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The INFJ Personality Type

INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others realize their potential. Creative and dedicated, they have a talent for helping others with original solutions to their personal challenges.

The Counselor has a unique ability to intuit others' emotions and motivations, and will often know how someone else is feeling before that person knows it himself. They trust their insights about others and have strong faith in their ability to read people. Although they are sensitive, they are also reserved; the INFJ is a private sort, and is selective about sharing intimate thoughts and feelings.

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What does INFJ stand for?

INFJ is one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. INFJ is an acronym for the personality traits of Introversion, iNtuition, Feeling, and Judging. The INFJ type is also called the "Counselor" and is described as idealistic, compassionate, and sensitive.

Each of the four letters of the INFJ code signifies a key personality trait of this type. INFJs are energized by time alone (Introverted), focus on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), make decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and prefer to be planned and organized rather than spontaneous and flexible (Judging).

INFJ Values and Motivations

INFJs are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a better place.

INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, committed few. Although their rich inner life can sometimes make them seem mysterious or private to others, they profoundly value authentic connections with people they trust.

How Others See the INFJ

INFJs often appear quiet, caring and sensitive, and may be found listening attentively to someone else’s ideas or concerns. They are highly perceptive about people and want to help others achieve understanding. INFJs are not afraid of complex personal problems; in fact, they are quite complex themselves, and have a rich inner life that few are privy to. They reflect at length on issues of ethics, and feel things deeply. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.

Because INFJs are such complex people, they may be reluctant to engage with others who might not understand or appreciate them, and can thus be hard to get to know. Although they want to get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw.

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How rare is the INFJ personality type?

INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up:

  • 2% of the general population
  • 2% of women
  • 1% of men

Famous INFJs

Famous INFJs include Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Emily Bronte, Carl Jung, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Florence Nightingale, Shirley MacLaine, Jimmy Carter, and Edward Snowden.

INFJ Quotes

"The visions of the INFJs tend to concern human welfare, and their contributions are likely to be made independent of a mass movement."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"INFJs' nonstop search for learning, self-growth, and development—and wishing the same for everyone else—makes them very reassuring to others and people worth emulating."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

Facts about INFJs

Interesting facts about the INFJ:

  • Least common type in the population
  • On personality trait scales, scored as Sincere, Sympathetic, Unassuming, Submissive, Easygoing, Reserved and Patient
  • Among highest of all types in college GPA
  • Among most likely to stay in college
  • Most likely of all types to cope with stress by seeing a therapist
  • Highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
  • Personal values include Spirituality, Learning, and Community Service
  • Commonly found in careers in religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

INFJ Hobbies and Interests

Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading, socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.

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blueapple (not verified) says...

WOAAAAAAH I can highly relate to your comment bruh. Sometimes, I feel like I'm being fake to people even when I'm not trying to be fake.

Swatinegi (not verified) says...

I really agree with you... Feeling like a third wheel since forever, since amongst the kindergarten I think. Also to feel that bI can never be real to anyone. Exactly. I have been with my ENTP bf for 4 years and we get along well yet I feel I am not and can never be fully real to him. I will be to complex to understand. I tried to change, mix up but the more I do the more I feel as if I am denying truth to myself. Let me know if you would wish to connect.

runcold (not verified) says...

you sound just like  me and yeah i know how it feels like to have such feeling when you are a man and i am going through it right now my parents always forcing me to socialize and its not that i dont try i do try but everytime it actually ends up draining my energy to the lowest and i feel like the outcast ive never ever met anyone in my life who thinks like me and i wish someday i will but no matter how hard i try i just can not change what i am ... hope i could meet you someday

Celine (not verified) says...

It's part of growing up and it's amazing how you're so fully aware and willing to understand yourself. That's a crucial and important step to then pave a better path. I felt the same way when I was younger and as I get older I realize I get wiser because of the tough questions and challenges faced. You'll use that wisdom to make good decisions in the future. Keep going. Sometimes what makes you unique can be a strength. Take the time to learn about yourself and embrace you!

Angelica07 (not verified) says...

Same here! I can't easily connect with anyone, there's always a wall between me and everybody, even with the people closest to me. I feel like I have different versions of myself when I face different people and it's exhausting sometimes. I often wondered why I'm like this but when I found out I'm INFJ and had a deeper understanding of my personality, it felt less weird. We're just not the same with the rest and we're not just different, we're peculiar. I no longer have to force myself to fit in, I quite enjoy this uniqueness that most people don't understand. INFJ minds are extraordinary, we see through things and we go beyond normal, we have a deeper understanding of everyone and everything, our brains work like crazy - we're on a different wavelength! Shutting out people for us is normal and necessary, we feel so much and we see so much in people, having to deal with many is way too much for us. Socializing is just optional and not necessary, most of the time we tend to avoid it. We seek deeper connections, peace, and harmony. Being an INFJ is a gift, embrace it.

WillyWonka (not verified) says...

Not that it's even important personally. But as an INFJ male and having obligations to earn and make the big bucks for a larger cause, it really sucks to know that we generally earn less because of our darn personalities.

Not having self hate, but I guess I just gotta grind and do better

Aamir Hafiz (not verified) says...

Hey dude, I know how you feel. I'm a 30 year old INFJ-T male. I've struggled my whole life to know myself and others around me. I always felt different but never truly realised it until I got to my teens and seen how different I was. For the last 15 years (yes half my life) i have tried to understand my self from the perspective of psychology, religion and spirituality and have found answers in all of them. The reality of it is, they all confirm i am different and supposed to be different. Einstein was different and few could match his intelligence. He was different and so are we (though we aren't necessarily smart like him).
 

The point is, careers and jobs have been the biggest set back. What comes easy and logical to most people was hell for me. I struggled to make sense of the job system, i hated corporate life and still do. So i became a psychologist but wanted to open my own practice. I am still new to self employment and its hard work because it involves a lot of marketing. I have always struggled with making money. People find ways of seling their skillset whereas I've found hard to do that with little success. My parents were upset with me too not knowing how to help me, I've had anxiety my whole life and its only through therapy over the last few years ive managed to control it. No medication ever. Proud of that. I've also had a stutter since i was 10 and its never left me. In my teens it got so bad I couldn't say my name or speak and had frequent blocks, no sound would come from my mouth and it was agony. I wanted to hide from everyone. I still stutter and i hate it when clients have certain names I can't say because i stutter so bad that people think im crazy, it kills me inside. But i am educated and intelligent enough. Such paradoxes. I wish i could go to a jungle and live with a tribe doing manual work. No university, no fees, no taxes, no bills, no job applications, no rat race. But i have to live in this world in a city full of unaware people. 
 

i get your struggle my friend, i am not there 100% to tell you about success myself. Once i get there i can share my tidbits. People my age have thousands in the banks whereas in lucky if i have a couple grand at any one time. Being an INFJ means you only do what suits your higher aims and anything less is futile. Thats been my achilles heel thats kept me from being financially successful. If anyone knows how they countered this please let me know. I would be ever grateful to pass the knowledge on. 

AnomalousExistence (not verified) says...

I have to oppose (I am INFJ-A), harness well your potentials, you will not only make big bucks, but you will help a lot of people. You will feel valued, and you will shift the life of other people with your talents. I am not the only INFJ who is becoming a victim of being too successful. 

Kathleen Anne (not verified) says...

I'm trying to work out my career - do you think INFJ's can make it as business leaders?

Peter (not verified) says...

Definitely. I've done it for people.  It was the most lonesome time of my life though.  So get in.grab your money and get back to loving😉

maxioosLP (not verified) says...

as an INFJ-A yes, follow what you're here for, you're successful in whatever you're into, for years i couldn't settle down with a regular career or job and instead i fought and struggled to start up my own path and business, and i somehow had my business vision not only to get financially better but to help others, helping others bring you just and recognition thus success 

Regina (not verified) says...

So I finally found where I belong to...Totally same story!!and I got to read about the dark sides of INFJ’s personality too ...I was surprised to know about the Zodiac signs too,at least it’s cool knowing I’m not all that weird...I’m still normal!!

Female intj (not verified) says...

Really confused by these tests. I had to take the test after having had a Burn-out and looking for another job (I really don't want to go that deep anymore in my entire life). The result was Intj but even though I recognise myself in great parts the part saying I am not tactful and often hurt people with my straight forwardness set me to tears for days. I couldn't sleep at night. Doesn't feel right. The test only asked how you behave at your workplace but is it possible you can teach yourself to act a certain way in order to protect yourself? I am not afraid to speak my mind in meetings and I do get an impatient feeling when meetings take hours without ever reaching a conclusion. But when I speak my mind in a rational way it is only because I learned the hard way that if you don't want people to walk all over you in a highly competitive (male dominated) field (as women are underrepresented in managent functions) you have to speak up and sound as logical as possible so they would not see your true feelings (because showing emotions would come over as weakness). I always focussed on the content and tried to reach a consensus' although I could be very firm when I saw people would get hurt by the decisions others are about to make or when a decision was really contradictory to my personal values. No wonder I ended up with a burn out, faking all the time to be someone I was not. Unfortunately my job coach relies only on the result of the test and is trying to push me into the field of pure logic where I feel I will end up being completely miserable again. 

Male INFJ (not verified) says...

I would urge you to reflect on what you want. Start by forming it into a question. (e.g. Why I am confused?) Then turn it into a statement. (e.g. I feel confused because I want to know why I need to protect myself.)

I cannot tell you how you feel or think, because only you can truly know that, and I fear this message will not reach you because I see a lot of blaming others for your confusion—job coach, men, fields, workplaces. I can't blame you for your displacement; your feelings are real, and I can sense your distress, which is manifesting in unhealthy patterns, causing more distress. You may even be triggered that I am admitting that I'm a male. But please see my reflection and consider that the pain you feel now in reflection will be better than the pain you feel later.

Here it is: I see someone who has an irrational fear of protecting themselves when it isn't always needed. I see someone hurting from things that happened to her in the past, someone replaying the same story because it feels safe even if self-sabotaging. I see someone who needs to fight what popular culture calls "inner demons" or else other people will have to teach her through strong boundaries with her. I see someone who needs to acknowledge that the first step off a downward spiral of low confidence, passivity, failure, and shame, is to acknowledge these bad feelings as natural.

You are an imperfect but beautiful individual. You aren't to blame for what happened in your past, but you are responsible for what you do with it in the present. Here is a great resource: https://thewellnesssociety.org/

INFJ MALE (not verified) says...

Thank you. I'm an infj with cptsd so sadly I've gone dark. Idk who you are but thank you your words inspired me. I'm not giving up never have and never will. Just sometimes it's tough to keep fighting yourself day in and day out. What you wrote truly resonated and I hope others find your kind words.

Aurora (not verified) says...

Hi,I am a fellow INFJ.I have recently discovered that.Before I knew that I am actually an INFJ I used to feel like the only weird human out there.Like I talk to myself all the time in my head and play out scenerios and incidents (even rn I am talking to myself if I should write this or not lol).This is so serious sometimes that I even considered seeing a psychologist to check if I am crazy.Sometimes I overthink and over analyse a situation and I have some crazy intuitions (mostly bad intuition)....I am clearly an  introvert and I know it but sometimes I behave like extrovert when I am with my extrovert friends....I always felt like an outcast even when I am chatting in a group of friends like I am happily chatting with them but this "happy" seems fake to myself.

Only now I know that I am not weird but I am actually INFJ..And I am sooo happy to know that I am not weird that I can't....express it in words ㅠ.ㅠ 

Kiky (not verified) says...

Hi, I just tried out my 16personalities test a few days ago and found out that I'm an Advocate INFJ-T, wow I didn't take it seriously, as I have been trying to understand my personality thru my zodiac sign, which pretty much close to describing my personality, well I'm a Cancerian, so being shy, dreamer, sensitive that who I am. till I read more and search more about this INFJ type, and Yes it pretty much describes all of my characters, and I'm so happy, I'm not the only weird person in this world :). Until today I still remember clearly my childhood problem struggling so much with this shyness, I have no friend, I'm too shy and scared to get out of the house. Till one day I finally make friends, and once I get out from home I will go so far away and never get back home, I become super extrovert making a lot of friends. And that's still happened with me right now so most of the people who don't really know me look me as an extrovert who being ignorant when I don't talk with them anymore. but actually that just my real me, which I have been faking all the time. And during this pandemic, this is the moment of truth for the INFJ. I can stay at home for weeks not seeing anybody else except my family and I'm still fine with that. I'm only contacting my very close friend which I don't need to be faking. 

And during this self-reflection moment, I found out that my jobs have never been matched for me INFJ, especially current job, I have been struggling too much every morning to get myself accept this. Also, my relationship has been a problem for ages. I'm 35 now and I'm still single, I had my hot and cold relationship with my ex for 9 years. I guess he is an INFJ too. we can feel so much each other without saying anything, and that can be a problem sometimes. 

Now. I'm just trying to accept what is in my plate, me and my INFJ and just be more grateful, so many people lost what they have in this pandemic. Being grateful and accept your self that the key. 

Sajra (not verified) says...

OMG! Yes, everything you just said...

Reading all these comments made me realize that I am not alone, thank you all. I just hope that one day I could meet some of you🙏

KristinaF (not verified) says...

Seriously! It's like I'm reading about myself. The overthinking, over analyzing and scenario/imagination part. I'm crying. It has always felt like I'm the only one doing this :,( ! Thank you for sharing. Made my day. I'm not alone and I'm not crazy or weird. <3

kendall (infj) (not verified) says...

i've NEVER related more to a post than this

INFJ Female (not verified) says...

I'm happy I've found this chat with people like me)) I also talk with myself a lot. Just the whole time when I'm not speaking or reading, I have some conversations in my head. And, actually, I really like them))

Sandy_0888 (not verified) says...

I am an INFJ. I just learned this when the moment came that I cannot understand myself anymore, and that I wanted to visit a psychiatrist. I talk to myself in my head. Hahaha no

Indra (not verified) says...

So, you meet therapist? How is the result?
What did he/she told about your 'weirdness'? Is that categorized as 'normal'?

Tony Croley (not verified) says...

I am an INFJ and the exact same way. I get into arguments with myself and half the time lose the argument, haha.

Sarah ♡♡♡ (not verified) says...

I so identify with everything you said above. I am the exact same way. I've never really fully felt like I "belong" anywhere, but I make do. I took an MBTI test years ago and found out I was an INFJ, and talked to my mother about it. Turns out that she's an INFJ too. I guess I must've inherited it from her. Then after that I found out a lot of people fake being INFJ's because they're really rare and then I felt very awkward saying that I was one, haha. But I am! I truly am! And on the Enneagram side of personality types, im a type 4.

Anon (random user) (not verified) says...

Omg i also imagine various scenarios and situations in my head... same with the overthinking, I'm trying not to analyze situations too much anymore because it gets me stressed lol. 

*insert user name* (not verified) says...

Why are the careers for INFJ so few compared to other types? People as diverse as MLK to Marie Kondo to Lady Gaga are said to be this personality type. Really frustrated w this list. 

(Elmer) (not verified) says...

Hello,

I took this test and I got INF with a 50/50 split between P & J. Its really interesting looking at the similarities and differences between the comments sections for those types, as well as the pages themselves. I relate to both to an extent. Did anyone else find themselves between types or identify with more than one type?

Asma (not verified) says...

Hello, yes I was wondering about this too. I am INJ with an equal split of T and F. I have the same case with the enneagram test too as I seem to be both 4 and 5. Have you found this with your enneagram?

itsHans (not verified) says...

hey. I realized i'm both INFP and INFJ too. I did the test at 16personalities.com and after that, I got the premium profiles of both types.

What I intuit is, I was an INFP, who is growing to become an INFJ. I found that the pains that INFPs. had were the ones that I once had before, and the negative behaviours are the ones that I struggled (really did) to change and breakthrough.

As I look back towards my life, finding experiences that resonated with the words for the profiles, it was evident to me that I did transition from INFP to INFJ. 

The INFP spoke to the "past and present" me, and the INFJ spoke to me in the "present" and "what I'm becoming (intuition!)" me.

Perhaps it's true that not everybody can be categorized into one of 16 personalities.

AmberP. (not verified) says...

Of all the astrological signs, charts, readings, and anything else as to deciphor my "core" being, now some transparency. In the 80's, when we were given tests to better understand what career path suit our personality, it would have been far more beneficial to have revealed that I was an INFJ and then known what the hell the definition was for INFJ. Took 45 years to have some insight as to why I have never quite fit in, even when I was fitting in. As if I have sorta always been outside the looking glass veiwing the world in action, separate from literally, the world. The most accurate description to who I am that I have ever been given. I am actually really greatful that there is such a personality test and that it reveals so much detail to being an INFJ. Thanks!

Monamarie (not verified) says...

Like you Amber, I've never fit in either.  I was just thinking about it this morning, that I've never found my "tribe". I'm working on developing some better habits for a healther life and I found a copy of my test results.

I took this test in Sept 2018 but I don't think I was ready to process the meaning.  Today, the Universe says I am...and I am. A book called "When" came into my life this week too...it's, (as you can probably discern if you're reading about this personality type), about timing! I'm working on incorporating more exercise into my life now and another book came into my life this week called: "Weapons of Fitness".  What a fun title!  

I don't have many friends and I thought it was because I'm not good at setting boundaries and then get drained.  And truth is, the overcaring part of me is not.  Makes complete sense as I'm reading about my personality type.

One of my favorite jobs was a cocktail server.  There I got to have fun with people (only worked weekends) and go home and recharge. People do drain me but I've always been interested in people. I read every auto/biography in the school library when I was young and my favorite books today are about social science.

I've always considered myself intuitive and I think I'm going to work on developing that part of my personality..it's spiritually fascinating. 

Bottom line:  I think this personality type explanation, fits my personal experiences. I'm glad to be at a place in my life, ready to learn more about me and experience the synchronicities occuring in my life right now.

 

 

Aron (not verified) says...

I am quite sure INFJ is not so uncommon. I can pass as ENFJ if I were to answer the questions based on my public / work persona. INFJ when I am grounded .

Besides , INFJ T is a whole another personality. You would have serious difficulty coping with INFJ T if they are not scientifically rooted. I believe people shift from one to another.. It takes a lot of dialogue and inner refinement to get your Briggs sorted . ..

Thysta says...

There is a difference between manipulating a test or gettin a wrong result as INFJ, and actually being INFJ. Stop faking.

Dyan (not verified) says...

I have taken  MBTI test several times in my life over the course of 20 years. I have had the same results every time. INFJ. I can still relate to what you are saying though. I sometimes feel like when I am at work I flip a switch in order to do my job which entails challenging tasks for my type but since my core is INFJ. I'm dedicated and I refuse to let people down. If necessary, I will sacrifice happiness in my career just to see the company I work for and the people in it succeed. 

Stacie (not verified) says...

You are spot on with my beliefs Aron! My personality type can change based on what type of mood I am in when I take the test. Thank you for validating my feelings!

Lilith (not verified) says...

the real you can't never be changed not even by mood shifts, that is the very reason we all got but 1 personality. the fact you got a different results when you been happy,sad or angry doesn't changed the inner you.

Darrell Hall (not verified) says...

Your absolutely correct.

INFJ Guy (not verified) says...

As an INFJ just ask yourself do people give you energy or take it?  As far as professional vs proivate we INFJ's hold ourselves to the same standards.  INFJ's are also not overly emotional.  We have an easy time discerning what you want from a situation and what drives your decesions.  In fact we usually have to take a step back and not discredit what you want because usually others are driven by selfish desires.  Having worked in corporate America for decades it usally comes down to creating win win situations.  You get what you want as long as some others benefit as well.  Fairness, equality, compassion drive us and greed discusts us.

Infjlady (not verified) says...

Spot on infj guy. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Stephen Okocha (not verified) says...

You are very correct. We hate greed and love the win-win scenario.  Alot of people who tend to know the real inner me, tend to take an advantage because I care for them and their needs most times. I'm glad I came upon this and I feel I now know myself better and can pursue my dreams with an utmost energy that yes! I've been doing it right all along. 

kristina mcclure (not verified) says...

Our work personality is based upon our stage persona and not truly based on our true self whether you are being grounded or not. INFJ personality types can be quite ungrounded. Piss one off, see how that goes for ya. 

INFJ - Jonathan (not verified) says...

"I can pass as ENFJ..." To the novice of MBTI, I do think ENFJ and INFJ can feel really similar. If you had experience with the two types it would be easier for you to see the clear differences.

 

The INFJ is brave and selfless and desired by many, but desires Few. The ENFJ trys to be desired by everyone and is not brave. In comparison ENFJ is almost like an INFJ wannabe. 

 

INFJs always want to be alone. ENFJs never want to be alone and are wonderful but ENFJs are not introverted. INFJs pretend not to be but 100% are introverts. This does not insinuated they do not have a care for humanity, big difference.

 

Purpose of Comment: The test does not determine your type. If you cannot answer questions correctly because you don't understand question well enough or for example cannot read etc.. You will get incorrect results. 

 

Your real type is undeniable because the letters you get back for example INFJ equate to something. The something being a set of cognitive functions that have an order of desired use along with a natural ability/power potential associated with it. This combination and order give you a "personality type". Having your first two functions ordered as Ni/Fe will be different than Fe/Ni. These equate to clearly different things which is obvious upon research.

 

These functions determine your type. The test is just a tool for you to get an idea of your type without a professional to help you understand. This does not mean you cannot get the wrong result on the test, because for example you want to be extroverted but are not really and so instead of being objective you move it more towards nuetral answers etc..

 

LAST: Check your cognitive functions to know and verify your type. You are one or the other. When you understand more you will realize how incredibly foolish it sounds when people say stuff like "I am a INFP/J" or your own case here, "I/ENFJ. 

 

PS. No hate, I love ENFJs. One of my favorite types. Hope this info helps give some deeper perspective.

Amos (not verified) says...

Gotta disagree with you there. I tested equally for ENFJ, INFJ and ENFP. 48% introvert, 52% extrovert which is more or less what I've always said about myself. I don't think they are mutually exclusive and aspects of both describe exactly what I believe about myself.

Abigail says...

I type as an INFP as my top type, but I feel so much more like an INFJ. And I'm so confused because I feel good when I counsel others, but lately I can't seem to have any one talk to me. I have been more of a talker than a listener. I have always had a deep desire to heal others souls, and when I don't have anyone to talk to me I become talkative, and it feels so wrong. I have also been having an extremely tough year, which is contributing to my more talkative side popping up. It's even worse because people think I'm really weird and I know I'm not myself, and it's just awful. I keep wrapping myself in these sad and dark thoughts, because I can't find the light and the dark is so comfortable and strange it's hard to leave. I hate talking too much, I want to talk as little as possible but I want people to know me so bad I feel like I need to sacrifice my wants to find someone who will understand. But no one ever does and none ever really will. 

I am not the emotional INFP, but I'm much better at hiding my emotions, and I see all the INFP stuff and don't really relate, but almost all of the INFJ I DO relate to. Am I mistyping? I know my top three are INFJ, INTP, and INFP, but based on my personality it seems they should be in that order in stead of the other way around. No one understands me, including myself. Ugh.

 

Gwenny (not verified) says...

Hi

I relate to what you are saying. I am now in a period where I feel that I talk more than I listen. But it s because I am out of balance in an other area. Could this be the same for you? But when I am in balance I can listen and give others space and even guide them. Something tells me you are a good listener too. Just a little confused for the moment. Find the reason and you ll solve the problem.

Hope it helps. Take care. Be your own best friend and the others will follow.;-)

Swati R (not verified) says...

Hey.... so reading your comment just made feel like I'm not the only one who has a difficulty in finding people who understand me. Being an INFJ I perfectly understand what you're feeling, I'm presently going through something similar. 

But we INFJs have the tendency of being perfectionists, and that often leads us to be hard on ourselves. If someone doesn't understand you, it is their problem, not yours. Don't be hard on yourself for wanting to talk. It's normal to want to talk more, because you just want to be heard. I kinda did that these past few years, so I get it. But no one needs to understand you more than you need to understand yourself. You are the most important person in your life. You must always come first, you become your own priority,  because no one is going to do that for you. Learn to accept and love who you are, you are a unique person. Believe that, understand that, love that.

I probably went overboard with this rant, but yeah. :P

Genevieve (not verified) says...

Speaking as an INFJ I observed that you go into great detail about youself and that should give you a big clue that you are not an INFJ. I mean this in nicest way but INFJ's realy don't share the details of thier inner world unless they can trust you with their very sensive, complex selves. Also, introverts  will reach within for answers and extroverts reach out. I wonder therefore if you are an extrovert perhaps? You say that you become talkative when others are not. In reality I am glad to have the silence so I can have a break from people and retreat back into myself. Silence is a wonderful thing for me and unless I am passionate about  somthing. I am reserved and secretive most of the  the time.  Look the world needs all types and being an open and expressive person is just as impactful on others but in a different way. Be yourself and celebrate you! Check out ENFJs. That might be your type. They are very simular to INFJs. 

Proshat (not verified) says...

Dear Abigail,

It seems like you have problem wirh understanding yourself and your personality. The tests are not 100% correct, they are just some guesses. Moreover, personality types are not fixed and they might change from time to time. So it is natural to feel confused. What that matters is not the personality type itself, it just matters that you finally understand yourself, your functions and the reason behind your behaviour and thoughts. All of these test are just some tools to give you a better idea of yourself, of who you are. So take it easy my friend :) You and the way you feel are important not the test results.

I admire your curiosity, your passion to keep looking for the true you. I believe you are not weird. But you are very special, unique and rare. You have the courage to discover your hidden parts and that is something the not everyone can do.

Finding out your personlity type is not enough to find out everything. Just keep looking with different perpectives and believe that you are on a right path, a path that leads you toward happiness, which is the result of discovering how precious you are.

Take care

your "me" (not verified) says...

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