Are ESFP and ESFP personality types compatible? See how ESFPs and ESFPs get along in this guide to ESFP/ESFP relationships. If you're an ESFP in a relationship with an ESFP, discover how you'll communicate, interact, and relate to each other in daily life.

How ESFP and ESFP Get Along

ESFPs and ESFPs have some common themes that often arise when they get to know each other. As an ESFP, you'll want to keep these issues in mind when you get to know an ESFP.

As a Sensing Perceiver type, your approach to relationships is perhaps the most straightforward of all the types—you look for connections with people who are up for joining you on all of life's adventures. You may tend to gravitate towards people with a similar background to yours, but you just as easily accept people from all walks of life, so long as you can enjoy your time together. You especially value relationships with people who share your hobbies and interests and a can-do approach to life.

Your counterpart is a Sensing Perceiver type, which means their core focus is enjoying the moment. In relationships, this means that they look for people that they have an easy synergy with, and often prioritize one thing: FUN. As an SP type, your counterpart doesn't think too hard about whether they connect with other people on a deep level. They're simply looking for companions to keep them company on this crazy ride called life.

The two of you share a casual, spontaneous approach to life and and interest in enjoying the moment. You both like to experience the world rather than analyze it, and you’ll probably bond when you discover the things you like to do together. 

Communication Between ESFP and ESFP

Communication can be a challenge between any two people, and communication between ESFP and ESFP personality types is not the exception. By being aware of the issues that often arise when ESFPs and ESFPs communicate, you can learn how to reach an understanding more quickly.

You're both energetic communicators, and you may find that when you're together, you're both eager to talk. While this can make for some lively discussions, it can also be frustrating because you may end up competing for the floor. It's important that when you're together, you both focus on being good listeners as well as sharing your own thoughts. This is something you can work on together, and it is a worthy task, as developing your listening skills will benefit all your relationships, not just this one.

ESFP vs. ESFP Values

Values are intensely personal, and while an ESFP and an ESFP can find common ground, there will always be some differences in what you hold dear. However, understand how your ESFP approach to values compares with your ESFP counterpart's will help you to appreciate and overcome your differences.

You are likely to feel a strong connection with this person based on your fundamental similarities in values. You are both warm and people-oriented, and you like to live out your values by focusing on realities and hands-on ways to help others. You prefer careers that require a sympathetic approach to people, such as education, healthcare and social work. Or, you may spend time volunteering for causes that are important to you. It’s likely that you both are active members of your communities.

However you manifest them, it's clear from the way you live that your ideals are important, and you'll tend to have an easy understanding of this priority for one another. That you both make decisions based on experience, and based on how other people feel and how you can fix things for them, means you probably will always be conscious of each other. You both have a down-to-earth style of communication so misunderstandings are rarely a problem.

Although you and your counterpart have a similar way of understanding things, it would be a mistake to assume that you’ll agree on all important matters. You both believe in tradition in the personal sense and are deeply loyal to your causes. If your traditions are wildly different, however, and you are loyal to competing causes, then you may find yourself having a heated debate. Both of you tend to get your feelings hurt when your beliefs are challenged, so you may find it hard to ""agree to disagree"" as you are both so loyal to what you believe. Take care that you are not avoiding necessary conflict and disagreements, as this is unhealthy for the quality of the relationship.

Fundamentally, you are both about defending tradition and supporting people, including each other. At your best together, you will joyously live in the present, drawing comfort and value from the things you care about in the here and now. You will prioritise your closeness and connection and seek harmony in your relations. You comfort more than challenge each other, and this makes it easy to find your way back from any issues that may arise.

Yet you should be careful to avoid being too grounded, and developing a linear, black-and-white way of thinking about things. There are many facets to your value system besides right and wrong, and you should try to be open-minded when listening to others’ viewpoints. Sometimes stepping out of the comfort zone is necessary to truly attain the things that make life worth living. If this relationship is important to you, you may have to work on goals you would not naturally prioritize in order to secure the best enjoyment of each other.

ESFP and ESFP in Daily Life

Lifestyle is an under-appreciated—but extremely important—element of compatibility. Your values and ideals may coincide perfectly, but if you can't agree on how to conduct day-to-day matters, your relationship will always have friction. As an ESFP in a relationship with an ESFP, you can expect certain issues to arise in your daily life. Discussing these in advance, and figuring out how to deal with them, will make things go much more smoothly as you develop your relationship.

You both enjoy people, and your lives probably make plenty of room for friends, family, and social events. You likely both have large circles of friends and many parties and get-togethers to attend. As you get to know each other, you'll probably be excited to introduce one another around your social circles, and you'll enjoy getting to know each others' friends and families as a way of deepening your own bond.

You likely share an energetic approach to life and an appreciation for staying busy. You both tend to feel most alive when you're getting out and experiencing the world around you. In fact, your calendars may be dangerously overbooked, as neither of you is likely to turn down an opportunity to get out and do something interesting. Keeping up with one another can be a challenge, as you both tend to be on the go. If your relationship is a priority, make sure your social schedule reflects that.

Your daily routine together can tend to be overly busy and lacking in time for reflection and introspection. You both like to be out and about, and the idea of spending quiet time alone doesn't often hold a lot of appeal. While this approach to life works well for both of you, be mindful of maintaining a balance. Even the most extraverted person still needs a bit of time to be quiet, think and reflect. And taking some time to focus just on each other will allow you to discover new aspects of your relationship.

You take a similarly unstructured approach to life and are fairly relaxed about schedules, plans and household systems. If you share space, it’s likely that neither of you will be motivated to take on household responsibilities. You both prefer to play first and work later, and there may need to be some discussion about getting the chores done.

Since neither of you want things to be fully planned and predictable, you’re rarely overwhelmed by disorganization. You both enjoy leaving room for creativity, and enjoy setting a pace together that will allow you to do things on the fly.

The two of you want to know who and where you are in the world, and you likely will share a fondness for upholding traditions you can respect and value. While you may not share specific hobbies, you both will be concerned with history and tradition and celebrating important rituals like birthdays and anniversaries.

For both of you, actions speak louder than words. You enjoy experiences and probably share a mutual interest in activities that will stimulate your senses or your body in some way, whether that’s cooking, bungee jumping or arts and crafts. In fact, you may find that doing things together is a great way to bring you closer.

You recall events as snapshots of what actually happened, and have a low tolerance for metaphorical language and esoteric thinking. You both live life in the moment, and are good at thinking on your feet. This mutual taste for ‘doing’ things in the here and now is stimulating for both of you, and helps keep things running smoothly between you. However, during periods of unplanned changes in your life, it's likely that you'll both be a bit hesitant and cranky. Bear in mind that future planning, with all its associated flexibility, is key to both of your long-term happiness.