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ENFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFPs in Love

In relationships, the ENFP is warm, encouraging, and emotionally engaged. ENFPs connect with others by sharing their feelings and experiences. They are expressive with their mates and want their mates to share openly with them.

ENFPs place great importance on personal development; they encourage their mates to pursue their dreams and want the same encouragement back. They are accepting of their partners as individuals and are unlikely to pressure their partners into being or doing anything in particular. On the rare occasion that they object to a mate's behavior, it's likely to be because their values have been violated.

Although they are quite sensitive, ENFPs can be guarded when it comes to their deepest feelings. They dislike conflict and are likely to withdraw rather than engage in a difficult discussion. ENFPs are flexible and supportive, and would rather find a way to connect than butt heads. They are creative problem-solvers, and can often come up with original ways to compromise.

ENFPs can sometimes be unpredictable, as they follow their inspiration wherever it leads. They can seem unreliable, although they are usually very responsive when a partner is emotionally in need. The ideal mate for an ENFP supports their creativity and caring for others, and expresses appreciation for the ENFP's unique qualities openly and often.

ENFPs as Parents

As parents, ENFPs are creative and devoted. They enjoy creating new experiences for their families and want to inspire their children to grow as individuals. Although they can be very passionate in their ideas about correct behavior, they are not often strong disciplinarians; they value close relationships above all else and may avoid discipline for fear that it will distance them from their children.

ENFPs deeply value their role as parents. However, they tire quickly when subjected to mundane chores and demands from their children. They get the most joy out of parenting when they are connecting emotionally with their children and joining them to explore possibilities for the future.

ENFP Communication Style

ENFPs are enthusiastic, collaborative communicators who love exploring possibilites for people. They often enjoy getting to know other people and understanding what inspires them, and they are insightful about solutions to personal problems. Highly empathic, the ENFP can find something to identify with in almost every person they meet, and enjoys encouraging other people to develop and grow. ENFPs are typically optimistic and like to talk about opportunities for the future, motivating others to join them in their vision.

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BradyBoy (not verified) says...

Currently 16, I have no idea what I want to do. I have researched and researched and have no idea. About a year ago, I was taking college level Psychology and took this test. At that time, I had gotten ISTJ. I took the test again today and got ENFP-T. This makes me question what I want to do. If I was able to change that much within a year, will my passion for the profession I decide on change just as fast? It really is a bad situation and I have no idea how to explore what I want to do.

Kel Nicole (not verified) says...

 Wow! You fellow ENFPs are the answers to my prayers. Everyone in my life are either INFJ, like my mom and boyfriend or INTJ like my sister and best friend. They love me for who I am but I'm perplexing to them. They don't see what I see. Reading all these comments made me realize how many "me's" are out here feeling and thinking the way I do. I feel like I'm not alone. 

I am not going to take up too much of you guys time telling you my story because we all have the same common, we don't know what we want to do because we enjoy so many different things. But no matter what, we want our life to matter. We want to help other people. We can see how everything is connected to everything else. And we are not willing to sacrifice our authenticity or violate our core values. I would have to say go easy on yourself and give yourself time. Consider going to college just to gain knowledge and experience but maybe not necessarily a degree. That way you will learn more about yourself. So that when an opportunity does come around you'll have what you need to make the decision that is best for you. And that is something no one will ever be able to take away from you. So gain knowledge and opportunity will come. I hope everything works out for you. All of you for that matter. The world needs us more now than ever. People need us to be our authentic selves to show them the way. I love myself and I love you ENFP's too

Donna J Biggs (not verified) says...

Ditto, Kel! Beautifully stated as only one of us could. We are TRULY the light and joy and compassion so very needed at this time.

We all must keep Faith, hang Strong. Be the Change... Lordy, lol,been are ALL ABOUT Change.

You inspired me.

Lindsey98 (not verified) says...

Have you considered that maybe you were in a mood or mental state that is different than the other time you took the test, or that maybe your hormones are just changing? Being in an emotional high or emotional low could contribute to your test results being skewed. I point that out because an ISTJ and an ENFP are complete opposites in every way, and it seems unlikely that every aspect of your entire personality would change that much. My advice to you is not to panic about it too much, and to take some time to read over descriptions of each MBTI type, and think deeply about who you are and what types you seem to relate to most, and go from there. Maybe take the test again on a day that you really feel like your truest self. In regards to your profession, at 16, you don't have to have it all figured out, I promise! You are light years ahead of the game even thinking so seriously about it right now. Get to know yourself first, and the right profession for you will reveal itself through time, possibly even during or after college, if you decide to go that route. It is totally normal to feel the way you do right now, so don't stress too much about it!

Shalon Vazquez (not verified) says...

Not sure if you will read this, but after reading your comment I had to reply...

I am 43-  I am graduating with my Master's degree (MUCH later than most, I know LOL), and I had to take this test for my class in Human Resources. :)   I was JUST like you at 16 & yes, your preferences and personality will change over the years; however, there are similarities at the core of who you are and that will not really change too much.

My humble and VERY honest suggestion (what I WISH someone would have told me)-  act as a volunteer, shadow in different businesses, roles, etc., study what different careers do, meet with a career coach at your college (heck, go meet with several!), and get on LinkedIn and network with professionals that you can talk to about what they do (related to careers you would like to have).  You are young enough that all of that will help you narrow down what you actually want to pursue as an "adult".  

Trust me- while it has been enjoyable to work in all the industries that I have, and I have learned A LOT, you do not want to just randomly land into different jobs without a focus/purpose.  The competition in the market is fierce, and globalization is making the workforce more complex... you need to know "you", your passions, and then start early enough to become a subject matter expert (later in your career) in order to develop & succeed.

If you read this-  feel free to reach out to me on LinkedIn, I can help you with a multitude of resources that I have discovered along the way.  Best of luck!!

MessyWessy (not verified) says...

Don't stress so much; it's not a horrible situation. You are discovering yourself. You have time to figure out what you want to do. Your passion could change. If you decide on going to college, then you can figure it out there. Decide what classes interest you, talk to other people, and definitely consider what type of life you want. I'm 18, and I don't have everything figured out. Originally, I wanted to be a fertility doctor or therapist, but I'm considering other options because I don't want to spend so much of my life in school, at work, and tired. I'm too passionate about having a family and enjoying life's adventures to take on such a time-consuming job. I may do something similar and less demanding, or I might go into business because I love people. I'm just doing prereqs right now, and I'm on track. Honestly, just think about what you want and form connections with people and learn about their similar interests. 

Just another person (not verified) says...

Hey! This is a typical ENFP trait. Don't worry you're still so young. Go with your interests now - the things you study won't hold you back! If your interests change in the future, so what? You're more than capable of achieving your dreams, don't you worry. 

bx3r1 says...

Being somewhat naive and uneducated,  I'm amazed that I needed to answer (obviously well crafted) questions to acknowledge who I am. Didn't I know? I must have if the results are determined by my input. I guess it's good to articulate my traits as long as I don't let that definition define or limit my freedom to be who I am. I would be interested any thoughts on what the real value of this objective view of my subjective life is. :)

john says...

it's hard define exctaly who we are ,we always evolveing ,but consider it some bit of usefull information on pattrens we may have,when you know a pattren you can then get over it,in the intense life we all live it's impossible to track all pattrens as we have tasks and dutys to do,everyone has glitchs and flaws but when you aware of them can get over them and go on evolveing,i wouldn't suggest you limit yourself but just take usefull information that ring true to you and use it,ultimately speaking from my cause i am not just a pure infp and enfp i am mixed (atleast that what the test say),but we always can change if we really wish it's not set in stone that the essence of meaning of spiritual evolution always grow always make something better of yourself.

r2d2pt2 (not verified) says...

brilliant questions. love the sarcasm. nice answer as well.

KSMARTIN (not verified) says...

Hi there! Today, I help students get into college and I find that this tool really helps students put words to what they "might" know down deep. Some people are born with a gift of strong self-awareness, others, like myself, had a longer road than most in harnessing my natural abilities. Does a young person always know they are analytical? Do they understand why they love to question and debate (everything). Does a person who doesn't think of themselves as "artistic" consider themselves creative? Do they know that they have the ability to "think out of the box" or are excellent problem solvers? I certainly didn't before my first job in a bank (that thankfully tested me!) In college I began to study computer science, then moved quickly to accounting because I liked math (and my mother was an accountant). After a year I thought it unexcitinng and frankly, despite straight A's, I didn't think I was great at it. You see, I have a hard time seeing details. I changed to marketing thinking it would be a better fit to my extraversion and people skills. Passionate for literature, art and music, I studied comparitive literature as an elective and ended up double majoring (which by the way requires analytical skills to understand economic/cultural/social influences on art). I ended up being a financial/market analysist and vdirector of strategic planning for a major multinational. Being an ENTP, I'm a big picture person to the extreme who has a significant skills in seeing trends, relationships, and behaviors.  I've also been a successful entrepreneur (ideas!). Also, if you read the details of your personality,  it may help you understand why you don't get along with certain people or maybe understand the best way to learn (not everyone is great in a classroom). Self-reflection and self-awareness provides a better understanding of your emotions, strengths, weaknesses and driving factors. Socrates said "The unexamined life is not worth living". Well, maybe a life not lived as well or as fully. 

embracelife (not verified) says...

I'm a sophomore in college but left halfway through fall semester and took spring semester off because I didn't really know what I was doing there. You are supposed to declare a major sophomore year after taking classes in a variety of fields freshman year. I know I need to be doing something creative, but I also grew up poor and am very afraid of not making any money in the arts so that ruled out Acting, Graphic Design, Fashion Design, Architecture, Art History, Music, and Fine Arts, all things I was interested in. I was thinking of doing Computer Science because it has the creative problem solving I like and I'm good at it, but tech is known to be a sexist field. I also have problems with authority, so I had a hard time going to office hours or asking for help in CompSci classes so I did pretty badly. I also didn't want to put the effort into it if I knew that it wasn't my long term goal which I now realize was stupid. My other idea was going into Filmmaking but my problem there is that I'm afraid to give it a shot because I want to do it so much. Okay I know that sounds dumb but if I put everything into it and I end up being bad at it, I don't know if I'll be able to recover from that. It feels like everything in my life has lead me to Filmmaking as a career but successful female directors are rare and I don't want whatever I do to just seem like a bad high school movie project. More than anything I'm afraid that any film I make will be cringy which I guess is the hallmark of any first film, but with my crazy anxiety and perfectionism, anything less that an award winning first film will feel like too big of a failure to come back from which is obviously impossible. A few months ago I also thought Game Design/Programming was what I was Meant to do, but I took a few classes and hated them. I guess I am setting impossible standards for myself then not even trying to reach them because I can see how impossible it would be to reach them. For example, I also pondered taking the LSAT and becoming a lawyer, but as someone who did zero studying for the SAT and ACT, I know that I wouldn't study and would therefore not get a perfect score, and what would even be the point of going to law school if I wasn't going to the best law school, so instead I gave up that dream to avoid that inevitable failure. I see myself in the absract as someone destined for greatness but in the very real present as someone who can't accomplish the simplest of tasks so my delusions of grandeur immediately fall apart. So of course the perfect people to help are the people in the ENFP Careers comments, not a therapist or anything. 

Alan Barber (not verified) says...

WOW - sounds so much like me in my early college days.  I wanted something creative out of HS but also had advanced HS classes in Math/Science.  I started out in Architecture but ended up obtaining a BFA in Studio Ceramics (Texas Tech, 1969) after a detour to a few schools in NorCal.  The fact is, don't worry about the money, just find a way to pursue whatever you settle on, your highest passion at the time.  In fact, your passions and interests over time will change and MANY creative people have multiple careers in their lives.  It is never too late to change careers!  I became interested in film 1988/99 and began to study that.  I have made one film since (Six Man, Texas, 2008) and now work with Austin Film Festival as a Script Competition Reader (volunteer).  I also have a writing partner and am working on four scripts that I plan to find a way to Produce.  Every road you take is rocky, so do not worry about the downside, focus on what you want and keep your eyes on the upside potential of what you are passionate about.  You are young, you have time.  I am now 75, have survived a stroke and cancer and spend 75% of my time immersed in film projects of some kind.  You have time - and no excuse to not GO FOR IT!!! Do what you really want and when you are 75 you will be glad you did.  And, if you are still in your early years of college, go to Film School, I wish I had gone there.

EWebbe (not verified) says...

embracelife, I am in the middle of a project and came upon your post. It struck me that you are so affected by stereotyping that your lack of confidence seems like Pygmalion Effect. You will likely not succeed if you are always reminding yourself that "people" say someone like you will not do well. I would suggest starting with Jordan B Peterson's book 12 Rules for Life (the audio version is free on Youtube). If you truly want to embrace life like your name implies, then you should embrace your strengths and weaknesses, be brave, be bold, and do something of value.

Velina Killmeyer (not verified) says...

I too struggled with what to do with my life. I wanted to be passionate about my career and l also didn't want to be poor. I wanted to work for myself and be able to express my creativity. I ultimately wanted a career in healthcare with a high degree of flexibility and to never let myself get bored doing the same thing day after day. I am happy working as a critical care travel nurse and investing my money in real estate. I own and manage five apartments. I am self employed as a travel nurse and landlord. I enjoy the thinking and physicality of critical care nursing and the income diversity of being a landlord. I renovate houses, add bathrooms, design landscaping on the side. My life is never boring and l think my work is productive and creative enough to suit my personality.

Afellowdreamer (not verified) says...

Oh man, I identify with that so much. I'm going into my senior year of high school and I'm trying to figure out where to go to college and what to do as a career. I also love the arts but I also plan to do something else as a major, and I understand the sentiment of "if I don't go to the best school then I'm wasting my time and money" and "if I don't make something that looks good then what am I doing". If I were going into film, I would feel the EXACT same way as you. Here are some thoughts that have helped me, hopefully they could help you out too? 

1. ultimately a ton of schools will give you a great education. The classes at the community college I'm going to are good, if I had to go there for college I would probably still feel capable of entering the workforce in whatever major. People put a lot of emphasis on the top schools but there are some good professors and good classes pretty much everywhere. Ultimately most schools are qualified to teach you what you'd need to know.

2. Classes will teach you how to be good at what you want to go into. Yes, talent exists, but you don't already have to be good at something before you decide to major in it, because the class is supposed to teach you how to be good at it.  The fear of teachers and authority is something I understand also, and unfortunately that's just a thing you'll have to overcome by just diving into those office hours... but once you try it once it'll probably get easier. For the arts especially there are also YouTube tutorials and other internet resources that can also help you out. 

3. there are people who didn't go to college who are still successful. If what you are doing doesn't work out, there are still things you can do, jobs you can have. Failure isn't the end of the world unless you let it be. 

um so there are my words of encouragement, I understand how you're feeling completely and ultimately you're just going to have to pick something and run with it, run as fast and hard as you can, because it's better to do that then to just stay in indecisive limbo forever 

I'm told that optimism is a bad comforting method and it's toxic positivity and whatnot but I am sorta offering it anyway because my brain thinks it's being helpful by being optimistic and I haven't convinced it otherwise yet

hopefully I at least didn't make it worse lol 

thank you for listening to by Ted talk *bows* 

Cristina (not verified) says...

Hey. Wow. All my life I liked music. But also I like in childhood acting,dancing,writing ,maths,then I went to Japanase study when what I really wanted was to sing and have shows but I compared myself to others who did have singing classes since an eatly age so I did not go to a singing hightsvhool I did not even consider it. Now I m having lesfoms amd I want to sing on the streets this August or on the beach.Yes Yes!  Good luck!

Insynctive (not verified) says...

Yoooo im in my Junior year of college right now and all of which you typed was like you just wrote out my whole life in college. I went from Biochemistry to wandering about finance, law, mathematics, maybe go for travelling. Ultimately I still couldn't choose....doing something new and moving on was all I did these past 2 years of college. Shoot me an email, we should talk. 

Watafail (not verified) says...

Yup. Currently going into my third year in college. Got in for mechanical engineering and am still attempting that, but currently struggling and questioning whether I chose the right field to begin with.

Ureman (not verified) says...

Change the way your learning. Try Master and Apprentice. Could do this in film to. Reach out until you find someone you can engage with on a personal level at work. There's many ways into film who knows what it will be. They often feed you to, so you can work and not starve, no matter how poor.

It takes a lifetime (not verified) says...

Hi all you ENFPs - I was quickly reading throught the comments here and I would like to say that as a 58 year old ENFP, I'm seeing a common connundrum here: the desire to pick "one" thing that you do. Right now society is very big on the following, particularly among those under 50:


"Doing what you were meant to do, i.e. "passion""

And for the younger - being famous or doing something particularly outstanding is a strong desire due to social media.

Here's the problem with that: as an ENFP you are unlikely to be able to maintain focus on just one thing - life is just too "BIG" for that....which makes star level, big achievements difficult. Yet, I completely and totally understand the desire to have life feel meaningful and intense. I believe this struggle continues throughout life, but given society's values right now, it appears to be becoming particularly paralyzing for younger people. Given our zest for "living" there are just too many "what ifs" that fill our brains and we just cannot commit for fear of missing out. Also keeping dreams of alive is very important to us (I think) - which can look like fear of failure. There is no easy answer - and that is life for everyone - just different challenges depending on who you are. I recommend trying to embrace your core self and not one particular goal that may take years to achieve. This doesn't mean you can't achieve a lot, but let it happen organically and just try to focus on what you feel like doing today or in the near future and balance that with your basic needs. As much as social media has made "doing amazing things!" seem possible, it is such a small, small, small portion of the world that actually does that. You have to find value within - which is a lifetime process.

LOL - Prior to filling out this comment and after reading the ENFP description, I thought "I don't want to help others reach their creative potential...". Guess I do to a certain extent - I'm just old enough now to have enough confidence to feel my thoughts are finally legit.

smm1000 (not verified) says...

I have never understood myself or talked to other people like me until I read this comment section. Currently a senior in college about to receive a degree in marketing yet I have no passion for marketing and no clue what I want to do. A part of me wants to follow a career where I can use my creativity towards things that I am passionate about and come up with big ideas rather than sitting at an office job, but I dont even know what kind of career this would be. I also would love to be able to travel year round and just work side jobs or teach english, but another part of me wants to stability and certainty of a full-time job. I know I have the people skills and background to work in marketing, but I have a fear that not following my dreams with prevent me from realizing my life's purpose... I just dont know what that purpose is. Does anyone else sit around and fantasize about the future or is that just me??

Bracken (not verified) says...

I wonder the same thing bro 

so many interests... (not verified) says...

This is very encouraging, thank you! I'm sort of starting to realize this at 27... that I can have my artistc passion but it doesn't work for me if it's my ONLY thing, and I don't think I'll actually be able to put the amount of energy into it that I need to by making it my only thing. About to go back to school, partly in the hope of more financial stability but also just to keep things varied, which in turn I think makes me more invested in my artistic interests. The idea of having to work hard at one thing and make it big at that is so not helpful for ENFPs. 

Rata (not verified) says...

Wow, you sound like me. I'm 40 years old now and struggled to complete school due to poverty. I wanted to go to film school but couldn't afford to move cities.  I started a diploma in interior design but couldn't complete it because I thought the sales class was too much like manipulation. 
I fell into stripping, loved the dancing and the attention. Then I got a break with an event company doing a traineeship in AV, 3 years studying and on the job learning audio, projection and lighting, it was great, lots of young people, lots of freelance workers who also crossed over into film. I made friends and we entered short film competitions. 
I stayed in corporate events for 7 years moving from AV technician to event project manager. 
My biggest career regret was that I was invited to a radio station to discuss a producer job, they are always looking for AV women in the industry, it seemed too easy so I thought the pay would be terrible and I walked out before even knowing. Between event jobs I did some work with the women's refuge movement and loved it. 
after having children I started a business in office furniture and it's been hard work but challenging and exciting. I have started writing short stories and hope to publish some day, I've started learning piano and painting again, things I made time for in my youth. 
If I had done Uni I would have done the arts, film or industrial design in my younger years. 
but I finally started Uni at 40 Bachelor of social work. I want to make change, I want to work in policy and move up from there with my big picture concepts and political understanding I want to work on projects that change lives. I thought about law but it's too dry for me and I don't want to socialise with those people. 

the only advise I have is 'start somewhere'. It doesn't matter if you start in computer science, law, arts. Having a degree in anything increases your income in any job you choose. My friend studies art, in an art teacher 3 days and does her art for 2 days that sells for thousands. I get lonely working in my business on my own, painting, writing and gardening on my own. Social work gives me the opportunity to connect with like minded students, I've changed my degree from psychology because I can't sit on my own helping a few people. I want to help many. 
My friend is doing coding at Uni, not to code, but to work as a coding project manager in some way. 
just start somewhere, knowledge is never lost, you'll use it somewhere and you'll figure it all out as you go along. 
good luck. 

Karrot M (not verified) says...


I'd first like to say, wow. We are almost the same person. For the longest time, I've never been able to figure out what it is that I want to do with m life. The one constant in my life that I have wanted is film. Since I was % it was the one thing I've always wanted, but never voiced out loud or really planned on it because it seemed like too far fetched of an idea. A child's dream. But honestly, there is nothing else I want to do. I know that if I don't give it a shot I will regret it all for the rest of my life. Don't get me wrong I am terrified. I've had at least three full-blown panic attacks since I've made this choice. There are just so many risks to this choice. I am terrified, but I'm going to stick to it. I am currently majoring in business (my back up because I'm too terrified not to have a back up) and I am minoring in film. 

I genuinely wish us both the best of luck and hope that we both succeed in whatever it is that we pursue.

randomENFPguy (not verified) says...

Hi both! I can relate soooo much with you two. I know and consider myself as a creative. I am into arts (dancing, films, photography, video editing and sketching). I just turned 24 and working on tech company for 3 years now as a software engineer, which I know from the very start that it is not the job best suits me. I took Information Technology course in College because they say it's in demand, high-paying and I also like to believe that if I like computers (gaming and social media), then I will also like programming, but no. Wasn't the case.  I did it, graduated, but I know that I don't want to pursue being a programmer/developer as my career. But, upon applying to one of the known tech companies in the world,  I managed to be hired in just one day (one day hiring process). Everything went so fast and I got the job offer by the end of the day. I signed it knowing that the wage I will be receiving will be of great help. Got promoted one year and a half later and now I am an above average wage earner. It surely helps my family in this time of crisis, we have the advantage of working from home, and I am continuously learning, slowly but there's progress. But am I happy? Well, partly yes, because with God's help, I knew I have braved my what ifs of entering this field... but a huge part of me says this is not me. Now, I am thinking of my what ifs if I pursued with MultiMedia Arts, which is my first choice course.

I am now thinking of pursuing my passion, after watching so many talks and articles about knowing what your calling, purpose and passion is. And I just want to share the definition of passion (which greatly helped me, and I hope it will help you as well), passion comes from Latin word "pati" which means to suffer (thus, "Passion of the Christ" film). It is not just the things that makes you happy and excited, passion is more than that, it's being willing to sacrifice or "suffer"/work for things you're passionate about, something you'd be willing to do even without compensation. Something you really love. And I know my current job is not my passion.

I am currently thinking of pursuing film by attending webinars, shourt courses and learning by surfing the net. I don't want to leave my current job right away, considering the crisis, and I'm thinking of having it as my backup and to financially support my passion as well. My inner child is not happy, I know, it really makes me feel bad for the many times I feel I am not good enough in this tech field.

So, if you happen to be studying still, or just graduated, it is never too late to make a turn! It's your choice still. I sincerely hope your choices will make you happy, and if it turns out otherwise, it's okay, it will benefit you still in a way.

This is a developing story. ;) This is not the end. God bless you all!

Chris (not verified) says...

So encouraging random guy, thank you for that definition of passion too.

 I am also in a decent position financially thanks to God, even though it is probably not my life's work.

 I definitely think it's a good place for me to learn certain social and leadership skills & just random skills in general.

 I'm looking for a way to contribute and build a real estate team to have more financial freedom and am also pursuing my personal passions of music and comedy.

God has blessed me with a full life and I am asking him to make room for a family in my future.

He has been encouraging me to ask him for everything and to rest in his provision so while I am use to striving with ambition, it has been a great challenge to be still and practice listening to his voice guide me.

There is so much to learn and I'm so excited to hear your journey too, I hope this is as encouraging to you as your words are for me!

God bless you and everyone else on this incredible journey 😃🙏

randomuser (not verified) says...

I completely understand your feelings-- I also struggle with not knowing what to do in my future and being afraid of failure/ending up with an ordinary boring job. It seems like you are really passionate in filmmaking so I would suggest giving it a shot because when you really want to do something, you will put your whole heart into it and be eager to learn more about it to improve your skills. That's why I don't think you are passionate in computer science or law because you don't want to put the effort into it but you seem to really want to be involved in film. You can try filmmaking at home on your free time to get that first cringy film out of the way lol I'm sure there are many resources online of prompts to try or tips. And I would recommend to maybe double major or have a minor in a field that is profitable if that is a big concern. A good career that allows you to be creative and make money that you can try is advertising, which uses elements of film via advertisements (and architects make a lot as well). So I would advise to take time in discovering what you want to do and to try out filmmaking or any class that fulfills your creative need.  I would also advise to not put so much pressure on yourself. Failure is inevitable and everyone experiences setbacks, however, you don't want that fear of not being good enough to hold you back from trying out your passions. I would hate for you to look back on your life in regret for not trying out filmmaking. You never know what could come out of your dreams, so I would say give it a shot! 

Scugoza says...

I've read a lot of different places that ENFP's would make as great detectives or investigators. I also find it interesting however that police officers are on careers to avoid, which I can understand to an extent, except for the fact that the only way to become a detective is to first be a police officer. You can defintely be a civilian investigator as a CSI or PI, but still. Any thoughts on police work?

Ureman (not verified) says...

I suspect its to be avoided because of the hierarchal, disciplined structure and the restrictions on the role. Monitoring yourself. Tedious admin etc. But not all departments will be the same. Me personally it's hard to accept bureaucracy.

thinker (not verified) says...

hi! ENFP here I honestly have no idea what I want to do. I love to sing, write (my love for writing could fill the whole of new york) animals and rock climbing, all these things fill me with such joy it is impossible, I know that I do not really have to think about this at my stage in life but I am one of those people you think ahead do loads of reshreach (but I always love to leave to chance espesilay in my writing I find that a story is a boat sailing on a long unpredictable river and every wave or tumble is a new adventure just waiting to be found I think of life that way too) anyway if you have any ideas please say. (sorry spelling is not my strong point)

junebug (not verified) says...

hey! i totally understand where you're coming from. i get the whole "planning everything before you even need to" thing and i feel the same. i may not plan, per se, but i yearn to have the exact idea of what i want to do. i have realized though that my interests change all the time, and i guess i shouldn't worry about it. i will find something that will suit me eventually. honestly, my best advice, is to do everything with passion, with the intent of doing it well. it may not seem like your favorite thing to do at first, but if you try at everything you do, i am sure you will find a way to love those things or find something that perfectly suits you.

best of luck! never give up and work hard at everything you do! <3

Zagi (not verified) says...

Hi) I am 20 y.o ENFP-T now and don't know what I want to do in the future, what I will do and so on😭 It began a while ago. Now, if i speak shortly about me and my past, when i was at school i always wanted to become an economist and tried hard to enter the special lyceum after school and university. But when the lyceum graduation time came, i began an internship in a finance area, which is very important for an economist🥺 and understood that it is not for me. I had had a headache, stomackache and so kn when it was time to go to work😅 ( i hated it so much, i dont know why🧐). I was counting the minutes to leave that place and boring work. All in all i was an intern for a month( i escaped telling that i am going for a week to another city😁but didnt come back after coming back🤭). Then I understood that i need something more creative and was passionate about fashion. I wanted to become an architecht or fashion designer, but my parents didnt allow me to😔 and i entered a university with a major in economics with finance. 

During my 2 year study period i became intersted in teaching and began working as a teacher of foreign languages for children and adults. I loved my job and worked there about 1-1.5 years, until my parents made me quit it and told me to find somthing more serious😪 Then I was accepted in a game developing company as an ASO specialist and began working there. I really loved and am enjoying my job, but now i dont know what to do. 

In this 2 years period i lost my close person and my interests and hobbies. May be this is a reason why i dont have some passion and so on😔 I didnt have time or will to draw fashion sketches and so on, i lost any emotions. Everything became for me just meaningless. I began thinking like ok i will become a designer and so what will happen, what will you get? Does it have any meaning, yeah it doesnt have and so on🥺 I was thinking a lot about a meaning in life and so on and was feeling that there is no special meaning((( i was thinking about the goal in life and so on a lot🙈 

And once I realized that i am not a professional in any field. I tried many things but left them in a half way and didnt become a professional in any of them. And dont even know what to do in future, what i want to do and even i dont know what i love to do🥺 

I am half economist( who didnt study well, because thought that wont need it), i am half teacher, half game developer, half web designer( i learned how to do it and made websites), half interpreter( yeah, i was working as an interpreter too😅 even in professional and serious meetings🤭), half music producer(recently i became interested in this field and wanted to become a rapper or music producer and began working on it). But not professional in any of these fields🤕 


The saddest point here is that i dont know what to choose now because i am graduating and my life is going to be chosen(( i was thinking a lot, but dont know even which sphere i love. I imagined myself in each of these spheres and i couldnt get the answer😭😭 

I cant see myself as any exactly one of them:( Now i want several spheres (music production, fashion design, psychology, game dev and even economics) but cannot choose one and dont know what to do in future. Because many people are already professionals in their favourite spheres, but i dont have even that one. 

I am a hard working person and can achieve everything i want if i want to, but donkt know what to do now😭😭

I know that i should become a professional of my work and become the best of the best( yeah,  i want to make somthing massive and public, if economics- the minister, if fashion- the best fashion designer in the world and so on) , but i dont know how to act and what to choose :( and even what i love. Can you help me with how can i deal with it🙏🙏

I am so sorry for this too long message, but i am really confused and need a help, because it can change my life and my future. 

Will be very grateful for any help and advice. 

Thank you for reading and everything❤

Mila (not verified) says...

Hi, Zagi.

I'm only three years older than you but I still remember that feeling when you graduate school in a few months and don't know what to do. The most important thing for you right now is to realize that it's not the end of the world if your choice turns out to be a misfire. We are ENFP and we have so many ideas for life paths that choosing only one is really hard. But you don't have to. When I was graduating from high school I was a mess. Every friend in my life had this strict plan about future and I thought that I needed one too. So... I made one. Something that's reasonable and will bring me profit in life. And then I went to college like I planned. Maths major. Everyone was so proud of me and it felt amazing. But after a few weeks I knew it was a disaster. I loved math, I still do, but it wasn't my passion. I looked at these people and I knew I didn't belong there. And in that moment I started to think about things I love to do when I don't think about anyone's approval. Books, writing, helping people, teaching kids, acting... you can see that it's not profitable, but I stopped caring. It's my life and my choices. I changed my major and started to learn how to become a librarian. During my studies I did a two-year psychological course to work as an educator or a psychologist with kids in elementary school. Right now I am nearly graduating and I'm going to, for another two years, learn how to teach older kids my native language and after that I'm going to have a course to teach in kindergarten. But that's not the end! When I graduate and start working I planning to write something. Maybe a movie script and maybe I'll try to get accepted to a movie school. They like it when you apply after finishing some other school first so it's even better for me. Maybe it will be another misfire but I won't be satisfied unless I try.
I'm telling you this because I don't think that you'll be either. Right now you may think that fashion designer is the most fun and you are longing for this, but in a few months it can be game developing. And it's totally fine! You like so many things, but you don't have to be devoted only to one. Think about how to combine all of your ideas. Maybe think about making a game about fashion with your personal soundtrack? It could be fun. But it can be something else. Just don't give up. There's always a way and if you wanna do turn for 180° – do it. You're young and probably think that you have to choose everything right now, but that's not true. This moment is when your journey truly begins. Be happy about it. Maybe you'll find another excitement. You'll find new people with so many fascinating ideas and some of them will combine perfectly. 
So... what I was gonna say from the beginning – stop stressing yourself out. Life has a lot to offer you. Think about it as something good and not bad. 

I hope I helped you a little. 

Buzz (not verified) says...

yo, I understand what you're going through, fellow ENFP here 

I'd say this, try to choose one and fix on it for maybe 3-5 years. I've had different interests  from archaeology to becoming a UN diplomat, but at the end of the day, I'm pushing for health science.

become financially independent and ensure you can lead a stable life for this fixed period of time (even if you have multiple interests, choose one and settle down) 

once you're independent and financially ready, you can pursue your other interests slowly and catch-on. or maybe you might actually liking the career you chose and wish to pursue it permanently.

kudos to you and good luck

Muna (not verified) says...

Hello Zagi

If you sit down right now and think about yourself in 10 years time, do you want to be a passionate economist? a record selling music producer? a talented game developer? 

Lead yourself to the path that you can fully visualise and love. Visualise your job as an economist with all its flows and problems as well as its bright sides and possibilities. Do the same with all the other jobs. For example, being an economist means you will have to develop many complex systems and plan a lot to find outcomes, what kind of difficulty will you get from that? can you bear with that? would you rather be a music producer and deal with snobby music artists possibly? You have to weigh the flaws and perfections of every side and come up with a career that you can live with the flaws of. No job will have zero flaws. 

Additionally, reading your post I felt as if maybe you didn't find what you really want to do. If you loved something very deeply, it would have became the centre of your life. Choose a career path for now and keep experimenting in the free time you have if any.  

Remember: being a jack of all trades that does nothing at the end is very detrimental to your time and energy. 

Seek something that awakens passion inside you 

Best of luck 

Patochan (not verified) says...

So ENFP-T (also some other types but especially this one) is all about having a quadrillion different interests but no real "passion" you could devote yourself to. Even your greatest hobby from 2 years ago may seem boring now. You know how it goes.

But actually these are symptoms of a mild depression. Losing interests and hobbies. Lowering of self-esteem. Hanging out with people becomming only stressful. It may be a good shot to see a psychologist/psychiatrist.

And straight after that you should meetup with a carrer coach (or even some former, wise teacher you know), who should help you to sort out your career interests and help you to bring out your calling. The thing you think you were born for. That one topic that always, even in this depressed period of yours, makes you hyper to talk and think about. Sort out between job interests and hobbies for compensation. Everything is an equilibrium, even your own self.

Sabine (not verified) says...

Hi Zagi,

i could have written the exact message you wrote at your age. I was completely at a loss of what and where my place was in this world. Now in my mid 50's (wait, time flies! 😊) I would say try and connect with your higher self and feel deeply what direction moves you, makes you curious.. by the way you write it sounds like fashion design or design in general sparks something in you. Explain to your parents that you know they love you and that it is important to you to wake up in the morning with enthusiasm and love for what you do and that life is too short to not explore those promising avenues. Along that journey called life it is not the destination that counts but the incredible path we create and walk getting there. It may take detours but make it count with what sparks your interest and love for life and meet people along the way who inspire you and sometimes guide you. No worries you'll find your way and you will leave your unique, incredible mark in this world! Believe in your awesome self! Best wishes! 

Plutosangel (not verified) says...

Hi Zagi you sound like a 20 year old version of me. I'm 31 now and I know how hard this is! The career that I started just happened (learning development and training) but I've stuck with it the past 10 years and there were many dull days but I stuck it out to the point where I am consulting within the same domain and I get paid well for the projects I take on. Plus, I have lots of free time that I use to pursue different things. I'm juggling 5 different things other than work and honestly it's great. I know that I need to explore new things but my main thing is my main job so even if it gets boring it doesn't bother me because the side stuff keeps me invigorated. 

Another suggestion for you is to think of things from a 'project' perspective. For example, focus on one new things that you'll do and you'll stick with for at least three months before you take on something else. Having a project approach keeps things new and challenging. 

thinker (not verified) says...

hi Zagi not sure this will help but if you really want to be a desiger or anything else for that matter maybe you could try to show your parents that it is important to you and has a meaning in this world and that you have the skills to become one (and I belive you do) Your job should be something you love to do not something that makes you wish the day would end (like me in my algebra lesson🤣) sorry that I can't give you more advice but I wish you the best of luck🙂

Alberto (not verified) says...

If you pursue all these different avenues and different interests you'll eventually find something that you're genuinely passionate about it'll be easy to become a professional in that field ( please feel free to email me to talk some more ) 

Julia Train (not verified) says...

Is anyone borderline J/P? I'm definitely high on the other 3. Especially N & E... but only 51% P ... I think I'm very adventurous and love traveling to spontaneous places. But other times I have more J tendencies

Thomas V. (not verified) says...

I also tested right on the border between J and P.  But I'm also an N, so the last letter isn't as pivotal to us as it is to S's.  What you want to look at is the interplay of each of the characteristics.  So look up the descriptions of your type as ---J and ---P and see if one of them clicks for you.  Remember, the particular number value doesn't matter as much as getting a better understanding of who you are and how you react.

Luiza (not verified) says...

Hi guys! Little help? So, I'm from Brazil and currently in my last year in high school... The thing is, I really do not know what to do. Like, i just don't. And with this pandemic going on I spend a lot of time thinking about my future and its making me go mad. The more I think about it, the more uncertain I am about everything. Some years ago, I was set in studying medicine, then everything changed, i wanted biotechnology BUT i did an sort of internship in an biochem lab and i realized its not my thing to be stuck in a lab. I NEED TO SEE PEOPLE hahahahah. So now I have no idea what to do carrerwise. I want to help people, face to face. Anyway, could any of you tell me how did you decide what to do, or something that helped? 

Thank youu :)

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza! That is totally fair to not know what you want to do yet, and especially with the added stress of the pandemic going on, I know that doesn’t make future plans much easier. I am a rising senior in college now, and I fell in love with the career of occupational therapist my freshman year of college. The medical field kind of found me after my dad had three pretty big surgeries and had to do a lot of rehabilitative therapy, but I would recommend just looking around, taking quizzes, observing friends/family of jobs you might be interested in, etc.  I bounced around a lot of different career ideas throughout high school and all I knew was that I liked science and I loved working with and helping people! Occupational therapy is a great way to be in the medical field while being able to help people directly and build closer with relationships with your patients! It is such a flexible career and you can find a good setting that works for you and your personality (pediatrics, geriatrics, in/out-patient, home health, school, etc.)! I would definitely look into occupational therapy! And just remember, you have plenty of time to find a career that suits you. I know this year isn’t quite what anyone had expected but I hope you enjoy senior year! 

Anna B (not verified) says...

Hi Dear,

My name is Anna, I am an ENFP as well. I know exactly how you feel. Until 3 years ago I did not know either who I was! Learning only now as I have discovered Jesus and His live for me - but not like they teach you in church. You can have a personal relationship with Him, just ask Him to show you what to do with your life. This has changed everything for me! I no longer feel empty and have slowly started to realise who I am - a structured, serious job is never going to make me happy, but being with and helpig others will and really does. I belive the same is true for you. Please get in touch if you want to chat. You will succeed in life when you give your troubles and worries to God - He takes care of them, he really does.

InA (not verified) says...

Hello! I love your comment dear, because I know exactly how it’s hard for this type of personality to get the right direction and find out what you want to be. But when you really get to know Jesus and made Him the only priority - He’ll become that beacon of hope and guidance for you! Just discover and know what a precious potential you have with your personality type ENFP- and moreover with God you will experience the peerless possibilities and remain happy, safe and stable,in this unstable and fickle world..)) Bless you all!!:)♥︎

theartist (not verified) says...


me as an ENFP-A had the same issue, wanted to go to biochemistry after a visit in a lab and paharmaceutical experiences I said no. After that I choose to study economics and business administration and started to work in finance, payroll and auditor. So I was going to do all the analytical detail oriented job and seems it does not fit me. I am smart to do it, but I do not feel content with it. I took this test few days ago again and really made me realize what I really enjoy. So try to focus what you enjoy the most and choose after that. It is really easy to get trapped in a job u don`t like even tho u can be good at it in some level.

wish you all the best!

Momma K (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza, I relate to what you are experiencing.

For the longest time I put off studying, because every field I looked at was too narrow and confining. What I found as I went through my career, raising children, starting and selling businesses and now embarking on a second career in my 40s, is that you should grab hold of the opportunities that are available to you, becuase they lead to more opportunities.

If you have the opportunity to study Biotech because you find the field interesting then go for that, now. That's your now. It's not your forever. 

You most likely will find yourself working in a job thats not an exact fit for you for a few years or even a decade, but perservere. You will find so many opportunities to grow as a human being, a leader and an individual that is not related to your work but will open doors for you. You might be tempted to look at people who have spent their entire lives building a career or growing as a person, honing their skills and character, and then you compare your starting position in life to that. There is no short-cut to get there straight after college.

The truth is that you will find your own unique path, your own goals, your own combination of different streams to create a new, possibly as yet undefined contirbution to the world. But this does not happen overnight and it does not happen without first doing the mundane and the ordinary extra-ordinarily well. Master your weaknesses and your skills, give yourself time to grow and persmission to make many mistakes, that's how you learn and develop your judgement. 

It will take all your life to live your life. Take it one step at a time. You won't be able to figure it all out now. 

I wish you all the best!


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