Hey there I am one of those rare INTP females and my dating life is a disaster. Whatsmore, it says that INTPs NEVER make the first move, so that's why I have yet to meet another INTP male love interest! Quite the conundrum it's comical! Sooo, I'm boldly making the first move and want male INTPs looking for their INTP female life partner to give it a go - contact me and let's see where it may lead.... you know we are super fun and we like the same things, should be a no brainer right?
Sincerely yours,
Stephani
INTP

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David S (not verified) says...

The very nature and rarity of INTP makes your dilemma very difficult. I'm a male INPT and found relationships very difficult but got lucky and found someone who was raised by a female INTP and she understands me though she is an entirely different personality type, very gregarious and people friendly. You might find that the same personality traits in a partner does not work at all. But if you find someone that understands INTP personalities they may be a much better match. You may find that your personalities complement and complete each other.

trayjaytucker says...

Totally agree with David above there. I think differences in a relationship are positive things - your partner can bring you strengths that you lack and visa versa. You just need to be with someone who isn't judgemental, who will accept you and your quirks (we all have them) and that doesn't mean someone who is the same as you necessarily. A similar underpinning, morals, beliefs, that's good, but an extrovert can bring an introvert out of his shell, a calm person can sooth an anxious one, a very active person can make a less active one get up and go, and the less active partner can get the active one to chill out more often - etc. etc. I'm not saying that it wouldn't work with an INTP at all, I am saying be open to other personality types - perhaps the healer types or the teacher types - the more understanding, empathetic people, who won't be too fast to judge you for being who you are.

kennhinds says...

STEPHSAKE im guessing your from like Australia because it would be to simple to have someone close
My belief is that it is much the comical idea that you speak of, or is it. One of the core belh like a iefs is that we will question everything. That being said, maybe the real question, is what are we questioning. We have already figured out that we are on a higher level of thinking. We have discerned that we do in fact have questions waiting to question the very question. Is it really a question that we are asking or more like a question waiting to be asked. I know from personal experience, that this ideal of thinking has so many flaws, yet so many truths to it. Take a second, and analyze the question, what you may see is that the question is actually the answer that we so seek for. Another core belief is that, all things in this world fit in a way, much like a puzzle. I don't know nor perceive to know anyone elses mind, but when I have the last piece of a puzzle in my hand I am like the happiest person. When i said the question is the answer, I mean that, we will not be able to simply find someone. They more or less will just show up and be that last piece of the puzzle. At that point whomever makes the first or last move is not needed. It is already there. It just fits i guess.

James Bowdoin (not verified) says...

I can feel you, Not until a few years ago did I find out about temperament types, INTP. I know now and its helped me understand, growing up thinking why no one calls, being hurt. I can solve any thing but theirs a trade off your personally, you can only talk shop. Is like to chat, I prefer to talk on the phone, dyslexia
Jim

Unicorn (not verified) says...

I am an INTP female and I'm married to an ESFJ male. It's utterly exhausting. While I do think that having some differences can be beneficial, being at the polar opposite of the spectrum is more than a challenge. Had I known about types back then I wouldn't have signed up for this. If I ever hit the dating scene again I'll be asking dudes to take the MBTI test. No shame.

Stephsake says...

Unicorn - YES! You understand what I'm sayin'! My heart goes out to you and your mismatched relationship! INTPs ROCK!

iratenate (not verified) says...

I would be interested in hearing your challenges. I am an INTP male and my soon to be live in girlfriend is an ESFJ...opposite sides of the spectrum.... we have been together for 2.5 years now and I don't really see any issues. My philosophy is accept people for who they are, let them be them and let you be you. I have always surrounded my self with my opposites throughout my life and in all my close relationships and while I like to deal with INTP's in business, I find it hard/boring in my personal life. Lets face it...INTP's are NOT good at small talk and I am an adventure seeking INTP because it's the only thing that grounds me in the present, so I am the call to action (lets go cliff jumping, SCUBA diving, Mt. Biking, ever see how fast you can navigate through the grocery store)and it is totally wonderful to have someone talking to you when you are going on your next adventure.

Uniquelyintp (not verified) says...

Wow I have just found this forum. It is soo great to finally understand me and I'm not alone!! like yourself stephsake i struggle with relationships normally such a disaster!! But somehow I can't imagine anything worse than being with a fellow intp.. surely we would be sitting there thinking and analysing everything and what if we disagree! I would like a non judgemental mildly extravert i think.. whatever that is :)

Guest (not verified) says...

How do we connect?

Steele says...

I just found this forum. I'm intp borderline intj 56/47 (according to 16 personalities) I'm 29 and looking for a meaningful relationship. 

I hope I'm not too late :/

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