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ESTJ Strengths

Organization and efficiency. ESTJs are planners and list makers—orderly and scheduled. Their brain naturally imposes structure on their lives and on their time. ESTJs enjoy creating order out of chaos and are always punctual. This contributes to the perception others have of them as reliable, dependable and steady. 

Dedication and commitment. No one could accuse the ESTJ of shirking, and it’s natural for this type to give 110 percent in all areas of life and exhibit boundless energy as they do. They’d sooner sacrifice their personal time or preferences than renege on a commitment or fail to submit their best work. Employers can count on ESTJs to uphold the vision of the organization at all times, to work at full speed and to encourage others to do the same. 

Integrity. ESTJs demonstrate consistent integrity in roles of leadership, believing the rules apply as much to them as their subordinates. And though they skillfully exercise authority, they also show great respect for their own superiors and don’t struggle to follow orders. They see that organizations and societies function best when there is a healthy sense of respect and duty. 

Stewardship. ESTJs are the gatekeepers of society. They are people who feel personally responsible for upholding the standard and formulating a very clear picture of what passes and what doesn’t. As such, ESTJs can always be counted on to uphold the laws, rules, regulations and ordinances that keep society structured and functioning smoothly. On the home front, ESTJs are committed to their families and desire to provide well for anyone they consider to be under their care. 

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ESTJ Weaknesses

Judgmental. A black-and-white approach to life can be a significant pitfall for the ESTJ. While they are commendably committed to their beliefs, they often forget that all of the principles they espouse are neither universal nor objective, and the traditional, time-honored way isn’t the only way. ESTJs may fail to see that innovation can be beneficial and can be impatient with people who choose non-conventional lifestyles, coming across as judgmental or narrow-minded as a result. 

Uncomfortable with emotions. ESTJs often fail to value emotions or take feelings into account—their own and others’—and this can make them appear harsh, abrasive, utilitarian and uncaring. Their typically low EQ may lead them to misjudge the intentions of others and to be equally misunderstood. They often have little patience for people who think or act intuitively or who react emotionally, seeing these as liabilities rather than potential strengths. 

Workaholism. While the ESTJ work ethic is to be commended, people of this type can also err on the side of workaholism and perfectionism. Their Type A personality and intensity can be a little hard for others to take, as they are often quite unsympathetic to those who may not work as hard or as “perfectly” as they do. 

Stubborn and inflexible. ESTJs are committed to their own way or perspective as objectively right, and this can impede the process of personal growth. In fact, ESTJs are often so firmly planted in their original belief, as well as their own rightness, that they fail to acknowledge new or conflicting information that would lead to an altered and perhaps truer conclusion. Rigidity can keep them from being truly open minded and their practical approach to thinking and life in general may stifle their ability to think imaginatively or to exercise vision.

ESTJ Growth and Development

In order to reach their full potential, ESTJs should:

Withhold judgment. ESTJs may be quite sure they have the motive, intent, outcome and conclusion figured out before they’ve received even a fraction of the details, and fail to acknowledge that he or she may not have the whole story. They will do well to hold off a bit before delivering a snap judgment or assessment. Focus on asking more questions, waiting for more details and acknowledging that as certain as you are, there may be things you are not seeing. 

Live and let live. ESTJs often don’t realize that their way isn’t the only way and that other personalities have much to contribute and should not be dismissed. The ESTJ that can bend a little might find that flexibility and openness isn’t such a bad thing. There is really no need to be stubborn just for the sake of it. 

Be more self-critical. ESTJs have a tendency to think they are always right and that their moral compass is objective, absolute and universal. But their objectivity isn’t always objective as it appears—they have a standard that feels objective to them, often due to “how it’s always been done.” They would benefit from realizing that personal objectivity is, by definition, somewhat subjective, and spending some time examining the bases of their beliefs.

Get in touch with their feelings. ESTJ’s need to work on acknowledging their own feelings, and being a little more careful with the feelings of others. While it may seem that it’s “not personal,” it may be to a subordinate or a child. Harshness and rigidity can drive away good employees and estrange family members, so make a point to recognize the gifts and talents of others and to be intentional in showing appreciation for these talents. 

Take it easy. ESTJs need to work on stress relief and intentionally taking it easy. While they don’t want to be seen as lazy, it helps to remember that leisure and rest are not signs of sloth, but normal ways in which humans recharge. ESTJs benefit from taking vacations that really are vacations (not endless activity, planning and tourism) and to practice forced rest. Practices such as yoga, tai chi and meditation can help. 

 

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Doug Carr (not verified) says...

It seems to be right on target with a lot of things. However, I do like my alone time of being an introvert.

Guest (not verified) says...

You may be an ISTJ...

Guest (not verified) says...

I feel the same way

Guest (not verified) says...

then you are probably an istj

Les (not verified) says...

Me too Doug! I do like my chill out time where I endulge in things that boost my creativity and make me think about things non-work related. Best example is a stage performer who behind the stage keeps to him/herself, is quiet, reads books in the corner, etc. However once they hit the stage, a change occurs and ....wow!

Sierra Laveau (not verified) says...

Clearly your not an ESTJ if your an introvert. Read the letters sis

not doug (not verified) says...

yeh sis

Lauren (not verified) says...

I am an ESTJ also and I require a bit of time to myself. My test had me right in the middle of E and I but I lean to the E side more than the I side which gave me an ESTJ result instead of an ISTJ. You can be an ESTJ and still need alone time. 

not doug (not verified) says...

well doug, i must say if you are an introvert then you simply cannot be an ESTJ. you should concider doing the test again and be honest this time.

Person who’s not a bot (not verified) says...

Actually scientists have recently made a new type called ambiverts which are a mix of both intra and extraverts

Teresa Jean Heupel (not verified) says...

Just because you like alone time does not mean you are an introvert. We all need time away from others to regroup and reframe. :)

 

jesshorselover221 (not verified) says...

this is good KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!

Tanny (not verified) says...

The estj profile for me is almost exactly the way I am. However, on ocassion I am willing to stray out of confirmity.

Guest (not verified) says...

I agree and

Ren (not verified) says...

I think it's important to note that it's not "conform no matter what", but "stick to successful strategy unless it doesn't work anymore". That's how I feel about a lot of civil rights issues. If it were working under the present conditions, I'd let it slide, but when our society is pressuring conformity without logical reasoning, then it's time to change.

Guest (not verified) says...

I need to find a partner that is an estj

amina.x.amara says...

if you're a man , then I am the woman for you ! But what is your profile ?

Guest (not verified) says...

Avoid the INFP. They are super intuitive and will eventually resent your relationship behavior.

Guest (not verified) says...

As an INFP I must agree on this:-). My mum is a classic ESTJ and boy, did I resent her! She was managing everything (which was great!), but she was criticizing my family members non-stop and made everyone feel bad about themselves. Especially when the INFP is not aware of personality types, he or she will not understand why you care about 'all the little rules' and why you're commanding and trying to fix the people around you. An INFP's conclusion will be that you're 'mean, difficult and controlling'. And, to be honest, we will not respect you the way we would respect an ENTJ, because we INFP's would like our leaders to show us 'the bigger picture', true vision (in our eyes), and not just the set of rules. Every time you take control of a situation with a tough hand, micromanage, or fail to take an INFP's opinion into consideration, it hurts them and they will resent you for it. They will remember the hurtful incidents like an elephant, and they will slowly remove themselves from your life (not with a door slam, but just no contact or they will suddenly tell you that they have found another job and will leave in a month, or they will tell you very respectfully that they will need to take a break from the relationship) However, if you are willing to let down your guard, show kindness and let an INFP know you are only human and not 'always right', they will be the first to support and encourage you and see things from your perspective. Be willing to explain your values and behavior to them. After all, your opinion is just an opinion, not the truth. We have loads of empathy, so it's difficult for us to hold grudges, but INFP's need to be able to see you as a 'real person' and not a 'perfect persona' or 'job title' in order to be able to like, support, respect or love you. INFP's are the natural supporters of people that dare to be humble (because we don't respect society's 'masks' and in our eyes, all people are equal and deserve respect.) We don't understand it when people see themselves as 'more deserving' or 'entitled to a certain opinion' or think their methods and dogma's are the only way to go. If you want your relationship with the INFP to work, you have to show them you can be humble, open-minded and kind. They are not the type to use your weaknesses and insecurities against you. If you treat them as equals and allow them time to form an opinion (they are big-picture thinkers, so they need more time than you to reach a conclusion or to come up with a plan), you will have a loyal friend/supporter/advisor/partner/employee for life....sorry for the extreme long comment, but I felt the need to share this with the ESTJ's on this website, so our personality types (that are each other's exact opposites) stop hurting each other and work together smoothly. No more INFP's that suddenly disappear and no more unnecessary micromanaging of ESTJ's will keep teams and families happy :). 

Cate W (not verified) says...

Estjs are the worst. People who unfortunately have them as family members love them in spite of themselves not because of themselves.

ESTJ (not verified) says...

I think any 'feeling' types will struggle with ESTJs as they we both logical AND extroverted, which leads to a lot of (what ESTJs see as) logical and accurate speech being taken (by the F types) as blunt, cold and deliberately hurtful. Not a good combination, unless both know one another very well.

Wryyyy (not verified) says...

I work with an ESTJ and I'm an INFJ ....I cannot stand them anymore and I feel an INFJ door slam about to happen. 

Guest (not verified) says...

Lol! This sounds like my experience. I'm an infp, my sibling is an intp...my dad is a estj. He still treats us like we landed from another planet, he just doesn't understand that our ideas of happiness are totally different from his. He means well, but our childhoods were extremely uncomfortable and he seems to be completely incapable of understanding what he did to cause it. Essentially, he thinks there's something 'wrong' with us both. I've just learned to let it wash over me when he starts trying to dictate, and do my own thing.

not doug (not verified) says...

i have a friend that would be interested

Riley Martin (not verified) says...

I am so happy with my personality it is siiiickkk

Jason Hawkins (not verified) says...

i agree with it because i do like to get stuff done and i work

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi ESTJ. I'm am INTP who enjoys finding like minded people like myself which isn't easy. Being a female INTP is about 2% or so of the planet - the so called elusive. So here I am online to find a decent conversation. I basically harass/and or enjoy talking to everyone - depending on their MB type of course. I am especially drawn to ESTJ's however. In a way quite the opposite. BUT wait. Not completely. I love to shake up the ESTJ's- tradition, order, socially acceptable behavior. How boring. But hey, they are great as the THINKERS. Yes that is the good part. The logic. I say, just take that beautiful sensible logic, authority and confidence, to determine when to take that elevator home at 4:30 like the other slackers to take a walk on the beach. Since you only live once. Yes, that is a fact- you only live once. Too bad for you poor hardworking ESTJ's. Missing out on all the fun, all work and no play. Thats what your MB profile says. I work for the money baby. To stash it away. To be an ESTJ and work for work sake sounds like a death sentence. LOL. Just having fun here, just joking around tonight. :)

ENTJ (not verified) says...

Dude.  Are you drunk?

ESTJ (not verified) says...

I think people mistake our work ethic for 'work for works sake'. It's more that our sense of value in the world is heavily based on what we contribute and how much we can offer during our time on the planet. We have a very strong moral compass and sense of duty that translates into a huge desire to be useful and throw ourselves into getting as much done as we can. We can literally hear the seconds of our life ticking away and get very uncomfortable just sitting around watching TV or not doing anything of value. As if someone will point the finger at us and question why we are 'being lazy'! Although I'm certain childhood and life experience have some impact on types, as all the ESTJs I know either had very demanding parents that expected a LOT out of them or they had bad things happen to them and developed structure and control as a coping mechanism. If you grow up in that sort of environment, then it becomes second nature. I constantly question whether people think I'm lazy and useless, even though I get an insane amount of work done. That ties into my lack of emotional intelligence. I never really know whether people actually like me unless they clearly tell me or praise something I've done (which is more tangible), so working hard and getting things done is something measurable that I can use to say 'well, I've done x, y, z so I'm clearly not THAT lazy and useless'. Other types worry a lot. ESTJs compensate by doing a lot.

You are right that we can be annoying or confusing to people who don't share our machine-like drive to get things done. I've never looked at it from an outside perspective, but I'm sure we come across as too serious and logical for most people (especially emotional/sensitive types). I know I've inadvertantly hurt people in the past with what I considered to be purely factual statements. I don't realise it until much later and always feel guilty, as I don't mean it that way. And unlike thinkers with more laid back personalities, we can be exhausting if we don't develop the social skills in adulthood to act as a buffer. I know a few ESTJs and we have definitely mellowed out with age. We would have all ended up killing each other back in our 20s if left in a room together! So apologies on behalf of all the young and still very blunt and overpowering ESTJs out there!

As for INTPs, my cousin and fiance are both INTP and they are my favourite people in the world! I can be incredibly logical with them without worrying if I'm being too blunt, but they come up with amazing ideas that I can then put into practice. I worked in the same company as my cousin for a few years and we were like the A Team! I love listening to them brainstorm and I don't try to organise them unless they ask for it (which happens a lot), but respect the way they work and WAIT to be asked. I think that is key. Too many ESTJs forget that not everyone is as driven as we are and they try to drag everyone along with them and you can't do that. I've seen it in myself when I was younger and more naive and I've seen it in other ESTJs I know, and it's one of our biggest faults. Once you learn to just focus on organising yourself, you don't upset as many people.

lovely lokaa . (not verified) says...

it worked for mee

Guest (not verified) says...

Anyone else catch the narrator saying, "And 6 percent of females." when the graph shows 8 percent? (around 2:12)

Guest (not verified) says...

Ha!! We are all ESTJs, so likely we all caught that. :)

Guest (not verified) says...

Or an intp. Reading this forum is cracking me up. The estjs are in love with themselves lol. But really that is a good thing overall.

Guest (not verified) says...

An I to would catch that as well. :)

Guest (not verified) says...

An I to would catch that as well. :)

LeslieESTJ (not verified) says...

"And I, too, would catch that as well." <- Hi, I'm an ESTJ.

manic (not verified) says...

i feel partially leaderistic and yet follower as well.

ESTJ (not verified) says...

I'm happy to follow someone if I a) respect them and/or b) have a lot of room to do things my own way within the loose boundaries they set.

MariBossa2016 (not verified) says...

I'm not alone. This makes me happy. FACTS..... Leaders rule!! And women rock!!! Go ESTJ's!!!!!

Ignacio Beltrán (not verified) says...

That´s what my best friend, a Psychologist says. However, he hates to accept my superior arrival to conclusions. Of course, I kindly point to the good points of his logic and we continue to be friends.

Guest (not verified) says...

BRUH????????????????????????????

 

Guest (not verified) says...

Keep getting estj in personality tests. Couldn't agree more and this is why I never understood things theoretical and never got why people get so emotional in life let alone films and entertainment. I'm so different from everyone in my immediate family that I believe I'm adopted at times.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hello Everyone:

I liked all the descriptions except the jobs that I wouldn't like,because they were exactly the ones I would like: librarian social scientist and more. What about you?

Sandra

Shazad (not verified) says...

This was very interesting, as I took an extensive test and I got ESTJ.
I am very confident and some people can't handle my straight forward attitude. I am a business man and I am very structured and have a certain way of doing things.
My quarters are uncluttered and I have organized everything.
I was very hesitant about these tests but this has been spot on as to who I am.
ESTJs rule, I love my self regardless of how people think I am.
I like my principles and I have served in the army also, as I am getting older I find it very interesting of the person I am becoming.

Rehana (not verified) says...

I have gone through the analysis of ESTJ and agree with all that has been written with regards to the personality traits of this type. More or less I do [posses these qualities and feel so nice when i read it as it helps me understand myself better. Thanks

Mindy K. Shadle (not verified) says...

This describes me very well. I have a lot in common with what this says.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am an infp and I love my estj girlfriend. She gets things done and she knows how she wants things. I admire her for it.

brianhatcher31 says...

Hmm . I am am ESTJ, but years ago I thought I was an INFJ. My tests almost always show a balance from 45% to 52% str8 across the board with All the types. But I am at 58% at ESTJ these days. My Dad was strict so I was forced to play the introvert and be quiet and more perceptive. Anyway... my wife is an INFJ.....maddening! Lol.

Deano (not verified) says...

Im an estj and my wife an infj and all i can say is i wish i was more caring about not only her feelings but empathetic in general. It hurts to see our relationship in disarray.  I do love her but i have hurt her too much to believe me. Are there any words of wisdom / advice from you since you are married to the same personality type as mine? Thanks. Shes a good woman. Too good for me.

Terralyn (not verified) says...

Deano,  aI I'mhope imI not too late! I'm a female ESTJ and my best friend is a female INFJ.  I absolutely cherish my friend and her feelings. She has helped me grow a lot. You should read up on her personality. Her strengths are your weaknesses. Read about INFJ friendships. I think you will see what attracted you to her. When I read about her personality, it made me feel good about who  I am, which is no surprise. I call her my maximizer. She helps me to sort out my thoughts and has given me the courage to step out of the ESTJ box. Best regards

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