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ENFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFJs in Love

In relationships, the ENFJ is helpful and enthusiastically supportive. They are motivated to understand their partners and to do what pleases them, and are sensitive the the emotions and reactions of their mates.

ENFJs make great cheerleaders, and will encourage their partners to develop and explore their potential. They are engaged and ready to help, and look for opportunities to support their mates in their accomplishments.

ENFJ partners want harmony above all else, sometimes at the expense of their own needs. Conflict is upsetting to ENFJs, and they often avoid it. ENFJs are very sensitive to criticism and can become highly emotional and even punishing when their feelings are hurt. However, they have great insight about people, emotions and motivations; they are often able to put this talent to use in resolving things.

The ideal mate for an ENFJ appreciates their compassion, support, and dedication to helping others, and makes an effort to understand the ENFJ's feelings and values.

ENFJs as Parents

As parents, ENFJs take an active and enthusiastic role in guiding the development of their children. They enjoy teaching their children the ways of the world, and set forth clear ideas of right and wrong in a warm and supportive way.

ENFJs have high expectations for their children, and often envision bright futures for them. They have an interest in their children's potential and want to inspire them to develop it. They can sometimes idealize their children, becoming disappointed when they don't live up to expectations. They may take their children's misbehavior personally, feeling that they have failed to instill their own strong values.

ENFJ Communication Style

ENFJs are warm, compassionate communicators who show enthusiasm for other people and their ideas. They want to understand what is important to others so that they can take action to improve the situation for all involved. ENFJs readily give affirmation and support, making sure that people know that their ideas are valued. They are good at connecting with a variety of people and creative in coming up with solutions that accommodate others’ needs. They are often natural teachers and mentors, showing others the way and helping them to improve themselves.

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Dietitian Roberta says...

Subject: Body Shaming

I'm a registered dietitian working in the weight-loss field. I use type as a way to help people lose weight in a way that is comfortable for their type.  Asking, say, Perceivers to keep a food diary could possibly set them up for failure.  But considering who they are can help them address the issue more sensitively.

Right now I'm concerned about all the body shaming that is occurring, especially on social media.  I'm trying to figure out where type fits into that.

Our population is the heaviest it's ever been. There is now 67% of the population who is either overweight or obese. There is a lot of body shaming happening today.

Do you think it's just because of the anonymity of social media, allowing people to say whatever they please, that we're seeing more body shaming? Do you believe there are certain personality types that would tend to do the body shaming?

What personality type do you think would react to body shaming by eating more to pacify the hurt felt?

Thanks for your input.

feni (not verified) says...

fellow enfj, i have 2 brothers that are infps who are morbidly obese, and a esfp mother who goes to overreaters anoymous classes, also morbid obese. i went into a depression and myself gained +100lbs. ive been making better health choices and not taking medications for depression ive now lost 80 lbs and ive been trying to get them healthy as well. Now i want to be a dietitian too lol. my dad "anytype" of shamed my mother, and she pacifies her unhappiness with eating, she wont acknowledge it as that and prefers the label and the connection. Eating and indulgence became a coping mech, i have no clue what my fathers personality is, but he is old school "call it as i see it" but just calling people fat to motivate is hard on infps. Im a millenial, and video games had alot of us in the house for longer periods of time and there was definitely the urge to hide from shamers as shaming was SOOOOOO common in those days, so id say, any type with a  Se - external Sensing as a third or forth function, or any type that jumps to those traits in bad times  will be the types to shame. The internet causes alot of people to participate unfortunately and some will do it just to connect to others especially with anonymity, so yea any type can do it if they are introduced to it. i havent opened up in a long time lol

Betazoid (not verified) says...

While certain personality types do gravitate toward certain clusters of mental illness, it's important to keep the two separate -- e.g., anyone of any personality type can suffer from bipolar or schizophrenia or anorexia.  There's a lot more going on with any given mental illness than PT such as family history, peer influences, genetics, possibly even things like food allergies.  That said, I think the personality disordered are most likely to be openly critical and devoid of empathy for others, as a general rule.

Regarding your question about fat shaming: I think a lot of it, sadly, is just typical social primate behavior.  One person does it and then others pile on. The big monkey hits the smaller monkey on the head because the big monkey can, and for no other reason.  It's a power thing, in part - it makes the big monkey feel strong and may have the side benefit of causing others to either admire the big monkey's strength, or at least to fear the big monkey. 

The Online Disinhibition Effect magnifies it, no doubt. Most people, being innately emotionally lazy, will say things online that they would never in a million years DARE to say to someone's face.  That and text is generally a terrible medium for communicating about anything fraught or sensitive because it strips away all facial expression, all body language, all tone of voice... all the things that help to humanize our interactions and help us to correctly discern someone's intent and motive in what they're saying.

It's also human nature to value the rare more than we value the common. These days it is rare for people to be slim, so slim people are seen as more attractive. In times and places where there was extreme scarcity, being plump was desirable and being too slim was seen as unattractive, so some of it is cultural.  In current Western culture, it is implied that anyone who is slim has their life under control, perhaps becasue others assume the slim person exercises a certain amount of dietary restaint (be it in amount, frequency, food choice, or some combination of the above), works out regularly, etc.  We admire in others what we like about ourselves and sometimes what we feel we are deficient in ourselves.  The ugly flip side is that we mock and despise in others what we fear in ourselves. When we see someone who is significantly overweight, we see someone out of control, and that makes us uncomfortable, because we fear that WE could someday be out of control.  My two cents. I hope it helps.  :-)

Jessica Jackson (not verified) says...

The people who tend to do body shaming or any type of internet trolling are disordered personalities in the Cluster B Personality Disorder group.  Covert narcisissts amd sociopaths come first to mind.  

Isabella T. (not verified) says...

Greetings Fellow Protagonists!!!!

I always thought I wanted to be an engineer b/c it sounds so interesting! But I guess I'll either be a nurse practitioner or perhaps a sales manager or maybe something completely different. Good thing I'm only in high school and not college!!! Everyone always told me I would be a great teacher so I might do that. 

Is it just me, or are all ENFJ Protagonists indecisive?

Jpcana says...

I am an engineer for 28 years. Just found out that Im ENFJ. The evaluation does reflects most about how I do and tend to do and be/tend to be. 

Sharon says...

If you want to be an engineer, go for it! My husband has been an electrical engineer for 23 years, and he just found out he is an ENFJ. Engineering, depending on the company and industry, can be a very high-energy, creative, social job (lots of meetings), and he is a smart, social, high-energy person. It has been a good fit for him--I'm proud of him and grateful for the opportunities he's had through his work. It can be a very stressful job though, intense pressure--but so is being a teacher. I say, do what interests you most!

Rexy (not verified) says...

Don't let these tests and stuff tell you who you are. Nothing says you can't be an engineer if you really want to and find what you enjoy about it. :) 

Cautiously optimistic urbanist says...

I'm an ENFJ and I'm a landscape architect. Landscape architects are involved in everything about people and how they interact with the outside world. Somedays we're psychologists, other days we're horticulturalists, other days we're land planners deciding how to lay out an entire 300 acre parcel of land in the best way to help people thrive. If I were to provide one example generally from my experience of the difference between a civil engineer and a landscape architect using a parking lot as an example; an engineer is concerned with how many cars can fit, how rain water will be handled, and what base materials will be used to ensure the driving surface doesn't collapse. All important things for sure. A landscape architect looks at a parking lot and asks, how will the people get safely from their car to the front door of the building, we include many trees to make the space comfortable and beautiful, and how can we make something as innocuous as a parking lot, beautiful and inspiring to the humans that will use it. Both disaplines are important, but if you're about people, landscape architecture may inspire you more than engineering.

CJ34 (not verified) says...

I am indecisive too!

Kat (not verified) says...

I am also a protagonist type and an engineer! It’s feels like a great fit, so I would say go for it!

Don Tal (not verified) says...

Sometimes I can sense people think I am manipulative where I feel bad that people think I am this way. I even try to explain myself most of the time and say it's just me thinking this is best for everyone but I still overthink if I was right or making execuses.  After knowing my personality traits are ENFJ I feel I should be proud and be more committed to helping others and keep doing nice things for the greater good of the community. Thank you for making my day!

Ang (not verified) says...

My husband tells me I am manipulative. It kills my heart because that is not my intent.

Your Friend (not verified) says...

To be honest, ENFJ's tend to be manipulative. I have been even when thats not me generally. Don't get me wrong, we don't want to be manipulative but if we hold values really high and the other person is not on board, I'll do everything to get him on board even if it needs manipulation. It's not too bad sometimes but yea we generally are really helping and not manipulative with an intent.

rocky rococo says...

this test explains my personality perfectly and it was very accurate. thank you truity!!!! ;)

rocky rococo says...

I'M AN ENFJ!!!!!

sandra Johnson (not verified) says...

WoW this was like looking at myself in the mirror..ENFJ. i have never read anything more accurate about my personality. is this related to my star sign Taurus. Wonderful 

unknown (not verified) says...

well its some i dont like but im also and ENFJ

Maz (not verified) says...

I think this is true to me in some regards, however, people are complexed because of environmental, economical and upbringing, they help shape us. But I resonate with this as apparently I’m a ENFj. I know my strengths and weaknesses but above all I wish to be is authentic, understanding of everyone as an individual because well all are. Ultimately I want to show compassion and empathy. I really do wish to be helpful and help wherever possible but I don’t want to be a doormat either. 

If everyone could try to see the others perspective that helps, even if you can’t do anything about theirs. I think I can be too deep, but I’m always searching to be a better person and learn from my mistakes. 

I just wish everyone well and happiness in their life’s as long as it isn’t harming anyone. 

Peace out, from an apparently ENFj 👍

Yotam (not verified) says...

I'm ENFJ/T, I'm also an electrical engineer and I love my work! In fact, I'm doing my third degree now. Sure, I love working with ppl - but I also love working on tech that will make the world a better place. Especially in the fields of power and control. I also like building gadgets. And yes, usually I make gadgets which help others.

Why would anyone not want to study and implement what he knows, to help others and better the world? Electrical Engineering gives that to me.

Pama (not verified) says...

Hi, I'm an ENFJ-T too! And I'm electronic engineer, I work in control system doing troubleshooting! I love my job too, I can use my intuition in order to solve some problems with the software or logic or strange issues in the system and I can help to the customers because I'm part of the support L2 team 💕

amy (not verified) says...

WOW, I was concerned when I saw how rare we are. We make up 3% of the population.  How interesting...good to feel at home I GUESS!! REMEMBER WE NEED TO KEEP PUTTING OUR FOOT DOWN AND NOT LET OTHERS BULLY US!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alivia N. says...

I know! I was in completely awe when I saw that number. I guess we are a rare kind of awesome!

Yololo (not verified) says...

I’d say these traits are spot on, although I consider myself an INFJ/ENFJ hybrid. I’m studying Speech Pathology as a career and am loving it so far! 

Birdie (not verified) says...

Hello,

I just saw your comment about wondering whether you might straddle a line in the I/E department.  If you want to dig deeper, I recamend the Personality Hacker podcasts!  I have learned so much about myself and those I love through their scientific/applicable breakdown of the Myers Briggs typing system; it's a really beautiful thing!

LSDesign (not verified) says...

How does this test differ from an MMPI?

eu (not verified) says...

stuck between ENFP and ENFJ-T

;-;

Starman (not verified) says...

This mbti typing is nonsense, people change all through their lives, anyone who is switched on knows this

Rhonda WW (not verified) says...

starman, I've taken this quiz three times over a forty year period. My life and situation has changed so I thought so would my "four letters". I answered honestly. All three times, ENFJ.  When I was 16,  36 and now at 55. 

JLH (not verified) says...

I too have taken a few times since college in 1998. All times (regardless of life situation) ENFJ

Markis (not verified) says...

I don’t wanna die in the military so I’m glad it said that I should avoid that so I can tell my dad that I can’t be in the military 

Joz'f (not verified) says...

Serving in the military is a great way to get away from home or save for college. Doing 4 years was a great experience and I am glad I did it but I certainly did not make it a career - 4 was enough. If you don't lke guns and sleeping in tents or foxholes, take a look at the Airforce, the Navy or Coast Guard. 

P.C. (not verified) says...

lol. I am acomputer programmer and ENFJ. I seem to be doing just fine and don't why should I avoid this great career.

Cassandra Tomas (not verified) says...

Also, in terms of following your career path, have you heard of Rotary International? They give opportunities to volunteer, fundraise and serve local and international initiatives. I volunteer with them a ton and I love it, and I think they could offer a way for you. They have a focus on building peace in the world, in fact, they were instrumental in establishing the UN (http://nyrotaryunitednations.blogspot.com/2008/05/test.html). Climate change and peace building will need to go hand in hand in the future, and conveniently, Rotary offers peace fellowships/masters degrees (https://www.rotary.org/en/our-programs/peace-fellowships). I'm not sure where in the world you are, but there is a very good chance there are Rotary clubs in your area.

Just a thought, hope it helps!

 

Marl (not verified) says...

Dear Cassandra, 

Thank you very much for taking the time to reply to my comment! I'm glad that you enjoy your job as an engineer and I'm sure you are very good at it ;) I have a lot to think about right now (random: I've also started writing a book because I've always wanted to!) and I agree with what you say, that I probably shouldnt concern myself too much with what undergraduate degree I complete. Thats wonderful that you volunteer a lot! - I just looked at the rotary international website and will look more into it, thanks! Though I probably wont study international peace cooperation, the idea of a peace fellowship is amazing! 

Kind Regards from the UK right now, 

Marl

Marl (not verified) says...

Hi, I would appreciate some advice. Im 19 years old and have just started University - I couldnt decide what to study for the longest time (maybe because I secretely always thought Id become an actress) but I have always been interested in law. I am currently studying International Business and feel like it is not taking me in a direction that I will feel whole and complete when carrying out my job. As an "ENFJ" the charactersitics definitely apply to me, as I want to play a role in making this world a better place (environmentally, especially) and hope I have positive impacts on everyone I meet. Before I write too much, my question is this: Does anyone have any advice or suggestions in terms of career paths (and Undergraduate Degrees) that might be better suited for me in the long-run? I would be very thankful as Im still constantly questioning and worrying (not usual for me!). 

I love: creative writing, inspiring and motivating others and acting. If i continue with Business, I could see myself going into Human Resources. This might seem contradictory to what I love, but I am thinking about switching over to International Law to pursue the knowledge of how we can change our laws regarding climate change. I am very passionate about this though the actual career dreams (working in the UN or NGO) seem quite difficult to achieve. I definitely believe in myself but seeing as Ive been so indecisive about my path, I dont know if I would enjoy the career path as I dont know how much human interaction there would be. I have thought about teaching English but to be honest, Id really like to have an impact on the world as a whole rather than just humans, seeing as we are the ones destroying our Earth... That being said, this test has reminded me of the importance of harmonious human relationships for me and how much I love encouraging others. To anyone having read all this: hello and thanks! If I wouldve read this when I was younger, I would have been in disbelief that I could be so unsure about where Im going *sigh*.

Cassandra Tomas (not verified) says...

Hello Marl!

I caution you against focusing too much on finding an undergrad degree that is 'a good fit' for the ENFJ personality. In my experience as an ENFJ, anything that gives me opportunity to serve others, solve their problems, improve my surroundings and teach others, is a workable opportunity. In my case, I do that as a Materials Engineer. Read: a highly technical, specialized role. As I'm sure you know, we ENFJ are not known for being practical or technial, but if I may be so bold, I'm damn good at my job. In fact, I've found my altruism, empathy and natural ability to teach and inspire are an advantage in my role. I'm the technical expert on materials science in my 500+ person workplace, and often people don't understand what I'm talking about. But they know they can trust me to do what's best for the group (b/c I'm authentic and altruistic), that I'll spot what could be a problem for them even if they don't see it immediately (empathy), and that I can explain in plain terms a technical concept so they can understand (teaching), in fact often well enough that they relay it to others in a pinch and apply the knowledge elsewhere (inspire/empower). Also, even as an engineer, I get plenty of human interaction. I could have it non-stop if I chose. My writing ability and creative thinking has also proven an advantage again and again... they call it 'out of the box thinking' when you're an engineer lol.

So, if I can do all that in a very technical role, I am VERY confident you can that in law. In Fact!! I think you will find that background will be helpful in your mission on taking action against climate change. I scratch my altruisitic itch by volunteering whenever I can, and I therefore know the value of a law person to a non-profit or NGO. Even as an engineer I bring a different outlook to non-profits, which therefore gives the non-profit as a whole a more rounded view and approach to problems. I am confident you would do the same, even more so. The fact that you're asking these questions at 19 tells me you're determined and resourceful, which are always beneficial qualities. 

I can hear the passion in your words about pursuing an international law degree so you can act on climate change. I don't think you should let what an ENFJ 'should' do limit you. 

 

Grace says...

I am a ENT/FJ my results were 50%Thinking 50%Feeling but with a slight preference for Thinking. But my personality type changes depending on the circumstances from ENTJ to ENFJ, which when I think about it is totally like me. Since I am only 16 and a girl, I am wondering if as I grow older one may eventually take over the over and I only have one, but for now I am the 17th personality type😆

Asia Asia (not verified) says...

I'm impressed! While reading I did recognize myself, but I don't think that I am a very altruistic person though. My Russian friend advised me to check something they call "Volikov's test", which was quite cool too. this one involves some astrology I guess. Thanks a lot !

thebonnextdoor (not verified) says...

This is really amazing! This provides clarity on the questions that i have in mind.

CA(SA) (not verified) says...

Going back into auditing soon as an audit partner.It involves training of clerks to become chartered accountants.

Looking forward to the training part, but dread the auditing.

I love being helpful and the fact the I have knowledge people continuously ask for help my altruistic side.I hated accounting, until I realised how the system works to obtain grants for orphanages.Now my education became valuable to me as I can use my financial knowledge to not only assist, but build new homes.

Any ENFJ auditors out there?

Johnny Curry (not verified) says...

Management but no military is my goal! Yay!

huh? (not verified) says...

Sorry but i excelled as a programmer self taught btw who ascended to roles like sr. sys architect dba and admin as well as tech team lead. learned multiple languages and also a musician. am pattern thinker.  Natural programmer and i dislike people but came out enfj. go figure. I would never wanna be a minister. i like working alone. 

Jack Of All Trades (not verified) says...

It’s crazy how I’m a music producer, photographer, video director, and artist. I also studied psychology, and truly enjoy investigating and understanding how things work. My friends tell me I have a gift in motivating as if I’m a motivational speaker. I tend to always bring the best of out people and help build brand. Lastly, I’m an ENFJ.

Kelsey Kempa (not verified) says...

Wow...I am astonished to find so much magnanimity and positivity in this comment section. It’s nice to see fellow ENFJs helping each other...really. We’re in this together guys. We might not know each other personally...but we understand each other. This test is a beautiful thing and has changed my life, because now I’m taking the time to understand other people’s personalities as well.

I wish you all good luck in your affairs! ENFJ for life! -Kels

Denys says...

As an ENFJ my career path has been varied and very satisfying. 

My career path has included:-

Nursing

Minister of religion 

Counsellor (person -centred) 

Careers Advisor 

Outplacement Cinsultant

Professional Actor 

Professional Musician (violin) 

Wellness Coach (Herbalife) 

Accredited Nordic Walking Instructor. 

I thoroughly enjoy being an ENFJ,  but I panic when presented with Maths, Accounts, Tax Returns etc. That's when I really appreciate the help of other personality types and their particular giftings! ?

 

Denys says...

I trained as a Myers-Briggs practitioner over 20 yrs ago. 

My original result was ENTJ because I worked in an organisation with a very strong TJ academic orientation. At the time of completing the questionnaire my preferences lacked clarity.

However, I learned to play to my preferences and became much more content and successful in my pursuits and relationships. As a result I discovered that I am clearly an ENFJ which I celebrate! ? 

I've used Myers-Briggs as a tool in Career guidance, counselling, and Management and Team Development. It provides an excellent foundation for helping ourselves and others discover, develop, and achieve personal potential. 

Fireguy96817 (not verified) says...

Aloha  !!

I am absolutley ENFJ ..... Firefighter, CPR/First Aid Instructor, Health and Fitness keeps me in a POSITIVE MINDSET, I'm the negotiator when disagreements arise with family and friends, Artist/Poet/Writer, and Travler/Adventurer/Explorer on this rock we inhabit.  Empath:  I can feel what those surrounding me are feeling without conversation (still learning what Empath means, yes 40yrs didn't know I was or that it was a term lol) waiting for my true calling that will affect a large portion of the population....... Not sure what it will be but I can feel it tugging/calling me...!!!   

My free advice after 17 years at the Firehouse, "Do it, jump to the "proverbial" opposite cliff  towards LIVING IN THE NOW towards starting a new career/relationship, TAKE that opportunity that you can feel it and "It feels right," you will never look back !! (Trust you senses and disrefgard that grey matter. LOL, Responsibly though..... right !?! 

We are a gifted group that I am proud to be a part of and always willing to help a stranger.....Even came close to cutting my time on the planet short more than a few times for a stranger's on Da'JOB.  No regrets though I am grateful and fortunate to be among the living, and I'm telling ya Im going to do something great, maybe that's just being a good Dad to my little girls and living by example.  So proud when I heard my oldest tell her younger sister who was hysterical, "I'ts NOT an EMERGENCY unless your DYING! Right Daddy?!"  That's right princess now give her back her doll. LOL.

Awwwrriiighttt    I leave you with my Firehouse quote, "Everyday ABOVE the dirt is a GOOD Day!"  

Live ALOHA !!

Mahalo,

Jason

Kate says...

This is me, according to the test twice over. Hard to understand why...

H (not verified) says...

Hello ENFJs! Not a fellow ENFJ, but I want to just let you know, you're very inspirational! 

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