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How do ISFJs communicate?

ISFJs take a supportive role in communication, listening to tune into the needs of others. They tend to be sensitive and want to collaborate to support everyone involved. ISFJs rarely demand the floor, but are often quietly taking in detailed information from the world around them. They contribute information when they see a practical use for it or when they see that it could be helpful. ISFJs are loyal to what they see first-hand, and will often share perspectives based on personal experience.

What are ISFJs like as partners?

In relationships, the ISFJ is generous, accomodating, and loyal. ISFJs are dedicated to the task of taking care of their loved ones, and take their family responsibilities seriously. They look for ways to provide and to assist, and are attentive to the details of the people around them.

ISFJs appreciate history and tradition, and often want to create a relationship that reflects traditional ideals. Whether male or female, the ISFJ typically adheres to customary gender roles, and dutifully takes on the corresponding household duties.

ISFJs are motivated to help, and may put their partner’s needs ahead of their own. They typically have a clear idea of what a partner "should" do, but are not likely to be outwardly demanding when it comes to their own needs. They prize harmony and will often withdraw rather than engage in conflict.

ISFJs want a relationship that allows them to be helpful and dutiful in their devotion to loved ones. They appreciate a considerate and thoughtful partner who recognizes their dedication and ability to nurture others.

What are ISFJs like as parents?

As parents, ISFJs are devoted, traditional, and responsible. They are often firm but loving disciplinarians, and want to teach their children to do the right thing and adhere to the rules of society.

ISFJ parents can be overprotective in their motivation to shield their children from the dangers of life, and may blame themselves for problems that their children experience, feeling that they didn’t work hard enough as parents. ISFJs are nurturing and practical, and typically excellent at providing for their children’s daily needs.

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ISFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ISFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ISFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ISFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ISFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ISFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ISFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ISFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ISFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ISFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Prairie Meyer-Hesler (not verified) says...

pretty legit...except for the journalism part :p

Guest (not verified) says...

Same here!

Guest (not verified) says...

Agreed. I've always been into journalism.

Guest (not verified) says...

Just FYI, ISFJ is not more likely to watch TV 3 or more hours per day. ESFP and ISFP are actually the types most likely to watch more than 3 hours. Source MBTI Manual, p. 259

Autumn (not verified) says...

Spot on!!

Lawson (not verified) says...

I thought I was an INTJ, but this profile fits me best for sure!

Guest (not verified) says...

I feel the same way. When I took the test I was an Introvert, a Sensor, and a Judge. When I got to the third part it said I was borderline between Feeler and Thinker because of my compassion toward others and my habit to thinking to myself.

marc21us (not verified) says...

Try reading up on cognitive functions in MBTI, that will most likely clear up the type confusion. Especially sine ISFJs and INTPs use different 4 main functions. :)

alyseshirley says...

Nailed me! Oh my!

Guest (not verified) says...

dont u mean "lions and tigers and bears!"

Guest (not verified) says...

Except for my training and practice as an economist, any of my acquaintances would absolutely recognize this as a description of me.

Chowznbeautie (not verified) says...

Yep, this is exactly me... Now who am I compatible to?

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm a man, and this states that this is mainly a women's personality....
I hate to say it, but it is absolutely right about me. and now i know where to go from here.

Guest (not verified) says...

This isn't a women's personality. Many men have it too it's just more common among women. Also I would love to find a man with this personality. I know they would be as trustworthy & kind as I am. Lol :)

M.Dibella (not verified) says...

This fits perfectly, I'm surprised how accurate this is..

Catabisis (not verified) says...

Most men do not have ISFJ. I wonder if the ISFJ match has to do with me being raised by my mom. Ironically, I pursued a nursing degree. I dropped out of college due to advanced math. Just as the review stated, I struggle with abstractions. I told my instructor that I could grasp the math if I could apply it to something in my life like my checkbook. Interestingly, I aced psych and sociology. I identified both with experiences in my life. For me, this test measured my personality quite accurately. I should have taken in at age 18 instead of 50.

Cbrodkin1 says...

According to some sites on profile pages it says isfj is most compatible with estp or estj. But anyone can be in a relationship with anyone. you can get along with any type as long as they are willing to break down your shell and get you to open up which can take awhile.

Guest (not verified) says...

If u really want to grow as a person then an entj will help u do that.

It will be challenging, but the rewards are worth it. An entj can teach an isfj not to take things so personally. Imagine how much more effective an isfj
Could be if they didn't take so many things to heart.

Guest (not verified) says...

As an ISFJ, I take this to heart and I laugh.

GuestAly (not verified) says...

My husband typed at ENTJ :) and I am ISFJ, and this is pretty true. We've been married almost 20 years and still learn a lot from, and about, each other.
Including how to take, and interpret, how something is said.

Guest (not verified) says...

Oh, that is so amazing that you wrote, "If u really want to grow as a person then an entj will help u do that. It will be challenging, but the rewards are worth it. An entj can teach an isfj not to take things so personally." I am an ISFJ and am married to an ENTJ. It is definitely challenging. Thanks for your encouraging words.

Cbrodkin1 says...

My comment was wrong before about who we are most compatible with. who we are most compatible with is the estp and the esfp. it takes a long time for people to know me but I can open to anyone it just depends if they are willing to wait. I'm currently dating an introvert right now so it can work with any personality types.

Karen (not verified) says...

Thanks for this helpful information!!

damon (not verified) says...

fits my description to a T

caroline says...

WoW!! This is SO accurate! :) This is the first time i've read a personality test that makes sense and has actually helped me! its detailed and concise.

Guest (not verified) says...

very interesting...sounds like me

Guest (not verified) says...

It's crazy to read this and realize that it nailed it to a "T"

Cory (not verified) says...

This thing was way off

Guest (not verified) says...

Yes it was way off for me too. I am bad at every "good" career, and good at every "bad" career that they listed.
And I definitely don't have a girl personality.

Jeremy76 (not verified) says...

It's very much like me and explains a few things about who I am. Though I do like photography but would probably be more fulfilled in the serving occupations.

peacenbeauty (not verified) says...

This dead drivers m me but it's very predictable and boring personality type. Hate it. Have to change.

Tamijay (not verified) says...

As an ENFP woman in love with an ISFJ man, please know that this personality type is far from boring. I cherish his stability and his orderly personality/life. It gives me a solid foundation. He is curious and knowledgeable about many things and as such I'm always learning from him. He doesn't love to try new things, but when he is willing to, it's delightful for me. I'm so happy to have found a man who is thoughtful, attentive to details, and stable and reliable. Those things may seem boring until you have a life where they're absent, then you realize how valuable they are!

Tamijay (not verified) says...

I forgot to add, he is VERY masculine and athletic. These traits may be found more often in women, but it doesn't mean that men who share them aren't masculine.

Glenda Jakes (not verified) says...

It's crazy to read something that is so me, reading this is like the person was sitting talking to me taking notes.

yorkiemom61 says...

Just unbelieveable on how "right-on" this is!

Guest (not verified) says...

I guess mine has changed, which im not sure its normal, but maybe it is--last time I took this test I was 'The Healer' and now I'm 'The Protector' its strange cuz I borderlined on 'Judge vs Perceiver' and I also borderlined on the 'Extravert and Introvert' this time though this personality is accurate as well haha :)

KristenDegase (not verified) says...

This was exactly right about. This is the best personality thing I have tried.

Guest (not verified) says...

what about degrees in psychology?

BRENDA (not verified) says...

I am an isfj going through trauma and mourning. anxiety over not finding the right job. depression

Justin S (not verified) says...

im scared now. O.O

Guest (not verified) says...

We need a compatibility field on here.

Guest (not verified) says...

really a girls personality.....-_-

L (not verified) says...

pretty accurate except for the part about gender roles. i despise gender roles.

RATWFSG (not verified) says...

Besides the fact I am an artist and Love photography this was pretty good

Guest (not verified) says...

Right? I'm on the fast track to getting a degree for Art so I can become a Graphic Designer, and I don't think I would do well with jobs that are super picky like corporate jobs, being a doctor, or a teacher. I'm too wishy washy for that! But everything else fits me to the T, just not the careers part...

Guest (not verified) says...

I find that the careers for the ISFJ fit ok. I am positively ISF but I am between the P and J. The personality types are not completely accurate for every individual person, they are more like a stereotype. I love Science and am working on my Associates now. I love photography. I am excellent at taking super close up pictures because I have an eye for all the details. It's an art that just shows the beauty of the subject and can provide a new perspective.

Guest cookiezzz (not verified) says...

This perfectly describes me ^-^

nurfitriani (not verified) says...

this is a positive character

Guest (not verified) says...

what if you are interested in another person with the same personality type? it doesn say anyhing about relationships with same type

Eden R. (not verified) says...

Hey, I'm an ISFJ and have done a lot of studying of types, especially my own, and it's important to note that ISFJs normally have a very good sense of aesthetics, so the thing about photography being a bad choice for an ISFJ is pretty wrong.

Also, after reading the comments section, I've noticed some misunderstandings of the theory. Your Myers-Briggs type is just the way you process things mentally, not a dictator of every individual personality trait, personal choice, mental illnesses, likes/dislikes, et cetera. It affects your personality, but no one will be completely stereotypical. For example, most ISFJs have very organized home spaces, but my room is an absolute mess, and I'm okay with that. No one will fit the stereotype, and you shouldn't expect yourself or others to. Also, getting different results on the test when you take it different times is normal. I would take a few tests to get a general idea, then look at a chart explaining the basic differences between each letter and type yourself. You know yourself more than a computer does.

Additionally, I've noticed a few "this is a girl type" comments. I absolutely must refute that. There are no "boy" or "girl" types. None of these types are inherently masculine or feminine. I will admit that I am a female ISFJ, but there are plenty of male ISFJs. It does not make you girly just because you are concrete, caring, introverted, and organized. Saying "this is a girl type" reinforces a gender stereotype that suggest that masculine men should not be quiet or loving or show emotion or do things for people they care about. Saying "this is a girl type" suggests that many positive ISFJ qualities should not be expressed in men, which is oppressive, and in some cases, toxic to a male who feels he cannot express himself. Conversely, this also suggests that females cannot be what a stereotypical male should be. One stereotypically masculine MBTI type is the ESTP type, which is generally spontaneous, outgoing, assertive, and self-assured. These are qualities that are socially considered masculine traits, but can be held by any person of either sex. I know several ESTP girls; in fact, one of my old friends is an ESTP. So in conclusion, don't say "this is a girl type," because that confines the different genders to a set of characteristics, even when the characteristics are perfectly okay things for both sexes to be.

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