Hi all, I'm a newbie.
I'm fascinated by these questionnaires and profiles. I got INFP. But I see that there are all sorts of nice things like I'm an Empath, a good listener, sympathetic, care for others etc.
My partner would possibly disagree with much of that. She feels that I don't care about or support her enough. I feel that I care so much about her but it's hard to get through or for my support to be recognised. I really care about and empathise with people - I'm sure I do. I get choked up when I see people suffering. I'm interested in listening to people's problems but I'm terrible at giving advice. She doesn't want advice and can get angry if I try to give it. Just listening is fine for me, I don't mind her offloading her problems on me when she comes home from work.
I think a problem that I have, which may be what affects her so much is that I miss things. Sometimes stuff goes over my head unnoticed. Important stuff. And when she has problems which we've discussed, I can later end up caught up in my own life and interests and problems again, as if the discussion never happened. She however, remembers everything.
It's just that if I showed her these lovely INFP traits and some of the other types that come to my type - in addition to HEALER - like:
She'd probably or might disagree. I just find it hard to believe that I'm such a wonderful (if scatty and disorganised) person.
I'm reading Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic's book on CONFIDENCE at the moment and he says that, how others rate of us - on balance - is usually more accurate than our self-rating. For example, overly-confident people will say in studies that they're very popular in their group/class/workplace, but when the others rate them, they tend to say the opposite. Conversely, less confident, humble people tend to be MORE popular.
So, when I do these tests, I'm actually rating myself, which worries me a little.
I'd love to read your thoughts on this, thanks,