ESFP

INTJ Friend,

Totally resonated with you. But for me isn't my mom but my ex-husband. Only I found out we clashed on almost everything, but I'm glad that it's over. It'll never happen again-because opposite does attract but it also doesn't work! 
 

Your INTJ friend

I'm an ESFP and my mom is an INFJ and while we don't clash all the time, I never really understood why we constantly disagreed with possible careers for me and what I would be more involved in. I finally took the test and showed her the results. She was shocked and immediately apologized for assuming a lot of what I preferred. We have since grown closer and I'm proud to say I can better understand her and where she was coming from.

lol funny

Hi. What do you work as freelancer? I am curious what type of freelancing suits ESFP people

You would have the most entertaining airline announcements as an ESFP pilot. 

You're an empath like me!

When she went to dance with others, she wasn't ditching you. She genuinely just wants to dance with everyone. I was thinking reading your comment, "take her dancing!" Before reaching the part about her asking you to dance. 
and truthfully, she may be into you and too humble to sense that you may be into her too.

i vote dancing or skating, and some quiet time after to chat. Good luck! 

Well, I think shes just very social. She likes to be friendly with everyone and treats almost everyone equally. Dont be sad if she hugs guys (Unless shes not like that) becase thats her way of being friendly.

I'm an ESFP girl and dating a INFP guy right now actually so I understand. In our relationship my boyfriend has always been the more steady and reserved one while I am quite the opposite. So we started our relationship with his persistence in wanting to talk and get to know each other. I often pursued him as well once we got a little further down the road. So to you I would just say stay persistent. Keep asking her to hang out or get coffee or try to talk to her. I'm sure she knows you like her and may like you but may not be sure about it. If she was sure and wanted to date you, you would know it. But outwardly the two types are pretty different so a relationship between the two does not come quickly. You just need to show her what you do have in common and that you are steady and will not be giving up anytime soon!
Don't blame her for leaving quickly though - that's just who we are as ESFPs. My boyfriend still has to deal with feeling like I don't want to talk to him or just left abruptly even though I don't see it as that. We just like to move around and can get distracted easily!
Hope that helps.

Go for it and let her know otherwise she will think of you as weak and you will be friend zoned forever. I know this personality tramples all over weak types so you have got to man up while still being respectful and sensitive if you know what i mean. But definitely let her know and tell her you are much more than being friend zoned. Good luck i hope this reply is not too late.

Tell her what you just said ^^^^^!! You already know she has an interest in you, I say you take her on a date or something (she'll see that signal) and tell her that you want to be the "next level" but were always too scared to say anything! Then say something(s) nice about her. And then her true feelings will show! Woo!

As an INFP currently in a relationship with an ESFP, I feel your pain. We were also friends before we started dating and I never realized that she was actually interested in me, I kind of thought she just flirted with most people to be honest, and I had just convinced myself I was over her when she asked me out. The whole dancing with you and then leaving you behind is a bit confusing, but it doesn't mean she's not interested! I know it's really hard to do (and that I'm a bit of a hypocrite), but you should just ask her on a date, like going to a movie or ice skating or something lowkey like that. Good luck, I believe in you :)

It's possible to identify strongly with a few different personality types. The first time I took the test it said I was an INTP. I took it again and it said INFP which I think is most accurate. I also identify with a lot of ENTP traits, based on reading the descriptions. So you probably have strong ENFP and ESFP associations. I actually think reading the personality descriptions can be more helpful in figuring out a personality type than taking Truity's test sometimes,  because the test relies on your self perception and you don't always know how to answer the questions, whereas you can just read the statements about the personality types and decide if they fit you or not. 

I am an ENFP but relate pretty strongly to a lot of ESFP things...I do like theories and hypothesis and read into the meanings of things but I tend to get bored of that as well and shut it off and live in the moment at times. I found this article helpful for knowing which one you are:

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/11/17/heres-what-makes-enfps-and-e...

My brother is an ESFP and personality theory bores him to death so if this bores u maybe that's an indicator 😄

Although any type can excel in leadership roles, for ESTJs it often comes naturally. Your dominant extraverted thinking function means you tend to be superior at organizing your environment, which includes the people in your space. Also, ESTJs are usually pretty good at figuring out who would be most skilled at what task and they delegate responsibility accordingly, which often results in an efficient team that has the potential to run like a well-oiled machine. In other words, you're good at seeing how people are "useful." Where you guys run into trouble is failing to notice if your team members are actually happy enough with whatever tasks you've assigned them, which can lead to team members experiencing burnout, which ultimately means less productivity and a negative effect on the bottom line. Also, you guys tend to be overly concerned with hierarchy and seniority (which comes from your auxiliary introverted sensing function), which can mean not heeding good advice if it comes from a so-called "underling." As a bank teller with years of experience, I once had a boss with no banking experience who I'm sure was an ESTJ, and even though she didn't really know what she was doing, she wanted us to do her bidding without question, even if her decisions were unwise, simply because her title was "the manager." However, most ESTJs don't get their feelings hurt easily, which means they are good at receiving criticism -- provided it's from their own supervisor or "higher-up."But, they have to respect their superiors, which they will, IF those superiors are reasonably competent. But, they don't take too kindly to just any ol' person telling them they're doing something wrong. At least, that's what I've learned from studying MBTI as a hobby. No expert here.

Actually, out of the 8 cognitive functions, ESFPs and INTJs share the same 4 main functions, just in reverse order. The 4 letter preferences are helpful (E versus I, S versus N, etc.), but they only begin to scratch the surface. For example, did you know that we ESFPs share no cognitive functions in common with ESFJs, who differ from us by just one letter? In our hierarchy of functions, ESFPs have dominant extraverted sensing, auxiliary introverted feeling, tertiary extraverted thinking, and inferior introverted intuition. ESFJs, on the other hand, have dominant extraverted feeling, auxiliary introverted sensing, tertiary extraverted intuition, and inferior introverted thinking. It gets pretty crazy (and even more fun) when you consider the hierarchy of functions behind each of the 16 personalities. There are similarities between types that one would not imagine, based on the 4-letter designations.

Lol, ESFPs are often the butt of jokes in typology. Then again, I think a lot of people who say they're intuitives or thinkers are really just fooling themselves. For example, INTJs and INFJs are among the rarest types, and yet everyone online claims to be either. Of course, it could just be that the more common types don't hang out online as much, but I actually think it's both. :)
Also, a lot of people mistype themselves inadvertently; it took me a long time to figure out I was ESFP, mainly because of the stereotype of us being irresponsible partiers! I went through a phase of hedonism, but it got old pretty fast. And remember: thinking and feeling in typology refer to how you make decisions, and not how much you think or have emotions. I think all the time! :)