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ENFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ENFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ENFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ENFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ENFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ENFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ENFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ENFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ENFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ENFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ENFPs in Love

In relationships, the ENFP is warm, encouraging, and emotionally engaged. ENFPs connect with others by sharing their feelings and experiences. They are expressive with their mates and want their mates to share openly with them.

ENFPs place great importance on personal development; they encourage their mates to pursue their dreams and want the same encouragement back. They are accepting of their partners as individuals and are unlikely to pressure their partners into being or doing anything in particular. On the rare occasion that they object to a mate's behavior, it's likely to be because their values have been violated.

Although they are quite sensitive, ENFPs can be guarded when it comes to their deepest feelings. They dislike conflict and are likely to withdraw rather than engage in a difficult discussion. ENFPs are flexible and supportive, and would rather find a way to connect than butt heads. They are creative problem-solvers, and can often come up with original ways to compromise.

ENFPs can sometimes be unpredictable, as they follow their inspiration wherever it leads. They can seem unreliable, although they are usually very responsive when a partner is emotionally in need. The ideal mate for an ENFP supports their creativity and caring for others, and expresses appreciation for the ENFP's unique qualities openly and often.

ENFPs as Parents

As parents, ENFPs are creative and devoted. They enjoy creating new experiences for their families and want to inspire their children to grow as individuals. Although they can be very passionate in their ideas about correct behavior, they are not often strong disciplinarians; they value close relationships above all else and may avoid discipline for fear that it will distance them from their children.

ENFPs deeply value their role as parents. However, they tire quickly when subjected to mundane chores and demands from their children. They get the most joy out of parenting when they are connecting emotionally with their children and joining them to explore possibilities for the future.

ENFP Communication Style

ENFPs are enthusiastic, collaborative communicators who love exploring possibilites for people. They often enjoy getting to know other people and understanding what inspires them, and they are insightful about solutions to personal problems. Highly empathic, the ENFP can find something to identify with in almost every person they meet, and enjoys encouraging other people to develop and grow. ENFPs are typically optimistic and like to talk about opportunities for the future, motivating others to join them in their vision.

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Masso (not verified) says...

I been searching for programs to learn. Every program I read about sounded good with its pros and cons. I have always thought of pilot in grade 10 for the travel purpose then moved to psyhcology and socicology to shape and coop with indivivuals thoughts process to now criminology to understand where criminals came from and reason for committed crime. Every program I convinced myself I was doing fell from the restricted four year program that gave opitions of five jobs in the same field. I don't like being in the same place for years. I took a personilaty quiz to find I'm a Champion, which lead me to this site which made me realize why I choose to do the things I do. I'm good at giving my friends realization to see the bigger picture, which why I feel some sort of social work would be good for me. But I crave to do the unexpreienced till expreienced. I love trying new things, cause I get bored of the same old. Hope somebody who understands me as much I relate to all you, can help me with my choice of programs cause I'd been learning every damn program if I could. Also steady income would be nice but also love a challenage. Maybe some advice cause being a young male champion is hard, tried to change but reading this made me only want to embace it.

Masso (not verified) says...

I been searching for programs to learn. Every program I read about sounded good with its pros and cons. I have always thought of pilot in grade 10 for the travel purpose then moved to psyhcology and socicology to shape and coop with indivivuals thoughts process to now criminology to understand where criminals came from and reason for committed crime. Every program I convinced myself I was doing fell from the restricted four year program that gave opitions of five jobs in the same field. I don't like being in the same place for years, I've already have had 5 different part-time jobs since 2017 with many volentenerrting experiences. I just took a personilaty quiz to find I'm a Champion, which lead me to this site which made me realize why I choose to do the things I do. I'm good at giving my friends realization to see the bigger picture, which why I feel some sort of social work would be good for me. But I crave to do the unexpreienced till expreienced. I love trying new things, cause I get bored of the same old. Hope somebody who understands me as much I relate to all you, can help me with my choice of programs cause I'd been learning every damn program if I could. Also steady income would be nice but also love a challenage. Maybe some advice cause being a young male champion is hard, tried to change but reading this made me only want to embace it.

Cal Carter says...

I can agree with most of the results except I didn't see anything about being physically active and the enjoyment of being out in nature. I love art and can appreciate it but if my life depended on drawing a stick man i would not be long for this world. I am a teacher and I have had to make myself be organized, it is a challenge because I just want to reach my kids and see them reach their full potential, and get them through this difficult life of high school.

Someguy (not verified) says...

This fits me perfectly except... Im Inteoverted extroverted, so basicly im shy but i love to socialise with close friends.

Threeletterman says...

When is your birthday?

Sandra says...

Are you gonna ckaculate the birth chart 😂😂 I feel like this and astrology are the two sides of a penny

Calem Hefley (not verified) says...

damn, i think i just found my soulmate

Curtis (not verified) says...

I agree with this, and with that as a fellow enfp with autism i respect the peace for enfps and how they work... huh, i just realized how rare autistic enfps are bc male enfos are only 8% and one in every 42 men are autistic. I also wonder how i work differently than normal enfps plus, im an aquarius 

Kellyb says...

My son has autism.  Interesting that you are an ENFP! I am and ENFP plus an aquarian.  What do you do for a living,  Curtis? 

 

Joe Rogogo (not verified) says...

I do get fed up of comments about the ENFP which make us appear to be inconsistent, distractive or scatty  airheads. Nothing could be further from the truth and I am sure it's the jealousy of the other types who do not have the range of vision and creativity, or the capability we have of turning our hands skilfully to anything we can dream is possible. We have confidence, charisma and foresight. We are exceptional at making people feel comfortable (even the stuffy, overly suspicious types who can drive us bananas). We are exceptional at language(s) including body language and nuance which makes us good comedians (observers and comic timing) . 

Contrary to some comments from other MBTI types (and you can tell I am re-setting the scoreboard here) we can indeed have huge persistance once committed or passionate to an idea. We can be in for the longhaul AND we finish what we start if it's our project, but we do it in a sporadic, haphazard way, which is how creativity works. BUT, what we find utterly boring is the process, the details, the interminable steps you need to arrive at the grand vision. We can invent anything but we might lack the scientific/practical mindset to put it into effect quickly enough for our kaleidoscopic minds. That's when defeat or boredom sets in. Not that we would call a wasted project "defeat," but rather "disappointment" that nobody else could see what a winning opportunity has gone by.  We see the future - what could be - and we want to bring it to humanity now. 

Let's take an example such as film making, or screen writing, one of the best mediums for ENFPs. We just want to see our vision translated on screen and find the unnecessary obstacles of the money men, financiers and intermediary agents a nightmare to deal with. "Why can't the actor see the screenplay? Who are you to decide for them?  Where's your enthusiam and passion? What do you mean it's far-fetched: it's the future genre! What excel spreadsheet figures? No, of course I don't know what the returns will be.Why is all this taking so long?"  You see, we've seen the big picture and the small detailed steps are infuriating. Maybe it is this that other types see as scattered behaviour, because we want to try everything; to travel everywhere, to understand the connections. So we believe that life should encompass being an aerial trapeze artist, a flight attendant, a comic book artist, a singer or actor in a grand movie, an interpreter with the UN, a skydiver or parkour runner., a teacher of philosophy, or a dare-devil horseback rider. Everything needs to be an adventure and there's not enough time in this lifetime to do it all. More like several lives at once.

What stops us? One of the major things an ENFP hates is rules. A new game is discovered and then, all of a sudden, the rule merchants want to create rules and regulations of play; you can't become proficient if you haven't studied or practiced and have not been awarded a piece of paper which tells you you've been certfied as competent. (Try telling that to famous golfers or comedians who try new things and are recognised as such because they broke the rule books that the scared and insecure types have created.) What's spontaneous about any of that?  Chaos reigns in the ENFP head because we believe chaos is how the Universe operates in a splendidly creative order. There that;s off my chest and  I rambling on like an ENFP...?.......Ok, who wants to go surfing?

Iserena C (not verified) says...

I love you!!!! You have said everything I have ever thought in my heart. So sad that I let the feelings of being scattered, overwhelm me for years and feel unaccomplished thought I have a masters degree and let people talk me out of my PHD program because I haven't even worked with my MBA! But I can do all the things I feel happy about without being stuck at a 9-5 everyday doing the same thing.. But that changes now. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! but I'll pass on the surfing, can't swim :)

Tw2020052096 (not verified) says...

This was beautifuly stated and inspiring as well! Goodness gracious have mercy on me Joe. Couldnt be any more accurate!

winifer skattebol (not verified) says...

What you say is so true! And it helps if you're a Gemini as well.

Sandra says...

Wow you're so impressive, what's your zodiac sign ?

Georgia (not verified) says...

Brilliantly said Joe, I couldn't agree more! We do what is important and has meaning. And creativity, chaos and order are all inextricably linked - Einstein would agree! 

CortneyGo (not verified) says...

Hallelujah!!! Thank you Joe! One other thought to add.... maybe, just maybe, sometimes we ENFP's don't finish those projects or meet those deadlines because our assistance/knowledge/creativity is needed by others around us whether at work, home, play....

GeoffreyR (not verified) says...

Well said! Other people always focus on "ENFPs can't commit to something" or " they're scattered" and that is such an overgeneralization! We're always the "flighty one", but can be insanely committed to seeing something through to the end. We just tend to get bored with all the minutae of rules and red tape from point A to point B.  At work, I'm very meticulous and detail oriented, but I also know that life is too short to fuss about things that don't really matter. 

Kathy (not verified) says...

I completely agree.  Once I completely set my ENFP mind to getting something done that I know NEEDS to be done,  I'm insanely committed to seeing it through. I may hate the details, but if those are what it takes to get it done, I will get them finished in order to proceed.  My doctor boss used the phrase "task oriented" to describe me.  My INTP hubby just uses "Anal Retentive"!😂 I am not flakey, scattered, or flighty...and I hate generalizations!  Haha!  

Tmoonchaser says...

I love your description! It's SO true and scattered, all at the same time! lol

coconut---------------------- (not verified) says...

...I agree though, i am a inconsistent, distractive and scatty airhead

Gueno (not verified) says...

I love it! 💛🎈💛🎈🎈🎈💛💛. It’s me. I’m an ENFP biiiiig time. It feels that I’ve had 100 lives already. Very hard to follow for people who don’t embrace systemic thinking, who don’t connect the dots. I’ve already studied art, been a real estate agent and now I’m a doctor in management, leading sustainability at a university level, painting and writing at home and having the best fun diners and parties at my place even with a double fractured leg. I married (now divorced) someone who was clearly far away from my type. It drove me totally nuts, impatient, infuriated. And it drove him nuts too. 

When we tried playing board games he wanted to read all the rules into details while I wanted to know the main goal and get started (for god sake), and see how it goes and figure it out on the way. Haha! 

I love our kids because they are super creative and this is fun. I believe that we are to put it simple: in touch with our soul, with our emotions, with the natural beauty of life. And we love to help others because we care deeply. We’re a force for good. Trying to inspire other’s to be their better self. Reach their full potential.  my life aim is to help other’s be happy, be mindful and conscious, in touch with their deep nature and with Mother Nature. Everyday I try to contribute to that so that we stop damaging our unique planet, so that we take care of ourselves, be kind to ourselves. So that we reach our most positive and loving human potential: Kind love. 

MJ Farina (not verified) says...

Lol, I love your description!! I have also had many careers....beautiican, cop, secretary, nurse. Ive gone to school for aircraft  maintanence, counseling, advanced practicenursing  and now Im about to start a Health Educators program. There are just so many cool things to do and so little time! I learned play guitar about a year ago, I joined aband, I quit a band, Ive done open mics, I write my own songs, I joined another band. All within a year time, lol. I love life. I love trying different thigs. I cant stand details. Your former maritial experience soudns exactly like mine! We drove each other crazy! I had to seriously laugh out loud when you talked about playing a board game! Exactly the same!!! I love being an ENFP and I love my fellow ENFP's. We rock!  

Sasha Boskovic (not verified) says...

Hey MJ! 

Looking for advice. Im 23 and im learning more about myself every day. The people pleasing attribute totally takes over my ability to make decisions and because I have a million ideas I don't know what to commit to and rebel for! What helped you find the right career? I'm worried I will spend a million years investing in the wrong direction! 

Wishing a fellow ENFP all the best! 

LdyGamer Twitter (not verified) says...

THIS!!! Joe, you are indeed a kindred spirit, pun intended. I just loved your *ahem* discussion on the wild, wily, witty and wonderful ENFP. I am one myself, of course, and I completely related to your uhh, comment! I probably would have made a similarily lengthy one but whyever for? You said it all my friend :D Well met and well said!

Khalsa (not verified) says...

you really nailed it with this description Joe.  Thank you for this.

AnINTJ (not verified) says...

This INTJ loves your type, but find this incorrect self evaluation infuriating.  What you have described here is a child, not a personality type.

Grow up, accept your weaknesses, and let others help you make the decisions you cannot.   Such is the human condition.

 

KiwiJulie (not verified) says...

Thankyou!

i have no desire to "grow up". 

if I can travel through this life and maintain the genuine wonderment and awe of a child - I will die happy. 

Mabel Monroe (not verified) says...

You nailed it.  Scary how much this described me and now I don't have to blame myself for being the way I am....thanks.

Tanner Bourne (not verified) says...

The way you describe us as ENFP's is the best description I've ever read. Thank you so much for this.

Marie Ch (not verified) says...

I agree! I hate rules, they are so fucking annoying. My family breathes Though rules and tradition and proven methods its been so hard to live with them. They always dismiss any idea with "but what if". Needless to say am the black sheep. And yes if I can find something that doesnt bore me to death in the first 10 min Ill stick to that with a passion (until it does, anyways).

Derekjw75 (not verified) says...

Oh man you just described every bit of my son in the way he would describe it. I'm an INFP so we share a lot of interests, but I've really struggled to understand how my son operates and how to best support him but this was really helpful. Thank you.

Ricci Underwood (not verified) says...

I'm using "Kalidoscopic Mind" as a way to describe myself from now.

Colleen Noelle (not verified) says...

That was perfectly stated! At first i wanted to argue with you when you said we're not scattered, cause Lord knows it looks as such! You brought a little bit of clarity to this with your rant and i couldn't thank you enough!

Olivia Romao (not verified) says...

Fantastic Description!!! I totally resonate.

Mike D (not verified) says...

As a fellow ENFP, I approve this message! Hit it right on the head my brother!

Waynee (not verified) says...

I suffer from drug/alcohol addcition and depression/bi-polar/anxiety. I tried to kill myself by jumping from my 4-story apartment window one year ago. I broke my spine and a bunch of other shit and I've spent the last year of my life getting sober and learning how to walk again. I now walk with a cane. I wonder if this has anything to do with my personality type? Any other ENFP struggle with the same things? LMK. I'm smiling today. I'm happy to be alive.

Crispy (not verified) says...

That's awesome to hear. I struggle with addiction and have thought hey might be easier...thanks for sharing 

Natalee Cervantes (not verified) says...

Wayne, very happy to hear that you are alive and that you are smiling about it. Growing up I think I have struggled with alcohol addiction at such a young age. I don't think this alone is something that is influenced by our personality type. My siblings have struggled with addictions as well and they are not ENFP's. What has helped me with overcoming this addiction is focusing my energy on other things that don't cause me stress or detriment. I think as ENFP's we are very emotional and sometimes for me at least my emotions can be overwhelming which led me down to paths of destruction and addiction. Smiling with you today. Our positive mindset says we will make it through and be okay :) 

Le says...

Fellow ENFP friend here, hope you are reading this, because there is hope and restoration for you, there is someone who can heal your wounds and restore your health. Jesus loves you so deeply that He sacrificed his life for you. In one parable, He tells about two distinct types of houses men built. One who built his house on the sand. The rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell. But the other one did not fall, because it had been founded on the Rock! He can be the Rock in your life you can build a Life of true abundance upon. With love.

Catherine (not verified) says...

Hi Wayne, I wanted to respond to your message because you've been to the edge, gone over it, and come back. that should be recognised! I don't have the knowledge to confirm if certain personality types are more likely to have mental health issues but I suspect everyone can from all types. I'd like to say that I have overcome my darkest times and now live life with so much positivity and I know you can too. The turnarounds for me were Buddhism, meditation and, most recently, Solution Focused Practice, an approach I now use in my work as a counsellor. Good luck Wayne with your future🙂

Thomas says...

Im glad you are ok and love life. I'm an ENFP and I have a chronic pain condition. Before I developed it I was a world traveler, I worked for myself. After I developed it my life feel apart, I had to have good health insurance, I needed a stable income, and needed to keep to a 8-5 schedule in order for my pain to be manageable. I am an artist and prefer to stay up late so doing this felt almost impossible. It was very hard for me to drive to work or walk long distances. For a period of 6 months my wife had to get a job while I was attending a free pain managment program to manage my pain. She resented me, so she had an affiar with another man. She found my replacement and I divorced her. For a brief period i turned to alcohol as an escape.  I almost killed myself twice. I dont think suicide and addiction is an ENFP thing. I think it is in all of us. Sometimes our idea of life  doesnt meet our expectations. A tramatic event triggers us.  I lost my wife, friends and some family members because  I was no longer useful to them or they didnt understand what was happening to me....so they blamed me. But as an ENFP we have to be around people and when they leave us it hurts us to our soul. I had to learn to put myself 1st and to maintain a schedule and play by the rules to better myself. I also learned to meditate and live in the moment and to not be lonely. I learned that pain is inevitable and suffering is optional. And to fight for myself and not care about what people think. Im also happy to be alive. Enfps are optimistic and see all the great things in life. That is what we have going for us. What we need to do is not rely on people for our sense of self and to be more structured. That is the key. It really is one day at a time. 

LifsACelebration (not verified) says...

Be careful when being told you are bi-polar and accepting that diagnosis... I learned as a 40 something year old that I have ADD. I wondered several times if I had bi-polar disorder, but never experienced bouts of mania, so ruled it out myself. Undiagnosed and unmedicated, ADD/ADHDers typically struggle with addictions and chronic depression. Once I began meds for my ADD, I stopped cycling through regular periods of depression and was able to stop taking Fluoxetine/Prozac which I'd been on for at least a few years after fighting my doctor to not take it for 2-3 years. At the time, it was helpful, but I also ate sugar like a kid having a daily Halloween candy buffet!! My brain needs and craves stimulants- without my Adderall, it will get them some orher way. Depression should never be a diagnosis... it is a symptom of some root cause. In my case, ADD. If it hadn't been for my sister who is a Special Ed teacher, I would have accepted my bi-polar diagnosis, but she knew better, so I fought for what I believed and got the help I needed. It is very common, especially for ADDers to get misdiagnosed... we aren't hyper, but take a look at the living space, or office/desk, or car of an ADD/ADHDer and it is utter disorganization. Stacks and stuff on every available surface. I personally cannot go grocery shopping without it taking 2-3 hours in the store with a list! I get distracted, decide on new meals/recipes, forget items and have to go back to the same aisle over and over, then forget to put items back I changed my mind about, check my list/recipes over a dozen times, but forgot I was going to double the recipe and use x instead of y, then I remember and have to go back again... all because they were out of something and I don't want to have to repeat this process in yet another store! The simple things are incredibly difficult- that is the major difference between ADD/ADHDers and those w/out the condition; organizational abilities and focus abilities. Just wanted to put that out there for anyone who might benefit. :) 

Biopicnina (not verified) says...

Enfp. Bipolar. Anxeity, selfharm, panic attacs, flashbacks from trauma.. uuumm. I think thats about it. I really dont think our meyers brigg personality has much to do with our illness. How we express and cope with it sure, but it is an illness. Like diabetes it's something that just happens, out of our control. What was the point with this? Wait, I think I already made it. Man my head is a mess today. Glad you're feeling better. Dont give up.

Adrenaline Junkee (not verified) says...

Yep.  I was in the army and changed jobs several times before getting into the Special Forces.  Got out climbed towers and then went to university studying counseling where I then became a heroin addict for two years, almost topped myself.  Been clean for six months and now working with horses.  Life is good. 

I'm hearing you mate...

James W (not verified) says...

I am a part of several ENFP groups (because if we don't socialize I'm pretty sure we'd melt) and mental health, or the ailments affecting such, is a common topic and thread. Myself absolutely included.

I cannot objectively say if we're more liable to have depression or develop bipolar or suicidal tendencies, but I think we just FEEL it more. We're a very intense type, in all walks, and it manifests in those dire moments.

You're not alone, I'm not alone, and we're both smiling. It's kind of cool in a messed up way. 

Antoine (not verified) says...

Hey Waynee,   My name is Antoine, and I an a ENFP as well. I too, have struggled with drug and alcohol addiction.

 

Louise L (not verified) says...

I found friends are extremely important to an ENFP. Because you rely on friends' energy a lot, you need to be careful with what influence they bring to you. Choose them wisely. Caring too much about what other people think of you could make you feel miserable. Best wishes!

marritza caldaron (not verified) says...

im single and misserible............

Cristian Víctor-Vega (not verified) says...

Don't worry Marritza, by the way, ENFP here.  The best I can provide for you is to practice mindfulness.  Since ENFPs are philophiles, that is lovers of love, we must feed off of love.  One way to do this is to make a playlist of love songs; make sure you sing along!  Also, tune in your thoughts and feelings with the music; fantasize about what you and someone you love could be.  Ne is our primary function and seeing  "what could be" is extremely essential, specifically in an optimistic manner.  Fi is our secondary function, therefore if you have no one to express your feelings towards, music is the way to go, especially by singing and tuning in.  Like I said, we are lovers of love, and by sending out love to the universe, the universe will send us love back.  This way, you will notice that people care about you, and you will notice that people love you, and people will love you.  I mean c'mon, that's just how the Law of Attraction works.  Hence, keep your head up and be optimistic about life; pessimism only destroys an ENFP (trust me, I've been in the depths of reality and it's traumatized me).  I think that's about it for today.  But to sum it all up, just practice optimism, do what's best for you, and good luck at it.  Cheers!

Cindi (not verified) says...

I've never felt more attacked and understood in my life LOL I work in communications, am attending school to finish my bachelor in communications, and am a published children's book author. I would imagine the main charachter in my Jellibean Adventure series is an ENFP as well. I positively love connecting with people. I especially love to sit and listen to stories from elders in our community. 

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