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How do INFJs communicate?

INFJs are reserved about communication, and often keep their most treasured ideas and insights private. They are oriented to values and connection, and will search for meaning in the information they take in. They think deeply and often need time to process and evaluate before they are ready to share their ideas. They seek validation and will take the time to appreciate others and their ideas. They are often talented at making connections to bring people together and integrate ideas, values, and human potential.

What are INFJs like as partners?

In relationships, the INFJ is supportive and guided by a sense of integrity. The INFJ's interest in human development applies to their mates as well, and they are encouraging of their partner's dreams, aspirations, and achievements.

INFJs want to maintain harmony in their relationships and are highly motivated to resolve conflicts. They tend to be creative problem-solvers and look for the emotional core of an issue to create a meeting of the minds. Although they desire cooperation, they are not willing to go along with an idea that does not feel authentic to them. When it comes to their core values and ethics, they are unwilling to compromise.

INFJs want a high degree of intimacy and emotional engagement, and are happiest when they feel they are sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings with their mates. INFJs value a partner who respects their deeply held values and ethics, and one who appreciates their creativity and inspiration.

What are INFJs like as parents?

As parents, INFJs are devoted and loving. They tend to form strong bonds with their children and are very closely tuned in to their emotional states. Counselor parents naturally see the possibilities in their children and encourage them to develop their potential.

Although they support their children in their individual interests, INFJ parents are firm disciplinarians, particularly when it comes to moral or ethical concerns. They are concerned with their children's emotional health and spiritual development, and want to create a nurturing atmosphere that promotes growth and well-being.

INFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

INFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the INFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the INFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Guest (not verified) says...

I took the Jung test almost a year ago on another site and got INTJ. All of a sudden I am an INFJ, which is quite a difference. I suppose my Intuitive and Thinking tendencies weren't that high, but it doesn't seem to be the case. I guess the test is very dependent on the age and emotional state of the patient, but still... I wasn't expecting a different result.

Oh well, it's not like I take it very seriously, especially when you consider I'm in my teenage years.

Guest (not verified) says...

Well, I changed from ENFJ to INFJ in one year or so. I consider this means I was more extroverted once than what I am now. Anyway this shift is quite strange and made me realize that I'm weirder now according to the percentages they give to us (ENFJ= 7% worldwide/INFJ= - 1%).
It's not an easy path as there's always a "you're too innocent" comment which I understand people do for the fear that we could be tricked or lied to easily...

TommyK (not verified) says...

I had the same switch from ENFJ to INFJ. ... Makes sense to me!

Guest (not verified) says...

I was always told I was "weird" and "different" and it did not help my case with fitting in. Taking this test and finding out I'm an INFJ personality has kind of shed some light on things and it offered me a sense of relief. I've taken this test in HS and was INFJ then as well.

Frankie Yeung (not verified) says...

What are the suitable types of jobs for the INFJ? How about the entry level? Any resource about it?

Chloane (not verified) says...

I'm an infj who's in love with a guy who doesn't love her back. It's a huge struggle to forget him and to find someone better since he's so perfect I don't think there could be anyone better. I think of him even when keeping myself busy. He took over my mind and it's been like that for 2 years now! How can I stop thinking about that flawless guy?

Guest (not verified) says...

When I first tested I was an ENTJ; that was decades ago and the descriptions were not as complete then as now. I was also told that I was adept at 'mirroring' and that would work well for me in business. Having a career that required the ENTJ attitude, I never felt comfortable with that designation but dealt with it. When the economy crashed in CA a few years ago, I was also getting a divorce and fled to my home state, so my psyche was going through a lot of change.
Eventually I found the site www.16personalities.com and to my great relief discovered that I am primarily an INFJ. I realized this is who I've always been, to the core. All of the interests have been with me all my life but I was too busy making a living and being caught up in that to be me.
Then I found this site: www.25quiz.com and discovered that I am an INFP as well, with a few type percentages in much lower numbers. That all makes sense too and for the first time I am actively pursuing all the things I've put off and loved forever!
I do know a person who is an INTP, refuses to consider that she could be anything else and is totally miserable. I have a sister who is proud to be an ENTJ and personifies all of the positive and negative qualities to a 'T' - we are not close.
The downside of 'mirroring' is that one may adapt to both positive and negative personalities; hearing myself mirroring a negative personality is very frustrating! That will take more practice to deal with.
Starting my second career, looking at a masters in psychology and moving on with how I can help people in this world. We are all unique, while these tests help us understand ourselves and what we might want to work on, it is important to not stuff ourselves in that box or boxes. We can all be the best person possible if we want to go there. We all have gifts to give to make the world a much better place.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm lucky. I haven't felt alone. I have a circle of five friends who are all INFJs too. They understand me perfectly and I love them so much. Before I had them I was always mistaken for an extrovert, which isn't how I feel inside. Inside I've always been an introvert, and having people say otherwise wrecked havoc with me. I started to doubt my perception of myself, not just as an introvert, but other aspects of my personality too. However, now that I have my circle of friends, I feel so much better. Having another INFJ in your life is a real blessing. They understand exactly what you're going through, and make everything so much better.

Elk y (not verified) says...

Hey. So I've noticed something interesting.
I'm a gay INFJ. When I was younger I scored INFP, but as I've become permanently colder towards the world, I shifted to INFJ.

What's been weird for the last couple days, even though INFJ is only 2% of the population, I have met many other gay INFJs. It's become pretty common.
(I included that I'm an INFJ In the profile section of a profile on a gay ssocial app).

Im a gay, atheist, pessimistic, narcissistic INFJ with a brain that never stops, charisma that draws others while draining my own energy, and a tendency to withdraw and brood.

Being such an empathetic and introspective young person eventually led to me building walls so high and impenetrable that now, at 25, I do not believe anybody will ever be able to reach me.
It kind of makes me sad to think about, to put it simply, but at the same time I'm better off for it. I feel I have done much more growing intellectually than I ever did when I was burdened by feelings.

The point of all that ^ was to see if any of you guys can relate to that?

I was also abused growing up, and had to learn how to fight very young, so that me and my sister could protect each other from my father.
Then, as I got older, knowing how to fight helped me survive among homophobic bullies.
However, since I am modestly attractive and charming, I feel a lot of pressure to be socially active. i get along with many people, I'm charming and generally well-liked, but it's VERY hard to connect with people in what feels like a meaningful way.

I just graduated as an RN, and I hope to start applying to some opportunities to become a psychiatric RN. I hope to eventually get my Masters in psychiatric nursing and focus on community mental health and public health.
Protecting others from becoming as fucked up, cold, and pessimistic as me is probably the best way use all the fucked up things I've seen lol. Laugh it off, call it a bitch, and protect everyone else from it.

Well hey, if it ever ends up working out for us INFJs, let me know.
I have the feeling that are lot of us will never truly get there.

TommyK (not verified) says...

Hey man! I'm gay male INFJ, and I totally get what you're saying. I draw people to me, and sometimes that's cool, but sometimes it drains my energy. It really bothers me when people want to "put me in a box," for example, like if a girl at work always wants me to be "the funny, cute gay friend," but then recoils if I'm having a bad day and need to open up to someone about something. I've learned to LOWER MY EXPECTATIONS of others. Meaning, I've learned that I have every high expectations of what others should be. I've learned to be more patient with people. I've also learned to be more patient with myself. I need to understand other people's limitations and not expect that I can always get past those. There have only been a few close friends in my life. Right now, sadly, there's only one. I admit I'm in a bit of a rut so I'm working on getting out of that. But, at the same time, I just had a very few difficult years in another state far away from home, and I've only been back home for a year, and I am rebuilding my life, so I should relearn my previous stated lesson, and be more patient with myself.

I'm a bit jealous of your career path. It sounds like you're taking perfect educational steps towards a rewarding career. I tried something very different and failed. I'd love to get into psychology, but wondering if its too late and if my undergrad is too unrelated. Not really sure.

Anyway, good luck buddy. You seem like a good young adult. Don't be too hard on yourself!

Guest (not verified) says...

I have taken the test several times over the past ten years and I always come out INFJ, though I once deliberately manipulated it to come out as INFP because I wanted to be an INFP. I wish I had access to this information much earlier in life as I might not have made the same career and marriage mistakes. Well, live and learn. One foot in front of the other and keep going.

Newsflash (not verified) says...

The one thing that stands out to me about the list of recommended professions is how much I detest the idea of working in any of those recommended jobs. Like honestly, you think INFJ's, the ones who are apparently often misunderstood yet who want to help others would be happy in a judgemental job like psychiatrist or psychologist where you have to diagnose or label someone as having a defect? Give it a rest; I think I'd choose any profession but that.

As for engineering technician, I am currently in engineering technology and I'd love nothing more than to help people through designing cool technologies that can help them. Tell me how INFJ's are ill suited for that, or how we earn less than our counterparts because I'm not buying it. If INFJ's are truly people that want to impact the world I'd imagine the last profession you'd find them in would be psychiatry; the first place you'd find them would be engineering, entrepreneurship and the like since those involve helping others from a distance (or perhaps something related to art/music or design, since those have an impact on humanity as well).

I'm just tired of having the idea of helping people constantly being associated with being a councillor when that's such a limited view when considering the traits associated.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hello fellow aliens. Finally found my people lol. Agreed it gets a bit lonely. Now I don't feel so lonely knowing there's a bunch of us feeling lonely together! Hugs to all.

Pandata (not verified) says...

Yaay! i'm a INFJ! This really tells all about me wow! And i've always wanted to become a writer, it's my dream and now i get more hope in succeed to become a writer <3 And i'm glad that my type is rare XD i hoped for it but could never have believed it was true until now.

Guest (not verified) says...

In taking this test, I am both an INFJ and INTJ. I believe the longer I am on this earth the more I have leaned towards the INTJ side of myself. I have continued to grow in myself, to accept people for who they are and to try to walk a mile in their shoes.
I do tend to distance myself from people who only see the world from their own perspective and, when I voice an opinion, think I am too abstract. I should have gone into psychology, because I do have patience, and understanding, for those who are emotionally different from the "norm"
Also, as I get older, need a lot more alone time to re-group, from the noise of mindless chatter.

Chase Morales (not verified) says...

All I can say is that everyone of these comments hit home. Iv done so much self research and thinking that something was wrong with me. I feel very normal but at the same time I never feel as I fit in anywhere...

Guest (not verified) says...

Type is in our DNA. It never changes at the core, it only develops and matures, or can be stunted and cause inner problems. Personality tests are not as effective at pinpointing type as self-discovery. There are so many dimestore 'teachers' of type out there who regurgitate popular blogs, try to correlate insights from people who took tests that are 50%-60% accurate at best and are likely mistyped, then try to say that pure types are like this, or like that... Ignore how you change from one environment to the next, that's contextual. Ignore how you grew up and developed, that's how two people with the same types can have such different experiences, hurts, successes and valued beliefs. Instead, look at the constant core of who you really are...what's always been true, and feeds your psyche. Only from that position can you discover your type that's congruent, always has been and always will be. Type doesn't change, but our development, experiences, and beliefs can. BTW, when I discovered I was INFJ, it was like 'coming home' to who I really was. That's the experience when one discovers their true type.

Marrie (not verified) says...

I feel like being an INFJ is both a blessing and a curse. A blessing as to being unique and helpful, but a curse as in having to deal with loneliness. I saw an interesting cartoon about INFJs a while ago. It was basically showing how an INFJ was giving away pieces of his heart little by little as people flocked to him for help, but was finally left with one tiny piece at the end with a tear rolling down his cheek while seeing people going away, well-content with their pieces of his heart and indifferent to his heart-break. I thought that pretty much summed me up in a nutshell, so it really tugged at a heart string. Anyone else feel like this cartoon applies to them?

TommyK (not verified) says...

Yes! I remember getting the advice, "Don't give your heart away too easily."
Someone has to, right?

I find the trick is to just do what I do, "give my heart away," I suppose, but just to lower my expectations of other people. People are so imperfect, and sometimes it takes them a long time to learn the lesson we are trying to teach, to learn how valuable it is to hold another's heart, if they learn the lesson at all.

We need, then, to be absolutely rigid with our time alone to recuperate. Plan it, plan something special. I once took an Amtrak, completely alone, from Los Angeles to Seattle for about two months. This was after a failed creative endeavor in Los Angeles, where they ate up my heart, and after a failed relationship with a guy that ended up being a prostitute. (No joke.)

The reason why I tell you that is -- two months was a long time for a trip -- but I really needed that two months! Actually, to tell the truth, it's been a year since all of that craziness and I'm still very much alone. I'm getting better, though.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm not convinced that the personality can change, outside of a significant traumatic event. However, people can change; their perceptions, values, education and so on, however the core of the personality type, I don't think changes. My opinion only, just my perception.

Raymem09 (not verified) says...

If you are an INFJ you know it. There are no doubts as to what makes us tick. I have been called everything from "uncanny" to downright "evil" for how I read people and situations. My family gets me and listens intently when I give my opionions on people and most others won't associate with me once they know that I know what theyre thinking or feeling the majority of the time

Guest (not verified) says...

Being an INFJ sucks. I wish I were something else.

Guest (not verified) says...

Although, we have to remember that we are not special snowflakes -- I mean, we are, in our own ways, but we shouldn't think we are "high above the rest of the world" (and this is something that I also struggle with, to be honest). Every personality has something special about them. Reading personality articles about my personality type can sometimes make me feel like INFJs are more special than other personality types.

MayraA (not verified) says...

I am 25 and I wonder if I will change from an INFJ to another type. Very interesting stuff.

brianhatcher31 says...

I did. INFJ to ESTJ. But, I am pretty balanced along all the types anyway.

INFJ girl (not verified) says...

I think its not easy to understand INFJs completely. Maybe only other INFJs could do that. That's why they need each other. I wish I had an INFJ friend...

Guest (not verified) says...

Reading these kinds of stories/articles is very intriging to me, and then aftwards seeing how many people can relate. It makes me feel like a gem in a world of rocks. (Of course not everyone is dull and unspecial, and I try to respect everyone I encounter, but that's how an INFJ type feels ((to me)) compared to others.)

Trashkittens (not verified) says...

Heh, this fits like a glove. Pretty accurate, and I don't think that it's some dumb test full of vagueness to make you think it's correct, as while reading other types I realized that, for quite a lot of them, I really couldn't connect to certain traits.

eddy discovery (not verified) says...

hello everybody ,i'm new here and from Belgium, europ. I find it rather difficult to live in this world were monney is like a god above all other things , and people with very much money , behave as very non interested into this world and humanity .What do you think to do about it?
best regards, eddy

eddy discovery (not verified) says...

sorry i forgot to indicate that i am : INFJ personal type

Guest (not verified) says...

You know you're an INFJ when you go to the beach, pull a book out of your bag and read.

Guest (not verified) says...

I have never understood how the world around me saw someone I simply was not. That for me was the most disturbing thing... I did not trust me because of this. Finding this price to the puzzle helps me understand the suffering I created for myself... Trying to be what and who everyone around me thought I was.Im thankful for the external clarification and now can rest my sword... I was getting quite tired of fighting to be me.

Guest (not verified) says...

the first time i took this test was 1 or 2 years ago and i got ISFJ. But now i feel that INFJ is the correct one for me

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow it's amazing how spot on this is.. i was an INTJ in my early teens and now in my early 20's I'm an INFJ and i couldn't feel more understood.. why can't humans get me like Google does lol.. Being an INFJ and a Scorpio is so alike and I'm the exact mix of both.. does get tough n really intense but I'd have it no other way.

brianhatcher31 says...

Are you still a Scorpio? I hear they just changed the constellation astrology charts and dates! ESTJ here.

Guest (not verified) says...

When it says 'highest in marital dissatisfaction' does it mean that we INFJ's tend to be dissatisfied with our spouses or do they tend to be dissatisfied with us?

JennRN (not verified) says...

I am very curious about this too. Currently separated from my second husband and feel like he never hears me. Like he has no understanding of how deeply I love him and how much it hurts to be apart from him.

Tonny (not verified) says...

its awesome to finally know that I'm not alone in the world. Finally I get a chance to make new friends who are somewhat like me.

Guest (not verified) says...

I used to test consistently as an INTJ. Now I am an INFJ, apparently. Wow! I've had a couple of really intensely bad years, and wonder if that explains the change.

ncls56789 says...

I've taken multiple forms of this kind of test, and they consistently told me I was an INFJ. Maybe once or twice it would say I'm borderline Sensor and iNtuitive, but I definitely fit with 'N' category when I read the differences. What would throw me off would be when one of them matches me as INFP. Usually it's when I'm in a certain mood that this happens. You may choose the ones that make you sound better or worse depending on how you feel about yourself at the time. Your experiences will definitely shape your answers too. I think I'm a little of both leaning more closer to 'J' most of the time.

TommyK (not verified) says...

So strange, I used to test ENFJ, where I was just barely an "E" at just above 50%. Now I test INFJ where I am barely "I," I think it was 58%.

This seems logical to me. I think I've always wanted to be a people person more than I actually was a people person. This characterizes me correctly, as a person who cares very deeply about people and society and who yearns for helpfulness and kindness in others. I'm often left recoiling by the meanness of the world and have to spend time off to recuperate. When I was younger, I used to hang out with my friends to recuperate, but now that I am older, I need a lot more time alone. On the other hand, I can also identify quite a few examples of needing time alone as a child, as well. I really do believe I go through rather fluid phases of introversion and extroversion.

I'm not surprised I have a rare personality. When I was younger, I would have taken pride in this, but now that I am older, I am often pained at just feeling so different from everybody. I just don't "partner" with others or prescribe to social "cliques." I "see through" people's motives, and if I find them even a little off kilter, I distrust the person and write them off completely. I rarely "work through" problems in relationships and prefer to melt away. I've had lonely, resentful periods in my life and struggles with substance abuse, as well. I am now sober, but struggle with the AA program because it's just so damn social! lol

One thing that saves me is a sense of humor. I love to laugh and love people who can make me laugh. (As long as it's not mean-spirited laughter, which typically repulses me.)

I haven't clicked into a career, either. Careers, in my experience, are for social people. I am intelligent and tend to do well at whatever position I am working at, but I become disillusioned when I find out that the job I am hired to do is less important than office schmoozing, etc. etc. I have worked in sales and marketing roles my whole life, and I absolutely detest it. It frustrates me that companies basically run like a high school popularity contest, but I think it frustrates me more to see how "the market" flocks to the most obvious demands for attention. Advertising, media, pop music, etc. -- I can't stand anything "trendy" -- which is very difficult in a the new world of hashtags. I retook this test because I am a little desperate in figuring out how to take my career another direction. I am considering some of these options -- I would greatly enjoy a small psychology practice and I would also really enjoy the schooling, just not sure what steps I would take since my undergrad was in a very unrelated field. I also like the idea of becoming a teacher. Oddly enough, I also like the idea of running a small design business -- like web design, graphic design or photography. Sometimes I think I should focus on writing a novel or screenplay. As I read different accounts of the INFJ personality, I find my struggle for a singular career path to be right on the money (or lack thereof.)

In my life I have worked very hard on physical fitness, but I have recently let all of that go. I find that I am so critical of myself I will not date until I feel attractive again. I have to be "perfect," inside and out. I read some comments on this post that "inner beauty" is more important than "external beauty" in a partner, and I will agree with that -- inner beauty is definitely more important to me -- but I'll admit that external beauty is pretty damn important to me, as well. I think it's more about health than beauty perhaps. As I think more about it, I'd never be interested in someone who was obsessed with plastic surgery, for example. For me, I tend to meet someone attractive and I believe their pitch on the first date, but then as I get to know the person, I find out they have an ugly inside. I would agree that the INFJ personality type would attract a lot of sociopaths. I once researched the "Empath, Apath, Sociopath Triangle" and found it very interesting that my relationships have commonly fit this pattern -- where I am the empath.

I obviously had some thoughts on all of this!

Shell (not verified) says...

I have made friends in my adultimate life but I have never had a "best friend " I always thought that was strange, that I was never able to connect with another person that deeply.

Guest (not verified) says...

It's a little odd because my fiance is ISTJ; which according to different things, it means we shouldn't work. However, he makes me feel just as comfortable in his presence as I am all by myself. I feel as though we both recharge each other instead of draining. We often sit together just "recharging" not talking but still together. It's a perfect balance; opposites really did attract in my case. This is an example of how while yes; these tests are good- things can still be different than how it is depicted. Don't change your whole life around based on something as simple as a test no matter how 100% accurate the result feels (as in my case, and his). :) Thank you for reading. Have a good evening.

DP (not verified) says...

I want to share the perspective of an INFJ who became a medical doctor. I knew it was the wrong fit the entire time. Medical school was a living nightmare for me! Talking to patients was enjoyable, but I hated memorizing minute details, writing prescriptions for treatment, working overnight, and doing procedures. Also, the competitive environment and influence of Big Pharma made me lose respect for medicine.

I ended up specializing in pathology (making diagnoses by inspecting biopsies/tissue under the microscope). I loved looking at the beautiful cells under the microscope but could not handle other doctors constantly yelling at me for diagnoses. Also, the amount of information to learn and keep track of was unbelievable! Although I appeared calm on the outside, I was constantly panicking on the inside because I wasn’t 100% sure of my diagnoses. The 13 hour workdays and stress levels (ex: the fear of malpractice for misdiagnosing a cancer) finally got to me.

I quit 1.5 years ago and still haven’t figured out what to do next. My main obstacle is employers see me as “overqualified” for entry-level positions in other industries such as non-profits. But I have no desire to return to the medical field again.

The moral of the story…INFJ’s please think twice before entering medical school. You are likely to get burnt out as a doctor because it’s emotionally, mentally, and physically draining! If you absolutely must become a doctor, please consider going to a less competitive medical school and doing a residency in family practice. Just my two cents!

Guest (not verified) says...

Hey everyone

I just want to say thanks for sharing your comments. I only found out about this test today and when I took it, low and behold... THE RESULT WAS INCONCLUSIVE! I was given 5+ different personalities to choose from. 'which ever best fits you' OMG great I knew I wasn't going to fit in anywhere!! Story of my life! Haha But as I read the INFJ page it was like my life was written here. I couldn't believe it.
Example: I've worked in the Medical Supply Industry for 6 years helping people get the home supplies they need to get better. Like braces, wheelchairs, hospital beds, and so on. I absolutely love what I do and try my hardest to help each patient so it doesn't take long for me to come up with some kind of solution if I ever hit a wall, as strange they usually sound to my coworkers. I know I'm not saving any lives but when someone hurts, I hurt. I've always been this way.
I mean, growing up and still now, I am great with meeting and helping new people, but "fitting in" around people in my everyday life (friends/coworkers/family), it just always feels like I don't belong. I love what I do because once I help these people they're gone. It sounds bad and I'm sure people around me would say otherwise about me because I'm so friendly, but truth be told I'd rather not be around people. Especially people I know.
I've always known my way of thinking was weird. An old boss told me I was 'UNIQUE'!! At the time I did NOT take that as a compliment, even though she meant it to be. And my boyfriend tells me that he doesn't understand me to the point that he goes online searching for some the statistics of what most people do in whatever the situation may be. He doesn't understand when I tell him that just because the statistic says so doesn't mean I do too. Whatever I do or don't do and approve of or not it's because I have thought out all the after effects and I feel that at that moment I'm choosing the best thing. But that doesn't mean my mind cannot be changed with better reasoning than my own.
But all in all I feel lucky enough that even though he doesn't understand the way I see things, he still "accepts and loves the weirdness that is me!"

not to be named here (not verified) says...

I quite find this to match me. I've done the test a few times and the only deviation from INFJ was ISFJ with S winning by only one percent. l do also find frustration just like many others here. Most people I see think of me as weird and do not delve further to find out what I am like. That caused me to create a belief that I deserved to be alone because I was not worthy in their eyes, yet I chose to stick to my core preferences. Eventually someone chose to accept me into the more... outcasted group and I found many of them were odd and crazy like me. A few of them have really become close in the fact I have entrusted them with my inner fears, and so have they. They keep my frustration lower, though I still resent how others cannot see what I can. That many people around eachother do not know and cannot detect inner turmoil and try to help them, which can actually save lives. Even then, just choosing to accept humanity's fate rather than trying to make the world a better place makes me angry. Though I will say Introversion is a good trait for me as I wear glasses which hide my emotions from anyone who may share the power of looking into eyes and seeing the core basics of one's personality and inner mood. I also share the instincts to bend myself to my friend's will, and even new people just to make them feel better. As for what else I have read in this comment section, yes people may change, though mostly people will not give up on their core values, rather adapting to others when socializing, and venting when alone or choosing to leave a group entirely. Those who do change completely often lead towards a dark path unknowingly, and if not saved can lead to another life no longer living. Unless they truly believe in the new core values presented. As for empathy, I have a lot of it. Not just because of my personality, but experiences too. Many think of helping the victim, though leave the destroyer behind, calling them heartless no matter what, yet they can change into a caring person. I even have experience being a victim of self-hatred, but I deal with it. Though I cannot bear for others to have the same issues, making me want to do anything to get rid of the burden. Even now, as you can see a lot about my ideas, there is still much more to me than this, and it would take a long time to even get me to open up about other things. Sadly I believe I must take my leave for now. Perhaps I will see a response soon. I do apologize for any mistakes and I wish you all a good time of day or night.

Guest (not verified) says...

I recently found out I'm an INFJ and it makes complete sense. I've never felt like I really fit in. I'm that kid that ate lunch in the library. I've always loved literature and history and would love a career related to either, but it just doesn't seem practical. Nothing else excites me and I'm afraid I won't be happy if I settle for something else, but realistically I need a job. Any advice would be welcomed.

Guest Siobhan (not verified) says...

This INFJ, a nurse and active Church member for 45+ years, who has dreamed of that little cabin in the mountains with a fireplace, lots of books and at least a lab and a couple of cats (I love all animals), have felt like that Alien my entire life. I've actually been labeled "weird"! It's good to know I'm not alone.

Guest (not verified) says...

Has anyone seen the movie divergent... Being infj kinda feels like that to me ... I'm all things non conformant..

Agata (not verified) says...

Couple of years ago I was, I think, ENFJ and thought something wasn't right. Now, after taking some online test, it looks like I am INFJ and stuff makes more sense. It is a bittersweet feeling.

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