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The INFP Personality Type

INFPs are imaginative idealists, guided by their own core values and beliefs. To a Healer, possibilities are paramount; the realism of the moment is only of passing concern. They see potential for a better future, and pursue truth and meaning with their own individual flair.

INFPs are sensitive, caring, and compassionate, and are deeply concerned with the personal growth of themselves and others. Individualistic and nonjudgmental, INFPs believe that each person must find their own path. They enjoy spending time exploring their own ideas and values, and are gently encouraging to others to do the same. INFPs are creative and often artistic; they enjoy finding new outlets for self-expression.

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What does INFP stand for?

INFP is an acronym used to describe one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. It stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. INFP indicates a person who is energized by time alone (Introverted), who focuses on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), who makes decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and who prefers to be spontaneous and flexible rather than planned and organized (Perceiving). INFPs are sometimes referred to as Healer personalities due to their sympathetic idealism and gentle compassion for other people.

INFP Values and Motivations

INFPs value authenticity and want to be original and individual in what they do. They are often concerned with a search for meaning and truth within themselves. Following tradition holds little appeal for the INFP; they prefer to do their own exploration of values and ideas, and decide for themselves what seems right. INFPs are often offbeat and unconventional, but they feel no desire to conform. The INFP would rather be true to themselves than try to fit in with the crowd.

INFPs are accepting and nonjudgmental in their treatment of others, believing that each person must follow their own path. They are flexible and accommodating, and can often see many points of view. It is important to the INFP to support other people; however, the INFP may react strongly if they feel their own values are being violated. They especially hate being steamrolled by people who insist there is one right way to do things. INFPs want an open, supportive exchange of ideas.

How Others See the INFP

INFPs may initially seem cool, as they reserve their most authentic thoughts and feelings for people they know well. They are reflective and often spiritual, and often interested in having meaningful conversations about values, ethics, people, and personal growth. Typically curious and open-minded, the Healer continually seeks a deeper understanding of themselves and of the people around them. They are passionate about their ideals, but private as well; few people understand the depth of the INFP’s commitment to their beliefs.

INFPs are sensitive and empathetic, and engage themselves in a lifelong quest for meaning and authenticity. The mundane aspects of life are of less interest to this type, and they are more excited by interesting ideas than by practical facts. They typically accept others without question, and may take special interest in offbeat points of view or alternative lifestyles. They often have a special affection for the arts, especially the avant garde, as they love experiencing new concepts in self-expression.

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How rare is the INFP personality type?

INFP is the ninth most common type in the population. They make up:

  • 4% of the general population
  • 5% of women
  • 4% of men

Famous INFPs

Famous INFPs include Princess Diana, Audrey Hepburn, Fred Rogers, John Lennon, Kurt Cobain, Tori Amos, Morrissey, Chloe Sevigny, William Shakespeare, Bill Watterson, A.A. Milne, Helen Keller, Carl Rogers, and Isabel Briggs Myers (creator of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator).

INFP Quotes

"INFPs excel in fields that deal with possibilities for people."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"Healers care deeply—passionately—about a few special persons or a favorite cause, and their fervent aim is to bring peace to the world and wholeness to themselves and their loved ones."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"Clearly INFPs are best when whatever they're doing serves their personal values."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

Facts about INFPs

Interesting facts about the INFP:

  • On personality trait measures, score as Artistic, Reflective, Careless, Sensitive, Flexible, and Appreciative
  • Among least likely of all types to suffer heart disease
  • In men, among least likely to report chronic pain
  • Second highest of all types to report marital dissatisfaction
  • Among most likely to have suicidal thoughts in college
  • Tend to be more successful than the average in learning a foreign language
  • Among types most likely to be dissatisfied with their work
  • Personal values include Autonomy and Creativity
  • Overrepresented in occupations in counseling, writing, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

INFP Hobbies and Interests

Popular hobbies for INFPs include poetry, creative writing, music, photography, theater, and visual art.

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Trinity C Casey (not verified) says...

I'm in college and I'm majoring in Sociology. I'm still feeling it out and it's not set in stone completely, but I'm enjoying it so far. I would definetly suggest Sociology to any INFP I were to encounter.

Po (not verified) says...

so cool! i just graduated university majoring in sociology :) for sure helped me figure out my morals and values way better 

Abby Fisher (not verified) says...

I was also a sociology major in college and it was really fulfilling and came naturally to me. It's a great path for empathetic people although it can be a bit draining when you take on all of the worries of the world. I think it's a great major for an INFP as well.

Lost&Unsure (not verified) says...

Please, I need advice!

I'm really struggling to decide what major to take in college. My heart tells me to go somewhere in the area of arts or film but I'm too caught up in the harsh truth of reality. Knowing this field would be unstable to have a job in, the future doesn't look to bright money wise and realistically living. Also my parents would disapprove of me majoring in arts and not willing at all to pay money for me to go. Now the only options for me is to choose a random major that could support me realistically and financially, and that my parents would approve of. If I do this I know I'll be struggling through college and living my life miserably feeling unfulfilled. What do I do now? If there's an answer/major that somehow fits both ideas, please let me know! 

Blue Jems (not verified) says...

I feel your struggle! I was in similar situation once. (An ENFP here) If you heart lies in the arts to some degree, but your parents won't pay for a degree in like the arts, I would try to either look for something that genuinely interests you that isn't the arts, or that can technically be applied to the arts if you know what I mean. For instance, a degree as an English major, (English can be applied to writing) or a degree in communications (can almost apply any where because no matter the industry you have to communicate with other people) or, if that's where your heart truly lies, in the arts, you could try to figure out a way to get a degree in the arts on your own, or even, try to convince them why it's important for you to do something you love. If your gonna spend thousands of dollars learning something, why not enjoy it and have no regrets? Literally any college major could be hard to get a job in. Just because you have a degree doesn't always garuntee that you will get a job at all. I say go for the thing your heart desires, even if it's hard. If you do something you enjoy, they say you'll never work again. Your life is too short to live it for someone else rather than yourself. Good luck! 

JessAW (not verified) says...

Well, it says we're likely to have job dissatisfaction as well as low income so perhaps we're not motivated to choose those practical jobs that provide stability as we prefer creativity. However, plenty of creatives carve out a stable income for themselves. Personally, I've switched majors from Art to English and now to Psychology. I think it suits me because I love helping people find creative solutions to address their problems. 

bree :) (not verified) says...

always go with your heart and what makes you happiest. parent's approval may be something that seems really important to you but what matters the most is if you approve of your major. it seems as if you're super passionate about the arts which is so awesome! just remember that you deserve happiness in the life that you're leading:). honestly, in the end, the harsh reality that we live in shouldn't stop you from doing something that you are truly passionate about, and your parents should be so, so proud that you've gone to college and support you no matter what you do... there's so many people that just don't have the motivation to go to college. worst-case-scenario, if you chose arts or film as a major, and graduate with a degree in arts and film and say, you don't get as money as you wish, or a steady job... you could always have a job on the side. just know that this world needs imaginative people like you, don't change yourself and your passions for anyone. :) i hope you have a great day :)

Littleblackpony (not verified) says...

Hello, I'm an INFP and I probably have an idea of how that feels. I ended up taking Film and Scriptwriting at the University, and it's really fun. As INFPs we tend to be idealistic about our futures (we are literally obsessed😂), so I would say go for it and do what you want. It would work out if you choose a business minor (I don't know) to go with what you want as a major. Also come out to your parents about why you would like to take something in the arts, and how happy you would be if you actually made your dream come true (that's if you haven't explained to them yet). After all, money isn't always the answer...how awesome the world would be if everyone did what they loved! There's everything for everyone and art just seems like your thing...sooo...yeah, tell your parents, you could probably compromise with a business minor, and yeah, chase your dream.

 

I hope I was helpful.

Pt (not verified) says...

Try Psychology. It can help a lot and be fruitful too. It taps into basic instincts of INFPs.

Emiel (not verified) says...

I have the same as you. Conclusion so far: do what your heart tells you creatively. Pursue it while working a simple job aside it for lifr maintenance. Like 3 days if possible. And spend the other days on your film and art!

Aml Hassan (not verified) says...

Hi , I'm an infp too. I understand your worries and I suggest you go for  interior design. I guess it might suitable for both you and your parents. Interior design is about art and it also could get you a good job with a nice salary.

Cheers:-)

Keidell H. (not verified) says...

Hello!

I am a fellow INFP who was in the exact same situation. As soon as I graduated and got to college I was faced with picking a major (bleh!). I really wanted to major in film/photography/creative media (my dream from a very young age has been to direct films) but I felt like society wouldn't place me with a stable job and worried constantly about my parents opinion of this, considering they would be helping me pay through school. I spent my first semester registered under "undecided" and second semester under a general business major. I loathed these classes, I loathed the career options, and I knew I wasn't doing as well as I would be doing if I was passionate about it.

I spent months reflecting back and forth on how I felt, and I was faced with many hardships in my personal life all at once (family deaths, four year relationship ended, etc) and I came to my conclusion through mindfulness and meditation (had obsessive thought patterns and used this to calm them).

You've got to go with your gut. If you can step aside from what your parents would ideally prefer, what would make you happy?

I realized I would end up on my deathbed thinking about all the possibilities I didn't take a jump toward, in the name of convenience.

Realists will say, that statically it's unlikely you and I will make it "big" in the film industry. If you want to be a realist about it. Take a gap year and work a simple retail job, save up and study film online during this time. There are a TON of free resources online, and film school doesn't particularly breed many successes (not to mention it's extremely overpriced). If it doesn't feel right anymore, go back to school and study law or something boring.  ;)

I don't know what else to say. Choose your happiness over anyone else's and FOLLOW YOUR HEART. It's the first step to how anyone ever became anything. Good luck my friend.

coconut (not verified) says...

Maybe you could try out marketing? Or somewhere along the lines of design? I'm not too familiar with these but I suppose you could try researching on it to see if it fits what you're looking for :) 

danaliz (not verified) says...

28 year old female here. As someone who went into engineering because I thought I was being safe and realistic, I can tell you that although I don't totally regret it (more on that later) I am very unhappy in the field. In fact, I am currently unemployed, by choice, so that I can try to figure out a career that will allow me to feel more aligned. Now back to the regret... I really wish I would have went into massage/physical therapy, psychology, or skipped college all together and pursued a more artistic endeavor. I say I don’t regret it, because I choose not to live that way and having an engineering degree does give me something to fall back on….however what I wish someone, anyone, would have told me when I was struggling to figure out a path is that if you have motivation and aren’t afraid to put yourself out there, then a degree in the arts can be very rewarding.  Also – I wish I would have found some part-time internships before choosing  a career path. Trust me, you have time. Because after a few years of doing the same boring/safe job every day,  you start to kick yourself in the butt for not following your passion. Don’t know what you passions are yet? Then don’t blindly choose one! Take a year or two off before going to college and really figure out what you like! Best of luck to you :) 

MeINFPT (not verified) says...

Hey! What about art therapy!

Nancy Phalen (not verified) says...

As a 63 year old INFP I lived your major struggle many years ago.  I majored in French, unfortunately non-teaching, and have had to be creative finding meaningful work in a math and science world.  My suggestion is to consider teaching: it seems to me that elementary, even kindergarten, would be rewarding even as time goes by.  Special education needs people like you too.  Graduate study in speech pathology (don’t gulp!) seems to work with some INFP’s I know and affords a generous salary.  I’m always impressed with the satisfaction that women religious seem to have in their choice of life’s work too.  Finally, nursing is infinitely practical, and one your parents are sure to approve of.  You may need to tackle this degree slower, at your own pace, working part time for real world experience.  Math and science were not my forte then, but going slow and exploring unusual options (traveling nurse, or rural nursing???) would offer a mission and a good living.  Best of luck as you explore all pathways.  Again,  try half work half school to get exposed to some other great ideas.

salmadu (not verified) says...

Hey ! 

Just to let you know you can always major in the arts & something you enjoy & can always become a teacher or go into education! When it comes to choosing a career in education you can major/ left your bachelors in anything just make sure you get into a credential program after! there's also many types of careers in education you can always be an art /film teacher in the high school level or become a professor & still enjoy your craft on the side. Please don't make yourself miserable & enjoy studying something you like in undergrad !

Caroline MacCaughelty (not verified) says...

Try interdisciplinary studies! It allows you to combine several interests into one major. I'm doing Marketing and Studio Art because I'm also into the arts and film industry and I like graphic design but I didn't want all those awful competitive studio hours. Companies are a lot more likely to hire you with some sort of business degree, and I chose marketing because I've been marketing my photography brand for 5+ years. Also, with Interdisciplinary studies you don't have to take things like business cal and really hard classes. Marketing is being broken down for me so it's like a minor within a major because IDSC is so awesome. Talk to your advisor about it!

Cath (not verified) says...

Architecture i guess

Jess02 (not verified) says...

I can't be of much help, but if you're wanting to make sure you can land a stable job after college, I would highly recommend majoring in something vague such as communications or business and minoring in the things that draw you in. Maybe your arts and such could be your minor?

Michael (not verified) says...

Hi,

If you've already been accepted, you should look to see if you could take a year off before enrolling and be able to go to the same school if school choice is an issue. Although it seems there's a lot of pressure to start college right out of high school (if that's your situation) taking a year off gives you time to figure out what works best for you.
 

While the future of the world doesn't seem too optimistic at the moment, don't let that stop you from finding and becoming your own best true self. Don't be discouraged by pursuing the arts, but also realize most creatives unfortunately have to supplement their income with a "real" job. If taking a year off seems crazy and impossible to you, my other suggestion would be to find a degree that has a lot of flexibility for the job market after school. 
 

I hope this helps somewhat :) 

FlyGuy13 (not verified) says...

Lost & Unsure,

I cannot tell you the number of times I have had this delimma academically and professionally.

College in the US has become more and more about job placement and less and less about the pursuit of knowledge. I specialized within political science, and while a career in policy was the goal, I got caught on the political side. Although I was good at it, the lifestyle and the people I had to answer to daily had me violating my personal ethics. When the other party set against working with the party I worked within, my party leaders continued to pretend that the other party were still their negotiating partners... despite a lack of negotiation.

In these times, I might suggest a few different approaches:

Are youu fluent in another language? If so, you might be able to go to University in that country for free (Germany is a prime example).

I once met a young lady majoring in biology and minoring in illustration with the hopes of becoming a scientific illustrator. (She is, after working for a few years in a lab.)

Take a gap year and work or apply to a program like Americorps.

My ex studied viola and then pursued a graduate degree in arts management. Last I knew, he was running a performance arts venue at an Ivy League university and performing professionally a few times a year in small ensembles.

A friend in Germany decided his first year of University that he wanted to be a piano student. He had no piano experience. He found a teacher and worked very hard to learn and works now as an accompanist and voice/piano teacher (without debt!).

Coding and engineering are often overlooked as technical and not artistic. Yet many, many engineering students are often found in labs designing new solutions to the world around us, setting things on fire, etc, etc.

Architecture is a blend of technical and art.

If I was 17-19 again, I'd buckle down, learn German and would have gotten my degrees there. 

 

Victoria C (not verified) says...

Artists are not doomed to a poor and destitute life! That is old-fashioned thinking. There are so many careers in the arts. And as an INFP, I know you can think creatively. Have you considered graphic design? Illustration? Costume or set design for film or theater? Concept art for video games and animation? There are endless possibilities. I have a BFA for illustration and have spent years in graphic design and then web development. I found web development very unfulfilling after a while. I'm back to the drawing board (pun intended) and I'm now pushing forward with a full career as an illustrator, artist, writer, and musican. I'm seeing a career coach to help me through it. I'm excited about this new adventure and feel like I'm in a pretty good place to pursue it, now that I'm almost 40. It's about time I listened to my heart! You have so many possibilities waiting for you. Listen to your heart. It doesn't lie. And good luck! <3

Belle10008 (not verified) says...

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this, but I'm also glad that you're thinking about your future realistically. I'm an INFP who was in the same situation as you 7 years ago. I decided to pick the more 'realistic' option and studied law over music. INFPs are not made for law - to cope, I took an 'all-or-nothing' approach and suppressed all creativity, changing my idealistic personality to be more like an INTP/J. Needless to say, I struggled immensely with depression.

If there's any advice I would give, it would be to stay authentic to yourself, whatever situation arises. Don't choose a random major based on the reward (better prospects of getting a job), but find out how that job will add to your bigger picture. Think about what motivates you, what skills you want to develop, and analyse what your vision of the future is and why, and how that degree can add to that vision. Convey your options to your parents and see whether you can reach a compromise. Try not to create a situation where you fall victim to the perception that your parents have control over your situation - otherwise you will start to hate them.

For more practical suggestions - is there any chance you could minor in arts/double major in arts and something that your parents would be willing to support financially? If not, try to not take an all-or-nothing approach - remember that doing a non-arts degree doesn't mean that you have to stop doing arts/film.

lost (not verified) says...

I wonder if someone can give me some advice on what to do.

I am soo lost and going crazy trying to pick a career to major undergrad in. I have an associates in business, but thats not the route that I want to take anymore, or atleast I dont think i do.  In my work experience, I have worked as pharmacy tech for years, customer service, billing, teching and admin work in a few doctors offices. Studied medical billing and coding also, then got bored with it. I enjoy working with people, and helping them. Im interested in soo many things like nutrition, psychology, health information management, health informatics, human resources, and analyst, however, its very difficult to pick one.  I wanted nutrition at first, but I am scared of all the organic chem, and biology, and more math classes that i will have to take. I was never good at those. Im afraid i wont do good in them. I am sooooo indecisive and its driving me insane. Its hard to know exactly what you want to do, so im really stuck in trying to decide on what to go for, without any regrets, and doubts. I wanted psychology also,. but then always wonder if I will be able to handle all the classes, and pursue a masters after. I am 30, and dont really want to waste anymore time guessing, and over thinking, and just pick something. 

not sure what personality type really describes me, I have gotten Infp, Enfp, and also Isfp :/

xoklj (not verified) says...

This is me right now. I'm an INFP at the age of 22. I have so many things I am interested in, and I can't pick. I'll make my mind up about a certain career/degree path, get in my head, and start the process all over again. I have one year left of my degree, and I pursued it because I was interested in it but I literally have no idea what I can do with it w/o getting into politics :(((( I want to do dental hygiene or women's health as a nurse but like you mentioned I was never one for science and math so I don't wanna go that route just to find it's a dead end. If I finished my other degree and pursue health, I'll graduate when I'm 31, which is awhile to go with no real career experience. I looked into teaching, but I don't think I could commit to full-time teaching, more so as a hobby than a career. 

Sofia17alvarez (not verified) says...

You are not alone!! I'm also here realizing that I want to switch my major over from business marketing to nutrition or psychology... Don't be so hard on yourself, take time to think about your values and priorities then try to rule out careers. Your words spoke to me, an INFP! Good luck :)

lost (not verified) says...

Thank you Sofia, good luck to you as well !!

Tyler Cuff (not verified) says...

Greetings fellow infps,

I dont know if this is the correct place to ask this but I am in a bit of a bind. I have been in a relationship with someone for four years. Throughout this time I have had my doubts about compatibility and also about feeling fulfilled personally. The issue is that I cant seem to decide whether this is the truth or if it is just my head coming up with the usual trash.

With every subject concerning the relationship I really want to please but perhaps feel underappreciated. Yet again I dont know if that's just me. Anyone else experience this?

 

bree :) (not verified) says...

tyler, 

it's okay to doubt, it's what makes us human... but it's also what makes us over-stressed, and scared. i think the best thing to do in your situation is to step back and look at the relationship as if you're a bystandar looking in on the relationship. try and see if your partner truly is compatable for you and you them. another thing you could do is talk to your partner about these doubts, it's good to be open and honest, especially being in such a long relationship. have a great day :) <3 i hope that helped a little!! have a good day

Shannon (not verified) says...

Yes! I'm in this exact situation, except my relationship has only been a year and a half. I have no idea what to do.

Kate K. (not verified) says...

Hi Tyler,

as a fellow INFP I can definitely relate. I overthink everything. Everything is going just fine and then ooops I start creating those scenarios in my head and I feel like everything is not good enough and then what´s the point of doing it, right?... the problem is that I don´t even care if I stress about something that is real, I just start having those doubts and I don´t know what to do with my life. 

Have a great day. 

uh (not verified) says...

Lmao how reassuring

Busy Bee (not verified) says...

I've read two somewhat diverging ideas about INFPs in relationships: the first is that INFPs have an innate, almost instant sense of whether or not they are compatible with someone and could fall in love with them. The second is that because INFPs have been dreaming and imagining their ideal partner for so long, when they meet a person, they experience a "flurry of comparison" of this person to their ideal, which can end the relationship prematurely since the prospective match most likely will not live up to this imagined ideal. Which one is a better representation? Are we just really good at figuring out quickly whether the relationship is worth pursuing or are we shutting the door too quickly because we're in love with an idea? (I've experienced the former more frequently than the latter, but I'd like to hear others' thoughts).

DJ1987 (not verified) says...

Hi Busy bee,

For me it's a bit of both. I tend to have an idealised vision of a partner and when I meet someone who exhibits some of those traits, I tend to fall hard and attribute the other traits of my ideal man onto them until the fog starts to clear. If I notice a real conflict in values then I know it's over. Usually if I notice this from the very beginning I don't even bother getting into a relationship but it isn't always very visible at the start. I don't know if that helps.

elle (not verified) says...

Hello fellow INFPs !! I've just stumbled upon here and your stories about your life experiences are really interesting. I read all of it and realized how similar (in some aspects) we all are. I am also happy that I gain knowledge from your experiences and how I also gained hope from it. I would like to share my situation too as how all of you shared yours and as a chance to seek some advice too. Tbh, eversince I was a kid I really don't have any dream profession unlike my friends that's why as I grow up I got filled with doubts and tend to overthink a lot about my purpose in life. Up until now, I still don't know the calling of my soul and I've been struggling a lot about it. I tried going to career counseling before entering college once and I can say that it was able to ease what I feel but really I wasn't able to get the answer that I was looking for because I realized that the answer that I want will just be coming from me no matter what I do. I have been struggling with anxiety too but I am doing my best to still get a hold of myself. I am currently an Economics major and I'm having doubts whether to still pursue my major or switch up to another major. I am actually in the middle if asked whether I enjoy my major or not. There are times that I feel like I fit in my major and there are times that I feel like I should consider shifting. When I am asked the question where do I see myself 5 or 10 years from now I really don't know what to say because I really don't know where I should be. I choseeconomics because I just felt that it'll be an interesting major because you'll be aware about what's happening around you or how things really work. I really don't know whether to continue it or not. I also don't want to be a burden to my family because my family is already suffering with different problems and I don't want to pile my personal problem up. Tho they are aware that I am undecided evenbefore, they are just supporting me and that they are very open-minded about my career decision because they said it's my life so they are not putting much pressure on me but I put such pressure on myself and sometimes I feel drained already trying my best to find not just the answers that I need but myself as well. 

 

It's hard to feel lost and the uncertainty behind every decision that I'll be making scares me. I find it really hard to dedicate my efforts, my time, my whole self to something that can eventually make me feel like a disappointment. 

margottttt (not verified) says...

I can relate to this almost completely, I'm so glad to see other people who have similar experiences because it helps me and lets me know that I'm not the only one who thinks like that and that it's okay 

Mark_T (not verified) says...

Hi Elle, I think this is the eternal problem for INFPs but fortunately contains the eventual solution - unfortunately it can just take us forever to realise it! We truly need to find something that matters to us on a deep and fundamental level to be happy and that can take years to discover. However, in the meantime, we all still have to find a way to pay the bills. We often feel like we stand on the fringes of modern society with it's endless pursuit of money, power and status when what we truly value is connection, expression and understanding. That feeling of exclusion from the modern world can take a terrible toll both mentally and financially but also contains the seeds of a solution. The world truly prizes our individuality, look at a list of famous INFPs and see how they changed the world for the better even though many of them suffered from crippling doubt.

If I had any practical advice, I would say, find a way to support yourself that takes a minimum of time and effort but may not necessarily pay well so that you can pour the rest of yourself into what really matters to you (once you've worked out what that is). As far as your economics degree goes; if you can struggle through the rest of it and can continue to afford it, then it's not going to hurt you in the future - maybe you can find a way to apply your economics degree to something you really care about. However, also be aware that the typical environment and personalities in a lot of economics fields (e.g. banking) are virtually anathema to INFPs, although I suspect academia is probably different in this regard. If continuing to pursue your economics degree is going to pile on unaffordable debt for you then you might want to pursue something else instead but that's only a decision you can make. If you passed your economics degree but then didn't do anything with it job-wise, would you still be happy that you'd kept doing it or not?

Find and watch Neil Gaiman's (who I suspect may also be an INFP) "Make Good Art" speech to help you find your calling. :)

Think carefully and make sure you're happy with your decision before you finally act on it, whatever it happens to be - it's all up to you!

Love, and all the best. Mark

Marie Wood (not verified) says...

I think this is where I use my intuition to get me through those types of situational stressors. Going to college is stressful enough, as I'm in the same boat as you, but I'd like to give a remember that you have that intuition that you can use to help guide you to making the right decisions. Trust in yourself with whichever path you are pulled to the most and go for it!

As for trying to communicate your situations to family members, I would recommend taking a mindful look at the negative self-talk that's motivating those fears of judgment within yourself (Will they accept that I have an issue of decided which to major in?), low confidence in yourself (what if I can't succeed in another field besides economics?) and second-guessing your decisions (Will I regret this?). All of these need to be carefully looked at and dissected into root explainations of themselves in order to understand why you are stuck in that loop of negativity about yourself. Only then can you work to increase your potential within yourself, so that you can finally be confident and make decisions without doubting.

If you can't use your intuition, try other personality strength pathways that you possess to get to the root of your issues onto the table. Don't be afraid because you aren't alone! All that time that you fear to waste upon yourself, when trying new things, is a negative thought that's blocking you of your fullest potential to use that time for improvement. What if you could do something that you always declined doing just because you thought you weren't good enough? How did that feelings make you feel? Is that feeling irrational? If it is irrational, how can you change it into rationally postive feelings and thoughts? Not irrational, Why not? Can you be absolutely certain that the feeling/thought is rational?

Questions like these can help get your mind into constant cognitive awareness about these previous feelings and fears stated above. Don't lose hope, work hard and before you know it, you will become your fullest and most successful self.

bluehex says...

Hi, I've had the same problem, but ultimately I found that I needed to choose a career that went with my values and made me feel good about it. I tried multiple degree paths, so it was bumpy for me. Still, I ultimately found that I went the route that was discouraged in the past because it was impractical. Yet, in following their advice, I ended up feeling miserable, so I am correcting that mistake. I am assuming you live in the US, which is an SJ type of society that values practical and safe choices, which in my opinion, isn't what we as intuitive types should be basing our decisions. I feel that even if we do succeed, we will get drained but not feeling a sense of satisfaction because it feels like we took the safe route than the one that our souls need to feel a sense of meaning.

Ti (not verified) says...

Hey Elle,

I didn't come here to read comments, but then found myself scrolling and saw yours. I myself have experienced a similar situation as I've gotten older. I'm a young professional, and I actually did end up going into the field I majored in at college, but after a hiatus for some months following. And honestly speaking, the reason I went into it was because I had a conversation with an old professer/mentor where I decided sometimes you just have to bite the bullet to get to where you want to be. For me that was going into a career so that I could pay off my student debt. 

That being said, all throughout my life I've found myself to be interested in something for 3 to 4 years, and once that time has passed and I feel like I've accomplished things that I wanted, I move on to something else. I've come to realize I like being a "Jill of all trades". My preset is not to just settle on one thing but for so long because I like to continously be learning through life. I went into college undeclared for this reason, and ended up switching majors three times before landing on something that maintained my interest. For me that was mass communications, specifically advertising because it married a lot of the things I was interested in. I see myself in it for now, but even saything this I know it won't be my forever job because it's not me to feel anchored to one thing. 

I said all this to say you don't have to have it figured out, but at the core follow your interest. I didn't mind switching majors because I knew eventually I would land somewhere I was meant to be. I also have always hated feeling discontent with what I'm doing. If it doesn't ressonate with you then why stay in it especially when you are paying for the education you are getting? Also, never be dissapointed in the decisions you make because at one time that's what you wanted, so there's no use seeing it as a fail. You will learn from the choices you make whether it be you never want to do that thing again, or that it was amazing and you want to continue in that direction. That's what life is, a series of oops and okays. All in all, take it one step at a time and don't be afraid to switch your major, but also don't be afraid to stay in it if you do find it interesting. It's what you're doing now, but doesn't have to be what you're doing always. 

I hope this helps!

Sunny (not verified) says...

I feel that I empathy too much and overly sensitive. All of this makes me feel stress, anxiety and anger in my body all the time, sometime it lead to emotionally burnout. I tried to focus on myself more than other but it’s so hard to act like you don’t care but you already feel it. 

And the other thing is I’m indecisive person. I often delay my decision until it got not time to make it, especially when I have to make a big decision for my life.

Anyone feel like me?

Sorry for my bad English
:(

Lillian (not verified) says...

Hi Sunny,

From my personal experience I would suggest to build and keep your own boundaries —— you don't have to be responsible for others' emotions and feelings, and you have no obligations of fullfilling others' expectations. You only have to do it when you feel the want and need to do it. Secure your own oxygen mask first before assisting others. When you are already burnout and exhausted, it's okay to say no to an "outside emergency". 

And maybe some helpful online channels:

Amy Young - a Youtube channel talks about building boundaries and self-care;

Woebot - an app designed based on Cognitive Behavioral Therapy where you could chat with an AI for daily emotional check-in, gratitude jounarling, practicing mindfullness, self compassion, etc. (It saved me, someway ;)

 

fskmjks (not verified) says...

I'm also really indecisive, I honestly hate it about myself so much because making decisions (even small and not super important) is sooo hard for me. As I get older it becomes more and more frustrating.

Mara (not verified) says...

Hey there,

I can't even explain how much I can relate to that feeling! I become easily frustrated when things don't work out. At the moment I feel very burnt out.

Often I don't know what to do...

Btw your English is perfectly fine :)

AJ (not verified) says...

i completely get you. i'm overtly sensitive, indecisive, and non confrontational. sometimes i feel that people think i'm weak. focus on you! you're not alone :)

hi everyone (not verified) says...

Hello, i'm very lost with what to do with my life. I'm in my second semester of university majoring in marketing and media after changing from a science degree (had no specific major). Now, I am very anxious about my decision. I am scared that I will never find my passion. :( .I don't know... should I have changed to nursing instead? 

Angie_14 (not verified) says...

Hi! I don't know much about majors in college but I do know about feeling stuck. Finding your passion is probably one of the hardest decisions you'll make in your life. It can take a few months or it can take a lifetime. The best thing you can do is look everywhere. Think about the things you love. Try taking a walk through a park or by the beach if you find yourself inspired by nature. Read books. Watch movies. Spend time with people you love. Try new things everywhere you look and seize every opportunity you have to learn something new. As for what you do in college, don't stress out too much. School is there for you to learn. So many people don't even go into professions similar to their major anyway. I think you should just pursue what your heart tells you to. Don't stress about what your decision can do for the future because you have the power to do anything you want. Whatever feels like the right choice in your gut is your best option. Think about hobbies and how you can work them into a career. You don't need to be in charge of Wendy's Twitter to have a job in marketing. Maybe you like drawing and could be a graphic designer. You mentioned nursing and science; if that's something you're passionate about then by all mean go after it. If you chose a major that will teach you a useful skill you can use later on that's great. If you chose something that relates to something you've always loved doing that's great. The best thing you can do right now is to work hard. Study hard in whatever subject you choose. Give yourself a break from time to time, but also never stop pushing to be the best version of yourself you can be. It sounds like you have a big workload in of you right now, and you'll thank yourself later when you get to the bottom of it. And trust me, your passion will come naturally. It might take a while, but you'll know when it's there. There's a good chance it can be a huge risk, but you'll never know until you take a leap. Just know that it's going to get easier. I can't stress enough to work hard. Ask for help from friends when you need it. I don't know about your life, so make sure to find good friends who are open and support you. A little bit of optimism goes a long way.

You have your whole life ahead of you, so relax and take things one step at a time. I'm rooting for you!

Danny D. (not verified) says...

Maybe think about getting a masters degree in psychology so you can be a therapist. It took me 'til my late twenties after dropping out of law to realize this for me. It's super easy for INFPs. 

Stasifile (not verified) says...

Hello,

I just read your comment about psychology

i have studied this and found the studies very interesting 

However when I went into the workforce, I was disappointed 

the industry often deals with people that have learning disabilities and high levels of aggression

This job gives me anxiety as I always feel that I can be attacked

many people don't try to use the suggestions and it goes nowhere

besides this, it's all about money and kpis, when you work for a company all they want to do is take the government funding

 

i am yet to still find a career that I can thrive in

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