Enneagram Type 7 Relationship Compatibility
Enneagram Type Sevens are fun, enthusiastic and romantic partners. They enjoy planning creative dates and keeping the spark alive in their relationships. However, they can struggle with having difficult conversations or paying attention to the details.
So, which Enneagram types are the most compatible with the Type Seven? There isn’t one answer. Sevens can be compatible with any of the types as long as effective communication and mutual love and respect are in place.
Read on to learn more about Enneagram Seven relationship compatibility with each of the nine types. Wondering what Enneagram type is your best match? Take our free Enneagram Compatibility test.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram One
Type Sevens with Type Ones can be a beautiful pair of opposites. Each brings out the best of the other, with the One helping the Seven see their full potential and the Seven reminding the One that they deserve breaks from all their hard work.
When they can gift each other with these important reminders, the possibilities are unlimited. The joy that is shared is a remarkable display of family and couple goodness. However, when their ideals clash and they withdraw instead of sharing hurts, they need communication help.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram Two
Type Sevens with Type Twos are an energetic, fun and mesmerizing couple. They cannot be slowed down by the mere bounds of time and aging, unlike other couples. The heartfelt vivaciousness and care of the Two, paired with the infectious charm and intelligence of the Seven make this couple a dynamic duo when it comes to serving others, whether it be in the helping or entrepreneurial sense.
Their love doesn't stay on the surface but makes its way into the heart of others, as they collectively nurture each other and lead the pack for many relationship wins. If one of them becomes manipulative or self-focused, communication help is in order.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram Three
With big dreams and the ambition and confidence to go after them, Enneagram Sevens and Threes make an exceptional couple. When it comes to their romantic ideals, this pairing loves to spend hours connecting and can communicate beautifully and efficiently once they get past their fears of exposure and vulnerability. Once each partner has nestled into safe boundaries, they can trust that the other loves them deeply and knows they are doing their own work. Because of past skepticism, injury, or attachment wounds, this may take time, but it’s worth the effort.
With their multitude of gifts, this fun-loving couple can be world changers. However, they must be willing to do the important yet difficult work of exposing the distrust and trauma they may have around each other or their pasts.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram Four
Type Sevens and Type Fours shine together as colleagues, friends, and within romantic relationships. These two types will naturally withdraw for personal time as well as enjoy special moments together. They create a delightful and energetic glow in the world — where they often serve through the arts and/or helping fields. They are each idealistic and love to focus on future potential with compassion and joy.
As opposites of sorts, the Four and Seven create a dynamic combo. Both partners feel important in the relationship, and they often enjoy prioritizing time for spiritual and personal growth. This couple may struggle with the Four withdrawing or the Seven becoming too aggressive, in which case they will need communication help.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram Five
When the Type Seven is with the Type Five, the couple values their freedom to roam and discover while also creating and innovating together. There is a deep comfort and respect for one another’s varied gifts and an appreciation for the quick and witty banter between the partners.
There is often a need to share their incredible gifts with the world. This is because the Seven has some extroverted features and the Five has some relationship helping qualities. When trouble comes — often in the form of the Seven overdoing and encouraging dexterity and speed, and the Five pulling back for rest, follow through, and withdrawal — communication help is needed.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram Six
Type Sevens with Type Sixes glow together with laughter and loyalty, their shared love shining brightly all over the world or at least in their well-guarded neck of the woods! This pair wants to be safe and cozy, but also to have many interesting adventures. These types balance each other out with the planning and preparation of the Six and the expansive and carefree nature of the Seven.
Since they both deal with anxiety, these kindred spirits must be understanding when their partner needs self care or a different kind of safety outlet than they do. They must learn to lean in and — as two thinking types — will also learn to continually open up their hearts to each other with healthy communication.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram Seven
Type Sevens are on the move at all times (or at least in their busy minds). Since Sevens lead with an analytical side, the Type Seven-Type Seven couple’s communication involves a playful idealism. This couple is always cooking up fun and interesting projects and constantly ready to learn and to grow together.
That is, as long as they can find interesting mysteries to uncover about life, each other, the narratives of love, and just about everything they can physically wrap their inquisitive minds around. To ensure they don’t miss each other’s emotional and physical needs in the frenzy of activity, communication help may be necessary.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram Eight
Type Sevens with Type Eights have a big energy and understanding that comes from their passionate and assertive dynamic. Analytical and energized, their initially explosive anger doesn't often last and the fun can be reinstated even when there is an issue if both parties resolve and compromise.
This pair also shares a deep love of independence and freedom. Since they can each move fast and freely in the world and can give each other healthy checks and balances as well as a bit of space, they move along well with power and intellect. With their busy schedules, they must remember that talking about painful emotions may not feel safe or comfortable. But it is absolutely essential for true growth for this couple.
Enneagram Seven with Enneagram Nine
The Type Seven and Type Nine couple understands the need for both rest and fun. This pairing is one of the most fun and playful combos, as the Type Nine helps relieve the Type Seven’s anxiety and resolves to stay with them through it, so long as the Seven can logically move forward.
Both positive in their outlook in general, the often dispassionate Nine feels championed for by the enthusiastic Seven. This helps the Nine to see the myriad of gifts they have as well as to stabilize the Seven so they too can shine in the world. When the Seven forgets to prioritize their relationship with the Nine, passive-aggressive resentment may build, immobilizing the freedom-loving Seven and creating a strong need for communication tools.
