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How do INFJs communicate?

INFJs are reserved about communication, and often keep their most treasured ideas and insights private. They are oriented to values and connection, and will search for meaning in the information they take in. They think deeply and often need time to process and evaluate before they are ready to share their ideas. They seek validation and will take the time to appreciate others and their ideas. They are often talented at making connections to bring people together and integrate ideas, values, and human potential.

What are INFJs like as partners?

In relationships, the INFJ is supportive and guided by a sense of integrity. The INFJ's interest in human development applies to their mates as well, and they are encouraging of their partner's dreams, aspirations, and achievements.

INFJs want to maintain harmony in their relationships and are highly motivated to resolve conflicts. They tend to be creative problem-solvers and look for the emotional core of an issue to create a meeting of the minds. Although they desire cooperation, they are not willing to go along with an idea that does not feel authentic to them. When it comes to their core values and ethics, they are unwilling to compromise.

INFJs want a high degree of intimacy and emotional engagement, and are happiest when they feel they are sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings with their mates. INFJs value a partner who respects their deeply held values and ethics, and one who appreciates their creativity and inspiration.

What are INFJs like as parents?

As parents, INFJs are devoted and loving. They tend to form strong bonds with their children and are very closely tuned in to their emotional states. Counselor parents naturally see the possibilities in their children and encourage them to develop their potential.

Although they support their children in their individual interests, INFJ parents are firm disciplinarians, particularly when it comes to moral or ethical concerns. They are concerned with their children's emotional health and spiritual development, and want to create a nurturing atmosphere that promotes growth and well-being.

INFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

INFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the INFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the INFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Guest (not verified) says...

I have taken the personality test, a coworker shared it with me, and found out that I fall in a rare category. I had found out I am an Idealist Counselor. I researched the subject and found every aspect of myself in the description of this category. finding myself very intuitive with people's feelings and emotional states, I am proud to know where I fall in this world, it's very difficult at times to place one's self in the environment I grew up in, but it's definitely easily to pinpoint exactly why I have been feeling kind of displaced but connected. I am eager to know more about this side of myself.

Guest (not verified) says...

I go back and forth between this and INFP--I think they both define me pretty well!

Guest (not verified) says...

You're an INFP ;-) My INFP friend never likes to settle on one type or another. She's always, "Are you sure...?" Seriously, though, I can't make that call about you. Just putting my two cents in.

Guest (not verified) says...

I took this test when I was a little bit younger... maybe 15/16 years old, and was an INTJ at the time, very introverted, and believed I was destined for technology and behind a computer, and not dealing people. But now, 6 years later, as a college student, I took the test again and now I'm an INFJ. And I firmly believe this slight change was for the better because I love interacting with and helping people, and feel I can make a greater difference in the world through helping people and actually interacting with and learning about society. Because of the 'feeling' part of the personality, where I quite often sense people's emotions and thoughts before they even admit to them or realize them.

It may have just been when I was younger that feeling and intuitive side had not yet developed and I was not comfortable interacting with many people, but it surely has developed now, and I can't wait to see what the future holds.

Guest (not verified) says...

INFJs very often test as INTJ. We're similar in many ways, and testers have a hard time finding the right questions for the Extraverted feeling secondary function that is driven by an INFJ's values. They ask very general questions when our function is best shown in isolated scenarios, and we're more likely to select the thinking answer because our feeling function isn't triggered by vague questions.

Hassan Mahmood (not verified) says...

I think it changes as you grow, and when u have more experiences in life, also u get to have different view of the world.
i just took this, and it is very itresting and healpful. it is also very accurate and match with my personality.

Guest (not verified) says...

i am 15 years old and i am an INFJ. i find this article really helpful and it is all true. great article!

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm just a teen and I got INFJ. Makes a lot of sense, since I always have a feeling of disconnect and isolation because no one ever seems to truly understand me. I feel very much over everyone's head when I talk to them about inner feelings and things. So accurate it's scary...

Guest (not verified) says...

Yeah, I agree with you. I am also a teen and its just way to hard to express myself to people, 'cause they don't seem to understand me, so I just kept it to myself. Basically INFJ is pretty much the perfect definition for ourselfs and we should embrace it. Whether we grow, I dont think I'll change of type, atleast not right now.

cgriff337 says...

Yeah, I don't know about any of the rest of you guys, but I sure didn't start as an INFJ. I had the great pleasure of becoming one. I used to be an INTJ, and before that, some type of Extravert, but I wouldn't know because I never took the test back then. I became one very close to the same time that I truly got serious about my Faith. But being an INFJ is awesome, and you guys are kind of putting a negative mood of isolation on it, which is a bit wierd to me. Sure, I don't have any friends who are INFJs, or really even very many NF types in the first place, but you will find that Sentinel (SJ) types are really awesome people to be around. This life isn't about helping yourself, that would be selfish; no, this life is about what you can do for others. That is how you make the most intimate friends. Trust me, you will never feel isolated again if you commit yourself to the good of others. Obviously I still struggle with it, it's an impossible goal to do perfectly, but it sure does pay off when you focus on it. My point is, we can't just sit here talking to each other all day about how isolated we are; we are the freaking super-soldiers of what is morally right and we need to start showing it.

cgriff337 says...

And yes I'm 15 too. ;)

Guest (not verified) says...

I am just a teen too , and I also got INFJ , and the way you explained it is exactly how I feel .

Guest (not verified) says...

i took the test and there was a couple questions i was going back and forth on and the first time i got infp and some of it made sense but when i took it again i got infj when reading this it fit me so much better and my advice to anyone taking the test is to take it a couple times and get the results and compare what they are and know what truly fits you better one or the other

Guest (not verified) says...

I am 15 years old and an INFJ. I was kind of shocked to see that it is the rarest personality but it confirms how many people do not know how to deal with me I guess. I play an instrument and I am planning on becoming a psychologist. I am pleasantly surprised with how well the description fits me.

Guest (not verified) says...

I have read ME. No wonder I people don't get me...and I don't get them!! Hahaha

isaiah (not verified) says...

Me neither! =-)

Emily (not verified) says...

It is so great to find out why I feel different to a lot of people my age. This personality type is definitely mine :)

Daniel_swe (not verified) says...

Is there a community for people like us? Im very new to this, its not common knowledge in Sweden the way it seems to be in other countries. I've always felt different. But the last couple of years ive begun feeling special instead of different. But are we INFJ's really _that_ special? Are we unique in a bad or a good way?

I want to find a place where i can discuss these thoughts with other INFJ's. A forum where u can share ur lifestories or anecdotes. To see what binds this possible community together. Together there are no problems we cant solve.

Ill gladly help organize this if it doesnt exist. So if theres a few of u out there that wanna make something bigger drop me an email and ill gladly help out in any way i can.

Ella Swe (not verified) says...

Hey Daniel! Feels a bit strange sending a reply in English when it would be much more easier to just write in Swedish. ;) Anyway, I live in Stockholm, INFJ as well and I'd really be interested in being a part of organizing INFJ, Sweden. Hur kommer jag i kontakt med dig?

Best regards,
Ella

Daniel_swe (not verified) says...

Hey Ella!
I'll stick to english, i dont know if theres a policy about only writing in english or not.
Anyway, my e-mail is abo.swe (at) gmail.com. I also live in Stockholm. Send me an e-mail and we'll take it from there.

Parham (not verified) says...

Hej Daniel och Ella! I'm an INFJ living in Stockholm too :-) If you don't mind I want to join in. Great minds like ours in a group can only be a positive experience :D

Teenage Intronerd (not verified) says...

I completely agree, I found out I was an infj 2 years ago and I think I've had all of my friends take the test so I could better understand them and they could me.

Guest (not verified) says...

I know! This is awesome! I just found about this. I took a test, and this is definitely me! Most of my life I have felt like "an outsider". I have thought something wrong me, until I eventually just gave up and accepted myself. Then, I found about the Myers-Briggs personality test, and I learned my personality type, and things make even more sense now. Yay!

Guest (not verified) says...

This beautiful psychology was the mastermind of Carl Gustav Jung. Please research him as he was a true genius. Myers-Briggs only added to his work. Check out all of his works if you want to expand your reality. Peace!

Guest (not verified) says...

This is so accurate it's scary...

danieli.garza19 says...

I know exactly how you feel

Michellepwrs says...

Hello everyone. I have spent much introspective time trying to figure out who I am and how I fit into these personality type parameters. I have taken 3 different Meyers-Briggs tests on 3 unrelated websites. Each time I take them I try to force myself to answer as honestly as possible. Not trying to sway my results to fit any mold other than how I truly feel. Time and time again I test to be on the border of 4 personality types; ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP & INFP. I identify with all four in areas of my life. I feel that I am a 50/50 introvert extrovert split. I often feel like a bubbly introvert. My conclusion (for now) is that we all certainly do have personality tendencies. However, science is continually making new discoveries and expanding its scope on humanity. I believe that these types are good general guides to help us, but we should not let them limit or define us as individuals. There has only ever been one you. As humans, we like to feel we have mastered something by putting things into orderly categories. If something doesn't fit in the current parameters, typically we try to force it into one before we are willing to accept and try to create a new category. One hundred years from now we may have 2x as many "personality types" as our understanding of humanity grows. I feel this process of exploration through the tests and studying definitions on numerous websites has helped me become more self aware and sure of myself, my individuality, and how I relate to and view the world. Please use the test as a tool to help you in self discovery rather than an identity to cling to or limit yourself with.

Guest (not verified) says...

I had taken another personality test on another site, and I got the exact same thing. I think it's pretty awesome, I do want to be a teacher, and I like helping people and being organized and everything this and the other test had said. I don't believe in having everything about me set out on a platter and "that's-that, nothing else", but it makes sense. and I like it.

Guest (not verified) says...

The results show that I'm INFJ/INFP. People often ask me why can't I get a boyfriend. Little do they know, I like spending time alone. Of course, I dream about meeting my loved one someday, but right now I feel like a relationship is going to collide with my private life. And on top of that I'm afraid of many other things, like being heartbroken or rejected, because I know how much I will suffer. Guys in my age group seem to take relationships very lightly, but for me it's a serious thing.

I love myself! Honestly, I really do - I like the way I want myself to improve - even if it costs time I'd spend going out, or how I can stand up for what I belive in. But at the same time I know OTHER people will have trouble accepting me. I lost my best friend recently - I just can't bring myself to forgive her after hearing that I'm boring, insecure loner. I've stood by her side for 3 years and now I'm having hard time trusting anyone. Time is passing by, but I'm completly stuck when it comes to relationships.

Sorry for my english and about all that wailing, I just wanted to get it off my chest.

Darzee (not verified) says...

According to these websites:
http://www.celebritytypes.com/blog/2014/11/jung-myers-keirsey-etc-on-hit...
http://www.celebritytypes.com/infj.php

Hitler was an INFJ. Watching the video explaining what an INFJ is after learning this information gives a whole different tone to each aspect she points out... It makes me wonder: what does one do with this information? Obviously you can't eliminate INFJ's from the population, not only would that be unethical and horrible and stupid (and probably not even possible), but it would be highly ironic to commit genocide (personaliticide?) to eliminate Hitler. Obviously not all INFJ's are Hitlers, but how does this occur? How does one prevent an INFJ from becoming a Hitler? It makes one think about all the inherent good and evil inside of us all, no matter the personality type. What happened to Hitler that made him do what he did, and how does it relate to being an INFJ? Does it relate to being an INFJ at all even? Just lots of interesting questions...

Guest (not verified) says...

"You can't eliminate INFJ's from the population" - wow, thank you!
How do we prevent INFJ's from becoming Hitler? You state in one sentence that not all INFJ's are blood-thirsty nazi dictators, but at the same time you think they need to be treated in a special way to not to become one? Ok, Hitler was an INFJ, but so was Dostoevski, who created "Crime and Punishment" - a book about forgiveness and compassion! I belive that Hitler was a special case of self-excused psychopath - maybe what he did could relate to him being INFJ, but there is no way it was just this one factor.
As INFJ I'm really sorry to hear that someone considers me to be embodiment of demonic powers that poses danger for the society, when in reality I hope that world is going to develop in a peaceful and tolerant way. People are being raised differently, they have different values, interests and experiences. You can't just lump everyone into the same category, because humans aren't one-dimensional creatures.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hmmm, i was an intj at first. Infj fits me SO much more though. Felt kinda iffy about intj.

henrizedic says...

I AGREE WITH ALL YOUR RESEARCH.THANKS

henrizedic says...

Parents can sometimes change the directions and the call of God of their children and the reason is that,I have made several test and has come to realize that I fall under INFJ category.
I actually have the passion to be a great man of God and a psychiatrist but an forced by father to study BSC ACCOUNTING at UPSA,Ghana and currently in level 300 and looking at my performance it is not all that good and most of the time I suffer in my studies.
Most of the time I want to help and understand why people behave and much more but my current situation is not allowing me to embark on my mission and purpose in life.
CAN SOMEONE HELP ME OUT?

TommyK (not verified) says...

If there's no way out of your situation, if your parent's are paying for your education and they won't listen to your needs, I would recommend just sticking with the accounting degree for now and becoming independent. Work harder and do better, even though you hate it. Accounting is an extremely marketable skill and you should be able to find work and gain independence easily.

Life is a very long thing. Sometimes we are not set up perfectly by perfect parents, with a perfect trust fund, or the perfect connections. That's okay. Try to turn lemons into lemonade and know that you can use this situation to your advantage. Get through this by connecting with your classmates. Find out what makes them tick -- try and help them out. Do the same thing when you start working.

Then, when you are independant and ready, and when you have some work experience and some money saved up, do whatever you want. Get your master's degree in a different field, or something.

That would be my advice. It sounds like you might be somewhat a victim of your circumstances, but you have to stop thinking like a victim. That kind of thinking will stay with you, and it will be much more dangerous than a degree in accounting.

Abhishek Dushyant (not verified) says...

How come Edward Snowden isn't on the famous INFJ list.
He was on opposite side of INFJ in terms of career selection - A Computer Wizard!!

Guest (not verified) says...

I am ok with certain people who accept the way I am but shy away from people who try to change or bully me. I used to get upset that they felt they had a right to pick on me. Now I loose my temper with them then walk away for good. All my life I have been made to feel inadequate and strange even from family as if it's my fault I don't confirm to whats normal. Now I just do what I want after all it's my life and I don't hurt anyone. After 52 years I've learnt at last.

Gabrielle_T (not verified) says...

I took the MB test when I was a 19-year-old undergraduate and was INFJ then. I've taken it a few times again now as a 32-year-old and always come out as an INFJ, so I guess I'm set :-)
I only now feel like I'm starting to accept/understand how I really am and that I need to help others in order to feel good in my career. I can relate so strongly to being an idealist and making plans for others- that's something that I really enjoy, to try to find ways for people to be happy and live their best life. Somehow, though, I haven't really done the same for myself, opting instead to follow paths that were expected or hoped for me by my parents. Perhaps it's still time to find a way to connect with people more and to put my strenghts to work in my career in order to feel like I'm making a positive difference in the world.

Guest (not verified) says...

Changing results over time is a reflection of a person's lack of knowledge about themself. I've taken the test on multiple websites over a number of years and, despite the occasional changed attitude and different answer here and there, my type is persistent.
Your type doesn't change, rather it is your growing and understanding things in new light that can make it seem like your type has changed. However, if you are true to and know yourself, you'll get the same results regardless of where and when you take the test. Though the test is much more fallible in the hands of teenagers who know jack-all about who they are.

Guest (not verified) says...

Has anyone else ever been told they have multiple personality disorder or an identity disorder. I was diagnosed with the 1st but I think it is just that my personality has many levels. I like being part of such a small group of unique individuals!

Guest (not verified) says...

Infjs need a club.

Isapryqa says...

WOW! The personality test was ok in many things but missed totally on the career part because it say than an adverage makes $36, and I make 4 times that. That it is a big difference! Not even close! And I am not on any of your suggested career type! This test has a few flaws!

Guest (not verified) says...

I took the Jung test almost a year ago on another site and got INTJ. All of a sudden I am an INFJ, which is quite a difference. I suppose my Intuitive and Thinking tendencies weren't that high, but it doesn't seem to be the case. I guess the test is very dependent on the age and emotional state of the patient, but still... I wasn't expecting a different result.

Oh well, it's not like I take it very seriously, especially when you consider I'm in my teenage years.

Guest (not verified) says...

Well, I changed from ENFJ to INFJ in one year or so. I consider this means I was more extroverted once than what I am now. Anyway this shift is quite strange and made me realize that I'm weirder now according to the percentages they give to us (ENFJ= 7% worldwide/INFJ= - 1%).
It's not an easy path as there's always a "you're too innocent" comment which I understand people do for the fear that we could be tricked or lied to easily...

TommyK (not verified) says...

I had the same switch from ENFJ to INFJ. ... Makes sense to me!

Guest (not verified) says...

I was always told I was "weird" and "different" and it did not help my case with fitting in. Taking this test and finding out I'm an INFJ personality has kind of shed some light on things and it offered me a sense of relief. I've taken this test in HS and was INFJ then as well.

Frankie Yeung (not verified) says...

What are the suitable types of jobs for the INFJ? How about the entry level? Any resource about it?

Chloane (not verified) says...

I'm an infj who's in love with a guy who doesn't love her back. It's a huge struggle to forget him and to find someone better since he's so perfect I don't think there could be anyone better. I think of him even when keeping myself busy. He took over my mind and it's been like that for 2 years now! How can I stop thinking about that flawless guy?

Guest (not verified) says...

When I first tested I was an ENTJ; that was decades ago and the descriptions were not as complete then as now. I was also told that I was adept at 'mirroring' and that would work well for me in business. Having a career that required the ENTJ attitude, I never felt comfortable with that designation but dealt with it. When the economy crashed in CA a few years ago, I was also getting a divorce and fled to my home state, so my psyche was going through a lot of change.
Eventually I found the site www.16personalities.com and to my great relief discovered that I am primarily an INFJ. I realized this is who I've always been, to the core. All of the interests have been with me all my life but I was too busy making a living and being caught up in that to be me.
Then I found this site: www.25quiz.com and discovered that I am an INFP as well, with a few type percentages in much lower numbers. That all makes sense too and for the first time I am actively pursuing all the things I've put off and loved forever!
I do know a person who is an INTP, refuses to consider that she could be anything else and is totally miserable. I have a sister who is proud to be an ENTJ and personifies all of the positive and negative qualities to a 'T' - we are not close.
The downside of 'mirroring' is that one may adapt to both positive and negative personalities; hearing myself mirroring a negative personality is very frustrating! That will take more practice to deal with.
Starting my second career, looking at a masters in psychology and moving on with how I can help people in this world. We are all unique, while these tests help us understand ourselves and what we might want to work on, it is important to not stuff ourselves in that box or boxes. We can all be the best person possible if we want to go there. We all have gifts to give to make the world a much better place.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm lucky. I haven't felt alone. I have a circle of five friends who are all INFJs too. They understand me perfectly and I love them so much. Before I had them I was always mistaken for an extrovert, which isn't how I feel inside. Inside I've always been an introvert, and having people say otherwise wrecked havoc with me. I started to doubt my perception of myself, not just as an introvert, but other aspects of my personality too. However, now that I have my circle of friends, I feel so much better. Having another INFJ in your life is a real blessing. They understand exactly what you're going through, and make everything so much better.

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