The ambitious and determined Enneagram Three, “The Achiever,” is a devoted partner, who strives to shine for their partner and build a life together full of happiness and success. As part of the heart-traid, Threes easily pick up on the emotions of other people, but they can struggle to understand their own feelings. Because of this, they need partners who will truly recognize their needs and offer them consistent support.
We can accomplish far more together than we can alone. In partnerships, we double our productivity, cover each other's blindspots, and tick off life's achievements faster. But only if both people share the same vision, and support each other to approach it in their own way.
My experience with burnout, not once but twice, shifted the trajectory of my career forever — although it affected me differently each time. The first time I was exposed to prolonged workplace stress, a career change was already overdue; I just didn’t know what the change should be. So, leaving wasn’t something I would regret. I simply gave my notice and picked up some temp work while I figured out my next steps.
The second time was different, very different.
Job hunting is an exhausting process no matter what point in your career you are at. But you’re not alone when it comes to feeling uncertain, self-conscious, or frustrated about the entire process of searching for a new job. While any job hunter, seasoned or new to the workforce, can feel uncomfortable searching, applying, and interviewing for jobs, personality testing can help you put things into perspective and bring you a little peace about which jobs are worth pursuing.
Many people think Extraverts like to talk all the time, while Introverts prefer not to talk at all. Superficially this might seem true, but it is a stereotyped version of the differences that mark the Introvert vs. Extravert dividing line.
This blog post is part of our Fundamentals of the Enneagram series, which takes a deeper dive into all the Enneagram elements - wings, arrows, subtypes, centers of intelligence, growth pathways and more. For an overview of the series, start with our introductory post, then check out our story on defenses here.
The Enneagram Two, the “Giver,” is a warm and affectionate partner. Twos are true romantics and they often put the wants and needs of their partner above their own. Their positive and helpful energy is infectious and, for this reason, they are extremely desirable companions in friendships and romantic relationships.
Our relationships are often a reflection of ourselves; of something within us that we can’t see clearly. Our friends and relationships often offer us something we can’t yet provide for ourselves. While that could be a recipe for codependency, it mostly is an opportunity to see a strength practiced in action and find a way to adopt it for ourselves, instead of relying on someone else to provide it for us.
While anyone could write off personality tests as just a form you have to fill for work, or a silly pastime from high school days, these reports can also be a powerful self-growth tool. After all, it’s always fun and validating to realize more people see the world in a similar way to you.
One of the most common mistakes people make when trying to find their Enneagram type is that they over-identify with a single specific trait. For example, someone who over-identifies with anger might assume they are an Enneagram type 8, another with anxiety assumes they are a Type 6, while someone who identifies with helpfulness assumes they are a Type 2.