11 Reasons Why ENFPs and INFJs Have the Best Friendships

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on April 01, 2021

ENFP personalities are known for their spontaneity, uplifting spirit, and out-of-the-box view of the world. INFJs are seen as warm yet reserved, introspective, and idealistic. It might surprise you to discover that these types happen to make ideal friends for the other! Despite their surface differences, there is so much more to this friendship than first meets the eye. 

So what exactly makes these two types work so well together? Let’s find out. 

1. They are inverted versions of each other

ENFPs and INFJs have their cognitive functions stacked in a similar order (Intuitive, Feeling, Thinking, and Sensing). This means they use a similar processing language to navigate the world. In fact, both types are an inside-out version of the other. This similarity provides a sense of easy familiarity between the two, even if they don’t always approach things exactly the same way. It also provides just enough of a difference to stimulate both types. 

2.  They tend to dive deep into discussions for long periods

ENFP and INFJ types are often underestimated for how deeply they engage in conversations. ENFPs are written off as too distracted or flaky, while INFJs are viewed as reserved and more observational. However, when these types can discuss the things they are passionate about or the ideas swarming around their minds, they can hold a conversation for hours. Because both types have a desire to discuss with someone fully interested, they’ll feel a sense of relief around the other. 

3. INFJ types tend to offer some stability that ENFPs crave (even if they loathe to admit it)

INFJs are undoubtedly idealistic and dreamy, but they also prioritize some structure in their daily lives. Mainly it applies to planning out the future and bringing ideas to life in a practical way -- something the ENFP benefits from. ENFPs may say they want to be completely uninhibited by routine, but they do well from having a small amount of structure in their lives. INFJs can strike the perfect balance of organizing ideas and bringing them to life without going overboard on being rigid or too rooted in place. 

4.  ENFPs are social enough to help INFJs move out of their comfort zones

ENFPs are certainly social, even if they may not feel as extraverted as other types. They make connections with others easily but don’t feel the need to force interactions. INFJs can have a hard time opening up to people, even if they suspect the person shares their same values and interests. ENFPs can give the gentle nudge that INFJs need to step outside their comfort zones and allow others to get to know them.

5. INFJ provides a safe space for all the ENFP’s feelings

ENFPs often feel as though they have to continually put on a show regarding their emotions. They believe they always have to be upbeat and positive, even if they are struggling internally. INFJs provide a safe space for ENFPs to feel whatever they need to feel. They don’t hold expectations on how they are “supposed” to act. The ENFP thrives when given the ability to be their authentic selves. 

6. ENFP provides a safe space for INFJs to express their unconventional or taboo thoughts

INFJs tend to have some pretty out-of-the-box ideas, and ENFPs are a perfect springboard for them. While INFJs may be hesitant to talk about what’s going on in their heads for fear of being misunderstood, ENFPs aren’t the ones to judge or criticize someone’s ideas outright. Also, ENFPs are unafraid to discuss taboo topics -- they thrive on them! INFJs know they can talk to ENFPs about any of their weird or strange thoughts, which is something they can’t always do with other types. 

7. ENFPs generate ideas, INFJs find the solutions 

Due to their Extraverted Intuition, ENFPs are a goldmine of ideas. However, they do sometimes struggle with which one to fixate on and bring to life. INFJs, leading with their Introverted Intuition function, scan through all the ideas that the ENFP is sharing to figure out the best route to take. ENFPs generate a ton of options, whereas INFJs source out solutions, which makes these two a perfect team. 

8. They tend to feel like they’re in the middle of introversion and extraversion 

While it’s true that all personality types have introverted and extraverted tendencies, ENFP and INFJ types often feel they land more in the middle of the scale than most. ENFPs tend to derive their energy from discussing ideas and concepts rather than distinctly getting that energy from people. INFJs share a similar desire to express their ideas, and are more likely to spend time talking to others about them without feeling as drained as other introverts in the same situation.

9. Neither are judgmental types

Both types may have strong moral codes for themselves, but they aren’t judgmental people in the grand scheme of things. ENFPs and INFJs are always looking at the bigger picture -- they don’t like to take anything at a surface level. Both are accepting of other points of view and are interested in understanding others better. 

10. They make their relationships a high priority

ENFP and INFJs love to dive into connections with others, especially if they believe the person will understand them. Once both types feel they can be their true selves, they will go out of their way to strongly nurture that friendship because they know how important it is. They also aren’t ones to shy away from each other if there is a disagreement between them. They will strive to see the other person’s side of the story and find ways to work it out, rather than bailing at the first sign of trouble.

11. They are spontaneous and encourage that in each other

While INFJs plan things out a little more than ENFPs, both types are always up to try something new. ENFPs are spontaneous by nature, and INFJs are capable of flexibility. While some may discourage either type from being too unpredictable, INFJs and ENFPs will admire that trait in each other. They know there will never be a dull moment when they get together!

Lacey Ramburger

Lacey Ramburger is a Kentucky-based freelance writer and poet who has covered topics from personality theory, astrology, and enneagram as well as dating, relationships, and lifestyle. Her work has been featured in Thought Catalog and The Spruce, in addition to others. When she has free time, she enjoys wine tasting, reading, and discovering new vegan restaurants across the country.

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About the Clinical Reviewer

Steven Melendy, PsyD., is a Clinical Psychologist who received his doctorate from The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. He specializes in using evidence-based approaches in his work with individuals and groups. Steve has worked with diverse populations and in variety of a settings, from community clinics to SF General Hospital. He believes strongly in the importance of self-care, good friendships, and humor whenever possible.


Wow man (not verified) says...

I find this so interesting, however I've never quite figured out my type for sure. On the free Briggs-Meyers test I came up ENFJ twice and ENFP once. I identify here with feeling sometimes introverted, then extroverted. I once qouted a book I half read and was wrong to quote it, as it turned out different when I finally finished it. To N...O...S..., I was wrong. I was wrong, no matter what I was wrong. Happiness is knowing that both of you are togther and happy. I got distant when I heard "you wanted to grow old with someone", Hopefully you accept my apology for my mistakes...I got hung up because of the words in the air and my dream of writing my movie with an writer who had such eligance with words...then my regret of not having a biological child carried on from there...again my deepest apologies as my regret is what is untensionally hurting you, your small circle and mine, Respecfully Always.

Hana (not verified) says...

I cant get over the fact that this is 100percent true,,  Im ENFP and all my bestfriends are INFJ, i swear theyre the best and the most loyal than the others >3

Kira Zahl (not verified) says...

My best friend is an ENFP, her and I used to always visit eachother and play videogames all day! Well she doesn't go to my school, but the reason I chose her is because she has always been there for me no matter what and how we share fun memories together. 

Just a loner (not verified) says...

I just wanted to find out which personality type matches best with mine (im INFJ) to see if its really true. I actually can relate to a lot of these arguments. I always had friends who are Introverted and they were always more extrovert than me. Hope to find the perfect friend.

SAliha (not verified) says...

 Being ENFP is fun sometimes but sadness for those struggles that I want to express. INFJ's are the best space for me to share those unrealistic (I think many people think like that), weird thoughts which are blooping inside my mind. my thoughts everyone doesn't understand

 So, as being an extrovert I can keep talking whole day but can't feel relax without someone who understand those weirdness. So, how hard it is to not feeling light by talking with everyone!😔

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