Your Perfect Spring Fling, According To Your Enneagram Type

Are you ready for a new beginning? What better way to leap into a new chapter in your life than with the excitement of a spring fling? But not just any fling – we’re talking your perfect fling that puts butterflies in your stomach and makes you feel like the star of your very own romcom.

Finding it starts with figuring out what qualities you’re attracted to in a significant other, which is where the Enneagram comes in. If you’ve taken an Enneagram test, you’ll know that this personality system can be a valuable tool for self-discovery and understanding your relationships.

So why not use it to find your perfect match for a spring fling?

Whether you’re a hopeless romantic or more skeptical about love, read on to discover your perfect spring fling according to your Enneagram type.

Enneagram One: The Whirlwind Romance 

A whirlwind romance is exactly as it sounds: a lightning bolt romance that starts quickly and causes  a spark that can light up the night sky. For Enneagram Ones, this type of fling may seem uncharacteristic at first, but it’s exactly what you need to get your groove back, especially if you’ve been chained to your desk for too long. 

Why it works: Deep down, you crave passion and excitement but it takes a lot to get you to let go of perfectionism and embrace fun in your life. A whirlwind romance does exactly that: it shakes things up for a while! While this might be scary for Ones who like to control every aspect of their life, it can also help you feel free and less uptight. See it as a way to reset your buttons so you return to your plans with renewed energy.

Enneagram Two: Fireworks 

As an Enneagram Two, meeting someone you have an instant connection with is right up your alley. You’re looking for authentic love and closeness. Your perfect fling is a chemistry-filled romance that makes you feel like you’re in a movie. It’s all about the goosebumps and the fireworks for you, Type Two. You want to feel like a teenager again. 

Why it works: You want to stay up all night chatting on the phone about your dreams. You want to go on roller coasters together and kiss in the rain. You’re a giver, Type Two, and you thrive on making others happy. With a fling that sparks fireworks, you can focus on your own desires for once and be the star of your own show. Plus, let’s face it – who doesn’t love a good old-fashioned romance?

Enneagram Three: The No Strings Fling 

As an ambitious, busy Three,  you’re not necessarily looking for a long-term commitment at the moment. You want to have fun without worrying about expectations or heavy feelings crashing into your life. This type of fling is refreshing for you because you’re usually so focused on success and achievement. By doing something without any strings attached, you can enjoy the journey for a change.

Why it works: The no-strings fling works for you because you’re scarily honest with yourself and others about your intentions. This keeps everything above board and prevents anyone from getting ideas that the fling could become something more. Grab the opportunity to explore something fun without reality crashing in. Then, when your fling ends, you can go back to your life. No harm done.  

Enneagram Four: Passionate Dates 

Type Fours get high on making connections with others – you're a romantic who loves the feeling of being in love. Having a passionate, quirky-date-filled fling instead of a run-of-the-mill romance will energize you. See it as a way to enjoy the types of dates you’ve always wanted, whether that’s kitesurfing, going on a romantic boat tour, or salsa dancing. 

Why it works: Fours are creative and value deep connections, so having unique dates that allow you to bond with your partner is valuable. You’ll benefit from letting go of your idealized version of love and embracing something fun, romantic, and maybe even a little out-of-the-box. As long as you both enjoy it, who cares if it's not "conventional"?

Enneagram Five: Date Out of Type 

For a Type Five, the perfect fling involves stepping out of your dating comfort zone and exploring romance in a new way. Trust yourself to date people you wouldn't normally choose, or do activities that you’ve always wanted to try but have been too scared to.

Why it works: Having a fling with someone outside of your usual type works for Fives for two reasons. You’re curious by nature, so you enjoy exploring new things. You're also fiercely independent, so you can enjoy dipping your toes in different experiences without getting lost in "the feelings." You may learn more about yourself, your boundaries, and what you truly want in a partner without any long-term expectations or pressure.

Enneagram Six: Fling with a Friend 

Romances are always risky, so for you, Six, your ideal spring fling would be with someone you know and trust – at the very least they should be a friend of a friend. You need to feel safe and comfortable, and hooking up with someone you don’t know at all can be stressful.   

Why it works: Although friendships-turned-romance can be tricky to navigate, Sixes are drawn to relationships with people they already know. This is because you're loyal and tend to stick with what's familiar. A fling with a friend can be exciting because it adds a new layer of chemistry and closeness, but you also have an established foundation to fall back on if things don't work out. 

Enneagram Seven: An Exciting Distraction

Upbeat Type Sevens are drawn to adventure and love having experiences, whether in life or in love. When you meet someone interesting, you want to jump right into having fun times together!  This type of fling is all about throwing caution to the wind and embracing spontaneity.

Why it works: For Sevens, who can become easily bored with routine, a fling that offers excitement and new experiences is perfect. You want someone who will join you in a short-lived escape from the world and its responsibilities, exploring your interests and trying new things without worrying too much about commitment. 

Enneagram Eight: The Thrill of the Chase

Eights love being in control and don’t fear making the first move when they meet someone new. As an Eight, you love a challenge! The only catch is that you gravitate towards taking the lead, every time. Because of this, your ideal fling involves being pursued instead of doing the pursuing, so you can enjoy being the one who is chased and courted for a change.

Why it works: As a natural leader, you are used to taking charge in all aspects of your life – including relationships. But it’s healthy to surrender control every now and then. See it as a way to live in the moment and explore what happens. This type of fling can be thrilling and refreshing for you. 

Enneagram Nine: A Fling That’s All About You 

As a Nine, you’re accommodating and often put others’ needs before your own in relationships. But for your perfect fling, all you want to do is focus on yourself. Find someone who brings you flowers, takes you on a romantic boat cruise, and caters to your every whim. You deserve it! 

Why it works: Nines often forget their own needs in relationships, but having a fling that’s all about them can be empowering and refreshing. Since Nines secretly want to feel important, you’ll enjoy putting your needs first for a change. All you have to do is enjoy guilt-free fun and allow yourself to be treated like a goddess. 

Giulia Thompson

Giulia Thompson is an Italian-South African freelance writer and editor with several years of experience in print and online media. She lives in a small town in South Africa with her husband and three cats. She loves reading, writing, and watching thrillers. As an Enneagram Type 4, she’s creative and loves surrounding herself with beauty.