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ENFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFPs in Love

In relationships, the ENFP is warm, encouraging, and emotionally engaged. ENFPs connect with others by sharing their feelings and experiences. They are expressive with their mates and want their mates to share openly with them.

ENFPs place great importance on personal development; they encourage their mates to pursue their dreams and want the same encouragement back. They are accepting of their partners as individuals and are unlikely to pressure their partners into being or doing anything in particular. On the rare occasion that they object to a mate's behavior, it's likely to be because their values have been violated.

Although they are quite sensitive, ENFPs can be guarded when it comes to their deepest feelings. They dislike conflict and are likely to withdraw rather than engage in a difficult discussion. ENFPs are flexible and supportive, and would rather find a way to connect than butt heads. They are creative problem-solvers, and can often come up with original ways to compromise.

ENFPs can sometimes be unpredictable, as they follow their inspiration wherever it leads. They can seem unreliable, although they are usually very responsive when a partner is emotionally in need. The ideal mate for an ENFP supports their creativity and caring for others, and expresses appreciation for the ENFP's unique qualities openly and often.

ENFPs as Parents

As parents, ENFPs are creative and devoted. They enjoy creating new experiences for their families and want to inspire their children to grow as individuals. Although they can be very passionate in their ideas about correct behavior, they are not often strong disciplinarians; they value close relationships above all else and may avoid discipline for fear that it will distance them from their children.

ENFPs deeply value their role as parents. However, they tire quickly when subjected to mundane chores and demands from their children. They get the most joy out of parenting when they are connecting emotionally with their children and joining them to explore possibilities for the future.

ENFP Communication Style

ENFPs are enthusiastic, collaborative communicators who love exploring possibilites for people. They often enjoy getting to know other people and understanding what inspires them, and they are insightful about solutions to personal problems. Highly empathic, the ENFP can find something to identify with in almost every person they meet, and enjoys encouraging other people to develop and grow. ENFPs are typically optimistic and like to talk about opportunities for the future, motivating others to join them in their vision.

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embracelife (not verified) says...

I'm a sophomore in college but left halfway through fall semester and took spring semester off because I didn't really know what I was doing there. You are supposed to declare a major sophomore year after taking classes in a variety of fields freshman year. I know I need to be doing something creative, but I also grew up poor and am very afraid of not making any money in the arts so that ruled out Acting, Graphic Design, Fashion Design, Architecture, Art History, Music, and Fine Arts, all things I was interested in. I was thinking of doing Computer Science because it has the creative problem solving I like and I'm good at it, but tech is known to be a sexist field. I also have problems with authority, so I had a hard time going to office hours or asking for help in CompSci classes so I did pretty badly. I also didn't want to put the effort into it if I knew that it wasn't my long term goal which I now realize was stupid. My other idea was going into Filmmaking but my problem there is that I'm afraid to give it a shot because I want to do it so much. Okay I know that sounds dumb but if I put everything into it and I end up being bad at it, I don't know if I'll be able to recover from that. It feels like everything in my life has lead me to Filmmaking as a career but successful female directors are rare and I don't want whatever I do to just seem like a bad high school movie project. More than anything I'm afraid that any film I make will be cringy which I guess is the hallmark of any first film, but with my crazy anxiety and perfectionism, anything less that an award winning first film will feel like too big of a failure to come back from which is obviously impossible. A few months ago I also thought Game Design/Programming was what I was Meant to do, but I took a few classes and hated them. I guess I am setting impossible standards for myself then not even trying to reach them because I can see how impossible it would be to reach them. For example, I also pondered taking the LSAT and becoming a lawyer, but as someone who did zero studying for the SAT and ACT, I know that I wouldn't study and would therefore not get a perfect score, and what would even be the point of going to law school if I wasn't going to the best law school, so instead I gave up that dream to avoid that inevitable failure. I see myself in the absract as someone destined for greatness but in the very real present as someone who can't accomplish the simplest of tasks so my delusions of grandeur immediately fall apart. So of course the perfect people to help are the people in the ENFP Careers comments, not a therapist or anything. 

Karrot M (not verified) says...

Hey

I'd first like to say, wow. We are almost the same person. For the longest time, I've never been able to figure out what it is that I want to do with m life. The one constant in my life that I have wanted is film. Since I was % it was the one thing I've always wanted, but never voiced out loud or really planned on it because it seemed like too far fetched of an idea. A child's dream. But honestly, there is nothing else I want to do. I know that if I don't give it a shot I will regret it all for the rest of my life. Don't get me wrong I am terrified. I've had at least three full-blown panic attacks since I've made this choice. There are just so many risks to this choice. I am terrified, but I'm going to stick to it. I am currently majoring in business (my back up because I'm too terrified not to have a back up) and I am minoring in film. 

I genuinely wish us both the best of luck and hope that we both succeed in whatever it is that we pursue.

randomuser (not verified) says...

I completely understand your feelings-- I also struggle with not knowing what to do in my future and being afraid of failure/ending up with an ordinary boring job. It seems like you are really passionate in filmmaking so I would suggest giving it a shot because when you really want to do something, you will put your whole heart into it and be eager to learn more about it to improve your skills. That's why I don't think you are passionate in computer science or law because you don't want to put the effort into it but you seem to really want to be involved in film. You can try filmmaking at home on your free time to get that first cringy film out of the way lol I'm sure there are many resources online of prompts to try or tips. And I would recommend to maybe double major or have a minor in a field that is profitable if that is a big concern. A good career that allows you to be creative and make money that you can try is advertising, which uses elements of film via advertisements (and architects make a lot as well). So I would advise to take time in discovering what you want to do and to try out filmmaking or any class that fulfills your creative need.  I would also advise to not put so much pressure on yourself. Failure is inevitable and everyone experiences setbacks, however, you don't want that fear of not being good enough to hold you back from trying out your passions. I would hate for you to look back on your life in regret for not trying out filmmaking. You never know what could come out of your dreams, so I would say give it a shot! 

Scugoza says...

I've read a lot of different places that ENFP's would make as great detectives or investigators. I also find it interesting however that police officers are on careers to avoid, which I can understand to an extent, except for the fact that the only way to become a detective is to first be a police officer. You can defintely be a civilian investigator as a CSI or PI, but still. Any thoughts on police work?

thinker (not verified) says...

hi! ENFP here I honestly have no idea what I want to do. I love to sing, write (my love for writing could fill the whole of new york) animals and rock climbing, all these things fill me with such joy it is impossible, I know that I do not really have to think about this at my stage in life but I am one of those people you think ahead do loads of reshreach (but I always love to leave to chance espesilay in my writing I find that a story is a boat sailing on a long unpredictable river and every wave or tumble is a new adventure just waiting to be found I think of life that way too) anyway if you have any ideas please say. (sorry spelling is not my strong point)

Zagi (not verified) says...

Hi) I am 20 y.o ENFP-T now and don't know what I want to do in the future, what I will do and so on😭 It began a while ago. Now, if i speak shortly about me and my past, when i was at school i always wanted to become an economist and tried hard to enter the special lyceum after school and university. But when the lyceum graduation time came, i began an internship in a finance area, which is very important for an economist🥺 and understood that it is not for me. I had had a headache, stomackache and so kn when it was time to go to work😅 ( i hated it so much, i dont know why🧐). I was counting the minutes to leave that place and boring work. All in all i was an intern for a month( i escaped telling that i am going for a week to another city😁but didnt come back after coming back🤭). Then I understood that i need something more creative and was passionate about fashion. I wanted to become an architecht or fashion designer, but my parents didnt allow me to😔 and i entered a university with a major in economics with finance. 

During my 2 year study period i became intersted in teaching and began working as a teacher of foreign languages for children and adults. I loved my job and worked there about 1-1.5 years, until my parents made me quit it and told me to find somthing more serious😪 Then I was accepted in a game developing company as an ASO specialist and began working there. I really loved and am enjoying my job, but now i dont know what to do. 

In this 2 years period i lost my close person and my interests and hobbies. May be this is a reason why i dont have some passion and so on😔 I didnt have time or will to draw fashion sketches and so on, i lost any emotions. Everything became for me just meaningless. I began thinking like ok i will become a designer and so what will happen, what will you get? Does it have any meaning, yeah it doesnt have and so on🥺 I was thinking a lot about a meaning in life and so on and was feeling that there is no special meaning((( i was thinking about the goal in life and so on a lot🙈 

And once I realized that i am not a professional in any field. I tried many things but left them in a half way and didnt become a professional in any of them. And dont even know what to do in future, what i want to do and even i dont know what i love to do🥺 

I am half economist( who didnt study well, because thought that wont need it), i am half teacher, half game developer, half web designer( i learned how to do it and made websites), half interpreter( yeah, i was working as an interpreter too😅 even in professional and serious meetings🤭), half music producer(recently i became interested in this field and wanted to become a rapper or music producer and began working on it). But not professional in any of these fields🤕 

 

The saddest point here is that i dont know what to choose now because i am graduating and my life is going to be chosen(( i was thinking a lot, but dont know even which sphere i love. I imagined myself in each of these spheres and i couldnt get the answer😭😭 

I cant see myself as any exactly one of them:( Now i want several spheres (music production, fashion design, psychology, game dev and even economics) but cannot choose one and dont know what to do in future. Because many people are already professionals in their favourite spheres, but i dont have even that one. 

I am a hard working person and can achieve everything i want if i want to, but donkt know what to do now😭😭

I know that i should become a professional of my work and become the best of the best( yeah,  i want to make somthing massive and public, if economics- the minister, if fashion- the best fashion designer in the world and so on) , but i dont know how to act and what to choose :( and even what i love. Can you help me with how can i deal with it🙏🙏

I am so sorry for this too long message, but i am really confused and need a help, because it can change my life and my future. 

Will be very grateful for any help and advice. 

Thank you for reading and everything❤

Mila (not verified) says...

Hi, Zagi.

I'm only three years older than you but I still remember that feeling when you graduate school in a few months and don't know what to do. The most important thing for you right now is to realize that it's not the end of the world if your choice turns out to be a misfire. We are ENFP and we have so many ideas for life paths that choosing only one is really hard. But you don't have to. When I was graduating from high school I was a mess. Every friend in my life had this strict plan about future and I thought that I needed one too. So... I made one. Something that's reasonable and will bring me profit in life. And then I went to college like I planned. Maths major. Everyone was so proud of me and it felt amazing. But after a few weeks I knew it was a disaster. I loved math, I still do, but it wasn't my passion. I looked at these people and I knew I didn't belong there. And in that moment I started to think about things I love to do when I don't think about anyone's approval. Books, writing, helping people, teaching kids, acting... you can see that it's not profitable, but I stopped caring. It's my life and my choices. I changed my major and started to learn how to become a librarian. During my studies I did a two-year psychological course to work as an educator or a psychologist with kids in elementary school. Right now I am nearly graduating and I'm going to, for another two years, learn how to teach older kids my native language and after that I'm going to have a course to teach in kindergarten. But that's not the end! When I graduate and start working I planning to write something. Maybe a movie script and maybe I'll try to get accepted to a movie school. They like it when you apply after finishing some other school first so it's even better for me. Maybe it will be another misfire but I won't be satisfied unless I try.
I'm telling you this because I don't think that you'll be either. Right now you may think that fashion designer is the most fun and you are longing for this, but in a few months it can be game developing. And it's totally fine! You like so many things, but you don't have to be devoted only to one. Think about how to combine all of your ideas. Maybe think about making a game about fashion with your personal soundtrack? It could be fun. But it can be something else. Just don't give up. There's always a way and if you wanna do turn for 180° – do it. You're young and probably think that you have to choose everything right now, but that's not true. This moment is when your journey truly begins. Be happy about it. Maybe you'll find another excitement. You'll find new people with so many fascinating ideas and some of them will combine perfectly. 
So... what I was gonna say from the beginning – stop stressing yourself out. Life has a lot to offer you. Think about it as something good and not bad. 

I hope I helped you a little. 

Buzz (not verified) says...

yo, I understand what you're going through, fellow ENFP here 

I'd say this, try to choose one and fix on it for maybe 3-5 years. I've had different interests  from archaeology to becoming a UN diplomat, but at the end of the day, I'm pushing for health science.

become financially independent and ensure you can lead a stable life for this fixed period of time (even if you have multiple interests, choose one and settle down) 

once you're independent and financially ready, you can pursue your other interests slowly and catch-on. or maybe you might actually liking the career you chose and wish to pursue it permanently.

kudos to you and good luck

Muna (not verified) says...

Hello Zagi

If you sit down right now and think about yourself in 10 years time, do you want to be a passionate economist? a record selling music producer? a talented game developer? 

Lead yourself to the path that you can fully visualise and love. Visualise your job as an economist with all its flows and problems as well as its bright sides and possibilities. Do the same with all the other jobs. For example, being an economist means you will have to develop many complex systems and plan a lot to find outcomes, what kind of difficulty will you get from that? can you bear with that? would you rather be a music producer and deal with snobby music artists possibly? You have to weigh the flaws and perfections of every side and come up with a career that you can live with the flaws of. No job will have zero flaws. 

Additionally, reading your post I felt as if maybe you didn't find what you really want to do. If you loved something very deeply, it would have became the centre of your life. Choose a career path for now and keep experimenting in the free time you have if any.  

Remember: being a jack of all trades that does nothing at the end is very detrimental to your time and energy. 

Seek something that awakens passion inside you 

Best of luck 

Patochan (not verified) says...

So ENFP-T (also some other types but especially this one) is all about having a quadrillion different interests but no real "passion" you could devote yourself to. Even your greatest hobby from 2 years ago may seem boring now. You know how it goes.

But actually these are symptoms of a mild depression. Losing interests and hobbies. Lowering of self-esteem. Hanging out with people becomming only stressful. It may be a good shot to see a psychologist/psychiatrist.

And straight after that you should meetup with a carrer coach (or even some former, wise teacher you know), who should help you to sort out your career interests and help you to bring out your calling. The thing you think you were born for. That one topic that always, even in this depressed period of yours, makes you hyper to talk and think about. Sort out between job interests and hobbies for compensation. Everything is an equilibrium, even your own self.

Sabine (not verified) says...

Hi Zagi,

i could have written the exact message you wrote at your age. I was completely at a loss of what and where my place was in this world. Now in my mid 50's (wait, time flies! 😊) I would say try and connect with your higher self and feel deeply what direction moves you, makes you curious.. by the way you write it sounds like fashion design or design in general sparks something in you. Explain to your parents that you know they love you and that it is important to you to wake up in the morning with enthusiasm and love for what you do and that life is too short to not explore those promising avenues. Along that journey called life it is not the destination that counts but the incredible path we create and walk getting there. It may take detours but make it count with what sparks your interest and love for life and meet people along the way who inspire you and sometimes guide you. No worries you'll find your way and you will leave your unique, incredible mark in this world! Believe in your awesome self! Best wishes! 

Plutosangel (not verified) says...

Hi Zagi you sound like a 20 year old version of me. I'm 31 now and I know how hard this is! The career that I started just happened (learning development and training) but I've stuck with it the past 10 years and there were many dull days but I stuck it out to the point where I am consulting within the same domain and I get paid well for the projects I take on. Plus, I have lots of free time that I use to pursue different things. I'm juggling 5 different things other than work and honestly it's great. I know that I need to explore new things but my main thing is my main job so even if it gets boring it doesn't bother me because the side stuff keeps me invigorated. 

Another suggestion for you is to think of things from a 'project' perspective. For example, focus on one new things that you'll do and you'll stick with for at least three months before you take on something else. Having a project approach keeps things new and challenging. 

thinker (not verified) says...

hi Zagi not sure this will help but if you really want to be a desiger or anything else for that matter maybe you could try to show your parents that it is important to you and has a meaning in this world and that you have the skills to become one (and I belive you do) Your job should be something you love to do not something that makes you wish the day would end (like me in my algebra lesson🤣) sorry that I can't give you more advice but I wish you the best of luck🙂

Alberto (not verified) says...

If you pursue all these different avenues and different interests you'll eventually find something that you're genuinely passionate about it'll be easy to become a professional in that field ( please feel free to email me to talk some more ) 

Julia Train (not verified) says...

Is anyone borderline J/P? I'm definitely high on the other 3. Especially N & E... but only 51% P ... I think I'm very adventurous and love traveling to spontaneous places. But other times I have more J tendencies

Thomas V. (not verified) says...

I also tested right on the border between J and P.  But I'm also an N, so the last letter isn't as pivotal to us as it is to S's.  What you want to look at is the interplay of each of the characteristics.  So look up the descriptions of your type as ---J and ---P and see if one of them clicks for you.  Remember, the particular number value doesn't matter as much as getting a better understanding of who you are and how you react.

Luiza (not verified) says...

Hi guys! Little help? So, I'm from Brazil and currently in my last year in high school... The thing is, I really do not know what to do. Like, i just don't. And with this pandemic going on I spend a lot of time thinking about my future and its making me go mad. The more I think about it, the more uncertain I am about everything. Some years ago, I was set in studying medicine, then everything changed, i wanted biotechnology BUT i did an sort of internship in an biochem lab and i realized its not my thing to be stuck in a lab. I NEED TO SEE PEOPLE hahahahah. So now I have no idea what to do carrerwise. I want to help people, face to face. Anyway, could any of you tell me how did you decide what to do, or something that helped? 

Thank youu :)

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza! That is totally fair to not know what you want to do yet, and especially with the added stress of the pandemic going on, I know that doesn’t make future plans much easier. I am a rising senior in college now, and I fell in love with the career of occupational therapist my freshman year of college. The medical field kind of found me after my dad had three pretty big surgeries and had to do a lot of rehabilitative therapy, but I would recommend just looking around, taking quizzes, observing friends/family of jobs you might be interested in, etc.  I bounced around a lot of different career ideas throughout high school and all I knew was that I liked science and I loved working with and helping people! Occupational therapy is a great way to be in the medical field while being able to help people directly and build closer with relationships with your patients! It is such a flexible career and you can find a good setting that works for you and your personality (pediatrics, geriatrics, in/out-patient, home health, school, etc.)! I would definitely look into occupational therapy! And just remember, you have plenty of time to find a career that suits you. I know this year isn’t quite what anyone had expected but I hope you enjoy senior year! 

Anna B (not verified) says...

Hi Dear,

My name is Anna, I am an ENFP as well. I know exactly how you feel. Until 3 years ago I did not know either who I was! Learning only now as I have discovered Jesus and His live for me - but not like they teach you in church. You can have a personal relationship with Him, just ask Him to show you what to do with your life. This has changed everything for me! I no longer feel empty and have slowly started to realise who I am - a structured, serious job is never going to make me happy, but being with and helpig others will and really does. I belive the same is true for you. Please get in touch if you want to chat. You will succeed in life when you give your troubles and worries to God - He takes care of them, he really does.

theartist (not verified) says...

Hi

me as an ENFP-A had the same issue, wanted to go to biochemistry after a visit in a lab and paharmaceutical experiences I said no. After that I choose to study economics and business administration and started to work in finance, payroll and auditor. So I was going to do all the analytical detail oriented job and seems it does not fit me. I am smart to do it, but I do not feel content with it. I took this test few days ago again and really made me realize what I really enjoy. So try to focus what you enjoy the most and choose after that. It is really easy to get trapped in a job u don`t like even tho u can be good at it in some level.

wish you all the best!

Momma K (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza, I relate to what you are experiencing.

For the longest time I put off studying, because every field I looked at was too narrow and confining. What I found as I went through my career, raising children, starting and selling businesses and now embarking on a second career in my 40s, is that you should grab hold of the opportunities that are available to you, becuase they lead to more opportunities.

If you have the opportunity to study Biotech because you find the field interesting then go for that, now. That's your now. It's not your forever. 

You most likely will find yourself working in a job thats not an exact fit for you for a few years or even a decade, but perservere. You will find so many opportunities to grow as a human being, a leader and an individual that is not related to your work but will open doors for you. You might be tempted to look at people who have spent their entire lives building a career or growing as a person, honing their skills and character, and then you compare your starting position in life to that. There is no short-cut to get there straight after college.

The truth is that you will find your own unique path, your own goals, your own combination of different streams to create a new, possibly as yet undefined contirbution to the world. But this does not happen overnight and it does not happen without first doing the mundane and the ordinary extra-ordinarily well. Master your weaknesses and your skills, give yourself time to grow and persmission to make many mistakes, that's how you learn and develop your judgement. 

It will take all your life to live your life. Take it one step at a time. You won't be able to figure it all out now. 

I wish you all the best!

MommaK

Niko (not verified) says...

If you are under 28 don't really worry too much about what you're going to do for the rest of your life. Just keep doing things you like and enjoy to do. You will find it just keep busy, "The worried person must stay busy lest they wither in dispair."

Julia Train (not verified) says...

Agree but also don't agree. I didn't think about what I wanted to do post college until I was post college and then I was like WTF. And it was horrible. It's important to think about what careers you will excel at at an early age. You can jump start the process while others are in Lala land. 
 

With that said - you are right to say not to worry about it too much. Worry is never good. 

And also you are right when saying pursue the things that make you tick or happy - don't worry on what will necessarily make you money, per-se. you have some time to take risks. 

Guest (not verified) says...

just do whatever you feel like to do. And don't care about anything.

Hannah h (not verified) says...

 trial and error is the best way to find something that you want to do. Remember that you can always change your job later on once you settle on a degree or path.  Based on what you stated you might want to look into psychology for a career.

Carno (not verified) says...

Hola Luiza, 

My undergrad was Dentistry but I also wanted to be a lawyer, a journalist and a Charlie's Angel 😊.  I eventually ended up being a hotelier which has been fun because no two days are ever the same.  Try finding something that will utilize your strengths and at the same time challenges you.  And continue doing the things that make you happy (outside of work).  It doesn't matter what you end up doing eventually but if it allows you to use your talents and challenges you, you'll feel useful and fulfilled.  Also talk to people already doing the job you're considering and ask them what their days are like.

Leila in Hawaii (not verified) says...

Luiza, I'm 62 and took the Myers Briggs test in my mid-30s. I took it again later and the results changed slightly. the Introversion turned to Extroversion. But the thing is that it will tell you a lot about what might work as a career for you. I also got help from my guidance counselor after I went back to school in my mid-30s and eventually became a newspaper reporter. Point is, you need to get help in knowing who you are and what will make you happy and what your strengths and weaknesses are. Your personality type is a huge part of this. But you will change as you grow and develop. The world is changing. Newspaper reporters are a dying breed, but are needed now more than ever. I encourage you to follow your passion and I hope that in the end in whatever world you end up in, that the career will still be there. But getting a good, solid educational foundation will help you find something later in life should that career you wanted as a teen not be around. heck when i was a teenager, i wanted to be a missionary. so keep seeking and you will find. and don't worry. you will find how to connect with people during and after this pandemic.

PattyC (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza, 

It may be that the subject matter is not as important as the social interaction. You could enjoy medicine, for example, if it meant talking about your patient's motives for behavior and why those motives may have led to illness.  That would be quite different from having a practice where you run from Room 1, 2 and 3 spending around 10 minutes with each patient and never getting into any depth.  

Or you could be a teacher. If you taught in a school where you had colleagues to talk to that would be great. But if you taught at a college where you walk in, teach, and then go home, you will burn out.  

You could  get a degree in the science of learning and creativity and then work for a company in Human Resources showing how to get employees to learn. Companies are moving towards digital means of training employees and are looking for best practices.  But you would still have colleagues to mix with.  Add to that that many department heads feel like no one listens to their needs since Human Resources rarely seems to help them with their core issues.  Maybe you can grasp what these guys want because you can put yourself in their shoes and truly picture what the problems are. Then you use your creative skills to communicate it to HR. Since you like people, you would be careful not to step on other people's toes but still communicate well enough to make it clear - this is what they need!

How about getting first of a year of practical skills in the graphic arts or media design so that you have a means of expressing your ideas that goes beyond words.  Combine that will any number of fields. But make sure ideas are discussed in person and not that you design something and send it off by email.  

You could be a librarian but only if it meant that you organized social activities that the library offered.  What do people in the community need to thrive or relieve them from stress.  

Also, pay attention to the things you find upsetting.  Those are the things you care about.  Does it make you angry to hear about social injustices, or elder abuse, or kids who have nothing to do during the summer, or that this country is one of the most wasteful in the world, or that we don't have a good system for recycling our clothes, or that doctors aren't well-trained to deal with chronic disease.  Look at the hardships that you have dealt with in your life.  Sometimes people want to stay clear of that topic or some want to do something about it. 

A lot of small business people don't know how to advertise to the public.   How could you lay out a masterplan to help them manage it on a consistent basis.  Offer free talks and then win clients to help them in more detail.  But I would start such a business with someone else.  The comraderie will be the deal breaker.  

Whatever you do, the goal is going to be how you can be sure you will have the social interaction you need.  Is it enough to talk to people one on one throughout the day or do you just love sitting around a table swapping ideas with a group - or a mix of both.  

I have found that it doesn’t help to wait til the right idea comes your way. You must analyze your everyday behavior and see where you are getting your energy to live. Then see what kind of jobs resemble that.  I think if you don’t crave social interaction, there are a lot of high paying jobs out there.  But those jobs would kill your spirit.  Try to find the balance.

So, watch how your day goes.  How many hours can you handle on your own before you have to talk to someone.  How do you feel when you have to do paperwork? Are you able to follow a schedule – no? you probably had better work in a company than be self-employed.  Or maybe you are pretty unproductive during the day, but at night you just get things done.  Maybe you could be self-employed and then be able to socialize more with friends during your free hours. If you can’t figure out health insurance, taxes, etc on your own, maybe you should work for a company.  Or maybe you are good at getting whatever help you need since you get along with people.  Then you can work from home. You have to weigh it all. Yes, it is overwhelming and you are going to have to try things out to see what you like or can bear.  Good luck. 

Kate M (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza! The one thing I wish someone had told me when I was leaving high school is: You do not have to know what to do. In fact, you shouldnt' try to figure out "what you are going to be" yet.  I felt like I had to *know* what I was going to do and carried that weight for a long time.Maybe someone did tell me and I didn't listen. But I hope you hear me:)! Some people know what they want to do and what work is important to them, but many (and probably many of the people who say they know) don't know. And that is ok. I'm going to say that twice- it is more than ok to not know what you want to do. In fact, I wouldn't trust it if you did! I surely had no idea, but kept on pretending like I did because I felt like I had to "have a direction". Take time to experiment. If you are going to school, take one course in different departments. Search to find the things that interest you and make you feel energetic about the next day. Take some time off before school and do an internship or travel or just work a little bit. The future is uncertain- it always was. But uncertainty isn't doesn't just mean *danger*, it also means beautiful possibility. And take time now to faceplant into as many possibilities, well, as possible. 

Topaz (not verified) says...

Hey! So I'm not sure if you are spiritual at all but believing in a higher power is very helpful, you don't have to be some religious freak but to have a relationship with God even just a little helps with uncertainty. Realising that God has a plan for you and all you have to do is follow your heart helps a lot. Just speaking out your thoughts (prayer) to God, knowing he is there for support. Write in a journal your thoughts to just put them on paper and decipher your thoughts. You need to put your mind at rest and stop thinking about what you think you should do, you need to sit with yourself, ignore social media, technology, distance your mind from distractions and feel what it is your heart desires. You may not want to go to college straight away, you may need a year or even two to figure out what it is you want to do. You may want to volunteer or work to build experience, confidence and understanding of what drives you, what makes you happy and fulfilled. Do not pressure yourself to figure out what you "Think" you need or should be doing. There is no point studying a course you have zero passion for. You need some time to with yourself to understand what it is you are passionate about to pursue.
Also you probably do have a bit of an idea what you enjoy, (what was your favourite subject in highschool?) but you are concerned about certain factors such as pleasing your parents, wanting to look important to others in a certain profession, making lots of money, but all that truly matters is doing a job you are passionate about whether that is acting, sports, biology etc. Whatever it is you enjoy doing pursues it and give it your all, having a career you enjoy will not feel like work. You have to listen to yourself and your heart, only YOU know what makes you happy and what makes your mind and heart smile. Good luck and everything will work out. Stop overthinking and stressing there is NO WRONG decision to make. 

Ayodele Fiyinfoluwa Esther (not verified) says...

This was really helpful. God bless you. 

Cameron B (not verified) says...

Hey!

My names cam and I'm from New Zealand and I'm also in my last year of high school. I'm not sure if this will help you but for me I was so stressed about whether i should stay in school and go to university or leave school and work full time. My brain and my heart was pulling me in all sorts of directions and I didnt know what to do. But quarentine actually helped me to take a step back and think about what really important and now In two months I'm about to drop out of school and bike around NZ!! An option I would never have thought of if I hadn't tooken a step back to reevaluate what's important to me. So maybe just try taking a step back and thinking about what will make you happiest. After all what's the point in being alive if you arent going to live? Good luck anyways :)

Cleo W (not verified) says...

You could do online language tutoring! It's the only option anyway (pandemic and all) and you get to meet different people! Even if it's not your field of study, it's a good side job/past time 🙂

EJ (not verified) says...

hi!

I've actually never written on a comment blurbs before.....well not that I can remember! But everyone's comments seemed so interesting, I thought I'd jump in.

I am an ENFP; enthusiastic....adventure hungry ...idea having...terribly indecisive ENFP. My thoughts for the next adventures in life is not "what am I going to do? I've no idea ???!" it's "what am I going to choose...I've got far too many Ideas!" Sympathise anyone? I applied for multiple courses to return to study in the hope it would be made clear which I should choose. Three acceptances later I'm utterly stuck. The thought of making the 'wrong' decision and being stuck in a 'box' is, what I would call -TERRIFYING!

Like others here I've had a varied background. Art and design degree, (travel) waitressing, (travel) rehabilitation assistant with adults with brain injuries. (travel) support assistant with adults with additional needs, (travel) Bible study (travel), horse scholarship (travel) school setting children with severe additional needs (you guessed it.....travel!) I LOVE new ideas, love helping others, new places, new people-new, new, new! While many of my loved ones get settled in bought houses and steady jobs, I look up living in a van and helping a community. The current options are 1 year primary teaching or 2 year occupational therapy...that doesn't even include my research into community education and development.

What's important to me:

Live/work with compassion
Freedom to be creative
active relationships/bringing people together
All things new
This has become far too long but thought it would be quite therapeutic to share an ENFPs thoughts with some fellow ENFPs.

All rambling authentic.

CL (not verified) says...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!! This horribly indecisive high school graduate found solace in this comment :)

JennSmpsn (not verified) says...

YES! You sound like a multi-passionate (aka Scanner / Renaissance person / Generalist). Check out puttylike.com -- lots of helpful info and tips there!
 

jgo22 (not verified) says...

I feel like I'm reading about myself! I'm an ENFP too and just graduated high school and am headed to college in the fall. I'm undecided as far as my major goes; not because I don't have interest in anything, because I have interest in everything and can't choose! I'm terrified of getting lost in the shuffle and have a fear of never knowing. I've been told I'm a driven, hard-worker who constantly needs to be doing something with a purpose, it would be hard to let myself get lost in the shuffle. I bet you can relate. Teaching and occupational therapy sound like two careers that would provide with a new challenge everyday, ones that involve a great need for compassion, relationship building, and spontanuity. You're research would also provide you with another challenge. Teaching would provide you with the ability to travel in the summers, a chance to do something new, or focus deeper on your research. Occupational therapy might bring in more money. Follow your instinct! Best of luck to you!

EJ (not verified) says...

All the best to you as well! Sometimea its just so reassuring that someone else is in the same boat! All the best for your courses!

Siri 🖤 (not verified) says...

I am just sooo happy i bumped into this article. 😊 I seemed to picked up the right professions based on the article's career description. Thank God for that. I do agree in the humanitarian advocacy, plus the communication skills ENFPs got, once we focus on something, we become champions - just needs a thorough "push" at times to reach the finish line. 😅 And yeah, we may seem scattered brain at times, but deep down we are already envisioning the best possible ways to achieve our dreams. I hope that makes sense. hahaha...

Manolis (not verified) says...

So what do I do if I am already finished with all Software Engineering courses at my university and working on my BSc thesis , and have done a really good internship in Data Science and Research ? 
I mean, yeah sometimes I feel like something's not right and I should be doing sth else , but all the money family's put in this and all my knowledge and efforts... you can't really change up things now , with no budget etc. 

And all those other careers , yeah I find some of them interesting, but I need much time and training , I've already spent 7 years of my life on Computer Science and Software and Data... 

So do I keep on until I finish and then try to learn sth new while working as a data analyst somewhere and sometime at my 30s if I'm lucky I can just switch? Tought decisions when there's no  significant income (or no income at all).  

Matt South Australia (not verified) says...

Just reading your post to my partner and she suggested "Relationship Management" or "Client Account Management".  Both already require the technical skills you would've covered already, but you gain the interaction with all kinds of people and dynamic problem solving situations. You are closely involved with assisting people grow their businesses and so are given the opportunity to develop numerous personal, and rewarding relationships with numerous clients. You have the opportumity to find and established position where you are highly valued to your employer, plus these positions typically pay quite well. There are many more beneifits she mentioned but I couyld only remember those few. Just a suggestion, I hope this helps. Good luck    

Jack JPJ (not verified) says...

So I'm in my second last year of "high school" in Ireland, and with the whole pandemic thing going on I've been given a lot of time to reflect on what course I should aim for. I had my mind set on Biomedical Sciences but the more i thought of being in a lab day in day out (not hating on it, just not for me), the more I realised i'd hate it. I've been considering taking the Politics and International Relations route to aim to be a diplomat, their jobs seem diverse and travel in a job is something i'd really benefit from. I know I'd really enjoy experiencing different cultures, even if it may be in less than desirable conditions as a diplomat possibly working in war torn or impoverished countries. The only thing that I worry about a little bit is the salary, one of my main concerns is that I can live comfortabe and progress and I don't know if that's  big possibility with diplomacy - I haven't really got anyone to speak to about that I won't lie! I really don't think lab sciences would be for me, even though i really enjoy learning about the science. If anyone has any recommendations, any jobs similar to diplomacy or maybe even a different kind of job that still involves biomed but allows for more flexibility in terms of what work you do, please let me know! I might have left something out, but I think thats everything! Thanks :) 

Merrill s (not verified) says...

Perhaps something in the biomedical sales arena.  Travel possibilities, being with people and science could be a part of this career path.  Best of luck

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Ashley !!! (not verified) says...

Hi Jack JPJ! I stood in the exact same shoes as yourself, several years ago. As a student who recently wrapped up their undergraduate degree, I went in with the goal of studying biomedical sciences, and my heart was absolutely set on it. When applying to universities, I had applied to quite a few but the only program I really set myself up for was biomedical sciences. In time, I did study what I loved but what I loved was a biomedical science-type program with the flexibility for a good handful of electives. As a person who tends to have a lot of interests, albeit ones that can conflict (like the natural sciences and the field of communications), those electives did me a service that I will forever be thankful for. Instead of boxing myself off in terms of career paths, I found psychology which I absolutely loved. Some people hate PSYCH 101 courses, but I loved mine. I found a real niche in developmental and social psych, and in trying to combine all of my interests into a career pursuit, I found genetic counselling! It could be a good way to combine your interests, too, if psychology and being with people, that type of interpersonal work, really speaks to you! The profession is really picking up, too, with the increasing predominance of genetic testing being out there.  I wish you all the best in your pursuits and hope you find what makes your heart sing!

AcoraFla (not verified) says...

Hey Jack, funny I actually started studying biomedical sciences but then the course got cancelled while I was on it (fun times) so I then switched to Chemistry and completed my masters in Medicinal Chemistry. One problem, I really did not enjoy working in a lab day in day out. I found it far too repetitive, boring and honestly I much prefer working with people. I also love to travel and for the last 3 years have been working for a charity all around Europe and Asia working with refugees/ many other things and loved the diversity of work and people. I was ready for the next challenge and am now working in Business (management/ supply chain/ marketing etc..).

I guess, what I'm trying to say is don't worry about trying to figure it all out right now.. Pick a subject that you enjoy and that gives you transferable skills, work hard, take risks, explore your options and along the way you'll find the job that is right for you. And if you then wanna try something else - do it..most people don't end up staying in the same job as what they studied for anyway. I found that for me Chemistry gave me that flexiblitiy as it looked good to a number of different professions but honestly I didn't know that at uni and I don't think the actual degree mattered that much. 

Hope that helps in some way & good luck with everything!

Cora

Pratyusha says...

Why can't ENFPs be dentists???

Rune Norderhaug (not verified) says...

I would imagine that it may be the percieved lack of connections as well as percieved possible monotony. Remember many of these may be more releated to how we are likely to think about those jobs rather than if we would actually be good at those jobs.

For example, ny fellow ENFP might enjoy  computer science releated positions that are suggested aganist more if they had previousily participated in stuff like attending hackathons more since that is a very social event.

I know personally one of the ones on the list chemists; I had my own feelings aganist doing because though I was good at it, the work seemed very boring and overly methodological compared to fields I enjoyed more such as Biology(though even since I was a child, I desired to be a biologist) or Psychology even though I knew knowledge for those would require knowledge from chemistry too.

 

Dr.dee (not verified) says...

Oh please I'm an enfp and a dentist. Yes I get bored out easily but dentistry isn't boring. In fact the learning period has more opportunity to express your artistic side than any other professional course available. Yes at times my non clinical work gets mundane, but that's not my regular job, when there's a challenging case and a well executed treatment and outcome, I feel very alive. It is never the same procedure. I did pg in periodontics which is a surgical department so i don't do regular cavity fillings. Prosthodontics and orthodontics are other departments that bring out ur cretative And analytical side. And I'm still looking to expand my horizons by attending workshops and doing fellowships. I'm looking to do an implant course to make my work more diverse. I don't like working for someone and so I'm looking to set up my own clinic soon. What's more u get to meet a lot of new people everyday in your practise. Please go for it. I love my job. 

Dr.dee (not verified) says...

Also, nothing to look down upon regular cavity fillings. Every cavity is different, in size, shape and severity and requires different techniques and materials sometimes more than one the same teeth. It's extremely technique sensitive and artistic in nature. I can forget the whole world and time just flies if I have some composite cement in hand. Trust me, dentistry is anything but boring. U need to work hard. U can do it only if u r passionate. And enfps are naturally passionate towards artistic and creative handwork and can turn out to be the best candidate for dentistry. 

WBN (not verified) says...

I'd say a dentist would be so boring! Plus..it's mundane. Same ol' cavity to fill. Or just another root canal to perform. Can't really think outside the box. Methods are what they are. Not much creativity needed to work on teeth! 😂

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