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ENFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFJs in Love

In relationships, the ENFJ is helpful and enthusiastically supportive. They are motivated to understand their partners and to do what pleases them, and are sensitive the the emotions and reactions of their mates.

ENFJs make great cheerleaders, and will encourage their partners to develop and explore their potential. They are engaged and ready to help, and look for opportunities to support their mates in their accomplishments.

ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. Conflict is upsetting to ENFJs, and they often avoid it. ENFJs are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt. However, they have great insight about people, emotions and motivations; they are often able to put this talent to use in resolving things.

The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ's feelings and values.

ENFJs as Parents

As parents, ENFJs take an active and enthusiastic role in guiding the development of their children. They enjoy teaching their children the ways of the world, and set forth clear ideas of right and wrong in a warm and supportive way.

ENFJs have high expectations for their children, and often envision bright futures for them. They have an interest in their children's potential and want to inspire them to develop it. They can sometimes idealize their children, becoming disappointed when they don't live up to expectations. They may take their children's misbehavior personally, feeling that they have failed to instill their own strong values.

ENFJ Communication Style

ENFJs are warm, compassionate communicators who show enthusiasm for other people and their ideas. They want to understand what is important to others so that they can take action to improve the situation for all involved. ENFJs readily give affirmation and support, making sure that people know that their ideas are valued. They are good at connecting with a variety of people and creative in coming up with solutions that accommodate others’ needs. They are often natural teachers and mentors, showing others the way and helping them to improve themselves.

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Juliet Henderson (not verified) says...

Les Brown says don't worry about the how.  Worrying about the how will make you waste precious time.  Jump and grow your wings on the way down. Listen to him on YouTube and follow him on FB.  It will change your life. 

Adelina (not verified) says...

You could also try studying Pedagogy and do a master in Corporate training. There you will get to motivate and inspire other people. Hope it helps. :)

Guest (not verified) says...

im the same way i want to change the world! People just call me crazy because im so passionate about humanity and im very open with my emotions

Francis Michael G. Diorico (not verified) says...

I know how you feel... it is said that, "If people do not laugh at your dreams, your dreams aren't BIG enough." I feel you man..

Allan-Dexter Racca (not verified) says...

Those individuals should be your fuel.  Prove them wrong.  Failure, rejection, and doubt are some motivational tactics of getting to where you want to be.  It's tough to hear but proving them wrong feels so much better.

gailccurrin says...

I have been fortunate to have been allowed to be myself in the jobs that I had. I was always the one everyone came to with problems and I was always the one who reached out to help them. I didn't have a degree. But I was a counselor and spiritual adviser in one of my jobs. If you stay true to your goal, you have many opportunities to help the world. Everyone you met is there for a reason and just tune in and learn all you can and teach all you can also.

Guest (not verified) says...

never thought id be a teacher

Guest (not verified) says...

no its not don't lie

Ben, ENFJ (not verified) says...

I wouldn't say that the author is lying, but personalities even in the ENFJ category may vary a bit. I find this fairly accurate as it goes, and would encourage anyone who doesn't feel that this describes them to retake the personality test.

Guest (not verified) says...

and how do you know that person is lieing

Guest (not verified) says...

why are we arguing about this why does it matter?

Denys says...

Myers-Briggs is not a 'truth' test. There is no such thing as a good of bad personality type. It doesn't measure or predict behaviour. There are different psychometric assessments that achieve that. 

If people lack clarity about their preferences it will show as lower scores on Type characteristics. This can be the result of working in a work environment or organisation where the dominant Type is different from our own personality Type. Our job may require us to develop skills that would not be our natural preference. And it is possible to develop those skills to a high level. But, under pressure these skills may cause us to feel more stressed than if we play to our natural strengths. 

Sadly, over 80% of people are in jobs that they don't really enjoy. Myers-Briggs is a great way to review, reflect, abd discover how we may best achieve our personal potential in a career and personal relationships. 

Jason Freeman (not verified) says...

Beautiful. Are you INFJ?. You have the dynamic figured out in words I could never write out as an enfj. Thanks.

sisi (not verified) says...

Nice thought

Lohi (not verified) says...

You sound sad. You should have lunch outside tomorrow and enjoy the view:)

Haze (not verified) says...

The only sad person here is you tbh

WHY WEIRDY (not verified) says...

girl shut up! You big mad or lil mad 

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