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ESTPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ESTP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ESTP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ESTP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ESTPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ESTPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ESTP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ESTP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ESTP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ESTP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ESTPs in Love

In relationships, the ESTP is fun-loving and pragmatic. Hedonistic and flirtatious, ESTP partners tend to keep things exciting. They are often pursuing adventure and like a playmate who will come along for the ride.

ESTPs tend to have little patience for serious discussions or emotional exploration, preferring to keep things fun and action-packed. They tend to be attentive to their partners’ physical needs, but may neglect the deeper emotional connections. Serious discussions about feelings rarely hold much appeal for the thrillseeking ESTP.

ESTPs are enthusiastic and reasonable problem-solvers. However, their orientation toward quick thinking may lead them to try to apply a solution before they fully understand the issues involved in a conflict, especially when complex and difficult emotions are involved.

ESTPs want a partner that will appreciate their practicality and willingness to get their hands dirty, and allow them plenty of freedom to pursue excitement.

ESTPs as Parents

As parents, ESTPs often connect with their children through a shared appreciation for activity and spontaneity. ESTPs are often as interested and curious about the world as their children are, and will encourage their children to engage physically and take risks.

ESTP parents are less patient with timid or sensitive children, and may want their children to be hardy and thick-skinned. They may not have much interest in quiet moments or emotional discussions. They enjoy seeing their children succeed, especially in athletic or competitive pursuits, and will often play the role of enthusiastic coach.

For more information: Please Understand Me II

ESTP Communication Style

ESTPs tend to be persuasive, energetic communicators. They quickly observe the realities of the present situation and engage others to take action on practical problems. Many ESTPs speak very freely, and can be blunt and impatient in getting their message across. They may not want to wait for someone else to buy in before they can act. The ESTP may come off as charming, and many ESTPs are masters at negotiating with others so that they can achieve their goals in the most efficient way possible.

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LG (not verified) says...

Ah man, I hate the assumption that ESTPs can’t have serious discussions re feelings etc. I’m in youth work / community project management and have spent 10 years listening to people and making plans. Most ESTPs I know are highly organised, if adaptable. I’ve journaled and written since the age of 7 to curtail that myth(!), and I’m a Christian so spend a lot of time reflecting on my own actions and impact on others etc. Maybe some of this is learnt behaviour though. Also, pairing types up like this doesn’t necessarily work in reality - my best friend and sister are both INFPs! We are way more on the same wavelength than any of the suggested ideal types, and I am their biggest advocate and they are mine. We each appreciate what the other brings to the table. Energy balance wise, they enjoy my sense of adventure and I need their calmness. Do find preferences fascinating - notice similarities even in specific types who drink coke to those who get psoriasis etc etc, but it’s also pretty unhelpful when it’s inaccurate. Across the board, would be interested in reading more interviews with a variety of people from the same type. 

Olivia C :) (not verified) says...

Under the "ESTP Hobbies and Interests" section, it literally mentioned flying was that a typo or what I am an ESTP and I have never flown in my life nor have I ever met any other personality types who can fly. 

Ryan Putman (not verified) says...

I'm ESTP and I live flying. Best feeling in the world.

James Nelson (not verified) says...

INTPs fly 

Fries (not verified) says...

If you can't fly you're probably not an ESTP. Im messing with you, the part that mentions "flying" refrences us using/operating an aircraft, and not literal flying.

the master (not verified) says...

i can 

Imes’ekzy (not verified) says...

yall are nerds except the ppl talking about potatoes and unicorns. I’m a freshman doing something for class. Yall sound smart as heyll too LMAOO

ABuk (not verified) says...

we are the best ESFJ are bad

Anonymousyeyw (not verified) says...

There are things about this that are true for me- I am a do-er. I am a risk taker, I am not always the most sensitive person in some ways, BUT in my work I walk with people as their children die and I am uniquely able to do this with great sensitivity, joining them in their grief without it destroying me. I also have a PhD, and all three of my degrees my GPAs have been 3.7-4.0, so this is also wildly inaccurate for me. 

WifeofanESTP (not verified) says...

Your comment reminds me a lot of my partner who is an ESTP. He is often at the scene of terrible tragedies and can be there in the moment, supporting people in their grief and pain and empathising, but can walk away and process what has happened without getting completely swamped in the trauma. He calls it compartmentalising. I think ESTPs get a bad reputation as being emotionally immature but I don't think thats the case at all. I think the ability to think clearly and quickly is the same tool ESTPs use to process and move on. Just a thought!

person (not verified) says...

umm it says im athletic...yea no

khii (not verified) says...

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Watson (not verified) says...

I always hear this stereotypical version of ESTPs. I know two and they aren't adrenaline junkies or sports nuts they do enjoy eating, drinking, being active and hanging with a wide network of friends. They may seem irresponsible but they are highly resourceful, talented and smart. They like to think on their feet and not plan too much but they always seem to get things done. They can be sensitive to disrespect or abandonment. The two I know, one my husband and one a girlfriend are incredibly loyal to their partners and are deeply affected if they break up with them. They drown their sorrows with indulgence and distraction. They like to have fun but make no mistake about their business and street savy. They make money like it grows on trees even if they aren't the best savers. It always seems like they have enough. They are sharp about human interactions and they know how to talk to just about anyone, they see through lies, they detect falsity. Don't try to fool them, they see you a mile away. They add very complex people although you may not see it unless you are close to them and very perceptive, that's because they keep their inner feelings hidden, even from themselves. They are the least introspective people and it takes a lot for them to finally see the connections of their own emotions. But they feel a lot and they are usually generous, sympathetic and giving friends. Their loyalty, once earned is solid. But if you cross them or decive you can forget it, they'll never change their mind about you. I find them honorable and beneficiary although mostly self interested. They can balance that really well, they are all about win/wins. These Estps are competitive but if everyone gets something out of it, all the better. They are good people and I'm always on awe of their abilities. 

Jron (not verified) says...

Wow this is literally me to a T, thank you

INFJLuke (not verified) says...

Watson,

Described my ESTP husband well. The stereotype one who always likes sports or is impulsive and unable to plan for the future. My husband makes money like it grows on trees too, but he is smart with his money. He always has an amount left over for emergencies despite how much he spends. His father is also ESTP and has stereotypical traits of infidelity and always playing sports, but that's not the only version out there. My husband is also very faithful and very hurt by anyone who lies or deceives him. Infidelity is a big red mark for him as well. We are in it for the long haul, but ironically he doesn't like to think much about the future despite having vague plans for it. 

Michèle (not verified) says...

Thanks for your description. I confirm. I'm a. ESTP, though I felt you were describing me. 

Robkat317 (not verified) says...

I just took the MB test for the first time a few days ago. I am an ESTP...your description pretty much describes me exactly. My husband of 20 years also read it and also completely agreed.

Guest A (not verified) says...

I'm going through bit of an identity crisis and think what you have described here about the two ESTPs you know is totally relatable to me. I always thought I was an ENTJ but think ESTP could be more suited.  Thank you for sharing.  

Dung beatle estp (not verified) says...

Its funny reading these comments... pretty sure people dont know how to judge your own character. Who you want to be not who you really are play a huge factor

ISTJ here (not verified) says...

In a relationship with an  ESTP.....so very frustrating! He is pushy, rude, rule-breaker type (drives offensive/never uses turn signal, etc) and has no GOALS for the future. He says he "hates people" yet seems to strive to be the center of attention when in a crowd, believes he is the only one with common sense, impatient with hesitance, and what I believe to be a narcissist. How is it possible to even get along with this type of person?

Myra (not verified) says...

Hello,

Totally resonated with you. I met one, I also thought him as a Narcissist. No respect to authority, pushy, aggressive and self-centered. He never considers about the needs of others but always think about his self-interest. Very selfish! I already dropped the ball thinking that that's not going to work. Be sure not to let him control you and hurt you before you make up your mind to pack up. He ain't going to change for anyone but will definitely demand you to change for him. I hope my post helps you too. 

INTJ

ISTP (not verified) says...

You've just got to roll with him. God knows you can't change him. I'm married to one too and it's like being married to a force of nature. Definitely fun, but it can be hard and frustrating to keep up. If you don't like him dump him, he is what he is. If you'd rather keep them go with the flow and enjoy the life of adventure (while remembering to pay the bills on time bc he ain't gonna)

Kyleigh (not verified) says...

Why do I have to have the same personality type as Trump?

Susman42069 (not verified) says...

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lyric schwalbach (not verified) says...

pie is bad

lyric schwalbach (not verified) says...

pie is bad

INFP bunny (not verified) says...

Yes this sound a lot like my Nephew, I love him to bits but he can drive me up the wall. LoL

fortniteGamer (not verified) says...

wtf this great 

devon bourrie (not verified) says...

i think that this test best thing ever!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Guest (not verified) says...

Not sure if anyone noticed, but during the video it says, "Careers for ENFPs" lol

Sincerely,

INFJ

Ryonna Lee (not verified) says...

I like basketball best, because that's what I am good at the most. I dislike hobbies that don't contain sports.Other personalities are not like me, some people like sitting in the hosue watching television while I like going outside to play sports. Some people dislike sports.

Savaira (not verified) says...

This describe me perfectly right

Guest (not verified) says...

My mom is ESTP,I am INFJ... worst combination ever! Total helicopter mom.

5621086 says...

WHY DOESNT ANYONE LIKE ME OR WANT TO DATE ME I HATE BEING ME

PteMills (not verified) says...

I know your comment is 3 years old and you'll probably never read this but big mood 

lyric schwalbach (not verified) says...

i will 

Natttttt (not verified) says...

I'm an ENFP who fell madly in love with an ESTP I was hooking up with. The romantic, passionate Feeler inside me came out and next thing I knew, the ESTP ghosted me out of the blue. This helps explain why it wasn't a match.

Myra (not verified) says...

ENFP Friend,

I do want to hear about what happened though?

INTJ Friend

oops (not verified) says...

close enough.

Guest (not verified) says...

This is definitely me all the way around except for the sports. I dont like sports all that much.

LiLing Oh (not verified) says...

I am a huge majority of ESTP.
I have no patience with hearing people with their emotional woes... uncomfortable...
I extremely dislike people who make decisions based on feelings, which is not logical or factual at all!
As ESTP, I speak my thoughts out directly. Well, we need to clear the air with a good confrontation, right? Haha

Guest (not verified) says...

Very accurate

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow pretty f ing accurate. I read this is only for 4% of the population! How many of us have a mental illness? ADHD or Bipolar maybe?

5621086 says...

i have adhd and autism and was chosen as a estp. i am so sad as i hate being a teen with these conditions.

Johnny anonimus (not verified) says...

Maybe you were lead to believe that you are, but really aren't?
 

Just saying... you don't have to believe everything others tell you.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hit the nail on the head!!! You non-ESTP types move to the slow lane, I'm coming around, eat my Boxster dust!!
Donald Trump next ESTP President!!!

Guest (not verified) says...

"ESTPs tend to have little patience for serious discussions or emotional exploration," this is sooooooooooooo inaccurate!

Guest (not verified) says...

Ive gotten ENFP, ESFP, ESTJ, ENTJ, ENTP, and ESTP depending on the site. Out of all of those, this description of this websites ESTP is the most spot on. I think I struggle the most with determining wether i prefer Feeling or Thinking. Sometimes I feel things very strongly, and yet I remain poker faced, because that would benefit me the most in the long run. Conversely, I can appear genuinely warm and sympathetic, while feeling nothing inside, if thats what i believe the situation calls for. Depends on the situation, person, etc. Sensing and Intuition is something I'm also not sure about. Se sounds very much like me, but I'm really creative, not practical and very idealistic. Ultimately though, I HATE BEING BOXED in and believe humans are not meant to be categorized by sixteen sets of letters :P

Guest (not verified) says...

I score as either ESTP or ISTP... I'm right on the border!!!!

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