Why is it so Hard for INFJs to Find Love?

Idealists to the core, INFJs are the ultimate hopeless romantics. These personalities care deeply about people and generally look to form meaningful connections with others and find kindred spirits in whom they can confide. But if INFJs are so connected and compassionate, why is it so hard for them to find love?

Let’s take a look at some reasons.

10 Self Help Books you Should Read as an INFJ

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on July 23, 2022

INFJs love working on their personal growth, and it isn’t uncommon for them to explore growth through self-help books. Self-help literature can offer people a new perspective, new information, and even new schedule ideas to help people achieve a better work-life balance. 

If you’re an INFJ who’s open to exploring the self-help department, consider these 10 self-help books that are perfect for INFJ personality types. 

What Does the Future You Look Like? The Clue is in Your Personality Type

Yes, we're all born with one personality type which we have our entire lives. But as we grow older and have new life experiences – especially important ones like births, deaths, schooling, becoming parents and working – we grow and develop different aspects of our personalities. And although no one can know what the future holds, there is a somewhat predictable blueprint for how we may change over time. 

Here’s a glimpse of what the future YOU may be like.

Can your Enneagram Wing Change in Different Situations or Throughout Your Life?

Enneagram wings are an additional influence on personality, and as such you’ll need to study them to understand how someone with your Enneagram number will function in the real world.

One of the most common questions people ask is can your Enneagram wings change? It turns out the answer could be either yes or no, depending on what is meant by the word change.

Does this sound confusing? It isn’t really, as we’ll discover as we delve more deeply into the complexities of the Enneagram personality system.

The Top Three Superpowers of Each Enneagram Type

If you were a superhero what would your superpower be? 

Even if you’re not shooting lasers from your eyes or webs from your hands, we all have superpowers we use in everyday life. Whether you’re able to tune into others' emotions, organize people or have laser-like focus, these are all superpowers. 

If you’re curious to know the top superpowers of each Enneagram type, read on! Here are the top three strengths you have and should be taking advantage of.

How Each Enneagram Type Rests and Recuperates

Everyone is different when it comes to relaxing and winding down for the day. How each Enneagram rests depends on their core Enneagram type, which also plays a role in how stressed they’re likely to get in different situations, and when they really should grab some rest and recreation so they can fire on all cylinders again. 

Here’s your Enneagram type’s most common rest activity when you need a break. 

How to Manage the Survival Games You Play

When we are stressed, frightened or hurt, various systems kick into action to keep us safe. Some of these are biological, such as the fight or flight hormone response that prompts us to stay and fight or run away.  Others are related to our personalities, such as the tendency to act out when our needs aren’t being met, or to protect our self-esteem from taking any more hits than it can handle. 


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