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INFJ Strengths

Practical insight. Some people are visionaries while others are down-to-earth problem solvers, but INFJs manage to straddle the line between both identities—and they usually succeed masterfully. INFJs are insightful thinkers who see through situations and people effectively and enjoy developing practical strategies for action. 

Compassion. As a Feeling type, you might expect an INFJ to show compassion—but what sets them apart is that their empathy comes with a sharp intuitive edge. They are quick to recognize worry and unhappiness in friends and loved ones, even when outward signs of distress are not visible to others. INFJs are uniquely capable of detecting unspoken and unacknowledged suffering, and are called into action by their instinctive ability to see beneath the surface.

Keeping the peace. Mediating disputes is hard work, but INFJs have an astounding ability to help heal the rifts that divide people. They intuitively sense the real suffering that anger can cause if left to fester, and because they are good listeners they are quite effective at helping warring parties find workable solutions that will satisfy the needs of all. And they do it with great energy and determination.

Decisiveness. For INFJs, obstacles exist to be overcome and no problem can outmatch the strength and resilience that these types possess deep inside. INFJs follow through on their ideas with conviction, and have the willpower and decisiveness necessary to see projects through to the end. INFJs live for the opportunity to solve problems and bring about positive change in the world.

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INFJ Weaknesses

Overlooking details. No matter how practically-oriented they aspire to be, INFJs have a tendency to get so caught up in theorizing the big picture that they forget to account for some of the precious details that can separate success from failure. Details always matter, and while INFJs may recognize this in principle, in practice they aren’t always as diligent about the small stuff as they should be. 

Intensely private. Despite their loving and sensitive natures, INFJs have a tendency to close themselves off from the world and don’t give people the chance to know them or see the wonderful qualities they possess. Even in their relations with family and trusted friends, INFJs can be enigmatic. When they are feeling frustrated or introspective, they may retreat from social contact without so much as a word of explanation, which can throw others for a loop.

Conflict averse. INFJs dislike conflict intensely and will usually intervene to stop it, but this is one area where their perspective can get distorted. INFJs often fail to recognize that conflict can actually serve a useful purpose, allowing a good process of give-and-take to be established and giving all parties the opportunity to resolve their problem forever. INFJs would be wise to acknowledge the value of open and honest dialogue, instead of automatically assuming that all squabbling is harmful.

Sensitive. Once an INFJ has made up their mind, they tend to be very confident in their conclusions and may not have much tolerance for those who continue to dissent. When someone challenges their conclusions, they can react very strongly and are especially vulnerable to criticism.

INFJ Growth and Development

In order to reach their full potential, INFJs should:

Question their intuition. INFJs have outstanding instincts for the most part, but sometimes their intuition betrays them when they are dealing with others. When something is bothering them, INFJs will often withdraw into the safety of their own heads rather than speaking openly about what they are feeling; conversely, they seldom express their feelings of love, affection and appreciation as directly as might be expected given the depth of the emotions they experience. To improve their communication habits, INFJs should go out of their way to share their feelings—both good and bad—with others regardless of how uncomfortable it makes them feel to do so. 

Give others the benefit of the doubt. INFJs are insightful, instinctive and persuasive. But despite the enormous effort that INFJs invest in developing and selling their concepts and ideas, sometimes dissidents will remain. INFJs sometimes become disenchanted with those who refuse to accept their conclusions, and they will convince themselves that their opponents have hidden agendas and are acting in bad faith. When situations like this arise, INFJs should try to accept that total consensus is impossible and that some will continue to hold contrary viewpoints. In situations like this, both sides should simply agree to disagree and move on. 

Let others agree to disagree, too. When tensions are high and arguments are heated, INFJs will do all they can to restore lost cohesion and tranquility. But their love of harmony and aversion to division is so powerful that INFJs refuse to accept that sometimes the best way to end disputes is to bring them out into the open, where bridges of understanding can be built. On balance, INFJs’ dislike of conflict is a good thing. But their efforts to play peacemaker might be more successful if they would concentrate on keeping the lines of communication open when disagreements arise instead of always trying to sweep everything under the rug. 

Make connections with extraverts. Because sharing with anyone outside a small trusted circle goes against their instincts, too often talented INFJs choose to keep their gifts wrapped up and hidden even though they have much to contribute. But INFJs would benefit by cultivating friendly relationships with extraverted people whenever possible. Opposites attract, and there is no doubt that being around more naturally open and communicative people can help bring INFJs out of their shells and out into the world where others can benefit from their intellect, empathy and compassion. 

Slow down! INFJs are productive and effective when they make a concerted effort to focus on one project at a time. But their fertile imaginations frequently undermine their efforts to stay on the straight and narrow, and they will often start new projects based on fresh inspirations before old ones are finished—and, before they know it, they will find themselves buried under an avalanche of work. There is really nothing INFJs can do to moderate the pace of their inspirations, but if they constantly remind themselves to slow down and take things one at a time, they may be able to resist the urge to go off on tangents at least some of the time. 

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Laforestgray says...

I took the MBTI Test between 1998' - 2000' and twice ealier this year before today ... the more I learn I feel and like I might not be an INFJ (maybe because it's a bit much to take in .... )

MB22/♊️ - INFJ - Ambivert 

 

From June 17, 2019 : At 1:08PM June 18th, 2019, I officially hit 50.   Damn lol.  

 

I'm blessed 

June - 06

18TH - 1 + 8 = 9    √9 = 3

1969 - 1 + 9 + 6 + 9 = 25, 2+5 = 7

Time of Birth  - 1:08PM, 1 + 8 = 9  √9 = 3

06 + 3 + 7 + 3 = 19, 1 + 9 = 10

√10 = 3.33 (rounded up)

3 + 3 + 3 = 9,  √9 = 

*Divide 10 by 3. 10/3 = 3.33 (you can round off your answer)

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What does my birthday June 18, 1969 mean?

Your birthday numbers 6, 18, and 1969 reveal that your Life Path number is 22. It is a master number that represents practical idealism and material mastery. You were born under the most powerful and potentially the most successful of all Life Path numbers.

#polymath #infj - #ambivert #gemini  ♊️  #masterbuilder22 *** Chinks in the armor/facade will show cracks over time. *** #authenticity  #integrity  #sincerity  #loyalty #humor #humility #INFJA

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  • Claircognizant "Clear Knowing" 

 

You just have a knowing about things. For many strong in this gift it feels like knowledge pours into the top of their heads. For you, you may have a "knowing" of their name.

It's alot to asorb

Justin Bowman says...

Finally, Finally, feel understood. 

Gustavo Capitao (not verified) says...

It is truly remarkable how we can be defined in simple words, for a long time I taught people would never understand me and I still do, in truth. It is amazing to feel that I'm not alone.

Penny Patt (not verified) says...

I completely agree! A huge amount of relief after finding out what we are. It's great to know that we're not alone.

Kaelyn Ashton (not verified) says...

As do I. It is almost as if I have been stalked though. 

Melmarie101 (not verified) says...

I love getting into deep conversations with the few people I let in, but then become somewhat embarrassed for disclosing too much such as my spirituality and high ambitions. I really want to open an art studio for people who need art therapy even though I'm not an artist. I would especially love to help give an alternative social outlet to people who are drug or alcohol dependent. I'm a bored pharmacist who wants to do more to help others. I'm pretty decent at a bunch of artistic skills but haven't committed to any of them enough to be an expert. I really just deeply love getting to know people and to help them learn to love their true selves. It's great to find like minded folks. Lately, I've become very aware of how different I am from others. Thanks you guys for sharing your insightful stories which have connected all of us. 🧡

Zahra (not verified) says...

Hi Melmarie, that's the only profession I keep coming back to-- to engage in a art healing practice. I feel like you don't need to be a professional academic artist in order to benefit from the art in a therapeutic manner. However, I do really seek to gain more knowledge and understanding of the human mind in pursuing my education to a master's in art therapy. Good luck to you anywhere you set your feet, may the door opens and unravels the most beautiful path in front of your eyes.

Somnath Singh (not verified) says...

Alright Folks!
We have a Whatsapp Group for INFJ now, Anyone interested can ping me on (+91) 7004249186

kehaj (not verified) says...

I am an INFJ. I don't know what a WhatApp group is it does but I know I want to be part of it

SOMNATH Singh (not verified) says...

Ping me on WhatsApp 

SOMNATH Singh (not verified) says...

Hmm..i see alot of people asking for a whatsapp group! if thats the case ping me on whatsapp (+91)7004249186.

(Where +91 is country code)

 

I will make a group there..i am also not very active on Instagram. 

So those who DM me..please pardon me if i reply late.

Lets do it then,whatsapp group of all INFJs folks around the world.

Whoever is reading this, send a WhatsApp message with this in reference. 

Nicole Cheaib-Makki (not verified) says...

Great Idea!👍

Arla (not verified) says...

I found this article is nice. 

I thought that people always have a different thought about me but it seems now I understand why. 

Finally, I met you all (INFJs), we are on the same page ^^

well... having group WhatsApp or zoom sounds good.

Misqty (not verified) says...

​INFJ Jackie of all trades, master of one... I've done construction, hydro-vac operating ((so I could save money to have/stay home w my child)), waitressing, running a poker room so that I could cook healthy for the players and rub their shoulders, and now I work in a chiropractic office.... I want a wellness center someday... a place dedicated to helping people learn how to be happy/whole/well mentally/emotionally/spiritually/physically... I love to write but hated trying to get my degree in English/Lit... need to finish my next degree in science/nursing. I'm now 40 and unmarried and beginning to feel a bit frustrated. I see bossy obnoxious lightly moraled women who barely love/respect their husbands and expect everything from them and I just don't understand it. Have any of you faced "the shoe drop effect?" Your mate is constantly in a state of waiting for you to be nuts or not sweet to the point that they push you away? I'm not their mom... I don't want to have to be nuts for people to care to listen. 

Anita_Belinski says...

Survivors. When I am thinking about global issues such as: warming, pollution, overpopulation, famine, wars, poverty, degradation of humans, animal's extincton, deforestation, I am sure that the world really need mntally healthy INFJ, INFP, INTP and other highly ethical types of personalities.

Helge (not verified) says...

Hi, sounds like an impossible task, considering we're just a small percentage of the world population. Most days it feels like the world is doomed, and the reason is the way average humans work.

Avantika (not verified) says...

I finally feel understood

Carrin... (not verified) says...

Hi fellow INFJ's I'm so happy to see the comments in here! I read that INFJ's can go a whole lifetime without ever meeting another INFJ. 

Jaki Viii (not verified) says...

The link from animator led to art director.

Kim2810 (not verified) says...

Hello fellow INFJs!!

Just wanted to say I agree with a lot of the things mentioned on this page. What careers have you thought of pursuing/ are pursuing now? Did you enjoy it? Also, any careers you have tried and hated?

For me, I'm thinking of going into research but don't fancy a pure research career. Any thoughts?

Saad Ibrahim Rasheed (not verified) says...

Hello Kim, I'm an INFJ as well. I'm hesitant to be prescriptive as people of the same personality type can develop very differently, but I'd like to share my experience - might help you.

In the past, there was a time that I was absolutely convinced that I wanted to become an engineer. I was incredibly set on it, passionate about it, made it my life, completed my Bachelors in it. However, after 2 years in the sector, I discovered that dealing with machines and inanimate objects and not people was ultimately not satisfying for me, and that my real interests lay elsewhere. Throughout all this I kept reading, watching the news, learning about the world and societies - finally dawned on me that I needed to change course. Long story short, I discovered the social sciences, the development sector  and I haven't looked back (much) since.

If I were to give you any advice, it would be to pursue a career that allowes you to exercise your emotional intelligence and strengths - counsellor, lawyer, sociologist, social worker etc. Hope this helps and have a great life!

ChristyB. (not verified) says...

I am a Biblical counselor. I exercise a lot of reading people's facial expressions and body language. I can tell what they struggle with (bitterness, depression, anger, shame, guilt, etc) just by looking at them. It's a great field.-Christy 

Kim2810 (not verified) says...

Yeap, exactly! I had the same reservations when choosing the course at university. I wasn't quite sure that I wanted to commit to doing one thing for the rest of my life (i.e. R&D). Thankfully, the university I am in allows students up to 2 years to decide on what to major in. So, in the meantime, I am exploring various industries :).

Anon INFJ (not verified) says...

I have a similar story to you - started out in quite an intellectual, logical career, found it unsatisfying and moved into social sciences and environmental policy. Very much happier!

Kim2810 (not verified) says...

That's great!! And thanks for sharing! :)

BeYourSelf (not verified) says...

Hi

I am working in IT as developer, but I am not finding it something I can do for long time. I am in same boat. Looking for options. I am more into working with child or in agedcare but I feel like I have wasted $$$ in studying Masters in IT and now I don't find it interesting. 

I wanted to persue research in human psychology but than I dropped that idea. :D

Kim2810 (not verified) says...

I see, perhaps you can try for some openings in the education industry? There's bound to be some openings because there is a growing demand for IT skills given the covid-19 situation?

SummerINFJ (not verified) says...

Unfortunately, there is not a growing demand for IT professionals. We're all on essential services only. No more setting up music studios or surround sound systems or TVs. If it's not your internet or home office that's down, we don't fix it anymore. It used to feel like a profession where I got to help people in so many different ways. Now it's just panicky older folks trying to figure out how to work from home.

Aida (not verified) says...

Hello to all INFJ's!!!

I really want to talk with you and discuss about our personality. How about creating WhatsApp group? 

Reach me out in Instagram: @aideloona

Akash _ Sky (not verified) says...

Yaaa it's very nice to create INFJ personality group 

Because we want to share our thoughts to each other

But I don't like to share my WhatsApp number publically....

In my contacts I share my thoughts with less than 10 persons....

If you want to create Instagram group  then my ID is 

@akashubale45

 

Ashina (not verified) says...

I don't have an Instagram but it would be amazing to communicate with other INFJs in a WhatsApp group

Somnath Singh (not verified) says...

I always wondered that why am I so different than people around me, our personality is the first layer of ourselves the interact with the outer world.
it is the cause of all harmony and conflict around you, neverthless it is not the core of who you are, if  you are willing you can craft your personality consciously also,
I am one of those few who comes under INFJ, and in many ways I am comfortable with most of my traits.
They are so unique, so I will keep them the way for they are now.
Remember that the persona should be the way the present situation demands, then only you can enjoy the surface of your life otherwise rigidity in your persona will only make you suffer and also people around you too.Well those who want to reach out can DM me on insta : Siddhartha4u. Would love to see other INFJ's
 

Blessing (not verified) says...

Thank you so very much!

This is a great piece am infj but I think also the environment and upbringing has changed how I respond,how I think and nature of my relating to people,I usually not feel like a loner I also worked on myself to the extend that I don't feel isolated.

I always give my contribution as welcomed and one principled that I have acquired in life is being assertive,firm yet warm,emathetic etc.

To be an infj you need to tell people or help them to understand you especially where you feel misunderstood.

My thinking though.

Thank you

BFM (not verified) says...

Hello everyone, feeling much of the same as everyone (obvi). I have always wondered if I would meet anyone similar and didnt realise until now that statisitcally Im at a disadvantage. If anyone would like to chat over zoom I would be interested to meet my fellow advocates, perhaps see if we ask ourselves the same questions? Could be nice, let me know!

Aroofa (not verified) says...

It would be nice to talk over a zoom call. Let me know your insta id or whatsaap. 

Shawn Nguyen (not verified) says...

Broo ik what u mean its crazy I just found out bout this I tried to open ppls eyes now I just dont care

SMT (not verified) says...

That would be great! This comment section is amazing.

Did you already do the Zoom?

Hariharan (not verified) says...

id love to chat over zoom too!

DCD (not verified) says...

I'm interested in chatting over zoom. 

Indira (not verified) says...

Hi! I really want to talk with you! Can you send me your instagram nickname,so I could text to you?

cuteinfj (not verified) says...

Isn't it beautiful how we are all expressing ourselves in here? We REALLY are not alone in this world.

We cannot solve all the problems of the world or our own, but we can try to change for the better, having deep connections is niiiiice.

How about we start a therapy group? LOL :)

Ainsley (not verified) says...

This makes me really happy to see. I am an infj and I have felt disconnected my entire life. It's nice to know there are people like me ☺️  

BFM (not verified) says...

Im down : ) 

One percenter (not verified) says...

LOOL sounds like your 5min of extroversion is taking over your introverted ways XD, I'm here for it though loool

confuzzled INFJ(?) (not verified) says...

Hello, random INFJ here.

i was wondering if any of you face the same difficulties in understanding who you are as I am. I am INFJ, but the last two characteristics are almost equally balanced. I share traits of INFP, INFJ, and INTJ, but most times I don't know which instinct to listen to. Notice that all of these personality types are introverts as well as intuitive, so basically, my intuition tells me to do three different things at once. My intuition is always right, but only if I choose the right side of me to listen to! 
what's also confusing to me is my path for the future. I have no idea what I will do or become, and the personality careers for my personality are so drastically different! I combine logical thinking with my imaginative world, my fear and love for people, my hate, fear, want, and love of social interaction, and so many other things it's so confusing!

i often over analyze every little bit of dialogue, thinking of what I could've done better. I focus on my various shortcomings rather than successes because of my rational and perfectionist nature. INFJs are supposed to cherish people and see the bright side, but I see their entire being. I have intuition about what kind of a person I see, and often I can guess what instrument they play (if any) I use my logic to succeed in academics, and avoid social interaction altogether. Of course, my humanity insists on trying. So which to suppress: the nature of personality, or the human nature? I am known for being weird, cool, and extremely logical. And yet, my imagination is completely overgrown! My stories in my head are the only place that I can truly live! This has led me to become pessimistic in nature and disappointed in reality.

why can't I just be one kind of person? Even a regular paradox of an INFJ would be nice.

anyone else have a problem like mine or is it just me? (also 100% antisocial)

Trix (not verified) says...

There are far more than 16 types of people in the world. These tests can help give you insight, but of course you are individual in your experiences. I like to think of each person as a single point of data on a graph. These labels are like big circles someone comes and draws to explain trends. 
I also don't know what I want to do. I feel that I have an eclectic mix of interests held together by my way of perceiving the world. The fact that everything is so complex and nuanced is what makes life so wonderful. We create narrative by circling events and insights in this complex multitude of happenings. Your desire to adhere to one personality is a desire to attach to a narrative (or profession) that already exists. Lean into the complexity. Create a good life for yourself. Leave the world better than you found it. 

Sunshinesmom (not verified) says...

Hi, it sounds like you'd make a good writer. It's  also cathartic. Maybe you can make a career out of it.

Aida (not verified) says...

Hi! Omg, me too facing these difficulties as an INFJ 😣 I worry about my future every minute. What profession should I take, who to become😐 It is really annoying. I can relate...

JordanJ (not verified) says...

Omg same! I have to try to figure out what I am going to do after high school, and it literally is like impossible because I feel like there are so many careers that I could end up doing. I am thinking something in healthcare or something with writing, but honestly idk. I feel like once I choose a career, I am going to immediately regret not doing another one. I am interested in so many things that right now I feel completely lost on where I should go.

Sashwat Singh (not verified) says...

You can go for career counselling ....  I am also confused in my career options 😔

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