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The INFJ Personality Type

INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others realize their potential. Creative and dedicated, they have a talent for helping others with original solutions to their personal challenges.

The Counselor has a unique ability to intuit others' emotions and motivations, and will often know how someone else is feeling before that person knows it himself. They trust their insights about others and have strong faith in their ability to read people. Although they are sensitive, they are also reserved; the INFJ is a private sort, and is selective about sharing intimate thoughts and feelings.

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What does INFJ stand for?

INFJ is one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. INFJ is an acronym for the personality traits of Introversion, iNtuition, Feeling, and Judging. The INFJ type is also called the "Counselor" and is described as idealistic, compassionate, and sensitive.

Each of the four letters of the INFJ code signifies a key personality trait of this type. INFJs are energized by time alone (Introverted), focus on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), make decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and prefer to be planned and organized rather than spontaneous and flexible (Judging).

How common is the INFJ personality type?

INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up:

  • 2% of the general population
  • 2% of women
  • 1% of men

Famous INFJs

Famous INFJs include Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Emily Bronte, Carl Jung, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Florence Nightingale, Shirley MacLaine, Jimmy Carter, and Edward Snowden.

INFJ Values and Motivations

INFJs are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a better place.

INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, committed few. Although their rich inner life can sometimes make them seem mysterious or private to others, they profoundly value authentic connections with people they trust.

How Others See the INFJ

INFJs often appear quiet, caring and sensitive, and may be found listening attentively to someone else’s ideas or concerns. They are highly perceptive about people and want to help others achieve understanding. INFJs are not afraid of complex personal problems; in fact, they are quite complex themselves, and have a rich inner life that few are privy to. They reflect at length on issues of ethics, and feel things deeply. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.

Because INFJs are such complex people, they may be reluctant to engage with others who might not understand or appreciate them, and can thus be hard to get to know. Although they want to get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw.

INFJ Hobbies and Interests

Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading, socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.

Facts about INFJs

Interesting facts about the INFJ:

  • Least common type in the population
  • On personality trait scales, scored as Sincere, Sympathetic, Unassuming, Submissive, Easygoing, Reserved and Patient
  • Among highest of all types in college GPA
  • Among most likely to stay in college
  • Most likely of all types to cope with stress by seeing a therapist
  • Highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
  • Personal values include Spirituality, Learning, and Community Service
  • Commonly found in careers in religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

Quotes About INFJs

"The visions of the INFJs tend to concern human welfare, and their contributions are likely to be made independent of a mass movement."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"INFJs' nonstop search for learning, self-growth, and development—and wishing the same for everyone else—makes them very reassuring to others and people worth emulating."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

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Hedwig (not verified) says...

Hello! I truly understand what you mean! I find that because we are highly capable individuals and very curious people that we struggle with this. It took awhile for me to find my path and it took trying out many different hats. And to be honest, I can do all of those jobs I tried and was interested in very well, but in the end, if it isn't for you, your heart will tell you. I realized that I wasn't thriving in an office set up -- being an independent individual with strong values/standards makes it hard to survive in workplaces without burning out or clashing with people). Now I am working independently as a graphic designer and the freedom to do things my way and up to my standards is worth the long journey it took for me to get here (and the absence of office politics is also a plus!). Good luck in your own journey, don't be afraid to explore your options. Even if some paths do not work out, you will still learn and grow from the experience and all that will be useful in your next career. Good luck and believe in all you can do! :)

Chris dna59 (not verified) says...

I'm an INFJ also, I'm curious and want to change the subject a little bit. I have a theory, is there a connection between our personality types and blood type? I'm a rare blood type B-, been wondering if RH- people are also the rare personality types, any thoughts?

C Bo (not verified) says...

I'm currently a high school senior and an INFJ. Since 2009 I knew what I wanted to do as a career -- I wanted to be an animal trainer. Now, I'm second-guessing that idea a *lot* (of course in senior year when it really starts to matter). I've been considering changing my future college major to Communication Studies and becoming a college admissions counselor. I would be able to connect and help people, talk about my college (which I absolutely love), and get paid to travel for college fairs and school visits. How do you guys think an INFJ would do as a college admissions counselor?

Sunshine (not verified) says...

To Draco and others posting here, Thank you for your insights and for being brave enough to expose your inner truth. That is not something that INFJs get to do in regular society without consequences and we can be conditioned into being self-imposed social hermits. Since I have personally benefited from your words, it inspired me to be brave and post my sincere appreciation  We are not alone!

As an INFJ in a fundamentalist family living in a Utah, I broke to an almost irreparable  state. It took leaving my family of origin and moving states away to get to a point where I could breathe enough to start healing. 

Although I feel that society in general rejects me, I wanted to let other INFJs know that real sustaining, life affirming relationships are possible. I am lucky enough to have a wonderful husband by my side who sees me as I am and he loves the real me.

He gets uncomfortable with the personality tests, so I’m not 100% sure what he is,  but I suspect he is ISTJ, maybe ISFJ. Whatever his type, he is the best friend I could ask for. I also have a small handful of true long term friends. I haven’t been very involved with their lives because I spent so much time trying to keep my head above water, but they stuck by me and remain true friends after many years. 

I think we all want to do big things to make the world a better place, but a very good start is to make your own world a better place. Meet your own needs with 100% of your own permission to do so. Then, as opportunities arise, you’ll be in a place where you can make the world around you a better place. Eventually that circle of influence can grow beyond anything currently manifest. 

Love yourself. You deserve it. I don’t even know you and I have love for you. Wishing you each healing, love, safety, joy, and curiosity!



MJI says...

For a while I thought I was an INFP/INTP, but then I looked into what the J really means and realized I had it misunderstood. (My visual mental image of a "Judger" was someone who always kept to a schedule, wrote out extensive lists, had a neat and orderly home.)  I ruled that as a posiblity, since I tend to neglect chores and clean-up to a point (until I can't stand it and have to take corrective action). Other tests are skewed in such a way that it can put me in INFP territory.

Once I realized that my planning system and organization is more subconsious than consious then it helped sort out a few inconsistancies I noticed with my behavior vs, the INFP description. 

The differences between Fe and Fi are rather confusing too until I did further reading.

What made it hard for me to understand emotions is that they behave like the "weather". I feel them indirectly but they effect me. They are part of the atmosphere of my consciousness, but they don't become me (unless they reach a crisis level). If people around me are upset, then it will effect the "weather" too.  If I'm not in self analyzing mode I'll miss this important detail and end up wondering why my mood is the way it is, or more specifically why I acted out of character. Usually it is the thoughts and actions I notice first before I notice the emotion.

My emotions tend to get expressed through action. When people come to me with problems, I'll listen, but my focus tends to be what can I do to help them to move on. If they just want to dwell in their upset, then I get drained and start looking for an exit. But if it requires action, then I'll try to help. One real life example was with a lady who was visibly cold (it can be brutal here in the upper midwest), so I directed her to the closest indoor waiting space near the bus stop.  She came out and tried to catch the bus. The driver turned her down and she returned to the bus stop bewildered, and upset with how to get to her destination. She had a few issues understanding the driver and interpreted what he said to her as an insult against herself, her accent, and her identity. She felt discriminated against. At least that was the read I got off her as she expressed how upset she was about the driver sending her away.

I could have listen to her and sympathized with her, but my thoughts quickly turned to action. (The real problem is that she needs to get somewhere and to make sure she makes whatever connection it takes to get there is the best solution.) After expressing how rude that was of the driver, I asked her questions relating to her destination. She's upset at the bus service, so I called the bus service and expressed her complaint and stated the intersection she needed to be.  I found out from the bus service she needed to wait across the street in a different stop. I directed her to where she needs to wait to catch the next bus. She left feeling much happier knowing where to go. That is more less my style of helping someone. If I can't put it to positive action, then I'll feel a bit lost.

Mysterious_Girl (not verified) says...

Wow. I cannot believe there are people out there just like me...I always thought I was a misunderstood freak. Reading your comments made me feel normal, Draco. Being an "INFJ" explains everything now. I always used to wonder why I never fit in, no matter how hard I tried. I am a loner at heart too. As I got older, I learned to accept that. I am glad to have learned such amazing thing about myself. 

TheINFJsoul (not verified) says...

In my experience INFJ’s are the best at being like Mary Poppins. They come into peoples lives when they need it most, teach the people how to view life in a magical and productive way, then fly off to help someone else in need. She doesn’t  maintain  intimate relationships with them because if she did they would rely on her and not each other and also she couldn’t effectively help other people that need her.

I think that when INFJ’s need deep relationships their best bet is to turn inward.  Understand yourself. Listen to and solve your own problems. We have the ability to do that because we understand other people’s lives and can learn from them and teach ourselves. Also, having surface “friends” can be good because you can have a good time with them and they won’t wear you out.

Doejoe (not verified) says...

It feels nice to have people who feel as I do. I have been told that I'm an old soul and I completely agree. 

LivingToo! (not verified) says...

wow who’d have thought that I’d find others like myself after all these years of being isolated and misunderstood (even by my own family!)... I sometimes feel like an alien, or something. Lonely? No but there are those times when I wish I had someone to share with- I have somewhat given up on that tho. It’s not that important unless God sees fit to provide. I have made too many mistakes trying to make something out of nothing. I have recently decided that I will no longer allow myself to become bitter towards other people because they don’t get me. Who cares! No one gets to hurt me or deceive me unless I allow it and I won’t. I am still searching for whatever it is that God wants me to do in this life with this personality and all of its flaws- or gifts... people are going to continue to be people no matter what. If I am in the one percentile then that just means that I have to be more understanding of the majority. I like being different anyway:)!! Eccentric. Weird. Crazy. Judgmental. Mental. Psycho. Scary. Too deep. Over-thinker. Oh there’s more but I just laugh now at the scoffers because I know that there is something better out there for me if I just keep plugging away and do what I do best- be me and live life to the best of my ability with what I’ve been given. I must be special or I wouldn’t be in the one percentile (of every freakin test I take lol!!)... I am enjoying the postings on here but I hope that we can encourage and lift each other up rather than commiserate and turn it into pity party. We are better than that... (not saying anyone is doing that either- just saying)!

rubina369 (not verified) says...

Omg ... Its so heartwarming to read about people having the Same mindset like i am ... yes i Definitely can relate to the lonesome catlady at the mountaintop beeing satisfied by a cozy fireplace inside a wooden cabinhatch while just beeing surrounded by a few animals and a good selection of some interesting Books or at least a reasonably Internet excess ... Converting Loneliness into a peaceful lonesome excursion into your innerself by experiencing the past present and Future friendships by asking oneself if everything was is will be worth it ... And yes for sure it was is and will be because of our nature for helping each other with pure confident and understanding oneanother ... Even So may be the outcome might be disappointing at First sight but therefore the income from another person might be worth the try again and again having faith and Trust in the universe to put everything into ones favor if needed the Most ... Expect the worst so there is always enough room for the better to come ...

staceyS (not verified) says...

Its ironic and humorous for me now that I know I am an INFJ- my older sister always jabbed at me being diffferent and "something wrong with me".... I am proud I am one. Explains a lot. I have always been this way. Need to find a group of folk who are the same. Feel the same.

AmVat (not verified) says...

I don't understand why speech-pathologist is even on here. This is a profession that involves working with and speaking to many people especially of different professions such as doctors, nurses, occupational therapists, psychologists, etc. if you're planning to go into medical speech pathology. I majored in speech pathology and the grad clinicians I observed during my undergrad had bubbly and outgoing personalities especially if they were planning to work with children. I've heard of introverted grad SLPs who've shared that it was always a "fake it till you make it" fiasco where they had to fake their "bubbliness." You can choose to work with the adult population but that's mainly in the medical setting and hospitals are hectic, noisy, busy environments that I don't think INFJ types can truly thrive and be successful in. This is just my opinion, but I've heard of introverted INFJ SLPs who said they've are doing OK in this profession. 

Yamila Perdomo (not verified) says...

Thanks. Seemed like fun. Funny with the test, where it seem almost creepy like, as if; Dude, how did you know! Insightful indeed, with the kind of personally overall what I'm like as a person. Thanks. What truth and insightful information. Thanks.

Miss Typed (not verified) says...

I tested INTP in high school while living under a controlling parent. A close family member therapist pegged me an INFP as a young adult, and I ran with it. At 50, I keep testing INFJ and 1w2, both of which I strongly identify with. I've always felt like an INFP that was much more organized, driven and socially adept than the stereotype. INFJ makes more sense, and better explains my happy marriage to an ISFJ.

Seraphina (INFJ) (not verified) says...

I agree with many of the views in the description, and I appreciate how in-depth the analysis is. However, I would also like to point out that instead of painting every INFJ as actually 'fitting' into that model, the description could be phrased in such a way as to remind us that some traits are better seen as 'tendencies'. For instance, I have never felt a strong drive to better the conditions of the human race, or have any inclination to make this world a  better place. Quite the opposite. I have little patience for overly idealistic people, and community service is something I would never willingly do. That doesn't mean, of course, that I'm cold-hearted; it's just that my heart is filled to the brim with love for my family, myself, and my passions to receive much of anyone else. I feel much more strongly for fictional characters than real-life people, most of which I frankly don't give a damn for. Their own foolishness and irrationality result in their pathetic problems, and I have little patience for that, although I force myself to pretend to care.
No, I am not mistyped. Though my results vary between INFJ and INTJ, I have no doubt that I'm an F. Also, I am rarely 'quiet' or 'reserved', and none of my friends believe I'm introverted. They, apparently, think I'm extremely extroverted and dominant, which is perfectly fine by me as long as I continue to control how others see me.

Edward (not verified) says...

I have consistently tested positive as INFJ since I was 12. All I can say is most of the articles I read, and yes, this one included, are quite positive about all the qualities but lack better explanation of the downsides of the personality type. Nonetheless, it's still a pretty intersting read.

INFJedi (not verified) says...

I took the MBTI test without any knowledge of the 16 personalities and got INFJ.  I've been a physical therapist for almost 15 years, which is the first occupation listed here.  I'd say this is pretty accurate!

Finally Awake (not verified) says...

Hi INFJs! 

I've always tested as an INFP, and the last few years as an INTP, but neither seemed completely me (I usually have scores very close to the mid-point of T/F, and P/J). So forgetting all that, I decided to read through most of the profiles and when I read INFJ, a light bulb went off! Now reading all your comments here, I am absolutely sure this is my Type. I have the same issues with morality, money borrowing, people not wanting my advice, isolating to protect myself, etc, that you've all mentioned here.

But in my readings on this type, I came across this page, which really explains that sometimes we might be jumping the gun (I am definitely guilty of this!) and making snap judgements about people and situations.


As I get older, I am beginning to see that I am not always right, that I do tend to judge too quickly, and thus reject people and situations, when in fact, a little perspective on where they are coming from might actually help me see things differently. In our idealism, we want everyone and everything to be perfect, as if that were actually possible. Humans are very complicated beings (as I am learning, including myself), and perhaps we can do with some reworking on how we approach other people and situations where our snap judgements might be creating problems and causing us to isolate more than we really need to. 

I feel you guys and your anguish; it's something I've dealt with all my life too. I think we deserve to be happy and laugh a little, instead of taking everything so damn seriously, don't you agree? 

I hope that link helps in some way. It's certainly helping me look at myself and my life through different (non-judgey eyes ;-) ). I'd love to see if anyone else resonates with what I've said, as well as what the link describes. 

Naveed (not verified) says...

I am 38 years old, an electrical engineer. I took this test multiple times and came out to be either an INFJ or INFP. I am trying to figure out yet. Anyways, both personality types are misfit for an engineer, and I also strongly feel that. What is really missing in my profession is a human kind of touch which I would prefer. Humans are more interesting to me than machines. 

person who is a grill (not verified) says...

hey i just found out that i have mild autism and being that i have this personality type maybe you all have it too(tendency towards sensory overload, alienation from peers etc.) this would make sense because the majority of us are girls and girls with autism typically go undignosed because unlike autistic boys we are more in touch with our emotions and empathy for others, so check if you have some autisic traits and get back to me because i want to know if im the only weird one this time :I

INFJ Not Exactly Getting It (not verified) says...

I'm an INFJ, pretty proud of it too. I don't quite get as one though,  all of the "these awful things made me who I am," going on & "I'm so misunderstood." I find solace in the fact that my inner workings are my own and I prefer to figure myself out than to worry about the fact that I'm misunderstood. Isn't it more fulfilling to delve into the intricacies of how and why I react and think the way I do. There's a calming nature of having something so private in your mind and know it's your own, all day every day. Its fascinatingly constant and a remarkable evolutionary path. The ability to read people and break them down in your mind, figuring them out in an instant is such a wonderful tool. When you meet people you can't quite figure out completely, I find to be drawn like a moth to a flame. I want to know who they are, figure them out and then I learn something every time I do. It's not good or bad, it's knowledge. Remarkable, priceless knowledge. So, why so sad, lonely and bad things happened to me, so that's why I am rare nonsense? Be rare, be amazing and stop the negative nobody understands me stuff! Who wants to be figured out anyway? That would actually suck! Everyone would know who you are the second you walked into a room...that sounds awful to me. Just saying...

Meely (not verified) says...

One of my best friends, and roomates, is an INFJ- but I am an ISTP. We were laughing how opposite it says we are, and indeed we are different from each other, but we get along real well. I was surprised to see my type in 'Challenging Opposites' for her, but it's true that we do approach things differently. I can think of many times I have confided in her and it was just what I needed. She is wise, patient, and compassionate. I can be stubborn and kind of critical, but talking to her helps me get over that and work through other things. What I may do for her I can't say, but I think her and I are like sisters. INFJ's, in my experience, are kind and enduring people.

Jhnsml (not verified) says...

Hello Beautiful people,

I'm 24, Male (1% percent - proud). I was reading a lot about my personality using Zodiac sun sign (it explains and is also on point). But the funny thing is my Zodiac and MBTI test personality actually match on many levels. Oh, if you are wondering my sunsign is SCORPIO (Oct 31st born), Libra rising, Moon - Capricorn. I'm glad I found this test, just motivates me and increased my self-esteem from 100% to freaking infinity within seconds.! :D

Good day!

Guest (not verified) says...

Hello, all. As a fellow INFJ I would just like to post this to make you all cry:

Also, I used to be INFP. It seems major events in everyone's lives has changed a lot of you, too. I hope all of you find that one thing you're looking for. And please remember, there is always hope in this perfectly imperfect world :)

Guest (not verified) says...

To me violent occupations or occupations like police, military, firefighters DO NOT belong to INFJ.They are people who love control domination and like power to misuse.

Peggy (not verified) says...

Why is the INFJ the most dissatisfied in marriage? I'm am very much an INFJ and just celebrated our 43rd wedding anniversary.

Lawrencia (not verified) says...

After taking this test I felt like someone was describing myself to me and I was like 'wow!!'. Although at times it feels weird not being able to socialise like everyone it's more than wonderful keeping to myself.

rtoshi (not verified) says...

they really dont see what we want them to see, what we do see. its too complex for both sides, its just better to shut up.\

Guest (not verified) says...

This is so strange- I have wanted to be a speech language pathologist for a while now and I'm an INFJ! Wow!

Ngozi (not verified) says...

Can someone tell me more about this forum? (Infj's personality)

JC Dee (not verified) says...

It's a bit creepy yet amazed by how on earth a system would identify personality. Reading the article after taking the test seems like I'm looking in the mirror. There's a part I've said "Really?" but for a sudden I realised and said "aahhhh,Yeah!". LOL I guess T'was my best friends who realised the test. This is a prank I think. hahaha

Guest (not verified) says...

The most common hobby among INFJs as far as I've seen would be : watching movies/drama!
There is not a single INFJ that I met that doesn't have this hobby, yet you don't have it listed above. Are you sure you don't want to add it? And possibly remove the "art appreciation" one..?!

Sara1 (not verified) says...

I have done the test several times and most of the time I end up as an INFJ, so I guess that is most accurate. But I have also been ISFJ, INTJ och INFP.

brianhatcher31 says...

Holy cow you INFJ's really need to get out more! This message board is like 7 pages long! Ours (ESTJ) is only one page. I can see loneliness, depression and the need to express in almost every post! I can see how being such a small percentage of the population you could feel alone or misunderstood. Find something or someone who is opposite your type who can test you and force you to think outside the INFJ boxiX5ZP. Don't limit yourselves. My wife is INFJ and it forces us to move and think outside our comfort zones. She is loyal and an encourager. We are so different, but it's been so awesome as long as we are open, honest and willing. Good luck.

Lor (not verified) says...

Thank you, Brianhatcher31. You are so right!!! Earlier in my life I used to avoid the more assertive, outgoing Sensates like the plague and, I really feel sorry about this now, judged them to be shallow and not worthy of what I had to offer ("pearls before swine"). I was so wrong. In this second half of my life, I am finding I am learning so much from new Sensate friends (both Introverted and Extroverted). They have been showing me a world which I was missing for so many years. It's astonishing to be like a child now in so many ways and to be experiencing something so new at this age. The same is often true for Sensates, too, after mid-life. They want to explore the uncharted territories of the Intuitive. Same no doubt goes for Thinkers wanting to explore Feeling and vice versa. 

brianhatcher31 says...

I've taken this test 20 times in 25 years, years ago I thought I was INFJ. It turns out I am ESTJ and I married an INFJ. What a world!

wandella (not verified) says...

Hello all

My opinion is that yes, whilst we all do certainly fit into a "characteristic type", within that "type" there are lots of variations, hence the fact that we are all unique individuals, nevertheless it is interesting to explore and whilst we cannot change our fundamental characteristics we can work and build on our strengths and weaknesses to make us into more rounded individuals, after all, as the saying goes, "if we were all the same, life would be boring" and isn't that just the truth?

Sheridan McAvoy (not verified) says...

To find out that I am an INFJ was more like a relief if anything else. Ever since kindergarten, I have walked "a lonely road" as Greenday would have it. Though I have not passed further than my current Junior year in high school, I still believe I have been one from the start. I can't begin to explain how much I wanted to cry knowing what I do about myself now.

I think I could stop you here; I can already tell what some of you are going to say. "You don't know yourself yet! You're only in the eleventh grade."

On the contrary, my friends. I have suspected for the longest time I was something different than the masses. I'm secluded and more or less concealed even to my family. I find speech hard for me because people find it hard to even connect their line of thought with mine. English is my first language, but it's like they don't even understand my context. It's like I'm from past generations instead of my own; I have Ib courses, but not even the people in these classes get where I'm coming from. I'm stuck with myself, with no one to share myself to, because I am the only person that understands how my mind actually thinks. One student says that the symbolism for a dog would be companionship, but I see them as a way to be oblivious. Everyone would stare at me funny, and when I'd try to explain myself, it comes out wrong like my reasoning was the result of me not paying attention or something. Though, the English teacher would see where I'm coming from. I often feel stupid to any group of people I put myself in front of.

I'm stuck in daily quarrels with my family, because when I'm asked why I never go outside or bring friends over, they believe that I may have some sort of issue that they should take me to a psychiatrist over. My preferred genre was also called into question when my brother convinced them my music was satanist. My grandparents also questioned me, because I would always question every religion instead of committing to one. They believed I was an atheist for the longest time. I felt as if I was truly alone in a would that was becoming my own. To be honest, I never really minded this realization, but it bothered me that everyone I should feel close to felt that something was wrong with me. (Though they never admitted it) In school, I always felt like the people I enjoyed hanging around with were just disappointing to me. They never inspired me, and they always leaned on me. It's not like I minded really, but I always wished people wouldn't try to become too attached to me because I knew in the end, I wasn't the person they thought I was. I never committed to any friendship, but to myself, and saying this does not make me feel ashamed. I always knew I put myself selfishly before others. I would rather stare at the clouds than be at the company many others.

It's a nice thing to know now because I feel strongly powerful over my own self. I can be more comfortable knowing that in seven million people, there are at least 140,000 like me, living their lives and thinking the same thing I am at this very moment. (Not being literal there) I feel as if no one will understand the process in which we think, but I'm glad. We are more so unpredictable to the ones around us and unique.

I've been drawing since I was small, and have held it dear ever since; my uncle has gotten me into writing, and I have gone as far in two books with sixteen chapters each.

I just wanted to share a little bit of myself with you guys! Maybe some of you can relate to me; I look forward to meeting an actual INFJ one day... if the 2 percent would grace me with such luck.

Silence (not verified) says...

I don't really know where to start. I've just recently found out I'm INFJ and it's about as much of a relief as it is stressful. I now know why I completely shut down when my parents are angry with me; why I can't be around people for too long before my mask starts to slip and stress makes me sassy; why I have such an INCREDIBLY low tolerance for bullshit, among other things. What I'm commenting for is hopefully a little advice, in a very roundabout way. Even if no one comments, it's been so nice reading through these comments and articles and knowing I'm not truly alone.

When I was in high school, I was the victim of a sociopathic boyfriend. He nearly tore my family apart; my mother attempted suicide, I was kicked out of my house, I was cheated on, lied to, and lied myself. The kicker was after I broke up with the psychopath in my first quarter of college. My mother, under the guise of "wanting to fix someone at any cost", performed sexual acts twice on this person. Naturally, I lost it. Granted it was a mostly silent breakdown, but I just imploded. I became the worst version of myself; a withdrawn, depressed, anxious, self-centered asshole.

This breach of trust, coming from someone who I never would have expected it from, is something I still struggle with today, more than seven years later. My college life spiraled. I maintained for about a year and a half before I started failing classes, lying, and heavily using marijuana. My relationships with my father and brother also struggled; they're very literal, concrete people and don't understand my silence and how emotional I really am underneath.

Today, I have less than a quarter's left of credits before I graduate with a bachelor's degree in Comparative Literature with an emphasis in Cinema Studies. I'm happy I'm getting there, but I'm not sure what I'm going to do afterward. I just know that I want MORE. I feel like I'm ready to go back to school and really dedicated myself to something to will enrich people's lives; something that I was so excited to do when I first started college before my life came crashing down.

So: I love kids and the elderly. For them, I have endless patience. Endless. I love movies/television (obviously). Books. Romance in a slow, developing way. Telling people what to do. Different cultures and their people. I can speak French. I love to travel and plan trips. I love organizing and designing living spaces.

Does any of the above sound like you? If so, please please let me know, as an INFJ, what you do for a living and how you got there. Again, even if no one comments, it's been so very nice learning that I'm not the only one like me.

Guest (not verified) says...


You are not alone. Being an INFJ (i didnt have a clue during my college days), i had a very depressive time around almost 7 years due to broken relationships, inability to understand myself and the inability to express my feelings. My best friend was really intelligent & knew me well, since I would often say half sentences and he would understand what i was trying to say...regardless, i had always been a loner & it took me so many years to become stable.

I graduated from pharmacy but, decided to change my career track. I did an MBA, specializing in marketing and I am currently working as a business consultant in a local firm in my country. Interestingly , I had no clue of how I would end up but, knew that I loved solving problems and wanted some type of work that is dynamic. I may not have ended up where I wanted to be...but, I think I ended up somewhere comfortable for now....Being a problem solver, I love solving complex personal problem for others (kind of like a counselor) but, ironically, I cant solve the ones with myself. :)

If you need any help or someone to talk to, you can message me. I would be glad to help out my listening and/or providing some solutions.

Take care.

heyworld (not verified) says...

that is me ... that is why I feel weirdo in this world

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm very fascinated by you people. I'm not INFJ..I'm labeled ESTJ but am also a bit ENTP, but I've been encouraged by a wonderful INFJ I've recently begun speaking with to read up on her type to get a better understanding, and whilst reading this comment thread, It brings me joy and anxiety to see such awesome people opening up. I want you all to know that you're not strange, there's nothing wrong with're just misunderstood and simply incapable of vocalizing your thoughts to those who aren't the same. I feel like I need an INFJ in my life,though. I wish every one of you all the happiness in the world.

Agata (not verified) says...

Couple of years ago I was, I think, ENFJ and thought something wasn't right. Now, after taking some online test, it looks like I am INFJ and stuff makes more sense. It is a bittersweet feeling.

Guest (not verified) says...

Has anyone seen the movie divergent... Being infj kinda feels like that to me ... I'm all things non conformant..

Guest Siobhan (not verified) says...

This INFJ, a nurse and active Church member for 45+ years, who has dreamed of that little cabin in the mountains with a fireplace, lots of books and at least a lab and a couple of cats (I love all animals), have felt like that Alien my entire life. I've actually been labeled "weird"! It's good to know I'm not alone.

Guest (not verified) says...

I recently found out I'm an INFJ and it makes complete sense. I've never felt like I really fit in. I'm that kid that ate lunch in the library. I've always loved literature and history and would love a career related to either, but it just doesn't seem practical. Nothing else excites me and I'm afraid I won't be happy if I settle for something else, but realistically I need a job. Any advice would be welcomed.

not to be named here (not verified) says...

I quite find this to match me. I've done the test a few times and the only deviation from INFJ was ISFJ with S winning by only one percent. l do also find frustration just like many others here. Most people I see think of me as weird and do not delve further to find out what I am like. That caused me to create a belief that I deserved to be alone because I was not worthy in their eyes, yet I chose to stick to my core preferences. Eventually someone chose to accept me into the more... outcasted group and I found many of them were odd and crazy like me. A few of them have really become close in the fact I have entrusted them with my inner fears, and so have they. They keep my frustration lower, though I still resent how others cannot see what I can. That many people around eachother do not know and cannot detect inner turmoil and try to help them, which can actually save lives. Even then, just choosing to accept humanity's fate rather than trying to make the world a better place makes me angry. Though I will say Introversion is a good trait for me as I wear glasses which hide my emotions from anyone who may share the power of looking into eyes and seeing the core basics of one's personality and inner mood. I also share the instincts to bend myself to my friend's will, and even new people just to make them feel better. As for what else I have read in this comment section, yes people may change, though mostly people will not give up on their core values, rather adapting to others when socializing, and venting when alone or choosing to leave a group entirely. Those who do change completely often lead towards a dark path unknowingly, and if not saved can lead to another life no longer living. Unless they truly believe in the new core values presented. As for empathy, I have a lot of it. Not just because of my personality, but experiences too. Many think of helping the victim, though leave the destroyer behind, calling them heartless no matter what, yet they can change into a caring person. I even have experience being a victim of self-hatred, but I deal with it. Though I cannot bear for others to have the same issues, making me want to do anything to get rid of the burden. Even now, as you can see a lot about my ideas, there is still much more to me than this, and it would take a long time to even get me to open up about other things. Sadly I believe I must take my leave for now. Perhaps I will see a response soon. I do apologize for any mistakes and I wish you all a good time of day or night.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hey everyone

I just want to say thanks for sharing your comments. I only found out about this test today and when I took it, low and behold... THE RESULT WAS INCONCLUSIVE! I was given 5+ different personalities to choose from. 'which ever best fits you' OMG great I knew I wasn't going to fit in anywhere!! Story of my life! Haha But as I read the INFJ page it was like my life was written here. I couldn't believe it.
Example: I've worked in the Medical Supply Industry for 6 years helping people get the home supplies they need to get better. Like braces, wheelchairs, hospital beds, and so on. I absolutely love what I do and try my hardest to help each patient so it doesn't take long for me to come up with some kind of solution if I ever hit a wall, as strange they usually sound to my coworkers. I know I'm not saving any lives but when someone hurts, I hurt. I've always been this way.
I mean, growing up and still now, I am great with meeting and helping new people, but "fitting in" around people in my everyday life (friends/coworkers/family), it just always feels like I don't belong. I love what I do because once I help these people they're gone. It sounds bad and I'm sure people around me would say otherwise about me because I'm so friendly, but truth be told I'd rather not be around people. Especially people I know.
I've always known my way of thinking was weird. An old boss told me I was 'UNIQUE'!! At the time I did NOT take that as a compliment, even though she meant it to be. And my boyfriend tells me that he doesn't understand me to the point that he goes online searching for some the statistics of what most people do in whatever the situation may be. He doesn't understand when I tell him that just because the statistic says so doesn't mean I do too. Whatever I do or don't do and approve of or not it's because I have thought out all the after effects and I feel that at that moment I'm choosing the best thing. But that doesn't mean my mind cannot be changed with better reasoning than my own.
But all in all I feel lucky enough that even though he doesn't understand the way I see things, he still "accepts and loves the weirdness that is me!"

DP (not verified) says...

I want to share the perspective of an INFJ who became a medical doctor. I knew it was the wrong fit the entire time. Medical school was a living nightmare for me! Talking to patients was enjoyable, but I hated memorizing minute details, writing prescriptions for treatment, working overnight, and doing procedures. Also, the competitive environment and influence of Big Pharma made me lose respect for medicine.

I ended up specializing in pathology (making diagnoses by inspecting biopsies/tissue under the microscope). I loved looking at the beautiful cells under the microscope but could not handle other doctors constantly yelling at me for diagnoses. Also, the amount of information to learn and keep track of was unbelievable! Although I appeared calm on the outside, I was constantly panicking on the inside because I wasn’t 100% sure of my diagnoses. The 13 hour workdays and stress levels (ex: the fear of malpractice for misdiagnosing a cancer) finally got to me.

I quit 1.5 years ago and still haven’t figured out what to do next. My main obstacle is employers see me as “overqualified” for entry-level positions in other industries such as non-profits. But I have no desire to return to the medical field again.

The moral of the story…INFJ’s please think twice before entering medical school. You are likely to get burnt out as a doctor because it’s emotionally, mentally, and physically draining! If you absolutely must become a doctor, please consider going to a less competitive medical school and doing a residency in family practice. Just my two cents!

EH (not verified) says...

I feel the same way...I'm a physical therapist, but I quit my position at a big corporate hospital a little over half a year ago because of the long hours, unending work, and this feeling where in the long run, none of what I did actually mattered. I struggled with managing patient's feelings - their feelings of despair and disempowerment. The hardest thing was the back-to-back appointments - I can say 100% of the time I came in early, worked through lunch, and after hours just to get all my notes done and phone calls in. The other thing that was hard was just the sheer amount of extroverting I had to do. I actually do enjoy getting into people's minds and guiding them into a place of self-value again, but it was difficult with the structured environment, paperwork, and the call for high-efficiency of 13-15 patients in a supposedly 10- hour day (I was there often for 13 hours daily). Though I do find my knowledge of the human body very useful, I'm struggling to figure out how I can offer my skills in such a way that's no so draining, but will provide me enough income to keep modestly living in a balanced way.

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