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ESFP Strengths

Showmanship. ESFPs have lively personalities which they use to liven up every room they occupy. Bringing smiles and enjoyment to others gives the ESFP greater satisfaction than anything else in the world. Being cheerful, entertaining and humorous comes naturally to ESFPs, and the people who know them best realize their interest in the happiness of others is sincere and motivated by empathetic and compassionate instincts.

Supportive. ESFPs do like to be the center of attention, but they also prize the spirit of cooperation and never try to hog the spotlight when asked to work on group projects. It is really the social give-and-take that ESFPs enjoy the most, and if they act as facilitators in cooperative situations it is only because their outgoing natures predispose them to take the lead. As teammates or partners, ESFPs will always listen to what everyone has to say, will never try to force their ideas on anyone. 

Positivity. ESFPs are the quintessential positive thinkers, firmly believing the bright side is the only one worth looking at. ESFPs see every minute of wasted time as a lost opportunity, and they can’t stand to throw away chances for fun, conversation, excitement or unique experience. Furthermore, they do a fantastic job of passing on their enthusiasm and hopefulness to their companions, and that is why some of the most admired self-help gurus and motivational speakers come from the ESFP ranks. 

Bold and practical. Because they refuse to live in the past or the future, or get distracted by dreams or fantasies about the way the world should be, ESFPs are high-quality practical workers who never sacrifice their determination to accomplish remarkable things in the present moment. They want desperately to help others, but they also want to see results from their efforts immediately and aren’t willing to be patient. ESFPs will put the pedal to the metal in a heartbeat if they see opportunities to make a constructive impact in the lives of the people they care about most. 

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ESFP Weaknesses

Avoid conflict. The one problem with “glass half full” types is that they will sometimes deny unpleasant truths or avoid uncomfortable situations if they feel it might cast a dark cloud. ESFPs hate buzzkills, and this makes them a bit squeamish about conflict, persistent social problems and a variety of other unfortunate circumstances that can’t be wished away or overcome with a cheerful attitude.  

Sensitive. It is ironic given their tendency to showmanship and outspokenness, but ESFPs are extremely sensitive and can be deeply hurt when others criticize their ideas, personalities or conduct. They have a tough time seeing such criticism as constructive, and they usually react with anger and resentment when they feel someone is questioning or attacking them. 

Easily bored. With a need for constant excitement, ESTPs find it hard to maintain their focus on the topic at hand; often demonstrating the sort of attention span normally seen only in kindergarten classrooms. This can make them appear flighty and unfocused. Life is not a non-stop party, and ESTPs do need to knuckle down if they are to turn their high energy into an accomplished goal. 

Poor long-term focus. When given the choice between theory and proven practice, ESFP will choose the latter every time. They distrust abstract concepts, future hypotheses and big picture projections and this makes them poor long-term planners. ESFPs aren’t as good at recognizing alternatives as they should be, and this can blind them to exciting possibilities for growth, evolution and constructive change. 

ESFP Growth and Development

In order to reach their full potential, ESFPs should:

Make lists and write down goals. Too often, the spontaneity and impulsivity of ESFPs leads them astray. To avoid spur-of-the-moment decision making, ESFPs should try to set goals and organize their activities ahead of time, possibly with the assistance of written lists and schedules. This would give them a clear life plan to refer back to, keeping them on the straight and narrow when faced with temptation. 

Don’t ignore the long-term consequences. By focusing on practical matters so intently, ESFPs sometimes waste chances to improve their lives and establish long-term goals. We all need to broaden our horizons and step back so we can see things from a greater perspective. ESFPs would benefit from undertaking a meaningful dialogue with the dreamers, creators and visionaries in their lives. The more relationships ESFPs can form with big picture thinkers the better off they will be. 

Assume it’s all constructive criticism. ESFPs are sensitive to criticism of all types. They take it personally and often react with resentment and defensiveness. This is not an easy personality trait to subdue but, with practice, ESFPs can reprogram their thinking patterns, becoming less reactive and more open minded over time. As a starting point, ESFPs should attempt to convince themselves that all the criticism they receive is meant to be constructive—which it might very well be. If they can reach this point, their personal growth is all but ensured. 

Investigate alternative learning strategies. ESFPs often have a hard time functioning in formal academic environments, where it is impossible to escape from the abstract and the theoretical. They prefer practical, hands-on learning that will help them develop specific skills that can be applied in real-world situations.  Fortunately, there are alternative learning environments that can provide an ESFP-friendly learning experience—internships, apprenticeships, trade schools or technical colleges, individualized study programs at online universities. ESFPs could benefit tremendously if they ventured away from the traditional educational model and forged their own path. 

Shine a flashlight into the darkest corners. ESFPs are notorious for avoiding unpleasant topics or situations. But running from trouble actually empowers it, allowing it to ruin relationships if tensions are left unaddressed. Instead of avoiding things that make them uncomfortable, ESFPs would be better off to confront them, before they have the chance to do any real damage. A positive attitude should not be used as an excuse for denial, which is always a bad idea no matter the circumstances. 

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K8t83 (not verified) says...

I'm and INFJ female with an ESFP male friend, and we honestly get along really well. We are definitely opposites, but that tends to work to our advantage. We both have an uncanny understanding of how the other thinks and feels, and the result is a very protective, loyal, and compassionate relationship. Both have to be willing to have a very candid, open communication. Always allow the other person to speak freely, when they're ready. Really listen to them. Respect them. All these things will contribute to a healthy, success relationship between any two personality types.

INFJ response (not verified) says...

Sounds like a strech for the ESFP.
Warnings of 'return to baseness/shallowness' during life path of the ESFP is to be expected.
Good luck!

Daybreak (not verified) says...

 

The complete opposite of me (INFJ). Every ESFP has always been the complete opposite of me, we have never got on and out relationships were the worst roller coaster rides ever. Now I finally see why.

Sylvana (not verified) says...

INTJ with a very good ESFP friend. Works great - she gets me out of my shell and I listen to her. She respects my need for alone time and structure and order, and I respect her need for company and openess and people. We both discover worlds we wouldn't never have discovered on our own. For many years now. Its the connection that counts, not the type. Although MBTI helped us to understand each other much better.

Chei (not verified) says...

I have a Esfp friend and she's fun to talk to and I like to hangout with her sometimes, when I'm talking about idea or something unnecessary things to say like theory or I even just asking her opinion about something unnecessary too, she ignored me :/

She ever told me that I'm too perfectionist, but I'm not, I just like to create something with concepts and even create something with vague explanation.

But I like how her can stand with my spontaneity, cuz we both xxxP

 

 

 

 

 

i'm entp btw

sk.zhong.2014 says...

I Finally understood my ESFP Mother. My mom and I (I'm an INTJ) clash 95% of the time. As a result, I prefer not to live with her. I'll try to focus more on our shared interests rather than our opposites. Thank you for this! 

DerAdel710 (not verified) says...

HAHAHAHA!!! Welcome to my life, sk.zhong.201...ESFP mother + INTJ son = world war 3

uhKamuii says...

I'm a ESFP and my mom and sister are intps... the pain is real not only to argue all the time but to be brutally beaten in almost every arguement the pain is real

amandahun!! (not verified) says...

My twin brother and older sister are INTP's, it don't go well haha

Walteria28 (not verified) says...

If you need to vent or emotional support I can hear you out with my INFP nature

Myra (not verified) says...

INTJ Friend,

Totally resonated with you. But for me isn't my mom but my ex-husband. Only I found out we clashed on almost everything, but I'm glad that it's over. It'll never happen again-because opposite does attract but it also doesn't work! 
 

Your INTJ friend

lilibean (not verified) says...

I'm an ESFP and my mom is an INFJ and while we don't clash all the time, I never really understood why we constantly disagreed with possible careers for me and what I would be more involved in. I finally took the test and showed her the results. She was shocked and immediately apologized for assuming a lot of what I preferred. We have since grown closer and I'm proud to say I can better understand her and where she was coming from.

mickeyTILLY77 (not verified) says...

that fits me to a t i can go into a bank or grsery store and crack up everyone BUT you know what happens living with that for 28 years gets you // A DIVORCE WE are children in adult bodies im 59 i still think i can play major leauge base ball im retired was a tree climber for 37 years freacken dont save a cent , motorcycle accident broke neck spine 4 months coma im still doing the same crap 7 back opperations im a moron but i have a very high iq go figure

 

Del (not verified) says...

O my god, it is true. I don't really care about being a manager or director and sitting for hours in the office with 8 to 5 working hours. I just wanna have fun in life and do things that I like, and yes it is correct too, I have several hobbies (belly dance, yoga, playing keyboard, sightseeing, etc). And yes sometimes they make me confused! I have left my good career and now working as a freelancer (yup, you're right again, low income) but I am enjoying life! And that's the most important (at least for now) lol.

But I don't really agree that about being in a spotlight, it's rarely happened. I like to be grounded as the test result says and that means, I don't really care about spotlight xD. I love this test tho. I have tried 4 tests, and 2 of the results are ESFP including this.

banana (not verified) says...

lol funny

Rares (not verified) says...

Hi. What do you work as freelancer? I am curious what type of freelancing suits ESFP people

yyyyy says...

  • yuh

beep (not verified) says...

and thats the tea!!!

Kellermikey (not verified) says...

Well this describes me pretty well, so I'm a little bummed to find out airline pilot is one of the careers recommended against. That's what I'm currently in school for. wish me luck!

BG (not verified) says...

You would have the most entertaining airline announcements as an ESFP pilot. 

Patrick Gubbay (not verified) says...

Skeet that yeet

batman (not verified) says...

I'm an INTP and my best friend is an ESFP. Says we aren't supposed to be friends lol

Desi44 (not verified) says...

When I meet new people I get almost exact sense of their intentions and it doesn't take long to get a quick look at their values. Honestly it’s never been wrong I just never understood to articulate it to someone else because I couldn't quite understand it myself. Are all ESFP’s like this?

S (not verified) says...

Yep! :)

Barbara Eden (not verified) says...

You're an empath like me!

Guest (not verified) says...

What is the best complement to an esfp in the workplace?

lisacoolen79 says...

Good Job! and Thank you!

Guest (not verified) says...

To all the ESFP girls, I need help!
I am an INFP male and recently started a relationship with an ESFP girl. We knew ourselves since 4 years, but never cared about each other until recently. Anyway, me and her like enjoying each others, but I really don't understand what kind of relationship there is between us. I would like a more romantic relationship, but I don't know how to approach her, and above all I can't understand what she thinks about me. I can't get if she is sending signals I should receive, or if she is just being kind, like she is with everyone. For example, last night we were at a party with music: she was dancing, and I was talking with friends. At a point, she comes to me and asks me to dance with her: I obviously accept and go dance with her (well, she dances, I try to), but after a few minutes she turns around and goes dancing with her (female) friends, leaving me veeery confused. It seems to happen every time: we get along together, she makes me think she has an interest in me, and then she leaves leaving me like a stone. I can't help but feel confused.
What do you think she means? What is she trying to tell me, or is it just my imagination? And, above all, how do you think I should approach her and how can I try to take the relationship to the "next level"? I am naturally very shy and humble, and I am hesitant to make the first move because I am afraid of ruining everything and blowing away every chance.

Thanks for reading this far, hope you can help me.

kendall says...

hey. i see that you are having relationship problems and i am here to help you. she is an outgoing and energetic person. she likes to go woth flow and do whatever, very spontaneous. i hate to say it but she might not really be looking for a relationship right now, and that's ok, but if you wanna tell her how you feel, do it, because if you don't soon she might just wanna be friends and go with the flow. 

 

Lnowebb (not verified) says...

When she went to dance with others, she wasn't ditching you. She genuinely just wants to dance with everyone. I was thinking reading your comment, "take her dancing!" Before reaching the part about her asking you to dance. 
and truthfully, she may be into you and too humble to sense that you may be into her too.

i vote dancing or skating, and some quiet time after to chat. Good luck! 

An ESFP girl (not verified) says...

Well, I think shes just very social. She likes to be friendly with everyone and treats almost everyone equally. Dont be sad if she hugs guys (Unless shes not like that) becase thats her way of being friendly.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm an ESFP girl and dating a INFP guy right now actually so I understand. In our relationship my boyfriend has always been the more steady and reserved one while I am quite the opposite. So we started our relationship with his persistence in wanting to talk and get to know each other. I often pursued him as well once we got a little further down the road. So to you I would just say stay persistent. Keep asking her to hang out or get coffee or try to talk to her. I'm sure she knows you like her and may like you but may not be sure about it. If she was sure and wanted to date you, you would know it. But outwardly the two types are pretty different so a relationship between the two does not come quickly. You just need to show her what you do have in common and that you are steady and will not be giving up anytime soon!
Don't blame her for leaving quickly though - that's just who we are as ESFPs. My boyfriend still has to deal with feeling like I don't want to talk to him or just left abruptly even though I don't see it as that. We just like to move around and can get distracted easily!
Hope that helps.

Keish (not verified) says...

Go for it and let her know otherwise she will think of you as weak and you will be friend zoned forever. I know this personality tramples all over weak types so you have got to man up while still being respectful and sensitive if you know what i mean. But definitely let her know and tell her you are much more than being friend zoned. Good luck i hope this reply is not too late.

magsbad (not verified) says...

I am an ESFP and I totally agree with Keish. I have to avoid men that appear weak, because I don't want to hurt anyone, and I have a tendency to use but not respect men that don't seem confident. I love men who are confident but not controlling.

lisacoolen79 says...

I am an ESFP girl and maybe she is just getting distracted! That happens with me! And you may just be in the friend zone....sorry! But if she was wanting to be more then friends she would let you know. Just ask her to "come here" and when she does, pick her up and plant a kiss on her, tell her you have been wanting to do that for years. Women like men who take control also (in a good way). If she doesn't like it, move on!
idk if this helps you may already be with her, but good luck in whatever you do!

Guest (not verified) says...

Tell her what you just said ^^^^^!! You already know she has an interest in you, I say you take her on a date or something (she'll see that signal) and tell her that you want to be the "next level" but were always too scared to say anything! Then say something(s) nice about her. And then her true feelings will show! Woo!

Guest (not verified) says...

As an INFP currently in a relationship with an ESFP, I feel your pain. We were also friends before we started dating and I never realized that she was actually interested in me, I kind of thought she just flirted with most people to be honest, and I had just convinced myself I was over her when she asked me out. The whole dancing with you and then leaving you behind is a bit confusing, but it doesn't mean she's not interested! I know it's really hard to do (and that I'm a bit of a hypocrite), but you should just ask her on a date, like going to a movie or ice skating or something lowkey like that. Good luck, I believe in you :)

Guest (not verified) says...

I've always wanted to perform and dance. Now I know why! It's part of me!

Maia S (not verified) says...

After I finished the test I was extremely excited with result as ENFP. I even bought detail version. Then, just from curiosity I checked ESFP description and I am torn appart. I had experienced both sides ,can relate pretty strongly to each description. Any explanation?

Katie (not verified) says...

It's possible to identify strongly with a few different personality types. The first time I took the test it said I was an INTP. I took it again and it said INFP which I think is most accurate. I also identify with a lot of ENTP traits, based on reading the descriptions. So you probably have strong ENFP and ESFP associations. I actually think reading the personality descriptions can be more helpful in figuring out a personality type than taking Truity's test sometimes,  because the test relies on your self perception and you don't always know how to answer the questions, whereas you can just read the statements about the personality types and decide if they fit you or not. 

Kayz (not verified) says...

I am an ENFP but relate pretty strongly to a lot of ESFP things...I do like theories and hypothesis and read into the meanings of things but I tend to get bored of that as well and shut it off and live in the moment at times. I found this article helpful for knowing which one you are:

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/11/17/heres-what-makes-enfps-and-e...

My brother is an ESFP and personality theory bores him to death so if this bores u maybe that's an indicator 😄

Guest (not verified) says...

Esfps are 2nd highest in successful marriages but tend to have lower incomes...

Guest (not verified) says...

I took this test a long time ago, and to be honest I thought I had changed completely. I was in a 10 year relationship, where I had become an agoraphobic and very hermit like. And although I am still struggling with that, I truly believed I had changed in every aspect of my personality. But I haven't. So thank you so much for this. Makes me confident that I will go back to being the "me" I used to be.

Carrot cake (not verified) says...

I think esfp is exactly like me it brings out the real personality in me.

nolan (swag muffins) grant (not verified) says...

This is awesome i knew I was this

Guest (not verified) says...

A lot of this didn't sound familiar until I read the research bullets. Those sound like me more than any other personality description I've read anywhere! But I don't watch that much tv, unless it's my husband's day off. He's the tv/movie watcher, and he is ENTP. I can usually get into whatever he's watching, though.

dawson (not verified) says...

spot on

ramtin (not verified) says...

hi there
a question...
I am a estJ ....so I would like to know is it a proper personality for leadership in a team or what.
how can i find it
thanks

Guest (not verified) says...

Although any type can excel in leadership roles, for ESTJs it often comes naturally. Your dominant extraverted thinking function means you tend to be superior at organizing your environment, which includes the people in your space. Also, ESTJs are usually pretty good at figuring out who would be most skilled at what task and they delegate responsibility accordingly, which often results in an efficient team that has the potential to run like a well-oiled machine. In other words, you're good at seeing how people are "useful." Where you guys run into trouble is failing to notice if your team members are actually happy enough with whatever tasks you've assigned them, which can lead to team members experiencing burnout, which ultimately means less productivity and a negative effect on the bottom line. Also, you guys tend to be overly concerned with hierarchy and seniority (which comes from your auxiliary introverted sensing function), which can mean not heeding good advice if it comes from a so-called "underling." As a bank teller with years of experience, I once had a boss with no banking experience who I'm sure was an ESTJ, and even though she didn't really know what she was doing, she wanted us to do her bidding without question, even if her decisions were unwise, simply because her title was "the manager." However, most ESTJs don't get their feelings hurt easily, which means they are good at receiving criticism -- provided it's from their own supervisor or "higher-up."But, they have to respect their superiors, which they will, IF those superiors are reasonably competent. But, they don't take too kindly to just any ol' person telling them they're doing something wrong. At least, that's what I've learned from studying MBTI as a hobby. No expert here.

Guest (not verified) says...

I have been very happily married to an INTJ-Mastermind for 33 years. It's true that his strengths are my weaknesses and visa versa. We have truly learned so much from each other and have helped each other grow in ways that would otherwise seem impossible to learn. Because of our incredible relationship, we have five beautifully well rounded children. Interestingly, we don't have any other extroverts in the fam, wonder why that is? No I am not overbearing, I guess there dad's genes were stronger :)

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