The Enneagram Type Eight, “The Challenger,” is a passionate and protective romantic partner. Eights love and respect a partner who challenges them to be their best self. They seek loyal and independent partners who aren’t afraid to go after what they want in life and love. However, some may see the Eight as too intense and competitive. If the Eight doesn’t learn to soften their edges and embrace vulnerability, it can cause issues in their relationships.
Enneagram Type Sevens are fun, enthusiastic and romantic partners. They enjoy planning creative dates and keeping the spark alive in their relationships. However, they can struggle with having difficult conversations or paying attention to the details.
So, which Enneagram types are the most compatible with the Type Seven? There isn’t one answer. Sevens can be compatible with any of the types as long as effective communication and mutual love and respect are in place.
Thoughtful and protective of those who they love, Enneagram Sixes make loving and loyal partners. However, when less healthy, the Six can come across as controlling and have trouble trusting their partner, which can lead to issues within the relationship.
Which Enneagram types are the most compatible with the Six? The answer isn’t so simple. Any type can be compatible with a Six — and each type will experience their own joys and struggles within the relationship.
Insightful and a bit mysterious, the Enneagram Five, “The Investigator,” is a thoughtful partner, who often surprises their significant other with small romantic gestures and desires to deeply understand their partner. Since this type needs plenty of alone time, they do best with a partner who understands their need to withdraw.
Romantic and creative, the Enneagram Four, “The Individualist,” is a passionate and adoring partner, constantly seeking to express their love and make their partner feel special. However, they may have an idealistic view of their romantic partner and their life together. This paired with the Fours tendency to have low self-esteem can cause struggles in a relationship.
We can accomplish far more together than we can alone. In partnerships, we double our productivity, cover each other's blindspots, and tick off life's achievements faster. But only if both people share the same vision, and support each other to approach it in their own way.
The ambitious and determined Enneagram Three, “The Achiever,” is a devoted partner, who strives to shine for their partner and build a life together full of happiness and success. As part of the heart-traid, Threes easily pick up on the emotions of other people, but they can struggle to understand their own feelings. Because of this, they need partners who will truly recognize their needs and offer them consistent support.
Our relationships are often a reflection of ourselves; of something within us that we can’t see clearly. Our friends and relationships often offer us something we can’t yet provide for ourselves. While that could be a recipe for codependency, it mostly is an opportunity to see a strength practiced in action and find a way to adopt it for ourselves, instead of relying on someone else to provide it for us.
The Enneagram Two, the “Giver,” is a warm and affectionate partner. Twos are true romantics and they often put the wants and needs of their partner above their own. Their positive and helpful energy is infectious and, for this reason, they are extremely desirable companions in friendships and romantic relationships.
Relationships are a wonderful place to help us grow and develop hidden parts of ourselves. It is easy to pretend that we are looking for someone just like us, who sees the world through the same lens or perspective that we do. While that might be what we ask for on the surface, all of us have a deeper want or need in our friendships or relationships—one we don’t often voice, or are even that aware of.
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