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How do INFJs communicate?

INFJs are reserved about communication, and often keep their most treasured ideas and insights private. They are oriented to values and connection, and will search for meaning in the information they take in. They think deeply and often need time to process and evaluate before they are ready to share their ideas. They seek validation and will take the time to appreciate others and their ideas. They are often talented at making connections to bring people together and integrate ideas, values, and human potential.

What are INFJs like as partners?

In relationships, the INFJ is supportive and guided by a sense of integrity. The INFJ's interest in human development applies to their mates as well, and they are encouraging of their partner's dreams, aspirations, and achievements.

INFJs want to maintain harmony in their relationships and are highly motivated to resolve conflicts. They tend to be creative problem-solvers and look for the emotional core of an issue to create a meeting of the minds. Although they desire cooperation, they are not willing to go along with an idea that does not feel authentic to them. When it comes to their core values and ethics, they are unwilling to compromise.

INFJs want a high degree of intimacy and emotional engagement, and are happiest when they feel they are sharing their innermost thoughts and feelings with their mates. INFJs value a partner who respects their deeply held values and ethics, and one who appreciates their creativity and inspiration.

What are INFJs like as parents?

As parents, INFJs are devoted and loving. They tend to form strong bonds with their children and are very closely tuned in to their emotional states. Counselor parents naturally see the possibilities in their children and encourage them to develop their potential.

Although they support their children in their individual interests, INFJ parents are firm disciplinarians, particularly when it comes to moral or ethical concerns. They are concerned with their children's emotional health and spiritual development, and want to create a nurturing atmosphere that promotes growth and well-being.

INFJs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the INFJ's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the INFJ as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The INFJ may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between INFJs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

INFJs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the INFJ initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the INFJ, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the INFJ's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the INFJ's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

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Louise Sansam (not verified) says...

Wow you are the male vison of me! I cud sit and read your words all day!

Toussaint (not verified) says...

Wow, I thought I was the only one who thought exactly like this. This is my life everyday. I have to deal with being different and always feeling alone, or the only one thinking in a certain way. It really feels good to find ouy that there are actually some people with the same thoughts...

Waiting for Godot (not verified) says...

That is how we feel most of the time; frustrated. Attempts to connect do not end well and are very draining emotionally, reaffirming my belief that I would be happiest living in a small cabin in the mountains, surrounded with my books, a chocloate lab on the rug in front of the fireplace. Lonely?? I don't think so...I'd rather be alone than constantly disappointed. But every now and then I venture forth to tilt at another windmill. ...I am a firm believer that time spent caring for someone is never wasted. It is a true test of your emotional maturity to risk a pain like no other, again and again, hoping but never expecting to find someone worth caring about.

dalywood says...

I very much relate to several points you made. However, I would say I'm more disappointed (in people) and at times disillusioned (briefly, and cyclically) than frustrated. Your comment about preferring to be alone rather than being disappointed is right on the mark. I totally understand and it is my dream as well to live in a cozy cabin, in the mountains, with a creek, with my cats, in front of a fireplace, reading and exploring in a multitude of ways (internally and externally). I'm rarely lonely as I now have a compatible partner in life, and he is more introverted than I am; my alone time is a necessity of proportions I cannot begin to describe. I am also rarely bored as I'm always learning, discovering and find ways to entertain myself. Lastly, I don't think people understand the pain we always carry, but it is that pain that makes us as empathetic and caring as we are. It is a two-edged sword and with time and life experiences (I'm from the baby boomer generation), we learn how to use and live with that pain in more constructive and caring ways. I wish much peace and love for you.

Kdkm (not verified) says...

Oh, beautifully said. Thank you for sharing about the pain we carry. Yes! That has been my experience as well. I feel life so acutely. The highs are higher and lows are deeper. There's a beauty in that emotional range and depth, but it is also filled with isolation and pain too. Would I change this about me if I could? No!! I love seeing life the way that I do, however it is also a burden. Thank you for validating my internal perspective.

I found the discussion about preferring to be alone versus disappointed by others interesting. I was married for over thirty years before my husband passed away last year. I have to say that despite the marriage being less than ideal, sharing my life was very satisfying and preferable to being constantly alone. I have met someone recently who is more similar in personality and it has been an amazing experience. It is making a world of difference to be in an intimate relationship with a person who is more compatible. So I'm encouraging those of you to not throw away your wishes for that kind of interpersonal intimacy. It's possible and very worth it.

Guest (not verified) says...

Wow. I never thought there were people like me. I'm only 12 and this is all so new to me. I try again and again to make people understand who I truly am, but it doesn't work. I've realised that you shouldn't live to please people because there's always gonna be that one person that you're gonna miss out. Helping people realise their potential, realise who they are is all I want to do and to do that obstacles must be waded through, pushed aside, gotten rid of. But not taken to heart. Sometimes, I wish I could fly, soar in the sky and leave all the worries and worldly matters behind. But then my heart takes me back to the people I love and care for and then the next day, it's the same thing again when you realise that people just won't understand.

I hope I never change. I want to live my life helping people, I really do. I feel horrid when I get envious of others because that's not who I am. There comes a time when you realise that you have what you have and to give is the best way for me to feel like I've been given something great. Somebody can give me the greatest thing in the world but to pay it forward would make me feel better than to receive it. I want to live my life changing the world. I have dreams, huge dreams. Like ending wars, inventing wings, crazy things. And I hold onto the, because I know they'll get me forward. It warms my heart to know that there are people out there who understand me and I hope they stay that way. For me, the thing that keeps me going is: to give is to receive. Thanks for being there and supporting all those in need.

P.S:- I love cats too. A cabin in the mountains with just me and nobody coming around calling me a crazy cat lady is sometimes all I wish for.

Mysticablue (not verified) says...

Thank you so much for clarifying not only the depth in the pain we carry, but also the truth for the good in it. I am a highly sensitive INFJ and very empathetic. I know that these are not values that are store bought, but that are driven deeply at the cost of my superficial existence that I am learning to separate from daily. By the way, I just learned that the INFJ has a shadow self that mirrors a superficial reflection of a ESTP and the purpose is to prevent us from discovering and accepting our authentic selves. We must break away from this and re-discover the freedom and beauty in being, just as we are.

Guest (not verified) says...

Find an INFP if your lonely. Worked for me.

Andromeda (not verified) says...

I agree :) Boyfriend is INFP and I couldn't be happier.

Guest (not verified) says...

Heh. My twin sister is an INFP, and whenever I'm feeling particularly lonely, or sad, I find it really helps to talk and just hang out with her.

Trish says...

I agree with you.  I can see how the person's actions have lead them into the situation they're in, then I can see possibilities of helping get back on the path they want to return to.  Many times I come across as insensitive, or they don't believe what I'm saying.  I usually end up walking away.  It took a long time for me to figure out that it is their choices and their life, and I can only offer a solution.

Guest (not verified) says...

Exactly, every time I try to help someone because it seems like what they are doing will hurt them in the future or create a bad image of them, they think I'm judgemental and trying to control them when all I'm doing is pointing it out to them so they can help themselves. It's frustrating being misunderstood all the time. If you give advice you're interfering or judging them and if you try to stay quiet or stay away you're apparently being rude or ignoring them. It's hard trying to let people know you when all they end up doing is blaming you and making you look like a bad person. Being an INFJ is hard.

Clarisse (not verified) says...

I am sorry you feel you were forced by being misjudged and misunderstood into being reclusive. I have tested out as an INFJ and I have experienced being misjudged as well. There are ways that separating oneself from others can lead to great good and especially since you recognize that you are with God in a way you are choosing the way of a hermit. Hermits and monks benefit all of makind by praying for others. I have a secret hide-a-way in a sense that I go to an adoration chapel and pray for others. It is a special calling, so in some ways you can have a sense that you have been called apart for that by God. It is hard to experience misjudging and unfortunately for a while I was trying to fix things until I just realized and accepted the fact that I was trying to change someone who could not change. I felt great sense of injustice and was trying hard to find a way to bring about justice but not one else involved wanted that. It was very painful and it was especially hard because supposedly these were religious people. I guess it was a lesson God wanted me to go through and it did bring me closer to God and knowing His friendship. I will pray for you. Not everyone in the world is your enemy though. Love does exist. pray for me and I will pray for you.

Williambondj (not verified) says...

Becky, I fully understand. You took the words and experiences right out of my mouth, mind, and life. I'm 51 years old now, I've gone through an awful lot, to the point that those I thought were my friends turned out to not be and now I don't trust anyone anymore. My wife doesn't understand me and though I used to talk to her all the time about my thoughts and what I felt, she doesn't get it, doesn't care and has made it so hard for me that I don't even talk to her if I can help it. I am at a point in my life I just don't care anymore. I wish you well and I hope you find some peace.

Guest (not verified) says...

You're not kidding..

Guest (not verified) says...

I tend to disagree with your statement that "you are who you are" - this is an essentialist and deterministic viewpoint that assumes that things can be fixed in a universe where everything is changing all the time.

From that perspective stability - whilst temporarily providing a sense of comfort and safety - is an illusion after all.

....consider: what would be the point of any form of education or therapy if people couldn't change and were somehow fixed??

s.g.s (not verified) says...

We do have a fixed, underlying nature though. Take language, for example: sure, people learn different languages depending on their upbringing, but you can't teach human language to a kitten or a chimpanzee, for example. Rather, you require some kind of cognitive structure to accommodate that experience.It's like Leibniz once said, ''nothing in the intellect if not first in the senses, except the intellect itself''. It's quite plausible to suppose the same to be true of other areas of cognition. Our personalities may change in some minimal or superficial sense, but it is basically shaped by more fundamental, underlying biological properties.

Liz. Also an INFJ (no surprise) (not verified) says...

Agreed! 100%.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hello,

I see your point, but I beg to differ a little bit. While I truly believe that people can change, I am not sure that an INFJ person can, or at least not on the primary basis, and I think that’s what makes that type of personality so unusual and so… stubborn (although I don’t think it is a matter of stubbornness, but a matter of truthfulness). I am supposed to be an INFJ, and I can’t deny I am always searching for meaningful reasons in everything; I am deeply convinced about that being the correct way of understanding life, and that’s what I don’t think I could ever change, because then I would betray my inner rules.

While I would change my points of view about anything if I were to find a deeper or fairer reason to do so (here I mean deeper or fairer than the ones I had before), I don't think there is any way I am changing the conviction of relying in fairness to carry out those changes.
So yes, there is an essential part of me, the way I focus everything, which is completely fixed because I am completely convinced about it being the correct way to do so. I just admit the possibility of being wrong about that approach because my logic says that there is a possibility of me being wrong sometimes, but you see, even when I doubt myself do it in a way that makes me potentially right.

By that I mean that INFJs perhaps won't change essentially because it is their indefatigable pursue of meaningfulness what defines them the most, something they are not going to dismiss (not because they are not able, but because they are sure about the fact they shouldn't).It is a sort of reasoned and thorough "not changing" condition.

That’s why I think the sentence “you are who you are” makes so much sense for the INFJs.

Have a nice day ;)

Irene

PS: English is not my mother tongue, so I apologize if I made any mistake.

Guest (not verified) says...

I would not change who I am a million times over, the experiences within my development, no matter how twisted, horrid, and disgusting. They made me who I am. I am what I am, because I love who I am. I would rather live a lonely existence and stand on my morals. I would know well that my outlook is the most healthy and least sick than, living a life hurting others. It has never been my desire to watch those around me suffer, so if I had to so my personality would shape like this. I would rather it be the case, as long as I don't change, I can adapt and modify my life to the needs and events around me, but don't ever let me forget something this important, don't let me forget why I reach the suffering, to resolve my past trauma. I don't ever want to know the suffering was all in vein.

dalywood says...

I love your last two sentences. Quite remarkable how you were able to accurately identify how I also think and feel, but I was
not as successful as you in articulating it. Thank you for that.

KLD (not verified) says...

I can totally relate to this. I often wonder where I "fit in" and feel like an alien...lol.

Guest (not verified) says...

I can relate to your statement about wondering why you don't exactly "fit in". Learning that I am INFJ made me feel much better about feeling and thinking differently than the majority of the people that I have encountered.

Guest (not verified) says...

I agree. I also find it funny that INFJ's are considered 'mysterious', I thought myself to be honest with my expressions... But its true in the end. Despite expressing myself often enough i'm usually misunderstood. It was kinda lonely having few people to relate to, or who could really understand me. Now I know why and it cheered me up :)

Guest (not verified) says...

My experience is that I feel as if I try to be sincere and represent myself as truthfully as possible, and yet people perceive me as manipulative. It's almost like no one will believe that I'm being real, because overall it's so rare that it seems more likely that it's fake.

Guest (not verified) says...

I feel the same way. It's like you are saying the words just like everyone else says them but for some reason people do not understand your words or they simply do not value your input. I'll give advice on something to someone or tell them how to handle a problem if they ask me for my input. 90% of the time they never listen to me. But, someone else can come along and tell them the exact same thing I did and they listen to them. I've asked if it's my delivery or what. But, no one can actually tell me the reason why they didn't follow my advice. Makes me think I'm missing something!

Outsider (not verified) says...

I think that's because we're maybe not as absolute or assertive as some people. I always give my opinion with the fact that it is my interpretation of the situation, I'm not always right or infallible, and not perfect myself. So I think that this can make people think that the advice might not be the right thing to do when what most people are looking for is a definitive resolve or solution. I don't think my approach is wrong but, you're right, advice given doesn't seem to have the weight of the same advice from someone else.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am so with you! All the time I say, "I say what I mean and I mean what I say" but I still feel like people look for the 'hidden' meaning in my words because they just can't believe someone can be so honest. It really is aggravating. Now that I'm 40-something, I usually just keep my thoughts to myself. It's been a long life of feeling misunderstood, and honestly, undervalued.

Kathy Monroy (not verified) says...

So good to know there are more people like me. Completely misunderstood. So often I want friends and I reach out to people, as hard as it is for me, and I get treated as if I have some sort of ulterior motive. Then asking people what I should do and getting a "just be yourself" is so frustrating...

Guest (not verified) says...

Me too.. I went to a psychic a few years back and she drew a legit pic of an alien and said that is where i come from. Haha Of course i didn't believe her, or did I? Ooooo

Jendivin (not verified) says...

The same thing just happened to me a few weeks ago.
I went to a medium/psychic tell me that I have psychic ability and one of my kids as well.
At the time I only knew I was "Highly Sensitive"
I came across the personality test on pintrest and was floored to say the least. Everything in my life is making sense to me now.
I've been told I have OCD and I thought I had ADHD
I don't have either of those conditions and now know it's part of my personality.
I cannot begin to tell you the enormity of this discovery.
I'm still in shock.

Guest (not verified) says...

Wait...really? Because I'm thinking that I might have OCD too, and it's been so hard for me recently because these worries seem to have taken over my life. Thanks for posting that, though!

Guest Bean (not verified) says...

I realised I was an HSP (highly sensitive person) a while ago. I was brought up by a parent with narcissistic personality disorder and addiction. It's possible that sensitivity came about as a required survival mechanism, as I constantly had to read and evaluate situations and walk on egg shells.
I just found out that I am a INFJ and it makes a lot of sense. I have always felt different, misunderstood etc. but also sometimes admired for some of my creative gifts (which I sadly also mostly hide), as well as insight and imagination.
Despite being able to understand and sympathise with others I find relationships challenging and struggle to find people who understand me. There have also been a lot of narcissistic partners in my life, who can easily fake the empathy of our INFJ type, but actually have no empathy at all. After a very sad and traumatic time in my last relationship that was like this (and the most destructive)I have had 14 years being single, and find it hard to trust again. Understanding about my type has helped me understand how I am how I am, that I have high ideals and crave harmony, and that discord makes me unwell.
I have also worked as a carer for many years with elders and learning disabled etc. I love helping others but experienced real burn out in this role, and hope to retrain as a counsellor. I am also drawn to the arts. I often feel that there is not enough time to do the things I want to do in life, but I keep plugging away because this is what makes life meaningful to me.
I did have some difficult situations in my last two jobs when I moved from London to Scotland. It was horrible because my sensitivity was at a peak, and it was a new environment etc. and I was a target for bullying. I think people also took my shyness for aloof arrogance, and I was again misunderstood. It was very difficult experience but thankfully I've left these situations behind and have a good therapist.
I am at the point where I am thinking about the people in my life, who honours me, and the kind of relationships I want to have. I realise that these relationships/friendships are best with those few rare types who are warm and caring and gentle. My extrovert side sometimes craves more excitement and fun but there can be some fakery in those circles too.
Self knowledge is a great thing, especially as as INFJ types were sensitive to criticism and want our contribution to be valued. Knowing our type and what is important to us can help understand the disappointments and sense of alienation that can happen sometimes! Also we can value ourselves more highly and take more seriously what we have to offer the world.

Karin26 (not verified) says...

I can definitely relate to that feeling of not fitting in for being misunderstood. I think that is not only a characteristic of this personality type, but something that is more of a universal quality. We're all humans and we all know that feeling and fear on some level I believe. It just seems that this personality type - if I judge it from my own experience - is more reflective and intuitive and sensitive than most other types. And therefore it can make life a little bit harder for this type, I believe. On the other hand, because we are quite in tune with out emotions I like to believe that we are dealt exactly what we can handle, and that we are good at working through things exactly because we have a focus on other's true motives, our feelings and difficult issues. I think no other personality type is more apt to deal with emotional issues/capacities better than an INFJ. The 'difficulty is that each INFJ has a unique way of dealing with things and it can take time to find what this is for you.

In my personal experience I have also dealt with individuals that have narcissitic tendencies and that fake empathy. I have decided to no longer have contact with such individuals as they drain me emotionally and cause me a lot of stress, frustration and anxiety. They are bad for me, so I had to be wise and let them go. I think particularly when empathy and emotional capacity is faked, this can hurt INFJs more and be harder to overcome than for other personality types, as INFJs are very empathising and sensitive individuals. One thing most characteristic of INFs is integrity; this is why we cannot stand fake people, manipulation, and lies etc. INFJs, as judged from my own experiences and life experience, simply cannot fake. Period. We cannot fake empathy. We cannot fake that we care and love somebody. Therefore it is also extremely painful and almost impossible to believe that others are capable of deceiving us. It is even harder to realize that others cannot match our emotional capacitities, and it hurts so much when you find out this limitation in somebody that you cared for and trusted (either as a friend or a romantic partner). 

I think that is actually one of our strenghts, that the relationships we have are not always easy. This challenge is part of what makes it interesting, and why relationships we form and have (and lose) keep us occupied. We tend to be a bit more sensitive to things and in my personal experience it happens that I more often than not notice things that other people miss, or just things that I pick up on. I've learned that it is not a bad thing to be sensitive and attuned to things, and I've learned that writing has always helped me. 

However, despite being and INFJ and needing alone-time to reflect on things and to just do my thing, on my own, I find that as I grow older I am looking more and more to expand my horizons. I want to become more social and become better at juding/reading people so that I may understand humans better. My highest goal in life is to help people, in some way. To create some positvie change in the world, in whatever way possible. And by gaining life experience, learning more about the world and the people in it, I strive to achieve this goal. And it can be achieved in little ways. Maybe somebody reads this message/post and realizes that they are not alone. If that is the case, then I feel I have made some kind of difference in the world already. Sometimes you have to start small to make big changes :)

In this phase in my life the emphasis is on trying to challenge myself and gain more life experience. I am 26 as I am typing, so I realize that is quite young in any case. But I think that because I have always been very comfortable on my own, I've started to fear that I am missing out a little bit. I have several friends and close connections to them so it is not that have missed friendships. It is rather that I've learned and grown a lot on a professional/ademic and personal level, but less on the intrapersonal level and social levels and I want to give that more emphasis from now on. And I think, despite being introverted and having a tendency to want to be alone - which there is absolutely nothing wrong with - I think it would be generally good advice for INFJs to get out there sometimes and see more of the world, meet different people and make new friends.

I just strongly dislike the thought of mindlessly accepting "I am an INFJ, therefore... X" For example saying that you are not X or Y or you can't do certain things. At the end of the day, we INFJs can learn a lot from other personality types. Plus, there are elements of other personality types in all of us and vise versa. So, by all means I think it is always important to keep an open mind and to realize that you as a human being are more than what can be summed up in a personality review, despite the truth there may be in the evaluation.

My sister, for example is an ESFP and we have an amazing relationship. She has many characteristics that I highly value. She is spontaneous, enthusiastic and open - a real social bee- and by being around her I have learned so many things and have implemented some of those things that were naturally less present/dominant in me. Because, at the end of the day what we are all looking for is a connection. And we cannot do that if we do not try to understand others. Even if those others end up hurting us, and do not understand us, we can take away value from the interaction and the experience. I believe it is not about the destination but about the journey. Always keep trying to become a better version of yourself. Accept the things which you cannot change, of course, but try not to become complacent as that will limit the quality of your life. 

I wish everybody the best. May you find peace and happiness and a little bit of relief from the pain of being misunderstood for who you are. Please realize you are never alone. There are always others like you. The world is a big place with lots of people in it. A couple of percentages (only 1-2 percent of the population is a INFJ) might be a little bit but it is still A LOT of people if you do the math. Don't waste your time experiencing too many negative emotions. If you can let them go, or find some outlet - whatever that is - choose that. You will make your life better and have a more positive life.

 

 

 

Guest (not verified) says...

I can relate to feeling like an alien around others because I have never felt as if I "fit in". There are very few people who I can actually relate to and finding out that I was an INFJ really cheered me up. And then I got to reading about them and I litterally got a little creeped out because it fit me so perfectly. It was like reading an instruction manual to myself and it was amazing. I didnt feel so alone afterwards because I finally knew there were others just like me.

Kendo (not verified) says...

As an INTP--with a female friend who I think is an INFJ--I can so sympathize; I'd felt like an 'alien.' How many others have felt that way?! Throughout history? Knowledge can be a wonderful thing, as self-knowledge can be priceless

(VERIFIED) (not verified) says...

Now that I know my actual career options, all should go well :)

Guest (not verified) says...

hi there only just been introduced to all this personality stuff but hey how true is it, ive felt lost and alone, didnt fit in (alien) all my life. Now however I see the bigger infj picture Im happy to say I feel better. I have always been able to see popeles pain and suffering! probably in part due to my own!! still upwards and onwards my new friends out there. never give up hope of finding that oh so illusive inner peace.

Andrea

Guest (not verified) says...

It has to deal in part with the rate of the maturity of the prefrontal cortex of the brain becaus it controls certain aspects such as personality

Terrence (not verified) says...

I've always felt that way. I don't seem to fit in anywhere.

Guest (not verified) says...

I feel the same way I do not fit in any where! It is possible as well I could have PTSD...I cannot seem to hold a job any one going through this please help!

brentamiller says...

I also have had an intense sensation that I was different, but couldn't figure out why. At times I've wondered if something was "wrong" with me, and I suppose that is in line with INFJs seeking out counselors. In response to your question, I recently went through a very intense workplace harassment situation which caused hyper-alertness, anxiety and depression. It took a lot of outside advice and determination to keep myself on track, but I could see how it could have resulted in a very negative situation for my career. I landed with my feet on the ground, but despite that tachycardia and insomnia persisted for a few months. Social exclusion is perceived by the prefrontal cortex along the same lines as a physical threat. We're helper types and being targeted is traumatic. Definitely seek advice and counseling. In my case, it was a HR consultant and a lawyer, but a psychologist would have been in order, too!

Lynda (not verified) says...

I also went through a very traumatic bullying situation with a sociopath at work and it crushed my perception of everything I thought about myself. It took me a few years to really work through it all in my head but forever changed the way I see humanity. The only good thing is that it was a catalyst for some inevitable change in my life and I have learned to listen to my intuition the first time around.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm sorry you're going through that. I also find it difficult to stay at a job long, at least comfortably. What about trying two part-time jobs? That way you're not at anyone place for too long throughout the day and can even have a bit of variety in your day. Alot of of part-time jobs have you there for only 4 hrs at a time.

Guest (not verified) says...

I get along well with every walk of life, but have always felt like I actually belong to none.

Guest (not verified) says...

Yep, that's it in a nutshell.

wandella (not verified) says...

Yep you got it, but the key is to accepting that and to accepting who you are, not trying to change but working on your strengths.

We have got a lot to offer!

Guest (not verified) says...

I totally agree I never fit in anywhere and always thought it was because I must be a social regect but as I got older I realized my social skills are just fine it had to be something else....then I take this test and viola it is all clear to me now.

JCM (not verified) says...

Life is a journey and some of us do grow and change. No not everyone does, which validates your statement but it's not absolute. Some people really go through profound changes as I have myself.

CoffeeChemist (not verified) says...

^^^THIS. Yes. I have to take each circumstance and situation one at a time and find my place in it. It's exhausting.
Then if a known situation changes I have to start over again. The down side I suppose. But it means I CAN be flexible and get along in many different situations I suppose - unlike some other types.

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