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How do ENFPs communicate?

ENFPs are enthusiastic, collaborative communicators who love exploring possibilites for people. They often enjoy getting to know other people and understanding what inspires them, and they are insightful about solutions to personal problems. Highly empathic, the ENFP can find something to identify with in almost every person they meet, and enjoys encouraging other people to develop and grow. ENFPs are typically optimistic and like to talk about opportunities for the future, motivating others to join them in their vision.

What are ENFPs like as partners?

In relationships, the ENFP is warm, encouraging, and emotionally engaged. ENFPs connect with others by sharing their feelings and experiences. They are expressive with their mates and want their mates to share openly with them.

ENFPs place great importance on personal development; they encourage their mates to pursue their dreams and want the same encouragement back. They are accepting of their partners as individuals and are unlikely to pressure their partners into being or doing anything in particular. On the rare occasion that they object to a mate's behavior, it's likely to be because their values have been violated.

Although they are quite sensitive, ENFPs can be guarded when it comes to their deepest feelings. They dislike conflict and are likely to withdraw rather than engage in a difficult discussion. ENFPs are flexible and supportive, and would rather find a way to connect than butt heads. They are creative problem-solvers, and can often come up with original ways to compromise.

ENFPs can sometimes be unpredictable, as they follow their inspiration wherever it leads. They can seem unreliable, although they are usually very responsive when a partner is emotionally in need. The ideal mate for an ENFP supports their creativity and caring for others, and expresses appreciation for the ENFP's unique qualities openly and often.

What are ENFPs like as parents?

As parents, ENFPs are creative and devoted. They enjoy creating new experiences for their families and want to inspire their children to grow as individuals. Although they can be very passionate in their ideas about correct behavior, they are not often strong disciplinarians; they value close relationships above all else and may avoid discipline for fear that it will distance them from their children.

ENFPs deeply value their role as parents. However, they tire quickly when subjected to mundane chores and demands from their children. They get the most joy out of parenting when they are connecting emotionally with their children and joining them to explore possibilities for the future.

ENFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Aria lorane (not verified) says...

I am the exact same way. I almost always like being with people, except of course when I am trying to find/analyze myself and others or a situation!

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm a single 50 year old single female INFJ trying to engage an 52 year old male ENFP who's been through a divorce and is a cancer survivor. Can anyone suggest how I can entice him out of the darkness? I feel deeply connected to him and refuse to stop trying.

Guest (not verified) says...

Yup, lingerie and wild sex. The promise of novelty and the pursuit of pleasure. Works for me every time.

smroudabush18 says...

BRUH LOL XD

Guest (not verified) says...

Give him time. He has been through A LOT. ENFPs seem to let all hang out through their out going nature. However, people mistake this as total transparency, thinking they are people who are not private. Nothing can be farthest from the truth. We keep our deep emotions, very very very guarded and close to the heart. It takes a while for us to trust people and believe people "get" us, especially after being through alot emotionally. Oddly for an extrovert, we require alot of alone time to get centered, especial after dealing with large amounts of stress. Besides, time, show him you believe in the importance of being true to yourself, and you understand the deeper meaning to life.

Parisian (not verified) says...

It's heartening to see in print that the mix of being extrovert and yet needing alone time is a recognized trait. Others are often surprised when I say that I'm quiet-shy and NEED alone time for thinking and refilling myself.

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow, yes. So true about deepest emotions and seeming extremely open but not really being so. Thanks for making me feel understood and part of a group. I realized too that the borderline nature of traits and confusion as to type must also be an ENFP thing.

Guest (not verified) says...

Do not give up on whatever you decide to try. ENFPs give in to prolonged pressure no matter how strongly we resist. Good luck!

ReikiRob (not verified) says...

As a 47 year old ENFP man who has been through divorce, I would agree with those who suggested to give him time and be with him as he goes DEEP in his cave. Knowing your are there waiting is HUGE for him. Novelty, change, and adventure can help, too. As a J, you want things to be planned and nailed down, though through his healing as a P, he wants to see possibilities and freedom to choose outcomes. Having INF in common, you can relate to how he is going deep and processing.

Are you familiar with The 5 Love Languages? Its a great book to share together. When you know the Love Language he prefers to hear, or receive, and the Love Language he prefers to communicate with, or give, you will be on the road to a deeper connection.

Guest (not verified) says...

Did you know that ENFP's are known as the most introverted extraverts? That is why a lot of you ENFP's think you're in between ENFP/INFP (I did too!), but your need for self-reflection is an ENFP trait.

Guest (not verified) says...

I got results that said I could be anything from ENFP to INFJ, and although I'm normally introverted, this rings strongest. So being an introverted extrovert make sense XD

Guest (not verified) says...

What type is the best match for an ENFP mate?

Cari (not verified) says...

Well, I have been happily married for over 33 years to an ISTJ. We just recently took the test and found out that we are not considered very compatible -well now..that explains a lot, haha! I LOVE being an ENFP and reading all these traits about both our types makes me feel so excited about the way I am instead of beating myself up for not being able to get things done as swiftly as he does, or being irritated at him for putting schedules before people's feelings. Actually, one thing I've always loved is he is tidy so does most of the cleaning/laundry while I am doing my creative work, hey that really works for both of us!

Kheira (not verified) says...

wOw ! I thought that the ISTJ is the least likely type that we ENFPs could get along with ! but you've proved that everything is possible and a good relationship doesnt require a specific science or rules, it in fact relies on the individuals and their true love and appreciation for each other.Thanks for sharing your experience :)

Dallas (not verified) says...

I'm an ENFP and my husband of 8 years is an ESTJ and when we clash, we clash hard. However, I do believe that like the article said it's due to our differences that cause us to learn from each other and complement our strengths and weaknesses. This is especially true of our parenting styles. Sometimes opposites can attract!

Guest (not verified) says...

Enfp married for 11 yrs to istj. It's about accepting our differences mine doesn't get me, gets annoyed by my inability to stick to one thing and .. well chaos. Lol his nickname for me is chaos but he loves my crazy ness, sincerity and putting others before me. I hate how stiff he is(11 yrs and i still cant get him to do something crazy) but love the reliability, dependable and trustworthiness. He's honest and always ready to help people. Even thought we recently divorced, we're still there for eachother and see the best in eachother. Why we divorced I'm sure some of you ask. I felt suffocated, I had to tame myself and hold back the crazy because he didn't like it, to him it's reckless. We didn't understand eachother, it's like speaking 2 different languages (S and N) and over time we were becoming more like siblings than husband and wife. To top it off we rarely argued and kept everything bottled up for yrs because we couldn't communicate and understand one another.

I'm glad your both happy with your istj and estj and wish you many more yrs together.

Guest (not verified) says...

I think it's kinda funny because my dad is an ISTJ and I'm an ENFP. We have a good relationship, but we are definitely very, very different from one another. He doesn't really get why I try to "analyse" people all the time, or why I am so curious about figuring out the various aspects of people's personalities and how and why they fit together and influence the entire person. He's a great dad, though. I wouldn't trade him for any other.

Guest (not verified) says...

...wow. so me. seriously, you just described me and my dad perfectly.

Guest (not verified) says...

Well, my dad is an ISTJ, and though we don't always understand each other and definitely have different personalities, we still love each other and get along well.

Jamie88 (not verified) says...

I being an ENFP have been married for nearly 2 years and together for 8 with my wife who is an ISTJ. All things I have read state that these two personality types are polar opposites and we have certainly clashed over things but I truly believe that its like the Ying and Yang in that we've certainly being able complement and learn from each other. Its awesome to hear how your relationship seems so similar to ours!

Israel G (not verified) says...

Wow. I've been married to an ISTJ for 37 years. And it's been a wild ride. I guess being an ENFP has kept me grounded.

smroudabush18 says...

IDK man im trying to find a girl too dude.

Guest (not verified) says...

INxJs are said to be the best romantic matches for an ENFP. However, it is not a guarantee that any two types will possess romantic feelings for the other, let alone even get along with them. MBTI is not one's whole personality - it's a look into how one thinks and processes information, and kinda relies on stereotypes (e.g. all INFPs are fuzzy little angels). What I'm trying to say is, many other factors contribute to the attraction and harmony two people may feel - not just someone's type - and two types that are said to be romantic matches may in fact hate each other's guts due to different values or whatever.

Astrid Lean (not verified) says...

Man, I LOVE bing ENFP.

claymoulder says...

:0)

Guest (not verified) says...

honk

Guest (not verified) says...

can I, an ENFP, be a helicopter pilot? I did not see anything for this technique in the system. Not even in the least popular jobs.

Guest (not verified) says...

16 Shades of Love!

Has anyone noticed that we represent the 16 sides of GOD's Love in; 1 Corinthians 13:4-8?

1. Long Suffering - ISFJ
2. Kind - ISFP
3. Envieth Not - ESTP
4. Vaunteth Not Itself - ISTP
5. Not Puffed Up - INTP
6. Doesn't Behave Itself Unseemly - ISTJ
7. Seeketh Not Her Own - ENFJ
8. Not Easily Provoked - ESFP
9. Thinketh No Evil - INTJ
10. Rejoiceth Not In Iniquity - INFJ
11. Rejoiceth In The Truth - ENTP
12. Beareth All Things - ESFJ
13. Believeth All Things - ENFP
14. Hopeth All Things - INFP
15. Endureth All Things - ESTJ
16. Never Faileth - ENTJ

Had to go KJV for the poetic feel, :) lol... baring in mind though I feel we only truly resonate these qualities at full wack when we're closer to GOD, through the Holy Spirit...

Guest (not verified) says...

This is so interesting! Thank you:)

Israel G (not verified) says...

How refreshing to find so many “mini-me”. For years I have felt like fish out water. My artistic self, wanted to be a designer or an architect, but my family’s needs led into engineering. I was cast into an environment filled with judgmental, insensitive, thinkers. For 30 years I put up with that crap. Thinking I was free to be myself after retirement, I’m finding that most of family and friends are STJs. Help!!!

kent Korth (not verified) says...

I am trying to locate the section in which the topic identifies key components of a person when they are part of a team

Guest (not verified) says...

George Carlin is an ENFP. F-YES!

Guest (not verified) says...

Well, just got my test results and I've been reading the entire ENFP page and I certainly hope this is accurate because personally ENFPs sound pretty awesome!

DylanENFP (not verified) says...

I am about to graduate as a teacher. My two subjects are English and sociology. Teacher, writer and sociologist are three of the recommended careers. Gosh, I love being an ENFP!

gelpii says...

Hello my ENFP brothers and sisters. Please allow me to introduce myself. My name Israel, but my friend call me Izzy. I'm a Baby Boomer which grew up in NYC. I'm married with two growth children. I enjoy sports and hobbies that involve an element of risk. I'm an adrenaline freak. I love all type of music and art. I love the arts, but my mental dis-organization doesn't allow me to stay focus on anything long enough to master the skill.

As ENFP I have been misunderstood most of my live. I'm not a logistical thinker, I allow my intuitions lead me. I try not be judgmental because even our worst enemy needs our compassion. I believe in the "Golden Rule." I believe all beings seek happiness and harmony - even those that choice to hate.

If you're like me I would like to hear from. I believe that a person can never have too many friends.

Guest (not verified) says...

The wage gap bull is just that, bull. Any professional economist will tell you it is. Generally speaking, men spend more time at work, are 9x more likely to die at work, and choose higher-education requiring fields.

Note: this is most commonly the case, but not ALWAYS the case.

Guest (not verified) says...

I took the test and it explained me perfectly

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm definitely an ENFP but I am a very good with disciplining children. Kids who know me - as in kids that I have watched or been in charge of multiple times- know that my word is law and if I say to do something, you do it. And they know that I have no problem taking away privileges and that I don't give in or compromise when it comes to discipline. I'm not necessarily authoritarian, but I am very calm and firm.

victoriae (not verified) says...

We took the Myers Briggs test my freshman year in high school and I got ENFP, 5 years later and I'm still an ENFP.

Guest (not verified) says...

i gave the personality test 2 times and i came enfp... with 51% of "p" so i think sometimes i am enfj. but i dont think i am extrovert everytime. actually when i am new to some place i feel like i am an "i".i am confused!

k.hatton says...

I totally agree with all of this information. ENFP personality explains me to a TEE. I seem to find that many people think we are open books that let everything out, which is definitely NOT the case. Most ENFPS can agree when i say this, we are a lot deeper than we look/act. We read between the lines, find all possibilities, and don't forget, we don't just have one perspective. we pretty much have all the point of views you can imagine, and we are most likely not BIASED, because others opinions probably took as long to create as our own, so we take yours into consideration. No, we do not blab about everything we think about. Due to our introverted side, we are naturally some-what intoverted thinkers, and we don't usually say things we are thinking outloud, unless the other person will take value from it. We usually stick to things a lot longer than others observe.
Yes, we are Out-going, Original, Caring, Social, happy-go-lucky people. Due to this we are excellent socializers. Most of the time while we are talking to you, we try to spark up a personal topic, of course, we are still capable to be crazy weirdos in conversations, but we prefer talking 1 on 1 and getting personal, talking about your goals, past, and opinions.
One of the things that people seem to confuse is our emotional IQ, yes, things do trouble us, but being ranked highest on the statistics for "Emotional IQ" (How we deal with problems) people tend to think that we don't really care, when in reality, we are some of the most sensitive people in the world, but yet again, due to our introverted side, along with our high EQ we tend to figure things out a lot faster than people on an emotional level.

Princess Bubblegum (not verified) says...

HAHAHAHA I am really mistaken in my first attempt to know me, first I was an ENFJ I dunno whats with it but it doesn't seem to be me then I took the test again with a clear mind. So there! [ENFP] suddenly everything made sense more than ever.

Hemen (not verified) says...

Guide/Help me please,
I am a mechanical engineering student, its my last year of graduation. Im an average in the results, i know im not the perfect or best at engineerig, but i ain't also the worse, average, neither bad nor that good. Till now,i didn't know of my personality traits and what im good at, but after reading this i just got a little counsel ,for myself. But the problem is that, now i fear that i wont fail at engineering jobs since, less possibilities are shown for us in engg. And im scared i wont do good as a mech engineer, because i want to have a good career and bright future ahead.

Guest (not verified) says...

I was always told I was an ENTP, and the first time I took the test, that's what I got. But then, after taking it again (and many different ones) I got ENFP every time! I read it and kept saying "this is so me it's creepy!"

Apier (not verified) says...

I am very artistic by nature so it's no surprise to me that I'm an ENFP

Amy V. Johnson (not verified) says...

This is very accurate of me. It really describes me very well and hit the nail on the head in several important areas all around.

Nei (not verified) says...

Its funny how accurate this is and it still continues to shock me because of how the references in the career field suit my best interests.

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow, finally, I discovered I'm an introverted extrovert!! I've always been so confused by my ability to connect easily with almost anyone, but my desperate need to spend lots of time alone. Lots of people here have noticed that they're excited about making plans but can't get excited on the day - SNAP!! Thanks everyone for making me feel normal

heyworlds (not verified) says...

I'm an INFJ and you are my favorite type truly if I was to write a novel , I will chose the hero to be Enfp

Pär Wilhelmsson (not verified) says...

It's kinda funny. During my days in school I was very introverted and kept mostly to myself during breaks. At my first job I came to understand how people in groups could get along quite well without any drama and when I finally moved by myself to a new city (to a new job) I suddenly became more aware how I was fond of being with people from different backgrounds. After three years in that city I went from INFP to ENFP and the results are unbelivable spot-on! During my teenage years I drawed manga almost every day and listening to music was a huge part of my life. The only strange thing I don't get is that I love my work as an electrician? Maybe it has something to do that I keep meeting new people at the different workplaces I go to?

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