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ESFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ESFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ESFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ESFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ESFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ESFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ESFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ESFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ESFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ESFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ESFJs in Love

In relationships, the ESFJ is supportive, nurturing, and reliable. ESFJs concern themselves with providing practical support to their partners and living up to traditional standards in a relationship: they want to be the "good wife" or husband based on traditional ideals.

ESFJs like an organized life and want their partners to participate in a structured, scheduled lifestyle. They adhere strictly to their own moral code, and want a partner who agrees with them on issues of right and wrong, should and should not. Conscientiousness is important to the ESFJ, and when they follow through responsibly on their promises, they expect the same from others.

ESFJs dislike conflict and are motivated to resolve it quickly. They prefer stable, harmonious relationships and like a partner who is able to be loving and committed, even when the ESFJ has strong emotional reactions. ESFJs appreciate a partner who notices their efforts to provide for their families, and commends them on a job well done.

ESFJs as Parents

As parents, ESFJs provide clear structure and loving boundaries. They are interested in providing a safe and stable home with adequate resources, and in instilling a strong moral code and work ethic into their children. They are extremely devoted to their children, and go to tremendous lengths to be sure they are provided for.

ESFJs often strongly identify with their children’s behavior, feeling tremendous pride when they succeed but an enormous sense of personal failure when they do not. ESFJs may become embarrassed and critical of children who do not behave as expected; they want their children to adopt and follow their own strong system of values.

For more information: Please Understand Me II

ESFJ Communication Style

ESFJs are enthusiastic and caring communicators, who want to engage people to contribute and accomplish what needs to be done. They tend to be friendly and to get along easily with others, although they can become frustrated with those who do not respond to their attempts to reach out. They have a good memory for detail, especially facts about other people, and enjoy getting to know people and understanding their needs. ESFJs are factual in their communication, but generally uncomfortable with criticism and conflict, preferring instead to provide support and encouragement to others.

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Guest (not verified) says...

creepily accurate !!

Amanda P (not verified) says...

my teacher made me do this....

zaddydaddy1234567891011 (not verified) says...

tbh this is way off and I dont agree one bit! this is horrible and i regret spending 20 minutes on here. thanks tho

JennyT says...

This is so true!! I took this test years ago and have always been an ESFJ. I recently started a position that has very minimal people contact and I gave my notice today. I need people!! I am also a licensed Realtor so I will focus on being the best Realtor I can be. 

 

Jennifer Thompson (not verified) says...

JennyT I am also an esfj and also a licensed REALTOR! 

iain (not verified) says...

hi

An INTJ (not verified) says...

I am an INTJ that lives with an ESFJ. And I can definitely say that yes we are total opposites and boy is it challenging to live with, haha. Love her but yeah, I get along better with this family member when we live a few thousand miles apart!

ESFJ (not verified) says...

Wow this result is so accurate, I dont know how they know me :D

Thanks, it was really good to see read about myself

Judith Norman (not verified) says...

wow so accurate ..amazing and I work in the medical feild go figure, I love people and helping them brings me JOY !!!

Brody (not verified) says...

This test is so inaccurate and was originally was made to be a bar game and then two people Mrs. Mires and Ms. Briggs made this test with no scientific background.

JohnnyJohnny (not verified) says...

HE IS RIGHT

RyanMitchell5 (not verified) says...

Definitely me ! 

Lessin says...

I feel that this personality type is the most likely to be taken advantage of. How can I do things to check myself to keep from being a door mat or being sucked in by a narcissist? In my immediate family, I think my mom is an ESFJ and I am an ESFJ and my sister is an ISFJ and we have all married and divorced narcissists. What can we do to be less likely to draw those people in?’

Employer Guest (not verified) says...

We've been interviewing for painters (specifically industrial painters, but many still have a background of sorts in commercial and residential painting) and part of our application process now (after previously hiring "on the fly") is to have candidates take an MBTI personality test. Time and time again a great majority (good and bad) come back as ESFJs with a smattering of ISFJs worked in.

Unfortunately many painters are notorious in their industry for having a combination of bad work habits/ethics in combination with a highly desired/well-paid/marketable trade (especially in the current economy). We've noticed a trend that when the scored percentage is low in the Judging (under 70%), that it really eflects in their work habits and even application follow ups. Just thought this was interesting enough to share based on our experience.

Stuart Haig (not verified) says...

I'm an ESFJ, and the careers section of this could not be more inaccurate (for me at least) if it tried to. Not a single one of the "good careers" listed intrest me in the slightest. In fact, I would run a mile from many of them (Teacher and Surgeon), and would simply destest doing others (HR Manager).

Oppositely, the carrers you list as to be avoided, are the ones I find the most interesting. I actually work as an Electrical Engineer (have been now for over 10 years) and absolutely love my job. I also like working with other engineers (Mechanical Engineer I note are also listed), and would be fascinated to listen to a Power Plant Operator or/and an Airline Pilot. 

Stuart (Scotland, UK) (not verified) says...

Load of crap! I am an ESFJ and despite what nonsense this says, I have been working as an Electrical Engineer for 11 years  ans I LOVE my job! Honestly, I can't think of a job I'd enjoy doing more, and, aside from other electrical engineers, I can't think of a better bunch to work with than civil and mechanical engineers, which I do in work on a daily basis. Not a single one of the jobs listed in the "good careers" even remotely interest me, and many I would just run a mile from.

This just furthers by belief of how poor the MBTI really is.

Ted says...

This test is very accurate.  Unfortunatley I am split between I and E, F and T, and J and P.  This makes it much more difficult to put me into one hole or the other.  Some online tools reflect the percentages of each of the types more than this tool does.  It might be helpful to add that to the results of this appraisal.

schuyler weatherly (not verified) says...

I found this very interesting about my personality type but i would like to talk to someone about this that has the same type of personality. If anyone would like to email me feel free because i would love to get to know more about my personality type from someone elde. 

Liz Chou (not verified) says...

Very accurate!! I also read that Tylor Swift is also ESFJ! Lol

Madason (not verified) says...

My friends an ESFJ and I, as an INTP, can tell you that we are exact opposites.

kaleigh hopkins (not verified) says...

I am esfj. It says i am sensitive and dedicated, and put my friends and family first. I am very dedicated to anything i do and am also sensitive. I agree with these results. I agree with all of the descriptions. The most inspiring thing was that Martha Stewart is like me too because me and my mom use to always watch her. The careers were nurse, counselor, and a social worker. I learned that i am caring and attend to an emotional environment.

Heidi C. Taylor (not verified) says...

This is very accurate and describes me very well. I share a lot in common with what this says about the ESFJ.

Guest (not verified) says...

OMG, it's really accurate and it helped me in deciding my gcse subjects according to my career. I'm lovin' it

Rick Dandes (not verified) says...

How did your personality affect you in school and later in your career? Was it a strength, a weakness or both?

Mucheru (not verified) says...

This seems like it is based on a body of knowledge it is true amazing and i think should be developed further to test gifts and talent at a very elementary level to shape career paths for children

DaSplosh (not verified) says...

My parents have always wondered why I do things like help people etc. I didn't even know why until I read my results from this test. After my parents read it, they said they felt as if they had overcome a barrier of misunderstanding about me, and I have become better friends with them since.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am an INFP and my significant other is an ESFJ and our compatibility can be a struggle but our differences make us fit together like a puzzle. For everything I lack he has as a strength and vice versa. Almost as if we are puzzle pieces that fit. It's easy for me to get down on life and want to with draw into myself and separate from the world and his outgoing positive mindset pulls me out of that. And when he is pushing him self too far to please others or is extroverted happy go lucky nature gets him going nonstop and he forgets to sit down rest and take time for himself my introverted cautious nature slowes him down and reminds him that it's okay to take a day off. The differences were hard to get used too but once we figured out how each other works there is not another kind of person that I would ever want to be with.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am shocked at this. I thought maybe I was mad for caring so much about people and also feeling so much need to have a loving family. I am a mother of one and my partner has two from previous relationships. I care for all my kids so much it sometimes worries my close friends cause the other kids were from my previous relationship. But after reading this I can confirm 98% I am not mad at all But I don't see black and white all the times and I am easy to welcome change if its explained to me well. I am a provider and I cant change that. My office is always having people walking in sad and leaving happy. I love my job. I am in finance but can never work in an organization that makes profit. I was NGO's and Charity Organisations that makes my day worth waking up and getting ready to see the work. But at times I feel like some people take advantage of my personality and use it in the wrong way. I would like to find out how I can then change that.

Muneca515 (not verified) says...

Very accurate except I don't feel like I think only black and white. But other than that it's extremely accurate.

Will Smith (not verified) says...

I find your website and information very helpful...especially when I'm working with students regarding career exploration. However, I've discovered that many of the careers listed with a link don't have information. :^(

Just thought I'd let you know.

Thanks,

Will Smith

Guest (not verified) says...

I have strong emmotions they are called senseativity, it bothers me because i can not handle such strong emmotions.
I sucks because i allways cry

dayzdoodle1125 says...

I really enjoyed this,
I am surprised at the accuracy and got a good laugh at seeing myself so clearly thank you

NAME? (not verified) says...

Do you guys really believe this?

Based on no scientific reserach, you believe this?
It like me putting few herbs together and saying it it will cure your sickness when in reality, I didnt do any sort of trial and error, I just put a label around a bottle, and wrote- number 1 in the country!!

Hope your getting a picture here

It is all pretty cool but dont really try to relate yourself to it because it doesnt measure your age, gender nor your socio economic status

Its just a general overview like the horoscopes

Guest (not verified) says...

That is very accurate

Guest (not verified) says...

I keep testing to the ISFJ, but the ESFJ is really more like me. Also the least appealing careers on ESFJ fit me to a T. Nuances! This is so helpful re situations where I tend to be too concerned about other people's feelings instead of accepting that it will all work out in the end.

Guest (not verified) says...

this thing is amazing!

babyllama (not verified) says...

I love this website it gets my hope up to different qualities. I have many qualities that I want to try now I never knew about them. I think this will be a really good site for y'all. Some of my classmates are sitting here saying what they might be because of this site. I hope you all like this site.

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow this is really amazing! It's really accurate it explains everything about me. :)

Guest (not verified) says...

YOOOOOO

Guest (not verified) says...

I, too would love to see an additional page to address the weak areas: Ie. how your personality type can lead to challenges in your career development and how to work on overcoming those.
I am only 2 points over on the scale between J and P so I read about both personalities to develop a better personal understanding.

Jack Guyton (not verified) says...

I appreciate your service.
I was very enthralled taking this test. I was more than amazed. I became confused by the way my iMac would go to incorrect pages and had to back track several times to be become more oriented. I also have ADHD which causes me confusion when I get harried.
I agree with the vast majority but did not agree exactly with just a few findings. As a whole this was exceptional well created and I appreciate the time and effort that was put into this vocation. You are to be congratulated!
I feel that you are a very benevolent and altruistic person. I am very humbled at your grace!
I wish there more persons such as your self. If their were more of your kind it would be a greater world that we live in. God bless you for your kindness!
Thank You Very Much,
Jack Guyton

Guest (not verified) says...

That is scaringly accurate!

Guest (not verified) says...

ON TARGET!!!! Suggest another page of inherent weaknesses to help the "blind areas" of each personality type. In addition, how various parental type upbringing
in general would skew some basic facits of this personality. IE> very strict, or lax parenting results. Very athletically gifted or uncoordinated impact on the male or female's personality. Sexual interests, or practices more common. Person this person would be attracted to or repelled by.

Diana Bryant (not verified) says...

This view of ESFJ got me to the T.

savannah smiddy (not verified) says...

I am an ESFJ. And the personality test is 100% accurate for me. It was a little weird that it is exactly what I am in college for.

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow pretty accurate

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow pretty accurate

Guest (not verified) says...

Can't believe it it's me
amazing I love it

Guest (not verified) says...

amazing

guest (not verified) says...

NOT ACCURATE AT ALL!!!

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