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How do ISFJs communicate?

ISFJs take a supportive role in communication, listening to tune into the needs of others. They tend to be sensitive and want to collaborate to support everyone involved. ISFJs rarely demand the floor, but are often quietly taking in detailed information from the world around them. They contribute information when they see a practical use for it or when they see that it could be helpful. ISFJs are loyal to what they see first-hand, and will often share perspectives based on personal experience.

What are ISFJs like as partners?

In relationships, the ISFJ is generous, accomodating, and loyal. ISFJs are dedicated to the task of taking care of their loved ones, and take their family responsibilities seriously. They look for ways to provide and to assist, and are attentive to the details of the people around them.

ISFJs appreciate history and tradition, and often want to create a relationship that reflects traditional ideals. Whether male or female, the ISFJ typically adheres to customary gender roles, and dutifully takes on the corresponding household duties.

ISFJs are motivated to help, and may put their partner’s needs ahead of their own. They typically have a clear idea of what a partner "should" do, but are not likely to be outwardly demanding when it comes to their own needs. They prize harmony and will often withdraw rather than engage in conflict.

ISFJs want a relationship that allows them to be helpful and dutiful in their devotion to loved ones. They appreciate a considerate and thoughtful partner who recognizes their dedication and ability to nurture others.

What are ISFJs like as parents?

As parents, ISFJs are devoted, traditional, and responsible. They are often firm but loving disciplinarians, and want to teach their children to do the right thing and adhere to the rules of society.

ISFJ parents can be overprotective in their motivation to shield their children from the dangers of life, and may blame themselves for problems that their children experience, feeling that they didn’t work hard enough as parents. ISFJs are nurturing and practical, and typically excellent at providing for their children’s daily needs.

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ISFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ISFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ISFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ISFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ISFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ISFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ISFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ISFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ISFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ISFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Guest (not verified) says...

I find that the careers for the ISFJ fit ok. I am positively ISF but I am between the P and J. The personality types are not completely accurate for every individual person, they are more like a stereotype. I love Science and am working on my Associates now. I love photography. I am excellent at taking super close up pictures because I have an eye for all the details. It's an art that just shows the beauty of the subject and can provide a new perspective.

Guest cookiezzz (not verified) says...

This perfectly describes me ^-^

nurfitriani (not verified) says...

this is a positive character

Guest (not verified) says...

what if you are interested in another person with the same personality type? it doesn say anyhing about relationships with same type

Eden R. (not verified) says...

Hey, I'm an ISFJ and have done a lot of studying of types, especially my own, and it's important to note that ISFJs normally have a very good sense of aesthetics, so the thing about photography being a bad choice for an ISFJ is pretty wrong.

Also, after reading the comments section, I've noticed some misunderstandings of the theory. Your Myers-Briggs type is just the way you process things mentally, not a dictator of every individual personality trait, personal choice, mental illnesses, likes/dislikes, et cetera. It affects your personality, but no one will be completely stereotypical. For example, most ISFJs have very organized home spaces, but my room is an absolute mess, and I'm okay with that. No one will fit the stereotype, and you shouldn't expect yourself or others to. Also, getting different results on the test when you take it different times is normal. I would take a few tests to get a general idea, then look at a chart explaining the basic differences between each letter and type yourself. You know yourself more than a computer does.

Additionally, I've noticed a few "this is a girl type" comments. I absolutely must refute that. There are no "boy" or "girl" types. None of these types are inherently masculine or feminine. I will admit that I am a female ISFJ, but there are plenty of male ISFJs. It does not make you girly just because you are concrete, caring, introverted, and organized. Saying "this is a girl type" reinforces a gender stereotype that suggest that masculine men should not be quiet or loving or show emotion or do things for people they care about. Saying "this is a girl type" suggests that many positive ISFJ qualities should not be expressed in men, which is oppressive, and in some cases, toxic to a male who feels he cannot express himself. Conversely, this also suggests that females cannot be what a stereotypical male should be. One stereotypically masculine MBTI type is the ESTP type, which is generally spontaneous, outgoing, assertive, and self-assured. These are qualities that are socially considered masculine traits, but can be held by any person of either sex. I know several ESTP girls; in fact, one of my old friends is an ESTP. So in conclusion, don't say "this is a girl type," because that confines the different genders to a set of characteristics, even when the characteristics are perfectly okay things for both sexes to be.

FathaAma (not verified) says...

Right on. Well said.

Guest (not verified) says...

Thank you. I'm a male ISFJ, and I don't think being faithful, or being a caring or nurturing father/friend/etc makes me "girly." I think it makes me a better man.

Kyle Hearst (not verified) says...

My personality is very sensitive. I don't show it but I care a lot. I also watch out for who people are. I don't let many people into my life.

Jodie (not verified) says...

Everything, is very accurate but the information that states that I will mostly suffer heart disease and chronic pain is very offensive. I hope that this is not true and that if its not, that you will take it off and put something better.

Guest (not verified) says...

It's pretty accurate for me except that I prefer jobs that are not only in the sciences, such as chemistry( which they said that were unpopular) but ones that I can do alone or in a very very small group.

Guest (not verified) says...

I enjoyed taking this test. Quite accurate in fact. Career selection on point, I'm a social worker. Also enjoyed reading other ISFJ's comments. would be great to have my husband take the test:).

Guest (not verified) says...

I like to help people in the easiest way possible. If it is hard, ill find a simpler, easier way to do it. If it is easy and requires nearly (or no) effort, then ill do it no problem.

Aprille (not verified) says...

Strange. I got a four-way split between ENFJ, INFJ, ESFJ and ISFJ. Maybe I have multiple personalities (bahahaha!). It makes sense, though. I think I was born (inherently) an INFJ, but life has forced me into a caretaker role for so long, that I it has impacted my personality. Lots of people think I am an extrovert, as I appear to be quite sociable at work, but being around people is very draining for me.

kev (not verified) says...

says im a protector its accurate seeing that im protective lol

Stew (not verified) says...

I've always wanted to be an interior designer... I am a civil engineer. I hate my job. My heart is broken because I am not using all my creative imagination. Instead I have to always follow stupid rules. It's like a butterfly in a closed jar.

Grasshopper (not verified) says...

I understand how you feel because I am a mechanical engineer and I don't really enjoy my job, either.

eweng (not verified) says...

That's why I want to go back to graphic design rather than programming. I am a ok programmer, but it doesn't come natural to me. I don't get lost in it. But when I am designing / creating images, time flys.  

Stew (not verified) says...

Exactly, it's like we are lost, if we do not create and show the world what our imagination and talant can give to express the emotions we feel, to show the world our way of thinking/helping. When we work something else, there's like no passion in this "measurement", like it's "never mind", like it's no love. And I personaly truly believe, that all of us here give 1000% of everything when we do what we love, because this is what we want. And there is no such thing like "big money" or carriere here, it's just being pleased of what you do.

Guest (not verified) says...

Well Stew it is time to use your creative imagination on something that interests you. Like invent something in your field, you have enough knowledge.

Genie (not verified) says...

I used to be the ISFP, but the result says I'm ISFJ-T for now. I'm still changing maybe. I wonder if it is accurate because this is result from myself.

JWilderness (not verified) says...

This really described my personality right on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Guest (not verified) says...

wow indeed this is really me....ISFJ #painting..... watching movies....

Guest (not verified) says...

I've taken a similar personality test before, and it had sorted me as an INFJ, which I find highly accurate for me. Although, some ISFJ traits are very similar to my personality too, usually relationship and communication wise, all the rest is either wrong or sounds far fetched for the kind of person I am.

kayla Dinsmore (not verified) says...

I found every thing on this website true as an ISFJ .

Mike (not verified) (not verified) says...

I have not read through all of the comments to see if anyone else noticed, but George H.W. Bush is listed as both a famous ISTJ and ISFJ...

JJA (not verified) says...

Just took the test, it said im a ISFJ which is the "protector" and a good caretaker and I care. This i feel, is very very inaccurate becuase I hate people and am very selfish, lazy, and I am not a caring person to others. I seriously do not care about others and I am not good with others.

Marie Philomene (not verified) says...

I'm sad to read this. I am INTP, and it's always been so hard for me that my ISFJ mom was so cold, distant, and emotionally unavailable! It says here that ISFJ's don't get along with INTP's. I tried so hard to get her affection, thinking I should be more logical, more rational, show less emotion, and then she would like me and I would feel loved! Instead, she got more and more distant. I wish I had known about the temperaments as a teen. That would have at least been an explanation as to what was going on. I still FEEL hated and hate-worthy even as an adult, even though I know it's not "logical". :(. For all the ISFJ people reading this, please remember that a little understanding goes A LONG WAY. If you have xxTP kids,  please stop asking them to emote, and listen to how they are desperately trying to show love in their own way. Logic is only the xxTP'S default (and they can no more change it that you can change your feelings-default) , and when they are stressed or worried, they fall back on their default. If you are patient, give them space, stop criticising their natural temperament, they will eventually open up to warm, affectionate feelings. They do have them, same as everyone else, and among them is the wanting to be loved by their own parents. But feelings are super vulnerable to xxTP's. They need to feel like they will be accepted if they open up. If you're criticising and manipulating for emotion, they don't feel safe enough to show their vulnerable feelings. You will never see their intense pain. You will probably, however, end up complaining how they never appreciated you, and they'll be thinking: "I did everything I could to get her /him to like me, but it never worked! All I wanted was acceptance, but it never came!" And because xxTP's are confused and frightened by too much emotion, including their own strong emotional desire for parental connection, they will deal with emotion the only way they can: they will go "cold" on you. As I said, a little understanding, sympathy, and patience for your Thinkers and Perceivers can go a very long way. Please don't forget this!

eweng (not verified) says...

So true... my giving and harmanous nature and my keen senser spotting being taken advantage of will set up a storm in my mind that will last for days. So, today, I took a day off (notify via email, Ha!) and just forget about being responsible for once. Feels nice.

 

Rob004 (not verified) says...

heh. proud isfj here. so, i've heard isfj is considered a feminine type? nah, i think men can be isfjs while keeping their machismo.

Felicia M Cirlos (not verified) says...

Meyer Briggs knew what she was doing when she formulated the personality tests. I'm an ISFJ and I feel a lot of the aforementioned characteristics are true and I work as a nurse, I've always known I wanted to be a nurse since I was 4.  I feel that a lot of it is so accurate due to the fact Meyer Briggs took into account our different facets that make up our individual personality such as how we portray ourselves in a social setting leading to the conclusion of either introvert or extrovert, how we respond to anothers' situation, how we are or view ourselves when it comes to demands such as work.  Everything tied in nicely.

Lauren Grice (not verified) says...

This describes me perfectly. I'm glad I finally have some guidance about what to do with my life. I was so lost, but the characteristics are exactly me. 

Guest (not verified) says...

Why is insurance agent listed in the best AND worst careers? 

Guest (not verified) says...

Not really a traditionalist, nor do I make crafts. I also don't watch much tv or many movies, but I do love nature walks and just being outside. But yes, I have an excellent memory, especially about people, and an eye for details. I definitely catch things that other people miss, but I think my Fe isn't well developed, because I don't willingly volunteer to do things all that much. But when my father was dying, it was as if I was given a higher purpose, a calling, to be there at the end of his life like he'd always been there for my life. It was a privilege to be by his side, although it wasn't always easy. I know ISFJs also get a reputation for being organized and good at planning, etc. I'm not at all and still wonder how I'm going to put away for retirement. I also eat too much. Most of the other SJ types I know are good at watching their weight and what they eat, etc. Weight Watchers seems to be popular with the SJs I know. 

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