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ESFPs and Other Personality Types

Kindred Spirits

People of the following types are more likely than most to share the ESFP's values, interests, and general approach to life. They won't necessarily agree on everything, and there's no guarantee they'll always get along, but they're more likely to feel an easy rapport and have plenty of things in common.

Intriguing Differences

People of the following types are likely to strike the ESFP as similar in character, but with some key differences which may make them seem especially intriguing. The ESFP may find people of these types particularly interesting and attractive to get to know. Relationships between ESFPs and these types should have a good balance of commonalities and opportunities to challenge one another.

Potential Complements

ESFPs may not feel an immediate connection with people of the following types, but on getting to know each other, they'll likely find they have some important things in common, as well as some things to teach one other. Although people of these types may not attract the ESFP initially, their relationships present a lot of potential to complement and learn from one other.

Challenging Opposites

People of the following types present the most potential for personality clash and conflict with the ESFP, but also the best opportunities for growth. Because people of these types have fundamentally different values and motivations from the ESFP's, initially, it may seem impossible to relate. But because they are so different, their strengths are the ESFP's weaknesses, and if they are able to develop a relationship, they can learn a tremendous amount from each other.

ESFPs in Love

In relationships, the ESFP is generous, friendly, sympathetic, and affectionate. ESFPs are eager to please their partners and motivated to create a fun, harmonious, and active home. They often enjoy family life tremendously and typically prioritize socializing with loved ones above all else.

ESFPs tend to avoid conflict and may have trouble being serious, preferring to move on with their active lives rather than have an uncomfortable discussion. They are tuned into the needs of the people around them, but prefer to do something constructive to take care of their loved ones, rather than spend time hashing out difficult issues.

ESFPs are supportive of their mates and try to take good care of their families, but can be impulsive as they pursue the pleasures of life. They may go where the wind blows and neglect to follow up on responsibilities. They are characteristically spontaneous and usually dislike a structured lifestyle.

ESFPs want a partner who supports them in their lifelong pursuit of fun and excitement. An ideal mate for an ESFP is affectionate and appreciative of the ESFP’s generosity and desire to be helpful to others.

ESFPs as Parents

As parents, ESFPs are loving, affectionate, and fun, and usually like to have their households full of people having a good time. They may have many children, and are good at responding to their families' practical needs.

ESFPs may be a bit unpredictable or scattered, and will prefer to engage everyone in a fun activity rather than impose rules or discipline. They do not tend to take life seriously, and often consider it more important to provide excitement and fun than to create structure or stability for their children.

For more information: Please Understand Me II

ESFP Communication Style

ESFPs are enthusiastic, light-hearted communicators. They often love just interacting with people, with no particular goal in mind, and tend to keep conversations fun and full of laughter. ESFPs are free with compliments and energy, and and often draw people in with their positive approach and ability to observe other people’s needs. ESFPs are good problem-solvers when it comes to practical and interpersonal issues, but they tend to avoid negativity; discussions that turn to criticism or conflict will send the ESFP running.

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Guest (not verified) says...

Esfps are 2nd highest in successful marriages but tend to have lower incomes...

Maia S (not verified) says...

After I finished the test I was extremely excited with result as ENFP. I even bought detail version. Then, just from curiosity I checked ESFP description and I am torn appart. I had experienced both sides ,can relate pretty strongly to each description. Any explanation?

Guest (not verified) says...

I've always wanted to perform and dance. Now I know why! It's part of me!

Guest (not verified) says...

To all the ESFP girls, I need help!
I am an INFP male and recently started a relationship with an ESFP girl. We knew ourselves since 4 years, but never cared about each other until recently. Anyway, me and her like enjoying each others, but I really don't understand what kind of relationship there is between us. I would like a more romantic relationship, but I don't know how to approach her, and above all I can't understand what she thinks about me. I can't get if she is sending signals I should receive, or if she is just being kind, like she is with everyone. For example, last night we were at a party with music: she was dancing, and I was talking with friends. At a point, she comes to me and asks me to dance with her: I obviously accept and go dance with her (well, she dances, I try to), but after a few minutes she turns around and goes dancing with her (female) friends, leaving me veeery confused. It seems to happen every time: we get along together, she makes me think she has an interest in me, and then she leaves leaving me like a stone. I can't help but feel confused.
What do you think she means? What is she trying to tell me, or is it just my imagination? And, above all, how do you think I should approach her and how can I try to take the relationship to the "next level"? I am naturally very shy and humble, and I am hesitant to make the first move because I am afraid of ruining everything and blowing away every chance.

Thanks for reading this far, hope you can help me.

Guest (not verified) says...

As an INFP currently in a relationship with an ESFP, I feel your pain. We were also friends before we started dating and I never realized that she was actually interested in me, I kind of thought she just flirted with most people to be honest, and I had just convinced myself I was over her when she asked me out. The whole dancing with you and then leaving you behind is a bit confusing, but it doesn't mean she's not interested! I know it's really hard to do (and that I'm a bit of a hypocrite), but you should just ask her on a date, like going to a movie or ice skating or something lowkey like that. Good luck, I believe in you :)

Guest (not verified) says...

Tell her what you just said ^^^^^!! You already know she has an interest in you, I say you take her on a date or something (she'll see that signal) and tell her that you want to be the "next level" but were always too scared to say anything! Then say something(s) nice about her. And then her true feelings will show! Woo!

lisacoolen79 says...

I am an ESFP girl and maybe she is just getting distracted! That happens with me! And you may just be in the friend zone....sorry! But if she was wanting to be more then friends she would let you know. Just ask her to "come here" and when she does, pick her up and plant a kiss on her, tell her you have been wanting to do that for years. Women like men who take control also (in a good way). If she doesn't like it, move on!
idk if this helps you may already be with her, but good luck in whatever you do!

Keish (not verified) says...

Go for it and let her know otherwise she will think of you as weak and you will be friend zoned forever. I know this personality tramples all over weak types so you have got to man up while still being respectful and sensitive if you know what i mean. But definitely let her know and tell her you are much more than being friend zoned. Good luck i hope this reply is not too late.

Guest (not verified) says...

I'm an ESFP girl and dating a INFP guy right now actually so I understand. In our relationship my boyfriend has always been the more steady and reserved one while I am quite the opposite. So we started our relationship with his persistence in wanting to talk and get to know each other. I often pursued him as well once we got a little further down the road. So to you I would just say stay persistent. Keep asking her to hang out or get coffee or try to talk to her. I'm sure she knows you like her and may like you but may not be sure about it. If she was sure and wanted to date you, you would know it. But outwardly the two types are pretty different so a relationship between the two does not come quickly. You just need to show her what you do have in common and that you are steady and will not be giving up anytime soon!
Don't blame her for leaving quickly though - that's just who we are as ESFPs. My boyfriend still has to deal with feeling like I don't want to talk to him or just left abruptly even though I don't see it as that. We just like to move around and can get distracted easily!
Hope that helps.

An ESFP girl (not verified) says...

Well, I think shes just very social. She likes to be friendly with everyone and treats almost everyone equally. Dont be sad if she hugs guys (Unless shes not like that) becase thats her way of being friendly.

Guest (not verified) says...

What is the best complement to an esfp in the workplace?

lisacoolen79 says...

Good Job! and Thank you!

Desi44 (not verified) says...

When I meet new people I get almost exact sense of their intentions and it doesn't take long to get a quick look at their values. Honestly it’s never been wrong I just never understood to articulate it to someone else because I couldn't quite understand it myself. Are all ESFP’s like this?

batman (not verified) says...

I'm an INTP and my best friend is an ESFP. Says we aren't supposed to be friends lol

Kellermikey (not verified) says...

Well this describes me pretty well, so I'm a little bummed to find out airline pilot is one of the careers recommended against. That's what I'm currently in school for. wish me luck!

beep (not verified) says...

and thats the tea!!!

yyyyy says...

  • yuh

Del (not verified) says...

O my god, it is true. I don't really care about being a manager or director and sitting for hours in the office with 8 to 5 working hours. I just wanna have fun in life and do things that I like, and yes it is correct too, I have several hobbies (belly dance, yoga, playing keyboard, sightseeing, etc). And yes sometimes they make me confused! I have left my good career and now working as a freelancer (yup, you're right again, low income) but I am enjoying life! And that's the most important (at least for now) lol.

But I don't really agree that about being in a spotlight, it's rarely happened. I like to be grounded as the test result says and that means, I don't really care about spotlight xD. I love this test tho. I have tried 4 tests, and 2 of the results are ESFP including this.

mickeyTILLY77 (not verified) says...

that fits me to a t i can go into a bank or grsery store and crack up everyone BUT you know what happens living with that for 28 years gets you // A DIVORCE WE are children in adult bodies im 59 i still think i can play major leauge base ball im retired was a tree climber for 37 years freacken dont save a cent , motorcycle accident broke neck spine 4 months coma im still doing the same crap 7 back opperations im a moron but i have a very high iq go figure


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