Both of you share a deep empathy and compassion for others and probably make plenty of time in your lives to be of service to your family, friends and communities. You both enjoy jobs that allow you to help people, in health care, social services, education or the like, or you both may spend time volunteering for causes that are important to you. However your sympathy plays out, you’ll both agree that the thoughtful helping of others is an important value for you.
Where you differ is how your values are directed. You are a deeply idealistic and so passionate about what you believe. You can easily imagine how the world could be a better place and enjoy empowering others to explore possibilities, whether they act on these ideas or not.
Your counterpart has a similar value system, but theirs is more practical and logical. They show their concern through pragmatic solutions, delivered in the here and now, such as giving a helping hand to a friend in need. They offer support that can be useful immediately—that’s today instead of someday—since, for your partner, it’s important to see a tangible result to their actions.
For your partner, then, the instinct to serve is born of a sense of dutiful social responsibility rather than the empathetic heartache that's more familiar to you. There is no reason why the two approaches cannot exist side by side, although you may find your partner’s approach too traditional and closed to new ideas (“that’s not how we do it”) when you’re considering ways to tackle problems. While you’ll appreciate your partner’s tender heart, you may worry that they lack a higher purpose.
There’s an opportunity here to introduce one another to new ways of thinking. You both excel in sticking to values that are important to you, but your partner can help you understand the practical reality of these values. On the flip side, you can help them gain a passion for big ideas, and take a more well-rounded approach to how they see the world. The challenge for you is to not get too annoyed if your partner tends to value tradition and the wisdom of lived experience much more than you do, instead of using creativity and imagination to forge a better way.