I'm a 17 year old INFP about to finish high school (I'm in the exam phase), and while I have been getting ready for my exams, I encountered many problems in my friendships which just brought me down and now I don't even understand who I am anymore. I have realised that many people I was very close to have just left me behind or don't like talking to or being around me anymore, and this made me confused especially since I'm not sure what I did to them. I just decided to not say anything about it to anyone and just continue to tackle other problems and not my own. I spent most days just trying to push down my feelings but eventually I wanted to understand if the way I am as a person is the reason why I have been left by many close friends. I do feel alone a lot more now, and I imagine all sorts of bad things happening to me due to all of this, but it has been quite a while and it's best for me to overcome the sadness since it may affect how I am whenever I write an exam, and I want to finally feel happy after so many weeks of not feeling like myself. So now, my question is how would other fellow INFPs overcome this?

Comments

Rach (not verified) says...

I'm a 25 yo infp who had a similar situation with my friends from high school. At the time I didn't understand it, but looking back on it I see why it happened. As an infp, I function better with one or two close friends who really under stand me. I also think that I was just friends with the group I was friends with because I didn't have a better option. INFP peeps tend to be more introverted and creative, which can lead to us being mis-seen by others. My advice to you would be to find a few friends who really mean alot to you, and understand you, and stick with them. It also doesn't matter what your personality is, (and i know it sucks)but your high school friends aren't forever. 

Anne says...

I am an INFP who has just turned 60 and spent spent most of my life from my teens acting out as an ENFP in order to fit in. The friends who are not wanting to hang out with you are not your people. You want quality not quantity when it comes to friends. I had forgotten the effort I had made as a teenager to change and it became who I actually thought I was. It was exhausting and had me moving totally away from my authentic self until now. So now I recognize who I truly am as an INFP and am finally living as my authentic happy self. Whatever you do stay true to who you are and live your life true to your values. It took me a lifetime of being totally off track to come back around to who I was always meant to be. 😊

Abby G (not verified) says...

I’m basically in the same situation because I’m an INFP & a senior in highscool, and I can completely relate to you. What I’ve had to tell myself, and what I can say to you is, do not stress the friends that do not stick by you. Find those quality friends that you feel like you can be yourself around, and you feel valued by. I’ve had to maintain convenient relationships with people in sports and classes, but these are not necessarily the people I see myself being close to. Time will present you with opportunities to meet new people to connect with, and take those opportunities! Going out of your comfort zone to meet new people who seem interesting can definitely pay off.

Reign (not verified) says...

I'm an 18 year old infp, and was in the same situation as you. They just forgot about me as if we we're never friends but hey you deserve people who see's your value and accepts you for who you are (no matter what your personality is)  move on from those people they are in your past now and find people who truly treasure and accept you as who you are. It will be though at first but trust it will get better, someday you will find your people maybe not now or tommorow but someday. :)

Share your thoughts

Truity up to date