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INFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

INFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the INFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the INFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

INFPs in Love

In relationships, the INFP is nurturing, empathic, and loyal. Healers select their friends and partners carefully, looking for a strong bond and congruent values. They are self-aware and often spiritual.

INFPs tend to be open-minded and accepting of another's behavior and preferences, so long as their core values are not violated. They support their partners' individuality, and encourage them to explore their interests and ideas.

INFPs look for ways to compromise and accommodate other people, and often have creative solutions to interpersonal problems. They can be very sensitive, but often keep negative reactions to themselves because they are reluctant to engage in confrontation.

Close and harmonious relationships are important to INFPs, although they also need a lot of independent time to think and reflect. They often want plenty of freedom to express themselves and pursue greater self-awareness. They value a partner who is committed and loving, yet provides them with the support they need to independently explore the mysteries of life.

INFPs as Parents

As parents, INFPs are caring, supportive, and adaptable. They rarely establish a strict or structured household, preferring instead to address problems and situations as they arise. They often allow their children a lot of latitude and influence in making decisions, and may leave the creation and enforcement of household rules up to another parent.

Children of INFPs often find that they have the freedom to express themselves and make their own decisions until they violate their INFP parent's values. When values are in question, the Healer parent becomes firm and inflexible.

INFP Communication Style

INFPs are gentle, encouraging communicators who enjoy exploring options and ideas. They envision possibilities for people and are often good at coming up with creative, flexible solutions to problems. They are typically attentive listeners who try to adapt their communication style to the people they are dealing with. Compassionate and cooperative, they tend to be appreciative of other people and their ideas, although they may be reserved about sharing their own closely held values and ideas with people they do not know well.

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dios (not verified) says...

is it just me or would schools benefit more from getting teachers to learn personality profiling like this? the way i see it, it could help them understand the way students think and learn and be able to place students nearer to each other that have more positive learning effects on each other and form friendships aswell as be able to "speak their language" i know as a student infp i would have benefitted a lot more from a teacher or another student understanding me a bit better and putting things in a way i understood rather then the systematic teaching style that is universally used. maybe even help elliviate some of the suicidal thoughts i have seen to be quite common in our personality type in that time of our lives

Original Name Is Like Torture (not verified) says...

I am an elementary school teacher and an INFP.  I agree that it would be helpful to zero in on the personality types of each student = not that I would use the information systematically of course, but knowing would help guide my practice holistically.  It would be helpful if there were quizzes geared to different age levels.  I could make one I guess.

dios (not verified) says...

this sounds like a great idea and im glad someone is running with it :) its always difficult to say how you think when often you dont really know thats why these tests dont often give the correct results plus people also put what they think they want to be, rather then what they actually are so i suppose answering questions more litterally would help like are you imaginative or logical etc. 

Yolanda2020 says...

I am a homeschooling parent of a gifted 13yr old who unfortunately cannot go to school due to social phobia & anxiety. This term we’re studying ‘Lord of the Flies’ for our English text. I decided to give him the Myer Briggs personality test as I felt this would encourage him on his strengths. He is an INFP and found the excercise insightful. I think it would be great to do this with students. I wish I’d done it when I was younger.,

Leisharn (not verified) says...

You read my mind! That is exactly what I always thought. If only there were a school upon enrolment students have to complete a (MBTI) test and are matched teacher more likely on their wavelength. I think the system needs to change schools needs to work with psychology because they share the mind and learning and I also think the medical community needs to immerse with nutrition as the first most important treatment because they share health body and once all these systems are in harmony they they should countereact any disease or mental disorders that the world is suffering with. 

dios (not verified) says...

maybe we should put this to the intp's to see if the facts check out :D

dios (not verified) says...

interesting idea i think with medical community it has been getting better but isn't perfect with nutrition hence why we keep getting these t.v. shows telling us to eat 5 fruit and veg portions a day now but as i havent had much "inner knowledge" of the medical professions its more difficult for me to comment. but i do think we are only as strong as our weakest link so perhaps nutrition is it. i've heard others think that stress is the biggest contributing factor to illness and others think we all just need to drink more water. so really im completely lost as to what would be best. i know for me just the imbt test is difficult to get right especially when you dont know yourself i think though at least teacher training to reckognise different psychological types would be a good action. but deffinitely any form of action would be a good action .

Lindsey the INFP-T Mediator (not verified) says...

I am an INFP-T Mediator ALL THE WAY. I have taken the Myers Briggs personality test numerous times over the years and no matter how much I think I have "changed" I get the same results every time.

HOWEVER, don't depend on these assumptions too much. It's easy to feel even more lost if you get caught up in these and see them as limitations. I am a legal assistant for a State's Attorney's office pursuing my paralegal certification and even though it does not at all line up with what an INFP usually would be good at, I LOVE it. It took me a while and I felt really dumb at first, but with patience and determination I have become confident in my skills in this career. It does help that I have a fantastic work environment and a great boss.

My favorite thing about my job is seeing every day how I can help people with various needs. I help couples adopt children, I help people get out of toxic marriages, I help people buy their first house, etc. It is SO rewarding and I can't believe I finally found my niche! An INFP needs a purpose that captivates us. 

Adrienne Muller Goldstein (not verified) says...

Hi Lindsey. I am an INFP-T and thinking of going into paralegal work. How did you get into it? I do like helping people but most importantly I like to be left alone at work to do a lot of writing and planning. At the same time I like the option of stepping away from my desk and interacting with others at certain points in my day. This has been a major challenge in my career and I have ended up doing a lot of data entry type work that really crushes my soul. Did you get a degree of some kind? I definitely don't want to go to law school or invest a lot of money in education. I feel like I have an insider view of what the industry is like because my Father is a lawyer and a judge so I grew up hearing the lingo at home. I hope you see this! Let me know. Thank you.

Lindsey the INFP-T Mediator (not verified) says...

Hey, Adrienne!!

I had a job as a part-time legal secretary in high school working for an Attorney who did mostly civil cases. I was very limited at that job, not as motivated as I was younger, and it was a poorly set up Law Firm and an awful work environment. I've tried many different jobs since then and most of them helped me figure out what I WASN'T interested in pursuing. The difference between that job and the one I currently have now is day and night. I now have a very healthy work environment with trust and respect. I love this job for some of the reasons you mentioned- independence at my desk with just the right amount of social interaction. I love interacting with our clients. My boss and the other Attorney here are great!! Jobs where I'm surrounded by people all day completely drain me. This is the perfect balance for me and I think you would love it, too, if you can find the right work environment and people to deal with every day. ;) 

I don't want to commit to extensive schooling and student loans, either. If you gain enough experience as a legal assistant and you continue to improve, you will gain enough confidence and perspective to take a paralegal certificate course, which is MUCH cheaper than getting your associates degree and taking a paralegal course. I'm sure your background will help immensely and your father is a great resource for you to learn quickly. :) 

Best of luck to you, Adrienne!!!

Alma (not verified) says...

Some things are more bearable than others, but everything has to be done with a purpose, for example a chemical engineer to clean the water of a dam, a river, a lake, to benefit a community, an animal population, irrigation of crops, etc. :-)

Karen Winter (not verified) says...

Purpose is key  for sure

Margozofogj (not verified) says...

Any INFP veterinarians with any career advice? Considering this career but also having some reservations.

dreamchaser (not verified) says...

INFP here currently in vet school (just finished 4th year). It is a highly rewarding career but be ready for many reality checks as you go through vet school/ encounter clients from all walks of life. 

Confused and Scattered (not verified) says...

Everyones opinions I connect with but feel no closer to certainty in choosing a path to follow. 

I know that whatever I choose I will be happy with because I will do right by my values, but I'm tired of drifting and what I'm having trouble with is Choosing!! How do you decide?

I'm late twenties and I've been in an out of different jobs never feeling truely satisfied in my work, love parts but not all. I've been a visual merchandiser (loved the creativity, not the sales), a dresser for opera (loved being around artists), I've worked in hospitality (loved when I was the reason people had a good time), as a tutor in university (loved seeing students progress), a personal sltylist (loved seeing people feel good about themselves) and volunteered in animal shelters (i love animals). I've travelled a fair bit (love new visual sights and cultural experiemces), I enjoy getting my hands a little dirty (gardening, painting, pottery, building something and seeing progress) but nothing too hard, just enough, I love hikes and swimming (being in nature basically) and dancing and yoga (i love movement and self expression of the body), I love beautiful things that are made with love and care (appreciation for others crafts).

I enjoy too much and feel overwhelmed.

Therefore I want to make these things, I want to dance, ride, walk, run, jump, be in nature, I want to try writing as I have stories to share, I want to clean up the environment and get a community together that can clean up together and work towards positive change and I want to make people happy and help wildlife.

How do you do all of this or just decide on some of it?

How do you find a career that is satisfying enough that is will fulfill life (for the career side of things)? I know you can carve a niche career and you can combine things but which and how?

dios (not verified) says...

i had the same problem but chose wisely i thought of all the things i enjoyed doing most and combined them to what i considered myself most accademically suited for and decided i loved to draw and i loved being in the garden potting up my herbs and thought hey garden design might be fun (satisfy other peoples requirements, gets me outdoors, lets me explore my creative side. So far i havent been disappointed by my descition i went to college for 4 years learnt a little and then went on to a garden nurserie/center where i could create doing the plan displays and help customers choose the right thing for them i found it also good that i was challenged out of my comfort zone into the realms of dealing with customers that wanted to haggle etc. that and i knew if i got a desk job i'd probably get fat :D but its been 13 years now there the boss is great the staff are tollerable :D and i wouldnt have it any other way now. but i think its also true to say theres no wrong choice for you here what you go for will most probably challenge you in different ways and you will adapt to what suits your personal values 

Nathan who wants to save the world (not verified) says...

I relate to this a lot. I'm in my early twenties and haven't finished any studies yet. But I decided to focus on what I want in life and that is also a lot. But then I realized that I want to make this world a better place, especially for wildlife and nature. And that's how I found the study of applied biology, which is scientific, but also very practical and creative. This way I get to work with nature, wildlife, plants, I will see the world. It is meaningful and that's what I want. And maybe this way I will find inspiration to write. I'm a dreamer and this idea makes me dream more. So yeah. 

Alina Sorger (not verified) says...

this is exactly me.. thank you so much for sharing! i am also comepletely overwhelmed, but it's nice to know to be not alone

AnonymousTiff1976 (not verified) says...

I can certainly understand your excitement toward life yet your overwhelm and confusion regarding which direction to take a career.

I'm now 43 and have been told at times I have done many things and am knowledgeable compared to the age I am.

I've always had the mindset to suck the juice out of life. I had the opportunity to go to a formal university, but no. I would rather experience life.

We are adventurers! This explains why I've had so many experiences, jobs, travel, and lived in various places.

A part of me wanted to live stable. But the idea of driving the same way to work at the same job I've had for 25 years repulses me. I feel life drain from me at the thought of it.

So, I'm now married to a stable guy, with a stable career, that understands my abstract ways and makes room for it while I pursue yet another artsy euntepreneul opp.

My best advice, accept that part of you. Accept it all. You my friend are a rare blue diamond among diamonds. Don't try to fit into the mold of this world because it will erase you and crush you. With the majority being 'type A's' find your/our peeps. Then when you want to build something big find a ESTJ, I did and married him ;-)

anonymous268 (not verified) says...

Hey I don't have an answer for you but just wanted to let you know I'm going through the exact. same. thing. So you are not alone.

Squeak (not verified) says...

Ha!  You sound like me.  I have so much to do.  I'm now in my late 30's and am having to prioritize some of the things I do.  I run a riding stable, I build and set equestrian jumping courses for horse shows, I also teach at an alternative school, which means I teach 7 different science classes to students that progress at their own pace.  I think the key is to find a place that keeps stimulating your curiosity and challenging your love for learning new things.  For me, I'm having to think about backing out of the horse business and I'm starting to focus more on my teaching.  This is because I feel I need to spend more time with my family.  My family gets frustrated sometimes, because I will work from the moment I get up to the moment I fall asleep on all of my projects.  I have to make sure I carve out time for them because they really are the most important to me.  Fortunately, I'm married to and ENFP, so he's just as much as a disorganized dreamer as I am, just more social.  He understands my crazy drive to do all of the things is who I am.


My advice is that you are young, continue trying new things.  Look into fields that are interesting and will keep you growing.  Even though people wear me out, so I make sure I have my alone time, I love seeing how different approaches work for different people.  I love trying to figure out humans and horses.  I do well switching between helping a student with a physics problem, to explaining the endocrine system, then going home and helping a timid rider control a thousand pound animal.  Especially teaching at an alternative school, I have lots of kids that need help and need someone to fight for them.  I will warn you, after 15 years of this, I find my emotional strength failing.  I truly love what I do, but as I get older, I feel I need to go into more of a support role for new teachers.  I tell my students that I still haven't figured out what I want to be when I grow up, and that's ok.

May I reccomend a field where you help people who are struggling?  The most rewarding thing to me is supporting someone to get better.  To watch them learn, succeed, and ultimately find their own path.  I work well in small groups and meeting an individual's needs.  The only downside is, that when my students end up going down the wrong path, it really hurts.  The highs match the lows, I guess.  I handle this by working on a book that each chapter is dedicated to one of my students.  Will I ever publish it? Probably not, but it feels good to sit down and write.

Good luck, You sound like a wonderful, interesting person.  Never lose your curiosity and love for life.  You've got this.

Breeze Blown Wildflower (not verified) says...

Hello fellow INFP's!  (Skip to ** to get to the heart of it).

So I know this is silly/hard to ask strangers career advice, but I am at a pretty pivotal point in my Life and desperately searching for guidance and even deeper understanding of myself as well of my wants, needs and what is practical. 

So I just finished my AA but am still torn on what career route to go, but feel I need to decide soon, especially If I want to go to college for anything long term. 

Originally I was really interested in becoming an Art Therapist, the idea of combining my Love of Art with the opportunity to help and heal others seemed PERFECT. But the Idea of 4-6 years worth of tuition debt for life just feels SO daunting, and it is worth noting, I have ADD, so it takes me sometimes 3x longer than others to focus and get things done, though I have managed to get A's and B's an be on honor roll (and often high HR) in HS and college. 

Anyway, also, I am very empathetic as well, and also, unfortunately.. Possibly linked to mild daily drug use (pot) coupled with stress and nutrient deficiencies, I have had two "psychotic episodes" within the past 2 years where I completely lost touch with reality the 1st time- much more briefly the second time. My family were of course very worried and admitted me into a psychiatric hospital, where there were some Art Therapists staffed, and if that is a major employer of Art Therapists, I don't know if I could handle being in that environment for very long. I am typically pretty optimistic but I could see myself feeling depressed if I have patients with depression and other struggles I cannot fully help improve. Sadly I even went to a funeral for a nurse I knew who worked there who ended her life recently, which adds to my wariness. 

Though I would still like to consider that, recently I have been really considering a different career path which is my number one question. 

***Most recently I have begun to very seriously reconsider my thoughts of pursuing a career in writing. Now before you judge me, I would not typically be this scattered and emotional in most topics I write about and have actually had quite a few teachers and friends tell me how much they enjoy my writing and even go so far as to show other people. I feel I communicate most thoroughly and articulately when I write my thoughts out and would feel that a career in writing would allow me to continue learning, sharing knowledge with others and keep my brain fluid and sharp. 

Possible cons: Since I have always had trouble focusing, and more importantly..had trouble with meeting deadline.. I could never focus at home while people were awake, so I would spread out on the kitchen table and stay up all night and in highschool especially had chronic insomnia, sometimes sleeping as little as 20-40 minutes. Psychiatrists and family believed my lack of sleep leading up to my psy. episodes also triggered it. So, although I may be able to work on writing during the day now, I fear when life gets more hectic -with kids etc.- I could end up staying up late to meet deadlines and setting myself up for unhealthy habits for life. Especially since when I get too mentally invested in things I often forget to eat as well. 

* Also, I have actually finished half of a certification in floral design as well, and have an interest in it, and have been applying to floral shops again for the time being, but I have my doubts on being solely in a floral shop or solely a writer, so Have been thinking of at least going part-time for both, but then again, that just ups the likely hood of wearing myself thin and would kind of stink because though at least I would have at least one confirmed source of income (from florist) I would likely not be able to get insurance through either source If I am split 50/50 so it's difficult. 

I just can't see myself being completely devoid of physical color and creation in my life, but on the flip side, I had worked in a floral shop for only a short period of time before I had another psychotic episode-this time physically had to step away based on a delusion I got from the similarity of a person's personal message and my life and went home early when I was only working part-time (after full time for 2 weeks straight for the first time working in a while). It was scary, and again though numerous things could've contributed I thought it almost felt like I had too much time to just think. Freely and continuously about anything, since the job -especially at an intermediate level- does not require a lot of thought. 

Also.. I don't really desire to be a manager at a floral shop, ideally just a head floral designer- but with small shops especially that can be impossible, and sometimes you can really only start making decent money as a manager.. So I am very torn. 

Starting to feel like I am not a perfect fit for anything, but I have so many interests and some that really push and pull me. 

Like I cannot tell if a path I would like to pursue most is just so far fetched I have pushed it off for years.. Part of me when I get feeling charismatically swept away by fellow INFP female singers, I keep feeling like there's a chance I could go somewhere with that somehow. I have sung in a choir for years- mildly lame setting, but bottom line I got to sing in school for an hour instead of other bs- and have gotten several compliments from others and my teacher even said she truly thought my singing was my gift in this life (she believes each child has something) but from what I heard didn't say it to everyone.. but regardless, One of the biggest things I feel stops me is, though I'm fairly decent looking- not flawless of course, but I have been identified by my style and such- after a serious eye infection years ago, they said my eyes would always be too dry to wear contacts again, and they still won't even let me buy them, and I just feel like most people who make it anywhere just aren't wearing glasses on stage. 

Especially being a woman who likes to sing a bit more sultry, and have just always valued my eyes as an asset (I got glasses in 3rd grade and contacts in 4th) being dependant on glasses and having it interfere with the aesthetic I prefer has always bothered me a bit.. But, I honestly don't care to blow up as a huge singer/artist or anything, because I wouldn't really like that kind of attention/press, but I do value the artistic freedom and connections that can come with at least making it semi-big. For example more dreamy music video and travel opportunities. 

That's also why I think writing could be good for me because maybe it can help me become better at songwriting and possibly at least be able to fulfill the sweet Idea of me playing in a coffee shop somewhere as a hobby and way to make connections. Luckily I have found the love of my life, but I just don't know where to make friends as an adult.. 

Sorry for Rambling so Much! I'm just so lost and torn and have been for months, any advice would be so kind! Thank you for reading if you took the time to skim! 

TLDR: Hopeless dreamer debates between Art Therapy, being a Writer for online articles, A Floral Designer, somehow trying to become an alternative singer or a risky mix of multiple of them. 

AndreCosta (not verified) says...

I'm amazed at how your mind is wired, it's basically the same as me.. quite scary reading the text you wrote it's essentialy revealing how you process information and make up decisions in your mind. What I can tell is that recently on Facebook on a post (the bigest infp group there) someone wrote about a Value oriented life vs a goal/purpose oriented life, I was struck about this because I never really thought about things this way ( we are kind of already doing it but not giving it a proper perspective) I'm going to paste his comment here and think about for a couple of days, or whatever time you need!


I don't think Goal/Purpose Driven development works for INFPs.

I've been doing personal development for 30 years so I figured out my purpose awhile ago. Here's the thing -- I can't do Purpose-Driven Development. It doesn't fit . Purpose-Driven Development is highly geared towards the Extraverted Thinking cognitive process. Unless that's the dominant process of your personality type, those methodologies are incredibly difficult for Fi-dominant/Te-inferior personalities.

Instead, I switched to Value-Oriented Development which is more about the right direction then it is about the right destination.

Purpose-Driven Development is centered around clarifying purpose and goals and then figuring step-by-step plan to achieve them, both internal and external work.

Value-Oriented Development works by clarifying values and then re-aligning your day-to-day with those values.

Goals that felt right in my 20s weren’t what I wanted anymore when I was in my 30s with kids. Goals and purpose change. It's called dynamic inconsistency. However, my highest values: growth, freedom, belonging, creative self-expression are still the same.

Purpose-Driven focuses on What and then figuring out how to get What. Value-Oriented starts with How in order to clarify What.

Examples of Purpose-Driven goals:

What career should I have that I’m passionate about?
What relationship do I want to have?
What should I do to make myself happy?

Examples of Value-Oriented:

If growth is a top-value, how do I continue to learn and grow so I don’t become bored with work or with anything I do?

If connection is a top-value, how do I create connection with anyone, not just people I’ve known for years who have busy lives that I don’t see as often as I like?

If freedom is top-value, how do I create more choices for myself in an economic system that requires a job?

Value-oriented personal development is focused on taking those things that I do in my life and figuring out how to align them with my values so my life feels authentic. It’s about the day-to-day journey, not about achieving a future result in order to feel you're "fulfilling your potential."

INFP to the core (not verified) says...


First off, it takes courage to even put yourself out there to ask for help. So I appreciate that you took the initial bold step, to not continue wallowing in the pain of your struggles all by yourself. I also applaud you for making it a priority to articulate your situation however best you could, under the circumstances, to enable the readers get the crux of what you’re dealing with.  I more than believe in your innate ability to articulate your ideas, thoughts and feelings well. Given another day, another time etc. your labor of love would’ve shone through exactly the way you would’ve have liked it. [We intuitive INFPs are good at it. So, there is no need to explain yourself further there:)]. 


Before I dive into the specifics, I want to set the context for my response. I believe that regardless of our personality types, it is important to determine the type of lens we want to use to see ourselves, this world and the universe. We want to start off by acknowledging that it is  nothing less than a miracle to be granted existence (a step-up from non-existence) and that too the most superior form of existence, the human existence.  

Let’s take a moment to internalize the miracle that has been bestowed upon us and cultivate the humility to ponder with awe, revere and be grateful to the creative force that has made us, possible. Following that revelation, life owes us nothing. The ball is in our court to repay this debt and it is incumbent upon ourselves to make a promise to engage the full range our potential that is in line with our innate inclinations and abilities, to serve a special need in this world, this universe. Each of us comes pre-programmed with a unique blue-print that nudges us to make choices towards our calling, acquire the necessary knowledge and skills to serve that need. 

It is relevant to note here that uncovering that unique blue-print to discover our calling is not something that we bump into very readily. The self-discovery process often involves trial and error and therefore follows two broad themes, if we’re to achieve success or a relatively good measure of it - 

  1. It involves undoing the layers of conditioning that we’ve bought into either by fear, force or a persuasive case (made by our parents/family, school/university, society, media or a combination of them, etc.) - we have to fight the urges to get swayed by them if they are not inline with what our heart is telling us. We have to engage in self-reflection (practicising meditation every day is a useful tool to be in touch with ourself) to protect who we truly are and by listening to our intuition, the voice of our conscience,  and engage in activities that bring us pure joy (not to be confused with pleasure - pleasure as in from substance abuse, food, sex, material comforts, relationships that confirm our status quo as ‘good’ (but what that really translates to is 'Complacency') and don’t inspire us to make an effort in the direction of our dreams/our calling). 
  2. Making a committment to completely immerse ourselves into learning and mastering the subject/topic or vocation that feeds our  interest and not giving up on it too quickly. If our engagement is luke-warmish, the results will be luke-warmish too and will result in a state of confusion. 

As INFPs, we’re naturally empathetic with others but not so with ourselves. We have to get good at administering our own personality on us, to keep ourselves in good spirits and stay motivated. So to that end, we want to start off with giving ourselves permission to 'accept' the current reality of our unique situation and be open and hopeful about helping ourself. 

Our personality makes us chase a feeling of wholeness and deep satisfaction in whatever we do (we also expect to not be on the streets so are fearful of listening to what our heart tells us). It is important to set the record straight at the outset that wholeness, satisfaction and money cannot be pursued as an end goal and no external object, job, university or person can give that to us. They are experienced as a by-product of what we 'choose' to engage whole-heartedly in with an attitude of being of service to others/this planet/universe. Only when we make this committment and resolve to serve humanity with the work that we were born to do, and leap wholly into learning everything there is to learn about the particular topic, subject or vocation that interests us ; only when we plunge into it with the innocence and curiosity of a child and find joy in the discovery process; only then will we arrive at a place where we will have acquired sufficient content and mastery to view the topic/subject or vocation of our pursuit in the larger context of this world/universe. 

Our brains at this point, begin to manufacture ideas or ways of putting the knowledge and the skills we’ve mastered, to  help/heal the world in our own unique way. We naturally start experimenting with those ideas and along the way,  we may land a niche that enables us to provide full expression to our particular  body of knowledge, talents/skills and abilities. Along the way our inclinations may also persuade us to develop a complementary skill or nudge us to educate ourselves further to gain proficiency in a related/complimentary area that will aid in enhancing our ability to serve the world, better. 

Note that I’ve not gotten into the specifics of  what you should pursue or not pursue,  because nobody but YOU are the most qualified person to make and own the decision that feels right for ‘YOU’.  Hope this helps! 


INFP searching (not verified) says...

You have put my thoughts to words, beautifully. Thank you as I embark upon yet another journey into retirement!

INFPFineSite (not verified) says...

This is so helpful. Continue writing

INFPFineSite (not verified) says...

This is so helpful. Continue writing.

Just another INFP (not verified) says...

Hi, I know this feeling very well and thought I'd chime in.

Sorry to add another option to the mix, but have you considered Librarianship by any chance? I did a bachelor's degree in creative writing and loved every second of it. I wouldn't change that for the world. But after graduating, I found that the job options available were all kind of within the realm of marketing (copywriting, publisher's assistant, agency work, etc.). I wanted a career that combined my love of books with my love of helping people. I've recently finished my Masters of Librarianship, and work full-time as a librarian. I absolutely adore my job, making sure all people, no matter their background, have access to knowledge, and giving them the power to get educated and change their lives. An added bonus is that I get to connect people with the books and stories that I think will stay with them forever. This job aligns so well with my INFP-ness; I honestly can't think of anything better! I've also managed to keep up my creative writing on the side because my job doesn't require me to take work home!

I wish you all the very very best. I'm sure that, whatever you choose, things will work out. :)

Infinite Juul (not verified) says...

I don't post things, but I'll give this a try as maybe a form of thinking. I'm similar in almost all circumstances mentioned, with a tone that is more depressed than the one you wrote with.

 For me it falls into two options. There's first, pick a job you don't hate and possibly even finish college in that field (this is your floral manager option). That way you have a backing for something creative and meaningful. It's the safe route and it makes the most sense.

Or there's the headfirst dive towards the moon. Pick being a writer or singer and dedicate yourself to it. Find a way to spend as much time as possible writing or singing or whatever is decided (pick one though). It's the childish pursuing your dream, though there's something beautiful about that. 

Granted, it's best to have at least something that resembles a 9-5 job. Not just for the fiscal reasons, but for sanity. I fall into the worst damnable crevasses when I'm jobless (ie now). And with your obvious worry you carry about your couple breakdown of sorts, I recommend a job. Even if it feels it might trigger another dissonance session, it might still be the lesser of two garbage choices.

I got my AA quick, and went to school for Computer Science. I thought it might be creative enough in like a real job sort of way that I could make enough money to write or produce music or something. By my third semester I failed out which was crazy cuz school comes natural to me with little effort. I failed because I stopped going and basically didn't get out of bed for six months. (Oh and I hated computer science by the way).

Unlike you, there's no love, but I do have the best buddy. He picked me up and I started working again. Two years later that's all I've really done. Basically I'm in the same spot as you. Do I through myself headlong into making music with my buddy? He's truly talented. Do I go to school, I think I wouldn't mind being a high school English teacher.

What I caution you on is not so much even making a choice, because with so many options there's like a zero percent chance you'll get it right. But don't not make any choice. Maybe go to school and get a job. Practice writing or singing until you feel confident spending more time on it. Maybe don't go to school and try the starving artist out for a year or two. As long as you're getting out of bed then you're absolutely killing it. Maybe be a florist for five years and then say, "screw it." Go to school for whatever the hell it is you want to do in five years. 

I don't know why it is when giving advice things always seem more optimistic on the other end. I almost wrote, I'm sure things will work out. Jesus. God only knows, godspeed. 

Amo (not verified) says...

It doesn't matter what you decide to do. Make a choice. What matters, is the level to which you remain comitted to your choice. If you don't committ, you will endlessly waffle in life. We all come to countless crossroads in life- just make sure you take a road- you can't stand in one place going in circles for long or you might not ever move forward in any direction at all. As INFPs we are often overwhelmed with the different choices and opportunities life affords - just keep moving forward. 

James von Tungeln (not verified) says...

School teacher.  Maybe even Jr High

RandomINFP (not verified) says...

Hey there fellow INFP! 

I'm kind of stuck in the same boat here. Just finished graduating in a field I want to have nothing to do with, and now I don't know what to do. I love the arts, and helping people, but I just worry that it's too late for me to try, and whether I'd even be good enough! I'm also torn between multiple choices.

Try to take a break, like, not do anything for at least a few days, all alone. That lack of pressure clears the head and may even show you a new perspective!

Hope you find and follow that one something truly worth spending your life energies on!


BalatSibuyas (not verified) says...

When I realized that I could write stories, I was really surprised. I was even more shocked when the result of my MBTI showed that I'm an INFP. If I have known it earlier I could gone a long way as a writer. Anyway, it's never too late to start and I'm glad I've found this gift God has given me. INFP people are late bloomers, right? :-)

White flower (not verified) says...

Hi! Is there any INFP nurses? I'm thinking about pursing Nursing but I'm still not sure if it's for me. I find it interesting and I want to help people in any way possible. I've taken many career assessments and they all point me to a healthcare profession such as Speech Language Pathologist, Nurse Midwife, and Occupational therapist. But they also require a Master's degree but right now I want to focus on getting a Bachelor's degree. 

Thomport (not verified) says...

Yes. I'm am RN who recently retired from full time work.  I recently discovered INFP as a personality type.  It's me pretty much to a T. I excelled at nursing.  It was almost annoying to me all the attention and complements I received in my tenure. I just wanted to do my thing. Fortunately I worked in a specialty that was up and coming and discovering itself.  I was able to be very creative and had a lot input into the overall operation.  It was a medical facility inside a prison.  I actually loved the work.  I got a great retirement out of the job.  It was recognized a a law inforcement job (but my medical skills were necessary and employed in my day to day duties). I also initially worked in a hospital.  I loved it there too. Nursing took the shyness out of me, but I still need and enjoy my alone time. I say go for it.  The your innate qualities will prosper. 

Kaitlin W (not verified) says...

Yes that's funny that you ask. I am a registered nurse and I couldn't picture myself doing anything else. It feels like I was born to do this job. In fact it doesn't feel like a job to me. 

lori H (not verified) says...

I am a strong INFP and I have been a registered nurse for 20 years.  I believe it fits nursing very well.  The beauty of  nursing is there is a lot of choices for a career choice.  I am an aesthetic nurse working with lasers and I do tattoo makeup on the side for my artistic side.  We love to help people, and are natrual healers.    


White flower (not verified) says...

Lori, I really like that you are still pursing your artistic passion. That's great to hear! 

White flower (not verified) says...

Thank you so much for sharing! I really like that there are so many specialities and I hope I find one that I love. 

Andie.RN (not verified) says...

I am a nurse as an INFP. I find it very challenging. There are days where I want to work alone and that is not possible as a nurse. I dont enjoy the registered nurse position in a hospital. Therefore, I am going to be pursuing a masters degree in nursing education so that I can teach nursing, resulting in less labor and emotional stress. I feel that everyone is different though. You have to try it before you can ultimately know for sure. But if you get a degree in nursing and find that you dont like the bedside there are many opportunities that lead you to better jobs within nursing. Going higher is always going to be better. 

White flower (not verified) says...

Thanks for posting, Andie! I'm just having a hard time figuring out if nursing is for me. I think the only way I will know for sure is if I go through with nursing school and become a nurse. The jobs that I am attracted to require at least a Master's degree to become a Physician Assistant, Nurse Practitioner, or Nurse Midwife. That's very cool that you are going to get your Master's! Hope everything goes great. 

sabmicah (not verified) says...

I just look the test and I am this, and that describes me so much. I am the friend that helps everybody and ends up getting no help back and being stuck with my feelings and saddness. I will hold up my feelings for months untill lI tell anybody, and usually ends with sobbing, even though I hate to cry. I am also a artist, and does digital art. It is so cool to find other people that can think the same way as me.

Syafiqah (not verified) says...

i am an INFP and an engineer. I have had few personalities test during my uni which inclines towards INFP or phlegmatic personality. Sometimes, when things drained me or bored me, im questioning about my career path. To stay and being engage to something that underutilized my values. Or to start over and doing what I wanted to do, which incling towards arts and creative making.

Charter 000 says...

How do you cope up whenever you question your career path? I'm a Mechanical Engineering student and I'm kind of struggling in my course. Almost all of my major subjects have this in common -- failed or almost failing grades.

Sumpfmarie (not verified) says...

Engineers don't only design cars and bridges. I'm a mediator, idealistic horsewoman and engineer. So I design horse barns with the mission to imrpove life for domestic horses. Love it! And I can do more for the horses than if I had chosen an actual equine profession. Think outside the box and combine your talents with your mission. 

Kat&Scaz (not verified) says...

Hey Syafiah,

from one infp to another, follow your heart! You might be worse of for it monetarily and emotionally but you should do it anyway. Good luck!

Melanie J McDonough (not verified) says...

I was a civil engineer for a couple of years before I realized it wasn't for me. Got certified in a type of therapy and am crazy happy now and super fulfilled. Do what you are meant to! The world needs you. 

Liz L. (not verified) says...

Hi Melanie,

I’m also an INFP they have  considered going into counseling or therapy,  but not sure I want to go back to school for a MSW.  What type of therapy did you get certified in?

Jessica Secreto (not verified) says...

Hi Liz

I'm an infp as well and am just starting my second year of a psychotherapy MA and truly am loving it. Wish I'd taken this test a decade ago when I first entered school. Irvin Yalom really got me interested in therapy. Good luck! It's never too late to do something you're interested in. A lot of the fun for me is in the process. 

tabish rahman (not verified) says...

hi fella you are on the same page i will tell you that dont give up anything that you desire you should left those possiblity open and for whenever it will be possible for now do the best in what you should do until you find what you want

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