How to Use Myers Briggs Compatibility to Help You Find your Valentine's Day Love Match10 February 2022 / By Cianna Garrison Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on February 10, 2022
Your personality type says a lot about you, but did you know it also helps build better relationships? From platonic friendships to work relationships, you can harness your knowledge of personality type to bring yourself a step closer to fulfillment in various areas of your life. This fulfillment is also possible when you’re searching for a romantic partner, and you’d be surprised how helpful Myers-Briggs compatibility is when you’re dating.
Whether you’ve dabbled in asking questions about personality type in the dating game before or not, you might want to include the practice into your dating routine to help you find your love match. Here’s how you can use Myers-Briggs compatibility to your advantage when seeking a life partner.
Familiarize yourself with your type
It may sound obvious, but if you don’t feel confident about your personality type, the best thing to do is take Truity’s free TypeFinder Personality Test. You may decide to do this if you’ve forgotten your type or feel the results from a similar test didn’t quite match you. And, of course, if you’ve never taken a 16-type test, you’ll want to start there to find out where you fall among the 16 different personality types.
Before you start searching for a partner, it’s always best to feel confident in yourself, who you are, and allow yourself time for self-reflection. If you don’t feel you know who you are inside and out, you may want to delve into personality theory to help you in your personal growth journey.
Take the free compatibility test
Truity’s free “Which Personality Type is Your Love Match” test will help give you an idea of what it is you’re looking for in a romantic partner. Although you may have spent some time analyzing what your ideal person is like in the past, you may have never done so in the context of personality type. When you take a look at your results, you may discover you’ve been overlooking the people you’d be the most compatible with.
After you take the test, you’ll receive personalized results based on the personality types that most suit you, according to your answers. Of course, it’s important to remember that personal preferences for partners may vary, so you can always take your results as a guideline rather than a blueprint you need to adhere to.
An example of Myers-Briggs compatibility with or without the compatibility test
You can determine your love match by studying more about your personality type or by taking the compatibility test. Either way, you may learn more about what you desire in a partner. You’ll notice at the heart of finding true love, it’s all about how much you know yourself and what you want out of a relationship.
Using general compatibility, if you’re an INFJ like me, you can start by learning how you function in romantic relationships and see which types you get along with naturally, sans the compatibility test. The INFJ’s typical love matches are ISFJ, INFP, INFJ, and ENFJ, based on their values, interests, and overall way of life. From there, you can take note of these types’ essential traits and see if any of them stick out to you as someone you’d feel akin to.
If you take the compatibility test, the essential questions will ask how you think your ideal partner will move through life. When I took the test, my compatibility results matched me with an ENFJ based on my answers, and it did seem accurate when I stopped to think about my ideal match. Although I’ve never dated an ENFJ, I’ve always thought my best match is someone who is an Extravert to counteract my Introversion once in a while—an ideal not every INFJ would agree with or reciprocate. Looking at “The Teacher” type, I noticed the personality aligns with many things I appreciate and desire in a partner. These traits include creativity, a caring nature, empathy, a strong Feeling side, the goal to make a difference, and a love of intellectual conversation and debate. In a way, it almost felt like a combination I couldn’t articulate before seeing my results, and it highlights that I’ve yet to date an ENFJ.
How to incorporate your Myers Briggs compatibility in the real world
I know you’re thinking, “These matches are all great, but how do I use this information in my dating life?” The answer is, it doesn’t have to be complicated! Although you can use the compatibility results as a guideline for what type of partner you’re looking for, it doesn’t mean you have to rule out others in your dating life, either. You’re at the helm of your romantic pursuits, and if you feel like trying a personality type that isn’t among your most compatible, there’s no right or wrong move, as long as you’re staying true to yourself.
However, if you’re serious about using these tools as a guideline, you can incorporate them into your dating routine in a few ways.
Use personality type as an ice breaker.
By using personality type as an ice breaker, you might achieve a greater sense of who a person is. You can steer the conversation by asking prospective partners if they’ve taken the 16-type test. If they haven’t, they may volunteer to take it out of curiosity or interest in you. If they don’t want to take it, their refusal may be a sign they’re not interested in the topic (or may not be serious enough about getting to know you and your interests).
Seek out specific dating spheres and apps.
If you want to use Myers Briggs compatibility to find a romantic partner, there are ways you can seek out relevant dating pools. Many people put their personality type in their social media or dating profiles, which is helpful if you’re trying your hand at online dating.
When attending dating events in-person or meeting people in-person through work, outings, or otherwise, you can throw the question into your top 10 list for your first date.
There are also personality-type-specific dating apps you can try out, such as Birdy. Birdy connects you to people based on your compatibility and psychometrics. So, all you’ll need to do is sit back and wait for the matches to roll in.
Get to know personality types by traits and signs.
Although typing someone yourself might feel a bit hard, once you’ve familiarized yourself with the main preferences of the 16 personality system, you can figure out someone’s type by process of elimination. For example, are they Introverted or Extraverted? Do they prefer to plan (like a Judging type) or stay spontaneous (like a Perceiving type)?
After you’ve asked enough questions to get a feel for who your date is, it may feel easy to discern which of the 16 types they might be.
Once you know their personality type, you’ll have a better idea of who they are and how they structure their lives. If you’re still interested, great! If you feel they aren’t the one for you, move on and try again with someone else.
Summing it up: Dating with Myers Briggs compatibility in mind
Although you may have ignored personality type in your dating life thus far, it could be the time to make it a priority. Once you know which types are most compatible with yours, it may be easier to find like-minded people who will complement your traits. Of course, using personality type compatibility isn’t a foolproof science, since everyone is an individual, so you should always keep your mind open and understand which things are deal-breakers when seeking a romantic partner.