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The INFJ Personality Type

INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others realize their potential. Creative and dedicated, they have a talent for helping others with original solutions to their personal challenges.

The Counselor has a unique ability to intuit others' emotions and motivations, and will often know how someone else is feeling before that person knows it himself. They trust their insights about others and have strong faith in their ability to read people. Although they are sensitive, they are also reserved; the INFJ is a private sort, and is selective about sharing intimate thoughts and feelings.

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What does INFJ stand for?

INFJ is an acronym used to describe one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. It stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging. INFJ indicates a person who is energized by time alone (Introverted), who focuses on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), who makes decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and who prefers to be planned and organized rather than spontaneous and flexible (Judging). INFJs are sometimes referred to as Counselor personalities.

How common is the INFJ personality type?

INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up:

  • 2% of the general population
  • 2% of women
  • 1% of men

Famous INFJs

Famous INFJs include Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Emily Bronte, Carl Jung, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Florence Nightingale, Shirley MacLaine, Jimmy Carter, and Edward Snowden.

INFJ Values and Motivations

INFJs are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a better place.

INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, committed few. Although their rich inner life can sometimes make them seem mysterious or private to others, they profoundly value authentic connections with people they trust.

How Others See the INFJ

INFJs often appear quiet, caring and sensitive, and may be found listening attentively to someone else’s ideas or concerns. They are highly perceptive about people and want to help others achieve understanding. INFJs are not afraid of complex personal problems; in fact, they are quite complex themselves, and have a rich inner life that few are privy to. They reflect at length on issues of ethics, and feel things deeply. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.

Because INFJs are such complex people, they may be reluctant to engage with others who might not understand or appreciate them, and can thus be hard to get to know. Although they want to get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw.

INFJ Hobbies and Interests

Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading, socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.

Facts about INFJs

Interesting facts about the INFJ:

  • Least common type in the population
  • On personality trait scales, scored as Sincere, Sympathetic, Unassuming, Submissive, Easygoing, Reserved and Patient
  • Among highest of all types in college GPA
  • Among most likely to stay in college
  • Most likely of all types to cope with stress by seeing a therapist
  • Highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
  • Personal values include Spirituality, Learning, and Community Service
  • Commonly found in careers in religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

Quotes About INFJs

"The visions of the INFJs tend to concern human welfare, and their contributions are likely to be made independent of a mass movement."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"INFJs' nonstop search for learning, self-growth, and development—and wishing the same for everyone else—makes them very reassuring to others and people worth emulating."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

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Seterah (not verified) says...

How lovely to discover this site.  I feel like I am not the only one for the first time ever.  We are unfathmomable to many because we hold integrity very highly and try to keep our integrity even if it means we lose out in situations, however I have been burnt so many times in many situations with less scrupulous people.  I even know on one level that this is how it will pan out, by that I mean I know that they are just  'looking out for number one' but I feel that I don't want to be constrained by the values of the world.  I am just not going to allow this fear based and cynical mainstream behaviour to force me into their mould....but I get it perfectly well, people think you are stupid when you are kind and frankly, brave and intelligent.

 

Carla26 (not verified) says...

I find it rather peculiar to have different test results at different ages. 

The way we are inside hardly changes so much that we switch types, honestly. I took this test a lot of times over the years and i got other than INFJ when i tried to choose another option in the questions because i was trying to be more flexible in real life. Of course, that didn't fit, because i always plan and think deeply every move i make, that's just who i am to the core. Cannot override this.

So..yeah. Just my 2 cents.

Drew A (not verified) says...

I've taken many tests and INFJ looks conclusive, but on certain tests I come out ISTP. I also often feel that ISTP fits me in a secondary way, more than any other type. Then I discovered what seems to be an explanation. The ISTP is the only other introverted MBTI type with the same cognitive functions. They just manifest in different order. INFJ = Ni-Fe-Ti-Se. ISTP = Ti-Se-Ni-Fe. It's almost like I could flip a switch and be ISTP.

reikirach (not verified) says...

Hi all, I am an INFJ well that's what the Myers Briggs test tells me I am....I have also been labeled as an Empath and my psychologist thinks I may have BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) ouch!!! I have been through some traumatic times in my life yes and felt misunderstood my entire life (still do) and I have constantly searched to find out why I feel so different to everyone else. I would call myself a universally spiritual person and have found a lot of solace in some of the spiritual principals, however the so called 'spiritual' community still has a lot of ego attached to it, and there are alot of fake people out there trying to be something they're not, preaching and teaching alot of stuff that really isn't any different to preaching religion or politics. I believe we all find what we need, we intuitively gravitate towards what feels right for us whether that be religion, spirituality or certain practices that help us get through what we need to get through and I do not judge any of them if it feels right for you... providing you are discerning enough to be able to look at things with an honest evaluation and not just escaping to a comfort zone of not having to be responsible for yourself and your actions. 

I can see how the psych profession could think I have BPD because I can relate to the majority of the criteria but one thing I don't subscribe to is the being out of touch with reality, I have a heightened sense of intuition which always proves to be true in the end and is often denied by the person in question at the time. This causes me alot of anxiety and has me questioning myself all the time. Society always tries to label us, and we ourselves search for a label of some sorts in order to understand ourselves. I also do this, and it's not wrong or right, it's a good thing to look deep to find and accept who we are. But recently having lost my best friend, I have done some very deep soul searching and it's becoming very clear, that regardless of the labels we are given or attach to ourselves, we are perfectly ok just the way we are. 

I have trouble regulating my emotions (hence the BPD diagnosis) and I'm very hyper sensitive when I'm in a relationship which does make it difficult for me and the person I'm with. However, in hindsight, alot of what I get sensitive about is because I KNOW what's going on, I can feel it, see it, sense it and often the other person is in denial of what I'm bringing to the surface. I then get told I'm wrong, and I don't know what I'm talking about, only to find out in hindsight that I was right!!! but the damage is already done, I've been forced to deal with emotions and question my self about everything. I too feel like I want to be far away from everyone most of the time, because the energies around me can get overwhelming & yet I'm very good with people when I'm ready to be. I'm actually a completely different person as an adult to what I was when I was a child, I was very outgoing and chatty and always looked for friends to play with, but life has taught me that I can't trust anyone and get constantly disappointed so I have become very isolated and protective of myself, does that mean I wasn't born as an INFJ? Did society turn me into one?  Do I think I can change? I don't know, do I want to? No!  I don't want to change who I am, but I do want to learn how to regulate my emotions a little because I don't want to accept that this is the suffering I have to endure the rest of my life because the other people around me are certainly not going to accommodate for my over sensitivity. 

I came here to write this, because I relate to all of your stories and I wanted to share mine with people that understood and I guess in a way I want to find a tribe of people who can relate without judgement. I actually want to make a difference and help people who are like me, like us!! these sites absolutely help so I want to go beyond that and learn strategies and provide a safe place for people to grow and learn but still remain true to themselves. Not having to change who they are, but if they want to have an option to learn how to learn coping skills etc for those overwhelming moments we feel. 

I'm going to start a facebook group for this, and I was just wanting some feedback to see if this is something that people like yourselves would find helpful? 

 

Misty Dawn (not verified) says...

TBH, based on your writing patterns, thought processes and communication style, not to mention the amount of information you have shared, you come across WAAAY more as an INFP than an INFJ. I don't know you personally obviously, so there's no way I could know that for sure, but your mannerisms are incongruent with what one would typically think of as an INFJ, and your chatty energetic nature as a child lends one to think you are more on the Perceiving side of things than the Judging side, as does your deep attachment to the emotions involved with events from your past and the way you express your frustrations about them. I hope you don't take my observation as criticism, you seem like you are likely a really cool person to know.

I only speak up because I have found that, for me personally, not holding clinging too tightly to one MBTI type result just because I like the sound of it, at least at first, has made it easier to understand myself and many of my quirks and shortcomings. For example, it doesn't really help me much in application to recognize that my personality type is likely a large part of why I have an unbelieveably difficult time with punctuality and keeping my house tidy (ironically, I absolutely HATE clutter but can never seem to escape it); it does however help with the guilt for me to know that my flaws are a part of who I am as a person, and that I don't have to be ashamed of them; we must continue to work on curbing negative habits and strive to maintain a growth oriented mindset so that we may overcome the challenges each of our unique personalities presents in our lives.

RevKev (not verified) says...

Just stumled on this blog and it is odd to see bits of myself in so many of your posts. Always lived mostly inside my head. Started out heading toward visual arts, went into business, kind of faked that for 14-15, but didn't have that animal instinct for profit. Now working in the clergy for 12 years. Find myself oddly energized by helping others see and realize their potential in God and as individuals.  Sometimes can't get away from the crowds quickly enough though...can get cynical with some who whine and drone. My empathy has limits. I have genuine compassion for the downtrodden, the addicted, the mentally/emotionally wounded, but not the patience to remian in the space of care with them endlessly. Have decided my best use of time is investing in those with the real spark of potential who listen, learn, grow and change, even if slowly. Married to a more "sensing," extroverted woman for almost 30 years now. After many challenges, it's taken almost this long for both of us to realize that I'm not intentionally trying to frustrate her, but just operate extremely differently. I can be a horrible procrastinator, especially with the creative things that energize me like drawing, writing, creating things. Otherwise, get my job done, but always in the 11th hour. Diagnosed with ADD in my 50's and seeing some improvement in focus in my work with meds...not a panacea though. Lastly, can slip into depression for no apparent reason, plus anxietiety, so learning to verbalize that and have my go-to people (my team) that helps keep me upright and forward-moving. Extremely enegerized by quiet, reflective times with soothing music and serene atmmosphere. Don't make it happen enough! Tyranny of the urgent, you know!  Lastly, really struggle reading...like to write though. Draft a 2,500 word manuscript every Sunday.         

reikirach (not verified) says...

Hi RevKev,

Thanks for your reply to my post, I only just saw it for some reason most of the responses were going to my junk email folder.... 

I can relate to pretty much all of what you say as well, it's eerily accurate this INFJ stuff isn't it hehe

I can procrastinate too, in fact I'm doing it right now lol...I always get stuck in the details of what I want to do because I want to make sure I'm the best I can be before I actually start and then never get started...(frustrating)!!! 

The challenges in my relationship are very difficult with me being so emotionally charged and him being almost unemotional altogether lol, but we are working on it and I hope we can get through them as well. I totally get the operating extremely differently, I think I call it being on completely different planets in different universes hahaha.... It has been recommended that I take an anti depressant for anxiety and to help balance my emotions and although I'm not really keen on it, I'm thinking it may help me get a little more focused too...I seem to have trouble with staying focused as well. 

Anyway thank you for commenting :) 

Rachael

Misty Dawn (not verified) says...

I just wanted to say that your post resonated with me more than most others have. I can completely relate to not being able to verbalize my own needs. It's easy to think to yourself "I NEED SOMEONE TO HELP ME STOP FREAKING OUT INSIDE!!!", but how on Earth do you say that to people and have them actually understand what you are even talking about!? 

"Tyrrany of the urgent..", man that is too true. I always feel rushed...I HATE feeling rushed. I too struggle with reading, as I tend to get stuck on a line or thought from the text and fall into my head as I analyze it and make mental associations about it, instead of focusing on what I'm actually reading. Lots of re-reading of paragraphs...very frustrating; I too enjoy writing very much though.

Daisy1 (not verified) says...

I was a valedictorian of my graduating class at my university. So it is true that INFJs are pretty good in school.

Podcast: The Truth with Bill (not verified) says...

Friends (INFJ's), we are biological vehicles that contain a soul. That soul is eternal, it is a fraction of the Divine. We live life after life until our soul has progressed to the INFJ field, this will be our last or close to our last bioligical life here in this physical realm. It is important that you know who and what you are so you can add to the Collective Consiousness, pushing each bioligical life forward. when our work is done there will be others in line as there were others before us. It is the purpose of this Realm and "life". Close your eyes and say to yourself, "Within this body I am free," three times, you will feel it and know.

LeAnn (not verified) says...

Through several sources over the years I've been told my soul has been here on the planet a great deal.  At one point the numerologist asked me why I keep coming back as she definitely doesn't want to after this current life. 

For me it's the animals and nature plus the discovery of a soul contract with a cat.  My animal communicator has told me a lot about that and she sees us still together in the year 2300 so it doesn't look like I'm done but given the situation on this planet it might just be another planet, different life form by then.

Given that time really only exists here, that in reality could happen a lot faster, all things considered. I want to be an advisor on the other side as they have helped me so much during this life, I am so grateful for their guidance!

Thank you for your comments and the mantra, very  helpful.

 

 

Liblairian (not verified) says...

I just recently took the test (last time I took it was in middle school, and I can’t remember what I was.) I was curious to take it as an adult when I have a more firm grasp of who I am and what I believe. I think it seems fairly accurate. 

Fatima (not verified) says...

I believe we are fluid in our development and enlightenment journey. When I was young I took the test and it came as INFJ.. I guess to some extent I wasn’t aware fully of who I was or how to fit in or make sense of the world around me.. I didn’t give it much of importance 

through many life experiences that had its fair share of pain, joy and lessons I fluctuated between INTJ/INTP from 16personalities.com that result made sense to a certain level 

recently I decided to go deeper in the theory with CAR model using personality hacker book; that was a GEM! 

I am an INFJ.. the NT at certain life part made sense as I was blocking some painful areas.. my F T result almost equal 8-7 respectively. And the book goes in depth explaining how you go around those exercises and types 

the CAR model enables u to know ur functions, and thought process along with the traits that you show if your N function is developed or underdeveloped

recently with lots of reflection and means to strengthen thought processes, I feel more at ease navigating my emotions ... when I look back at the T result I used to fee confused as I also got some F aspects in decision making and other life experiences

 

great summary of INFJ type; please check personality hacker it helps you go beyond the types and develop your inner thought processes and sometimes that level of work is subconscious we just do it without thinking much about it 

 

 

Jack (not verified) says...

It figures infj makes the lowest average salary of all types. A lot to give but in real life misunderstood, not valued, struggling. This comes back to the type of society most infj live in. Western warrior society that values toughness.  Infj is honest and kind qualities that rock other people's boats and cause derision.

Empress says...

I am a very shy person sometimes i don't like when im around a lot of people in a small space because i feel trapped and I feel like im being closed in. Althrough I like being around a lot of people sometimes it can get to be too much to handle. I think i work best with other people that are like quiet and calm because ive always been happy to meet new people I just was not really that outgoing person. Like if i like someone I not just going go up to them and tell them that i like them because im a shy person when i first meet someone i'm shy because I don't know what that person likes to do what their favorite fruit , color , food, or sport is so like we may be different as soon as we meet and  I may not know it. I don't really talk to alot of people in school cause most of the time i like to be alone and do my own thing. I've always been like this ever since i was a child and still i like that. My sister doesn't like being around a lot of people too i get it from my mom alot. We have a lot of things in common she's a quiet person im a quiet person. When i go out in public and if i see someone i know i don't want to be noticed by that person because I don't like being seen by people that I know from school because it makes me nervous. It's not like im scared to be seen in the outside world i just don't like being in the center of attention all the time.If im doing homework for school I will most likley want to do it in a quiet place because i can focus on it more better. I love doing  thigns in a quiet environment because it makes me feel safe and relaxed. I can't work in a loud place because it makes me feel nervous and scared.But Im a very cool , calm person to work with if you work good with me and communicate and we share ideas with each other then we can work together.

 

Misty Dawn (not verified) says...

Many people want so badly to feel special (even though they already are and just can't see it) that they will tailor their answers to what they think an INFJ would say instead of what they as an individual really prefer. Another thing to consider when it comes to inconsistent results is how the questions are answered. I'd be willing to bet that the majority of people answer MBTI survey questions based on what they would DO as opposed to what they would PREFER. Personality tests should ALWAYS be answered with what your first instinct would be in the given scenario...NOT what you would actually DO, whether you like the answer or not.

Behavior is moreso based on conditioning and our experiences and is far less a reflection of our core personalities, especially as we get older and work to integrate our own unique selves into a diverse society of other individuals.

People are more likely to have gotten an accurate result if the test was taken as a child rather than waiting to take it until adulthood. As children we are inherently self-aware, whereas as we age we become more emotionally and behaviorally complicated, making it much more difficult to really know our core preferences for what they truly are since we spend so much of our lives learning how to balance our quirks with appropriate social behavior.

Mat (not verified) says...

I've taken a few different versions of the test and until recently had always thought I was INFP. It never really resonated well with me, I felt like I couldn't really relate properly to the kinds of barriers, strengths etc typically associated to INFPs. I'm enjoy the arts but am not overly creative. I get highly invested in a project that im interested in and developing sytems and procedures for work and typically my happier times I've tried to incorporate my work persona at home.

 

Depression has really changed my perception of the world but I feel like at my core I'm more of an INFJ that has fallen into unhealthy patterns and 'conditioned' in some ways. I have this deep intuition with people and find that I can figure people out quite quickly where people can have a harder time doing the same with me. If I feel like I can't express my feelings on particular topics I tend to stress out and "act out" engaging in sensory type experiences, whether it's drinking heavily/taking substances or something more positive such as focusing heavily on exercise. I'm prone to burning myself out and investing too much time into my work which doesn't really satisfy my need to "be more". 

Reading over articles on personality is proving to be a pretty good personal growth tool for me as I struggle with feelings of unsatisfaction/outgrowing some friendships. It can be lonely sometimes but I'm getting better and beginning to thrive more on my own. I'm also beginning to understand why I've typically been able to get the most out of people at work and why I've been relied on so much

Susy (not verified) says...

I'd like to share my experiences, since I felt so different at different ages. When very young I was shy but very energetic, barely able to contain my imagination until I could write down the stories I made up. I was an easy target for a manipulative step-parent, in that my distress at his put-downs and gaslighting was hilarious to him. I fought for my values the whole way and never forgot how it felt to be a powerless kid, which made me much more empathetic and protective of kids (and animals). As a young adult I embraced escapism and suffered with depression. Being socially isolated and in a controlling religion didn't help. But I lived alone and took care of myself, until at age 25 I met my now-husband, an ISFP. His music, reserved nature and easygoing personality matched mine so well. For all our differences, we both have strong ethical and creative values. He's taught me a lot about not getting so wrapped up in my head and philosophies that I forget life, about handling my stress, about accepting myself as I am, something that religion didn't encourage. Now after 15 years of marriage, I feel we've both grown up a lot. We've forgiven each other and compromised so many times over the years, now it's automatic to meet in the middle and help each other, no matter the "fairness" or what others think. Our kids are happy and sharp-witted, do good in school, an INFP and a ESFP (such a handful, that one). I am curious what the future holds for us, but one thing I know is I'm not hiding who I really am with anyone any more.

Gábor Szurdoki (not verified) says...

I did this test a lot of times but never made sense. Now, reading INFJ tells basically everything about me. Such a great step in self-understanding. Thank you.

Temitope Ogunnaike (not verified) says...

I think it is somehow true of my trait. It is accurate to a large extent

Temitope Ogunnaike (not verified) says...

To a large extent, it is accurate for my person

Jake Lima (not verified) says...

I have taken the test multiple times and recieved the type ENFJ. My introvert to extrovert has been around 49-51% but I have feel like connect more with the INFJ. I wish i had clearity on this

Strawberrypop (not verified) says...

To all the INFJs out there who feel it's impossible, yes. You can have a good relationship that lasts. That's not a blanket statement that you WILL, but it is possible.

I'm an INFJ, married to an ISFJ. He's like kozy shack rice pudding. As vanilla as it gets, but genuine and deeply comforting. I'm some kind of weird dessert you'd get at a fancy restaurant where you have to crack open a chocolate egg and then something fizzes. But I taste good, I guess?

I think that as INFJs we sometimes get hung up on finding someone who is just like us, but that isn't necessarily what works best for us. My husband's stability and groundedness as an ISFJ are things that I thought I would have troubles with, but it's just the opposite. He's my kite string. He gives me just enough connection to reality that I can really soar. And he knows when to reel me in for a cozy night at home away from the storm before I get overwhelmed. At the same time, he is drawn to my imagination and my sensitivity. I open up new ways of thinking for him, and fill his life with things that he didn't even know he needed, like Tolstoy novels and Korean hot sauce. 

Obviously, this is just what works for me. But you might consider looking less for a kindred spirit, and more for someone willing to be rock and your safe place, while admiring you as an amazing, strange, wonderful person that brings light and color to their world.

Lenae (not verified) says...

We are a serious bunch!  I relate to all of you and I feel your pain as it is also like my own.  I am an INFJ, though like many I think I was more of an INFP in my earlier years.  Like Dvan and Shannon W. I am also a Cancer zodiac sign.  I truly wish we could all find a way to have more INFJ's in our lives.  I don't think I have ever met one in person though to be accurate, I didn't really know what to look for until recently.  I am 56 years young and though I seem to have come to a comfortable place in my life, where I have come to terms with my strengths and weaknesses, I still struggle with accepting the inhumanity in our world and wish I could help change it.  I feel powerless to make a difference.  The past three or four years have been especially hard for me as an American citizen INFJ, because I care deeply about maintaining our Democracy, and upholding the Constitution, and going beyond the Constitution to make our government more just and inclusive to everyone.  My empathetic nature, and my desire for truth and justice for all, makes living in a world of blatant self-promotion and constant lies and misinformation and corrupt politics, unbearable and very depressing.  Watching people blindly follow a bad path is very hard to accept.  I think that no matter which side a person falls on in regard to his/her political and moral beliefs, seeing the divisiveness play out in our country has to be frustrating for everyone.  We (INFJs) don't feel well in confrontational situations, and I have gained at least 20 pounds as I have reached out to food for comfort during this time of national crisis.  I wish I could say that I had been able to use this stress to activate my talents and as an activist to find a way to help overcome this situation.  I hope that I am not offending anyone as I have tried to express this frustration.  I am not trying to vilify those who sit on a different side of the conflict.  I just wish we could come together, understand the underlying beliefs that make us so firm in our convictions, and realize that we all want some of the same things, and find a compromise to bring us together.  All you very intelligent and talented and authentic INFJ's out there, if you can, find a way to inspire the world, if only your small part of it.  Let people see the beauty of your heart and the wisdom of your insight.  I have Celiac disease and other food intolerances, and though I work very diligently to avoid gluten and milk, I sometimes get exposed and feel very confused and sick.  This makes being productive and effective especially difficult at times.  So try as I might, I am less able to rise to the occasion and affect change.  Most of the time, I am working hard just to stay healthy enough to be a good wife and mother and caretaker.  So if you are lucky enough to be of sound mind and body, please be one of the ones who leaves the comfort of our nests, and risks conftontation, and makes a difference.  And thanks for posting here.  It was really good to see that there are others who face the same challenges.  One other thing, I am happily married for 32 years now.  I was fortunate enough to find a guy who loves me the way I am and I know that was a miracle.  He is always upbeat and fun and he grounds me when my frustration and emotions take me in a bad direction, he pulls me back to a more calm and healthy reality.  I hope you all find that kind of person who can give you the support and love you need.  I hadn't considered that being an INFJ guy could make finding a partner so difficult until I read some of the posts.  Be patient, there is someone out there who will love you just the way you are.  But, please don't think they have to be just like you.  For me it has been great having a partner who is very different and who views the world from a very different perspective.  We learn a lot from each other.  Pick someone positive who can make you laugh.  That is really good for the soul.  My husband does "Get Me" when it seems that noone else does.  What a gift that is for someone who wants to be accepted and understood more than anything else.  It's worth any sacrifice you have to make.  My sacrifice was following his career (moving often) and not being able to pursue my own career path.  I may not be a career success, but I have a really good relationship, and a peaceful home, and a great son.  It has been worth it.  The right person is key.  If our values, morals, and ideals were not in line, our marriage wouldn't work so well.  The right person is out there.  Hope you find that person for you.  If not, you are better off on your own with good friends.  Good luck.  And never give up hoping for and opening up to new possibilities.  Be well my INFJ sisters and brothers.

LeAnn (not verified) says...

Decades ago when applying for a new job in my 20's I was told my type was an ENTJ and I also had the benefit of mirroring, which would be an excellent trait during my career.  At the time it didn't make much sense to me and the description didn't really fit what I knew about myself.  Nevertheless, my career marched on and actually worked out pretty well, finally I retired from management consulting.  That was a beautiful day, it was time.

Adjusting to not having to be somewhere to fix other people's issues was like Heaven to me, taking time to think about what I wanted and also to deal with sibling issues that had been long standing.  Never felt I belonged and had a history of being 'too quiet, too sensitive'. 

Through some positive therapy it became evident that at last I could be the personality I'd always been.  Took the test and was shocked to find myself an INFJ, it fit perfectly and the realization was amazing.

Through other classes locally, a numerology reading etc. it's been well established this is my true personality type.  Looking back at my childhood was the most revealing, very creative and wanting to save the world.  Still feel that way!

Also realized that my career forced me to be more outgoing but I always did the best when working on my own, fixing problems and implementing solutions.  When I left San Diego my agency supervisor later wanted to know when I would be moving back.  He then told me he wished he had 'a hundred more like' me, the ultimate compliment, for sure!

Finally, after all I've been though it is a wonderful life of peace, happiness and looking forward to creative expression.  Certainly I have a lot of experience to draw from and in some way help others.  We'll see which direction that goes, so many choices!

Peter M (not verified) says...

I have known for a long time that I am INFJ and really proud of it and only a small percentage of us is even better.

Anthony86 (not verified) says...

I'm an INFJ. Years ago, I was somewhat borderline INFJ/P, but now it seems pretty clear. Lately, I've been discouraged, and so I re-took this test thinking I may have changed my values, or that maybe I was mistaken about what's truly important to me this whole time, and even though I thought I tried to not score as an INFJ, alas that's what the test just labeled me yet again.

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