Are ESTP and ENTP personality types compatible? See how ESTPs and ENTPs get along in this guide to ESTP/ENTP relationships. If you're an ESTP in a relationship with an ENTP, discover how you'll communicate, interact, and relate to each other in daily life.

How ESTP and ENTP Get Along

ESTPs and ENTPs have some common themes that often arise when they get to know each other. As an ESTP, you'll want to keep these issues in mind when you get to know an ENTP.

As a Sensing Perceiver type, your approach to relationships is perhaps the most straightforward of all the types—you look for connections with people who are up for joining you on all of life's adventures. You may tend to gravitate towards people with a similar background to yours, but you just as easily accept people from all walks of life, so long as you can enjoy your time together. You especially value relationships with people who share your hobbies and interests and a can-do approach to life.

When interacting with your counterpart, be aware that as an Intuitive Thinking type, they will primarily be looking for an intellectual connection. NT types feel close to someone when they have a meeting of the minds, particularly when they are able to have a discussion that leads them to learn something new or think about things in a different way. NT types aren't devoid of feeling—they're human just like everyone else—but they're very much in their heads, and their relationships tend to start with a mental spark rather than an emotional one.

At first glance, it may seem as though the two of you have nothing in common—and in fact, you do have very different ways of seeing the world and thinking about things. The first time you meet this person, unless you discover a shared interest, it may seem that you have nothing to talk about. 

You are an active, hands-on person who likes to live in the moment. You enjoy building things, doing things, and seeing a concrete result for what you do. You have little interest in fantasy, and like to stay firmly grounded in reality. You spend very little time wondering about the meaning of things or theorizing about how the world could be different; you're too busy enjoying it as it is. 

In contrast, your counterpart is imaginative and analytical. They think about things deeply and enjoy playing with ideas and theories. More than action, they prize understanding, and may be more interested in theorizing about something than actually experiencing it. They are drawn to innovation and imagination and can sometimes lose track of what's going on in the real world. 

So what might draw you together? Your differences mean that you actually have a lot to offer one another. Your counterpart may inspire you to slow down and think more deeply about the meaning of things, rather than just doing what feels right in the moment. In turn, you can help them to get out of their heads and enjoy life for what it is.

Communication Between ESTP and ENTP

Communication can be a challenge between any two people, and communication between ESTP and ENTP personality types is not the exception. By being aware of the issues that often arise when ESTPs and ENTPs communicate, you can learn how to reach an understanding more quickly.

You have a different style of communication from this person, and you’ll need to make some accommodations if this relationship is to reach its full potential. 

You tend to communicate in a straightforward, concrete way, focusing on facts, details, history, and real-life experiences. You focus on the "what" when discussing something, and convey information that you observed directly or can back up with real-life evidence. When making plans, you tend to focus on the specific steps that will occur. And generally, you're interested in talking about real things, not ideas or theories.

In contrast, your counterpart tends to communicate in an abstract, theoretical way. They focus on making connections and interpreting meaning, the "why" of the thing in question. Much of what they communicate is their idea, theory, or interpretation of what they see, rather than a direct observation. When making plans, they are inclined to spend a lot of time talking about the overall goal or theme of the plan without having much interest in the details. 

While it may sound like you are speaking different languages, the truth is that although you have different comfort zones when it comes to communication, you are well able to get out of those comfort zones to meet halfway—and you'll both be the better for it. Your partner can help you stretch to look beyond the obvious of things and explore the deeper meaning. And in turn, you can help them to come back down to earth and discuss the details and facts of a situation, not just the big idea. 

You're both energetic communicators, and you may find that when you're together, you're both eager to talk. While this can make for some lively discussions, it can also be frustrating because you may end up competing for the floor. It's important that when you're together, you both focus on being good listeners as well as sharing your own thoughts. This is something you can work on together, and it is a worthy task, as developing your listening skills will benefit all your relationships, not just this one.

ESTP vs. ENTP Values

Values are intensely personal, and while an ESTP and an ENTP can find common ground, there will always be some differences in what you hold dear. However, understand how your ESTP approach to values compares with your ENTP counterpart's will help you to appreciate and overcome your differences.

The two of you have some fundamental differences in what you value. Although both of you value logic and reason, looking at things from an objective viewpoint, you tend to disagree on the goal of your analysis. Your counterpart fundamentally is an innovator, while you are more focused on maintaining the status quo.

You are a traditionalist who likely will find your counterpart’s innovations unnecessary, if not outright ridiculous. You like to put faith in the past, and trust what has worked for many generations before you. You appreciate rules and feel comforted, rather than restricted, by institutions and traditions. Rather than being excited by the unknown, you are wary of striking out into new territory. For this reason, you are inclined to stick with what you know and follow established procedures and processes.

On the other hand, your counterpart seeks out ways to shake up the system and make things newer, faster, and better. They believe that everything can be analyzed, dissected, re-engineered, and improved. They most likely love science, technology, and innovations in business. To them, the future is an exciting place, and they may enjoy fantasizing about what the world will be like in 20, 50, or even a thousand years.

But conflict is not inevitable, and you each have something truly valuable to offer one another. For you, your partner can help you see where change really is needed, and how to learn to embrace it. Their excitement and confidence in times of uncertainty can show you that what is new is not always unwelcome, and progress can be (and often is) a good thing.

On the flip side, you can offer your partner a stern reality check for their sometimes pie-in-the-sky ideas. Let's face it, although your counterpart has some wonderfully innovative ideas, they're often mixed in with a few half-baked duds. You are uniquely positioned to help them figure out which is which.

ESTP and ENTP in Daily Life

Lifestyle is an under-appreciated—but extremely important—element of compatibility. Your values and ideals may coincide perfectly, but if you can't agree on how to conduct day-to-day matters, your relationship will always have friction. As an ESTP in a relationship with an ENTP, you can expect certain issues to arise in your daily life. Discussing these in advance, and figuring out how to deal with them, will make things go much more smoothly as you develop your relationship.

You both enjoy people, and your lives probably make plenty of room for friends, family, and social events. You likely both have large circles of friends and many parties and get-togethers to attend. As you get to know each other, you'll probably be excited to introduce one another around your social circles, and you'll enjoy getting to know each others' friends and families as a way of deepening your own bond.

You likely share an energetic approach to life and an appreciation for staying busy. You both tend to feel most alive when you're getting out and experiencing the world around you. In fact, your calendars may be dangerously overbooked, as neither of you is likely to turn down an opportunity to get out and do something interesting. Keeping up with one another can be a challenge, as you both tend to be on the go. If your relationship is a priority, make sure your social schedule reflects that.

Your daily routine together can tend to be overly busy and lacking in time for reflection and introspection. You both like to be out and about, and the idea of spending quiet time alone doesn't often hold a lot of appeal. While this approach to life works well for both of you, be mindful of maintaining a balance. Even the most extraverted person still needs a bit of time to be quiet, think and reflect. And taking some time to focus just on each other will allow you to discover new aspects of your relationship.

You take a similarly unstructured approach to life and are fairly relaxed about schedules, plans and household systems. If you share space, it’s likely that neither of you will be motivated to take on household responsibilities. You both prefer to play first and work later, and there may need to be some discussion about getting the chores done.

Since neither of you want things to be fully planned and predictable, you’re rarely overwhelmed by disorganization. You both enjoy leaving room for creativity, and enjoy setting a pace together that will allow you to do things on the fly.

Finding harmony in your life together may take some effort because you see and communicate different things. While you experience the world with your body and your senses, your counterpart looks behind the scenes and figures out the patterns between disconnected pieces of information. For you, daily life is for living. For them, it’s a springboard for testing out ideas and imagining how things might play out.

In your mind, actions speak louder than words. You are one of life’s ‘doers’ and you like to take concrete action. You tend to choose activities that will stimulate your senses or your body in some way whether that’s cooking, bungee jumping or arts and crafts. People call you down-to-earth since you’re very matter-of-fact.

The reverse is true for your counterpart. They are less focused on facts and personal experience, and more focused on feeding their intellectual curiosity and learning new things. For them, discovering new ideas is a lifelong pursuit and they tend to read widely, take classes for fun and explore the ‘yet to be discovered’. There are plenty of hobbies here that you could both be interested in, but it can cause rifts between couples who can’t come to an agreement on what they want to do in their spare time.

Routines can be another area of conflict. While you certainly have a sense of adventure, you have a low tolerance for shaking things up for the sake of it. You counterpart, by contrast, may dream of adventure to keep things exciting. You have much to offer each other here, as you can remind your partner what is important in the moment, and they can offer up angles and possibilities that give you a broader understanding of the world.