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INTJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INTJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INTJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INTJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INTJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

INTJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INTJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the INTJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the INTJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INTJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

INTJs in Love

In relationships, the INTJ is loyal but independent. INTJs can be almost scientific in choosing a mate and make devoted partners once they have found a match that fits their rigorous list of requirements. They often have clear ideas about what makes for a solid relationship and are unwavering in their pursuit of this ideal.

INTJs often have a passion for self-improvement and are encouraging of their partners' goals and intellectual pursuits. However, they do not usually see the need for frivolous affection or romance, feeling that their devotion should be evident. They are more focused on serving their partners with hard work and resourceful problem-solving than they are on showering them with attention.

INTJs' partners often find them difficult to read, and indeed they do not show emotion easily; they find the process of discussing emotions much too messy and disorganized. They enjoy solving difficult problems, but are often out of their depth when it comes to illogical, unpredictable personal issues.

INTJs value a partner that allows them the independence to achieve their goals, and one who appreciates their efficacy, insight, and ability to offer creative solutions to problems.

INTJs as Parents

As parents, INTJs are devoted and supportive. They set firm limits and provide consistent reinforcement, but within that structure allow a lot of latitude for their children to explore their own interests and potential. They are encouraging of their childrens' intellectual pursuits and enthusiastic about sharing knowledge.

INTJs enjoy the process of developing a young mind, and get a lot of satisfaction from parenting. They want to develop productive, competent, and self-sufficient children who think for themselves.

INTJ Communication Style

INTJs are direct and detached in their communication. They often naturally see how something could be done better and usually communicate their criticism in a straightforward, logical manner. They are typically independent and calm; they are not so much concerned about being liked or appreciated as they are with being competent and thoughtful. Their communications are typically well thought-out, insightful, and strategic. They often plan well into the future and offer big-picture analysis for improving systems.

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xPlanetos (not verified) says...

26 year old female INTJ pursuing a career in Astronomy. Nice to read I'm not completely alone!

Lillie (not verified) says...

I took the test and when I read the description I was mind-blown by how accurate it was.

chalkfarmer (not verified) says...

INTJ/A female high school Engish teacher. Go figure!

Ti H (not verified) says...

INTJ, specially intj woman never recognize each other in the real world, cz they hates to see theirself in the other. If you are telling that you are an INTJ here, I dont think you are really an InTj, get the test seriously or you need to see in which degree you are an INTJ or your level of an INTJ . Good luck! 

Cipheos (not verified) says...

For I am more INTJ than thou 😂

Cipheos (not verified) says...

It's always funny how accurate MBTI seems until you read a few other profiles and realize about a third of all types would suit you fairly well.

I sincerely envy any creative INTJs here. I doubt it comes natural to an INTJ to stick with a creative hobby. God knows how often I've tried art and music.

For some reason I stuck with software development from a young age. I'd like to punch that brat in the face right about now. I wouldn't recommend it at all, most work environments seem to suck.

I just wish I could play the violin 😢

HL (not verified) says...

Hi there, I very recently took the test and discovered I am an INTJ-type and what a revelation it was for me. I've always thought there is something wrong and weird with myself in a lot of ways and it was just comforting to know that I belong to a rare and unique type of personality and that there are other people that can understand. Everything about here rang so many bells to me but this particular description really hit me hard, "INTJs can be almost scientific in choosing a mate and make devoted partners once they have found a match that fits their rigorous list of requirements." I am 23 and still haven't experienced being in love. I've been attracted to a lot of other people but the feelings weren't all, sadly, mutual. It's just that I tend to have this very structured and concrete idea of love that when I find it, it has to be something I was mostly prepared and definitely knew how to handle. It doesn't help that I am an antisocial, easily overwhelmed by crowds, and talking to people I don't know that I rarely go out and meet new people. These could be the reasons why. Has it always been this way for other people of my personality types? If so, any advise you can give for an INTJ-type seeking for love? Thanks. 

kainat khokhar says...

I'm speechless my report was undeniably accurate I'm an INTJ women.

 

Mike gonzalez (not verified) says...

I cried when I read this. 

Nothing in my life has ever explained me in such detail.  I've lived 34 years thinking something was wrong with me. I couldn't understand why people didn't think like me. I tend to understand and learn much faster and can't shut off my analytical brain. I come to conclusions that no one around me does and it has led to an exhausting life, having to explain everything to people over and over again...thinking they were ignorant while they thought I was crazy. I'm not self taught in 5 instruments, sing and write my own music, I have 7 skilled trades and 6 certifications and almost 2 college degrees. Student at life. I can't quit engaging in articles that stimulate me. I have to remain constantly stimulated or I feel dead. It makes building relationships with others very difficult. 

Jou bernsteene (not verified) says...

When you were younger, were you anxious and diddnt trust people because you are afraid they will hurt you. Found it difficult to read emotion and hard to say in words what you mean? Felt like you are broken?

Joshua (INTJ) (not verified) says...

For those INTJ's wishing to work in the Corporate World, these are some jobs worth considering:

  • Business Analyst
  • HR Business Partner
  • Project Manager
  • GM/EGM in an area focusing on improvement and/Or change
  • Accountant
  • Workforce Manager (forecasting)
  • Union Field Organiser
  • Policy Manager

As mentioned previously, INTJ's should steer clear of roles in Marketing, PR or in leadership roles that require constant contact with reports (typically in lower management).

Best wishes for the future.

TS43 (not verified) says...

I have taken this test about every 5-7 years, so three times now. Always the same result: INTJ. Seems like there is something to this, or at least the testing.

Kevyn (not verified) says...

i guess so

Izic new town (not verified) says...

I think I am half Intj. I agree on the first points but the rest doesn't sound like me. Is there subdivisions of personality traits that fall between these?

Carolyn J (not verified) says...

As an INTJ who is struggling with her work environment (busy, high energy, loud, lots of leaders), I truly appreciate finding this information.  Luckily, I am able to work 2 days a week at home with my dogs and, in my spare time, to do research to support community organizing (that's where the "mastermind" comes out).

Shreekunj (not verified) says...

Um..Hi ladies here. 

I am also a INTJ female. But fact is I am a lot younger than you guys like I am 16. So, few days ago I was watching youtube and saw few words about personality types. I, most likely all INTJs, searched about it and I finally understand that I am neither sociopath or psycopath. I am INTJ female. Kind of rare to find people I can totally interact with so I would really love to share my thoughts with my fellow INTJs.

I am currently confused about a certain things. Firstly, I personally feel repelled while socializing but I still try to be open. I really love taking with people but the way I explain situations and interact seems like pathetic to others I guess. I try to be open minded but the people just don't have time to listen what I am saying or to consider me. I tried to open up and gave a green signal if anybody wants help. Like selflessly. But now I am being used for their growth. It is hurting now.

So I am thinking to become a little bit my real cold self, who would not be regarded as granted all the time, but still approchable in real need. I am also trying to learn how to say no. 

Is that a good solution or should I try something else? Please help me.

EM4 (not verified) says...

I think that many people here are not INTJ because many of them tell their life, a behavior which is very uncommon with INTJ (it is one of the most introvert type). It is very hard to find his real type because we have naturallly a lot of cognitive bias: for exemple, we can answer to the text as we would like to be and not like we really are. Also, it is important to not forget that there are no superior type, an INTJ is not necessarly more clever than an ESFJ.

A person who mistype INTJ for a long time.

Jrdillon (not verified) says...

INTJ females,  just curious if you have always felt different and/or found it difficult to establish meaningful relationships with other women?  This has a been a problem for me my entire life.  Mainly in the workplace as an adult - on my own time I am not obligated to attempt to socialize with them.  Don't get me wrong, I don't mean all women but pretty much the majority.  I have a few close female friends but it took me a long time to find them (and them me, much to our mutual relief) and the rest of my close friends are men.  As a young adult and into my twenties (just turned 49 last week) I stopped even attempting to fit in because at the end of the day I really didn't want any part of it anyway - I simply could not relate to them, didn't think like them, and wasn't a 'follower' in any way shape or form (quite the opposite, not intentionally but just how I am).  Soooo, to try make a long story short.. they almost NEVER like me (again, quite the opposite, haha).  Honestly this doesn't bother me as I accepted that I am simply different a long time ago but as a Nurse (as listed in the occupations to avoid, figures) it can become a problem really quick when I am surrounded by them at work.  I have tried everything but find it excruciating to try to fake it and they still seem to sense I am different anyway so I am at my wits end.  I am starting a new job next week and my mother actually said to me 'you need to figure out what it is you are doing that makes them dislike you and change it before you start' .. if only it was that easy, I was pretty much speechless :/

I guess I am hoping someone can relate and it isn't just me.  Thanks in advance to anyone that responds.

Side note - I am also a music fanatic but just listening not actually playing.  I was surprised to see how many here love it as much as I do - I couldn't live without it.

Meen (not verified) says...

Hi,

I’m a female INTJ. I thought I would never meet other INTJs since we make up only 2% of the general population (3% of men, and 1% of woman), according to the report.

Now, I’m meeting other INTJs like me. I’m elated. Why don’t we form an online social platform group for INTJs to support one another?

Darius (not verified) says...

INTJ, Chemist... I'm always dealing with an overwhelming sensation of unfulfillment.  The mastermind/systems designer role suits me well, but I'm looking for ways to allow my personality to articulate with other compatible personality types. My cognitive preference Te > Ni > Si > Fe> Ne >Ti = Fi =Se and my temperic blend is choleric sanguine. 

These tests are a good assessment of my character, but at the same time I feel a little bummed that the results condemn me to the fate isolation.  I'd like to become better at building teams, or at least work with someone that can help me build a team! 

Si nou pale kreyol, li tap pi bon pou mw =)

KM (not verified) says...

I'm INTJ, Female, and also persue a wide range of interests - especially now that I'm retired.  I am confused by the number of people advising others to persue their dreams, vs calculating the cost/benefit of any major life decision. 

In all situations, I think through the logical sequence of events, likely to occur based on any decision I make, then assess the pros and cons of each, to arrive at the best likely outcome for me. 

I also loved music & art (who doesn't), but I never considered either as a plausible endeavor, because the sheer volume of others who also love music & art. That coupled with the miniscule number of people who make a living in music & art, suggested it was not a good bet I'd be successful. (I'm good, but not great.)

Additionally, I considered the actual lifestyle of people earning a living in music, and decided that was not a lifestyle I aspired to. Nor do I believe most INTJs would like it, in the long run. Aside from being introverted (the first letter in INTJ), uncomfortable on stage (or even in front of a few close friends), I can't imagine what would be the allure of such a life.

Especially long term.  Do you want a family? Will you abandon them to go on tour, or even to do local gigs - all of which would be in the evenings, or on weekends? How would that work with spouses and children who live in the regular world, where nights and weekends are family time?  

Have you checked out how much money a musician in the local house band makes? Can you afford a quality of life for yourself and your family on that kind of money? I doubt it. If you think you are Beyonce, or Bruce Springstein, and you would love that level of scrutiny and lack of privacy, then go for it.  But if you self assess, and deem you are not really at that level, then you need to consider what the local band at the hotel down the street earns, and what their lives are like, before making that decision. 

It's very easy for others to cavalierly say "Go for it", or "Follow your dreams", but they have little to lose, as they sit back and watch you live out your life, alone, in one hotel room after another, & never having enough money to afford the family you could have had, if you'd factored in the likely money and success you'd have more likely gained with a different decision.

Frankly, I question if any of these people even are INTJ, given the cavalier attitudes expressed in their decision making process.

Art is a much more solitary persuit, so I could see the fit better for an INTJ, but unless you are a Davinci level artist, your odds of making a living in art are nonexistant. Even Davinci would have trouble making a living in art nowadays, because art has become so bastardized, that museums show an orange canvas, with a black dot, and call it art.  Seriously, How much talent did that take? It's not art, & I have no idea how one would arrange to pass off such idiocy as talent, and make a living at it.   Do you?

Be realistic. Think it through. Consider the lifestyle of the practicioners of any carreer path that interests you, and then decide.  I seriously considered being a Doctor, and was accepted into an Ivy Legue medical school, but walked away. I considered that a Doctor has to actually see, and touch patients. Every day. Sick people, too, and I knew I could never do that in real life. Prior to acceptance, I'd only considered if I could do the work to become a doctor, and I knew I could.  I had calculated the cost of the education vs the earnings of Doctor, in deciding my path, but I'd forgotten the actual day to day life of a Doctor, until I was injured, and had to go to the hospital on multiple occasions for treatments.

Fortunately, that woke me to the reality of what a Doctor does, before I spent years and considerable money, just to get that degree. (And yes, I did consider becoming a Doctor that doesn't see patients, but there's no Doctor that has zero contact with patients, and I knew that was not my calling.)

Just be aware, and decide based on Likely outcomes - not fantasies. You probably are not Beyonce or Bruce, but if you really do aspire to be the local house band at the hotel down the street, then make your plans accordingly, & be the best house band that hotel ever saw.  : )

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NoYourName (not verified) says...

Also INTJ, as tested, once. I feel this list does not very well describe me, in many ways; including comparisons with other posts. There should be more subsets of this personality type to further distinguish the intensity of the introspection and weather or not there is a DESIRE to relate, I am aware of subtypes -A (assertive) and -T (turbulent). That said, obviously, close enough to interest me, even convince me to post this; my third internet post in 15 years. Enjoy. I HATED music, from the time I  was three (recalled) or earlier, I did not see the point in art, I despised social events and concerts, still do, they completely drain my energy, distract from my projects, my life, and it is impossible to think there. I have always been extremely literal, thankfully less now than before. Today, after a great and conscious effort, I can tolerate music, I even have a few pieces I enjoy, but it is always forced, I have to CONVINCE myself to turn on the radio in my car. It will never happen if I don't make a point of it. Personal connections with other people have always been difficult. I want to be certain that nothing can go wrong before I make the irreversible step of considering someone a friend. After that contract is made I expect it not to be broken, usually a 5 to 10 year process. Today most of my discussions are with myself, pacing my livingroom at two in the morning inventing engines, refining legal systems, building city plans, running and rerunning entire books and movies and real situations in the past over and over again, changing them and recalculating and changing again. I find myself to be a fascinating conversation. Who needs holographs and augmented reality? I can project my thoughts on the real world and integrate them, no problem. When I was four years old I would grab a blanket, hide behind a chair or couch, close my eyes, and simply enjoy playing in whatever world I fancied to create that day, for two or three hours at a time. Avid reader, up to 10 hours per day. By age 9 finished Tolkien's LOTR. I can't read a book straight through, I interrupt myself too often reinventing the circumstances and characters and solving whatever "problems" I believe I come across. Sometimes I find it necessary to reinvent my own meanings for words. I consider myself to be reasonable, not logical. "Logic" implies process whereas "reason" implies purpose. One is a means, another an end. Is it logical to be logical? An unbounded process is actually dangerous, often antithetical to success. Is it reasonable to be reasonable? Purpose demands effective process. Therefore self-supporting. I have actually been "accused" of being logical, I conceived this argument to reinforce that analyzing the situation is done with careful consideration of the outcome and not by some useless knee-jerk reaction to information. Lastly, on personalities. I had terrible trouble early in life "fitting in" in any social setting, even my own family. Then I thought, if I can disassemble and reassemble and design systems and philosophies, why not design personalities? Since then I have had great success contriving personalities to fill specific needs in my day to day life, giving each so much time and resources as would be necessary to complete its task. Because of this, people who have known me for six months to a year are often "surprised" to all of the sudden figure out who I am. I am not even sure INTJ classifies as my original personality. I feel like there is an older, gentler, and more delicate personality, that is only allowed to come out and play when all the problems have been solved, all the tasks completed, and the safety nets erected. Devout christian, engineer, male, if someone is keeping tally. Apologies for emphasis, added to deepen understanding. Why did I write this? If someone like me is reading this, it will be worth it to them.

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