ESFPs and Other Personality Types
Kindred Spirits
People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ESFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.
Intriguing Differences
People of the following types are likely to strike the ESFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ESFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ESFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.
Potential Complements
ESFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ESFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.
Challenging Opposites
People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ESFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ESFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ESFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.
ESFPs in Love
In relationships, the ESFP is generous, friendly, sympathetic, and affectionate. ESFPs are eager to please their partners and motivated to create a fun, harmonious, and active home. They often enjoy family life tremendously and typically prioritize socializing with loved ones above all else.
ESFPs tend to avoid conflict and may have trouble being serious, preferring to move on with their active lives rather than have an uncomfortable discussion. They are tuned into the needs of the people around them, but prefer to do something constructive to take care of their loved ones, rather than spend time hashing out difficult issues.
ESFPs are supportive of their mates and try to take good care of their families, but can be impulsive as they pursue the pleasures of life. They may go where the wind blows and neglect to follow up on responsibilities. They are characteristically spontaneous and usually dislike a structured lifestyle.
ESFPs want a partner who supports them in their lifelong pursuit of fun and excitement. An ideal mate for an ESFP is affectionate and appreciative of the ESFP’s generosity and desire to be helpful to others.
ESFPs as Parents
As parents, ESFPs are loving, affectionate, and fun, and usually like to have their households full of people having a good time. They may have many children, and are good at responding to their families' practical needs.
ESFPs may be a bit unpredictable or scattered, and will prefer to engage everyone in a fun activity rather than impose rules or discipline. They do not tend to take life seriously, and often consider it more important to provide excitement and fun than to create structure or stability for their children.
ESFP Communication Style
ESFPs are enthusiastic, light-hearted communicators. They often love just interacting with people, with no particular goal in mind, and tend to keep conversations fun and full of laughter. ESFPs are free with compliments and energy, and and often draw people in with their positive approach and ability to observe other people’s needs. ESFPs are good problem-solvers when it comes to practical and interpersonal issues, but they tend to avoid negativity; discussions that turn to criticism or conflict will send the ESFP running.
Comments
Ambored (not verified) says...
this is actually very interesting!! I'm working on the protagonist of my story and i thought it'd be a fun change to make him an esfp since i tend to have my protagonists serious and introverted (me lol). it's a nice change to see life from this point of view. quick question, can esfp's get embarrased? And how do they handle it then?
heylol (not verified) says...
As an espf I can tell u that we do get embarrased but not infront of strangers more infront of the crushes, etc. Many handle it very differently but I think most us either hide it by being rude, funny, or just embrace being embarrased because they dont really care what people think of them. Hope this helps with your story!
Carolina (not verified) says...
I'm not sure about other enfps, but yes, we can get embarrassed we just tend not to show it. We normally just make a joke about it or just go along with the show and make an even bigger fool of ourselves.
Catherine Deloche (not verified) says...
They reply with jokes and humour
Esfp Mam (not verified) says...
Stop to think about this ...
as an serious person you wont have the imagination to produce the aesthetic flow of an esfp. Your book will really get shitty.
chas gitz ...
:*
As an espf-philosoph, i know what bad literature is. As a senser i feel screams of dispair while reading such shit. Keep it authentic & chill. N-type literature sucks always btw ... I cant imagine it working... but i am also s type
cordialement
ta mere
(i assume you have been raised in rich environment)
go home
go to work properly like every one else
dam
thrust in your phlegmatic corona romance and tell about it your friends
whuush
Kaboom blep (not verified) says...
I, personally, not very often lol💖
In situations i often know when others start feeling uncomfortable during the long pauses between topics so I just start blabbering the most random things and avoid feeling embarrassed?? I hope u get me idk how else to explain this 😂
btw this applies to every possible situation too 😂✨
Flora (not verified) says...
hello! my protagonist is esfp too. they do get embarrased, especially when no one laughs at their jokes.
brooke (not verified) says...
hey i'm an esfp and yes when no one laughs at my jokes i get SOO embarrassed so i just keep talking and saying other things so we can move past the joke quickly and kinda try to make it seem like i don't care or didn't notice? idk if this helps lol but yeah
Kaboom blep (not verified) says...
Not me lmfao I just change the topic, wouldn't say I'd be embarrassed
K8t83 (not verified) says...
I'm and INFJ female with an ESFP male friend, and we honestly get along really well. We are definitely opposites, but that tends to work to our advantage. We both have an uncanny understanding of how the other thinks and feels, and the result is a very protective, loyal, and compassionate relationship. Both have to be willing to have a very candid, open communication. Always allow the other person to speak freely, when they're ready. Really listen to them. Respect them. All these things will contribute to a healthy, success relationship between any two personality types.
Melissa (not verified) says...
I am an INFJ with my extraordinary ESFP . Same, same to everything K8t83 said. Often we are so overtly seemingly unlike each other that when friends eventually see us together they can't immediately comprehend why we are so close. But we know why.
Lisa-sevenofnine (not verified) says...
I'm an INFJ, also, and my coworker is a Performer. I love her enthusiasm for mystery - or anything, sense of fun, observations about others' behavior, great outfits, teaching capabilities, warmth and desire to make it fun for all, etc. She seems to like my perspective on things, but I'm willing to change to go with wherever she's headed because it's fun and she's very supportive of me. She's a delight to be around.
INFJ response (not verified) says...
Sounds like a strech for the ESFP.
Warnings of 'return to baseness/shallowness' during life path of the ESFP is to be expected.
Good luck!
A random INTJ (not verified) says...
This serious struck me after dating an ESFP for 5 months.
Daybreak (not verified) says...
The complete opposite of me (INFJ). Every ESFP has always been the complete opposite of me, we have never got on and out relationships were the worst roller coaster rides ever. Now I finally see why.
Coco (not verified) says...
Yep. I'm also an INFJ and ESFPs are just a big NO for me. My Mom was one and it was hell.
Sylvana (not verified) says...
INTJ with a very good ESFP friend. Works great - she gets me out of my shell and I listen to her. She respects my need for alone time and structure and order, and I respect her need for company and openess and people. We both discover worlds we wouldn't never have discovered on our own. For many years now. Its the connection that counts, not the type. Although MBTI helped us to understand each other much better.
Chei (not verified) says...
I have a Esfp friend and she's fun to talk to and I like to hangout with her sometimes, when I'm talking about idea or something unnecessary things to say like theory or I even just asking her opinion about something unnecessary too, she ignored me :/
She ever told me that I'm too perfectionist, but I'm not, I just like to create something with concepts and even create something with vague explanation.
But I like how her can stand with my spontaneity, cuz we both xxxP
i'm entp btw
sk.zhong.2014 says...
I Finally understood my ESFP Mother. My mom and I (I'm an INTJ) clash 95% of the time. As a result, I prefer not to live with her. I'll try to focus more on our shared interests rather than our opposites. Thank you for this!
DerAdel710 (not verified) says...
HAHAHAHA!!! Welcome to my life, sk.zhong.201...ESFP mother + INTJ son = world war 3
uhKamuii says...
I'm a ESFP and my mom and sister are intps... the pain is real not only to argue all the time but to be brutally beaten in almost every arguement the pain is real
Carolina (not verified) says...
I feel your pain. My dad and sister are intps
amandahun!! (not verified) says...
My twin brother and older sister are INTP's, it don't go well haha
Walteria28 (not verified) says...
If you need to vent or emotional support I can hear you out with my INFP nature
Myra (not verified) says...
INTJ Friend,
Totally resonated with you. But for me isn't my mom but my ex-husband. Only I found out we clashed on almost everything, but I'm glad that it's over. It'll never happen again-because opposite does attract but it also doesn't work!
Your INTJ friend
lilibean (not verified) says...
I'm an ESFP and my mom is an INFJ and while we don't clash all the time, I never really understood why we constantly disagreed with possible careers for me and what I would be more involved in. I finally took the test and showed her the results. She was shocked and immediately apologized for assuming a lot of what I preferred. We have since grown closer and I'm proud to say I can better understand her and where she was coming from.
mickeyTILLY77 (not verified) says...
that fits me to a t i can go into a bank or grsery store and crack up everyone BUT you know what happens living with that for 28 years gets you // A DIVORCE WE are children in adult bodies im 59 i still think i can play major leauge base ball im retired was a tree climber for 37 years freacken dont save a cent , motorcycle accident broke neck spine 4 months coma im still doing the same crap 7 back opperations im a moron but i have a very high iq go figure
Del (not verified) says...
O my god, it is true. I don't really care about being a manager or director and sitting for hours in the office with 8 to 5 working hours. I just wanna have fun in life and do things that I like, and yes it is correct too, I have several hobbies (belly dance, yoga, playing keyboard, sightseeing, etc). And yes sometimes they make me confused! I have left my good career and now working as a freelancer (yup, you're right again, low income) but I am enjoying life! And that's the most important (at least for now) lol.
But I don't really agree that about being in a spotlight, it's rarely happened. I like to be grounded as the test result says and that means, I don't really care about spotlight xD. I love this test tho. I have tried 4 tests, and 2 of the results are ESFP including this.
banana (not verified) says...
lol funny
Rares (not verified) says...
Hi. What do you work as freelancer? I am curious what type of freelancing suits ESFP people
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beep (not verified) says...
and thats the tea!!!
Kellermikey (not verified) says...
Well this describes me pretty well, so I'm a little bummed to find out airline pilot is one of the careers recommended against. That's what I'm currently in school for. wish me luck!
BG (not verified) says...
You would have the most entertaining airline announcements as an ESFP pilot.
Patrick Gubbay (not verified) says...
Skeet that yeet
batman (not verified) says...
I'm an INTP and my best friend is an ESFP. Says we aren't supposed to be friends lol
Desi44 (not verified) says...
When I meet new people I get almost exact sense of their intentions and it doesn't take long to get a quick look at their values. Honestly it’s never been wrong I just never understood to articulate it to someone else because I couldn't quite understand it myself. Are all ESFP’s like this?
GAS (not verified) says...
Wow! Me too. I feel like this. And I agree with our other esfp brother who says, " kids in adult bodies." That's so me. I am unfortunately very low on income, but love life and live for the next adventure.
S (not verified) says...
Yep! :)
Barbara Eden (not verified) says...
You're an empath like me!
Guest (not verified) says...
What is the best complement to an esfp in the workplace?
lisacoolen79 says...
Good Job! and Thank you!
Guest (not verified) says...
To all the ESFP girls, I need help!
I am an INFP male and recently started a relationship with an ESFP girl. We knew ourselves since 4 years, but never cared about each other until recently. Anyway, me and her like enjoying each others, but I really don't understand what kind of relationship there is between us. I would like a more romantic relationship, but I don't know how to approach her, and above all I can't understand what she thinks about me. I can't get if she is sending signals I should receive, or if she is just being kind, like she is with everyone. For example, last night we were at a party with music: she was dancing, and I was talking with friends. At a point, she comes to me and asks me to dance with her: I obviously accept and go dance with her (well, she dances, I try to), but after a few minutes she turns around and goes dancing with her (female) friends, leaving me veeery confused. It seems to happen every time: we get along together, she makes me think she has an interest in me, and then she leaves leaving me like a stone. I can't help but feel confused.
What do you think she means? What is she trying to tell me, or is it just my imagination? And, above all, how do you think I should approach her and how can I try to take the relationship to the "next level"? I am naturally very shy and humble, and I am hesitant to make the first move because I am afraid of ruining everything and blowing away every chance.
Thanks for reading this far, hope you can help me.
kendall says...
hey. i see that you are having relationship problems and i am here to help you. she is an outgoing and energetic person. she likes to go woth flow and do whatever, very spontaneous. i hate to say it but she might not really be looking for a relationship right now, and that's ok, but if you wanna tell her how you feel, do it, because if you don't soon she might just wanna be friends and go with the flow.
Lnowebb (not verified) says...
When she went to dance with others, she wasn't ditching you. She genuinely just wants to dance with everyone. I was thinking reading your comment, "take her dancing!" Before reaching the part about her asking you to dance.
and truthfully, she may be into you and too humble to sense that you may be into her too.
i vote dancing or skating, and some quiet time after to chat. Good luck!
An ESFP girl (not verified) says...
Well, I think shes just very social. She likes to be friendly with everyone and treats almost everyone equally. Dont be sad if she hugs guys (Unless shes not like that) becase thats her way of being friendly.
Guest (not verified) says...
I'm an ESFP girl and dating a INFP guy right now actually so I understand. In our relationship my boyfriend has always been the more steady and reserved one while I am quite the opposite. So we started our relationship with his persistence in wanting to talk and get to know each other. I often pursued him as well once we got a little further down the road. So to you I would just say stay persistent. Keep asking her to hang out or get coffee or try to talk to her. I'm sure she knows you like her and may like you but may not be sure about it. If she was sure and wanted to date you, you would know it. But outwardly the two types are pretty different so a relationship between the two does not come quickly. You just need to show her what you do have in common and that you are steady and will not be giving up anytime soon!
Don't blame her for leaving quickly though - that's just who we are as ESFPs. My boyfriend still has to deal with feeling like I don't want to talk to him or just left abruptly even though I don't see it as that. We just like to move around and can get distracted easily!
Hope that helps.
Keish (not verified) says...
Go for it and let her know otherwise she will think of you as weak and you will be friend zoned forever. I know this personality tramples all over weak types so you have got to man up while still being respectful and sensitive if you know what i mean. But definitely let her know and tell her you are much more than being friend zoned. Good luck i hope this reply is not too late.
magsbad (not verified) says...
I am an ESFP and I totally agree with Keish. I have to avoid men that appear weak, because I don't want to hurt anyone, and I have a tendency to use but not respect men that don't seem confident. I love men who are confident but not controlling.
lisacoolen79 says...
I am an ESFP girl and maybe she is just getting distracted! That happens with me! And you may just be in the friend zone....sorry! But if she was wanting to be more then friends she would let you know. Just ask her to "come here" and when she does, pick her up and plant a kiss on her, tell her you have been wanting to do that for years. Women like men who take control also (in a good way). If she doesn't like it, move on!
idk if this helps you may already be with her, but good luck in whatever you do!
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