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What is an INFJ?

INFJ is an acronym used to describe one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. It stands for Introverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Judging. INFJ indicates a person who is energized by time alone (Introverted), who focuses on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), who makes decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and who prefers to be planned and organized rather than spontaneous and flexible (Judging). INFJs are sometimes referred to as Counselor personalities.

What are INFJs like?

INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others realize their potential. Creative and dedicated, they have a talent for helping others with original solutions to their personal challenges.

The Counselor has a unique ability to intuit others' emotions and motivations, and will often know how someone else is feeling before that person knows it himself. They trust their insights about others and have strong faith in their ability to read people. Although they are sensitive, they are also reserved; the INFJ is a private sort, and is selective about sharing intimate thoughts and feelings.

What are the core values of the INFJ?

INFJs are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a better place.

INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, committed few. Although their rich inner life can sometimes make them seem mysterious or private to others, they profoundly value authentic connections with people they trust.

How can I recognize an INFJ?

INFJs often appear quiet, caring and sensitive, and may be found listening attentively to someone else’s ideas or concerns. They are highly perceptive about people and want to help others achieve understanding. INFJs are not afraid of complex personal problems; in fact, they are quite complex themselves, and have a rich inner life that few are privy to. They reflect at length on issues of ethics, and feel things deeply. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.

Because INFJs are such complex people, they may be reluctant to engage with others who might not understand or appreciate them, and can thus be hard to get to know. Although they want to get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw.

Who are some famous INFJs?

Famous INFJs include Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Emily Bronte, Carl Jung, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Florence Nightingale, Shirley MacLaine, Jimmy Carter, and Edward Snowden.

How common is the INFJ personality type?

INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up:

  • 2% of the general population
  • 2% of women
  • 1% of men

What do INFJs like to do?

Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading, socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.

What the experts say

"The visions of the INFJs tend to concern human welfare, and their contributions are likely to be made independent of a mass movement."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"INFJs' nonstop search for learning, self-growth, and development—and wishing the same for everyone else—makes them very reassuring to others and people worth emulating."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

Facts about INFJs

Interesting facts about the INFJ:

  • Least common type in the population
  • On personality trait scales, scored as Sincere, Sympathetic, Unassuming, Submissive, Easygoing, Reserved and Patient
  • Among highest of all types in college GPA
  • Among most likely to stay in college
  • Most likely of all types to cope with stress by seeing a therapist
  • Highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
  • Personal values include Spirituality, Learning, and Community Service
  • Commonly found in careers in religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

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Guest (not verified) says...

In taking this test, I am both an INFJ and INTJ. I believe the longer I am on this earth the more I have leaned towards the INTJ side of myself. I have continued to grow in myself, to accept people for who they are and to try to walk a mile in their shoes.
I do tend to distance myself from people who only see the world from their own perspective and, when I voice an opinion, think I am too abstract. I should have gone into psychology, because I do have patience, and understanding, for those who are emotionally different from the "norm"
Also, as I get older, need a lot more alone time to re-group, from the noise of mindless chatter.

Chase Morales (not verified) says...

All I can say is that everyone of these comments hit home. Iv done so much self research and thinking that something was wrong with me. I feel very normal but at the same time I never feel as I fit in anywhere...

Guest (not verified) says...

Type is in our DNA. It never changes at the core, it only develops and matures, or can be stunted and cause inner problems. Personality tests are not as effective at pinpointing type as self-discovery. There are so many dimestore 'teachers' of type out there who regurgitate popular blogs, try to correlate insights from people who took tests that are 50%-60% accurate at best and are likely mistyped, then try to say that pure types are like this, or like that... Ignore how you change from one environment to the next, that's contextual. Ignore how you grew up and developed, that's how two people with the same types can have such different experiences, hurts, successes and valued beliefs. Instead, look at the constant core of who you really are...what's always been true, and feeds your psyche. Only from that position can you discover your type that's congruent, always has been and always will be. Type doesn't change, but our development, experiences, and beliefs can. BTW, when I discovered I was INFJ, it was like 'coming home' to who I really was. That's the experience when one discovers their true type.

Marrie (not verified) says...

I feel like being an INFJ is both a blessing and a curse. A blessing as to being unique and helpful, but a curse as in having to deal with loneliness. I saw an interesting cartoon about INFJs a while ago. It was basically showing how an INFJ was giving away pieces of his heart little by little as people flocked to him for help, but was finally left with one tiny piece at the end with a tear rolling down his cheek while seeing people going away, well-content with their pieces of his heart and indifferent to his heart-break. I thought that pretty much summed me up in a nutshell, so it really tugged at a heart string. Anyone else feel like this cartoon applies to them?

TommyK (not verified) says...

Yes! I remember getting the advice, "Don't give your heart away too easily."
Someone has to, right?

I find the trick is to just do what I do, "give my heart away," I suppose, but just to lower my expectations of other people. People are so imperfect, and sometimes it takes them a long time to learn the lesson we are trying to teach, to learn how valuable it is to hold another's heart, if they learn the lesson at all.

We need, then, to be absolutely rigid with our time alone to recuperate. Plan it, plan something special. I once took an Amtrak, completely alone, from Los Angeles to Seattle for about two months. This was after a failed creative endeavor in Los Angeles, where they ate up my heart, and after a failed relationship with a guy that ended up being a prostitute. (No joke.)

The reason why I tell you that is -- two months was a long time for a trip -- but I really needed that two months! Actually, to tell the truth, it's been a year since all of that craziness and I'm still very much alone. I'm getting better, though.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm not convinced that the personality can change, outside of a significant traumatic event. However, people can change; their perceptions, values, education and so on, however the core of the personality type, I don't think changes. My opinion only, just my perception.

Raymem09 (not verified) says...

If you are an INFJ you know it. There are no doubts as to what makes us tick. I have been called everything from "uncanny" to downright "evil" for how I read people and situations. My family gets me and listens intently when I give my opionions on people and most others won't associate with me once they know that I know what theyre thinking or feeling the majority of the time

Guest (not verified) says...

Being an INFJ sucks. I wish I were something else.

Guest (not verified) says...

Although, we have to remember that we are not special snowflakes -- I mean, we are, in our own ways, but we shouldn't think we are "high above the rest of the world" (and this is something that I also struggle with, to be honest). Every personality has something special about them. Reading personality articles about my personality type can sometimes make me feel like INFJs are more special than other personality types.

MayraA (not verified) says...

I am 25 and I wonder if I will change from an INFJ to another type. Very interesting stuff.

brianhatcher31 says...

I did. INFJ to ESTJ. But, I am pretty balanced along all the types anyway.

INFJ girl (not verified) says...

I think its not easy to understand INFJs completely. Maybe only other INFJs could do that. That's why they need each other. I wish I had an INFJ friend...

Guest (not verified) says...

Reading these kinds of stories/articles is very intriging to me, and then aftwards seeing how many people can relate. It makes me feel like a gem in a world of rocks. (Of course not everyone is dull and unspecial, and I try to respect everyone I encounter, but that's how an INFJ type feels ((to me)) compared to others.)

Trashkittens (not verified) says...

Heh, this fits like a glove. Pretty accurate, and I don't think that it's some dumb test full of vagueness to make you think it's correct, as while reading other types I realized that, for quite a lot of them, I really couldn't connect to certain traits.

eddy discovery (not verified) says...

hello everybody ,i'm new here and from Belgium, europ. I find it rather difficult to live in this world were monney is like a god above all other things , and people with very much money , behave as very non interested into this world and humanity .What do you think to do about it?
best regards, eddy

eddy discovery (not verified) says...

sorry i forgot to indicate that i am : INFJ personal type

Guest (not verified) says...

You know you're an INFJ when you go to the beach, pull a book out of your bag and read.

Guest (not verified) says...

I have never understood how the world around me saw someone I simply was not. That for me was the most disturbing thing... I did not trust me because of this. Finding this price to the puzzle helps me understand the suffering I created for myself... Trying to be what and who everyone around me thought I was.Im thankful for the external clarification and now can rest my sword... I was getting quite tired of fighting to be me.

Guest (not verified) says...

the first time i took this test was 1 or 2 years ago and i got ISFJ. But now i feel that INFJ is the correct one for me

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow it's amazing how spot on this is.. i was an INTJ in my early teens and now in my early 20's I'm an INFJ and i couldn't feel more understood.. why can't humans get me like Google does lol.. Being an INFJ and a Scorpio is so alike and I'm the exact mix of both.. does get tough n really intense but I'd have it no other way.

brianhatcher31 says...

Are you still a Scorpio? I hear they just changed the constellation astrology charts and dates! ESTJ here.

Guest (not verified) says...

When it says 'highest in marital dissatisfaction' does it mean that we INFJ's tend to be dissatisfied with our spouses or do they tend to be dissatisfied with us?

JennRN (not verified) says...

I am very curious about this too. Currently separated from my second husband and feel like he never hears me. Like he has no understanding of how deeply I love him and how much it hurts to be apart from him.

Tonny (not verified) says...

its awesome to finally know that I'm not alone in the world. Finally I get a chance to make new friends who are somewhat like me.

Guest (not verified) says...

I used to test consistently as an INTJ. Now I am an INFJ, apparently. Wow! I've had a couple of really intensely bad years, and wonder if that explains the change.

ncls56789 says...

I've taken multiple forms of this kind of test, and they consistently told me I was an INFJ. Maybe once or twice it would say I'm borderline Sensor and iNtuitive, but I definitely fit with 'N' category when I read the differences. What would throw me off would be when one of them matches me as INFP. Usually it's when I'm in a certain mood that this happens. You may choose the ones that make you sound better or worse depending on how you feel about yourself at the time. Your experiences will definitely shape your answers too. I think I'm a little of both leaning more closer to 'J' most of the time.

TommyK (not verified) says...

So strange, I used to test ENFJ, where I was just barely an "E" at just above 50%. Now I test INFJ where I am barely "I," I think it was 58%.

This seems logical to me. I think I've always wanted to be a people person more than I actually was a people person. This characterizes me correctly, as a person who cares very deeply about people and society and who yearns for helpfulness and kindness in others. I'm often left recoiling by the meanness of the world and have to spend time off to recuperate. When I was younger, I used to hang out with my friends to recuperate, but now that I am older, I need a lot more time alone. On the other hand, I can also identify quite a few examples of needing time alone as a child, as well. I really do believe I go through rather fluid phases of introversion and extroversion.

I'm not surprised I have a rare personality. When I was younger, I would have taken pride in this, but now that I am older, I am often pained at just feeling so different from everybody. I just don't "partner" with others or prescribe to social "cliques." I "see through" people's motives, and if I find them even a little off kilter, I distrust the person and write them off completely. I rarely "work through" problems in relationships and prefer to melt away. I've had lonely, resentful periods in my life and struggles with substance abuse, as well. I am now sober, but struggle with the AA program because it's just so damn social! lol

One thing that saves me is a sense of humor. I love to laugh and love people who can make me laugh. (As long as it's not mean-spirited laughter, which typically repulses me.)

I haven't clicked into a career, either. Careers, in my experience, are for social people. I am intelligent and tend to do well at whatever position I am working at, but I become disillusioned when I find out that the job I am hired to do is less important than office schmoozing, etc. etc. I have worked in sales and marketing roles my whole life, and I absolutely detest it. It frustrates me that companies basically run like a high school popularity contest, but I think it frustrates me more to see how "the market" flocks to the most obvious demands for attention. Advertising, media, pop music, etc. -- I can't stand anything "trendy" -- which is very difficult in a the new world of hashtags. I retook this test because I am a little desperate in figuring out how to take my career another direction. I am considering some of these options -- I would greatly enjoy a small psychology practice and I would also really enjoy the schooling, just not sure what steps I would take since my undergrad was in a very unrelated field. I also like the idea of becoming a teacher. Oddly enough, I also like the idea of running a small design business -- like web design, graphic design or photography. Sometimes I think I should focus on writing a novel or screenplay. As I read different accounts of the INFJ personality, I find my struggle for a singular career path to be right on the money (or lack thereof.)

In my life I have worked very hard on physical fitness, but I have recently let all of that go. I find that I am so critical of myself I will not date until I feel attractive again. I have to be "perfect," inside and out. I read some comments on this post that "inner beauty" is more important than "external beauty" in a partner, and I will agree with that -- inner beauty is definitely more important to me -- but I'll admit that external beauty is pretty damn important to me, as well. I think it's more about health than beauty perhaps. As I think more about it, I'd never be interested in someone who was obsessed with plastic surgery, for example. For me, I tend to meet someone attractive and I believe their pitch on the first date, but then as I get to know the person, I find out they have an ugly inside. I would agree that the INFJ personality type would attract a lot of sociopaths. I once researched the "Empath, Apath, Sociopath Triangle" and found it very interesting that my relationships have commonly fit this pattern -- where I am the empath.

I obviously had some thoughts on all of this!

Shell (not verified) says...

I have made friends in my adultimate life but I have never had a "best friend " I always thought that was strange, that I was never able to connect with another person that deeply.

Guest (not verified) says...

It's a little odd because my fiance is ISTJ; which according to different things, it means we shouldn't work. However, he makes me feel just as comfortable in his presence as I am all by myself. I feel as though we both recharge each other instead of draining. We often sit together just "recharging" not talking but still together. It's a perfect balance; opposites really did attract in my case. This is an example of how while yes; these tests are good- things can still be different than how it is depicted. Don't change your whole life around based on something as simple as a test no matter how 100% accurate the result feels (as in my case, and his). :) Thank you for reading. Have a good evening.

DP (not verified) says...

I want to share the perspective of an INFJ who became a medical doctor. I knew it was the wrong fit the entire time. Medical school was a living nightmare for me! Talking to patients was enjoyable, but I hated memorizing minute details, writing prescriptions for treatment, working overnight, and doing procedures. Also, the competitive environment and influence of Big Pharma made me lose respect for medicine.

I ended up specializing in pathology (making diagnoses by inspecting biopsies/tissue under the microscope). I loved looking at the beautiful cells under the microscope but could not handle other doctors constantly yelling at me for diagnoses. Also, the amount of information to learn and keep track of was unbelievable! Although I appeared calm on the outside, I was constantly panicking on the inside because I wasn’t 100% sure of my diagnoses. The 13 hour workdays and stress levels (ex: the fear of malpractice for misdiagnosing a cancer) finally got to me.

I quit 1.5 years ago and still haven’t figured out what to do next. My main obstacle is employers see me as “overqualified” for entry-level positions in other industries such as non-profits. But I have no desire to return to the medical field again.

The moral of the story…INFJ’s please think twice before entering medical school. You are likely to get burnt out as a doctor because it’s emotionally, mentally, and physically draining! If you absolutely must become a doctor, please consider going to a less competitive medical school and doing a residency in family practice. Just my two cents!

Guest (not verified) says...

Hey everyone

I just want to say thanks for sharing your comments. I only found out about this test today and when I took it, low and behold... THE RESULT WAS INCONCLUSIVE! I was given 5+ different personalities to choose from. 'which ever best fits you' OMG great I knew I wasn't going to fit in anywhere!! Story of my life! Haha But as I read the INFJ page it was like my life was written here. I couldn't believe it.
Example: I've worked in the Medical Supply Industry for 6 years helping people get the home supplies they need to get better. Like braces, wheelchairs, hospital beds, and so on. I absolutely love what I do and try my hardest to help each patient so it doesn't take long for me to come up with some kind of solution if I ever hit a wall, as strange they usually sound to my coworkers. I know I'm not saving any lives but when someone hurts, I hurt. I've always been this way.
I mean, growing up and still now, I am great with meeting and helping new people, but "fitting in" around people in my everyday life (friends/coworkers/family), it just always feels like I don't belong. I love what I do because once I help these people they're gone. It sounds bad and I'm sure people around me would say otherwise about me because I'm so friendly, but truth be told I'd rather not be around people. Especially people I know.
I've always known my way of thinking was weird. An old boss told me I was 'UNIQUE'!! At the time I did NOT take that as a compliment, even though she meant it to be. And my boyfriend tells me that he doesn't understand me to the point that he goes online searching for some the statistics of what most people do in whatever the situation may be. He doesn't understand when I tell him that just because the statistic says so doesn't mean I do too. Whatever I do or don't do and approve of or not it's because I have thought out all the after effects and I feel that at that moment I'm choosing the best thing. But that doesn't mean my mind cannot be changed with better reasoning than my own.
But all in all I feel lucky enough that even though he doesn't understand the way I see things, he still "accepts and loves the weirdness that is me!"

not to be named here (not verified) says...

I quite find this to match me. I've done the test a few times and the only deviation from INFJ was ISFJ with S winning by only one percent. l do also find frustration just like many others here. Most people I see think of me as weird and do not delve further to find out what I am like. That caused me to create a belief that I deserved to be alone because I was not worthy in their eyes, yet I chose to stick to my core preferences. Eventually someone chose to accept me into the more... outcasted group and I found many of them were odd and crazy like me. A few of them have really become close in the fact I have entrusted them with my inner fears, and so have they. They keep my frustration lower, though I still resent how others cannot see what I can. That many people around eachother do not know and cannot detect inner turmoil and try to help them, which can actually save lives. Even then, just choosing to accept humanity's fate rather than trying to make the world a better place makes me angry. Though I will say Introversion is a good trait for me as I wear glasses which hide my emotions from anyone who may share the power of looking into eyes and seeing the core basics of one's personality and inner mood. I also share the instincts to bend myself to my friend's will, and even new people just to make them feel better. As for what else I have read in this comment section, yes people may change, though mostly people will not give up on their core values, rather adapting to others when socializing, and venting when alone or choosing to leave a group entirely. Those who do change completely often lead towards a dark path unknowingly, and if not saved can lead to another life no longer living. Unless they truly believe in the new core values presented. As for empathy, I have a lot of it. Not just because of my personality, but experiences too. Many think of helping the victim, though leave the destroyer behind, calling them heartless no matter what, yet they can change into a caring person. I even have experience being a victim of self-hatred, but I deal with it. Though I cannot bear for others to have the same issues, making me want to do anything to get rid of the burden. Even now, as you can see a lot about my ideas, there is still much more to me than this, and it would take a long time to even get me to open up about other things. Sadly I believe I must take my leave for now. Perhaps I will see a response soon. I do apologize for any mistakes and I wish you all a good time of day or night.

Guest (not verified) says...

I recently found out I'm an INFJ and it makes complete sense. I've never felt like I really fit in. I'm that kid that ate lunch in the library. I've always loved literature and history and would love a career related to either, but it just doesn't seem practical. Nothing else excites me and I'm afraid I won't be happy if I settle for something else, but realistically I need a job. Any advice would be welcomed.

Guest Siobhan (not verified) says...

This INFJ, a nurse and active Church member for 45+ years, who has dreamed of that little cabin in the mountains with a fireplace, lots of books and at least a lab and a couple of cats (I love all animals), have felt like that Alien my entire life. I've actually been labeled "weird"! It's good to know I'm not alone.

Guest (not verified) says...

Has anyone seen the movie divergent... Being infj kinda feels like that to me ... I'm all things non conformant..

Agata (not verified) says...

Couple of years ago I was, I think, ENFJ and thought something wasn't right. Now, after taking some online test, it looks like I am INFJ and stuff makes more sense. It is a bittersweet feeling.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm very fascinated by you people. I'm not INFJ..I'm labeled ESTJ but am also a bit ENTP, but I've been encouraged by a wonderful INFJ I've recently begun speaking with to read up on her type to get a better understanding, and whilst reading this comment thread, It brings me joy and anxiety to see such awesome people opening up. I want you all to know that you're not strange, there's nothing wrong with you...you're just misunderstood and simply incapable of vocalizing your thoughts to those who aren't the same. I feel like I need an INFJ in my life,though. I wish every one of you all the happiness in the world.

heyworld (not verified) says...

that is me ... that is why I feel weirdo in this world

Silence (not verified) says...

I don't really know where to start. I've just recently found out I'm INFJ and it's about as much of a relief as it is stressful. I now know why I completely shut down when my parents are angry with me; why I can't be around people for too long before my mask starts to slip and stress makes me sassy; why I have such an INCREDIBLY low tolerance for bullshit, among other things. What I'm commenting for is hopefully a little advice, in a very roundabout way. Even if no one comments, it's been so nice reading through these comments and articles and knowing I'm not truly alone.

When I was in high school, I was the victim of a sociopathic boyfriend. He nearly tore my family apart; my mother attempted suicide, I was kicked out of my house, I was cheated on, lied to, and lied myself. The kicker was after I broke up with the psychopath in my first quarter of college. My mother, under the guise of "wanting to fix someone at any cost", performed sexual acts twice on this person. Naturally, I lost it. Granted it was a mostly silent breakdown, but I just imploded. I became the worst version of myself; a withdrawn, depressed, anxious, self-centered asshole.

This breach of trust, coming from someone who I never would have expected it from, is something I still struggle with today, more than seven years later. My college life spiraled. I maintained for about a year and a half before I started failing classes, lying, and heavily using marijuana. My relationships with my father and brother also struggled; they're very literal, concrete people and don't understand my silence and how emotional I really am underneath.

Today, I have less than a quarter's left of credits before I graduate with a bachelor's degree in Comparative Literature with an emphasis in Cinema Studies. I'm happy I'm getting there, but I'm not sure what I'm going to do afterward. I just know that I want MORE. I feel like I'm ready to go back to school and really dedicated myself to something to will enrich people's lives; something that I was so excited to do when I first started college before my life came crashing down.

So: I love kids and the elderly. For them, I have endless patience. Endless. I love movies/television (obviously). Books. Romance in a slow, developing way. Telling people what to do. Different cultures and their people. I can speak French. I love to travel and plan trips. I love organizing and designing living spaces.

Does any of the above sound like you? If so, please please let me know, as an INFJ, what you do for a living and how you got there. Again, even if no one comments, it's been so very nice learning that I'm not the only one like me.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hello,

You are not alone. Being an INFJ (i didnt have a clue during my college days), i had a very depressive time around almost 7 years due to broken relationships, inability to understand myself and the inability to express my feelings. My best friend was really intelligent & knew me well, since I would often say half sentences and he would understand what i was trying to say...regardless, i had always been a loner & it took me so many years to become stable.

I graduated from pharmacy but, decided to change my career track. I did an MBA, specializing in marketing and I am currently working as a business consultant in a local firm in my country. Interestingly , I had no clue of how I would end up but, knew that I loved solving problems and wanted some type of work that is dynamic. I may not have ended up where I wanted to be...but, I think I ended up somewhere comfortable for now....Being a problem solver, I love solving complex personal problem for others (kind of like a counselor) but, ironically, I cant solve the ones with myself. :)

If you need any help or someone to talk to, you can message me. I would be glad to help out my listening and/or providing some solutions.

Take care.

Sheridan McAvoy (not verified) says...

To find out that I am an INFJ was more like a relief if anything else. Ever since kindergarten, I have walked "a lonely road" as Greenday would have it. Though I have not passed further than my current Junior year in high school, I still believe I have been one from the start. I can't begin to explain how much I wanted to cry knowing what I do about myself now.

I think I could stop you here; I can already tell what some of you are going to say. "You don't know yourself yet! You're only in the eleventh grade."

On the contrary, my friends. I have suspected for the longest time I was something different than the masses. I'm secluded and more or less concealed even to my family. I find speech hard for me because people find it hard to even connect their line of thought with mine. English is my first language, but it's like they don't even understand my context. It's like I'm from past generations instead of my own; I have Ib courses, but not even the people in these classes get where I'm coming from. I'm stuck with myself, with no one to share myself to, because I am the only person that understands how my mind actually thinks. One student says that the symbolism for a dog would be companionship, but I see them as a way to be oblivious. Everyone would stare at me funny, and when I'd try to explain myself, it comes out wrong like my reasoning was the result of me not paying attention or something. Though, the English teacher would see where I'm coming from. I often feel stupid to any group of people I put myself in front of.

I'm stuck in daily quarrels with my family, because when I'm asked why I never go outside or bring friends over, they believe that I may have some sort of issue that they should take me to a psychiatrist over. My preferred genre was also called into question when my brother convinced them my music was satanist. My grandparents also questioned me, because I would always question every religion instead of committing to one. They believed I was an atheist for the longest time. I felt as if I was truly alone in a would that was becoming my own. To be honest, I never really minded this realization, but it bothered me that everyone I should feel close to felt that something was wrong with me. (Though they never admitted it) In school, I always felt like the people I enjoyed hanging around with were just disappointing to me. They never inspired me, and they always leaned on me. It's not like I minded really, but I always wished people wouldn't try to become too attached to me because I knew in the end, I wasn't the person they thought I was. I never committed to any friendship, but to myself, and saying this does not make me feel ashamed. I always knew I put myself selfishly before others. I would rather stare at the clouds than be at the company many others.

It's a nice thing to know now because I feel strongly powerful over my own self. I can be more comfortable knowing that in seven million people, there are at least 140,000 like me, living their lives and thinking the same thing I am at this very moment. (Not being literal there) I feel as if no one will understand the process in which we think, but I'm glad. We are more so unpredictable to the ones around us and unique.

I've been drawing since I was small, and have held it dear ever since; my uncle has gotten me into writing, and I have gone as far in two books with sixteen chapters each.

I just wanted to share a little bit of myself with you guys! Maybe some of you can relate to me; I look forward to meeting an actual INFJ one day... if the 2 percent would grace me with such luck.

wandella (not verified) says...

Hello all

My opinion is that yes, whilst we all do certainly fit into a "characteristic type", within that "type" there are lots of variations, hence the fact that we are all unique individuals, nevertheless it is interesting to explore and whilst we cannot change our fundamental characteristics we can work and build on our strengths and weaknesses to make us into more rounded individuals, after all, as the saying goes, "if we were all the same, life would be boring" and isn't that just the truth?

brianhatcher31 says...

I've taken this test 20 times in 25 years, years ago I thought I was INFJ. It turns out I am ESTJ and I married an INFJ. What a world!

brianhatcher31 says...

Holy cow you INFJ's really need to get out more! This message board is like 7 pages long! Ours (ESTJ) is only one page. I can see loneliness, depression and the need to express in almost every post! I can see how being such a small percentage of the population you could feel alone or misunderstood. Find something or someone who is opposite your type who can test you and force you to think outside the INFJ boxiX5ZP. Don't limit yourselves. My wife is INFJ and it forces us to move and think outside our comfort zones. She is loyal and an encourager. We are so different, but it's been so awesome as long as we are open, honest and willing. Good luck.

Sara1 (not verified) says...

I have done the test several times and most of the time I end up as an INFJ, so I guess that is most accurate. But I have also been ISFJ, INTJ och INFP.

Guest (not verified) says...

The most common hobby among INFJs as far as I've seen would be : watching movies/drama!
There is not a single INFJ that I met that doesn't have this hobby, yet you don't have it listed above. Are you sure you don't want to add it? And possibly remove the "art appreciation" one..?!

JC Dee (not verified) says...

It's a bit creepy yet amazed by how on earth a system would identify personality. Reading the article after taking the test seems like I'm looking in the mirror. There's a part I've said "Really?" but for a sudden I realised and said "aahhhh,Yeah!". LOL I guess T'was my best friends who realised the test. This is a prank I think. hahaha

Ngozi (not verified) says...

Can someone tell me more about this forum? (Infj's personality)

Guest (not verified) says...

This is so strange- I have wanted to be a speech language pathologist for a while now and I'm an INFJ! Wow!

rtoshi (not verified) says...

they really dont see what we want them to see, what we do see. its too complex for both sides, its just better to shut up.\

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