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INFP Strengths

Idealism. INFPs care deeply for others and believe it is their duty to make a positive impact on the lives of other people in any way they can. Because of this unbreakable commitment, INFPs are capable of great self-sacrifice, and they won’t compromise their ethical standards for personal benefit. INFPs are firm believers in the unlimited potential of human beings to achieve remarkable things, and they can always be counted on to provide encouragement or material support to those who are attempting to expand their horizons.

Integrity. Integrity means everything to INFPs, and that includes intellectual as well as moral integrity. Some people might accuse INFPs of being overly imaginative or of being willing to stretch logic to the breaking point in order to find the deeper meaning they insist must exist, but there is no denying that the deeply reflective nature of INFPs allows them to transcend the boundaries of imagination that so often prevent us from discovering new solutions to old problems.

Compromise. As empathic idealists, harmonious relations are like a balm to the soul for INFPs. In family settings or when working in groups, INFPs are highly effective as mediators because they are legitimately interested in the viewpoints of all and will go out of their way to make sure that everyone is given a fair hearing. They are enthusiastic advocates of cooperation and believe that no difficulty is insurmountable when people work together for a common cause. 

Dedication. It is easy to pay lip service to virtues like compassion, creativity, originality and open- mindedness, but these ideas don’t mean much unless they can be translated into real-world applications. Fortunately, INFPs are masters at doing just that. Passionate and committed to the cause, these personalities have a unique ability to mold and shape their surrounding environment in ways that promote self- improvement and transcendent achievement for all. 

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INFP Weaknesses

Sensitivity. Their deep compassion, sensitivity and commitment to originality allows INFPs to interface with their interpersonal landscapes in a constructive manner, but these feelings also leave them vulnerable to disillusionment and powerful existential angst. INFPs who venture enthusiastically out into the world can end up retreating into lethargy and depression when they discover their idealism isn’t always shared or respected by others, and their incredible talents can go completely to waste when they become too discouraged to continue.

Impracticality. While their insistence on standing up for justice and decency is admirable, the intensity of their feelings can occasionally leave INFPs unwilling to make compromises even when doing so might be necessary to get something accomplished. Sticking to your morals is admirable, but in the real world it may be impossible to accomplish anything unless the INFP can find a way to give and take a little and find practical, if imperfect, solutions to problems. 

Selflessness. INFPs have a tendency to neglect or suppress their own needs if they believe it is necessary to keep the peace or make others happy. When a person holds his or her insecurities inside for too long, it can eventually cause a blow-up or an emotional breakdown. Sensitive INFPs often suffer in silence, and this is a pity because INFPs and their fellow travelers usually have people in their lives who care about them a lot and would be more than happy to help them deal with their heartaches and disappointments. 

Vulnerability. Compassionate to the core, INFPs lead with their hearts rather than their heads and this can sometimes set them up for trouble. Unfortunately there are users and manipulators out there who are always on the lookout for easy targets, and from the standpoint of these individuals INFPS might as well have flashing neon signs attached to their foreheads that say “exploit me, exploit me!” Trust is a wonderful thing, but not when it makes you gullible. 

INFP Growth and Development

In order to reach their full potential, INFPs should:

Learn to recognize the difference between compromise and concession. People who disagree with INFPs are simply seeing things from a different point of view, but to an INFP, it can feel like they are being backed into a corner. Instead of digging in their heels, INFPs must find a way to detach from the situation so they can comprehend the motivations of their opposition more clearly. If it is only a difference in values and not a lack of them that is responsible for divergent opinions, then INFPs should not expect others to give in to stubbornness any more than they would if the shoe were on the other foot.

Make sure dreams and fantasies are used to enhance reality rather than replace it. INFPs who look out at the world with idealistic eyes often see grand vistas of beauty and limitless possibility that others are not capable of perceiving. But INFPs sometimes choose to retreat into these fantasies instead of using them to solve real-world problems. Imagination can open the door to better possibilities, and INFPs should never lose sight of its transformative potential. 

Learn to respect the details. No matter how wonderfully inventive a new idea might be, it won’t get anywhere if the logistical details required to put it into practice are ignored or neglected. INFPs may find this aspect of the creative processes a bit boring, but they should challenge themselves to overcome their disinterest and pay attention to all those annoying details anyway. 

Seek out leadership positions. INFPs have strong egalitarian instincts, are natural conciliators, passionately believe in the utility of cooperation, are excellent listeners, and never fail to pay attention when someone has a new idea to share. These admirable qualities double as superb leadership skills, and no one who possesses them should avoid leadership positions simply because they aren’t extraverts. Above all else, leaders must have the respect of those they presume to lead, and INFPs are just as capable of gaining that respect as any other personality type. 

Accept themselves as they are without apology. Because their standards are so high, INFPs have a hard time forgiving themselves when they fail to meet their own expectations. They may also become indecisive and fall into a perfectionism so extreme that it cuts off their flow of creativity and makes it impossible for them to excel and achieve. This dynamic is unfortunate, especially as INFPs would never think of holding others to such impossible standards. For the sake of their mental health and happiness, INFPs must learn to stop comparing themselves to others and recognize that they should prioritize their own happiness.

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Kate K. (not verified) says...

Hi Tyler,

as a fellow INFP I can definitely relate. I overthink everything. Everything is going just fine and then ooops I start creating those scenarios in my head and I feel like everything is not good enough and then what´s the point of doing it, right?... the problem is that I don´t even care if I stress about something that is real, I just start having those doubts and I don´t know what to do with my life. 

Have a great day. 

uh (not verified) says...

Lmao how reassuring

Busy Bee (not verified) says...

I've read two somewhat diverging ideas about INFPs in relationships: the first is that INFPs have an innate, almost instant sense of whether or not they are compatible with someone and could fall in love with them. The second is that because INFPs have been dreaming and imagining their ideal partner for so long, when they meet a person, they experience a "flurry of comparison" of this person to their ideal, which can end the relationship prematurely since the prospective match most likely will not live up to this imagined ideal. Which one is a better representation? Are we just really good at figuring out quickly whether the relationship is worth pursuing or are we shutting the door too quickly because we're in love with an idea? (I've experienced the former more frequently than the latter, but I'd like to hear others' thoughts).

DJ1987 (not verified) says...

Hi Busy bee,

For me it's a bit of both. I tend to have an idealised vision of a partner and when I meet someone who exhibits some of those traits, I tend to fall hard and attribute the other traits of my ideal man onto them until the fog starts to clear. If I notice a real conflict in values then I know it's over. Usually if I notice this from the very beginning I don't even bother getting into a relationship but it isn't always very visible at the start. I don't know if that helps.

elle (not verified) says...

Hello fellow INFPs !! I've just stumbled upon here and your stories about your life experiences are really interesting. I read all of it and realized how similar (in some aspects) we all are. I am also happy that I gain knowledge from your experiences and how I also gained hope from it. I would like to share my situation too as how all of you shared yours and as a chance to seek some advice too. Tbh, eversince I was a kid I really don't have any dream profession unlike my friends that's why as I grow up I got filled with doubts and tend to overthink a lot about my purpose in life. Up until now, I still don't know the calling of my soul and I've been struggling a lot about it. I tried going to career counseling before entering college once and I can say that it was able to ease what I feel but really I wasn't able to get the answer that I was looking for because I realized that the answer that I want will just be coming from me no matter what I do. I have been struggling with anxiety too but I am doing my best to still get a hold of myself. I am currently an Economics major and I'm having doubts whether to still pursue my major or switch up to another major. I am actually in the middle if asked whether I enjoy my major or not. There are times that I feel like I fit in my major and there are times that I feel like I should consider shifting. When I am asked the question where do I see myself 5 or 10 years from now I really don't know what to say because I really don't know where I should be. I choseeconomics because I just felt that it'll be an interesting major because you'll be aware about what's happening around you or how things really work. I really don't know whether to continue it or not. I also don't want to be a burden to my family because my family is already suffering with different problems and I don't want to pile my personal problem up. Tho they are aware that I am undecided evenbefore, they are just supporting me and that they are very open-minded about my career decision because they said it's my life so they are not putting much pressure on me but I put such pressure on myself and sometimes I feel drained already trying my best to find not just the answers that I need but myself as well. 


It's hard to feel lost and the uncertainty behind every decision that I'll be making scares me. I find it really hard to dedicate my efforts, my time, my whole self to something that can eventually make me feel like a disappointment. 

margottttt (not verified) says...

I can relate to this almost completely, I'm so glad to see other people who have similar experiences because it helps me and lets me know that I'm not the only one who thinks like that and that it's okay 

Mark_T (not verified) says...

Hi Elle, I think this is the eternal problem for INFPs but fortunately contains the eventual solution - unfortunately it can just take us forever to realise it! We truly need to find something that matters to us on a deep and fundamental level to be happy and that can take years to discover. However, in the meantime, we all still have to find a way to pay the bills. We often feel like we stand on the fringes of modern society with it's endless pursuit of money, power and status when what we truly value is connection, expression and understanding. That feeling of exclusion from the modern world can take a terrible toll both mentally and financially but also contains the seeds of a solution. The world truly prizes our individuality, look at a list of famous INFPs and see how they changed the world for the better even though many of them suffered from crippling doubt.

If I had any practical advice, I would say, find a way to support yourself that takes a minimum of time and effort but may not necessarily pay well so that you can pour the rest of yourself into what really matters to you (once you've worked out what that is). As far as your economics degree goes; if you can struggle through the rest of it and can continue to afford it, then it's not going to hurt you in the future - maybe you can find a way to apply your economics degree to something you really care about. However, also be aware that the typical environment and personalities in a lot of economics fields (e.g. banking) are virtually anathema to INFPs, although I suspect academia is probably different in this regard. If continuing to pursue your economics degree is going to pile on unaffordable debt for you then you might want to pursue something else instead but that's only a decision you can make. If you passed your economics degree but then didn't do anything with it job-wise, would you still be happy that you'd kept doing it or not?

Find and watch Neil Gaiman's (who I suspect may also be an INFP) "Make Good Art" speech to help you find your calling. :)

Think carefully and make sure you're happy with your decision before you finally act on it, whatever it happens to be - it's all up to you!

Love, and all the best. Mark

Marie Wood (not verified) says...

I think this is where I use my intuition to get me through those types of situational stressors. Going to college is stressful enough, as I'm in the same boat as you, but I'd like to give a remember that you have that intuition that you can use to help guide you to making the right decisions. Trust in yourself with whichever path you are pulled to the most and go for it!

As for trying to communicate your situations to family members, I would recommend taking a mindful look at the negative self-talk that's motivating those fears of judgment within yourself (Will they accept that I have an issue of decided which to major in?), low confidence in yourself (what if I can't succeed in another field besides economics?) and second-guessing your decisions (Will I regret this?). All of these need to be carefully looked at and dissected into root explainations of themselves in order to understand why you are stuck in that loop of negativity about yourself. Only then can you work to increase your potential within yourself, so that you can finally be confident and make decisions without doubting.

If you can't use your intuition, try other personality strength pathways that you possess to get to the root of your issues onto the table. Don't be afraid because you aren't alone! All that time that you fear to waste upon yourself, when trying new things, is a negative thought that's blocking you of your fullest potential to use that time for improvement. What if you could do something that you always declined doing just because you thought you weren't good enough? How did that feelings make you feel? Is that feeling irrational? If it is irrational, how can you change it into rationally postive feelings and thoughts? Not irrational, Why not? Can you be absolutely certain that the feeling/thought is rational?

Questions like these can help get your mind into constant cognitive awareness about these previous feelings and fears stated above. Don't lose hope, work hard and before you know it, you will become your fullest and most successful self.

bluehex says...

Hi, I've had the same problem, but ultimately I found that I needed to choose a career that went with my values and made me feel good about it. I tried multiple degree paths, so it was bumpy for me. Still, I ultimately found that I went the route that was discouraged in the past because it was impractical. Yet, in following their advice, I ended up feeling miserable, so I am correcting that mistake. I am assuming you live in the US, which is an SJ type of society that values practical and safe choices, which in my opinion, isn't what we as intuitive types should be basing our decisions. I feel that even if we do succeed, we will get drained but not feeling a sense of satisfaction because it feels like we took the safe route than the one that our souls need to feel a sense of meaning.

Ti (not verified) says...

Hey Elle,

I didn't come here to read comments, but then found myself scrolling and saw yours. I myself have experienced a similar situation as I've gotten older. I'm a young professional, and I actually did end up going into the field I majored in at college, but after a hiatus for some months following. And honestly speaking, the reason I went into it was because I had a conversation with an old professer/mentor where I decided sometimes you just have to bite the bullet to get to where you want to be. For me that was going into a career so that I could pay off my student debt. 

That being said, all throughout my life I've found myself to be interested in something for 3 to 4 years, and once that time has passed and I feel like I've accomplished things that I wanted, I move on to something else. I've come to realize I like being a "Jill of all trades". My preset is not to just settle on one thing but for so long because I like to continously be learning through life. I went into college undeclared for this reason, and ended up switching majors three times before landing on something that maintained my interest. For me that was mass communications, specifically advertising because it married a lot of the things I was interested in. I see myself in it for now, but even saything this I know it won't be my forever job because it's not me to feel anchored to one thing. 

I said all this to say you don't have to have it figured out, but at the core follow your interest. I didn't mind switching majors because I knew eventually I would land somewhere I was meant to be. I also have always hated feeling discontent with what I'm doing. If it doesn't ressonate with you then why stay in it especially when you are paying for the education you are getting? Also, never be dissapointed in the decisions you make because at one time that's what you wanted, so there's no use seeing it as a fail. You will learn from the choices you make whether it be you never want to do that thing again, or that it was amazing and you want to continue in that direction. That's what life is, a series of oops and okays. All in all, take it one step at a time and don't be afraid to switch your major, but also don't be afraid to stay in it if you do find it interesting. It's what you're doing now, but doesn't have to be what you're doing always. 

I hope this helps!

Sunny (not verified) says...

I feel that I empathy too much and overly sensitive. All of this makes me feel stress, anxiety and anger in my body all the time, sometime it lead to emotionally burnout. I tried to focus on myself more than other but it’s so hard to act like you don’t care but you already feel it. 

And the other thing is I’m indecisive person. I often delay my decision until it got not time to make it, especially when I have to make a big decision for my life.

Anyone feel like me?

Sorry for my bad English

Lillian (not verified) says...

Hi Sunny,

From my personal experience I would suggest to build and keep your own boundaries —— you don't have to be responsible for others' emotions and feelings, and you have no obligations of fullfilling others' expectations. You only have to do it when you feel the want and need to do it. Secure your own oxygen mask first before assisting others. When you are already burnout and exhausted, it's okay to say no to an "outside emergency". 

And maybe some helpful online channels:

Amy Young - a Youtube channel talks about building boundaries and self-care;

Woebot - an app designed based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy where you could chat with an AI for daily emotional check-in, gratitude jounarling, practicing mindfullness, self compassion, etc. (It saved me, someway ;)


fskmjks (not verified) says...

I'm also really indecisive, I honestly hate it about myself so much because making decisions (even small and not super important) is sooo hard for me. As I get older it becomes more and more frustrating.

Mara (not verified) says...

Hey there,

I can't even explain how much I can relate to that feeling! I become easily frustrated when things don't work out. At the moment I feel very burnt out.

Often I don't know what to do...

Btw your English is perfectly fine :)

AJ (not verified) says...

i completely get you. i'm overtly sensitive, indecisive, and non confrontational. sometimes i feel that people think i'm weak. focus on you! you're not alone :)

hi everyone (not verified) says...

Hello, i'm very lost with what to do with my life. I'm in my second semester of university majoring in marketing and media after changing from a science degree (had no specific major). Now, I am very anxious about my decision. I am scared that I will never find my passion. :( .I don't know... should I have changed to nursing instead? 

Angie_14 (not verified) says...

Hi! I don't know much about majors in college but I do know about feeling stuck. Finding your passion is probably one of the hardest decisions you'll make in your life. It can take a few months or it can take a lifetime. The best thing you can do is look everywhere. Think about the things you love. Try taking a walk through a park or by the beach if you find yourself inspired by nature. Read books. Watch movies. Spend time with people you love. Try new things everywhere you look and seize every opportunity you have to learn something new. As for what you do in college, don't stress out too much. School is there for you to learn. So many people don't even go into professions similar to their major anyway. I think you should just pursue what your heart tells you to. Don't stress about what your decision can do for the future because you have the power to do anything you want. Whatever feels like the right choice in your gut is your best option. Think about hobbies and how you can work them into a career. You don't need to be in charge of Wendy's Twitter to have a job in marketing. Maybe you like drawing and could be a graphic designer. You mentioned nursing and science; if that's something you're passionate about then by all mean go after it. If you chose a major that will teach you a useful skill you can use later on that's great. If you chose something that relates to something you've always loved doing that's great. The best thing you can do right now is to work hard. Study hard in whatever subject you choose. Give yourself a break from time to time, but also never stop pushing to be the best version of yourself you can be. It sounds like you have a big workload in of you right now, and you'll thank yourself later when you get to the bottom of it. And trust me, your passion will come naturally. It might take a while, but you'll know when it's there. There's a good chance it can be a huge risk, but you'll never know until you take a leap. Just know that it's going to get easier. I can't stress enough to work hard. Ask for help from friends when you need it. I don't know about your life, so make sure to find good friends who are open and support you. A little bit of optimism goes a long way.

You have your whole life ahead of you, so relax and take things one step at a time. I'm rooting for you!

Danny D. (not verified) says...

Maybe think about getting a masters degree in psychology so you can be a therapist. It took me 'til my late twenties after dropping out of law to realize this for me. It's super easy for INFPs. 

Stasifile (not verified) says...


I just read your comment about psychology

i have studied this and found the studies very interesting 

However when I went into the workforce, I was disappointed 

the industry often deals with people that have learning disabilities and high levels of aggression

This job gives me anxiety as I always feel that I can be attacked

many people don't try to use the suggestions and it goes nowhere

besides this, it's all about money and kpis, when you work for a company all they want to do is take the government funding


i am yet to still find a career that I can thrive in

RAMEN (not verified) says...

Infp here, and terribly excited to be one! 

Fatma Nadjah Manda (not verified) says...

I am an INFP. I really want to be a doctor. I am not sure if its the right job for me. Are there INFPs who are pursuing medical degree?

John Parker (not verified) says...

If you’re an INFP, you are naturally a healer...and doctors heal. If you have a desire for that occupation, God has given you that desire. Ask yourself why you want to be a doctor. The answer is always in the question. Good luck!

Aberam (not verified) says...

You can do whatever you like, pal. Just put your mind to it.


David (not verified) says...

You are overthinking things, I am a strong INFP so it's imortant for us to exersize different aspects of our personality. I love puzzles, does it fit my personality style according to the test? No. Everyone is more complex than a personality test could ever pin point. Do what you want to do. 

Anonymous (not verified) says...

Your personality type shouldn't deprive you from succeeding in a certain field. If it's truly what YOU want to do then go for it. Like people say work hard play hard. 

Jas (not verified) says...

Hey recent fresh graduate in community practice. I'll say there aspects I love and some that I hate (hate the billing aspect),, the beauracracy, and politics) but I love some of my patients. I'm told I'm one of the few people that actually listens and values their input when making decisions and that does mean something to me knowing that what I'm doing is making a difference. I think personally I would have preferred to specialize in a field of medicine that didn't require me to interact with my patients as much (anesthesiology, or another form of internal medicine) as I could do my job and not need to interact with anyone more than necessary. But I didn't feel like pushing on in school. I work 4 days on 3 days off and use my job to fuel my other hobbies/passions (rock climbing, photography, cycling, and spending time with my close friends). If it wasn't for the balance in my life I think I would dislike my work as well as my life. So having a good balance and creative pursuits definately helps. I don't know if I've answered your question in a way that makes your decision easier, but I'll say that whatever you do, how you view it makes the difference in how you'll enjoy it, the people that surround you, and what you do outside of your career make a big difference as well. Pursue what you think will make you happy but have other things in your life that make you happy and take your mind off of the stuff you really dislike with the healthcare profession etc..... 

Ahmad Nazmy (not verified) says...

Salam and hello my fellow Mediators, btw im the assertive type. Well, i didnt know anything about Medical Education, because im a trader. I see in a big picture such as world economy, its easy to make money alone by only trading. Well but i insist to pursue in Education in Medications. I think if we consume THC/CBD aka maryjuana in a right way especially during covid's season, the first thing that ll close down is actually Hospital rather than tobacco company. Does anyone ever getting sick after they consume maryjuana? Nahh if ur getting deaper in economic world, they say maryjuana also can be use as the currency. And if u want ur money to be in safe heaven, convert that paper to gold/silver. Anyway im sorry if my point of view is too idealist 😌

The Guy (not verified) says...

Hey Ahmad,

im thinking about becoming a tradr too. Without going into too much detail: It interests me on how you started into your career ? How long ago did you start into it ? Also I heard the market is very volatile and its pretty dangerous ?

Dr. Jessie (not verified) says...

Hello. I am an INFP who practiced as an MD for the past 17 years, 13 years as a Board-Certified OB/GYN. I now practice Integrative and Functional Medicine. I think we need INFP's in clinical medicine now more than ever. If you do decide to pursue medicine as a career, ask yourself whether you have extremely strong family and social support, as well as a strong sense of yourself. Before starting medical school, make sure you know how to care for yourself and listen to your body and mind when you need to rest and relax. I didn't have these supporting conditions while I was an Ob/Gyn and a single mother raising two boys. I struggled with deep depression, anxiety, and ultimately burn-out. I made the decision to leave conventional medicine to take care of myself. 


I also agree that the choice of specialty can be very important.


I am extremely grateful for the privilege of practicing as a physician, and I have finally learned that you must always care for yourself as well as you care for others!


Best to you!

Dr.Sanjeev (not verified) says...

May be not . But it depands which branch you want to pursue ...

Like i am now doing psychiatry... 

I am an INFP too

Sissel B (not verified) says...

Hi! I'm an INFP who wants to go to be a doctor too. I've been worrying if it's not the right path for me because I've always been told to be a writer or a painter. But I think the most important thing is to do what interests you. For me, that's endocrinology or forensic pathology. So that's what I'm going to do. Listen to your heart and it'll tell you what you should do. I wish you luck!

Payalin (not verified) says...

Hi! I felt so comfortable on this forum as there are so many people here who I feel I could relate well with. 
Last year I lost my grandfather and that kicked off several months of severe depression and anxiety. It was my first episode and I was quite lost dealing with it. It was nothing like I could have ever imagined experiencing. The constant guilt, feelings of unworthiness and inadequacy, sadness and apathy, fear of so many different things. Anyhow I started seeing a therapist and things improved. I quit my job because it became a toxic environment where my superiors were unnecessarily harsh and I couldn't cope with it. I took some time off and have now started working in a different sector which I have always been passionate about. But I'm still having some trouble focusing, working, staying motivated and correctly evaluating and appreciating my work. 
I was wondering whether our personality type is simply more prone to depression and anxiety? Have other people here also dealt with this? 

Adela F.K. says...

I found that I am an INFP-T. When I was younger, I was tested and found intellectually gifted. I have heard that a lot of intellectually gifted people struggle with their mental health. I cannot say that my mental health is directly correlated with my personality type, or my intellect, or whether its actually genetic or situational.  However, with that being said, I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder when I was 13. I was also diagnosed with PTSD later on. I have quite a bit of trouble with emotional regulation. I find that most of my imagination and creativity is used towards self sabatoge. Most of my time during a day is used daydreaming and escaping reality. I disassosiate a lot and am very critical about who I am as a person. My mood swings are quite severe. I have always known this to be normal though. I was suicidal at age 8, and didn't decide that I didn't really want to die until I was 17. I have now spent the last 2 years of life deciding what I want to do with it. I still struggle, but I go to therapy every week. And perhaps this is a lot of oversharing (that would be my insecurity at work), but I am writing all of this, in hope to answer your question. I can't speak for anyone else, but if my testimony helps in the slightest, here it is.

Angel katsaro (not verified) says...

Thank you. I find work to be rewarding unless people are unpleasant to me. Then I find it unbearable. I hope your situation changes for the better. 

Misdiagnosed (not verified) says...

Hello, I am an INFP and I was diagnosed first with depression, then with bipolar disorder when I was 19 years old.  I want to share my story, in the hopes that someone might find it helpful.  I was always a sensitive child and teenager, I felt isolated, different, and like there was something wrong with me. However, my experience with clinical depression was situational.  I got in a fight with my mom, was kicked out of the house, dropped out of college, and was really struggling with what I wanted to do with my life.  I was put on anti-depressants and they led me to be suicidal (this isn't uncommon, particularly in teens and young adults).  I overdosed on the anti-depressants, which put me into a manic state.  This led to my diagnosis of bipolar disorder, and a year-long battle with being hospitalized and being put on a whole slew of medications. I am so thankful that I got pregnant because they took me off all the medicine that was making me feel worse.  It's been 20 years, I have not been on any medication and I haven't had any repeated incidents of mania or clinical depression.  Psychiatrists are too quick to throw out a diagnosis and hand out pills, and many times people are not ill.  They just have a different temperament or are going through some rough patches.  Things like cognitive behavioral therapy and meditation can be very helpful for anyone, but please be careful with the medication.  Check out the things that Dr. Peter Breggin has to say about it.

Hanna L. (not verified) says...

I just found out I was an INFP-T today and was reading your comment and can totally connect with your depression. While I haven't been officially diagnosed, I can assure you that I have depression-like tendencies. I think depression and anxiety are more common with our personality type based on the fact that we put others before ourselves a lot, and can get very critical of ourselves (or at least I do :) ). I wish you and everyone else reading this the best, and I hope this helps!!

MJ Reena (not verified) says...

OMG! I am going through something similar.I can relate to everything you said.It is just recently my therapist has considered the possibility of me suffering from bipolar disorder. We are not sure since the probability pf me being gifted is awfully high. Well, it has been determined but I just can't accept it and fully grasp the concept.I thought everyone  is like me even though I nevee fit in. I came to the conclusion that I am just not doing something right. I am still looking for answers though.

miah (not verified) says...

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry! My guess is yes, though i do not know. I am also going through depression, and, because of COVID, have gone through depression a few times this year. 

regina (not verified) says...

Hi Payalin, I absolutely experience this, im currently getting treatment for my depression but i find it so hard to concentrate and i can't tell if the work i completed was good or valuable at all because i spent so long feeling like i couldn't do anything right and not caring about the quality of anything i did. it kind of feels like i've lost my identity and I'm not the person with potential I was before. Feels like the motivated version of me is gone. I think our personality type might be more a little more prone to these things because we are quite sensitive, but it's probably not fair for me to speak on this because i only know my experiences alone. I'm a 18 year old high school student and i'm scared of my future. Hoping we can both improve.

Justin abrahamse (not verified) says...

Loved reading some of your stories thank you ladies for sharing .I'm south African I live in cape town and as of 3montjs ago I started a what's app group called Cyclopea (the awakening) it is made up of 7 members 3 infj and 4infp. These two types are so similar , if u are looking for a soul mate infp ladies then infj men are your best match , infj and injp just get one another and are so dynamic . 

Julie Beans (not verified) says...

I am a female INFP and I went into electro-mechanical repair and I must say the physics study was highly interesting to me, as well as the relationships I formed along the way in my work. Those are the main good points, lol. I have always had that ability to see what people need and want and go for THAT versus the typical financial "how will that affect the bottom line" approach, no matter what industry I was in. I understand well what you all mean about morals, I have essentially left a well paid position over a moral dilemma. What I found draining was those above me did not let me do my job correctly, even though in my interview they stated that they need to work on reducing call-backs by doing things right the first time (blowhards). I'm always naturally geared for the long-term benefit of the customer.... they proved that they were not.

Now I'm at a crossroads, wondering if I should go back to school...for something more suited to my need for this creative and personal and morally- aligned freedom in my job. Ugh. I am so tired of interviewing. I would stay where I'm at now, but they have been letting people go lately due to Covid and told me that they will keep me as long as they can but that I should start looking. Hence, the "what jobs are good for INFP" search, lol.

I feel like you are my people, there are all these long, well-expressed comments :) 

Jellyreyrey (not verified) says...

I found myself to be an INFP with some guidance from my life coach which I started going to 6 months ago. From that I have learned that it is ok to take time off to do things for yourself, and that it is ok to feel sad and lost sometimes. Personally, I have felt lost all my life, but it really expanded within the last year.

Can I ask you guys something? What do you do when you get too caught up in your ideas and "things you have to do"? I often daydream about being in any profession in the world, just picturing myself doing anything that I set my mind to, but in the end I dont make a move about it. I just observe my head spinning around like that almost all the time, and its exhausting.

By the way, I think the comments here are great! Keep on being you, awesome people :)

Faithyfaith (not verified) says...

Hello. I felt what you felt recently. Maybe make yourself feel more special? Talk to someone who adore or appreciates you, then maybe you can look at things in another perspective or atleast feel more aligned.

rb123 (not verified) says...

I turn my phone off and get into nature. But I'm me, and my brain is still going to spin. So I only let myself ponder plant and animal identification, or wondering what the place looks like in different seasons, or if I was stranded where would I set up a camp and how would I eat, stuff like that. It makes me feel special to have a front row seat to such a beautiful view. And the topics that usually occupy my mental energy quickly become trivial and therefore easier to dismiss. I come out of the woods feeling clearer-headed. Like I'm a part of something so beautiful and so much bigger than myself, and no one can put a price tag on it or take it away from me.

Elephant00 (not verified) says...

Hello friend, I read you and I understand you perfectly because I have felt this way the whole time I was in the university.
I am also an INFP and right now I am starting to feel that I am not wrong, I just need to do things my way; this feeling of seeing my head spinning like this almost all the time, maybe it will be like that very often, I won't lie, but the most important thing is to reconcile your feelings and understand why you feel like this; maybe you are being too hard on yourself; In my case I discovered that I really hated what I was studying, that is why it took so much effort and I felt so frustrated and it took me 4 years and a lot of indecision take the courage to make a change; in your case it may be that you blame yourself for something you have not managed to do (for example follow that profession that you would like, just for guessing) or you even blame yourself for something you have done wrong, which was also quite common in me, it is You need to examine yourself and find what you feel is wrong because you are the only one who can discover it.
And my advice is that you do not feel that you must change the world in one day and that you start with small steps, find anything you want to start with and that you know you can achieve, such as requesting information about a profession that interests you and you will see how you you get excited about the idea and move towards it, set goals and reward yourself when you meet them and if possible trust a friend who encourages you and helps you see things objectively and gives you a little push when you are in a whirlpool Of indecision, sometimes we just need that little push to unleash our full potential.
Finally, I would like to tell you that even when you feel that your efforts are useless or insignificant, remember that you are advanced and that you are further than how you started, enjoy the process and remember that you are wonderful and that human beings are imperfect and we are always in constant construction of themselves.

Sorry for my English but it is not my mother language. I don´t want to make an excesive post so I stop here but I hope my path seem useless for you and you can find a good advice, inspiration or at least know you are not alone.
Have a nice day.

I hope you are also thriving :)

(Elmer) (not verified) says...


I took this test and I'm an INF with a 50/50 split between P and J. Its really interesting looking at the similarities and differences between the types, and the comments sections too. Does anyony else feel like they fit into more than one type?

EllenCMorris (not verified) says...

Elmer - I also am an INF with an equal split between P and J.  I have learned that when a split happens between those two, it defaults to P.  I can see that....I'm a P that has learned by necessity to make plans. 

Cindy >_< (not verified) says...

So I just found out I'm an INFP and I am proud of it, but I am also concerned if being a lawyer is the best career for me since a judge was one of the careers that should be avoided. Please let me know.

Lost In Law (not verified) says...

I've been a lawyer since 2005, & spent most of that time as a judge.  For me, this profession is miserable.  Dry, very limited room for creativity.  Tradition, appearances, formality, rules, & precedent rule the culture of most law firms and businesses, and this is where the greatest number of legal positions are.  Don't underestimate how cut-throat people in the corporate world can be, and corporate lawyers are worse, because they're often smarter & better at it.  These would be most lawyers' colleagues, the people you'd be exposed to every single work day, & often for long hours.

I spent several years trying to break into art law & only had one paying client in that period.  Later, I tried breaking into environmental law, but without that background, that pursuit was fruitless.  This could be very different for you.  I had a lot of life experience by the time I entered law school at age 30, but you certainly have different life experiences that would be more conducive to the area of law you hope to pursue.

Reading your comments, your decision to pursue law has been made.  Mine was too, no matter how many lawyers told me not to go (& a few that said I should do it).  I am experiencing a mid-life crisis, in large part due to my choice to pursue a career in law.  Realistically, as a philosophy major in college, good chance I would have been here anyway.  However, here in the U.S., there is a whole industry aimed at helping lawyers leave the law -- INFP's are hardly the only ones dissatisfied with law as a career path.

I am not going to tell you not to go into it -- I would have wondered had I not tried it (kind of my last ditch effort at getting into a career that paid well), & it's a serious accomplishment (even though I've never seen fit to be proud of it).  Instead, I will wish you well, and a bit of luck too.  Find something you like about  law school -- I loved talking policy, specifically debating policies that bucked the status quo & radically benefitted people over profits.  I was able to do a little of that as a judge, but surprisingly very little.  Regardless, I hope you find a far more satisfying career path than I have so far.

Lost in All (not verified) says...

Hey Lost in Law- I appreciate the honest response.  I’m 31 and have considered law on and off.  I’ve come to realize realistically it wouldn’t be a good fit.  However for the INFP who is gung ho (or perhaps already involved such as yourself) what about being an arbitrator or community organizing?  I feel like we excel at trying to find harmony and compromise so I immediately went to arbitrator, but for the passionate champion of the underprivileged I could see community organizer being attractive as well.  I’m sure lawyers often work closely with social workers- maybe something along those lines as well?  I’m considering s philosophy major myself but was afraid it would lead to law.

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