Locking Horns: Helping TJ and FP Personality Types Overcome Conflict

Clinically Reviewed by Steven Melendy, PsyD. on April 21, 2015

Disagreement is inevitable when you work with others; people have diverse opinions, contexts and viewpoints that can sometimes escalate to full-blown conflict. How you handle that conflict determines whether you get a productive outcome or the conflict destroys your team.

One common source of workplace conflict is the clash between thinking-judging (TJ) and feeling-perceiving (FP) types on the MBTI scale. Fortunately, it's possible to cut through the dissonance by understanding what makes these dichotomous personalities tick.

Why TJ and FP Personality Types Lock Horns

Thinking-Judging and Feeling-Perceiving types stand at opposite ends of the conflict pairing of the Myers-Briggs Indicator. When challenged, a thinking-judging oriented person wants to quickly and efficiently fix the problem. He or she will focus on:

  • what the problem is about — the facts.
  • addressing conflict unemotionally, using objectivity and data.
  • sorting the problem out.
  • resolving the conflict decisively — "sticking to their guns."

Feeling-perceiving personality types, on the other hand, are more concerned about the impact the problem has on other people's thoughts and feelings. An FP will focus on:

  • who is affected — the people.
  • hearing all sides of the story to understand the values at stake.
  • working the problem through.
  • resolving the conflict sensitively — "softening the blow."

TJs want fast, rational closure and are easily irritated by the FP's "bleeding heart" approach. FPs are quite happy with a lack of resolution, as long as the problem is openly explored. They also consider TJs to be blunt and critical. These differences are accentuated under the stress of confrontation, creating a classic battle situation.

So, how do you address these issues?

Step #1: Active Listening

Active listening means bringing the facts, realities, opinions and feelings of all interested parties into the dialogue. Suspending judgment and without drawing conclusions, Judgers and Perceivers must clarify their position and articulate their own needs going forward. This clearly aligns with a Perceiver's need to explore all the angles.

Step #2: See the Other Side

Thinking-oriented people do well to see matters from a feeling perspective and vice versa. For TJ-types, this means not brushing aside important matters for the sake of moving on, and recognizing the emotional impact of the problem. FPs, on the other hand, should not interpret succinct responses as brusque or disrespectful, and recognize a TJs need for absolute closure.

Step #3: Draw a Line

The final stage is agreeing on a course of action that resolves the problem. If further analysis is needed, agree what needs to be done, by whom and by when, to align with a TJ's need for closure.

Constructive conflict is an ingredient of high-functioning teams. By respecting the differences between people, and heading off a potentially harmful conflict, you will be able to maintain a positive team atmosphere. The key is to remain open to other people's value systems and see issues from all sides. This, in turn, opens up new ways of thinking, which can lead to truly innovative team performances.

Molly Owens

Molly Owens is the founder and CEO of Truity. She is a graduate of UC Berkeley and holds a master's degree in counseling psychology. She began working with personality assessments in 2006, and in 2012 founded Truity with the goal of making robust, scientifically validated assessments more accessible and user-friendly.

Molly is an ENTP and lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, where she enjoys elaborate cooking projects, murder mysteries, and exploring with her husband and son.

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About the Clinical Reviewer

Steven Melendy, PsyD., is a Clinical Psychologist who received his doctorate from The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. He specializes in using evidence-based approaches in his work with individuals and groups. Steve has worked with diverse populations and in variety of a settings, from community clinics to SF General Hospital. He believes strongly in the importance of self-care, good friendships, and humor whenever possible.


Guest (not verified) says...

I'm going to show this to my husband and see if it helps us. He is the TJ type and I am the FP type. I was starting feel pretty sad about how often we've been "locking horns" lately. Thank you for the post :)

Guest (not verified) says...

I want my partner to read this and see whether this insight in our personalities changes the dynamics of our relationship.  We can certainly do with less arguments!! BTW I am a TJ and he is an FP....being a female TJ and him a male FP adds an other dimension to the scenario :(

Guest (not verified) says...

So on target! Thanks for posting.

Maricar S. Dimaano (not verified) says...

What if one person fall on TP at the same time TJ?

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