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How do INFJs communicate?

INFJs are reserved about communication, and often keep their most treasured ideas and insights private. They are oriented to values and connection, and will search for meaning in the information they take in. They think deeply and often need time to process and evaluate before they are ready to share their ideas. They seek validation and will take the time to appreciate others and their ideas. They are often talented at making connections to bring people together and integrate ideas, values, and human potential.

What are INFJs like as partners?

In relationships, the INFJ is supportive and guided by a sense of integrity. The INFJ's interest in human development applies to their mates as well, and they are encouraging of their partner's dreams, aspirations, and achievements.

INFJs want to maintain harmony in their relationships and are highly motivated to resolve conflicts. They tend to be creative problem-solvers and look for the emotional core of an issue to create a meeting of the minds. Although they desire cooperation, they are not willing to go along with an idea that does not feel authentic to them. When it comes to their core values and ethics, they are unwilling to compromise.

INFJs want a high degree of intimacy and emotional engagement, and are happiest when they feel they are sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings with their mates. INFJs value a partner who respects their deeply held values and ethics, and one who appreciates their creativity and inspiration.

What are INFJs like as parents?

As parents, INFJs are devoted and loving. They tend to form strong bonds with their children and are very closely tuned in to their emotional states. Counselor parents naturally see the possibilities in their children and encourage them to develop their potential.

Although they support their children in their individual interests, INFJ parents are firm disciplinarians, particularly when it comes to moral or ethical concerns. They are concerned with their children's emotional health and spiritual development, and want to create a nurturing atmosphere that promotes growth and well-being.

INFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

INFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the INFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the INFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Guest (not verified) says...

This same exact change happened to me.

CTK (not verified) says...

Same thing here....I think I changed from INTP to INFJ as a result of becoming a spouse and a parent. I also think that 15 years of teaching have impacted my personality. Interesting that someone else had the same change.

HeyyItsAJ (not verified) says...

I think we begin to understand ourselves better as we get older and that's why we may score different. When you're stressed you can act in a different way. For example, I'm an INFP, but when I'm stressed I act like an ENFP. I'm naturally introverted, but when I get way too caught up in my thoughts I need outside stimuli, so I become more extroverted. It's just whether or not you're in tune with what makes you comfortable, or if you feel threatened somehow. Hope that offers insight :)

Guest (not verified) says...

You make a great point here. I have always scored INFP throughout my youth and only recently as INFJ. I definitely feel more aligned with my core self now. I realize much of my -P was a protection strategy (in my case, unwilling to face my fear of rejection and take action in social contexts).

Guest (not verified) says...

My opinion is stated as this:

INFJ's have a different kind of beauty compared to most types. Nature v.s. Nurture plays a role in this as well whether we change as we grow- but here's the twist that we should remember. INFJ'S have the ability to adjust to both functions as they go about through life. Our innerworld is what we love to be in, but we also use the functions to be a part of the outer world to make connections because we are so detached from it. When we do come out and we do try new things (different functions), we may feel like we are different from what we were. I was born with hearing, but as I aged to 3 I became deaf to the point where I couldn't hear, so I went through no hearing, to hearing, to no hearing and back to hearing. Now I have a better device which is called a Cochlear Implant. My mind was in its own world for so long because that was all I knew when I was in the process of improving my hearing. So, my Si function couldn't really work as much at all, I was a dreamer and idealist for so long, and very introverted. As I developed, and I began to hear again and met up on the same pace with my classmates, I became more extroverted.

Later I took the Meyer's Briggs test and came out as an ENFJ; I felt that was true, but later I began to take the test again, and different sites so I could see how accuruate it was or not. The test came to be INFJ. I truly found my niche and feel that I can switch between functions to make connections to the outer world while still having my inner world with me. We go through different stages in life.
In child development we learned that by the age of 5 a child's personality is developed, we can continue to change our personality but we have genes that we cannot change and tendencies that cannot be reversed. Honestly there's no argument about what's correct and what's not. We are who we say we are, and only we know the depth of ourselves, secrets in our being that no human could ever explore.

Hope this makes sense somehow.
P.S. I recommend researching many different sites about INFJ's that will give you a well rounded idea- or bigger picture

Matthias Terccero (not verified) says...

I love your comment,

'We are who we say we are, and only we know the depth of ourselves, secrets in our being that no human could ever explore.' This is beautiful. I agree. We have an intimacy with ourselves that know one can truly understand.

- Matthias

Guest (not verified) says...

I think the description of the types give us fundemental information who we are to begin. Years pass and we evolve our foundation. We may begin by being idealist towards the future but experiences over time teach us to live pragmaticly at the presence. The passage of time makes things richer.

HeyyItsAJ (not verified) says...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Id,_ego_and_super-ego

I think we have 3 distinct types. I'm well aware of which personality type my id, ego, and super-ego are. Once I realized what was what I had a much better understanding of myself :)

And in case anyone is curious I'm id: INFJ, ego: ENFJ, super: ENFP

Hope it's useful!

MatteBlack says...

There are many I know who take the personality test, idealizing themselves to be something they wish they could be, but certainly are not. Through my life I have met far TOO many "INFJ" or those who obviously claim to be. Upon further discovery of their lives and in comparison to my own I have always come to realize that they are not INFJ but have some sort of respect for the personality type and attempt to exemplify it. I don't know why this is. I have been taking this test since I was 15 and for over a decade at various times throughout every year. Sometimes I would take the test drunk. Sometimes depressed, sometimes at complete ease. Always INFJ. Never anything else. Whereas I have friends who take it and get different answers every time. Does this mean they are all these things? Possibly. As someone who takes his convictions very seriously, and life in general very seriously, I would say they are none of these things. Who cares? Stop trying to be something you are not. These personality tests are designed to help cure your confusion about careers, relationships, etc. Not to make you feel proud of who you are as a lonely 1 or 2 percent. There's no compliments for the rare, only the original. So be true to yourself. Next time you take the test, be honest. Don't answer who you think you are, or what you would like to be. Be entirely Y O U

LOL (not verified) says...

While I agree with the core message of your rant, I have to say ... chill out my friend. Like I said I agree with you, and I believe most others do as well. However I must say you seem overly "serious" about preaching authenticity to others and very proud about your consistent INFJ results over the years. My simple suggestion my friend, being also INFJ,is that you use your insight to build more so than to rebuke. Your understanding will go farther with a delivery of compassion and consideration.

Guest (not verified) says...

Please consider that, as with all aspects of oneself, some people live permanently at the far ends of a continuum, so fluctuations in their mood or perspective do not register as a different "type." Others' set points, however, may be closer to the middle of the scale, so fluctuations for them do push them over the magic "0" point to register them as a different type. Your consistent type may not prove that your personality is any more stable than anyone else's, but only more extreme than many others.

GuestV (not verified) says...

Hmmm...if you take the test and come out as this type, why should it not be true for others? Why do you think others are not being honest?
I remember attending an MTBI training in which the presenter cautioned us against assigning types to other people - the tests are for us to figure out ourselves, not others. And since we really don't know what's inside another, it seems very arrogant to declare that those many people you refer to are not INFJ.

Or do you just want to keep that lonely 1-2% all for yourself? ;)

Guest (not verified) says...

If you read after the quiz..closely.. there are fluctuations in each INFJ; you are a percentage of introversion.. And so on.. Each percentage will vary in each INFJ.. So not too often you even meet an INFJ that is fully similar. I'm only 6% judging over perceiving.. So naturally depending on any life scenario I may lean towards the latter.. No two people are EXACTLY the same so everyone is their own original.. Some just may not know themselves well enough to interpret every question on all these "tests" the same way.. They may not be able to outwardly look upon themselves to know how they would truly react. I do love interacting and helping people so much I feel I could walk into a room and stand in the "middle" but I know when I do, in real life, I'll move to the edge of the room and watch. Those who know themselves can accurately evaluate themselves. Your passion is wonderful but with all respect.. Everyone is an original. Entirely "YOU"

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow I'm only 13 I wonder if that happens to me

Guest (not verified) says...

Another person on the same train here. I think it makes sense though, because an INTP tends to analyze situations around them and attempt to find a solution for a problem. If an INTP pick human behaviors and conflicts as their subject, there might be a big chance that they will come to appreciate deep counseling as the powerful tool.

Guest (not verified) says...

I usually get ISFJ but I have also gotten INFJ.

CL (not verified) says...

If you tested INTP in the past yet test INFJ now, my first question is, "do you identify with INFJ? Is it a better fit for you?" You might switch your individual letters , on a test, under stress. Perhaps you found yourself acting "P" because you needed to act P under social pressure, or P was more expedient. Of course this assumes you answered the questions of the test in a way that wasn't quite true to yourself. Carrying that thought forward, maybe you were a "P" wanabe, and answered the quiz to reflect the way you wished you were. Look at the gestalt of INFJ-ness and INTP-ness. Look to INFJ preferences: introverted intuition, then extroverted feeling, THEN introverted thinking. INTP is quite different. You can not mistake one for the other and they don't just switch. You messed up the test somehow or had a real sea change in 15 years. Is intuition alive and well in you? is it your mysterious friend? then INFJ. I could go on, lots to this. Just spend time considering the preferences and how the prefs work together. If INFJ, your gut will tell you. If INTP, your intellect will decide.

Guest (not verified) says...

So strange, the same thing happened to me!!!

Guest (not verified) says...

Yes! I have gotten Infp and Infj and I believe Intj and intp...hmm existential crisis much?

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow same thing with me!!! I was about 18-19 when I took the test and got INTP and it made sense. I am now 21 and took the test again and this makes even more sense to me.

Guest (not verified) says...

I did too, about 20 years ago and was also INTP. Just did the test again with a therapist and am now INFJ. Therapist says it is common to change over time.

Guest (not verified) says...

Its because you are developing your cognitive functions, maybe at that stage in your life introverted thinking was the function you were using the most(yur dominant function), if your are INTP your secondary function is extroverted intuition, you could possibly be using that more now that your older and mistaken it for introverted intuition (dom INFJ function).

janey (not verified) says...

People sometimes change a bit over time. I used to be an ESTP when I was younger but now I'm an INTJ for some reason.

LilaJames (not verified) says...

I changed a lot. It's normal. I used to be an INFJ and now I'm this

miranda1651 says...

I too took this test around twenty years ago and was scored as an INTJ. However, unexpected suffering in life either personally or seen/heard in others I've met along the way has changed my type to an INFJ. Interesting....

Guest (not verified) says...

Just took the MB test (twice) just to be sure. INFJ. So, this is where all my people are! Hello! Now I understand why no one wants to watch movies with me. I cannot count how many times people have told me, stop saying what you think is going to happen. LOL!

bih17529 says...

I fail to see how INFJ's are rare. There can't be so few of us in the world. It's just not possible.

Guest (not verified) says...

We do change as our life evolves and our life situations changes, and our social life goes through test after test after test. You can call it learning curves, or taking account of what happened to us.

Guest (not verified) says...

The same has happened to me. I took the test in 1999, and thought 'Yes!' when told I heard the description of the INTP, but now INFJ feels right.

Oliver (not verified) says...

Same

I was an INTJ for 6 years. Never understood why I was so lost until I found out I was an INFJ 6 years later! Now everything makes sense...

Guest (not verified) says...

Mine has changed with age as well. When I took the test my first year of university (early 20's), I was an INTJ. The administrator was surprised by this because of its rarity and because I was female. In my mid 40's, I score as an INFJ and reading about this personality type, it certainly hits home on every mark, though parts of the descriptions for INTJ still fit with me as well. Interesting.

The Dreamer (not verified) says...

Exactly the same with me, except I took the test a second time only six months later to find I had changed from INTP to INFJ.

Kathleen Jacque (not verified) says...

For years I thought I was an ISFP. But now I Find that INFJ fits just as well. Curious!

somebody stalking the forums (not verified) says...

yeah I've changed too, used to be INFP, not ISFP though I get ESFP sometimes too 

Guest (not verified) says...

Try looking into the chameleon effect 

Prasad (not verified) says...

similarly,

2014, i was INTP.

2015, i was INFP.

today in 2017, i am INFJ.

 

VB (not verified) says...

I am not sure if I am doing the test wrong, I am usually an INTJ but sometimes I switch to an INFJ

guest (not verified) says...

same!

Guest (not verified) says...

The same thing happened to me! I always redid the test to see if there were any changes regarding being intp and there were not. After a couple of years in therapy I've decided to do it again and I get infj everytime. 

Ana123 (not verified) says...

I had the exact same switch. How funny

Guest (not verified) says...

I am definitely an INFJ in all senses except how I share my feelings. When I was younger I was more introverted about how I felt but as you get hurt and learn how to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again I have learned how to voice my opinions better. Maybe I have just evolved!

Aitokea says...

@Allmarkha: Try completing the test again, just this time more slowly and carefully.

Allmarkha says...

Wow thats a lot like me. I'm definitely introverted and intuitive not completely sure about the others though. I do care alot about values.

Guest (not verified) says...

I feel like there would never be a better description of me.

Guest (not verified) says...

Ditto!

samantha (not verified) says...

when i irst took a Myers Briggs test, years ago, I scored an ENFJ but ever since then I have been and INFJ which I feel is more authentic for me.

Very good test and inforamtive site.

Guest (not verified) says...

When I was younger in my mid 20's I too was am ENFJ (extrovert) now that I am older I am an INFJ (intorvert), which makes sense to me since the Extroverts get most of thier data, values ect from the external world around them, and the introverts get it from the internal within. Who says aging is bad, its not. I am happy with who I am and this test is helpful in helping yu to better understand yourself and others. My husband took it and he is a ESFP, which is the complete opposite of me. Now I know why we struggle so much sometimes. I have decided to let him be him, and me be me. But it was a comfort to me to know that I already figures these things out about him long before the test.

Vanight says...

The misconception that ones MB type changes based on age, mood, or whatever...seems to be more and more common. I have been following the online Myers-Briggs fad since it started. I too had the same misconceptions until I read more and more about what this test really shows, and how reliable these free online tests are. Not all of the online test are 100% terrible, however, much the accuracy 'fail' has to do with how the individual takes the tests. Without being administered by a professional that can weed through improper testing and complement the test with other evaluations to come up with a holistic accurate profile determination, its kind of a gamble as to how reliable it is. The alleged profile changing illustrates this. Also, Mental & psychological conditions could affect The efficacy of these tests which arguably are questionable in quality to begin with. The other problem is how folks interpret interpret those 4 letters even if correct. I would suggest spending some time reading about cognitive functioning, so that you understand what these letters mean. It isn't a situation like, my N must have been activated, or, wow, must've been my S, or that day I was in a good mood so I guess my "I" turned into an E.

I would encourage you to also take other types of assessments like the old school 4 temperaments, the DiSC, Keirsey temperament sorter, etc... some are better suited for career context. I cant stress enough how important becoming familiar with cognitive functioning is, to correctly understand what the Myers-Briggs indicates.

MissusNemm (not verified) says...

This fits almost exactly how I think about and view myself - and I'm glad it acknowledges that INFJs are complex people because I've often drawn the same conclusion about myself! But, I'm happy to be who I am, even if it isn't always easy. I'm also not surprised to learn that this a rare personality type, as I often get the sense that I'm wired a little differently than other people. I get along well with almost anyone, but I don't come across people that I feel true kinship with very often. Though when I do, the resulting relationships are rich, long-lasting and much treasured.

Guest (not verified) says...

I completely agree with you, I rarely meet people I can't get along with but I also rarely meet people that I feel I have a true connection with - but of course that makes it all the more special when I do :)

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