Enneagram Ones strive to be good and honorable in all that they do — and this includes within their relationships. Ones are loyal and growth-oriented partners who sincerely want the best for their partner and the relationship. If you have a One as a partner, you have a faithful and determined companion.
But relationships with Ones also come with some challenges. One's perfectionism and harsh inner critic can spill over into their close relationships. So, which Enneagram types are Ones most compatible with? The answer isn’t so simple. Any type can be compatible with a One — and each type will experience their own joys and struggles.
Read on to learn more about Enneagram One relationship compatibility with each of the nine types. Wondering what Enneagram type is your best match? Take our free Enneagram Compatibility test.
Enneagram One with Enneagram One
Type Ones with Type Ones are literally on point, not unlike a winning athletic or artistic duo who produce both ethically and artistically with beauty and precision. They complete projects well and stay within the boundaries of goodness and truth to complete their missions, big and small.
This duo works well off of lists, finishing one thing and then running to the next important mission whether solo and together (both tend to be independent). This pair can also relax together incredibly well — but only after the hard work is done. They both adore a bit of fun and silliness.
Ones with Ones will do well to learn how to reduce harsh judgments of each other and to help one another get rid of the inner critic that often wears away at them.
Enneagram One with Enneagram Two
Type Ones with Type Twos bring out the best morals in one another as well as have the most fun together. Within this relationship, there are often shared values, an abundance of energy, and a passion for helping the world.
Together they have the potential to create a tidy oasis that permits rest and replenishment in a beautiful and tastefully designed setting. This pairing is often in the helping fields and tries to hospitably honor guests with care, and their own family with healthy endeavors. When they’re healthy, there’s little question of their alliance to one another, but they also need help working out a power differential.
Enneagram One with Enneagram Three
A relationship between a Type One and Type Three combines the order and detail of a One and the charming glory of a Three. This pairs up wonderfully as the One lends the nitty-gritty details while the Three offers the big picture view and the execution of their mutual dreams. It’s truly a beautiful continual polishing of each other in terms of both ideals and a practical, high-quality finished relationship.
The Three helps the One take healthy risks, remember that failing forward is not only acceptable but the only way to grow, and that it's essential to have fun even when things are difficult. The One, likewise, reminds the Three of tenderness and ideals as they mature. To make sure they don’t just work “on” the marriage but rest “in” the marriage, this couple does well to work on their communication.
Enneagram One with Enneagram Four
Type Ones with Type Fours create a styled and exquisitely tasteful couple, as both take pains to go through life carefully and with detail. And yet, there’s passion, deeply committed ideals, and a body and heart connection. This couple exhibits a glow that is beautifully tailored, complete with each taking time for much-needed independence.
Ones and Fours share an appreciation both for aesthetics and functionality and enjoy and appreciate one another’s contributions to style and form. When black-and-white thinking takes over, however, and there is a lack of compromise, communication help is essential.
Enneagram One with Enneagram Five
Type Ones with Type Fives are wonderfully logical and intelligent together, as well as hard-working and precise. They each value moderation — they’re both scrupulous and neither care for excess, even if they don’t always hold to the high ideals they share together.
They generally carry a strong collective moral compass in the world and remain focused on their mutual goals of contributing goodness and innovation into the world. This pair has many exclusively private moments they don’t care to share with anyone as well. In order to make sure they don’t leave each other out of their private life, healthy communication is key.
Enneagram One with Enneagram Six
The Type One with the Type Six is a fun match. Not only are the One and the Six often mistaken for one another, with their shared values for goodness and loyalty to what they feel is right, but they also both love to execute well-laid-out plans.
This pairing can be quite logical and dutiful, and love to give and serve friends and family. With all the planning (for both safety and order) for them and their people and groups, they need to remember not to leave out room for regular physical and emotional connection, as well as to repair when either hits an anger point.
Enneagram One with Enneagram Seven
Type Ones with Type Sevens can be a beautiful pair of opposites. Each brings out the best of the other, with the One helping the Seven see their full potential and the Seven reminding the One that they deserve breaks from all of their hard work.
When they can gift each other with these important reminders, the possibilities are unlimited. The joy that is shared is a remarkable display of family and couple goodness. However, when their ideals clash and they withdraw instead of sharing hurts, they need communication help.
Enneagram One with Enneagram Eight
Type Ones with Type Eights together have some of the biggest energy of any type pairing. When this couple is at their best they’re a hospitable and highly family-oriented couple that is vibrant and loves travel, fitness, and personal growth. Both are often very successful in their careers, so this pairing moves and shapes the world in beautiful ways.
This couple takes any chance to change the world in a better way, protecting the defenseless, serving the underserved, and treating themselves to resting fully and well when the hard work is done. However, when one or both feel left behind from the other’s fast-paced lifestyle, they can get short and angry with each other.
Enneagram One with Enneagram Nine
Type Ones with Type Nines take great satisfaction in loving others in the community as well as in giving generously to one another. Both of these body types give of themselves physically to others, often living with minimal attention to themselves. With an excess of stored energy in terms of their own needs, this pair does well to let go of stress together, to choose to intentionally serve the other, as well as to find a place and a routine for serving together. This causes their energy to release goodness, wisdom, strength, and peace into the world.
Their glow toward each other in the relationship is one of acceptance and grace just as they are, without trying to fix one another or hold passive aggression. If they do start to act passive-aggressively toward each other, they need to focus on clear and honest communication.