important matters. You each tend to trust your own reasoning and believe in your ability to come to a correct conclusion. If your conclusions are wildly different, you may find yourself having a heated debate.

If you find yourself in conflict over what you believe, most of the time, this will make for a stimulating discussion as you hash out the pros and cons of your respective positions. Neither of you tend to get your feelings hurt when one of your beliefs is challenged, so you'll find that any differences in personal values can usually be addressed with a respectful "agree-to-disagree" approach.

That said, you both have a tendency to be a bit intellectually exhausting, with your steadfast devotion to logical analysis. A relationship between two people such as yourselves lacks a bit of balance, because neither of you is likely to call attention to feelings or emotions. At your worst together, you're all head, and no heart. Building trust and intimacy in this pairing can be difficult, as you tend to challenge each other more often than you comfort each other. In times of conflict, neither of you is likely to give in just for the sake of keeping the peace. If this relationship is important to you, remember that you'll have to work together on creating balance in the things you value. It's wonderful to be with someone who can challenge you intellectually, but to create a deep bond, you will also need to achieve trust, compassion, empathy, and cooperation. Although these may not be goals you'd naturally prioritize, recognizing their importance will be key to making your relationship a success.

ENTJ and INTJ in Daily Life

Lifestyle is an under-appreciated—but extremely important—element of compatibility. Your values and ideals may coincide perfectly, but if you can't agree on how to conduct day-to-day matters, your relationship will always have friction. As an ENTJ in a relationship with an INTJ, you can expect certain issues to arise in your daily life. Discussing these in advance, and figuring out how to deal with them, will make things go much more smoothly as you develop your relationship.

The two of you are likely to share a general intellectual curiosity and interest in learning new things. Both of you tend to appreciate the value of culture, the sciences, and the arts, and while you may not share specific hobbies, you'll probably have interests that you can at least mutually appreciate.

For both of you, discovering new ideas is a lifelong pursuit. You'll probably share a mutual interest in reading, going to museums and cultural events, taking classes for fun, and other activities that allow you to learn and improve your minds. In fact, you may find that learning new things together is a great way to bring you closer.

You also share a low tolerance for the mundane. You both find day-to-day routine somewhat toxic, and you may find that your lives together involve frequent attempts to "shake things up." You may dream of traveling around the world together or quitting your jobs to start a new business. This mutual taste for adventure is stimulating for both of you, and helps keep things exciting between you. However, during the inevitable dull periods of your life together, it's likely that you'll both be a bit cranky. Bear in mind that keeping things novel and fresh is key to both of your happiness.

You take a similarly orderly approach to life and share an appreciation for schedules, to-do lists, and organizational systems. If you share space, it’s likely to be well organized and tidy. While you may sometimes disagree on exactly how to organize something, you both appreciate the process of creating structure, and will typically enjoy working together to get systems in place. 

Communicating your needs is crucial, as you both have a different tolerance for social stimulation. You are energized by activity and probably make plenty of room for friends, family, and social events. By contrast, your counterpart needs plenty of down time to re-energize and may not always be up for parties. They won’t appreciate you invading their alone-time or repeatedly overbooking the social calendar.

Communication is another challenge, since you prefer to deal with issues immediately while your counterpart may try to sweep problems under the rug. You know how to speak your mind and defend your position, and it can be frustrating for you if you’re constantly having to drag a conversation out of your partner. On the flip side, your partner needs time to think something through before having an important conversation, and may not appreciate you being pushy and naggy.

None of these differences is insurmountable and with a little compromise you can easily meet each other’s needs. Being an introvert is not a get-out-of­-jail-free card, and your job is to simultaneously respect your partner’s need for solitude while making sure they know when their participation is important to you. Compromise is a two-way street, and in return your partner must be fine with you going out and finding the social stimulation you desire, without resenting you for leaving them alone.