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What strengths do INFJs bring to their work?

At work, the INFJ is focused on the task of bettering the human condition. INFJs are dedicated, helpful, and principled workers who can be relied on to envision, plan, and carry out complex projects for humanitarian causes.

Although they are typically driven by lofty ideals, Counselors gain the most satisfaction from their work when they can turn their ideas into reality, creating constructive change for other people.

INFJs are typically organized and prefer work that allows them to complete projects in an orderly manner. They are often independent and tend to prefer a quiet environment that allows them the opportunity to fully develop their own thoughts and ideas.

The ideal work environment for an INFJ is harmonious, industrious, and oriented to a humanitarian mission, with co-workers who are similarly committed to positive change. The ideal job for a Counselor allows them to use their creativity in an independent, organized environment to develop and implement a vision that is consistent with their personal values.

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What are some good careers for an INFJ?

The top driver for INFJs in choosing a career is the opportunity to do something that is consistent with their values. Often, INFJs choose careers in helping professions like health care, education, or counseling. INFJs are thinkers by nature and appreciate careers that allow them to use their intellect on problems that interest them. Often, these are people problems, for instance in psychology, but INFJs can also be found in other areas of the sciences and even engineering.

Many INFJs have a creative streak which can be seen in the top INFJ career trends. Working with language is especially popular for INFJs, but they can also be found in various fields in the arts.

Top career choices for INFJs include:

Health Care

Health care careers are a wonderful opportunity for INFJs to combine their deep caring for the welfare of other people with their often formidable intellectual capabilities. Many INFJs enjoy the sciences and find it extremely satisfying to put their scientific knowledge to use in helping others. Sample health care careers for INFJs include:

Counseling and Social Service

INFJs are typically wonderful listeners and deep, insightful thinkers when it comes to personal problems. They have a high degree of intuition about people and a deep well of patience in dealing with sticky emotional situations. All of these qualities make them talented, compassionate counselors, social servicepeople, and religious workers. Sample counseling and social service careers for INFJs include:


INFJs often enjoy the intellectual challenge of the sciences, and can be found in scientific careers that relate to their values. Sample science careers for INFJs include:

Business & Law

INFJs are often found making the business world a little more human, in HR, training, or the more humanitarian professions within the law. Sample careers for INFJs in the business and legal fields include:


Although teaching in front of a classroom is a typically Extraverted activity and can be a challenge for more Introverted INFJs, they often find it deeply satisfying to help children and adults grow and develop. Education careers that involve working with smaller groups, or one-on-one, are an especially good fit. Sample education careers for INFJs include:

Language and Arts

Many INFJs love the expressive quality of language, and they typically have the focus and concentration necessary to be excellent writers and editors. Other areas of the arts appeal as well. Sample artistic careers for INFJs include:

How can an INFJ find the right career?

INFJs, like all personality types, are most satisfied and successful when they choose a career that takes advantage of their natural strengths, talents, and interests. If you're searching for the right career, check out the Career Personality Profiler test, which provides a complete assessment of your personality, interests, and aptitude.

What careers should the INFJ avoid?

It is important to note that any personality type can be successful in any occupation. However, some occupations are well suited to the natural talents and preferred work style of the INFJ, while other occupations demand modes of thinking and behavior that do not come as naturally to this type. Occupations that require the INFJ to operate outside their natural preferences may prove stressful or draining, and often sound unappealing to Counselors who are choosing a career.

The following occupations have been found to be unpopular among INFJs, based on data gathered from surveys of the general population.

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Guest (not verified) says...

I know! I feel the same exact way!

Guest (not verified) says...

This is EXACTLY how I feel, and something my boyfriend doesn't seem to quite understand. He's always telling me how much everyone likes me and how I always connect to so many people and doesn't understand why I feel lonely sometimes when it's so hard to find a person that can truly understand me! It can be nice to know there are other people like me out there, I just need to keep searching!

SS (not verified) says...

I completed a similar "Personality Style Test" (Myers Briggs) during graduate school (as I was completing a Masters of Counseling degree). At that time, the test results indicated that I was an "ENFP". It has been several years since I took the Myers Briggs. I thought it would be rather interesting to retake a "Personality Style Test" to identify changes that may have occurred throughout the years. I found it rather interesting that Truity's assessment revealed an "INFJ" personality profile rather than an "ENFP". I attribute this difference to my educational training; professional experience as a psychotherapist; and most importantly to my personal journey of healing, growth, and change. I believe that the Myers Briggs "ENFP" test result was a correct assessment of my personality style "prior" to the recovery of my "authentic" self. However, through the process of psychotherapy, I have since reclaimed my "lost INFJ self". I found Truity's Test to be a helpful tool in identifying and substantiating personality style.

Guest (not verified) says...

There's been a lot of comments on here about types changing. For the sake of discussion, I wonder if maybe INFJs struggle some from "type envy"--where we identify so closely with another person (my mom in my case) that we tend to label ourselves according to their personality (she is definitely a TP), but as we grow older, we learn that trying to be that kind of person doesn't really make us happy, and slowly we settle into our INFJ identity. Just a thought...

Mike S (not verified) says...

That definitely resonates. Nicely articulated.

Guest (not verified) says...

this fits, my husband and I perfectly, we got the same EXACT score on the test to the single digits, these descriptions fit us like a glove.

Guest (not verified) says...

@SS I am also a former ENFP that is now an INFJ. I feel that as I've grown and learned and mellowed over the years, and honed in on the things I truly value, this change makes a lot of sense. When I realized that I was going to some concerts, parties and dinners simply for the sake of going and realized I would have preferred to stay home and read, write or spend time with my family, I knew that my extrovert flair was diminishing. I've always been good at seeing issues from all angles, but am quick to withdraw from any situation where my position and values don't mesh with the rest. It's why I sit alone at my desk working with headphones on, while my co-workers are chatting and drinking coffee or running off for lunch. I'm sure some would think that terribly boring and sad, but at this stage of life I prefer my solitude. Someday, I'll have my own Walden...

ryan.steffany.johnson says...

My wife wanted me to post this. I think now that she understands why I don't share all my inner most thoughts and feelings and why I don't just go along with her on whatever idea she has and why I don't jump when she does but follow behind closely, she can better appreciate the complexity of me. My hope is for a deeper understanding of each other. I love her, I want to love her more.

peachgirl says...

I am an INFJ female and felt overwhelmed and teared after reading this, not b/c I am sad but b/c I felt connected to what was said and also wish for my future partner to understand my lack of desire to share or follow willingly. I have no idea if all INFJs tend to easily connect emotionally with strangers or small details... but I do! :"(

Guest (not verified) says...

I am also an INFJ PERSON. I can really relate to the analysis of INFJ minority and I totally agree with what your comments. I suddenly feel I am not alone living in this world!

texas tea says...

I am interested in communicating with INFJs. I tested out initially as an INFJ but have also tested out as an INFP.

Guest (not verified) says...

The same thing happened with me except reversed…a year ago I tested as an INFP but I recently tested as an INFJ…it's pretty interesting.

Guest (not verified) says...

I tested as an INFP before also but now every time I take the test I come out as an INFJ.

Vanight says...

Then the test was low quality or incorrectly administered. Types dont change.

texas tea says...

why would they say INFJ are highest in martial dissatisfaction?

Guest (not verified) says...

I think because we have really high expectations of our partners.
We're so often misunderstood too; hard to find someone compatible with our personality that fulfills our needs.
And we have a difficult time forgiving, especially when it's something that goes against our core values.

It's not impossible though. Everyone has faults and you learn and grow wiser with life experience... Been married 11 years and I'm happy with my hubby. My mother was, I think, an INFJ too (passed away from brain tumour) but she was miserable with my father. My father and she were not compatible at all. If you find the right person, you can be very happy and fulfilled in marriage, I think.

Eli says...

Maybe it's because our differentness causes conflict in all areas.

My huge need for headspace is interpreted as being selfish, boring etc.
My privacy need provokes suspicion in my partner. I'm under surveillance 24/7.
The "frown" on my face when I'm thinking deeply, (I call it the screensaver look, lol) always trigger my partner to fight.
When I'm going to the deeply emotional connection way, my partner cuts the conversation and walks out of the room.
To keep my body healthy is priority. It results in conflict in meal choices, time for exercise, medication etc.
My creativity is being criticised for: taking up too much time (like drawing, guitar, writing), people will think you're bragging (meals for guests, interior decorating in my house - which is so simple anyways) etc.
My 'slowness' to answer on the spot, my partner interprets as I'm busy plotting a lie.
The list goes on and on...
Point is, there's no space for me as an INFJ to just be...

Guest (not verified) says...

You might need a new partner

Thomas (not verified) says...

The key is finding a way to accomodate the needs and wishes of our partner without feeling like we are compromising the core person we know we are. I know when we get criticized a lot it hurts, but in my case, because I know myself so well, I know when I deserve it and when I don't. If I don't deserve it, I just let it pass right over as the other person's difficulty (caused by stress, marital difficulties, money, or whatever), and ignore it. If it's my wife, I usually smile and say "I love you too dear" ;)

About "slowness", my wife of 23 years is an extrovert. She's commented numerous times that for someone with a Ph.D., I sure think and answer slow. Well, there's no way I can tell her what's going on inside my brain, so I just say that my thinking process is "linear", that I have to go through a lot of yes/no decisions to get to my answer, and sometimes that takes time. There's no worth in reminding her that that "slow" thinking process is what has given us the lifestyle we enjoy. She asks a question, and I give her a WIKI-length answer, and she cuts me off, saying I always give her too much detail in my answers. She just wants a yes/no answer. That's happened dozens of times over the years, and it'll keep on happening. Just because she doesn't understand that I treasure my knowledge and understanding, and that I want to share my treasure with her too, is no reason to get upset. As they say, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink. In this instance, I've tried to do my good deed and be helpful(countless times), and the pleasure of knowing that I've done my best is enough. It's really a matter of being CONFIDENT of the depth and richness inside me, that almost everything I need (not to be confused with wants) is right here where and when I need it, that makes it possible to demand so little from the outside, or be dissapointed when the outside offers little in return.

Guest (not verified) says...

My guess also would be that we are "misunderstood" quite often. But I'd have to agree that a happy marriage is possible. Marriage works because the two people are willing to do the work of being married. If two people really want a marriage and learn about each other and try their best to understand the other (not necessarily agree) and there's a good level of respect, then TRUST is earned from both sides and this leads to marital satisfaction. I especially like the research Dr. Gottmann has done regarding relationships and factors that influence relationship satisfaction. My point being that at first my husband found me beguiling and mysterious but now as I've learned to trust him with my innermost thoughts and feelings he knows me better than anyone and still loves me and cherishes our time together. We've had to do a lot of growing and learning to communicate effectively, but it is possible. I also think that because we are such a small portion of the population, other types aren't exactly sure how to relate to us, they've never had to before or they've never met anyone quite like us, so there's a bit of a learning curve. I do attribute my relationship satisfaction with my desire to believe in our connection and wanting to continually better it. Being an INFJ can contribute to satisfaction, I would think, given we learn how to communicate our needs and understand the needs of our partner. I can, however, see the flipside where our ideals are never quite met by our partner because we set them too high.

Guest (not verified) says...

I've taken this test as administered in a psych class and 3 other times over the last 15 years. I've scored INFJ every time.

Guest (not verified) says...

My biggest fear in being a mother one day is being overprotective with my kids and having them reject me or suffer because of being overprotected all their lives.

Will need to get therapy to not let this happen.

If anyone has any comments on being overprotective, please let me know!

INFP = "The Protector" personality type.


Guest (not verified) says...

@ texas tea. I believe the reason they are the highest in marital dissatisfaction is because they have a really high standard of what it is to be in a committed marriage. If it seems like their partner isn't as enthusiastic about their perception of how deeply serious they are about the marriage, then it causes dissatisfaction. Just my take on it.

P.s. I'm an INFJ.

Donna (not verified) says...

This was quite a fascinating read. I have been doing much research in regards to mbti and really, this is truly a great website for those just starting to get familiar with mbti.

I find it interesting how generally INFJs fit in a certain "stereotype," and I am somewhat excluded in the sense that it doesn't quite describe my persona in the least bit. This used to concern me, but my research pertaining to the cognitive functions aided me in understanding how it is all pieced together. It is okay to realize that the descriptions are merely generalities and really, I am uniquely myself such as everyone else in their own right.

I am not very kind nor am I sweet, affectionate person. If anything, I am described as a strong thinker with no patience for nonsense such as illogical and unreasonable statements, responses, and what not. I am very bad at connecting with other people as I tend to be quiet or a bit too honest when pointing out flaws. It would be nice to have an INFJ I can relate to at present as I have yet to personally meet one. If anything, the closest I could relate my views to is an Ni dom at the moment. Well, it's very good to see other INFJs here.

Truity says...

I wonder how you decided you were an INFJ when the description does not fit you? Have you considered whether INTJ is a better fit?

Guest (not verified) says...

I think that I am mis-typed as an INTJ. After reading the descriptions of both I think that it is too hard to figure out whether I am an INFJ or an INTJ. I think that maybe I am a mix of both. When I have taken the MTBI, I was first an INTP, then recently I was an INTJ and no matter which tests I take, I still come out as INTJ. However, many of the INTJ characteristics do not fit me, but some of the INFJ do. It is confusing especially when one is trying to find the right career for one's self.

Yuu (not verified) says...

Or perhaps INTP?

Guest (not verified) says...

I can really understand what you say about not connecting well with other people, not being affectionate or kind, and being really honest about flaws (often brutally honest). I think a huge part of it is that I'm a really extreme introvert and so I find it difficult to 'let people in' or to express any sympathy with people even if I people because I feel socially awkward in situations like that and I'm scared I'll do the wrong thing(e.g. when someone's upset). I also think my judgemental and critical part of my J trait is very strong and that I'm such a perfectionist and idealist that I see flaws in anything straight away and I highly value honesty so if someone asks me for my opinion I feel like it would unfair and dishonest to lie and say something was good when I thought it wasn't. Also, being unable to express sympathy or care about others doesn't mean that I genuinely don't care, because I do, it's just that I hate it when people, especially if they're not close to me, to know what I'm thinking or feeling. I love to be ambiguous and to keep people guessing, not really knowing what I'm thinking, and just generally being completely confused about me because it gives me complete privacy and secrecy.

Guest (not verified) says...

Could it be that you simply have a Loop? It's when the secondary function (Fe) malfunctions and you have to fill in with the tetriary (Ti): this might be your case.

Guest (not verified) says...

Yeah this test has given me a better understanding of myself, that it's okay to think a little differently than others. I'm in college right now and I get along with almost everyone but I never felt like I fit in to a certain group. I keep my deepest feelings to myself and only share them with those special few. I also worry that my expectations for a girl is too high. Very nice to see read what other INFJ's have to say and they have similar perspectives.

peachgirl says...

lol exactly, I never felt like I truly fit into a group even tho everyone easily becomes my friend, and my expectations for a guy is also too high but it's not worrying for me... well because I'd really like to find someone who meets all of my expectations and at the same time I also sadly believe I'll never find the perfect lover :(

Guest (not verified) says...

I Know How You Feel

Guest (not verified) says...

My experience too, I'm a girl and I thought that I won't find a guy anymore who could have it "all" :)) So, later on when I would find someone interesting enough, I was ready to compromise on some unimportant aspects if the core would be there.
Well, try an ENFJ and you won't regret it. One of my best (female) friends is an ENFJ. The connection is instant of course, but the communication on so many levels... you'll feel accomplished, understood and happy. She's 10 years older than me, and a few years ago I was joking saying that if I would have been a guy and older than her, I would have married her.
And guess what? I actually met an ENFJ guy myself :))) He truly has it ALL!!! And when finding out that they are the second most rare type among men, I understood why it was so hard to find him. :) I'm slowly falling in love with him and I know he already started to do so towards me. I'm happy and grateful that I waited, not panicked and didn't compromise up until now.
So do your best to be the best you can and follow your mind and heart. Find someone who can truly appreciate you fr who you are in all your complexity and beauty, and who is ready to show you this, and to share himself with you. And don't be afraid to let yourself be and to be discovered and loved! ^_^

Guest (not verified) says...

I took a couple personality test's and all said INFJ. When I saw the least suited jobs for INFJ on this website I laughed out loud. I have been in the Military, been a Paramedic and currently a Peace Officer. Honestly I have not liked any of them, so I guess it makes sense now.

Anyhow, thank you Truity for the insight.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am hearing you loud and clear. I had the same response. The very careers I am trying out for size, just don't fit.

Guest (not verified) says...

I understand what you mean. I'm currently a college student and I'm trying to be someone I'm not. All the disagreeable jobs listed here were the areas I was trying to specialize in for money reasons. Social work and counselor is right up my alley but the pay tends to suck for the degrees I must earn. Oh well. I guess I rather be useful and satisfied at the end of the day...

On another note: The suggested and not recommended jobs for INFJ seem accurate because my part-time job is in the theme park industry. I'm mostly stuck in restaurants or food service and I hate it. During my lunch breaks I don't stay in the cafeteria, I either go back to my car or find a quiet place to sit and recharge. The environment is mentally draining for me.

Guest (not verified) says...

I took a Myers Briggs test in a high school psychology class and got INFJ. It has been a few years since then and I'm now a college student. I took this test out of curiosity. It told me I was on the borderline for ISFJ and INFJ. However, I feel like INFJ is more accurate for me because of my intuition and creativity. And also because this is the result I got before and I don't feel that my personality has changed much.

Guest (not verified) says...

I just took this, and it was very helpful. I've been wondering what kind of person I am, and knowing I was an INFJ took a lot of worry off my back.

Guest (not verified) says...

In a work related context:
I have always been on the reserved side and thoughtful, deep feelings, but never felt shy. I talk when I have something meaningful to say that I have considered, rather than just a lot of word noise.

Due to my 'quiet' nature I have often been made to feel the odd one at at work with managers happy to point out to others 'how quiet I am.'

Over the years it has caused me some resentment but also gave me a lot of determination, along the way a few managers understood my INFJness and encouraged my potential, I am now an INFJ senior manager and fight for all the INFJ's..bloody extroverts!

amandersen says...

I have come out this time as an INTJ but scored out as an INFJ in the past. The INFJ seems to fit better, though.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am without doubt an INFJ, and have done the tests to prove it. I have spent my entire life feeling like the proverbial 'square peg'. I have always forced myself to fit in but have never felt truly happy and have always found most people to be quite boring to be around. As such, I have had to force myself to socialise and usually always prefer just spending time in my own headspace or with my husband having a nice lunch or dinner out with a good bottle of wine.

I find that the internet provides me with a wonderful outlet because I can connect with people better in chat rooms and enjoy hearing the ideas and points-of-view from poeple all over the world. You do meet some true gems online. I enjoy flexing my intellectual muscles online as well. I find I am not able to do this often in the physical world as I don't seem to like the things that everyone else does (but, once again, force myself to talk about even though my brain is going to sleep).

Discovering I am part of a very small group of people in the world has helped me greatly mentally to understand why I have always felt the way I have. Now I embrace it and have a laugh about it sometimes (on the inside of course).

jim says...

Eeee I really connect with the comment by Guest right before this, the one who says, "I have spent my entire life feeling like the square peg...never felt truly happy etc." I'm 63 years old, have been married for 42 years to same woman. My marriage has been a roller coaster; I often describe it as going back and forth from heaven to hell, but closer to hell most often. I usually feel so alone, like there's no one anywhere like me, and I live in my own little world wishing someone else could draw really close.

I'm a Christian pastor/missionary, seeking deep intimacy with the Lord, but it always seems I can't get as close to Him as I see others do.

I'm intelligent but sometimes it seems I'm going to go crazy because of my analytical nature; feels like I can't stop my mind from thinking. Yes I try to live a very ordered and organized life, and yes my desk is a mess at the same time.

My wife is ESFP, can you understand why it seems we are from different planets? Yet I know that people, like magnets, are usually attracted to opposite of themselves as seems evident with almost every married couple I know. At best, we complete one another, each strong in areas the other is weak. But it seems 42 years has polarized us further and further apart instead of bringing us closer together.

I'm really emotional, is that normal? If we go to see Les Miz, I'm sitting there crying at the emotional songs; and I often cry in deep relational parts of movies. Seems I cry when no other men are crying, and that makes me feel really weird and un-masculine.

Even now as I write this I'm wondering why am I doing this? Am I hoping to find some anonymous person who will respond to me deeply and then I'll feel better about myself? Sometimes just reading various descriptions of INFJ makes me feel validated, just to know there's actually a category of people like me, although I see it is only 1% of men, no wonder I feel isolated. OK enough for now.

Eli says...

Jim, you've touched my heart deeply. I can SO relate to most of your writing, especially "My marriage has been a roller coaster; I often describe it as going back and forth from heaven to hell, but closer to hell most often. I usually feel so alone, like there's no one anywhere like me, and I live in my own little world wishing someone else could draw really close." I'm married to an ENFP. One with NPD. I'm a Christian, it's what kept me alive for 26 years now. But my time is near.

The fact that you are emotional in movies, only shows that you have a deeply compassionate heart, just like God. That same compassion moved Him to save the world from sin. Treasure your God given attribute, it's highly valuble. Highly respectable. God will use it, to move you, to do His work.

teddi (not verified) says...

Hi Jim,

I am a much younger female, fellow Christ-follower who is also married to an ESFP! A strange combination indeed...and a hard one as we are vitally different. Lately, but consistently, I really find intimacy with The Lord is hard- the mortal coild of being alive in a body presents a barrier that honestly puts me away from His Presence, and in this life, that will be something that I think, always hurts a bit.

I've come to realize I am introverted BUT the few folks in my life who I am really close to/need, I need their physical company. I feel at times, very keenly, that I wish to sit in the lap of Abba Father and I will never do that on Earth. It's like being forced apart physically from a very very important person with whom I long to be close to.

My husband and I are in a terrible place right now: living apart as a couple of months ago, after depleting one of our liquid resources via a gambling spree, secretly running up thousands in debt, the truth came out about his opiate(pills) addiction. That said: it seems we're moving forward to rebuild his self from the ground up- then, the marriage and the relationship dynamics. But: I know what brought us together. He genuinely appreciated and valued me and where I am pretty complex and like you always, always, thinking. He is, especially at his core and if we can push past his addictive personality, pretty simple. That simplicity is calming and in some ways grounding and relieving for me. Maybe that is also true in your relationship. Would it be helpful for you to be able to carve out the very few things that are baselines in your relationship that do work and focus on those? We can be perfectionists truly and feel unhappy because we'd like our lives and relationships to be beautiful grand palaces that our imaginations can create: and then, there's reality. So while one part of our palace is delapidated, unfinished, plain, or ugly.... sometimes I do need to realize: I've got the roof over the head, a sound foundation and ... people -my self included- aren't perfect.

Your emotionality is normal part of INFJness I think. We em-path very easily, and connect with the emotions of others. I could maybe encourage you to own and accept that you are a male who can cry. If the world must judge (which generally is something INFJ's hate being- judged) let it. It isn't wrong or weak of you- rather it's an integral part of who you are and how you function. Seriously- screw it!- your a man and you can cry easy. You're masculinity isn't confined or defined by that factor and you are as the Lord created you.

You are right- we're rare and don't often find each other and the societal standards will put down a lot of things or at least invalidate or fail to value personality traits that are vital for us. It can be so very isolating. I think acceptance is just part of the road we have to continually deal with and process: the vast majority around us, even our closest friends, spouses, and family don't operate on the same functioning levels we do- and we're one of the few personality types where the HOW WE FUNCTION is so important to the WHY.

brentamiller says...

Hi Jim, I'm another square peg! And I can relate with everything you say in your post. I'm deeply religious, and considered going to seminary school. I've also had ups and downs in a long marriage, but luckily we survived my midlife crisis. I'm always thinking about "important stuff", so my weak point in relationships is letting impatience flash onto my face or my tone of voice if my wife interrupts me with "mundane concerns" like putting food on the table, keeping the house in good repair or color coordinating clothes... haha! I'm an absent-minded professor. Oh, did I mention that my wife thinks out loud if she has no one else to talk to? And me, I can't stand noise. Anyway, I've slowly learned to be more patient and loving, and wish that my mental energy were could be toned down with more simple things. And I've learned not to always be looking on the other side of the fence at what appears to be greener grass, in marriage, career and city of residence. Most importantly, in marriage.

In terms of being emotional, I don't let it show but I am very sensitive and have deep feelings. Sometimes I wish I didn't. It can cause a lot of pain, and sometimes there doesn't seem to be a good reason. I saw that only 40% of men are "Feeling" types, whereas 60% of women are. My best friends are women, and I've always felt a little weird about that. And speaking of friends, I only have a few good ones. I enjoy talking to people, but finding things to talk about for extended periods of time is difficult for me outside of my profession. I saw another post by a woman who said the internet was far more satisfying for her than face-to-face conversations, and I'm assuming it's because a lack of shared interests with the people around us, and the lack of shared values.

Anyway, we're ok, we're just a little different :) Take care!

filip says...

I'm sure I'm an IN of some sort. I'm leaning towards Feeling and Perceiving but INFP is really far away from me. I'm more INFJ than I'm INFP and I'm more INTP than I'm INTJ, but It's impossible to say if it's INFJ or INTP. The test didn't help (I+N+T/F+P/J). I guess my personality is still forming (if that's even possible) :?

cgriff337 says...

Completely. People change all the time.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm a fellow INFJ... I've been trying to focus on myself and personal growth before I look too hard into dating. My sister has always pressured me into putting myself out there to date since I'm so reserved. After finding out my personality type, this makes more sense at least. I'm a very talkative person, and friendly, but I really don't share much about my true self when it comes down to it. I don't like being single, but I don't want to settle either. I would never date someone who wasn't as serious as I about our relationship.

It is very helpful to read this information and try to better understand how others see me. I normally trust my insight into others' lives, but I never think trust my opinion on how others see me.

Does anyone have advice on INFJ's starting relationships? Dating online or should I simply try harder to put myself out there? It's not like I'm not trying already, but I also can't stand to hurt myself too much with rejection so I don't give it my best like I do everything else. Am I doomed to be single? Do I really have to make myself uncomfortable to meet someone? Is it wrong to just wait for something or someone to feel right and hope something comes up naturally? I'm only a college student, so I try not to worry too much yet. But I am tired of always being judged for it. So what if I haven't even kissed someone!

I guess I really do just want some validation in my relationships. I am an INFJ afterall.

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I don't think I can answer all of your questions, because I'm kind of in the same boat, but I would say, be true to yourself and don't change because someone else is putting pressure on you to do so. You might be able to fake it long enough to get married, but then you're married... and fake. INFJs are not happy in that situation.

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I have been reading through the comments and am not sure I agree completely with the concept of personality evolving over time. I think perhaps it is more a case of as you get older you have had more time to get to know yourself and therefore are better equipped to answer the questions honestly. Such self awareness has no set time line and for some of us comes early in life. I have always tested out as an INFJ female since I first took the test at 15 and would be interested to know if this constancy has ocurred for anyone else.

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