Hello INTJs!

I'm an INFP, and I am so curious to know your opinions on INFPs! I assume you're somewhat annoyed with our random, bubbly, seemingly illogical minds... :) Who knows? Maybe some of you have different opinions! Also, how do you think s relationship with an INTJ would play out? (I'm a girl, btw)

Thanks!

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dehayward says...

A crucial sticking point with INTJs like myself is we like other people to MAKE SENSE. If a situation, action or decision doesn't make sense, it is a major annoyance. So now that you're armed with this knowledge about INTJs, please don't use this power for evil

Guest (not verified) says...

Thanks! That helps a lot! Us INFPs have a reputation for not making sense to others, but that's something to work on.

Maya (not verified) says...

I only know one INFP and that is my 7 years younger sister. We have much in common but plenty of difference too. I am usually steady and calm while her moods can change rapidly. She can get angry real quick but calmn down just as fast.It scares me sometimes ;) It usually takes a lot more to get me angry but when I do, I usually have a good reason for it. I'm also the more unforgiving one.
I'm an INTJ woman in a relationship with an ENTJ man. For me a thinking type is much more suitable than a feeling type. I need someone who can keep up with my complex mind and weird shenanigans and doesn't get offended too easily.

Maybe for INTJ guys it's different but for me(in a relationship) I prefer thinking type over feeling type.

McSadness says...

In the darkness something was happening at last. A voice had begun to sing. It was very far away and Digory found it hard to decide from what direction it was coming. Sometimes it seemed to come from all directions at once. Sometimes he almost thought it was coming out of the earth beneath them. Its lower notes were deep enough to be the voice of the earth herself. There were no words. There was hardly even a tune. But it was, beyond comparison, the most beautiful noise he had ever heard. It was so beautiful he could hardly bear it. The horse seemed to like it too; he gave the sort of  whiney a horse would give if, after years of being a cab-horse, it found itself back in the old field where it had played as a foal, and saw someone whom it remembered and loved coming across the field to bring it a lump of sugar. "Gawd!" said the Cabby. "Ain't it lovely?" Then two wonders happened at the same moment. One was that the voice was suddenly joined by other voices; more voices than you could possibly count. They were in harmony with it, but far higher up the scale: cold, tingling, silvery voices. The second wonder was that the blackness overhead, all at once, was blazing with stars. They didn't come out gently one by one, as they do on a summer evening. One moment there had been nothing but darkness; next moment a thousand, thousand points of light leaped out — single stars, constellations, and planets, brighter and bigger than any in our world. There were no clouds. The new stars and the new voices began at exactly the same time. If you had seen and heard it, as Digory did, you would have felt quite certain that it was the stars themselves which were singing, and that it was the First Voice, the deep one, which had made them appear and made them sing. "Glory be!" said the Cabby. "I'd ha' been a better man all my life if I'd known there were things like this." The Voice on the earth was now louder and more triumphant; but the voices in the sky, after singing loudly with it for a time, began to get fainter. And now something else was happening. Far away, and down near the horizon, the sky began to turn grey. A light wind, very fresh, began to stir. The sky, in that one place, grew slowly and steadily paler. You could see shapes of hills standing up dark against it. All the time the Voice went on singing. -C.S Lewis, Infp. Yes, I'm sure your unempathetic, cold, chess-like maneuvering mind, is far to complex for a lowly Infp. 

INTJ, 5w4 (not verified) says...

Well, I have some INFPs around me. Frankly speaking, if I was about to choose one type that is the most popular along people who want to talk to me, it would be xNFP. I guess I, as an INTJ, attract folks with that type of personality. Ok, so what are my thoughts about them, huh? Well, thay are usually okay. They show you all the time that they like you and it's kind of strange but nice as well feeling. Hmm, thay also seem to be a bit silly and easy to manipulate. Hah, and it's kind of funny to watch them when they did something bad and they feel sorry and do everything to make you forgive them. However, what I like about INFPs is that they're often altruistic. I'm not an altruist and I always think it over before I help someone so I find it interesting that they have this pure altruism. Moreover, as I make a lot of plans and I don't always keep in mind the others' feeling, the plans might be kinda evil, I guess? I mean, my plans sometimes might hurt someone. Thus, I share my plans with my INFP so they see what's good and evil in them. Guess it's about morality.
Yeah, I often think that INFPs make no sense and they're illogical but still they have a good sense when it comes to recognizing good and evil.
Anyways, I'm still analyzing why xNFPs like INTJs that much and that makes me suspicious about them but still it's kinda funny to watch their silliness and emotions and I respect them for their morality and altruism that I lack.

Guest (not verified) says...

I can't cope with any F type, especially introversion + feeling, to sensitive. To irrational. Decisions made based on their emotions. TO SENSITIVE. Can't be myself around them because they take things personally and think I am rude to them.

Greetings,

INTJ Woman

INTJ, 5w4 (not verified) says...

Yeah, they are way too irrational and snesitive. However, I think that we should respect the F types even if we consider them to be silly and too sensitive. We shouldn't think that we're better than them. They have some things that we lack and that's fine. Sometimes I forget about it, though, and just get annoyed. Yet, I guess not every INTJ can deal with it. I myself have worked on it for a few years. And my mom and sister are INFPs so I kinda had to learn how to get along with them.

reasonless_guru says...

I only really know one INFP very well. He's a really sweet guy. We've had some deep and interesting conversations. I really like that he's a deeper thinker. However, he's the most exhausting introvert I've ever met. He asked me out last year, so I think that might be some of it. I think he always wants to come off in as positive light as possible with regards to me. He's also a tiny bit too idealistic for me. I have some trouble not being cynical when people get really idealistic. I'd have to deal with his idealism, and he'd have to deal with my cynicism. It wouldn't be good for either of us. I personally couldn't date/marry him, but we are still good friends. In general, I do like the INFP personality, I just need a closet to retreat into after a little while.

INTJ women (not verified) says...

I’m an INTJ female, and I’ve been dating an INFP guy for the last five months. Since the first day we met, we clicked instantly. He’s extremely intelligent and polite, he’s a fluffy warm ball of hugs. We share the same core values but have such different points of view that every exchange is hugely rewarding. I for once don’t like to communicate with people similar too me, I’ve noticed I grow more as a person if I’m surrounded with different opinions, and I love how he challenges my way of thinking. If things keep going steady as right now, I know that I will fall irremediably in love with him. He is the perfect balance to my cynicism. I don’t see what he sees in my honestly, but he does all the small things to make me feel liked that makes me feel sure around him. If we don’t manage to function I know I will be the one to blame. 

He’s extremely nice and caring but I have the feeling that he has only showed me the tip of the iceberg. I want him to feel sure with me so he can open up. I don’t mind the wait as he is worthy.

Guest (not verified) says...

Well, are you keen to spot people's personality type? Serious? I wont bother to matter, with exception is if communication becomes easier than with most other people, it would be good to know if sharing the same traits in born type. But that is just for curiousity purpose, either know or not wont care much. I found the more life experiences (directly or indirectly obtained) people have, the more tolerance they would like to give, minimum they would like to show a gesture on respecting variances. 

Kaeden (not verified) says...

Greetings, well INFP here dating an INTJ. Where do I begin? So basically due to previous relationships I decided to go on a hiatus on dating. 4 years later I decided to give it another try and bam! met a lady and she was an INTJ (had her do a test later on in the relationship). But at first I was on my defensive state, cautious of the information I gave her. Slowly but surely she got me to open up a few dates later. She was very open about herself and direct, which I dig because I’m not. But she kept seeing me which was cool because I totally didn’t think such an amazing girl would be interested in a little weirdo like me. Anyways our relationship has been going well, her and I enjoy each other’s company and like spending our free time together. But I tend to overthink things, I don’t know it sucks sometimes. I like the fact that I can be myself around her, I don’t need to really hide who I am and she accepts it. Although she tends to get annoyed ever now and then, but whenever I tell her to tell me if I ever I annoy her she brushes it of as her over analyzing she shouldn’t be bothered. But I care if I bother her. Anywho our relationships pretty good. I’m just waiting to see how she reacts whenever we get into an argument. Anyways I like this girl and I hope we can keep enjoying each other’s company. 

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