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How do INFPs communicate?

INFPs are gentle, encouraging communicators who enjoy exploring options and ideas. They envision possibilities for people and are often good at coming up with creative, flexible solutions to problems. They are typically attentive listeners who try to adapt their communication style to the people they are dealing with. Compassionate and cooperative, they tend to be appreciative of other people and their ideas, although they may be reserved about sharing their own closely held values and ideas with people they do not know well.

What are INFPs like as partners?

In relationships, the INFP is nurturing, empathic, and loyal. Healers select their friends and partners carefully, looking for a strong bond and congruent values. They are self-aware and often spiritual.

INFPs tend to be open-minded and accepting of another's behavior and preferences, so long as their core values are not violated. They support their partners' individuality, and encourage them to explore their interests and ideas.

INFPs look for ways to compromise and accommodate other people, and often have creative solutions to interpersonal problems. They can be very sensitive, but often keep negative reactions to themselves because they are reluctant to engage in confrontation.

Close and harmonious relationships are important to INFPs, although they also need a lot of independent time to think and reflect. They often want plenty of freedom to express themselves and pursue greater self-awareness. They value a partner who is committed and loving, yet provides them with the support they need to independently explore the mysteries of life.

What are INFPs like as parents?

As parents, INFPs are caring, supportive, and adaptable. They rarely establish a strict or structured household, preferring instead to address problems and situations as they arise. They often allow their children a lot of latitude and influence in making decisions, and may leave the creation and enforcement of household rules up to another parent.

Children of INFPs often find that they have the freedom to express themselves and make their own decisions until they violate their INFP parent's values. When values are in question, the Healer parent becomes firm and inflexible.

INFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

INFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the INFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the INFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Guest (not verified) says...

Me too! Was an ENTP when I was younger, thought I changed to INTP, but I'm totally an INFP all the way.

Guest (not verified) says...

INFTP Do they exist?

Guest (not verified) says...

From my understanding, no. Many people have traits from more than just one of the Myers-Briggs personalities and don't just fit into one of them, but the creator of this only uses four letters to identify the different personality types. (Correct me if I am wrong, I hope this helps!)

Guest (not verified) says...

This is pretty spot on. However, I am a very honest person, and tend to express myself if I feel it is necessary even knowing that it will cause a conflict. Maybe I am the exception, but I did feel like this article made it seem like an INFP is scared to hurt anyones feelings.

Guest (not verified) says...

I think that's the part of the article saying we (INFPs) speak up and become firm when we feel our core values are threatened (not quite the right word, but you catch my meaning).

Guest (not verified) says...

it is exactly me writer is talking fascinating amazing love it thanks alot

david lincoln brooks (not verified) says...

Dead-on accurate. On the suitable occupations page? I've worked at all the tasks of the left-most column!

AmyK (not verified) says...

I took this test when I was working and was told not only my type, but where I fell on the scale. I scored high on the scale in all the areas as INFP. I think it helps to know where you are on the scale because it may be fairly easy for some people to flip modes depending on the situation they're in and more difficult for others. Also, I think it's important to recognize that these types are preferences, not behaviors set in stone. As much as it pains me, I can get organized if I really have to, for example. Also, it would be really nice if extroverts would shut up and listen sometimes, wouldn't it? Awareness that people have different communication styles can help extroverts and introverts communicate much better. I'm definitely not an expert, but IMO this is the best personality test available. Great site.

Guest (not verified) says...

very accurate XD

Guest (not verified) says...

i found that it was accurate but not 100% accurate

Guest (not verified) says...

woow..very very very accurate...
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terry mckenna (not verified) says...

so spookily accurate was lmao. personally i think ive crossed a spectrum of personae throughout my lifetime, but ive been a definite INFP (although i dont really do labels !!) for the past 8 yrs. it even got my profession correct lol a drug counsellor. i was raised in a house where my parents and sister were all E-type personae and i found them really oppressive and still do on occasions. i had to get away for a few years and find me and i wasnt surprised when i found i was INFP..they call me the black sheep, but hey better than following the flock..

Guest (not verified) says...

It is pretty fun to read all about myself online. :o) And fun to see so many others who can relate. I love personality stuff! And yay for being individuals!

Shadowclone says...

Soooo why "The Healer?"

Guest (not verified) says...

A lot of people in this group are in human sciences careers such as counseling. I happen to be a nurse- defin. A healer!

L.A (not verified) says...

WOW someone who understands me!!!! finally:)

Michael Dick (not verified) says...

To know thy self. I have been on a journey of self-discovery for some time. That journey has taken me to some pretty wild worlds. This test has helped see me from yet a different perspective. Some of the info felt validating, (which means I have some bias on how I view myself) other info felt very encouraging. The pursuit of self-consciousness is wonderful, yet make no mistake people, once you open that door you can never close it again. Wisdom has its price.

Michael

Guest (not verified) says...

A good match-up.

Guest (not verified) says...

I still think I'm a total misfit after reading these. I literally crying while reading because it's so true and I don't know what to do with myself.

MichieBoo (not verified) says...

Easy...forgive yourself for having been so sensitive in situations you KNEW weren't going to pan out, but went along with them because you cared so much. Know that ultimately, we need self-care, and the love, support and guidance of someone who "gets it". (Hard part, where are THEY??) Otherwise, everyone who seems happier and more content are faking their way through the status quo. We are unable to lie to ourselves, but we tend to play hide and seek with our emotions and true responses to outside stimulae. Life is simple, not easy. So simplify...

Thea (not verified) says...

This is just so me!! At first I thought I might be an ISFP at first, but I really think that the INFP is more like me after looking into it :)

Guest D (not verified) says...

Hello I am a college student and I took the Myers Briggs in my class and I am a certified INFP hands down. I had a question or any suggestions on the disappointment factor of the INFP, being that relationships and harmony is like so high in our values, I was wondering if you could give any tips on not experiencing stifling temperament due to disappointment in friendships and relationships.

Guest (not verified) says...

I can't believe how accurate this is!

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow! This is the inner me most definitely. Thanks :)

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow, this is actually pretty spot on. I checked all the other introverted personality types and INFP is the only personality that is almost exactly like mine. I'm glad to know that i've found what my personality type is and that even though its not in a large number, there are others out there. This is just awesome :)

JoB (not verified) says...

omg it's so accurate!! i'm smiling cause i'm reading the person i am and it makes me feel good :) i'm so happy the way I am!

Guest (not verified) says...

Huh! Pretty accurate!

bananna (not verified) says...

this is verrrrry freakkky oÜo

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm going to study in dentistry soon. And you say it's one of the least popular careers for INFPs. Ow... :O

Matheus (not verified) says...

Well, I'm going to study System Analysis soon and I just found out it is one of the least popular careers for INFPs too lol

Guest (not verified) says...

Im an INFP, and im 4th year student, it's not that bad, but I think I would have a better job! so try to find out what you really want

Guest (not verified) says...

I used to dream of being a dentist but it went out of my mind. I'm going to take accounting instead

ADHD (not verified) says...

LOL....I was an accountant first (big four accounting firm) now I am a dentist. It is crazy to see these comments and how they really hit home.

Guest Towel (not verified) says...

Wow! I cannot imagine an INFP being an accountant! Unless you got 'creative' with the numbers! ;)

cristellechirwa says...

I've got a degree in accounting. Now I'm thinking I would've been more satisfied as a psychologist or maybe even getting into Parapsychology?!...

vella (not verified) says...

Really insightful! Personally I feel like I balance between infp and intp but predominantly infp. I'm glad there are resources like this to better understand oneself. Love!!

Noemie Rivers (not verified) says...

I feel that INFP describes me perfectly. When I read this webpage, I was like "how do they KNOW this? Are they stalking me? They read my mind!"

ASIF (not verified) says...

human brain is too smart.exploring itself and finding ways to play hide n seek with itself and able to give a friendly hand and tricky as well.let our brain engage in serving the dark parts of our society.we can enlighten the dark roads of life to get eternal common goal of acceptance,peace and satisfaction.

Lou (not verified) says...

I'm slightly lost. Did the test and was not a definite anything so had to choose quick type I most identified with. and here I am. Although I am introverted lots of my friends would say otherwise as I can be extroverted when in the right 'mood' and where I feel comfortable. It must be on my terms though (when I have the 'people energy' I need and never at my place!) I find it both exhausting and fulfilling. A little goes a long way. Just need a good old blow out from time to time. I'm happiest being a hermit in my own space. Any thoughts?

Guest (not verified) says...

I am INFP and have a terrible time with work/career. It is very difficult-- please help...

kristen.cude says...

I think this is pretty accurate of me too! I am an extremely emotional person, but empathy is one of my strengths. So it's not surprising that I want to be a social worker. I also love to write! I don't know about ya'll, but maybe our personality has more of a tendency to struggle with depression. I do. I also find it encouraging that Princess Diana and Audrey Hepburn had this same personality, because they were so loveable and in the spotlight. I think people put me in box because I come off as "shy" and "quiet", this bothers me so much because I know that I have a lot of personality buried under fear.

empathetic (not verified) says...

So me.

Guest (not verified) says...

Please chime in if this sentiment rings true for you, as well:

Though a very adept person from a verbal standpoint, I often find myself struggling to articulate WHY I feel a certain way about something, be it something trivial or something of great importance. Though I realize that, "It just feels right" can seem like a legitimately unsatisfying response, it is often the best I can do. Also, I often find myself thinking (though less frequently saying), "Just trust me. I KNOW I'm right. I wouldn't say so otherwise." And it's true. If I did not know it fully at an intuitive level, I would own up to it. But if I DO know it, I don't much care for being questioned on it! Especially since, as alluded to above, I really CAN'T explain why! I just know it and let's get on with it!

I am just curious to see if others can relate to that experience. Again, please chime in on this.

Guest (not verified) says...

I can totally relate to that experience. Strong intuition- strong gut feelings, with the same problem, although verbally adept, struggle to express to non-N's by "reasoning" INFP, btw. I've had to learn (still in progress) how to express myself to non-Ns. (I'd be interested to know if this is particularly true for INFP's, or shared by N's in general.) Try not be put off or insulted by the questions. And, celebrate the fact that your gut feelings have, in fact, helped you many a time.

Guest (not verified) says...

Since we are 4% of the population, we are a minority. We HAVE to spend time listening and understanding others--it's a survival issue. I like being an INFP (though I can become an ENFP once in a while...). Greetings to others in our community!

Sakura (not verified) says...

Hello, this description fits me enough, after years of research on my type, I think I'm INFP (especially for the spiritual side and the truth about the world), although sometimes I doubt between INFP / ISFP because I n 'have not had enough experience in my life to bring myself to 100%.

If anyone can help me, I am not against,thank you in advance.

Ps: sorry for those who have misunderstood me, English is not my mother tongue.

Guest (not verified) says...

I was not too sure at first, but it matches me more than what my personality was last year

Guest (not verified) says...

It's interesting because I've been trying to build up a career in engineering starting as a technician in the military and I despise my job to a degree that is rather unsettling.

I came out as INFP at the test my shippmates and I took for leadership training and it's a bit astonishing how accurate it really is once you get down to it. I always wanted to be a teacher or massage therapist but kinda opted more towards a STEM career since there is more money/job reliability there but I just hate it so much.

The more I find out, the more I'm fascinated by it.

Guest (not verified) says...

I had taken a test before and it gave me I am an INFP. Today I was blown by how much similar my face is to Charlotte Bronte and on top if that I've read some people estimate her as being INFP(maybe). This thing is really accurate.(meaning the description of the personality). Because I am so much into arts, self expression, I'm drawing on regular basis, I like reading,actually I spend hours reading. All my life doing things that benefit people and getting involved in things that can benefit people like charities for children and eradicating world famine and lately trying to figure out ways of reducing world poverty are things that fill my mind most of the time. i understood long time ago other people are different and they seek different things and I'm OK with that. Well Im writing here in hope that maybe more people will resonate with these thoughts. My hope is one day world will be a better place with no people being subjected to famine, poverty and disease. I take the world of a doctor from 1900 who said a problem cannot be tackled by a single approach but rather by multiple approaches.

What I generally found is people don't have enough patience to listen to everything other people say, therefore it makes hard to understand the thinking process. Or sometimes if they understand they are not interested. Like who cares of poverty reduction policies? I guess for INFPs our mind is a wild place with many thoughts which are very hard to catch in a full sentence.

Before I used to think being Introverted was handicap, now I'm OK with it but it would be better if we would be able to be more efficient in communicating with others. Was also fearing mediocrity but now I'm realizing it might take allot of time until being able to excel in some field, especially some types of arts.

Nowadays close to my 30s I'm looking for truth about life,which until now I wasn't able to find but some pieces are starting to make sense, yet there are more to be discovered. I'm also looking into kind of a receipt for happiness, but I'm yet far to figure it out. I just hope that the years to come will set my mind more free, and more peaceful towards self.

Jeff C (not verified) says...

This is really neat! Describes me well. Thanks for the insight! It is nice to feel free to be myself!

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