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Doug Carr (not verified) says...

It seems to be right on target with a lot of things. However, I do like my alone time of being an introvert.

Guest (not verified) says...

You may be an ISTJ...

Guest (not verified) says...

I feel the same way

Guest (not verified) says...

then you are probably an istj

Les (not verified) says...

Me too Doug! I do like my chill out time where I endulge in things that boost my creativity and make me think about things non-work related. Best example is a stage performer who behind the stage keeps to him/herself, is quiet, reads books in the corner, etc. However once they hit the stage, a change occurs and ....wow!

Sierra Laveau (not verified) says...

Clearly your not an ESTJ if your an introvert. Read the letters sis

Lauren (not verified) says...

I am an ESTJ also and I require a bit of time to myself. My test had me right in the middle of E and I but I lean to the E side more than the I side which gave me an ESTJ result instead of an ISTJ. You can be an ESTJ and still need alone time. 

jesshorselover221 (not verified) says...

this is good KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!

Tanny (not verified) says...

The estj profile for me is almost exactly the way I am. However, on ocassion I am willing to stray out of confirmity.

Guest (not verified) says...

I agree and

Ren (not verified) says...

I think it's important to note that it's not "conform no matter what", but "stick to successful strategy unless it doesn't work anymore". That's how I feel about a lot of civil rights issues. If it were working under the present conditions, I'd let it slide, but when our society is pressuring conformity without logical reasoning, then it's time to change.

Guest (not verified) says...

I need to find a partner that is an estj

amina.x.amara says...

if you're a man , then I am the woman for you ! But what is your profile ?

Guest (not verified) says...

Avoid the INFP. They are super intuitive and will eventually resent your relationship behavior.

Guest (not verified) says...

As an INFP I must agree on this:-). My mum is a classic ESTJ and boy, did I resent her! She was managing everything (which was great!), but she was criticizing my family members non-stop and made everyone feel bad about themselves. Especially when the INFP is not aware of personality types, he or she will not understand why you care about 'all the little rules' and why you're commanding and trying to fix the people around you. An INFP's conclusion will be that you're 'mean, difficult and controlling'. And, to be honest, we will not respect you the way we would respect an ENTJ, because we INFP's would like our leaders to show us 'the bigger picture', true vision (in our eyes), and not just the set of rules. Every time you take control of a situation with a tough hand, micromanage, or fail to take an INFP's opinion into consideration, it hurts them and they will resent you for it. They will remember the hurtful incidents like an elephant, and they will slowly remove themselves from your life (not with a door slam, but just no contact or they will suddenly tell you that they have found another job and will leave in a month, or they will tell you very respectfully that they will need to take a break from the relationship) However, if you are willing to let down your guard, show kindness and let an INFP know you are only human and not 'always right', they will be the first to support and encourage you and see things from your perspective. Be willing to explain your values and behavior to them. After all, your opinion is just an opinion, not the truth. We have loads of empathy, so it's difficult for us to hold grudges, but INFP's need to be able to see you as a 'real person' and not a 'perfect persona' or 'job title' in order to be able to like, support, respect or love you. INFP's are the natural supporters of people that dare to be humble (because we don't respect society's 'masks' and in our eyes, all people are equal and deserve respect.) We don't understand it when people see themselves as 'more deserving' or 'entitled to a certain opinion' or think their methods and dogma's are the only way to go. If you want your relationship with the INFP to work, you have to show them you can be humble, open-minded and kind. They are not the type to use your weaknesses and insecurities against you. If you treat them as equals and allow them time to form an opinion (they are big-picture thinkers, so they need more time than you to reach a conclusion or to come up with a plan), you will have a loyal friend/supporter/advisor/partner/employee for life....sorry for the extreme long comment, but I felt the need to share this with the ESTJ's on this website, so our personality types (that are each other's exact opposites) stop hurting each other and work together smoothly. No more INFP's that suddenly disappear and no more unnecessary micromanaging of ESTJ's will keep teams and families happy :). 

Cate W (not verified) says...

Estjs are the worst. People who unfortunately have them as family members love them in spite of themselves not because of themselves.

ESTJ (not verified) says...

I think any 'feeling' types will struggle with ESTJs as they we both logical AND extroverted, which leads to a lot of (what ESTJs see as) logical and accurate speech being taken (by the F types) as blunt, cold and deliberately hurtful. Not a good combination, unless both know one another very well.

Wryyyy (not verified) says...

I work with an ESTJ and I'm an INFJ ....I cannot stand them anymore and I feel an INFJ door slam about to happen. 

Guest (not verified) says...

Lol! This sounds like my experience. I'm an infp, my sibling is an intp...my dad is a estj. He still treats us like we landed from another planet, he just doesn't understand that our ideas of happiness are totally different from his. He means well, but our childhoods were extremely uncomfortable and he seems to be completely incapable of understanding what he did to cause it. Essentially, he thinks there's something 'wrong' with us both. I've just learned to let it wash over me when he starts trying to dictate, and do my own thing.

Riley Martin (not verified) says...

I am so happy with my personality it is siiiickkk

Jason Hawkins (not verified) says...

i agree with it because i do like to get stuff done and i work

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi ESTJ. I'm am INTP who enjoys finding like minded people like myself which isn't easy. Being a female INTP is about 2% or so of the planet - the so called elusive. So here I am online to find a decent conversation. I basically harass/and or enjoy talking to everyone - depending on their MB type of course. I am especially drawn to ESTJ's however. In a way quite the opposite. BUT wait. Not completely. I love to shake up the ESTJ's- tradition, order, socially acceptable behavior. How boring. But hey, they are great as the THINKERS. Yes that is the good part. The logic. I say, just take that beautiful sensible logic, authority and confidence, to determine when to take that elevator home at 4:30 like the other slackers to take a walk on the beach. Since you only live once. Yes, that is a fact- you only live once. Too bad for you poor hardworking ESTJ's. Missing out on all the fun, all work and no play. Thats what your MB profile says. I work for the money baby. To stash it away. To be an ESTJ and work for work sake sounds like a death sentence. LOL. Just having fun here, just joking around tonight. :)

ENTJ (not verified) says...

Dude.  Are you drunk?

ESTJ (not verified) says...

I think people mistake our work ethic for 'work for works sake'. It's more that our sense of value in the world is heavily based on what we contribute and how much we can offer during our time on the planet. We have a very strong moral compass and sense of duty that translates into a huge desire to be useful and throw ourselves into getting as much done as we can. We can literally hear the seconds of our life ticking away and get very uncomfortable just sitting around watching TV or not doing anything of value. As if someone will point the finger at us and question why we are 'being lazy'! Although I'm certain childhood and life experience have some impact on types, as all the ESTJs I know either had very demanding parents that expected a LOT out of them or they had bad things happen to them and developed structure and control as a coping mechanism. If you grow up in that sort of environment, then it becomes second nature. I constantly question whether people think I'm lazy and useless, even though I get an insane amount of work done. That ties into my lack of emotional intelligence. I never really know whether people actually like me unless they clearly tell me or praise something I've done (which is more tangible), so working hard and getting things done is something measurable that I can use to say 'well, I've done x, y, z so I'm clearly not THAT lazy and useless'. Other types worry a lot. ESTJs compensate by doing a lot.

You are right that we can be annoying or confusing to people who don't share our machine-like drive to get things done. I've never looked at it from an outside perspective, but I'm sure we come across as too serious and logical for most people (especially emotional/sensitive types). I know I've inadvertantly hurt people in the past with what I considered to be purely factual statements. I don't realise it until much later and always feel guilty, as I don't mean it that way. And unlike thinkers with more laid back personalities, we can be exhausting if we don't develop the social skills in adulthood to act as a buffer. I know a few ESTJs and we have definitely mellowed out with age. We would have all ended up killing each other back in our 20s if left in a room together! So apologies on behalf of all the young and still very blunt and overpowering ESTJs out there!

As for INTPs, my cousin and fiance are both INTP and they are my favourite people in the world! I can be incredibly logical with them without worrying if I'm being too blunt, but they come up with amazing ideas that I can then put into practice. I worked in the same company as my cousin for a few years and we were like the A Team! I love listening to them brainstorm and I don't try to organise them unless they ask for it (which happens a lot), but respect the way they work and WAIT to be asked. I think that is key. Too many ESTJs forget that not everyone is as driven as we are and they try to drag everyone along with them and you can't do that. I've seen it in myself when I was younger and more naive and I've seen it in other ESTJs I know, and it's one of our biggest faults. Once you learn to just focus on organising yourself, you don't upset as many people.

lovely lokaa . (not verified) says...

it worked for mee

Guest (not verified) says...

Anyone else catch the narrator saying, "And 6 percent of females." when the graph shows 8 percent? (around 2:12)

Guest (not verified) says...

Ha!! We are all ESTJs, so likely we all caught that. :)

Guest (not verified) says...

Or an intp. Reading this forum is cracking me up. The estjs are in love with themselves lol. But really that is a good thing overall.

Guest (not verified) says...

An I to would catch that as well. :)

Guest (not verified) says...

An I to would catch that as well. :)

LeslieESTJ (not verified) says...

"And I, too, would catch that as well." <- Hi, I'm an ESTJ.

manic (not verified) says...

i feel partially leaderistic and yet follower as well.

ESTJ (not verified) says...

I'm happy to follow someone if I a) respect them and/or b) have a lot of room to do things my own way within the loose boundaries they set.

MariBossa2016 (not verified) says...

I'm not alone. This makes me happy. FACTS..... Leaders rule!! And women rock!!! Go ESTJ's!!!!!

Ignacio Beltrán (not verified) says...

That´s what my best friend, a Psychologist says. However, he hates to accept my superior arrival to conclusions. Of course, I kindly point to the good points of his logic and we continue to be friends.

Guest (not verified) says...

Keep getting estj in personality tests. Couldn't agree more and this is why I never understood things theoretical and never got why people get so emotional in life let alone films and entertainment. I'm so different from everyone in my immediate family that I believe I'm adopted at times.

Guest (not verified) says...

Hello Everyone:

I liked all the descriptions except the jobs that I wouldn't like,because they were exactly the ones I would like: librarian social scientist and more. What about you?

Sandra

Shazad (not verified) says...

This was very interesting, as I took an extensive test and I got ESTJ.
I am very confident and some people can't handle my straight forward attitude. I am a business man and I am very structured and have a certain way of doing things.
My quarters are uncluttered and I have organized everything.
I was very hesitant about these tests but this has been spot on as to who I am.
ESTJs rule, I love my self regardless of how people think I am.
I like my principles and I have served in the army also, as I am getting older I find it very interesting of the person I am becoming.

Rehana (not verified) says...

I have gone through the analysis of ESTJ and agree with all that has been written with regards to the personality traits of this type. More or less I do [posses these qualities and feel so nice when i read it as it helps me understand myself better. Thanks

Mindy K. Shadle (not verified) says...

This describes me very well. I have a lot in common with what this says.

Guest (not verified) says...

I am an infp and I love my estj girlfriend. She gets things done and she knows how she wants things. I admire her for it.

brianhatcher31 says...

Hmm . I am am ESTJ, but years ago I thought I was an INFJ. My tests almost always show a balance from 45% to 52% str8 across the board with All the types. But I am at 58% at ESTJ these days. My Dad was strict so I was forced to play the introvert and be quiet and more perceptive. Anyway... my wife is an INFJ.....maddening! Lol.

Deano (not verified) says...

Im an estj and my wife an infj and all i can say is i wish i was more caring about not only her feelings but empathetic in general. It hurts to see our relationship in disarray.  I do love her but i have hurt her too much to believe me. Are there any words of wisdom / advice from you since you are married to the same personality type as mine? Thanks. Shes a good woman. Too good for me.

Terralyn (not verified) says...

Deano,  aI I'mhope imI not too late! I'm a female ESTJ and my best friend is a female INFJ.  I absolutely cherish my friend and her feelings. She has helped me grow a lot. You should read up on her personality. Her strengths are your weaknesses. Read about INFJ friendships. I think you will see what attracted you to her. When I read about her personality, it made me feel good about who  I am, which is no surprise. I call her my maximizer. She helps me to sort out my thoughts and has given me the courage to step out of the ESTJ box. Best regards

Guest (not verified) says...

I don't know if this is still useful to you, but my parents had this paring and similar problems. My dad would try and try to fix it by trying to make her spend time together like he thought people 'should',  always missing the point that all my mother needed was a bit of space to do her own thing and a genuine appreciation for her own differences and cintributions. If you want to fix it, give her the time and freedom to be herself, and don't tell yourself that you already do that, because you probably don't...you just think you do and that's the problem. 

Morgan Ward (not verified) says...

After taking the test, and reviewing what the studies have described me to be, I would agree strongly with all of this. I am an athlete, and I love to take control and know that the situation is in control and structured. I love to know what is expected, and for everyone to have the same idea and guidelines for the assignment/project.

RachaelC (not verified) says...

Hi all... I have been trying to research myself for once... I usually get deep into details and pickup on the slightest things... most of what I read says that we estj hold jobs for long time... I have a problem with that... once I work somewhere I am very determined to do my part and people tend to feel like I am showing them up or something or even the male bosses seem intimidated... I am currently an admin assitant running the office on my own no help literally... while they are training me same time to be operations support assistant... it is too much I know I can do it all but not as fast as they would like... so the other isue is once I don't feel appreciated for the effort and time I put in... I just want to leave I don't want to stay where not respected... like I usually come in an hour early and stay over by an hour to get the work done... any suggestions for high paying career without having to go back to college... please and thank you!

ESTJ (not verified) says...

Have you considered setting up as a contractor or starting your own company? You can hire people to fill in the skills you lack, while retaining control over managing and structuring everything.

Sanjay Gore (not verified) says...

I am happy to know my personality is ESTJ though need help to develop as ENFpinspiring & ENTp visionary 

That would shape up my character 

Any thoughts...

MrKiemura (not verified) says...

Start dating ENFP as ESTJ. Challenging opposite, you probably do not have anybody in your social circle as these two types avoid each other. But if you happen to dat one ENFP...and survive...you will have learnt something a lot. The idea is that either you can associate with people compatible with you and not being challenged as you are or you can associate yourself with somebody who is absolutely challenging to you as person...which is tough, painful....but it gives to you an opportunity to grow.

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