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ESFJ Strengths

Strong practical skills. Good intentions are wonderful, but they don’t mean much unless they’re backed up by a well- organized plan of action. ESFJs understand how to accomplish tasks better than most, and that is why the to-do lists they make are seldom left with any unchecked items. They are so conscientious and detail-oriented they can’t stomach the thought of leaving an important job or project only half-finished, and they would feel embarrassed if they gave anything less than their very best effort in each and every instance.

Warm and sensitive. With grand and gentle hearts, ESFJs form lasting emotional bonds and make strong empathic connections with others. When someone needs guidance, ESFJs will be by their side, supporting them with advice that is concrete, sensible and guaranteed to produce good results. No problem is too big or too small to arouse the interest of ESFJs, and regardless of what a friend, loved one or acquaintance is going through, ESFJs will do their best to provide impactful assistance. 

Loyal and dutiful. ESFJs are traditionalists right down to the core. They are concerned with protecting the best parts of the existing social order against the forces of “progress”, and always honor the wisdom of their elders, always put the interests of others before their own. Doing the right thing every time doesn’t make life easy, but ESFJs are incapable of following the path of least resistance when people need help or moral issues are involved. 

Stand up and be counted. ESFJs aren’t intimidated by challenges and they aren’t willing to just sit by and wait for others to take the lead. Inside their social and community circles, ESFJs are always willing to step up and lend a helping hand; in support of great causes they will organize, volunteer, recruit, fundraise, run for election, put up flyers, go door-to-door or give speeches on street corners— sometimes all in the same week! 

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ESFJ Weaknesses

Rigid and judgmental. While they are tolerant in general, ESFJs don’t approach the world with a completely open mind. Their value systems are defined by fixed ideas about right and wrong, good and bad, smart and foolish, and they tend to categorize everything they see according to such dualistic concepts. “Live and let live” is not a concept that appeals to ESFJs, who are not shy about judging the behavior and character of others based on brief initial impressions. 

Reluctant to improvise. ESFJs have a lot or respect for rules, laws, regulations and traditional codes of conduct—a world without shoulds and shouldn’ts and dos and don’ts would be unsustainable and chaotic to the traditionalist ESFJ. But in some instances, outside the box thinking may be required. ESFJs can be slow to recognize this reality, making them rigid and unyielding when a bit more openness to change is called for. 

Neediness. ESFJs have a strong need to be noticed, acknowledged and appreciated, and they want others to see them as helpful, trustworthy and virtuous. This means that their sense of self-worth will rise or fall based on the amount of praise or criticism they get from others. ESFJs aren’t worried about what other people will think every minute of the day, but they do take rejection very personally and have a hard time getting over any perceived slight. 

Lack of creative thinking. Too often, ESFJs are so focused on the here and now they miss opportunities for growth and improvement that are staring them right in the face. A long view that embraces creative inspirations, abstract ideas and big picture thinking can allow them to reach new levels of understanding, but taking their intellects in this direction does not come naturally to ESFJs. A failure to respect the benefits of creative power of the imagination can keep ESFJs stuck in patterns of thought and behavior that have long outlived their usefulness.

ESFJ Growth and Development

In order to reach their full potential, ESFJs should:

Get some emotional separation. Helping others gives ESFJs enormous satisfaction but, like sponges, they absorb the anxieties of others as if those troubles were their own. Unfortunately, this is emotionally exhausting and can put a huge strain on ESFJs who may become so preoccupied with the suffering and angst of their loved ones that they lose sight of their own personal needs. In the long run, ESFJs would be more effective if they could learn to put some emotional distance between themselves and the people they choose to assist. 

Practice “letting go”. Fish are going to swim, birds are going to fly, and ESFJs are going to make judgments about people and events based on their own exacting standards. But just because they possess this trait doesn’t mean they have to indulge it in every single instance. If ESFJs can learn to detach just a bit from their initial impressions, they will have a much easier time altering their judgments as more information comes in.

Remember that no one can please all of the people all of the time. ESFJs crave the favorable opinions of others and they always go the extra mile to please. But trying to satisfy everyone in every circumstance is impossible, no matter how friendly or accommodating an ESFJ might be. The sooner they realize this the better off they will be. Like anything else it takes practice to change attitudes, but learning to accept occasional rejection can help ESFJs find greater harmony and peace of mind. 

Practice solo hobbies. ESFJs can become overly dependent on other people, to the point where they feel ill-at-ease if there is no one around to talk to. We all need some alone time where we can reflect in peace and silence. Solitary hobbies and activities that require quiet concentration and promote self-reliance are highly recommended for ESFJs, who need to get in touch with their feelings and figure out how to get by without constant outside feedback. 

Learn a little more about how rules, laws, regulations and traditions actually came into being. ESFJs obey the rules and respect traditional ways. But rather than just accepting them without question, ESFJs should consider studying up to understand where they actually came from. Ideas we take for granted now were fresh and innovative at some point in the past, and they often represented a clean break from previous assumptions. Discovering where “self-evident truths” and “common sense” really came from can help ESFJs broaden their perspective. And if this makes them a little more open to new ideas in the present, it will be a positive development all the way around. 

 

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Cassidy (not verified) says...

Just wanted to point out that all the famous ESFJ's listed are white. I would encourage you to find people of color to include in this list. 

kerfgfd (not verified) says...

shut up already

Chadwick Boseman (not verified) says...

Stop looking to be offended. 

LovetoTeach (not verified) says...

I totally agree!!

BlairWitch76 (not verified) says...

I am absolutely an ESFJ! I'm always the one to offer very sincere, heartfelt words when required, but rather rigid with routine, not at ALL religious, but always the carer and listener for friends, family....and strangers. I always seem to know what to say at the right time, to make people feel at ease, or happier with themselves. I'm great at building people's own self worth. I don't really gossip, I tend to keep things to myself (so not sure about the gossiping bit?) but generally, the ESFJ completely summed me up! 

Chey (not verified) says...

My mom is esfj and she always critized me for being spontaneous, unpredicted, unorganized and not traditional. I just like to be my own myself. I even fought with her often because she's neither rational nor rigid and TOO DAMNKIND, that people like to manipulated her, damn! 

A month ago, I just had a fight with my esfj friend cuz she's hurt by my words, I just being honest with what I say too that she brag about past and I even don't care about past, even I'm kinda forgetful person, ugh. 

 

I'm a ENTP btw

Squid (not verified) says...

I always hated the phrase "just being honest".  It's usually an excuse to be an a**

Vhee (not verified) says...

90% accurate, I see a lot of this in myself. Glad I'm getting some understanding into my highly emotional state.

Alexa Arrat (not verified) says...

Esfjs/isfjs/Enfj/infj my soulmates friends family of this type we just get along. I love people who are feelers and people focused who are practical and there to help everyone.

Guest (not verified) says...

creepily accurate !!

Sasha2.0 (not verified) says...

I can't believe how accurate this is! I notice I get antsy if I don't interact with someone at work! I work as a corporate recruiter and I enjoy having the people interaction, yet I have all these processes and hierarchies and order that I also like. These results are really helpful in me trying to understand my next career move and what would make me happy. 

balen (not verified) says...

hey you iam esfj i want to be friend with someone with my type plesase dont tell me why you want be my friend it is my type lead me so could you be my friend we are in different country so we be able to help us to know more about us

Amanda P (not verified) says...

my teacher made me do this....

zaddydaddy1234567891011 (not verified) says...

tbh this is way off and I dont agree one bit! this is horrible and i regret spending 20 minutes on here. thanks tho

JennyT says...

This is so true!! I took this test years ago and have always been an ESFJ. I recently started a position that has very minimal people contact and I gave my notice today. I need people!! I am also a licensed Realtor so I will focus on being the best Realtor I can be. 

 

Jennifer Thompson (not verified) says...

JennyT I am also an esfj and also a licensed REALTOR! 

Fern314 (not verified) says...

Same!

iain (not verified) says...

hi

An INTJ (not verified) says...

I am an INTJ that lives with an ESFJ. And I can definitely say that yes we are total opposites and boy is it challenging to live with, haha. Love her but yeah, I get along better with this family member when we live a few thousand miles apart!

An ESFJ (not verified) says...

I don't blame you.  I definitely appreciate the INTJs in my life. But I don't want to live with them. I think a respectful distance keeps our relationships going well.

ESFJ (not verified) says...

Wow this result is so accurate, I dont know how they know me :D

Thanks, it was really good to see read about myself

Judith Norman (not verified) says...

wow so accurate ..amazing and I work in the medical feild go figure, I love people and helping them brings me JOY !!!

Brody (not verified) says...

This test is so inaccurate and was originally was made to be a bar game and then two people Mrs. Mires and Ms. Briggs made this test with no scientific background.

JohnnyJohnny (not verified) says...

HE IS RIGHT

RyanMitchell5 (not verified) says...

Definitely me ! 

Lessin says...

I feel that this personality type is the most likely to be taken advantage of. How can I do things to check myself to keep from being a door mat or being sucked in by a narcissist? In my immediate family, I think my mom is an ESFJ and I am an ESFJ and my sister is an ISFJ and we have all married and divorced narcissists. What can we do to be less likely to draw those people in?’

An ESFJ (not verified) says...

I had a narcissist "friend" for awhile.

Confidence in yourself and lack of self loathing seem to be effective traits for getting away from a narcissist.

Mine was decent at first but later on I realized he had started gaslighting me. I don't mind being wrong sometimes, but according to him I was wrong about everything I ever called him out on. I knew that couldn't be correct. I have an ENTJ for an older sibling. I know how often I'm wrong. :D

It was my first experience with a narcissist and he has a twin who is actually really sweet. I gave him several chances thinking he was just not super adept socially. One day I was spending a lot of effort trying to comfort him about something he was sad about and he got mean. I ended up crying because I thought he was just misunderstanding me. But he wasn't. And he didn't care that he had hurt me.

At that point I quit trying to be soft and sweet in that relationship. It was the end of him for me. I had caught on to his game.

INFJs get caught a lot too. They are often empaths.

Employer Guest (not verified) says...

We've been interviewing for painters (specifically industrial painters, but many still have a background of sorts in commercial and residential painting) and part of our application process now (after previously hiring "on the fly") is to have candidates take an MBTI personality test. Time and time again a great majority (good and bad) come back as ESFJs with a smattering of ISFJs worked in.

Unfortunately many painters are notorious in their industry for having a combination of bad work habits/ethics in combination with a highly desired/well-paid/marketable trade (especially in the current economy). We've noticed a trend that when the scored percentage is low in the Judging (under 70%), that it really eflects in their work habits and even application follow ups. Just thought this was interesting enough to share based on our experience.

Stuart Haig (not verified) says...

I'm an ESFJ, and the careers section of this could not be more inaccurate (for me at least) if it tried to. Not a single one of the "good careers" listed intrest me in the slightest. In fact, I would run a mile from many of them (Teacher and Surgeon), and would simply destest doing others (HR Manager).

Oppositely, the carrers you list as to be avoided, are the ones I find the most interesting. I actually work as an Electrical Engineer (have been now for over 10 years) and absolutely love my job. I also like working with other engineers (Mechanical Engineer I note are also listed), and would be fascinated to listen to a Power Plant Operator or/and an Airline Pilot. 

Stuart (Scotland, UK) (not verified) says...

Load of crap! I am an ESFJ and despite what nonsense this says, I have been working as an Electrical Engineer for 11 years  ans I LOVE my job! Honestly, I can't think of a job I'd enjoy doing more, and, aside from other electrical engineers, I can't think of a better bunch to work with than civil and mechanical engineers, which I do in work on a daily basis. Not a single one of the jobs listed in the "good careers" even remotely interest me, and many I would just run a mile from.

This just furthers by belief of how poor the MBTI really is.

Ted says...

This test is very accurate.  Unfortunatley I am split between I and E, F and T, and J and P.  This makes it much more difficult to put me into one hole or the other.  Some online tools reflect the percentages of each of the types more than this tool does.  It might be helpful to add that to the results of this appraisal.

schuyler weatherly (not verified) says...

I found this very interesting about my personality type but i would like to talk to someone about this that has the same type of personality. If anyone would like to email me feel free because i would love to get to know more about my personality type from someone elde. 

Liz Chou (not verified) says...

Very accurate!! I also read that Tylor Swift is also ESFJ! Lol

Sha nay nayyyyy says...

I'm pretty certain that Ariana Grande is too (based on me knowing and understanding her as well as I can and then looking through the personalities).

Madason (not verified) says...

My friends an ESFJ and I, as an INTP, can tell you that we are exact opposites.

kaleigh hopkins (not verified) says...

I am esfj. It says i am sensitive and dedicated, and put my friends and family first. I am very dedicated to anything i do and am also sensitive. I agree with these results. I agree with all of the descriptions. The most inspiring thing was that Martha Stewart is like me too because me and my mom use to always watch her. The careers were nurse, counselor, and a social worker. I learned that i am caring and attend to an emotional environment.

Heidi C. Taylor (not verified) says...

This is very accurate and describes me very well. I share a lot in common with what this says about the ESFJ.

Guest (not verified) says...

OMG, it's really accurate and it helped me in deciding my gcse subjects according to my career. I'm lovin' it

Rick Dandes (not verified) says...

How did your personality affect you in school and later in your career? Was it a strength, a weakness or both?

Mucheru (not verified) says...

This seems like it is based on a body of knowledge it is true amazing and i think should be developed further to test gifts and talent at a very elementary level to shape career paths for children

DaSplosh (not verified) says...

My parents have always wondered why I do things like help people etc. I didn't even know why until I read my results from this test. After my parents read it, they said they felt as if they had overcome a barrier of misunderstanding about me, and I have become better friends with them since.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am an INFP and my significant other is an ESFJ and our compatibility can be a struggle but our differences make us fit together like a puzzle. For everything I lack he has as a strength and vice versa. Almost as if we are puzzle pieces that fit. It's easy for me to get down on life and want to with draw into myself and separate from the world and his outgoing positive mindset pulls me out of that. And when he is pushing him self too far to please others or is extroverted happy go lucky nature gets him going nonstop and he forgets to sit down rest and take time for himself my introverted cautious nature slowes him down and reminds him that it's okay to take a day off. The differences were hard to get used too but once we figured out how each other works there is not another kind of person that I would ever want to be with.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am shocked at this. I thought maybe I was mad for caring so much about people and also feeling so much need to have a loving family. I am a mother of one and my partner has two from previous relationships. I care for all my kids so much it sometimes worries my close friends cause the other kids were from my previous relationship. But after reading this I can confirm 98% I am not mad at all But I don't see black and white all the times and I am easy to welcome change if its explained to me well. I am a provider and I cant change that. My office is always having people walking in sad and leaving happy. I love my job. I am in finance but can never work in an organization that makes profit. I was NGO's and Charity Organisations that makes my day worth waking up and getting ready to see the work. But at times I feel like some people take advantage of my personality and use it in the wrong way. I would like to find out how I can then change that.

Muneca515 (not verified) says...

Very accurate except I don't feel like I think only black and white. But other than that it's extremely accurate.

Will Smith (not verified) says...

I find your website and information very helpful...especially when I'm working with students regarding career exploration. However, I've discovered that many of the careers listed with a link don't have information. :^(

Just thought I'd let you know.

Thanks,

Will Smith

Guest (not verified) says...

I have strong emmotions they are called senseativity, it bothers me because i can not handle such strong emmotions.
I sucks because i allways cry

dayzdoodle1125 says...

I really enjoyed this,
I am surprised at the accuracy and got a good laugh at seeing myself so clearly thank you

NAME? (not verified) says...

Do you guys really believe this?

Based on no scientific reserach, you believe this?
It like me putting few herbs together and saying it it will cure your sickness when in reality, I didnt do any sort of trial and error, I just put a label around a bottle, and wrote- number 1 in the country!!

Hope your getting a picture here

It is all pretty cool but dont really try to relate yourself to it because it doesnt measure your age, gender nor your socio economic status

Its just a general overview like the horoscopes

Guest (not verified) says...

That is very accurate

Guest (not verified) says...

I keep testing to the ISFJ, but the ESFJ is really more like me. Also the least appealing careers on ESFJ fit me to a T. Nuances! This is so helpful re situations where I tend to be too concerned about other people's feelings instead of accepting that it will all work out in the end.

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