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How do INTJs communicate?

INTJs are direct and detached in their communication. They often naturally see how something could be done better and usually communicate their criticism in a straightforward, logical manner. They are typically independent and calm; they are not so much concerned about being liked or appreciated as they are with being competent and thoughtful. Their communications are typically well thought-out, insightful, and strategic. They often plan well into the future and offer big-picture analysis for improving systems.

What are INTJs like as partners?

In relationships, the INTJ is loyal but independent. INTJs can be almost scientific in choosing a mate and make devoted partners once they have found a match that fits their rigorous list of requirements. They often have clear ideas about what makes for a solid relationship and are unwavering in their pursuit of this ideal.

INTJs often have a passion for self-improvement and are encouraging of their partners' goals and intellectual pursuits. However, they do not usually see the need for frivolous affection or romance, feeling that their devotion should be evident. They are more focused on serving their partners with hard work and resourceful problem-solving than they are on showering them with attention.

INTJs' partners often find them difficult to read, and indeed they do not show emotion easily; they find the process of discussing emotions much too messy and disorganized. They enjoy solving difficult problems, but are often out of their depth when it comes to illogical, unpredictable personal issues.

INTJs value a partner that allows them the independence to achieve their goals, and one who appreciates their efficacy, insight, and ability to offer creative solutions to problems.

What are INTJs like as parents?

As parents, INTJs are devoted and supportive. They set firm limits and provide consistent reinforcement, but within that structure allow a lot of latitude for their children to explore their own interests and potential. They are encouraging of their childrens' intellectual pursuits and enthusiastic about sharing knowledge.

INTJs enjoy the process of developing a young mind, and get a lot of satisfaction from parenting. They want to develop productive, competent, and self-sufficient children who think for themselves.

INTJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INTJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INTJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INTJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INTJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

INTJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INTJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the INTJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the INTJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INTJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Guest (not verified) says...

This is so true that it is scary! Even the relationship part is true!

hk.mars (not verified) says...

It's me. Thanks so much. I am so strong-willed and INTJ...

channonjw says...

This was very refreshing because as an INTJ I am always feeling like the one who sticks out like a sore thumb. My questions that I always ask what works and presumably Is it working?

Guest (not verified) says...

me 100%

Guest INTJ Female (not verified) says...

What about INTJs and the art field?
I am a talented singer--opera and more mainstream genres.
I also do well in theatre and acting.
I'm not sure I ENJOY it, per se, but I feel it would be a waste of talent.
I am interested in working as an Art Director (Photography and fine art)
but I still have that "what if" with acting and singing.
I don't want to waste an opportunity to make it to the top.
I'm just wondering, from INTJ to other INTJs,
how enjoyable do you think it would be for one?

Bitterblue (not verified) says...

I also work in the arts. I am a theatre technician. I have also acted. While I wouldn't choose acting as my occupation it is still fun sometimes. I'd prefer to stay backstage though. Even if you have a talent for it, if you do not enjoy it to the fullest then why do it. If you like it then continue on.

an INTJ (not verified) says...

i thought that at first i was an istj but after taking some tests im sure that im an intj.

yogesh0506 says...

Is there any other INTJ in India?

Guest (not verified) says...

im an intj and although it says that istj have lots in common with intj, i really dislike being around them

Guest (not verified) says...

as an INTJ woman with an INTJ daughter (who is a business owner, they nailed that.) It surprised me how correct this is about both the parts of my personality I like, and that I don't like and have spent my life trying to 'improve'. There are things named here that maybe I should try and embrace and stop trying to fight against.

Guest (not verified) says...

These statements are, for the most part, undoubtedly true, although the career area can fluctuate from person to person. Some of us prefer legal, scientific, and technological professions, while others (myself included) prefer to use their analytical skills for art and design related areas.
Could there possibly be two breeds of INTJ, the reserved who hardly speaks unless the need arises, and the self-assured who relates their ideas with confidence?

GirlWhoKnits (not verified) says...

I don't think so.

One description I read indicated that INTJ's know what they know, and uniquely know what they don't know. So we have the ability to speak confidently because we know the depth and breadth of a topic, SME basically. I think we tend to be reluctant leaders because we'd rather be thinking and strategizing - which also explains why we hate, hate, hate meetings. We will take up the reins to rescue the effort, or if there is a lack of leadership. Or in my experience, the incompetence is driving me nuts and I can't take it anymore.

Guest (not verified) says...

To be honest, I was really mad that I got ISTJ instead of INTJ for a variety of reasons. First off, I am very much the master mind type! I absolutely detest many of the established social norms in this world and often bear a great disdain for humans/ human nature in general (as opposed to ISTJ which says that they are very traditional and respect established traditions and customs)! One of my primary goals is to be a revolutionary inventor that brings about significant improvement to this world!! For crying out loud, I even study relativity and quantum mechanics in my leisure time for that purpose (and also because it is fun)! I very rarely am ok with someone else taking charge in something that I am involved in, and to be honest I tremendously desire power!!!! For goodness sake, one of the people in fiction that I admire most is Madara Uchiha (for those who know who that is and what series that references)! How the heck can I not be INTJ?!!! Also, ISTJ mentioned valuing authority. Seriously?!!! I hate just about all forms of hierarchy with an intense passion!!!!!!!!!!

Here is the worst of it all:

They said that ISTJ made up most of the population!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That just ticks me off! I know for a fact that I am not just "normal"!!! When I was in Kindergarten one teacher even speculated that I was autistic! My mom took me to a doctor and the doctor said that I wasn't, but I kind of want a 2nd opinion! Even in more modern times at my current age, there have been some people who have questioned my mental health state. I know that I am not "normal"! My own mother has noted that I am not normal! (And yes I am proud of not being normal!)

To me who detests human nature and being imperfect, being called "normal" is probably on my top 5 to top 10 list of the most insulting insults!

So what if I'm a pretty systematic guy when it comes to working?! Well excuse me for believing that if something constantly seems to work well then it is a good idea to keep doing it! That doesn't mean that I deserve to be insulted in such a manner!

Sorry for such a long rant. It is just that some of the things in ISTJ just really rub me the wrong way and I say INTJ fits me much better! Some of the things in ISTJ were correct about me, but INTJ would be a better fit!

GirlWhoKnits (not verified) says...

I hate to tell you this kiddo, but being an INTJ isn't all that it's cracked up to sound like it is by the interwebs. Rarity=endangered, from the sounds of it, INTJ are most likely rare, because they have significant social skills deficiencies and have difficulties finding partners to reproduce with. I'm not sure how that can possibly be something you'd want. Frankly finding out that I was an INTJ was like getting a diagnosis for a mystery illness, that was pretty darn depressing.

Oh yeah, being a female INTJ sucks. Only in my work do I not stick out like a sore thumb. I'm the only female in events and meetings full of tech engineers. When I go out into the real world, males think I'm weird because I don't want to talk about dumb small crap and flirting, dumbest thing on earth.

Only a wannabe would think that being an INTJ sounds cool, or is somehow prestigious. It's not, so get over it.

TLM (not verified) says...

I know how difficult it is being a male intj, I can not even fathom how isolated you must feel. A good fit for you friendship or mate wise would be an FP, but male fp's are as rare as female intj's.

In general terms though, I encourage you to follow your better wisdom on things, and take your own first,best advice and ignore ignorant and "S" oriented comments like the one you are taking exception to with your post.

Best Regards


MetaKnight (not verified) says...

Being ISTJ doesn't mean you always follow what most of society considers normal/appropriate or that you love authority figures.

RBFSPosterChild (not verified) says...

Put it this way, if you were an actual INTJ, you'd be rather apathetic to the fact of whether or not your personality type was common. Obsessing about commonality is petty and irrelevant. You're way too passionate and emotional over something so trivial.
As a female INTJ, I'm considered a royal ball-buster by my coworkers. My parents think I'm socially awkward and unnecessarily eccentric. My relationships don't last long due to this perception my partners have over my "indifference", when in reality I am just in need of quiet time and isolation.
In nature, there is a hierarchy of energy and the food chain. Plants being the most abundant are at the bottom; while the top predator is the least abundant. It must be so for a reason, otherwise the food chain would not be able to sustain itself. In that spirit though, I understand the appeal, but the grass is always greener as the saying goes. Be happy with your place and learn more about yourself rather than your wishes to be something or someone else.

Guest (not verified) says...

Um... Chill?

mahseelah2788 says...

This is the second time I have taken this test, and it doesn't surprise me still.

jade ashleu (not verified) says...

I absolutely love the idea that only 1% of women think like me lol explains why they all friggin hate me so much haha, i say all us intj..ings? Gather and discuss, its so bloody difficult to find people that think on the same level as yourself!

Mohammed Ali Bhura (not verified) says...

Percentage of INTJ men and women in the population is interesting. It may be more interesting if region/country wise percentage is incorporated under the said heading.

Missjai.js31 says...

Perusing the list of careers are funny, I'm a CNA, have been for fifteen years. Granted, it's been the leverage I've had to propel upwards in the healthcare field, (I'm a unit clerk and take care of purchasing, medical records and scheduling) but there was a certain level of autonomy with it. Or I did my job correctly, efficiently, and with a lil flair of my wit so my nurses always left me alone. I've been asked to go back and be a nurse and I'm not interested! I like the medical records and purchasing aspect a lot about my job (go figure) lol!

Guest (not verified) says...

Scary accurate, I couldn't have described myself better.

Guest (not verified) says...

This is bang on for me. Regarding the religion aspect, I was raised in the Christian religion but by the age of 10 knew it wasn't for me. That's not to say that I don't believe in a higher power, I do believe there is some force out there. What I don't believe in is following a religion. Most religions are more about controlling others than about spirituality.

Guest (not verified) says...

This is very accurate in terms of describing me. However, I am quite religious whilst most INTJ's are unlikely to believe in a higher power. I have a very legal mind and actually wanted to train as a lawyer, so I do like analyzing systems. I hope to use this test to help inform me about my future career direction and choices.

JF (not verified) says...

I'm having a hell of a time at a high tech company in retail, because all they value are extroverts. Despite your more experience and high productivity, younger, more perky extroverts are routinely being promoted above me. Its driven me to take a leave of absence in order to regroup.

Has anyone else successfully negotiated these treacherous waters?

Guest (not verified) says...

I was in this exact situation ten years ago, I survived it by finding a boss who would listen and explain exactly how my particular skill set would benefit the company: I had a running list of all the top selling items in my department cross referenced with the highest grossing products and a training guide to get my coworkers to show the benefits of the higher grossing products as well as possible objections and road blocks. Basically I gave him everything I had, put my whole weird brain on the problem. Once I had his ear he realized my lack of perkiness wasn't so bad.

Guest (not verified) says...

Man I hate being an INTJ. It always sounds like we're mean dysfunctional people. Almost all of the descriptions scream "a-hole" when I read them. Not all of us relish being in this trait group as some sort of badge. There are significant downsides to being in this group. We don't do people well, and we're practically endangered because we suck at dating. :(

Guest (not verified) says...

I am confused I got this result.

Yes I over think things. I second-guess myself, it is like a OCD. I'm a perfectionist so much that I sabotage everything.
Yes I'm logical, but then I also am a dreamer and an idealist but then again also a realist.

I was an atheist but then leaned towards agnostic after learning more about different histories and cultures, so I can't rule out that there is something, I just won't have the knowledge or tools to discover it in my lifetime and I'm cool with that.

The one thing I dont like is that is says INTJ's like science and technology. I hate it and fear it's advancement because it is more for profit than for benefit and it will go too far, because the number rule of science isn't "why, but rather why not?"
No I am more into respecting nature and natural laws instead. I do like art but I feel art has taking on a new form in the new century to push agendas instead of reflecting life and dreams which was the aspects I liked most of art.

OneWhoLoves (not verified) says...

It is understandable to hate what some humans have done with science: the atomic bomb, mustard gas, etc. Don't forget, though, that science is really a method for understanding nature and natural laws, and technology comprises the tools that we create from what we've observed and learned. Much good has come from scientific advancements. The ethics we apply with them make all the difference, whether we are scientists, politicians, managers, or anything else.
As for art, it sounds like your agendas are about nature, natural laws, and "life and dreams", worthy enough for great literature and art through the ages! Keep your highly attuned crap-meter alive, filter out others' less worthy agendas (in fact, call them on it, for the benefit of the less attuned), and do your own thing. We each have a unique role to play. Follow your intuitive instincts!

Ikasu (not verified) says...

This test describes me rather good. After looking into the MBTI theory and after analyzing various scenarios, I already knew that I'm an INTJ before taking this test. I got an unsure answer about my T/F-ratio, which I also can agree on, since I can recognize some strong traits from INFJ as well.

High school kid intj Guest (not verified) says...

Im 16 and an intj in a boarding school, while everyone else has a ambition in mind, i have totally no idea. I see that none of all jobs in the world suits me as my opinion towards anything and everything is never fixed. I am so passionate into trying out new stuffs, but i think is that neccessary? I wonder where my patience lies... The fundamental academic in 16: choose your subjects. And well, i have no idea and feel so helpless, easily irritable. My friends describe my ego at times as their nightmare, perhaps one of the reasons i m stucked to a bunch of same friends. I had two suicide plans previously after some mental breakdowns or stress however obviously the plans did not work out seeing that i m writing this post because i changed my mind. There was once i almost got nearer and more nearer to the 'light' or Illuminati, but not anymore. I hope i m done! Which i think i would never be...

Male INTJ (not verified) says...

Add Astronomy and Philosophy to the list! Both fields are mostly dominated by all _NT_ types (as far as I think). I'm an Astrophysics major, Math minor, and Philosophy minor myself, and I love those fields.

Guest sam (not verified) says...

i think the video gets me a good amount, but see the thing with the sticky emotional issues that i've seen with many of my friends aren't that hard for me. i put little emotion into my reasoning for fixing the problem but i'm not that cold. i have a good mood towards a lot of things because i think that pretty much anything can be fixed if people would either make a compromise or just forget about some silly emotional factor in the whole thing. i also think i am slightly more extroverted than most INTJ's because i have no fear in being social as some are. I honestly don't care whether i'm by myself or social, almost everything is just fine to me. Something i found funny was that this page says that INTJ's are least likely to believe in a higher power or god figure, I'm a christian XD. and no that is no hole in my personality of being intj, simply the existance of a God actually makes sense, evidence is not required to make a decision that there is a god. logic does. simple scientific logic says that there must be something to make something, so a god only makes sense. something out side of the law has to make the law, duh

Guest (not verified) says...

Why does existence HAVE to have a creator? Why can't existence always have existed? You shouldn't even have mentioned you were a Christian, literally the easiest religion to completely tear apart. I am weary to even believe you are an INTJ. You could possibly be an adolescent or a off INTJ. Probably not though.

MetaKnight (not verified) says...

First it's not possible for something to come from nothing, second your anti-Christian bigotry and elitism is disgusting.

Wolf (not verified) says...

Hillary Clinton and Al Gore have never taken an MBTI test and if they had, they have not shared it with the world. Neither is an INTJ and this site has made itself irrelevant by stating a belief that has no basis in fact.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hillary Clinton is not an INTJ. Maybe close, but no.

Some random guy (not verified) says...

I honestly was really shocked at how relevant this information is...It's quite weird when you think your special, but these things have already been noticed and planned out.

Questioning (not verified) says...

Anybody notice that, despite INTJs allegedly representing a mere 2% of the population,the internet seems to be rife with them/us? Also, I question the accuracy of the Myers-Briggs test given that it seems to oversimplify the human experience into 4 major categories (despite the presence of 16 sub-categories). Are we to truly believe that 7 billion people will all think/act one of 16 ways?

Shawn Murphy (not verified) says...

Ramble of my thoughts and experiences as an INTJ.

I loved skimming through the comments. To me it was if the ones like "Perfect!.. This describes me 100%! :)", "so true", "I agree.... I was scared when I saw how accurate this was" are not INTJs. Then I skimmed down further and saw paragraphs. That's more like it. Of course not saying the above comments were not done by INTJs just seem improbable.

When I graduated College in 2008 is when Myer Briggs was introduced to me (good friend ENTJ). At the time he showed me this I was analyzing my flaws and trying to make sense of them. Kinda went loopy since I started to see things my other friends couldn't understand because to me it made so much sense with no social approval (I figured because the life scenarios I were rambling on about are usually answered with emotional response over logic by the general population). I then read a psychology text book that also helped to piece my theories together. For instance disorders, mental age and perception.

Perception is a major one. I was ever into people growing up but not being able to conquer my flaws bothered me. Movies, detective shows, and music really helped me to imagine putting myself into someone else's shoes. Why and how, how and why make up these characters? Why and how, how and why did this individual have that motive? What kind of person does this song describe or appeal to ("Kimbra - Settle Down" I liked because to me it's insight into a completely different world)?

Sociology and physiology are not considered natural sciences. However if it does not exist in nature than how does it exist at all?

Darah (not verified) says...

Well, I'm the 1% of women that is an INTJ. Everything is spot-on.
And yes, I'm non-religious and perpetuate the stereotype of atheist INTJs. NO SHAME.

Guest (not verified) says...

My mind is always occupied with unnecessary opinions for everything.. I don't really like this aspect of my personality but I don't know how to stop it. It's how my mind automatically perceive my surrounding.. Does anybody have any suggestions on how to reduce it? I have a tendency to upset people unintentionally because of this..

A 6th grader passing college tests (not verified) says...

Say little. If you talk a lot then only do it with small groups of people, say 3-4 other people. That's what I do

Starlyn T (not verified) says...

Somehow I am a web developer starting a hosting business lol I am already in one of the careers am suppose to. I am wondering how would we do as travel agents?

lionel monash hurst (not verified) says...

From many of the comments, it seems that fellow members of this group revel in vanity, believing themselves to be the greatest thing since sliced bread. This seems to test the validity of the analysis, which I suspect is quite blurry in some areas, rather like the astrology readings in the newspapers. To be true to type one must seriously question both the reasoning and interpretation of results by the originators of the tests. There are almost certainly numerous sub-groups which, if carefully researched would indicate interesting additional results. This, of course, creates a paradox - you can't be true to type and question the validity of the types, can you?

Guy Gadbois (not verified) says...

Geez, this is almost like what I imagine a self-help group would be like: "Hi. My name is (name). I'm an INTJ".

I remember telling a couple of people how I found it amazing that I could be surrounded by a thousand people and still feel all alone. Either they didn't understand or they thought I was going to hurt myself, so I decided that was best an "inside thought" and stopped telling people. I'm over 50 now and I don't like being an INTJ. It's almost like self-exile. I understand, appreciate and respect the characteristics, but the yin to that yang is it's like a sacrifice where while one is happily working and focused on the betterment of society so to say, the result is exclusion from it. Oddly enough, working as a business consultant has provided me not only the opportunity to work in a capacity which fits me, but it has forced me to work on skills which don't come natural to me and the driving factor in that is if I don't handle clients properly, even if I'm right I'm out of a job because I'm an asshole and they don't want to work with me. So I've learned how to do some of that touchy-feely, inane, brain-rotting crap.

I can now accept the fact that people don't always hold themselves to the same standards I do, usually don't follow the same logic I do, or perform to the same level I would like them to. It makes me sad but I can understand it, and that helps a lot. The parenting is dead-on. I tell my kids, "You are not allowed to make the same mistakes I did. You must make new ones". Then I tell them a lot of Stupid Dad stories, they laugh their butts off and then we do a hotwash on the story after, and pray they learn from it. I can be very curt and direct. This is how I prefer people to deal with me.

Romance is tough and I'm as thick as a tree root when it comes to sensing and picking up on subtle clues. On the other hand I am a romantic and I love physical contact. Holding hands, dancing close, watching a movie or TV w/ my loved one smashed right up next to me. I fall asleep every night with my hand touching my wife. Head, shoulder, forearm - doesn't matter. Love hugs and kisses, can't get enough. It was very difficult to find someone who could tolerate me but I knew if I settled I would be worse off than if I just waited it out. Sometimes I was lonely and sometimes I was happy being alone but when the time came for my wife to come into my life, it was good timing and fortunate to find someone who "got" me. On the other hand, not big into talking about my "feelings". The thing that frustrates me the most on this particular topic is when someone tries to interpret what I am saying when in fact I am saying exactly what I want to say. No hidden message. And when I say I don't feel anything about something, I really don't, and no, I do not find that odd. Next topic.

I'm also a Christian and I believe with no doubt in the existence of God. My challenge comes with humans, i.e. the imperfect, trying to interpret and relay the meaning and intent of the Perfect, i.e. God. By rights and when I think about it, logically I should be an agnostic at best but I have always believed in God. Can't explain it. It's just always been there; and absolute truth for me. I'm the kind of person where if you tell me to take a step forward I'll take 3 back just to show you, so the theory of having someone brainwash me into my belief doesn't hold water. I'm more inclined to follow the theory of free will to explain why most things happen to us v. destiny but I also believe in occasional intervention. I don't believe in "divine mystery" as much as I do mortal ignorance. I don't think God hides His intentions. I think we're just too stupid to understand them. Yes, even the INTJs. :^D

Anyway, probably wrote too much for most people to care to read so if you made it this far - thanks. Back to the island of one in a sea of thousands.

Guest (not verified) says...

An INTJ group just seems paradoxical

Guest (not verified) says...

When I took the test a few years ago I didnt really pay attention to it, I know Im definitely an Introvert but the rests not so sure. I just took it again and this time I found that this really accurately describes me, to the t. Well, at my workplace I've always despised my coworkers that I viewed as being less competent, not finishing their tasks, checking their phones constantly, omg I hate them soooo sooo much I dont even want to talk to them except if it is work related. I also hate chit chat, so useless esp at the office, where I think ppl should just finish their work before spending time walking around the office and talk nonsense. I become really ignorant of other ppl whom I see as incompetent and not as intelligent, in other words, i fear myself and what I turned into. I was not like this when I first graduated college more than a decade ago! What changed? I used to like socializing, well, never much of a talker since I am an introvert, but I did not want to miss out so I went to happy hour and got to know ppl. Well, now I am perfectly content staying home, reading and analyzing things, thinking and more thinking. Whether it's the state of the earth with global warming looming, US presidency, terrorism, or just what I need to do at work. Why did I turn out this way?

I work restlessly, not because of a deadline but because I set my own standard on what I want to accomplish. I cannot say I am a leader, because I despise set rules and conforming to them when I don't think they make sense to me. However, when I work on a project all the managers rely on me because of my speed and knowledge. Noone will deny that I am one of the very few who can do what I do with extreme efficiency, accuracy and precision.

I don't ever go to happy hour anymore, I also don't try to know anyone that I see as beneath me, I prefer to do things myself because I don't have any expectation that other ppl in the office will be able to do them as well as I can. At work, I am very confident of my skills that I know I am good at, but overtime I realize communication is nvr going to be my strong points. I can write a good email, but in actual meeting I nvr know how to present myself well, which is why I loathe interviews. I value ppl that are hardworking and intelligent, but hate ppl who like to talk but nvr finish their tasks, the Entertainer type. Now I know why I dont like this person, haha, that is so interesting!

I like intellectually stimulating conversations, but hate arrogant ppl, which is ironic because INTJ is also described as being arrogant. In general maybe I just dont like ppl. I'd rather do what I know, and I get better and better at it that there really is not much that will escape my watch. I always strive to improve myself, but atthe same time, I hate that I cannot not look down on other ppl... I really dont want to be this way, but these ppl are killing me, they do their work sloppily and I always have to fix their work, to the point where I cease all communication with them except where absolutely necessary to get the work done. Don't expect me to ask you how you weekend goes, that is not what an INTJ does, omg it makes sense now because I thought I was a freak, but I feel better knowing there are others like me out there.

When ppl ask me questions and I try to answer them, I ponder if I should give them the long or short answer. Well if they are smart, I'll give them the long answer, if not, or if I dont really like them, I give them the short answer. It doesnt matter anyway, most of the time they dont really do as I say, well, if they did, good for them. If not, well if they work with me I will put them in my black list and not ever talk to them again unless absolutely necessary, or if they work on other projects where I am not involved, then goodluck. Haha.

In conclusion, I agree that INTJs are very selective when it comes to socializing, and who to let into their circles. The reason being, I hate mindless gossiping, and talking abt other ppl's personal lives bore me. Is it because I am too selfish? Or just a personality trait? I dont like taking selfie of myself like most of my friends. I use my fb acct as my posting board of things I read that I find interesting, not to post about what I'm doing or where I'm at, like most ppl. I prefer reading to watching, because I can read pretty fast but watching is hard because you cannot fastforward and understand the video at the same time. In short, the whole thing written abt INTJ is a perfect description of myself, minus the leadership skill, which I prefer to do behind the scene, I am perfectly capable to do anything and everything I set my mind to do, and being a stay at home parent is the least thing I want to do, again, very spot on. About religion, I have my informed opinions abt different religions, as I studied them a little bit, and I arrived at the conclusion that I am an atheist after all. The more you learn abt a religion, the more you see what ppl w religion do to others, the more inclined you are to be an atheist, don't you think? I don't want to go into details, but with so much terrorism, sexual crimes, pedophilia, etc etc plaguing ppl who are supposed to be God's beacons, I'd rather look elsewhere for enlightenment! Lol.

Luke in Healdsburg (not verified) says...

I'm not so sure INTJs are as confident as we may seem. INTJs tend to accept new ideas and views based exclusively on reason, fact and demonstration. The "everybody says" arguments rarely hold water with us. This gives the appearance of supreme confidence, but in fact, an INTJ will seamlessly change long held beliefs with little fuss when contradictory ideas are presented in a reasoned way.

Is confidence in our ideas (and the methods we use to come to conclusions) the same as self confidence? I'm not so sure. If it was, INTJs would rule the world.

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