Enneagram Type 6 Relationship Compatibility
Thoughtful and protective of those who they love, Enneagram Sixes make loving and loyal partners. However, when less healthy, the Six can come across as controlling and have trouble trusting their partner, which can lead to issues within the relationship.
Which Enneagram types are the most compatible with the Six? The answer isn’t so simple. Any type can be compatible with a Six — and each type will experience their own joys and struggles within the relationship.
Read on to learn more about Enneagram Six relationship compatibility with each of the nine types. Wondering what Enneagram type is your best match? Take our free Enneagram Compatibility test.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram One
The Type Six with the Type One is a fun match. Not only are the One and the Six often mistaken for one another, with their shared values for goodness and loyalty to what they feel is right, but they also both love to execute well-laid-out plans.
This pairing can be quite logical and dutiful, and love to give and serve friends and family. With all the planning (for both safety and order) for them and their people and groups, they need to remember not to leave out room for regular physical and emotional connection, as well as to repair when either hits an anger point.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram Two
With the loyal and safe love of the Six and the romantic and affectionate love of the Two, this pairing can be one of the strongest of all the types. They have fun doing everyday life together as they pass metaphorical love notes to each other in the form of acts of faithful service, even on the harder days.
They also pass these sweet notes to the people and communities they are loyal to, helping everyone they care about. When they are out of balance, the Two can feel hurt by the reactivity of the Six and the Six can feel jealous of the outer focus of the Two, so help with communication is necessary.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram Three
Type Sixes with Type Threes tend to be high achievers who value truth and honesty. They work hard not just for themselves, but also for the approval and acceptance of each other. They truly enjoy developing and building new paths together. This is a deeply sensitive couple, though it will not always be obvious since they typically operate from a very practical place in matters of showing love, both in the world and at home.
This pairing glows beautifully in society when they each feel safe, loved unconditionally, and that they can truly (and they can) accomplish anything together.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram Four
A Type Six and Type Four couple exemplify a relationship full of emotional depth and security. Neither type is afraid to explore and analyze the relationship to make sure that they’re both at their best. They share a need for belonging to a community that understands, supports, and accepts them in unique and long-lasting ways. Together, they look out for their people first but also pride themselves on being judicious.
This couple can stop and let the world pass them by as they rest, lulled by the sweetness of connection and loyalty they experience in the comfort of each other. This pairing has a tendency to be reactive and emotional. So, when things get too intense, or they each begin to withdraw from the world too much, they will need communication help.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram Five
The Type Six and Type Five couple shows up as a pair of wise and loyal lovers who enjoy unwinding privately with witty conversations, close cuddles, and warm consideration. These types are both extremely thoughtful about work, family and values, and enjoy working out their vast ideas together.
Since the Six often finds comfort in social groups and the Five requires alone time, they will need good communication to balance their strong desires for security as well as rest. Once they find ways to communicate effectively, this couple will find a safe oasis in each other's presence.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram Six
Two Type Sixes in a relationship will each value safety and can create a passionate pair who serve the world — and each other — with care, efficiency and trustworthiness. After the period of stabilization that Type Sixes naturally go through in relationships, there’s a deep trust created. Both Sixes are able to talk about what makes each of them feel safe, and they each understand the reactivity that may ensue when one of them feels a momentary lack of trust.
This growth comes with maturity. But it is exciting because it is then that the couple can truly give not only out of their excellent, prepared, and troubleshooting minds, but also from a place of rest and joy, which is truly a gift indeed for all parties. When reactivity and anxiety are intense, tips for communication are essential.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram Seven
Type Sixes with Type Sevens glow together with laughter and loyalty, their shared love shining brightly all over the world or at least in their well-guarded neck of the woods! This pair wants to be safe and cozy, but also to have many interesting adventures. These types balance each other out with the planning and preparation of the Six and the expansive and carefree nature of the Seven.
Since they both deal with anxiety, these kindred spirits must be understanding when their partner needs self care or a different kind of safety outlet than they do. They must learn to lean in and — as two thinking types — will also learn to continually open up their hearts to each other with healthy communication.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram Eight
Type Sixes and Type Eights have a unique appreciation for loyalty and love that many other pairings do not share. There is a tribe mentality of “us versus the world” often in their mission to protect the innocent from evil, to stand up as loyal friends for those who are hurt, to lead work industries with troubleshooting, order, and innovation, and most of all, to build trust together so they can back each other up from every possible angle.
When one of them feels a lack of trust or a resistance to their personal needs, they can get quite reactive and open and vulnerable communication is essential.
Enneagram Six with Enneagram Nine
Type Sixes with Type Nines have much in common: a love for chilling at home, a balanced routine and checking all the boxes at work so they can rest hard when it’s time to unwind. Although gifted at resting, this pairing can likewise get moving and down to business like none other when they hit their hardworking, creative place.
The Type Six offers the Type Nine courage to find their voice in the world, and the Type Nine likewise brings rest and relaxation to the often neurotic Six. Once the Six allows the Nine to grow independently and the Nine understands the logical steps the Six needs to take to find security, they vibe so well. For helping getting to this point, communication help is of essence.
