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ESFJ Strengths

Strong practical skills. Good intentions are wonderful, but they don’t mean much unless they’re backed up by a well- organized plan of action. ESFJs understand how to accomplish tasks better than most, and that is why the to-do lists they make are seldom left with any unchecked items. They are so conscientious and detail-oriented they can’t stomach the thought of leaving an important job or project only half-finished, and they would feel embarrassed if they gave anything less than their very best effort in each and every instance.

Warm and sensitive. With grand and gentle hearts, ESFJs form lasting emotional bonds and make strong empathic connections with others. When someone needs guidance, ESFJs will be by their side, supporting them with advice that is concrete, sensible and guaranteed to produce good results. No problem is too big or too small to arouse the interest of ESFJs, and regardless of what a friend, loved one or acquaintance is going through, ESFJs will do their best to provide impactful assistance. 

Loyal and dutiful. ESFJs are traditionalists right down to the core. They are concerned with protecting the best parts of the existing social order against the forces of “progress”, and always honor the wisdom of their elders, always put the interests of others before their own. Doing the right thing every time doesn’t make life easy, but ESFJs are incapable of following the path of least resistance when people need help or moral issues are involved. 

Stand up and be counted. ESFJs aren’t intimidated by challenges and they aren’t willing to just sit by and wait for others to take the lead. Inside their social and community circles, ESFJs are always willing to step up and lend a helping hand; in support of great causes they will organize, volunteer, recruit, fundraise, run for election, put up flyers, go door-to-door or give speeches on street corners— sometimes all in the same week! 

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ESFJ Weaknesses

Rigid and judgmental. While they are tolerant in general, ESFJs don’t approach the world with a completely open mind. Their value systems are defined by fixed ideas about right and wrong, good and bad, smart and foolish, and they tend to categorize everything they see according to such dualistic concepts. “Live and let live” is not a concept that appeals to ESFJs, who are not shy about judging the behavior and character of others based on brief initial impressions. 

Reluctant to improvise. ESFJs have a lot or respect for rules, laws, regulations and traditional codes of conduct—a world without shoulds and shouldn’ts and dos and don’ts would be unsustainable and chaotic to the traditionalist ESFJ. But in some instances, outside the box thinking may be required. ESFJs can be slow to recognize this reality, making them rigid and unyielding when a bit more openness to change is called for. 

Neediness. ESFJs have a strong need to be noticed, acknowledged and appreciated, and they want others to see them as helpful, trustworthy and virtuous. This means that their sense of self-worth will rise or fall based on the amount of praise or criticism they get from others. ESFJs aren’t worried about what other people will think every minute of the day, but they do take rejection very personally and have a hard time getting over any perceived slight. 

Lack of creative thinking. Too often, ESFJs are so focused on the here and now they miss opportunities for growth and improvement that are staring them right in the face. A long view that embraces creative inspirations, abstract ideas and big picture thinking can allow them to reach new levels of understanding, but taking their intellects in this direction does not come naturally to ESFJs. A failure to respect the benefits of creative power of the imagination can keep ESFJs stuck in patterns of thought and behavior that have long outlived their usefulness.

ESFJ Growth and Development

In order to reach their full potential, ESFJs should:

Get some emotional separation. Helping others gives ESFJs enormous satisfaction but, like sponges, they absorb the anxieties of others as if those troubles were their own. Unfortunately, this is emotionally exhausting and can put a huge strain on ESFJs who may become so preoccupied with the suffering and angst of their loved ones that they lose sight of their own personal needs. In the long run, ESFJs would be more effective if they could learn to put some emotional distance between themselves and the people they choose to assist. 

Practice “letting go”. Fish are going to swim, birds are going to fly, and ESFJs are going to make judgments about people and events based on their own exacting standards. But just because they possess this trait doesn’t mean they have to indulge it in every single instance. If ESFJs can learn to detach just a bit from their initial impressions, they will have a much easier time altering their judgments as more information comes in.

Remember that no one can please all of the people all of the time. ESFJs crave the favorable opinions of others and they always go the extra mile to please. But trying to satisfy everyone in every circumstance is impossible, no matter how friendly or accommodating an ESFJ might be. The sooner they realize this the better off they will be. Like anything else it takes practice to change attitudes, but learning to accept occasional rejection can help ESFJs find greater harmony and peace of mind. 

Practice solo hobbies. ESFJs can become overly dependent on other people, to the point where they feel ill-at-ease if there is no one around to talk to. We all need some alone time where we can reflect in peace and silence. Solitary hobbies and activities that require quiet concentration and promote self-reliance are highly recommended for ESFJs, who need to get in touch with their feelings and figure out how to get by without constant outside feedback. 

Learn a little more about how rules, laws, regulations and traditions actually came into being. ESFJs obey the rules and respect traditional ways. But rather than just accepting them without question, ESFJs should consider studying up to understand where they actually came from. Ideas we take for granted now were fresh and innovative at some point in the past, and they often represented a clean break from previous assumptions. Discovering where “self-evident truths” and “common sense” really came from can help ESFJs broaden their perspective. And if this makes them a little more open to new ideas in the present, it will be a positive development all the way around. 

 

About the Author

Molly Owens is the CEO of Truity and holds a master's degree in counseling psychology. She founded Truity in 2012, with the goal of making quality personality tests more affordable and accessible. She has led the development of assessments based on Myers and Briggs' personality types, Holland Codes, the Big Five, DISC, and the Enneagram. She is an ENTP, a tireless brainstormer, and a wildly messy chef. Find Molly on Twitter at @mollmown.

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