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What is an INFJ?

INFJ is an acronym used to describe one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. It stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging. INFJ indicates a person who is energized by time alone (Introverted), who focuses on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), who makes decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and who prefers to be planned and organized rather than spontaneous and flexible (Judging). INFJs are sometimes referred to as Counselor personalities.

How common is the INFJ personality type?

INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up:

  • 2% of the general population
  • 2% of women
  • 1% of men

The INFJ Personality Type

INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others realize their potential. Creative and dedicated, they have a talent for helping others with original solutions to their personal challenges.

The Counselor has a unique ability to intuit others' emotions and motivations, and will often know how someone else is feeling before that person knows it himself. They trust their insights about others and have strong faith in their ability to read people. Although they are sensitive, they are also reserved; the INFJ is a private sort, and is selective about sharing intimate thoughts and feelings.

How the INFJ Thinks

The inner lives of INFJs are dominated by a grand, panoramic perspective of past, present and future, where all is unified and everything is interconnected. Even from the briefest observations and the smallest bits of data, INFJs can make inferences and see implications that others fail to perceive, and in their dealings with other human beings they reveal an advanced ability to detect meaningful patterns in ordinary actions and behavior.

Of all the intuitive (N) personality types, none possess the razor-sharp instincts of INFJs, who are masters of nuance and so skilled at interpreting the information they absorb through the five senses that their friends and family often accuse them of being psychic. INFJs have a naturally holistic view of the world and of its diverse social, material and environmental aspects, and through the power of their imaginations they are always working to synthesize disparate phenomena into a more cohesive and inclusive meta-framework.

INFJs are the most empathic of all if Myers and Briggs' personality types. They cannot escape from the powerful emotional impressions they soak in from social encounters or even from the atmosphere in the rooms they occupy. Consequently, the intellectual gymnastics of INFJs are always intimately intertwined with deeply humanistic concerns. Rather than retreating into clouds of abstraction, INFJs always try to project their intellectual breakthroughs outward, anxiously trying to understand how their intuitive leaps of logic and carefully thought out conclusions might shed greater light on the complexities of the human condition.

For INFJs, what we think, perceive and conclude must always be measured against a standard that puts the needs of people first. In a very real sense, the soaring flights of imagination that define the interior realities of INFJs are fully grounded in moral and ethical concerns that are too vital to be sacrificed on the altar of contingency.

INFJs search for meaning and purpose in their own lives just as they seek it in culture, society and in the universe as a whole. For INFJs the stakes are always high and they are convinced that every thought or action could potentially have important consequences, either positive or negative. Less reflective types may conclude that INFJs are prone to letting their imaginations run away with them when they indulge in such musings, but for INFJs these sorts of judgments only demonstrate how easy it is for people to embrace an unreflective view of the world that renders them insensitive and intellectually lazy. INFJs know instinctively that society is nothing more than the sum total of the decisions we all make, and that is why they believe our choices, actions and interpretations of circumstances and events should always aim to enhance rather than hinder our personal and collective evolution.

As open and creative as INFJs can be, once they have made up their minds about something an interesting juxtaposition often takes place. Suddenly and seemingly without warning these mild-mannered spinners of imaginative webs will plant their feet firmly in the ground, set their jaws and refuse to budge an inch, absolutely convinced that they have uncovered the definitive answer and that all further discussion is superfluous. Because of their introverted natures, INFJs turn inward when they are attempting to solve puzzling problems or resolve troubling issues, so when they do make up their minds, the fierce, stubborn resistance to argument they display can catch even those closest to them off guard.

Ultimately, INFJs want to bring their intellectual meanderings back down into the concrete world, where, if applied, their ideas could conceivably make a transformative impact on others while hopefully promoting the greater good. At some point the speculation and the “what-if” scenarios have to stop and actual movement must occur, and despite their intensely reflective natures, INFJs will eventually lose patience with those who desire to keep the debate going indefinitely.

INFJ Values and Motivations

INFJs are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a better place.

INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, committed few. Although their rich inner life can sometimes make them seem mysterious or private to others, they profoundly value authentic connections with people they trust.

What the INFJ Values

INFJs believe we have an obligation to take responsibility for the way our actions help shape the world around us, and accordingly they always endeavor to make positive changes in how they think and behave. People reporting near-death experiences frequently claim to have undergone comprehensive life reviews that reveal how their conduct has impacted others, but INFJs subject themselves to these reviews voluntarily and on a regular basis, and they constantly make alterations based on what they see when they gaze at their own inner reflections. We don’t know for sure what personality group the Wicked Witch from Snow White belonged to, but we are certain that she was not an INFJ because if she had been, her relationship with her mirror would have been entirely different.

As quintessential idealists and visionaries, INFJs have tons of ideas about how to improve society and make the world a better place. To more grounded, down-to-earth types this endless utopian-style theorizing may seem like a glorified kissing cousin of idle speculation, but from the standpoint of INFJs there is a method to the madness. They believe complex thought experiments can provide clarity and help focus energies in more constructive directions.

Far from representing an escape from reality, INFJs see their complicated mental explorations as a doorway to more intelligent and effective action. Even if the social change or charitable work that a fledgling activist chooses to undertake as a result of such in-depth deliberation doesn’t seem practical or capable of producing immediate results, INFJs believe a more just society can only be attained if we concentrate on doing what is right, regardless of the transient consequences.

Because they are so thoughtful and see hidden implications that others miss, INFJs are a bit unpredictable in their final conclusions. As students, INFJs are the type that will ace tests filled with “compare and contrast” questions, and when they join debating teams they quickly become star performers despite their introverted natures. This is because they excel at seeing all sides of an issue, and because they are forceful and convincing when they do adopt a viewpoint. But in social interactions this quality can make INFJs seem rigid, didactic and inflexible; once they reach a conclusion about where they stand on a serious issue or thorny moral question, INFJs will abandon their open-mindedness and stick to their guns with the intensity of a thousand white-hot suns. This tends to astonish those who have become accustomed to the gentle and compassionate natures that INFJs normally exhibit.

Cohesive and harmonious relations matter greatly to INFJs, and not just in the abstract. In fact, INFJs are so determined to keep the peace and restore it when it has been lost that they will often gloss over the root sources of a conflict, preferring to negotiate an uneasy truce rather than putting in the messy and unpleasant work required to hash things out permanently. INFJs seek harmony because they view conflict as inherently damaging and destructive, and they will do everything in their power to eliminate fractiousness and suppress quarrelsome behavior as a matter of principle.

What Motivates the INFJ

Some see hypothetical speculation as the bane of clear and effective thinking. This attitude is understandable, but INFJs believe such criticism is short-sighted and unintentionally supportive of the status quo. Whatever the limitations are that have prevented human beings from achieving a lasting peace and establishing a kinder and gentler social order, INFJs assert that we should not passively surrender to them and retreat into situational ethics simply because fundamental macro-scale change seems so elusive.

Others may see the efforts of INFJs to hitch their wagons to a shooting star as utopian and naive, and they may dismiss an INFJ acquaintance’s search for ultimate answers as a foolish endeavor that even Sisyphus would dismiss as futile. But unleashing their prolific minds on the problems of the world energizes INFJs and satisfies their need for a broad frame of reference from which to operate, as they strive to achieve a perfect synthesis between what is doable and what is actually worth doing.

INFJs have a profound respect for human potential and the power of the human mind, and that is why they see no discontinuity or inconsistency between abstract thought and effective pragmatic decision-making. According to the worldview of the INFJ, authentic self-development must occur on a continuum, binding open creative thought to logical concept to effective action in sequence, and if we neglect any of these important stages we will wander aimlessly and never reach our final destination, never come close to living up to our true potential.

According to idealistic INFJs, if we believe in our ability to accomplish the extraordinary, the extraordinary will instantly become a possibility— “dream it and you can achieve it,” as the saying goes. However, the moment we compromise our principles for the sake of expediency or attach the “impractical” label to our most noble ambitions, ultimate defeat is all but assured.

Some would accuse INFJs of having an inordinate affection for tilting at windmills, but in their heart of hearts INFJs are convinced that if we re-imagine or re-configure the terms of our most important debates to include a grander perspective, we can transform the contexts within which we make important decisions, both individually and collectively, thereby clearing new pathways to a much brighter future. For some, John Lennon’s classic song “Imagine” might seem like wishful thinking spruced up with a catchy tune, but for INFJs, it represents a real blueprint for hope and change.

A metaphysically-optimistic attitude nourishes the lifeblood of the typical INFJ and helps inspire her efforts in the “real world.” However, INFJs are prone to depression and will occasionally succumb to ennui, losing their motivation as they become frustrated with the slow pace of change. But INFJs don’t just worry about the state of the world—they also care about the suffering of individuals, and when people they care about are in need of guidance and support, that is often all it takes to re-energize INFJs and pull them out of their funk.

INFJs are existentially motivated by their unquenchable desire to play the role of the healer, conciliator or facilitator; and sadly, our dysfunctional society provides so many opportunities to translate empathy into worthwhile action that no one who is determined to make a difference in the lives of others will have to stay idle for long.

How Others See the INFJ

INFJs often appear quiet, caring and sensitive, and may be found listening attentively to someone else’s ideas or concerns. They are highly perceptive about people and want to help others achieve understanding. INFJs are not afraid of complex personal problems; in fact, they are quite complex themselves, and have a rich inner life that few are privy to. They reflect at length on issues of ethics, and feel things deeply. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.

Because INFJs are such complex people, they may be reluctant to engage with others who might not understand or appreciate them, and can thus be hard to get to know. Although they want to get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw.

Famous INFJs

Famous INFJs include Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Emily Bronte, Carl Jung, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Florence Nightingale, Shirley MacLaine, Jimmy Carter, and Edward Snowden.

INFJ Hobbies and Interests

Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading, socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.

Quotes About INFJs

"The visions of the INFJs tend to concern human welfare, and their contributions are likely to be made independent of a mass movement."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"INFJs' nonstop search for learning, self-growth, and development—and wishing the same for everyone else—makes them very reassuring to others and people worth emulating."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

Facts about INFJs

Interesting facts about the INFJ:

  • Least common type in the population
  • On personality trait scales, scored as Sincere, Sympathetic, Unassuming, Submissive, Easygoing, Reserved and Patient
  • Among highest of all types in college GPA
  • Among most likely to stay in college
  • Most likely of all types to cope with stress by seeing a therapist
  • Highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
  • Personal values include Spirituality, Learning, and Community Service
  • Commonly found in careers in religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

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isaiah (not verified) says...

Me neither! =-)

Emily (not verified) says...

It is so great to find out why I feel different to a lot of people my age. This personality type is definitely mine :)

Daniel_swe (not verified) says...

Is there a community for people like us? Im very new to this, its not common knowledge in Sweden the way it seems to be in other countries. I've always felt different. But the last couple of years ive begun feeling special instead of different. But are we INFJ's really _that_ special? Are we unique in a bad or a good way?

I want to find a place where i can discuss these thoughts with other INFJ's. A forum where u can share ur lifestories or anecdotes. To see what binds this possible community together. Together there are no problems we cant solve.

Ill gladly help organize this if it doesnt exist. So if theres a few of u out there that wanna make something bigger drop me an email and ill gladly help out in any way i can.

Ella Swe (not verified) says...

Hey Daniel! Feels a bit strange sending a reply in English when it would be much more easier to just write in Swedish. ;) Anyway, I live in Stockholm, INFJ as well and I'd really be interested in being a part of organizing INFJ, Sweden. Hur kommer jag i kontakt med dig?

Best regards,
Ella

Daniel_swe (not verified) says...

Hey Ella!
I'll stick to english, i dont know if theres a policy about only writing in english or not.
Anyway, my e-mail is abo.swe (at) gmail.com. I also live in Stockholm. Send me an e-mail and we'll take it from there.

Parham (not verified) says...

Hej Daniel och Ella! I'm an INFJ living in Stockholm too :-) If you don't mind I want to join in. Great minds like ours in a group can only be a positive experience :D

Teenage Intronerd (not verified) says...

I completely agree, I found out I was an infj 2 years ago and I think I've had all of my friends take the test so I could better understand them and they could me.

Guest (not verified) says...

I know! This is awesome! I just found about this. I took a test, and this is definitely me! Most of my life I have felt like "an outsider". I have thought something wrong me, until I eventually just gave up and accepted myself. Then, I found about the Myers-Briggs personality test, and I learned my personality type, and things make even more sense now. Yay!

Guest (not verified) says...

This beautiful psychology was the mastermind of Carl Gustav Jung. Please research him as he was a true genius. Myers-Briggs only added to his work. Check out all of his works if you want to expand your reality. Peace!

Guest (not verified) says...

This is so accurate it's scary...

danieli.garza19 says...

I know exactly how you feel

Michellepwrs says...

Hello everyone. I have spent much introspective time trying to figure out who I am and how I fit into these personality type parameters. I have taken 3 different Meyers-Briggs tests on 3 unrelated websites. Each time I take them I try to force myself to answer as honestly as possible. Not trying to sway my results to fit any mold other than how I truly feel. Time and time again I test to be on the border of 4 personality types; ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP & INFP. I identify with all four in areas of my life. I feel that I am a 50/50 introvert extrovert split. I often feel like a bubbly introvert. My conclusion (for now) is that we all certainly do have personality tendencies. However, science is continually making new discoveries and expanding its scope on humanity. I believe that these types are good general guides to help us, but we should not let them limit or define us as individuals. There has only ever been one you. As humans, we like to feel we have mastered something by putting things into orderly categories. If something doesn't fit in the current parameters, typically we try to force it into one before we are willing to accept and try to create a new category. One hundred years from now we may have 2x as many "personality types" as our understanding of humanity grows. I feel this process of exploration through the tests and studying definitions on numerous websites has helped me become more self aware and sure of myself, my individuality, and how I relate to and view the world. Please use the test as a tool to help you in self discovery rather than an identity to cling to or limit yourself with.

Guest (not verified) says...

I had taken another personality test on another site, and I got the exact same thing. I think it's pretty awesome, I do want to be a teacher, and I like helping people and being organized and everything this and the other test had said. I don't believe in having everything about me set out on a platter and "that's-that, nothing else", but it makes sense. and I like it.

Guest (not verified) says...

The results show that I'm INFJ/INFP. People often ask me why can't I get a boyfriend. Little do they know, I like spending time alone. Of course, I dream about meeting my loved one someday, but right now I feel like a relationship is going to collide with my private life. And on top of that I'm afraid of many other things, like being heartbroken or rejected, because I know how much I will suffer. Guys in my age group seem to take relationships very lightly, but for me it's a serious thing.

I love myself! Honestly, I really do - I like the way I want myself to improve - even if it costs time I'd spend going out, or how I can stand up for what I belive in. But at the same time I know OTHER people will have trouble accepting me. I lost my best friend recently - I just can't bring myself to forgive her after hearing that I'm boring, insecure loner. I've stood by her side for 3 years and now I'm having hard time trusting anyone. Time is passing by, but I'm completly stuck when it comes to relationships.

Sorry for my english and about all that wailing, I just wanted to get it off my chest.

Darzee (not verified) says...

According to these websites:
http://www.celebritytypes.com/blog/2014/11/jung-myers-keirsey-etc-on-hit...
http://www.celebritytypes.com/infj.php

Hitler was an INFJ. Watching the video explaining what an INFJ is after learning this information gives a whole different tone to each aspect she points out... It makes me wonder: what does one do with this information? Obviously you can't eliminate INFJ's from the population, not only would that be unethical and horrible and stupid (and probably not even possible), but it would be highly ironic to commit genocide (personaliticide?) to eliminate Hitler. Obviously not all INFJ's are Hitlers, but how does this occur? How does one prevent an INFJ from becoming a Hitler? It makes one think about all the inherent good and evil inside of us all, no matter the personality type. What happened to Hitler that made him do what he did, and how does it relate to being an INFJ? Does it relate to being an INFJ at all even? Just lots of interesting questions...

Guest (not verified) says...

"You can't eliminate INFJ's from the population" - wow, thank you!
How do we prevent INFJ's from becoming Hitler? You state in one sentence that not all INFJ's are blood-thirsty nazi dictators, but at the same time you think they need to be treated in a special way to not to become one? Ok, Hitler was an INFJ, but so was Dostoevski, who created "Crime and Punishment" - a book about forgiveness and compassion! I belive that Hitler was a special case of self-excused psychopath - maybe what he did could relate to him being INFJ, but there is no way it was just this one factor.
As INFJ I'm really sorry to hear that someone considers me to be embodiment of demonic powers that poses danger for the society, when in reality I hope that world is going to develop in a peaceful and tolerant way. People are being raised differently, they have different values, interests and experiences. You can't just lump everyone into the same category, because humans aren't one-dimensional creatures.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hmmm, i was an intj at first. Infj fits me SO much more though. Felt kinda iffy about intj.

henrizedic says...

I AGREE WITH ALL YOUR RESEARCH.THANKS

henrizedic says...

Parents can sometimes change the directions and the call of God of their children and the reason is that,I have made several test and has come to realize that I fall under INFJ category.
I actually have the passion to be a great man of God and a psychiatrist but an forced by father to study BSC ACCOUNTING at UPSA,Ghana and currently in level 300 and looking at my performance it is not all that good and most of the time I suffer in my studies.
Most of the time I want to help and understand why people behave and much more but my current situation is not allowing me to embark on my mission and purpose in life.
CAN SOMEONE HELP ME OUT?

TommyK (not verified) says...

If there's no way out of your situation, if your parent's are paying for your education and they won't listen to your needs, I would recommend just sticking with the accounting degree for now and becoming independent. Work harder and do better, even though you hate it. Accounting is an extremely marketable skill and you should be able to find work and gain independence easily.

Life is a very long thing. Sometimes we are not set up perfectly by perfect parents, with a perfect trust fund, or the perfect connections. That's okay. Try to turn lemons into lemonade and know that you can use this situation to your advantage. Get through this by connecting with your classmates. Find out what makes them tick -- try and help them out. Do the same thing when you start working.

Then, when you are independant and ready, and when you have some work experience and some money saved up, do whatever you want. Get your master's degree in a different field, or something.

That would be my advice. It sounds like you might be somewhat a victim of your circumstances, but you have to stop thinking like a victim. That kind of thinking will stay with you, and it will be much more dangerous than a degree in accounting.

Abhishek Dushyant (not verified) says...

How come Edward Snowden isn't on the famous INFJ list.
He was on opposite side of INFJ in terms of career selection - A Computer Wizard!!

Guest (not verified) says...

I am ok with certain people who accept the way I am but shy away from people who try to change or bully me. I used to get upset that they felt they had a right to pick on me. Now I loose my temper with them then walk away for good. All my life I have been made to feel inadequate and strange even from family as if it's my fault I don't confirm to whats normal. Now I just do what I want after all it's my life and I don't hurt anyone. After 52 years I've learnt at last.

Gabrielle_T (not verified) says...

I took the MB test when I was a 19-year-old undergraduate and was INFJ then. I've taken it a few times again now as a 32-year-old and always come out as an INFJ, so I guess I'm set :-)
I only now feel like I'm starting to accept/understand how I really am and that I need to help others in order to feel good in my career. I can relate so strongly to being an idealist and making plans for others- that's something that I really enjoy, to try to find ways for people to be happy and live their best life. Somehow, though, I haven't really done the same for myself, opting instead to follow paths that were expected or hoped for me by my parents. Perhaps it's still time to find a way to connect with people more and to put my strenghts to work in my career in order to feel like I'm making a positive difference in the world.

Guest (not verified) says...

Changing results over time is a reflection of a person's lack of knowledge about themself. I've taken the test on multiple websites over a number of years and, despite the occasional changed attitude and different answer here and there, my type is persistent.
Your type doesn't change, rather it is your growing and understanding things in new light that can make it seem like your type has changed. However, if you are true to and know yourself, you'll get the same results regardless of where and when you take the test. Though the test is much more fallible in the hands of teenagers who know jack-all about who they are.

Guest (not verified) says...

Has anyone else ever been told they have multiple personality disorder or an identity disorder. I was diagnosed with the 1st but I think it is just that my personality has many levels. I like being part of such a small group of unique individuals!

Guest (not verified) says...

Infjs need a club.

Isapryqa says...

WOW! The personality test was ok in many things but missed totally on the career part because it say than an adverage makes $36, and I make 4 times that. That it is a big difference! Not even close! And I am not on any of your suggested career type! This test has a few flaws!

Guest (not verified) says...

I took the Jung test almost a year ago on another site and got INTJ. All of a sudden I am an INFJ, which is quite a difference. I suppose my Intuitive and Thinking tendencies weren't that high, but it doesn't seem to be the case. I guess the test is very dependent on the age and emotional state of the patient, but still... I wasn't expecting a different result.

Oh well, it's not like I take it very seriously, especially when you consider I'm in my teenage years.

Guest (not verified) says...

Well, I changed from ENFJ to INFJ in one year or so. I consider this means I was more extroverted once than what I am now. Anyway this shift is quite strange and made me realize that I'm weirder now according to the percentages they give to us (ENFJ= 7% worldwide/INFJ= - 1%).
It's not an easy path as there's always a "you're too innocent" comment which I understand people do for the fear that we could be tricked or lied to easily...

TommyK (not verified) says...

I had the same switch from ENFJ to INFJ. ... Makes sense to me!

Guest (not verified) says...

I was always told I was "weird" and "different" and it did not help my case with fitting in. Taking this test and finding out I'm an INFJ personality has kind of shed some light on things and it offered me a sense of relief. I've taken this test in HS and was INFJ then as well.

Frankie Yeung (not verified) says...

What are the suitable types of jobs for the INFJ? How about the entry level? Any resource about it?

Chloane (not verified) says...

I'm an infj who's in love with a guy who doesn't love her back. It's a huge struggle to forget him and to find someone better since he's so perfect I don't think there could be anyone better. I think of him even when keeping myself busy. He took over my mind and it's been like that for 2 years now! How can I stop thinking about that flawless guy?

Guest (not verified) says...

When I first tested I was an ENTJ; that was decades ago and the descriptions were not as complete then as now. I was also told that I was adept at 'mirroring' and that would work well for me in business. Having a career that required the ENTJ attitude, I never felt comfortable with that designation but dealt with it. When the economy crashed in CA a few years ago, I was also getting a divorce and fled to my home state, so my psyche was going through a lot of change.
Eventually I found the site www.16personalities.com and to my great relief discovered that I am primarily an INFJ. I realized this is who I've always been, to the core. All of the interests have been with me all my life but I was too busy making a living and being caught up in that to be me.
Then I found this site: www.25quiz.com and discovered that I am an INFP as well, with a few type percentages in much lower numbers. That all makes sense too and for the first time I am actively pursuing all the things I've put off and loved forever!
I do know a person who is an INTP, refuses to consider that she could be anything else and is totally miserable. I have a sister who is proud to be an ENTJ and personifies all of the positive and negative qualities to a 'T' - we are not close.
The downside of 'mirroring' is that one may adapt to both positive and negative personalities; hearing myself mirroring a negative personality is very frustrating! That will take more practice to deal with.
Starting my second career, looking at a masters in psychology and moving on with how I can help people in this world. We are all unique, while these tests help us understand ourselves and what we might want to work on, it is important to not stuff ourselves in that box or boxes. We can all be the best person possible if we want to go there. We all have gifts to give to make the world a much better place.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm lucky. I haven't felt alone. I have a circle of five friends who are all INFJs too. They understand me perfectly and I love them so much. Before I had them I was always mistaken for an extrovert, which isn't how I feel inside. Inside I've always been an introvert, and having people say otherwise wrecked havoc with me. I started to doubt my perception of myself, not just as an introvert, but other aspects of my personality too. However, now that I have my circle of friends, I feel so much better. Having another INFJ in your life is a real blessing. They understand exactly what you're going through, and make everything so much better.

Elk y (not verified) says...

Hey. So I've noticed something interesting.
I'm a gay INFJ. When I was younger I scored INFP, but as I've become permanently colder towards the world, I shifted to INFJ.

What's been weird for the last couple days, even though INFJ is only 2% of the population, I have met many other gay INFJs. It's become pretty common.
(I included that I'm an INFJ In the profile section of a profile on a gay ssocial app).

Im a gay, atheist, pessimistic, narcissistic INFJ with a brain that never stops, charisma that draws others while draining my own energy, and a tendency to withdraw and brood.

Being such an empathetic and introspective young person eventually led to me building walls so high and impenetrable that now, at 25, I do not believe anybody will ever be able to reach me.
It kind of makes me sad to think about, to put it simply, but at the same time I'm better off for it. I feel I have done much more growing intellectually than I ever did when I was burdened by feelings.

The point of all that ^ was to see if any of you guys can relate to that?

I was also abused growing up, and had to learn how to fight very young, so that me and my sister could protect each other from my father.
Then, as I got older, knowing how to fight helped me survive among homophobic bullies.
However, since I am modestly attractive and charming, I feel a lot of pressure to be socially active. i get along with many people, I'm charming and generally well-liked, but it's VERY hard to connect with people in what feels like a meaningful way.

I just graduated as an RN, and I hope to start applying to some opportunities to become a psychiatric RN. I hope to eventually get my Masters in psychiatric nursing and focus on community mental health and public health.
Protecting others from becoming as fucked up, cold, and pessimistic as me is probably the best way use all the fucked up things I've seen lol. Laugh it off, call it a bitch, and protect everyone else from it.

Well hey, if it ever ends up working out for us INFJs, let me know.
I have the feeling that are lot of us will never truly get there.

TommyK (not verified) says...

Hey man! I'm gay male INFJ, and I totally get what you're saying. I draw people to me, and sometimes that's cool, but sometimes it drains my energy. It really bothers me when people want to "put me in a box," for example, like if a girl at work always wants me to be "the funny, cute gay friend," but then recoils if I'm having a bad day and need to open up to someone about something. I've learned to LOWER MY EXPECTATIONS of others. Meaning, I've learned that I have every high expectations of what others should be. I've learned to be more patient with people. I've also learned to be more patient with myself. I need to understand other people's limitations and not expect that I can always get past those. There have only been a few close friends in my life. Right now, sadly, there's only one. I admit I'm in a bit of a rut so I'm working on getting out of that. But, at the same time, I just had a very few difficult years in another state far away from home, and I've only been back home for a year, and I am rebuilding my life, so I should relearn my previous stated lesson, and be more patient with myself.

I'm a bit jealous of your career path. It sounds like you're taking perfect educational steps towards a rewarding career. I tried something very different and failed. I'd love to get into psychology, but wondering if its too late and if my undergrad is too unrelated. Not really sure.

Anyway, good luck buddy. You seem like a good young adult. Don't be too hard on yourself!

Guest (not verified) says...

I have taken the test several times over the past ten years and I always come out INFJ, though I once deliberately manipulated it to come out as INFP because I wanted to be an INFP. I wish I had access to this information much earlier in life as I might not have made the same career and marriage mistakes. Well, live and learn. One foot in front of the other and keep going.

Newsflash (not verified) says...

The one thing that stands out to me about the list of recommended professions is how much I detest the idea of working in any of those recommended jobs. Like honestly, you think INFJ's, the ones who are apparently often misunderstood yet who want to help others would be happy in a judgemental job like psychiatrist or psychologist where you have to diagnose or label someone as having a defect? Give it a rest; I think I'd choose any profession but that.

As for engineering technician, I am currently in engineering technology and I'd love nothing more than to help people through designing cool technologies that can help them. Tell me how INFJ's are ill suited for that, or how we earn less than our counterparts because I'm not buying it. If INFJ's are truly people that want to impact the world I'd imagine the last profession you'd find them in would be psychiatry; the first place you'd find them would be engineering, entrepreneurship and the like since those involve helping others from a distance (or perhaps something related to art/music or design, since those have an impact on humanity as well).

I'm just tired of having the idea of helping people constantly being associated with being a councillor when that's such a limited view when considering the traits associated.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hello fellow aliens. Finally found my people lol. Agreed it gets a bit lonely. Now I don't feel so lonely knowing there's a bunch of us feeling lonely together! Hugs to all.

Pandata (not verified) says...

Yaay! i'm a INFJ! This really tells all about me wow! And i've always wanted to become a writer, it's my dream and now i get more hope in succeed to become a writer <3 And i'm glad that my type is rare XD i hoped for it but could never have believed it was true until now.

Guest (not verified) says...

In taking this test, I am both an INFJ and INTJ. I believe the longer I am on this earth the more I have leaned towards the INTJ side of myself. I have continued to grow in myself, to accept people for who they are and to try to walk a mile in their shoes.
I do tend to distance myself from people who only see the world from their own perspective and, when I voice an opinion, think I am too abstract. I should have gone into psychology, because I do have patience, and understanding, for those who are emotionally different from the "norm"
Also, as I get older, need a lot more alone time to re-group, from the noise of mindless chatter.

Chase Morales (not verified) says...

All I can say is that everyone of these comments hit home. Iv done so much self research and thinking that something was wrong with me. I feel very normal but at the same time I never feel as I fit in anywhere...

Guest (not verified) says...

Type is in our DNA. It never changes at the core, it only develops and matures, or can be stunted and cause inner problems. Personality tests are not as effective at pinpointing type as self-discovery. There are so many dimestore 'teachers' of type out there who regurgitate popular blogs, try to correlate insights from people who took tests that are 50%-60% accurate at best and are likely mistyped, then try to say that pure types are like this, or like that... Ignore how you change from one environment to the next, that's contextual. Ignore how you grew up and developed, that's how two people with the same types can have such different experiences, hurts, successes and valued beliefs. Instead, look at the constant core of who you really are...what's always been true, and feeds your psyche. Only from that position can you discover your type that's congruent, always has been and always will be. Type doesn't change, but our development, experiences, and beliefs can. BTW, when I discovered I was INFJ, it was like 'coming home' to who I really was. That's the experience when one discovers their true type.

Marrie (not verified) says...

I feel like being an INFJ is both a blessing and a curse. A blessing as to being unique and helpful, but a curse as in having to deal with loneliness. I saw an interesting cartoon about INFJs a while ago. It was basically showing how an INFJ was giving away pieces of his heart little by little as people flocked to him for help, but was finally left with one tiny piece at the end with a tear rolling down his cheek while seeing people going away, well-content with their pieces of his heart and indifferent to his heart-break. I thought that pretty much summed me up in a nutshell, so it really tugged at a heart string. Anyone else feel like this cartoon applies to them?

TommyK (not verified) says...

Yes! I remember getting the advice, "Don't give your heart away too easily."
Someone has to, right?

I find the trick is to just do what I do, "give my heart away," I suppose, but just to lower my expectations of other people. People are so imperfect, and sometimes it takes them a long time to learn the lesson we are trying to teach, to learn how valuable it is to hold another's heart, if they learn the lesson at all.

We need, then, to be absolutely rigid with our time alone to recuperate. Plan it, plan something special. I once took an Amtrak, completely alone, from Los Angeles to Seattle for about two months. This was after a failed creative endeavor in Los Angeles, where they ate up my heart, and after a failed relationship with a guy that ended up being a prostitute. (No joke.)

The reason why I tell you that is -- two months was a long time for a trip -- but I really needed that two months! Actually, to tell the truth, it's been a year since all of that craziness and I'm still very much alone. I'm getting better, though.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm not convinced that the personality can change, outside of a significant traumatic event. However, people can change; their perceptions, values, education and so on, however the core of the personality type, I don't think changes. My opinion only, just my perception.

Raymem09 (not verified) says...

If you are an INFJ you know it. There are no doubts as to what makes us tick. I have been called everything from "uncanny" to downright "evil" for how I read people and situations. My family gets me and listens intently when I give my opionions on people and most others won't associate with me once they know that I know what theyre thinking or feeling the majority of the time

Guest (not verified) says...

Being an INFJ sucks. I wish I were something else.

Guest (not verified) says...

Although, we have to remember that we are not special snowflakes -- I mean, we are, in our own ways, but we shouldn't think we are "high above the rest of the world" (and this is something that I also struggle with, to be honest). Every personality has something special about them. Reading personality articles about my personality type can sometimes make me feel like INFJs are more special than other personality types.

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