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The INFJ Personality Type

INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others realize their potential. Creative and dedicated, they have a talent for helping others with original solutions to their personal challenges.

The Counselor has a unique ability to intuit others' emotions and motivations, and will often know how someone else is feeling before that person knows it himself. They trust their insights about others and have strong faith in their ability to read people. Although they are sensitive, they are also reserved; the INFJ is a private sort, and is selective about sharing intimate thoughts and feelings.

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What does INFJ stand for?

INFJ is one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. INFJ is an acronym for the personality traits of Introversion, iNtuition, Feeling, and Judging. The INFJ type is also called the "Counselor" and is described as idealistic, compassionate, and sensitive.

Each of the four letters of the INFJ code signifies a key personality trait of this type. INFJs are energized by time alone (Introverted), focus on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), make decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and prefer to be planned and organized rather than spontaneous and flexible (Judging).

INFJ Values and Motivations

INFJs are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a better place.

INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, committed few. Although their rich inner life can sometimes make them seem mysterious or private to others, they profoundly value authentic connections with people they trust.

How Others See the INFJ

INFJs often appear quiet, caring and sensitive, and may be found listening attentively to someone else’s ideas or concerns. They are highly perceptive about people and want to help others achieve understanding. INFJs are not afraid of complex personal problems; in fact, they are quite complex themselves, and have a rich inner life that few are privy to. They reflect at length on issues of ethics, and feel things deeply. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.

Because INFJs are such complex people, they may be reluctant to engage with others who might not understand or appreciate them, and can thus be hard to get to know. Although they want to get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw.

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How rare is the INFJ personality type?

INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up:

  • 2% of the general population
  • 2% of women
  • 1% of men

Famous INFJs

Famous INFJs include Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Emily Bronte, Carl Jung, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Florence Nightingale, Shirley MacLaine, Jimmy Carter, and Edward Snowden.

INFJ Quotes

"The visions of the INFJs tend to concern human welfare, and their contributions are likely to be made independent of a mass movement."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"INFJs' nonstop search for learning, self-growth, and development—and wishing the same for everyone else—makes them very reassuring to others and people worth emulating."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

Facts about INFJs

Interesting facts about the INFJ:

  • Least common type in the population
  • On personality trait scales, scored as Sincere, Sympathetic, Unassuming, Submissive, Easygoing, Reserved and Patient
  • Among highest of all types in college GPA
  • Among most likely to stay in college
  • Most likely of all types to cope with stress by seeing a therapist
  • Highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
  • Personal values include Spirituality, Learning, and Community Service
  • Commonly found in careers in religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

INFJ Hobbies and Interests

Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading, socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.

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Zay (not verified) says...

Also what you wrote down here right now is exaclty what you need to tell someone else. DO IT! It can be terrifying but if you want to be loved you must allow others to love you and that means saying and expressing what someone could use to hurt or reject you. But it is worth the risk, and if you do get hurt or rejected learn from it and draw that line like I said before and withdraw that power from them and find someone else that you can build trust with and try again

Zay (not verified) says...

Remain vulnerbale to yourself as well as to others little by little, theres no way people are going to understand what isnt expressed. When it comes to relationships draw lines and not walls. Its easier to find people to connect with when you know yourself. Because compatibility also requires you in the formula as well.

hope this can help in some way, even im still trying but it is possible. Take the risk because at the end of the day at least your trying and reaching

Hi-there-it will be ok (not verified) says...

The same thing happened to me and I put up with it far longer than I should have. Find people who you can help but who are also going to help you and step away from those who ignore you. You deserve more than to be someones counselor. They need to be there for you too! Every relationship only works when it's two sided.

Far From The World... (not verified) says...

i wish there was a club or something like that for people like us(INFJs) who don't belong anywhere and don't fit in any categories.

Lula (not verified) says...

ME TOO! So freaking lonely with my thoughts. Recently met someone who appeared to understand me and really liked me. Then he ghosted me and I feel so hurt. Wonder if I did or said something to scare him off or if he was just looking for a quick hook up and I wasn't putting out fast enough. At times it seemed like we were one mind; for example, he would call me just as I was picking up the phone to text him. Now I question it all and feel so betrayed by my own judgement/intuition. It felt so right; how could I be so wrong? Can't stop thinking about him and the future I'd imagined. Can't stop wondering what happened and why he ghosted me. Want to call desperately, but don't dare open myself up to more hurt. Damn this hurts and I wish my mind would just stop!

Jay66 (not verified) says...

That sucks. I hate how unaccountable some people can be. If your heart is anything like mine, you must want to throw your heart and soul into someone, and it's gut wrenching to find that people that you thought were worth it actually turn out not to be. It totally sucks to extend your trust to someone, and then have it thrown in your face. I've been through a situation recently that has pretty much made me feel how you describe above, questioning my own intuition, and wondering if there's anyone out there that's actually capable of the strength of attachment that I want to have. I would actually be really interested in talking further with you; I'm on a few dating sites but there's not much around where I live (New Zealand). If you're keen to make a new friend, let me know and we can be internet [pixel]pals : )

Zay (not verified) says...

YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO KNOW!! Go and talk to him and ask for an explanation (dont demand but ask) As well as letting him know why you want to know. No matter the outcome it will set yourself free from this torment 

sam22 (not verified) says...

Oh honey...

please don't be upset, that was not your fault. most of us had experiences like this.

it's very common in relationships.

you need to move on . try to be happy, good things will happen.

 

lllllll (not verified) says...

YOU WILL BE OKAY!

eurydice (not verified) says...

i observe that my emotions cannot flow out directly, most of the time they must pass through a censor/a gate, which may be a person, a thought or just myself. is it common in INFJs ? because i am pondering my type. (i am not in the healthiest state.)

Fellow INFJ (not verified) says...

While it is impossible to apply personal experience onto others, I would say you sound quite normal and very much like myself, actually.  I think the key (at least for me) to coping is to accept yourself.  Within yourself.  You are who you are, and at base there is not a way to change that.  Accept that you are as wonderfully flawed as everyone else walking this earth.  Revel in those things that may you YOU - seek to love your inner self!  As for your emotional "editor", I see this as a good thing.  Who wants to be knee-jerk reacting and raving emotionally over everything?  Much better, and quite possibly more healthy, to process things first before reacting.  In short, you are just fine.  Congratulations for being you:)

k1 (not verified) says...

you are like other INFJs and

nothing is wrong with you.

Mysterious Universe (not verified) says...

I wonder how many psychics/psychic-mediums are infj, compared to other types. I think the introversion and intuition are two important factors in most psychics and/or psychic-mediums since they are feelers. In the psychic world, being able to feel everything is basically the basis of the gift(s).

Nosce Te Ipsum (not verified) says...

Hey! I'm INFJ and used to make a living giving psychic readings. I always attributed this to having a lot of Pisces influence in my astrology chart, but after taking the MB test and finding out I'm this type, it makes a lot of sense what you said. Are INFJs known to be drawn to the occult?

Gert-Jan ten Ham (not verified) says...

With my type being INFJ with Enneagram 415, I wonder how frequently people of my type get D in the DISC assessment. I have done this assessment several times, with the Truity DISC assessment finally confirming my type. I got type D as my confirmed type. It sounds contradictionary to me, but I have read regularly that INFJs are walking contradictions. 

Violet (not verified) says...

Hello everyone! 

I can't believe how many INFJs there are!
Yesterday I started taking personality tests after watching a Youtube video about introverts and got several different answers from different tests, hence why I decided to just read about the different types. I came across INFJ (one of the results I got) and immediately thought "Ok, that's me!".

Anyway, the reason for all this digging and reading is because I want to get to know myself better and also use the information to think about my future.
As a child I loved the thought of becoming a doctor and have managed to hold onto this dream for a while; however, recently I have noticed that I can be quite a lazy person and do procrastinate at times. Becoming a doctor still seems like a good option because I get to help people and learn about the complex and amazing human body. Nevertheless, I am afraid that studying medicine might be too much for me and lead to constant stress... Other jobs do seem quite appealing as well e.g. writing; but then again, I feel like I'm not creative enough and fear that I will run out of things to write about.

I might be overthinking a little (not uncommon for INFJs :p) but choosing a job will have a huge impact on my future life which is why I'd like to make the right decision. I don't know if any of you can help me but if you do happen to have any advice, I would be more than happy to hear it!

Kianabreanemedina says...

Hey there!

I've recently discovered I'm an INFJ as well. So much has been clearer! I'm like you in th procrastination, overthinking, (which i call indecisiveness haha) and wanting to help others! maybe a compromise is caregiving. Either for the elderly or the young ( aka behavirally/intellectually challenged youth or adults). I myslf work as a caregiver and love it! I'm currently transitioning into Direct Suppport work which is basically another title for caregiving, specifically rferring to developmentally challenged people. Less schooling involved! Still can be stressful at times, but I found its a weel worthy trade :) I hope this helps! Good luck!

P.S. As a youngin' I always dreamt of becoming a chilidren's author! 

Nemo (not verified) says...

Hello Violet,

if you are still in your early twenties you should just try it with medicine. Your passion and idealism will probably help you getting through the tough times. You can try many different fields in medicine and with this type psychology/psychiatry sounds quite appealing. There is also lot's to write about in topics like this and many interesting ideas to be followed or developed.

I feel you with being picky on the job. I changed my studies two times and will probably change jobs many times.

Cheers from a fellow INFJ.

Tess (not verified) says...

Hi Violet,

I do give you kudos for your quest of self-knowledge before investing your energies and money into a proper academic path. Very wise.

However, the MBTI, while useful in some areas of life, is really just a shorthand categorization that summarizes the complexities of one's astrological makeup. If you are aware of its origins, you then understand that Meyers and Briggs created the test based on Carl Jung's work in psychiatry, which included astrology, an ancient form of psychology.

In order to hone in on your vocational leanings, I strongly recommend having your natal chart read either by an experienced astrologer, which may cost around a couple hundred dollars. Or you can DIY for around $40. Either way, examining your astrological profile is the surest way to get to the pith of what makes you tick. You can find a handful of decent astrologers on Quora and other sites, and for DIY readings I recommend astrotheme.com or astrolabe.com.

I do believe that in understanding and constructing anything, one must work from the bottom up.

Best wishes,

Tess

 

 

 

 

Frank Taylor (not verified) says...

Hi Violet!

Similarly, I was recently hunting for information on my personality type because I was curious if it had changed - and changed it had. I was previously an ISTJ but now I register as an INFJ and it couldn't be more true after reading. 

The reason I am replying to your comment is because I did attend medical school for around 17 weeks before ultimately deciding it was not my calling. As a fellow INFJ, I understand your desire to contribute to the well-being of others, do something more than just earn material gain, and also achieve excellence. For me, medical school was extremely taxing, but I was succeeding. When I left school, I had a 3.85 GPA. I was highly pleased with the mastery I was working towards, the universal usefulness/helpfulness of being a physician, job security, and exclusive trust patients have for their physicians. However, what weighed me down the most were the years I was on track to invest studying in school and apprenticing, if you will, through residency. Studying in my apartment night after night grew wearisome. I felt that I was watching life pass me by to an extent. I value family and the close relationships I have with friends immensely, and the medical doctor route was one that would force me away from them for an extended period of time - missing so many events and important time with them. I also consider myself a devout Christian, and I felt that my true passion to impact people spiritually was being overshadowed. Ultimately, I chose to pursue a field that would demand less personal sacrifice, while still changing other's lives. I hope that this bit of insight is somehow helpful!

ss008 (not verified) says...

Hi, if you do not mind mentioning, what career did you end up going to instead. I am a fellow INFJ and always thought about being a doctor, and I think I can do it (obviously with alot of hardwork)but yea I fear I will miss out alot on life and its events, and thats one of the main things that stopping me from opting to go into medical school. so if you found something more suitable and already have the experience of attending medical school and then opting out, would love to know more. thanks. 

INFJ girl (not verified) says...

 infjs are very special . i think only an infj can understand another infj.

although some of us have a strong tendency to be perfect but basically

we just wanna love and be loved.

Nikki (INFJ) (not verified) says...

That is so me....

Shannon Jennings (not verified) says...

Has everyone here took the test to call themselves infj or just read the description and devide thats Wat you ate??

KarenB (not verified) says...

I have taken the official Meyers-Briggs personality test 3x and all 3 times it was shown that I was an INFJ.  Yes, it is the rarest, but people who are one have mostly felt like an alien or outsider growing up....because face it, no one understands us. We are very deep, intuitive, and feeling. We feel for people and all aspects of life...we may paint a picture of the sky or write a poem or short story to describe all the beauty that brings us to tears...we feel deeply. Although we love people, we have generally only a few close friends. We chose to be alone and ponder on things...it energizes us. Being around loud places and crazy crowds of people full of drama and problems really wears us out. Our ideal relaxation (at least mine) would be sitting in the middle of the forest with a book with my cat at my side. I'd pet my cat, stare at the beautiful trees, sky, and take it all in and then fall into my books wear I connect on fascinating topics...then when I'm tired of reading, I'd gaze upon the beauty of the forest again....all the while taking in all the sounds of nature (my music). We are very deep, though-provoking people, and we see the beauty in things and people. But, sometimes people can really tire us out mentally...so, we like to recharge our battery with alone time of deep reflection. It is NOT lonliness....it powers us and gives us the strength to be strong for others (to be the protector, the counselor) for when we are needed by others....that task gets very tiring. Hopefully, my explanation gives a person a good idea of the generalities felt by a INFJ. 

Christine Taylor (not verified) says...

I took several different tests, only one called me INFJ, but after reading the descripctions I knew it was me, so I stuck with it. It's probably best to decide for yourself, since tests can't always be correct, but some people might not really understand who they are all the same. I was glad when the test called me INFJ so I had some kind of 'proof' but it really didn't matter. I feel it's good to do both, and read through all descriptions to know for sure. (that was lengthy sorry) 

RLE (not verified) says...

I feel like I speak a language of symbols and gestures that no one understands and that maybe they're not even willing to try.  (The universe is full of meaning and there's a universe inside every person.)  Most people aren't willing to love what they don't understand.   

Sally M Lupo (not verified) says...

As another female INFJ, I can relate especially in my adolescents.  I believe most people only see about 40% of what is going on in the subconious part of their mind.  They only listen to mainly the instinctual part, well the intellgent norms.  (Flight, or Fight)  Most people are extroverts so they are too busy comparing, competing or adapting to the trends of society.  There is something that they cannot understand or see inside of us the INFJs. Which in my experience has made them question our ways, but when giving a task they know we go way beyond expentations.  So, as far as symbols go, that is your intution telling you something.  It may be a sign of what may come, or a sign of something inside you that you need to find.  I learned to listen to these symbols and to reflect on them.  I am a believer in humanity and the power of the will.  Whatever you seek you will find.  Whatever you want you will get but you need to be dilgent and listen to yourself, and your needs.  

AMS (not verified) says...

What a beautiful thing to say, that we each have a universe inside us. As an INFJ, I feel the same, that it's very hard for people to get us. But our super power helps us to understand them and maybe bridge the gap, I hope. 

Guest (not verified) says...

@infjgirl I cannot agree with you more! 

sasi (not verified) says...

Rule number #1 :

Never be number #2 .

i as an INFJ always think this way . they usually are 100 or 0 . i dont know if it's a good thing or not but i think it can help you being very brilliant in at least one field. (theoritically)

but in reality i dont know why i am not so successful .

what is wrong ???

i want your opinions 

 

 

Skywalker (not verified) says...

Because in rule #1 said that, you never be #2. But it is not closing the possibilities of you being #3 to #(x > 3)

jr.s (not verified) says...

hey guys. i am an infj and a very perfectionist  person.

I spend a lot of time in my dreams and sometimes I totally forget about the real world.

As a matter of fact I prefer to live in my imagination and this is destroying my life because I can't act .

I have been waiting my whole life for a miracle .maybe  some of you have the same problem.

Waiting for something that will never happen kills you.

But I am f . . king done waiting.

Kelly infj-a (not verified) says...

Hi Jr.s, I just read this your comment and it shoke me to my core because it is exactly what I feel at this moment in time.

Thank you so much for sharing yourself and helping me not feel alone.

I really hope you find your something that gives you joy, peace, and satisfaction and maybe helps you feel more connected, if of course, that is something you wish for.

I commend you on saying you are done f...ing waiting, I know it can be a extremly difficult journey to get to that point.

I have spent 10 years of my life with Lyme disease and living in my head, but physically in my bed, and I too am done f...ing waiting! 

The world is such a odd place with so many people who don't understand us, it can be very isolating, especially when you feel you don't fit any place. 
 

I sometimes wonder if I need to create my own place In This world rather than keeping on looking for one I fit into. 

Thank you again for being so brave and honest. I truly wish you all good things and hope you know you are not alone! 

-your friend in feeling Kelly 

jr.s (not verified) says...

Hi Kelly .

I read your comment and i appreciate that a lot.

it was so meaningful to me , you have a pure heart i can see that .

it is so interesting to me that i completly understand what  you are saying.

until few weeks ago i was so exhausted and very disappointed in my life but someone reminded me that we just live once and

since then i changed my perspective on life .

I figured that i was waiting for an airplane at a train station .

you know it's not wrong to be waiting for a miracle , but you should know that miracles only happen in the journey .

and no one can tell you how or when your journey starts .

actually it totally depends on you .

I pray to god for you to get back your health again and be alright as soon as possible.

and always keep this in mind ,

Dear Kelly you are more powerful than you could possibly imagine .

make your world , create your life, alwayse smile and make the world a more beautiful place .

I really hope this could helpe you . i believe you need to remain optimistic and have faith on yourself , set some goals

and try your best to achieve them and remember good things take time , so be patient and never give up.

It was so nice to talk to you and i wish you the bests .

And Remember , 

wahtever happens , you are not alone .

 

jr.s

 

 

 

 

 

Kelly InfJ-A (not verified) says...

Hi Jr.s 

Thank you so very much for all of your kindness, your words reached me at just the time I needed encouragement the most and brought me hope and a smile. 

 

So glad to hear your perspective has changed so positively, it sounds like you are feeling more hope now and that is really great to hear!

 

Thank you very much for your prayers and please know you have mine too! 

 

I am much better Lyme disease wise now. I have stopped my treatment finally and although I am not 100% I have a lot to be thankful for. God brought me through a lot. 

 

You are so right about it being a journey and In journey’s I keep telling myself, we sometimes fall and if we show ourselves the kindness and forgiveness we show others, it gets easier to get back up. 

 

As a type A personality, as well as being infj,  I often get kind of crippled by guilt or fear and afraid to make a move and I overthink literally everything I do, which is kind of exhausting. 

 

I really hope the people in your life treat you with the kindness you have shown me! 

Because we need more hearts like yours in this world!

 

Please know your caring heart is already changing this world for the better and making a positive mark on it. 

 

You brightened my life and I am sure you will continue to make more smiles as you live your life and I hope you are able to get all the things you want and need in your journey! 

 

Never be afraid to reach out to others when you need encouragement and I will try to do the same. 

 

Thank you again from my heart to yours! 

 

And thank you for showing me it’s ok to reach out to others for help or support I am not always good at that. 

 

P.s. You don’t have to worry about writing me back I will never get upset about that, not my way.

jr.s (not verified) says...

hello dear kelly

 you have no idea how i am glad to know you have a better health condition. it's really nice to hear from you again

i just wanted to say thank you for being this sweet. you may not know this, but you got a really lovely character please don't change.

it's been great to know you. wish your life get better day by day and hope you find love & happiness. 

 

good bye my friend.

 

lonely girl says...

I have been there and

believe me i feel you.

start with easy tasks and try to do them perfectly . it's kind of a motivation and make you feel good and confident.

then go for some impossible jobs .

do your best and get them done , then you will find out who you truely are

and what you are capable of .

Meta4 (not verified) says...

You would love the book "The Kin of Ata Are Waiting for You"

Also - yes!  Stop waiting and get busy taking steps to create the life you want by developing your talents/interests/etc.!

infj friend (not verified) says...

I don't know how an infj can survive without a relationship with God through Jesus Christ.  My relationship with God truly and honestly gives my life the purpose, meaning, joy, and peace that I desperately need, because He is the one and only source of truth in this world.  I challenge you to pick up a Bible or find an on-line Bible or Bible app and start reading it, beginning with Matthew and the Gospels, and then read the books of Genesis and Revelations (particularly the last couple chapters) to give perspective on where we came from and where we are going, then read some of the Psalms.  I have also been deeply engaged by the website answersingenesis.com for helping me understand creation from a biblical but also scientific and archaeological perspective. If you start letting your mind dwell on Scriptures, it will transform you, and God will fill your life with truth, purpose, and peace, and you will find the miracle that you have been searching for.  

Faithful Orthodox Christian(INFJ) (not verified) says...

I agree so much!!! Throughout this struggle I have had of no one understanding, there were people that I thought might understand, but we're disappointing, and if I didn't have a Savior to go back to, I might have tried to injure myself severly! But our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ knows all of our struggles and that's how I have survived.

Saskia Caetano (not verified) says...

This is so true!!! My relationship with God is who defines me as a person! I was raised in a family that went to church, but 100% had to find Christ on my own. I went through a time when I thought I was not Christian, but God brought me right back into His loving arms! 

Marla says...

Coolio. As someone who grew up catholic with my mom's side of the family and having a christian father, I have never been able to settle on religion tho. Religion in general is people's interpretations of the "word of god," whichever form of a higher power they choose to believe in. These are my thoughts:

1: All religions have their own flaws, just as they were cultivated by people who want to be better based on God's word.

2: As much as there are scripts and stuff revolving around God and Jesus Christ, I don't really care whether they actually exist because even if it is real (which I would consider too good to be true frankly), we are made in such a way that we have our own wills. In the end, I don't need a belief system to help me find meaning, so regardless, I will live the way I want to without being religious.

3: It's really not hard to be a good person and I could never understand as a kid the point of repeated the same sermans again and again every single year, like, how many times will you forget the lesson from that one evangelio that you gotta have it repeated every year?

4: For the people that work well with belief systems, great, I mean, it gives them a reason to appreciate their own existance through God and they may even turn their lives around to become appropriate functioning members of society, doing good in their communities.

5: I really find church boring (just being honest here) because of my first three thoughts combined, primarily the excessive repetition on lessons of how to be a basic good person (usually it's a bit exaggerated though bc religions represent far fetched ideals of what someone following that religion should be like to be true to the "word of God"). All someone needs is reassurance, understanding to be a good person, and a safe space so that they can let out their problems or struggles to find peace in their lives - before expecting a higher power to forgive us then doing it again, how about we think of forgiving ourselves and what we need to do to not do that again because we didn't like what we did?

Anyway, that's just my thoughts on many aspects of religion. It's almost like God is a physical manifestation of a conscience but human intervention (or interpretation) can easily misguide us and lead to a system of coping with life that may not be as healthy as confidently facing your own faults and genuinely improving yourself as a person for the sake of your own good. 🤷‍♀️

ryan cayenne up flyin (not verified) says...

idk if i'ma good person to take advice from.  but regarding where i am in this area of life:  i find that i get overwhelmed and feel most impotent when i start to perceive myself how the popular world might see and label me in various ways...  i feel most empowered and things start to flow easily when i totally set my own standard for who i want to be in every regard.  for instance, if i am a, "loser," because i don't earn a lot of money or am not kicking butt in all kinds of secular areas of life, then i just realize that i have no interest in being around those who see me this way for too long because i know i'm actually capable, smart, and able to engage altruistically to help/support others exceptionally well.  so their judgmental supposition essentially makes THEM the loser in my world ;P.  they end up living in a closed minded, common, unimaginative and drearily linearly competitive existence (one most often not conducive to creativity) (just remember to maintain high standards for yourself and the team of fellow non judgmental lovers and dreamers.  don't let yourself be fooled into thinking you're worthless just because those who would judge you based on narrow minded, popular notions of worldly success deem you to be lesser than they; know what i mean?)

Mi.lly (not verified) says...

This is me too. Writing helps me cope and still be able to live in a world of my own while also dealing with the real world

sahar (not verified) says...

I feel you

I have been waiting for a miracle my whole life and f... tired of it 

farhad (not verified) says...

Next morning when you are waked up, go infront of a mirror and look closely...

if you couldn't  find any miracle, you will never find it anywhere else.

you need to find yourself first. then you will understand what are you going to do with your life 

and miracles will show themselves to you.

wish you the bests.

 

AlexandraRodriguez_ (not verified) says...

I, an INFJ, agree I've had my own struggles in life like anyone not to judge anyone or discredit anyone else pain, though I have learned the only way I could get better is from within, I normally wouldn't comment but when staring in the mirror was stated I lit up because this was my start to recovery exactly, having heart to heart sessions with myself in the mirror reminding myself of my own strength and that I am all the motivation I need. I've known other friends who struggled in similar ways and they'll only get better once they look inside themselves for answers.

Shikamaru (not verified) says...

lol why waste your life waiting for a miracle thats never gonna happen?

LM (not verified) says...

It sounds like you are more an INFP. Get some guidance from a career counselor and make it happen. I agree that waiting for something to happen is not healthy. Set a goal and take baby steps to achieve it. You can do this! 

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