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The INFJ Personality Type

INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity and a drive to help others realize their potential. Creative and dedicated, they have a talent for helping others with original solutions to their personal challenges.

The Counselor has a unique ability to intuit others' emotions and motivations, and will often know how someone else is feeling before that person knows it himself. They trust their insights about others and have strong faith in their ability to read people. Although they are sensitive, they are also reserved; the INFJ is a private sort, and is selective about sharing intimate thoughts and feelings.

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What does INFJ stand for?

INFJ is one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. INFJ is an acronym for the personality traits of Introversion, iNtuition, Feeling, and Judging. The INFJ type is also called the "Counselor" and is described as idealistic, compassionate, and sensitive.

Each of the four letters of the INFJ code signifies a key personality trait of this type. INFJs are energized by time alone (Introverted), focus on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), make decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and prefer to be planned and organized rather than spontaneous and flexible (Judging).

INFJ Values and Motivations

INFJs are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a better place.

INFJs want a meaningful life and deep connections with other people. They do not tend to share themselves freely but appreciate emotional intimacy with a select, committed few. Although their rich inner life can sometimes make them seem mysterious or private to others, they profoundly value authentic connections with people they trust.

How Others See the INFJ

INFJs often appear quiet, caring and sensitive, and may be found listening attentively to someone else’s ideas or concerns. They are highly perceptive about people and want to help others achieve understanding. INFJs are not afraid of complex personal problems; in fact, they are quite complex themselves, and have a rich inner life that few are privy to. They reflect at length on issues of ethics, and feel things deeply. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.

Because INFJs are such complex people, they may be reluctant to engage with others who might not understand or appreciate them, and can thus be hard to get to know. Although they want to get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw.

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How rare is the INFJ personality type?

INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up:

  • 2% of the general population
  • 2% of women
  • 1% of men

Famous INFJs

Famous INFJs include Mohandas Gandhi, Eleanor Roosevelt, Emily Bronte, Carl Jung, Fyodor Dostoevsky, Florence Nightingale, Shirley MacLaine, Jimmy Carter, and Edward Snowden.

INFJ Quotes

"The visions of the INFJs tend to concern human welfare, and their contributions are likely to be made independent of a mass movement."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"These seclusive and friendly people are complicated themselves, and so can understand and deal with complex ethical issues and with deeply troubled individuals."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"INFJs' nonstop search for learning, self-growth, and development—and wishing the same for everyone else—makes them very reassuring to others and people worth emulating."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

Facts about INFJs

Interesting facts about the INFJ:

  • Least common type in the population
  • On personality trait scales, scored as Sincere, Sympathetic, Unassuming, Submissive, Easygoing, Reserved and Patient
  • Among highest of all types in college GPA
  • Among most likely to stay in college
  • Most likely of all types to cope with stress by seeing a therapist
  • Highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
  • Personal values include Spirituality, Learning, and Community Service
  • Commonly found in careers in religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

INFJ Hobbies and Interests

Popular hobbies for the INFJ include writing, art appreciation, cultural events, reading, socializing in small, intimate settings, and playing or listening to music.

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Andrea R. (not verified) says...

I agree with most of what you said. I am also extremely confused and indecisive most of the time and pretty antisocial. As far as I know, these are common characteristics of our personality. I have to help calm myself down and not freak out about making decisions by reminding myself that everything will be ok (easier said than done, I know). I also journal a LOT and am very spiritual by praying and reading the Bible. These are where I find most of my comfort and calming. Hope this helps!

Lyn J. (not verified) says...

Hi Andrea! I'm very much like you. I'm a spiritual person too (christian). It's just nice to know I have the same personality type here :). Stay blessed!

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi! Humans are such complex beings that cannot be narrowed down to just 16 personality rypes; with stressors and life scenarios, we find we may fluctuate in and out to other personality types. It is understandign these stessors and scenarios to how we feel and react can add to our inner understanding. As an INFJ who also can identify as an ENFJ and INTJ, I feel that these are nuances to our personalities in different situations. For example, my INTJ trait can come out on some political leanings or when dealing with highly analysitcal and difficult work scenarios, or, ENFJ when feeling a rare extorverted moment and crave social connections. But ultimately, 'most'of the time I am - in head and heart - an INFJ. I embrace these other traits as this what make up 'me'. Good luck on your journey of self discovery. 

Jonali (not verified) says...

I believe I am confuzzled as well.  I over analyze so much, but I realize when I'm doing it, and just have to wait for the overwhelming emorions to pass.   I have a grand imagination and have strange but fabulous dreams almost every night.  It has taken me too long to finally find a job I love, and find myself.  I am sick with an autoimmune illness that is crippling me, and has forced me to stay home alone a lot now.  I'm usually ok with all of that.   I have always been an unhappy follower, and now will only lead.  Which usually means it's me leading just me!  But I don't compromise my integrity when I only have to deal with me.  I hear you.  I hear all of you.  And I pray for us.  We are not (totally) alone.

BeYourSelf (not verified) says...

and  I thought I was the only one with such traits. :) 

I always keep thinking about something that has not happened but that would have happen. I think I take everyone so seriously that I won't be able to explain anything to anyone and it keeps roaming in my mind until it breaks into tear. Sometimes I don't know if I should trust my intsticts or just let everything happen the way it happens and let it go.!!

G.p (not verified) says...

I'm exactly like you. I'm so lost, I love and dread so many things. It feels like there's no place for me in this world. I think it's because society wants us to be just one thing. It's the purpose of these profiles actually... but if you're not "just one thing" how could that work for you ? I think we're just different. And it's okay. Well, it should be okay. 

SCLight says...

Hi, I would like to talk  with you. Oftentimes just having a sounding board helps. However,  I am a true INFJ with an understanding,  perhaps, of why you have an  antisocial stance. 


Jay INFJ (not verified) says...

You are not alone

Jordyn (not verified) says...

Wow I completely relate! I always feel like choosing any one side of me limits me so much and I just get so scared that I'm not going to like it or it won't be as fulfilling as I need it to be career wise. I recently made a leap and decided to change my path to be something more creative but now I'm worrying about if that will be as impactful as I feel like my life needs to be. It's not like I need to feel empowered from helping people, but I just really feel like I need to help people...idk. Its just so hard to explain but I think you explained it very well - especially with the huge imagination thing. I feel like any minor thing I decide now majorly alters my huge life path so I feel conflicted a lot.

Sky (not verified) says...

Me tooo! I also just feel like I really want to help people.. I just don't know in which area... I've always conflicted, like there's a tug of war going on in my head.. everytime I start something new, I get so lost in my thoughts before I have even started - imagining all the possiblities! Does anyone else have trouble sticking to things? Or finishing projects and stuff? 

Christina Antonucci (not verified) says...

You are not alone. I'm an INFJ also and I can relate totally. Nobody in the world really knows this, but an INFJ is an Angelic personality. Angelics can be any of the personalities but a true INFJ is always an Angelic. The INFJ is the combination of the two zodiac signs reserved for God/Goddess and Angels. The Orphiuchus (the White Dragon) and The Piscis Austrinus (the Water-bearer or Merman/Mermaid). Other people in the world don't understand us because we're not of this realm.

I'm 50 years old and still trying to find where I fit in. I have met other Angelics before and they seem to be the only ones that can relate to me. My interests, ideas, tastes, etc. nobody else seems to understand. My own family can't even understand me and they don't even try. I was married to another Angelic for 15 years, but he passed away 3 years ago. We were so isolated from everyone and he was a co-dependant that I lost myself. But then again, I didn't really know who I was, to begin with. Through the relationship, I discovered who I was as an Angelic and that became my world. In doing so I could no longer relate to other people and basically became anti-social because I was tired of being hurt by everyone and their actions. What seemed normal to them appalled me because I was extremely sensitive.

So now, I'm trying to start over in life and figure out what I want to do. I have a lot of ideas about what I like and my interests or hobbies, but I have no idea how to turn them into a career I would be happy with. My mother never let me make decisions for myself when I was a child. My decisions were never good enough or what she wanted me to do. So now I have difficulty in knowing what I want in life or what I'm really good at. I have so many gifts, talents, and interests that I don't know which way to head. So I can relate with you feeling like you don't know who you are or which career might be best for you. I have a degree in Interior Design which I liked but ended up working at furniture stores in sales which I discovered I'm not good at or at the time didn't have the self-confidence to be good at. Because of all the traumatic experiences I went through, I have PTSD, suffer from depression and anxiety sometimes, and have issues with CEN (Childhood Emotional Neglect). 

For myself, I'm considering going into creative writing which I've never done much of or graphic design. There are a lot of great writers who are INFJs. Another career you could consider would be a songwriter if that appeals to you. My advice to you would be to let go of some of the perfectionism. Nobody is perfect not even God/Goddess. I was such a perfectionist that I found it difficult to let loose and me myself. If you are able to let go of some of it you'll be so much happier and free to be more creative. Another suggestion I have is to try to integrate the INFJ, INFP (the Pisces), and INTJ (the Virgo) that you feel are a part of you and not try to separate them. Maybe you are picking up the other personalities because of your sun or moon sign.

I hope the information I've shared with you can help you find your way. You're not alone and there are many Angelics out there who may or may not know who they are. Maybe I'm meant to help other Angelics find their way. Blessings to you!


Janet R (not verified) says...

Wow, your comment means so much to me and of course, other INFJ's. Thank you for sharing your experiences! 

Shaleena (not verified) says...

Very nice description. Thanks.

Sen (not verified) says...

Hi Christina, I am interested in your comments and to learn more about angelics and the connection to Ophiuchus. Could you recommend reading material? Thank you.

john123 (not verified) says...

first i wona start by saying one simple thing thank you so much,second i want express my admiration to you and the bravery and wisdom you have,i for myself don't have big ambitions just able sustain myself in fair and honorable way,but i have other ambitions about the welfare and well being of the others and nature,i want to see perents able to watch their kids grow without being stuck all time at work,my dream is to extinct poverty and poority in the world,that no men woman or child or anyone that old will live in such a life or ever be abandoned, and that anyone who want can be whoever they want to be and learn whatever they want learn even if the cost high,and to clean nature of the damage the industry and humans did,and maybe along the way invent new food that will be healthy and able truely replace meat so no creation will ever be killed to sustain us ,i want to return this planet kindness and restore balance because  we all need it,that my ambitions and one day i gona make them come true!.

Christina Nikirk (not verified) says...

This is me and EXACTLY how i feel. I couldn't have explained it better. Thank you for your post. I go to the comment section of these articles because it allows me to not feel so alone. Im really going throught it right now, & this brought me some comfort,...sooo thanks. Take care angelic. 

Ralph Taylor Lane (not verified) says...

Hi Christina. I don't know how old this feed is or if this message will reach you but if it does I would love to talk about Angelics, finding their way... you can email me if you'd like. Thank you

Loupiote (not verified) says...

Hello there :)

I'm also and INFJ, who shares traits with INTJ. (I appologize in advance for my bad grammar, English is not my first language). I'm not sure if I've totally understood your question and problem, but to add my insight to your situation: I feel like what you're going through is totally normal. 

We INFJs along with the INFPs are one of the type which tends to overlook the most our feelings (and others'). As we are intuitive introverts, who are more axed toward feelings than rational matters, it's totally normal to go in deep with our self introspection - which is not always a good idea imo. Sometimes, you need to take time to figure out who you are, but if you're going through a phase of changing and self doubt, I think it's way better to focus on who you want to be rather than on who you currently are.  I know it's not easy, but I think you will free your mind from a huge burden if you could just focus on the person you aspire to be >> and here comes the choice you mentioned... 

However, I don't think you should supress any aspects of your personnality. They are all rich in their own ways, and while you think your current issues come from the fact that your personnality is so diverse, I think it just comes from the fact that you're focused on the diversity. If you stop paying attention to it, I think your logic and humane nature will balance themselves naturally. I look at your situation like someone focusing on each of their organs and trying to control how they work: your natural flaws and qualities are not made to be controlled and changed, but rather adapted to your lifestyle and aspiration.

You're also talking about how INFJs cherish people and see the bright side - and I personnaly think it is only true in some situations. When put in a stressful environment, I tend to become more skeptical than anything, "protecting" my warmth and giving it to only one or two people that I care about, and acting super cold to everyone else as a defense mechanism. Maybe I'm mistaking, but your environment may be part of the reason why you're going through this confusing phase. In a workplace environment, it's difficult to let yourself attach to people if you're not sure if you want to be where you are, and if you're not really feeling like you're belonging. 

Maybe part of resolving your problem would be to find yourself a meaning. Again, everyone is different and I may be mistaking, but INFJs tend to really need a set up goal to move forward in life. Be it helping others (in healthcare, psychology...), creative jobs to express yourself, or any career where you can improve... I think you should use this overthinking capacity to wonder what trully matters to you. Once you'll have a set up goal, life will seem more organized to you, you would feel more relaxed and (maybe) it will be easier to find a little bit more social energy to open up to people. Like this post mentioned, we tend to be people who needs to move one step at a time, but here you're trying to focus on every single aspect of your personnality and life, which explains this chaos. 

I feel like you're still young, but even if you're not, keep in mind that it's never too late to try new things! 


I hope I somehow kind of helped, and thank you for sharing your story :)

INFTPJ...? (not verified) says...

INFTPJ, can that be a thing? I feel much the same as you. I think, thanks to our logical-analytical skills, we know not to treat/handle every situation or person in the same way. As you said, the trick is learning which trait to use and when to use it.

The best way I have been able to explain it to myself is that we have been blessed with the ability to choose. We can choose the characteristics that will be the most beneficial(for us or for others) in a given situation. I very much feel as though I am in control of myself. Rarely do I react in an emotionally charged way(positively or negatively). Everything, right down to my reactions are thought out and serve a purpose. 

But all this also requires that I obsessively analyze, observe, and, think about e v e r y t h i n g. How can someone be so calm and confident but an overthinking mess all at the same time? It really is quite the paradox...

Not sure if this was helpful at all, but maybe it's just good enough to know we're not alone :) 

DADA (not verified) says...

Infj here and working in the special education field. I LOVE my job and people that I work with. But the issue is the money :)...

Jazmine (not verified) says...

Who else came here to do some soul searching and got to comments only to realize everyone else is in the same boat, and just trying to express and understand themselves but also empower everyone else to express and understand themselves. 

lol i just thought that was an ironic instance of irony. 

Sadghirl (not verified) says...

I've learned my lesson. I really did. I want to save the world. Please give me a job. I want to work at google 

KellyINFJ2020 (not verified) says...

This made me laugh so hard, thank you! (I can relate!) :)

TheAntiSocialAscendant (not verified) says...

I just did the personality test and it said I'm an INFJ

It explains a lot cause I'm always wondering what's wrong with me

I'm constantly searching for how to fix myself and make people like me.

I enjoy time alone, yet I want to socialise 

Music rules my life- I write and listen

However, I wouldn't consider myself an empath

But, I always have a concern for what other feel, and I tend to have my predictions on how they feel

I like deep connections

The Queeen💅 (not verified) says...

We all pretty much have the same stories...I personally tried to fit in...I didn't get who I really was exactly.Then in highschool it started getting to me,I felt frustrated and confused.A girl I didn't even know at that time literally told me that,"You look confused"...then after highschool, I found a site took a test and I didn't believe it then after getting a few emails I finally understood.I had layers of personalities I had adapted to I almost completely forgot who I am...but I'm glad to say I'm happier now😊,finallyyy...learning and loving to just be you guys❤️... remember to be Kind and I got here because of God,so I'm grateful to him too for his unfailingly and undeserved love🙇🏾‍♀️❤️ find your identity in him,it all starts with him don't forget that

Gracie (not verified) says...

I L❤VE your share.

Thank you, The Queeen.

Put GOD First... ALWAYS and then everything will just fall into place...

GOD's Magic. ❤❤❤



Male INFj (not verified) says...

Wow, this article makes literally so much sense about me. I took an MBTI test recently, and I'm an INFJ-T. When I was a younger kid, I felt different from others. I didn't have much friends, and I didn't fit in with the "popular" crowd. My only friends as an elementary schooler were, I'm pretty sure, Intuitives like me (one of my closest friends is ENTP, I'm 99% sure of it). Then, when I went to 5th grade, everything changed. I had my first taste of popularity (as the Four-Square Champion of School), and I grew to strangely like it. So when I went to middle school, I turned into a "social chameleon", or a guy that changes his outward personality to fit in (I'm quite sure that almost all of my current friends are (STPs, with a smaller minority being SFs, and the occasional ENFP or ENTP). So I started to change myself, and eventually became piled up with layers and layers of personalities that I didn't even know who I was by the time I started high school. Then, I began to pick up on the MBTI Obsession I had in 6th grade, and after being honest with myself, I got the INFJ Type. And after reading it, I finally realized that this is who I actually am. And yeah, I've decided to screw my masks and go back to the way I was in elementary school. Yeah, sorry if I bored you with my life story, but it feels good to get this off of my chest.


F INFJ (not verified) says...

Thanks for sharing it, I feel more understood thanks to you.  It's like we have the same story but in different ways (sounds wird i know haha). When I was little I had a few friends, but nobody was really close to me. I felt different (not that i cared at that time). Then, a few years later, I started to get in to student's politics, and as you know our type it's well known for our sense of justice. So I became really popular too, and I liked it (sorta), but  i started to be like a social camaleon, to fit in too. When people don't understand something they tend to be kind of aggressive towards it, uncounciounsly i guess. And like i'm kind of a mirror of others emotions, i can't take all that pressure. So i was in a position where i started to realize i didn't like the things others liked, and i didn't think or feel like the rest, i felt different, like i wasn't normal.  That's why being a social camaleon was so convinient, i was able to protect myself and act like a normal person. But, as you say,  i became piled up with layers, and i lost myself. I started taking personality test of all kind until i found mbti. And it said i was INFJ. And I stopped, i began to think what was I doing, why I was feeling so badly, and I wandered why I was so obsessed with this personality tests.  And i realized i had losted myself, so  I decided to be who I was again, I'm an INFJ, and not just that, but this was like a lead to retourn to myself.

Sorry to bother you with the story of an stranger, but i felt so happy to know there was someone like me out there, so i needed to share it :)

Eddie56 (not verified) says...

Thank you for your story, like the rest of the contributions in this thread I too felt for so many years disconnected from the rest of the people around me, different, misunderstood, and with a deep sense of unfulfillment. Even today in my late 20s I have a hard time finding people who I can genuinely connect with, and that at times can bring an unexplained loneliness. Granted solitude can also bring peace, healing and enable you live a genuine life. I am happy of who I am and even though I’ve struggled for a very long time with the deeper feelings and emotions that INFJs experience, as I learn more about myself life only gets better!

Here are my two cents😊, best of wishes to all INFJs out there!

Dyas (not verified) says...

I feel so happy finally you now being true to others and yourself. As an infj myself, I'm trying to hard to fit in into other's world but it always ended up with nothing. But after seeing your comment here, I think the most important thing is not to fit in anywhere, but to show who we are. To show what is infjs truly are.  

Jennifer Miller (not verified) says...

I am and I NFJ and my son Dyas Is 16 years old and this is the first time I've ever come across the name Dyas I think it's awesome is this your last name or first name I live in Illinois in a little town and I just think it's amazing that your name is Dyas

trueINFJ{male} (not verified) says...

dude ur story is so very identical to me that I cant even express!!!....and it really sucks when I dont find an INFJ friend...cuz "birds with same feathers fly together"...and i dont find any bird with my feathers...but alhumdulillah proud to be amongst the rarest type of people on the face of this earth!

OingoBoingo (not verified) says...

Man, your story really resonates with me.  As a male INFJ-T I went through almost the exact situation.  So many people are in disbelief when I tell then I'm more introverted because of my "social chameleon mask".  

Karin Janet (not verified) says...

So glad you shared. I did the mask thing too and am still working on peeling back the layers and being true to myself :) 

Anna yoyoyo (not verified) says...

Hahahha yeah four square!! Not boring at all. Enjoyed reading your realization of being an INFJ. - another fellow INFJ

Female (not verified) says...

Uhm, yeah dude... Your life story pretty much sounds like mine. Except add a few years and realize it took me until now (30) to actually start living the way I wanted and who I wanted to be. Idk your age but I feel it isn't until your late 20s/early 30s that you really start figuring out who you are. 

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Guest (not verified) says...

Hmm, perhaps these differing personalities could be your personality expressed in a different form. I find that a person's character can shift drastically while still maintaining the quintessence of their being. This is pure spectulation, but, if I may theorise, I would think that the very quintessence of your personality had remained from 5th grade to middle school. Perhaps you have managed to express your peculiarity and ideology in a slightly different way in which you would be perceived as more outgoing or amiable. Perhaps the reason you hide behind a facade is because of your fundamental values, for example, valuing the feelings and opinions of others, as a result of valuing people in general. I think it would be good to establish a common theme in how you act, and think about what's the innate trait or idea behind it at the very core. This might help you feel more authentic, continue to be the person you are, and maintain your current sociality. Just sharing my thoughts on your post. Treat this with a grain of salt, as I do not truly know who you are, that, only you can truly understand. Thank you for reading :)

suyeon Kim (not verified) says...

Hi, i'm an INFJ-t. Thanks for your honest life stoy.  I can realte to what you are saying in your comment. 

Elizabeth Johnson Lee (not verified) says...

Woah these comments are so relatable. As an INFJ I find I see other people and life in a different way than everyone and I find it to be a constant frustration. I try and communicate it, but others dont seem to get it. I also find I see the pain in others so clearly and I can almost feel it myself. I've always been soooo overly sensitive. It everything (sound, light, emotions, criticism) really wish I could turn down my senstivitiy. On the other hand I've been quite successful in certain areas of my life and I really dont think I'd like to be like everyone else. Everything in life comes with pros and cons. As an INFJ I try to focus on the positive in life because the negative can be my default mode. 

Yeimi Sanchez (not verified) says...

This describes me but the hobbies and interest one not quite except for the listening to music one.

Yeimi Sanchez (not verified) says...

What I meant was that I do like music. It the only thing I truly love.

Melodi Jones (not verified) says...

same here. my music carries me through life. I didn't think I'd like writing, but I'm actually great at it.

Richard L (not verified) says...

I find that as an INFJ working for lawyers, it is terribly difficult.  Lawyers, by profession, are bullies. This has been my experience. As I work for a legal charity, thank goodness i was the one who did initial intake b/c clients are vulnerable. Afterward, i did follow-up with clients & assisted them in understanding the legal advice & options, in layman terms. 

A persistent INFJ/Jess (not verified) says...

Some of the opinion resonated with me. Much of my childhood was hell, knowing I was painfully shy, had practically no friends. I still have those traits. School was hard, not the academic part, but the process of little things like, having friends to share lunch hour with, ending up hungry because it was humiliating to eat alone, no one choosing me to partner up in projects, or at a picnic out. Was I weird? Was I ugly, did I have bad odour, was I abrasive? I look back once in a while, trying to narrow it down to something I could fix. There wasn't one. I was a loner ever since I could remember. Wishing to desperately belong made me anxious, always afraid I would get picked to be in any kind of limelight. Yet, I did well, remained within top 6 of class mostly. Can't fathom the reasons, perhaps it was to do with a violent father at home, though I was not targeted, perhaps the fact I had no siblings, perhaps it was simply the way I was wired. In my forties now, I have learned to hide myself well. The world of adulthood affords one a veneer where one can choose to engage and avoid. And so the feeling of not belonging lingers. But life is so crappy that there's no time to pontificate thankfully. Lol. What joy would there be in not being afraid to embrace extroversion, boldly engage. I tell myself, no, I enjoy my introversion.  What need have I of people? What would it be like to be raucously loud? Have a good laugh with a stranger? Not have flitting butterflies most of the time? Hmm. Sometimes though, there is much peace to be had in aloneness. Hahaha the comment below of spammers to be fried and served on toast made me laugh.

INFJ vien (not verified) says...

I feel the same! I have no problem with academics but most recess I stay in class because its too embarrassing to eat alone or try to go up to someone and ask them if we could share seats... Or in PE class the teachers would ask people to choose their groupmates and I'd be all alone or in the so called 'losers' team. I just got into high school, and it just got worse because its an elite school so everyone is in the top percentile. Even the teachers don't even remember my name haha. For some time I was wallowing in self pity, because this elite school I'm in right now is not even in my home country so I feel really lonely. People think I don't care about friends but sometimes I do crave for someone I can share my feeling with, other than my notebook. But I guess it isn't so bad, since I poured all these spare time when other cliques go to Starbucks or clubs and chill, I'd be exploring my personality. That's when I found out I was an INFJ, which was, well, comforting to some extend I'd say

Adrienne M (not verified) says...

 I've always known I was different and although making connections is very difficult as an INFJ, the hardest part is being so intuitive to things that others just don't see. You can try to explain how you just know things, but if people don't see it then they just don't. I have luckily found a best friend who understands me in a way I am truly grateful for and when I have these insights to things she's learned to trust me, even if she can't see it herself. Sad, but not surprising that INFJs have the highest rate of dissatisfaction in marriage

Sun (not verified) says...

As regards to the intution, I am quite intuitive. Right from a child, most times my intuition have always been spot on. 

Jeff INTJ (not verified) says...

Adrienne, how do you adjust when your "just know things" intuition collides with conflicting facts?  Do you explain away the facts or recalibrate your intuition to reality?  Have you ever made important decisions based upon your intuition that you later realized were mistakes or misunderstandings?

An INFJ? (not verified) says...

About "just knowing things", I know you have asked Adrienne, but I thought maybe I could give an answer too. I feel like this sounds very mystical and the words dont do justice to the actual cognitive processes behind it. I have learned to check my intuition before judging or making decisions on it. I can pick up on things and have a good intuition, but I can also contaminate it with my limited perspective and "miss" so I double check myself. Still, maybe I am not an INFJ... Even though year after year I keep getting the same result... I find myself oscillating between idealism and realism as well as being organized then being chaotic, never finishing things I start (well, not never but a lot of times). Fellow INFJs this an INFJ thing? 

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