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The ENFP Personality Type

ENFPs are people-centered creators with a focus on possibilities and a contagious enthusiasm for new ideas, people and activities. Energetic, warm, and passionate, ENFPs love to help other people explore their creative potential.

ENFPs are typically agile and expressive communicators, using their wit, humor, and mastery of language to create engaging stories. Imaginative and original, ENFPs often have a strong artistic side. They are drawn to art because of its ability to express inventive ideas and create a deeper understanding of human experience.

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What does ENFP stand for?

ENFP is an acronym used to describe one of the sixteen personality types created by Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. It stands for Extraverted, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving. ENFP indicates a person who is energized by time spent with others (Extraverted), who focuses on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details (iNtuitive), who makes decisions based on feelings and values (Feeling) and who prefers to be spontaneous and flexible rather than planned and organized (Perceiving). ENFPs are sometimes referred to as Champion personalities because of their enthusiasm for helping others realize their dreams.

ENFP Values and Motivations

ENFPs tend to be curious about others and preoccupied with discovering the deeper meaning in people and ideas. They want authentic experience and often seek emotional intensity. ENFPs are easily bored by details and repetition and seek out situations that offer an escape from the mundane. Novelty is attractive to ENFPs, who often have a wide range of interests and friends from many backgrounds.

ENFPs prize individuality and often consider the pursuit of happiness to be the highest priority in life, both for themselves and for others. They place great importance on personal freedom and self-expression, and want to be able to go wherever inspiration leads.

How Others See the ENFP

ENFPs love to talk about people: not just the facts, but what motivates them, what inspires them, and what they envision achieving in life. They’ll often share their own aspirations freely, and want to hear others’ in return. The ENFP is unlikely to judge anyone’s dream, and will discuss the most imaginative and outlandish of fantasies with warm, enthusiastic intensity. They love to explore creative possibilities, and nothing deflates them faster than talking about dry facts or harsh reality.

ENFPs often seem unconventional, and may come off as scattered; they don’t tend to be in touch with their physical surroundings. They often overlook the details, as they are more likely to focus on connecting with other people or on exploring their own imagination and self-expression. They have little patience for the mundane and want to experience life with intensity and flair. ENFPs often have an artistic streak, and may be artistic in appearance. Many have developed a distinctive and quirky personal style.

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How rare is the ENFP personality type?

ENFP is a moderately common personality type, and is the fifth most common among women. ENFPs make up:

  • 8% of the general population
  • 10% of women
  • 6% of men

Famous ENFPs

Famous ENFPs include Bill Clinton, Phil Donahue, Mark Twain, Edith Wharton, Will Rogers, Carol Burnett, Dr. Seuss, Robin Williams, Drew Barrymore, Julie Andrews, Alicia Silverstone, Joan Baez, and Regis Philbin.

ENFP Quotes

"They may be inspiring teachers, scientists, artists, advertising or salespeople, or almost anything they want to be."

- Isabel Briggs Myers, Gifts Differing

"Their enthusiasm is boundless and is often contagious, making them the most vivacious of all the types, and also inspiring others to join their cause."

- David Keirsey, Please Understand Me II

"ENFPs' ability to empower others is one of their most impressive contributions to the workplace."

- Otto Kroeger, Type Talk at Work

Facts about ENFPs

Interesting facts about the ENFP:

  • On personality trait scales, scored as Enthusiastic, Outgoing, Spontaneous, Changeable, Impulsive, Energetic, and Understanding
  • Scored among highest of all types in available resources for coping with stress
  • ENFP women are less likely to suffer from heart disease
  • ENFP men are less likely to suffer from chronic pain
  • Rated by psychologists as among most likely of all types to have trouble in school
  • Overrepresented among academically talented elementary school students
  • Personal values include Home & family, Friendships, Creativity, Learning, and Community Service
  • Commonly found in careers in counseling, teaching, religion, and the arts

Source: MBTI Manual

ENFP Hobbies and Interests

Popular hobbies for the ENFP include writing, creating and appreciating art, playing musical instruments, listening to music, participating in community theater, and reading fiction.

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eRiK with a k (not verified) says...

Hello!

I recognize myself in your description of being a "jack of all trades" or having "many dreams"; you feel that you could do so good in so many fields, but at the same time I /you(?) don't know if I have the patience/ endurance to stick with that "dream".

I am currently studying to a PE teacher for years 6-12 combined with "after- school teacher" (don't know what it's called in english), and I feel that this is going to be a good base to stand on and start from. I am currently 23 yrs old and I have time to study to "more important" things later, eg. something for the climate or city planning later, at least that is what I tell myself. I want to do something that makes a difference and I know I will do that as a teacher as well, but one part of me (or my ego?) wants to "save the world" by helping the climate or our survival on this planet. Also if i "get stuck" working as a teacher, I  know I will probably thrive on the workplace anyway, but a small part of me knows I'm always going to be a restless soul unless I find "my true passion" so yeah I hope I will find that but for now I play it safe and go for the teacher job.

I have worked as a "home nurse", or whatever it's called in english. I can highly recommend doing that, or some volouteer work because helping people makes you feel good but still, you got to ponder if it's what you want, or if it just makes you feel good and is an extra job when you study to "something you want". 

In one way I am concerned that I don't know what to do in life, but in another way I am very confident that EVERYTHING in life is good experience and we will wind up were we are supposed to be as long as we keep asking ourselves what we want to do and keep doing what we like and feel good doing and also taking care of our bodies, mental health and friends/ family.

It's really delighting reading all comments here because I realize that I'm not alone with my "issues" of not knowing what to do. ENFP's go go go.

Alan Barber (not verified) says...

WOW - sounds so much like me in my early college days.  I wanted something creative out of HS but also had advanced HS classes in Math/Science.  I started out in Architecture but ended up obtaining a BFA in Studio Ceramics (Texas Tech, 1969) after a detour to a few schools in NorCal.  The fact is, don't worry about the money, just find a way to pursue whatever you settle on, your highest passion at the time.  In fact, your passions and interests over time will change and MANY creative people have multiple careers in their lives.  It is never too late to change careers!  I became interested in film 1988/99 and began to study that.  I have made one film since (Six Man, Texas, 2008) and now work with Austin Film Festival as a Script Competition Reader (volunteer).  I also have a writing partner and am working on four scripts that I plan to find a way to Produce.  Every road you take is rocky, so do not worry about the downside, focus on what you want and keep your eyes on the upside potential of what you are passionate about.  You are young, you have time.  I am now 75, have survived a stroke and cancer and spend 75% of my time immersed in film projects of some kind.  You have time - and no excuse to not GO FOR IT!!! Do what you really want and when you are 75 you will be glad you did.  And, if you are still in your early years of college, go to Film School, I wish I had gone there.

EWebbe (not verified) says...

embracelife, I am in the middle of a project and came upon your post. It struck me that you are so affected by stereotyping that your lack of confidence seems like Pygmalion Effect. You will likely not succeed if you are always reminding yourself that "people" say someone like you will not do well. I would suggest starting with Jordan B Peterson's book 12 Rules for Life (the audio version is free on Youtube). If you truly want to embrace life like your name implies, then you should embrace your strengths and weaknesses, be brave, be bold, and do something of value.

Velina Killmeyer (not verified) says...

I too struggled with what to do with my life. I wanted to be passionate about my career and l also didn't want to be poor. I wanted to work for myself and be able to express my creativity. I ultimately wanted a career in healthcare with a high degree of flexibility and to never let myself get bored doing the same thing day after day. I am happy working as a critical care travel nurse and investing my money in real estate. I own and manage five apartments. I am self employed as a travel nurse and landlord. I enjoy the thinking and physicality of critical care nursing and the income diversity of being a landlord. I renovate houses, add bathrooms, design landscaping on the side. My life is never boring and l think my work is productive and creative enough to suit my personality.

Afellowdreamer (not verified) says...

Oh man, I identify with that so much. I'm going into my senior year of high school and I'm trying to figure out where to go to college and what to do as a career. I also love the arts but I also plan to do something else as a major, and I understand the sentiment of "if I don't go to the best school then I'm wasting my time and money" and "if I don't make something that looks good then what am I doing". If I were going into film, I would feel the EXACT same way as you. Here are some thoughts that have helped me, hopefully they could help you out too? 
 

1. ultimately a ton of schools will give you a great education. The classes at the community college I'm going to are good, if I had to go there for college I would probably still feel capable of entering the workforce in whatever major. People put a lot of emphasis on the top schools but there are some good professors and good classes pretty much everywhere. Ultimately most schools are qualified to teach you what you'd need to know.
 

2. Classes will teach you how to be good at what you want to go into. Yes, talent exists, but you don't already have to be good at something before you decide to major in it, because the class is supposed to teach you how to be good at it.  The fear of teachers and authority is something I understand also, and unfortunately that's just a thing you'll have to overcome by just diving into those office hours... but once you try it once it'll probably get easier. For the arts especially there are also YouTube tutorials and other internet resources that can also help you out. 
 

3. there are people who didn't go to college who are still successful. If what you are doing doesn't work out, there are still things you can do, jobs you can have. Failure isn't the end of the world unless you let it be. 
 

um so there are my words of encouragement, I understand how you're feeling completely and ultimately you're just going to have to pick something and run with it, run as fast and hard as you can, because it's better to do that then to just stay in indecisive limbo forever 

I'm told that optimism is a bad comforting method and it's toxic positivity and whatnot but I am sorta offering it anyway because my brain thinks it's being helpful by being optimistic and I haven't convinced it otherwise yet

hopefully I at least didn't make it worse lol 

thank you for listening to by Ted talk *bows* 

Cristina (not verified) says...

Hey. Wow. All my life I liked music. But also I like in childhood acting,dancing,writing ,maths,then I went to Japanase study when what I really wanted was to sing and have shows but I compared myself to others who did have singing classes since an eatly age so I did not go to a singing hightsvhool I did not even consider it. Now I m having lesfoms amd I want to sing on the streets this August or on the beach.Yes Yes!  Good luck!

Insynctive (not verified) says...

Yoooo im in my Junior year of college right now and all of which you typed was like you just wrote out my whole life in college. I went from Biochemistry to wandering about finance, law, mathematics, maybe go for travelling. Ultimately I still couldn't choose....doing something new and moving on was all I did these past 2 years of college. Shoot me an email, we should talk. 

Watafail (not verified) says...

Yup. Currently going into my third year in college. Got in for mechanical engineering and am still attempting that, but currently struggling and questioning whether I chose the right field to begin with.

Ureman (not verified) says...

Change the way your learning. Try Master and Apprentice. Could do this in film to. Reach out until you find someone you can engage with on a personal level at work. There's many ways into film who knows what it will be. They often feed you to, so you can work and not starve, no matter how poor.

It takes a lifetime (not verified) says...

Hi all you ENFPs - I was quickly reading throught the comments here and I would like to say that as a 58 year old ENFP, I'm seeing a common connundrum here: the desire to pick "one" thing that you do. Right now society is very big on the following, particularly among those under 50:

Achieving 

"Doing what you were meant to do, i.e. "passion""

And for the younger - being famous or doing something particularly outstanding is a strong desire due to social media.

Here's the problem with that: as an ENFP you are unlikely to be able to maintain focus on just one thing - life is just too "BIG" for that....which makes star level, big achievements difficult. Yet, I completely and totally understand the desire to have life feel meaningful and intense. I believe this struggle continues throughout life, but given society's values right now, it appears to be becoming particularly paralyzing for younger people. Given our zest for "living" there are just too many "what ifs" that fill our brains and we just cannot commit for fear of missing out. Also keeping dreams of alive is very important to us (I think) - which can look like fear of failure. There is no easy answer - and that is life for everyone - just different challenges depending on who you are. I recommend trying to embrace your core self and not one particular goal that may take years to achieve. This doesn't mean you can't achieve a lot, but let it happen organically and just try to focus on what you feel like doing today or in the near future and balance that with your basic needs. As much as social media has made "doing amazing things!" seem possible, it is such a small, small, small portion of the world that actually does that. You have to find value within - which is a lifetime process.

LOL - Prior to filling out this comment and after reading the ENFP description, I thought "I don't want to help others reach their creative potential...". Guess I do to a certain extent - I'm just old enough now to have enough confidence to feel my thoughts are finally legit.

smm1000 (not verified) says...

I have never understood myself or talked to other people like me until I read this comment section. Currently a senior in college about to receive a degree in marketing yet I have no passion for marketing and no clue what I want to do. A part of me wants to follow a career where I can use my creativity towards things that I am passionate about and come up with big ideas rather than sitting at an office job, but I dont even know what kind of career this would be. I also would love to be able to travel year round and just work side jobs or teach english, but another part of me wants to stability and certainty of a full-time job. I know I have the people skills and background to work in marketing, but I have a fear that not following my dreams with prevent me from realizing my life's purpose... I just dont know what that purpose is. Does anyone else sit around and fantasize about the future or is that just me??

Bracken (not verified) says...

I wonder the same thing bro 

so many interests... (not verified) says...

This is very encouraging, thank you! I'm sort of starting to realize this at 27... that I can have my artistc passion but it doesn't work for me if it's my ONLY thing, and I don't think I'll actually be able to put the amount of energy into it that I need to by making it my only thing. About to go back to school, partly in the hope of more financial stability but also just to keep things varied, which in turn I think makes me more invested in my artistic interests. The idea of having to work hard at one thing and make it big at that is so not helpful for ENFPs. 

Rata (not verified) says...

Wow, you sound like me. I'm 40 years old now and struggled to complete school due to poverty. I wanted to go to film school but couldn't afford to move cities.  I started a diploma in interior design but couldn't complete it because I thought the sales class was too much like manipulation. 
I fell into stripping, loved the dancing and the attention. Then I got a break with an event company doing a traineeship in AV, 3 years studying and on the job learning audio, projection and lighting, it was great, lots of young people, lots of freelance workers who also crossed over into film. I made friends and we entered short film competitions. 
I stayed in corporate events for 7 years moving from AV technician to event project manager. 
My biggest career regret was that I was invited to a radio station to discuss a producer job, they are always looking for AV women in the industry, it seemed too easy so I thought the pay would be terrible and I walked out before even knowing. Between event jobs I did some work with the women's refuge movement and loved it. 
after having children I started a business in office furniture and it's been hard work but challenging and exciting. I have started writing short stories and hope to publish some day, I've started learning piano and painting again, things I made time for in my youth. 
If I had done Uni I would have done the arts, film or industrial design in my younger years. 
but I finally started Uni at 40 Bachelor of social work. I want to make change, I want to work in policy and move up from there with my big picture concepts and political understanding I want to work on projects that change lives. I thought about law but it's too dry for me and I don't want to socialise with those people. 

the only advise I have is 'start somewhere'. It doesn't matter if you start in computer science, law, arts. Having a degree in anything increases your income in any job you choose. My friend studies art, in an art teacher 3 days and does her art for 2 days that sells for thousands. I get lonely working in my business on my own, painting, writing and gardening on my own. Social work gives me the opportunity to connect with like minded students, I've changed my degree from psychology because I can't sit on my own helping a few people. I want to help many. 
My friend is doing coding at Uni, not to code, but to work as a coding project manager in some way. 
just start somewhere, knowledge is never lost, you'll use it somewhere and you'll figure it all out as you go along. 
good luck. 

Karrot M (not verified) says...

Hey

I'd first like to say, wow. We are almost the same person. For the longest time, I've never been able to figure out what it is that I want to do with m life. The one constant in my life that I have wanted is film. Since I was % it was the one thing I've always wanted, but never voiced out loud or really planned on it because it seemed like too far fetched of an idea. A child's dream. But honestly, there is nothing else I want to do. I know that if I don't give it a shot I will regret it all for the rest of my life. Don't get me wrong I am terrified. I've had at least three full-blown panic attacks since I've made this choice. There are just so many risks to this choice. I am terrified, but I'm going to stick to it. I am currently majoring in business (my back up because I'm too terrified not to have a back up) and I am minoring in film. 

I genuinely wish us both the best of luck and hope that we both succeed in whatever it is that we pursue.

randomENFPguy (not verified) says...

Hi both! I can relate soooo much with you two. I know and consider myself as a creative. I am into arts (dancing, films, photography, video editing and sketching). I just turned 24 and working on tech company for 3 years now as a software engineer, which I know from the very start that it is not the job best suits me. I took Information Technology course in College because they say it's in demand, high-paying and I also like to believe that if I like computers (gaming and social media), then I will also like programming, but no. Wasn't the case.  I did it, graduated, but I know that I don't want to pursue being a programmer/developer as my career. But, upon applying to one of the known tech companies in the world,  I managed to be hired in just one day (one day hiring process). Everything went so fast and I got the job offer by the end of the day. I signed it knowing that the wage I will be receiving will be of great help. Got promoted one year and a half later and now I am an above average wage earner. It surely helps my family in this time of crisis, we have the advantage of working from home, and I am continuously learning, slowly but there's progress. But am I happy? Well, partly yes, because with God's help, I knew I have braved my what ifs of entering this field... but a huge part of me says this is not me. Now, I am thinking of my what ifs if I pursued with MultiMedia Arts, which is my first choice course.

I am now thinking of pursuing my passion, after watching so many talks and articles about knowing what your calling, purpose and passion is. And I just want to share the definition of passion (which greatly helped me, and I hope it will help you as well), passion comes from Latin word "pati" which means to suffer (thus, "Passion of the Christ" film). It is not just the things that makes you happy and excited, passion is more than that, it's being willing to sacrifice or "suffer"/work for things you're passionate about, something you'd be willing to do even without compensation. Something you really love. And I know my current job is not my passion.

I am currently thinking of pursuing film by attending webinars, shourt courses and learning by surfing the net. I don't want to leave my current job right away, considering the crisis, and I'm thinking of having it as my backup and to financially support my passion as well. My inner child is not happy, I know, it really makes me feel bad for the many times I feel I am not good enough in this tech field.

So, if you happen to be studying still, or just graduated, it is never too late to make a turn! It's your choice still. I sincerely hope your choices will make you happy, and if it turns out otherwise, it's okay, it will benefit you still in a way.

This is a developing story. ;) This is not the end. God bless you all!

Chris (not verified) says...

So encouraging random guy, thank you for that definition of passion too.

 I am also in a decent position financially thanks to God, even though it is probably not my life's work.

 I definitely think it's a good place for me to learn certain social and leadership skills & just random skills in general.

 I'm looking for a way to contribute and build a real estate team to have more financial freedom and am also pursuing my personal passions of music and comedy.

God has blessed me with a full life and I am asking him to make room for a family in my future.

He has been encouraging me to ask him for everything and to rest in his provision so while I am use to striving with ambition, it has been a great challenge to be still and practice listening to his voice guide me.

There is so much to learn and I'm so excited to hear your journey too, I hope this is as encouraging to you as your words are for me!

God bless you and everyone else on this incredible journey 😃🙏

randomuser (not verified) says...

I completely understand your feelings-- I also struggle with not knowing what to do in my future and being afraid of failure/ending up with an ordinary boring job. It seems like you are really passionate in filmmaking so I would suggest giving it a shot because when you really want to do something, you will put your whole heart into it and be eager to learn more about it to improve your skills. That's why I don't think you are passionate in computer science or law because you don't want to put the effort into it but you seem to really want to be involved in film. You can try filmmaking at home on your free time to get that first cringy film out of the way lol I'm sure there are many resources online of prompts to try or tips. And I would recommend to maybe double major or have a minor in a field that is profitable if that is a big concern. A good career that allows you to be creative and make money that you can try is advertising, which uses elements of film via advertisements (and architects make a lot as well). So I would advise to take time in discovering what you want to do and to try out filmmaking or any class that fulfills your creative need.  I would also advise to not put so much pressure on yourself. Failure is inevitable and everyone experiences setbacks, however, you don't want that fear of not being good enough to hold you back from trying out your passions. I would hate for you to look back on your life in regret for not trying out filmmaking. You never know what could come out of your dreams, so I would say give it a shot! 

Scugoza says...

I've read a lot of different places that ENFP's would make as great detectives or investigators. I also find it interesting however that police officers are on careers to avoid, which I can understand to an extent, except for the fact that the only way to become a detective is to first be a police officer. You can defintely be a civilian investigator as a CSI or PI, but still. Any thoughts on police work?

Ureman (not verified) says...

I suspect its to be avoided because of the hierarchal, disciplined structure and the restrictions on the role. Monitoring yourself. Tedious admin etc. But not all departments will be the same. Me personally it's hard to accept bureaucracy.

thinker (not verified) says...

hi! ENFP here I honestly have no idea what I want to do. I love to sing, write (my love for writing could fill the whole of new york) animals and rock climbing, all these things fill me with such joy it is impossible, I know that I do not really have to think about this at my stage in life but I am one of those people you think ahead do loads of reshreach (but I always love to leave to chance espesilay in my writing I find that a story is a boat sailing on a long unpredictable river and every wave or tumble is a new adventure just waiting to be found I think of life that way too) anyway if you have any ideas please say. (sorry spelling is not my strong point)

junebug (not verified) says...

hey! i totally understand where you're coming from. i get the whole "planning everything before you even need to" thing and i feel the same. i may not plan, per se, but i yearn to have the exact idea of what i want to do. i have realized though that my interests change all the time, and i guess i shouldn't worry about it. i will find something that will suit me eventually. honestly, my best advice, is to do everything with passion, with the intent of doing it well. it may not seem like your favorite thing to do at first, but if you try at everything you do, i am sure you will find a way to love those things or find something that perfectly suits you.

best of luck! never give up and work hard at everything you do! <3

Zagi (not verified) says...

Hi) I am 20 y.o ENFP-T now and don't know what I want to do in the future, what I will do and so on😭 It began a while ago. Now, if i speak shortly about me and my past, when i was at school i always wanted to become an economist and tried hard to enter the special lyceum after school and university. But when the lyceum graduation time came, i began an internship in a finance area, which is very important for an economist🥺 and understood that it is not for me. I had had a headache, stomackache and so kn when it was time to go to work😅 ( i hated it so much, i dont know why🧐). I was counting the minutes to leave that place and boring work. All in all i was an intern for a month( i escaped telling that i am going for a week to another city😁but didnt come back after coming back🤭). Then I understood that i need something more creative and was passionate about fashion. I wanted to become an architecht or fashion designer, but my parents didnt allow me to😔 and i entered a university with a major in economics with finance. 

During my 2 year study period i became intersted in teaching and began working as a teacher of foreign languages for children and adults. I loved my job and worked there about 1-1.5 years, until my parents made me quit it and told me to find somthing more serious😪 Then I was accepted in a game developing company as an ASO specialist and began working there. I really loved and am enjoying my job, but now i dont know what to do. 

In this 2 years period i lost my close person and my interests and hobbies. May be this is a reason why i dont have some passion and so on😔 I didnt have time or will to draw fashion sketches and so on, i lost any emotions. Everything became for me just meaningless. I began thinking like ok i will become a designer and so what will happen, what will you get? Does it have any meaning, yeah it doesnt have and so on🥺 I was thinking a lot about a meaning in life and so on and was feeling that there is no special meaning((( i was thinking about the goal in life and so on a lot🙈 

And once I realized that i am not a professional in any field. I tried many things but left them in a half way and didnt become a professional in any of them. And dont even know what to do in future, what i want to do and even i dont know what i love to do🥺 

I am half economist( who didnt study well, because thought that wont need it), i am half teacher, half game developer, half web designer( i learned how to do it and made websites), half interpreter( yeah, i was working as an interpreter too😅 even in professional and serious meetings🤭), half music producer(recently i became interested in this field and wanted to become a rapper or music producer and began working on it). But not professional in any of these fields🤕 

 

The saddest point here is that i dont know what to choose now because i am graduating and my life is going to be chosen(( i was thinking a lot, but dont know even which sphere i love. I imagined myself in each of these spheres and i couldnt get the answer😭😭 

I cant see myself as any exactly one of them:( Now i want several spheres (music production, fashion design, psychology, game dev and even economics) but cannot choose one and dont know what to do in future. Because many people are already professionals in their favourite spheres, but i dont have even that one. 

I am a hard working person and can achieve everything i want if i want to, but donkt know what to do now😭😭

I know that i should become a professional of my work and become the best of the best( yeah,  i want to make somthing massive and public, if economics- the minister, if fashion- the best fashion designer in the world and so on) , but i dont know how to act and what to choose :( and even what i love. Can you help me with how can i deal with it🙏🙏

I am so sorry for this too long message, but i am really confused and need a help, because it can change my life and my future. 

Will be very grateful for any help and advice. 

Thank you for reading and everything❤

Mila (not verified) says...

Hi, Zagi.

I'm only three years older than you but I still remember that feeling when you graduate school in a few months and don't know what to do. The most important thing for you right now is to realize that it's not the end of the world if your choice turns out to be a misfire. We are ENFP and we have so many ideas for life paths that choosing only one is really hard. But you don't have to. When I was graduating from high school I was a mess. Every friend in my life had this strict plan about future and I thought that I needed one too. So... I made one. Something that's reasonable and will bring me profit in life. And then I went to college like I planned. Maths major. Everyone was so proud of me and it felt amazing. But after a few weeks I knew it was a disaster. I loved math, I still do, but it wasn't my passion. I looked at these people and I knew I didn't belong there. And in that moment I started to think about things I love to do when I don't think about anyone's approval. Books, writing, helping people, teaching kids, acting... you can see that it's not profitable, but I stopped caring. It's my life and my choices. I changed my major and started to learn how to become a librarian. During my studies I did a two-year psychological course to work as an educator or a psychologist with kids in elementary school. Right now I am nearly graduating and I'm going to, for another two years, learn how to teach older kids my native language and after that I'm going to have a course to teach in kindergarten. But that's not the end! When I graduate and start working I planning to write something. Maybe a movie script and maybe I'll try to get accepted to a movie school. They like it when you apply after finishing some other school first so it's even better for me. Maybe it will be another misfire but I won't be satisfied unless I try.
I'm telling you this because I don't think that you'll be either. Right now you may think that fashion designer is the most fun and you are longing for this, but in a few months it can be game developing. And it's totally fine! You like so many things, but you don't have to be devoted only to one. Think about how to combine all of your ideas. Maybe think about making a game about fashion with your personal soundtrack? It could be fun. But it can be something else. Just don't give up. There's always a way and if you wanna do turn for 180° – do it. You're young and probably think that you have to choose everything right now, but that's not true. This moment is when your journey truly begins. Be happy about it. Maybe you'll find another excitement. You'll find new people with so many fascinating ideas and some of them will combine perfectly. 
So... what I was gonna say from the beginning – stop stressing yourself out. Life has a lot to offer you. Think about it as something good and not bad. 

I hope I helped you a little. 

Buzz (not verified) says...

yo, I understand what you're going through, fellow ENFP here 

I'd say this, try to choose one and fix on it for maybe 3-5 years. I've had different interests  from archaeology to becoming a UN diplomat, but at the end of the day, I'm pushing for health science.

become financially independent and ensure you can lead a stable life for this fixed period of time (even if you have multiple interests, choose one and settle down) 

once you're independent and financially ready, you can pursue your other interests slowly and catch-on. or maybe you might actually liking the career you chose and wish to pursue it permanently.

kudos to you and good luck

Muna (not verified) says...

Hello Zagi

If you sit down right now and think about yourself in 10 years time, do you want to be a passionate economist? a record selling music producer? a talented game developer? 

Lead yourself to the path that you can fully visualise and love. Visualise your job as an economist with all its flows and problems as well as its bright sides and possibilities. Do the same with all the other jobs. For example, being an economist means you will have to develop many complex systems and plan a lot to find outcomes, what kind of difficulty will you get from that? can you bear with that? would you rather be a music producer and deal with snobby music artists possibly? You have to weigh the flaws and perfections of every side and come up with a career that you can live with the flaws of. No job will have zero flaws. 

Additionally, reading your post I felt as if maybe you didn't find what you really want to do. If you loved something very deeply, it would have became the centre of your life. Choose a career path for now and keep experimenting in the free time you have if any.  

Remember: being a jack of all trades that does nothing at the end is very detrimental to your time and energy. 

Seek something that awakens passion inside you 

Best of luck 

Patochan (not verified) says...

So ENFP-T (also some other types but especially this one) is all about having a quadrillion different interests but no real "passion" you could devote yourself to. Even your greatest hobby from 2 years ago may seem boring now. You know how it goes.

But actually these are symptoms of a mild depression. Losing interests and hobbies. Lowering of self-esteem. Hanging out with people becomming only stressful. It may be a good shot to see a psychologist/psychiatrist.

And straight after that you should meetup with a carrer coach (or even some former, wise teacher you know), who should help you to sort out your career interests and help you to bring out your calling. The thing you think you were born for. That one topic that always, even in this depressed period of yours, makes you hyper to talk and think about. Sort out between job interests and hobbies for compensation. Everything is an equilibrium, even your own self.

Sabine (not verified) says...

Hi Zagi,

i could have written the exact message you wrote at your age. I was completely at a loss of what and where my place was in this world. Now in my mid 50's (wait, time flies! 😊) I would say try and connect with your higher self and feel deeply what direction moves you, makes you curious.. by the way you write it sounds like fashion design or design in general sparks something in you. Explain to your parents that you know they love you and that it is important to you to wake up in the morning with enthusiasm and love for what you do and that life is too short to not explore those promising avenues. Along that journey called life it is not the destination that counts but the incredible path we create and walk getting there. It may take detours but make it count with what sparks your interest and love for life and meet people along the way who inspire you and sometimes guide you. No worries you'll find your way and you will leave your unique, incredible mark in this world! Believe in your awesome self! Best wishes! 

Plutosangel (not verified) says...

Hi Zagi you sound like a 20 year old version of me. I'm 31 now and I know how hard this is! The career that I started just happened (learning development and training) but I've stuck with it the past 10 years and there were many dull days but I stuck it out to the point where I am consulting within the same domain and I get paid well for the projects I take on. Plus, I have lots of free time that I use to pursue different things. I'm juggling 5 different things other than work and honestly it's great. I know that I need to explore new things but my main thing is my main job so even if it gets boring it doesn't bother me because the side stuff keeps me invigorated. 

Another suggestion for you is to think of things from a 'project' perspective. For example, focus on one new things that you'll do and you'll stick with for at least three months before you take on something else. Having a project approach keeps things new and challenging. 

thinker (not verified) says...

hi Zagi not sure this will help but if you really want to be a desiger or anything else for that matter maybe you could try to show your parents that it is important to you and has a meaning in this world and that you have the skills to become one (and I belive you do) Your job should be something you love to do not something that makes you wish the day would end (like me in my algebra lesson🤣) sorry that I can't give you more advice but I wish you the best of luck🙂

Alberto (not verified) says...

If you pursue all these different avenues and different interests you'll eventually find something that you're genuinely passionate about it'll be easy to become a professional in that field ( please feel free to email me to talk some more ) 

Julia Train (not verified) says...

Is anyone borderline J/P? I'm definitely high on the other 3. Especially N & E... but only 51% P ... I think I'm very adventurous and love traveling to spontaneous places. But other times I have more J tendencies

Thomas V. (not verified) says...

I also tested right on the border between J and P.  But I'm also an N, so the last letter isn't as pivotal to us as it is to S's.  What you want to look at is the interplay of each of the characteristics.  So look up the descriptions of your type as ---J and ---P and see if one of them clicks for you.  Remember, the particular number value doesn't matter as much as getting a better understanding of who you are and how you react.

Luiza (not verified) says...

Hi guys! Little help? So, I'm from Brazil and currently in my last year in high school... The thing is, I really do not know what to do. Like, i just don't. And with this pandemic going on I spend a lot of time thinking about my future and its making me go mad. The more I think about it, the more uncertain I am about everything. Some years ago, I was set in studying medicine, then everything changed, i wanted biotechnology BUT i did an sort of internship in an biochem lab and i realized its not my thing to be stuck in a lab. I NEED TO SEE PEOPLE hahahahah. So now I have no idea what to do carrerwise. I want to help people, face to face. Anyway, could any of you tell me how did you decide what to do, or something that helped? 

Thank youu :)

Guest (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza! That is totally fair to not know what you want to do yet, and especially with the added stress of the pandemic going on, I know that doesn’t make future plans much easier. I am a rising senior in college now, and I fell in love with the career of occupational therapist my freshman year of college. The medical field kind of found me after my dad had three pretty big surgeries and had to do a lot of rehabilitative therapy, but I would recommend just looking around, taking quizzes, observing friends/family of jobs you might be interested in, etc.  I bounced around a lot of different career ideas throughout high school and all I knew was that I liked science and I loved working with and helping people! Occupational therapy is a great way to be in the medical field while being able to help people directly and build closer with relationships with your patients! It is such a flexible career and you can find a good setting that works for you and your personality (pediatrics, geriatrics, in/out-patient, home health, school, etc.)! I would definitely look into occupational therapy! And just remember, you have plenty of time to find a career that suits you. I know this year isn’t quite what anyone had expected but I hope you enjoy senior year! 

Anna B (not verified) says...

Hi Dear,

My name is Anna, I am an ENFP as well. I know exactly how you feel. Until 3 years ago I did not know either who I was! Learning only now as I have discovered Jesus and His live for me - but not like they teach you in church. You can have a personal relationship with Him, just ask Him to show you what to do with your life. This has changed everything for me! I no longer feel empty and have slowly started to realise who I am - a structured, serious job is never going to make me happy, but being with and helpig others will and really does. I belive the same is true for you. Please get in touch if you want to chat. You will succeed in life when you give your troubles and worries to God - He takes care of them, he really does.

InA (not verified) says...

Hello! I love your comment dear, because I know exactly how it’s hard for this type of personality to get the right direction and find out what you want to be. But when you really get to know Jesus and made Him the only priority - He’ll become that beacon of hope and guidance for you! Just discover and know what a precious potential you have with your personality type ENFP- and moreover with God you will experience the peerless possibilities and remain happy, safe and stable,in this unstable and fickle world..)) Bless you all!!:)♥︎

theartist (not verified) says...

Hi

me as an ENFP-A had the same issue, wanted to go to biochemistry after a visit in a lab and paharmaceutical experiences I said no. After that I choose to study economics and business administration and started to work in finance, payroll and auditor. So I was going to do all the analytical detail oriented job and seems it does not fit me. I am smart to do it, but I do not feel content with it. I took this test few days ago again and really made me realize what I really enjoy. So try to focus what you enjoy the most and choose after that. It is really easy to get trapped in a job u don`t like even tho u can be good at it in some level.

wish you all the best!

Momma K (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza, I relate to what you are experiencing.

For the longest time I put off studying, because every field I looked at was too narrow and confining. What I found as I went through my career, raising children, starting and selling businesses and now embarking on a second career in my 40s, is that you should grab hold of the opportunities that are available to you, becuase they lead to more opportunities.

If you have the opportunity to study Biotech because you find the field interesting then go for that, now. That's your now. It's not your forever. 

You most likely will find yourself working in a job thats not an exact fit for you for a few years or even a decade, but perservere. You will find so many opportunities to grow as a human being, a leader and an individual that is not related to your work but will open doors for you. You might be tempted to look at people who have spent their entire lives building a career or growing as a person, honing their skills and character, and then you compare your starting position in life to that. There is no short-cut to get there straight after college.

The truth is that you will find your own unique path, your own goals, your own combination of different streams to create a new, possibly as yet undefined contirbution to the world. But this does not happen overnight and it does not happen without first doing the mundane and the ordinary extra-ordinarily well. Master your weaknesses and your skills, give yourself time to grow and persmission to make many mistakes, that's how you learn and develop your judgement. 

It will take all your life to live your life. Take it one step at a time. You won't be able to figure it all out now. 

I wish you all the best!

MommaK

Niko (not verified) says...

If you are under 28 don't really worry too much about what you're going to do for the rest of your life. Just keep doing things you like and enjoy to do. You will find it just keep busy, "The worried person must stay busy lest they wither in dispair."

Julia Train (not verified) says...

Agree but also don't agree. I didn't think about what I wanted to do post college until I was post college and then I was like WTF. And it was horrible. It's important to think about what careers you will excel at at an early age. You can jump start the process while others are in Lala land. 
 

With that said - you are right to say not to worry about it too much. Worry is never good. 

And also you are right when saying pursue the things that make you tick or happy - don't worry on what will necessarily make you money, per-se. you have some time to take risks. 

Guest (not verified) says...

just do whatever you feel like to do. And don't care about anything.

Hannah h (not verified) says...

 trial and error is the best way to find something that you want to do. Remember that you can always change your job later on once you settle on a degree or path.  Based on what you stated you might want to look into psychology for a career.

Carno (not verified) says...

Hola Luiza, 

My undergrad was Dentistry but I also wanted to be a lawyer, a journalist and a Charlie's Angel 😊.  I eventually ended up being a hotelier which has been fun because no two days are ever the same.  Try finding something that will utilize your strengths and at the same time challenges you.  And continue doing the things that make you happy (outside of work).  It doesn't matter what you end up doing eventually but if it allows you to use your talents and challenges you, you'll feel useful and fulfilled.  Also talk to people already doing the job you're considering and ask them what their days are like.

Leila in Hawaii (not verified) says...

Luiza, I'm 62 and took the Myers Briggs test in my mid-30s. I took it again later and the results changed slightly. the Introversion turned to Extroversion. But the thing is that it will tell you a lot about what might work as a career for you. I also got help from my guidance counselor after I went back to school in my mid-30s and eventually became a newspaper reporter. Point is, you need to get help in knowing who you are and what will make you happy and what your strengths and weaknesses are. Your personality type is a huge part of this. But you will change as you grow and develop. The world is changing. Newspaper reporters are a dying breed, but are needed now more than ever. I encourage you to follow your passion and I hope that in the end in whatever world you end up in, that the career will still be there. But getting a good, solid educational foundation will help you find something later in life should that career you wanted as a teen not be around. heck when i was a teenager, i wanted to be a missionary. so keep seeking and you will find. and don't worry. you will find how to connect with people during and after this pandemic.

PattyC (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza, 

It may be that the subject matter is not as important as the social interaction. You could enjoy medicine, for example, if it meant talking about your patient's motives for behavior and why those motives may have led to illness.  That would be quite different from having a practice where you run from Room 1, 2 and 3 spending around 10 minutes with each patient and never getting into any depth.  

Or you could be a teacher. If you taught in a school where you had colleagues to talk to that would be great. But if you taught at a college where you walk in, teach, and then go home, you will burn out.  

You could  get a degree in the science of learning and creativity and then work for a company in Human Resources showing how to get employees to learn. Companies are moving towards digital means of training employees and are looking for best practices.  But you would still have colleagues to mix with.  Add to that that many department heads feel like no one listens to their needs since Human Resources rarely seems to help them with their core issues.  Maybe you can grasp what these guys want because you can put yourself in their shoes and truly picture what the problems are. Then you use your creative skills to communicate it to HR. Since you like people, you would be careful not to step on other people's toes but still communicate well enough to make it clear - this is what they need!

How about getting first of a year of practical skills in the graphic arts or media design so that you have a means of expressing your ideas that goes beyond words.  Combine that will any number of fields. But make sure ideas are discussed in person and not that you design something and send it off by email.  

You could be a librarian but only if it meant that you organized social activities that the library offered.  What do people in the community need to thrive or relieve them from stress.  

Also, pay attention to the things you find upsetting.  Those are the things you care about.  Does it make you angry to hear about social injustices, or elder abuse, or kids who have nothing to do during the summer, or that this country is one of the most wasteful in the world, or that we don't have a good system for recycling our clothes, or that doctors aren't well-trained to deal with chronic disease.  Look at the hardships that you have dealt with in your life.  Sometimes people want to stay clear of that topic or some want to do something about it. 

A lot of small business people don't know how to advertise to the public.   How could you lay out a masterplan to help them manage it on a consistent basis.  Offer free talks and then win clients to help them in more detail.  But I would start such a business with someone else.  The comraderie will be the deal breaker.  

Whatever you do, the goal is going to be how you can be sure you will have the social interaction you need.  Is it enough to talk to people one on one throughout the day or do you just love sitting around a table swapping ideas with a group - or a mix of both.  

I have found that it doesn’t help to wait til the right idea comes your way. You must analyze your everyday behavior and see where you are getting your energy to live. Then see what kind of jobs resemble that.  I think if you don’t crave social interaction, there are a lot of high paying jobs out there.  But those jobs would kill your spirit.  Try to find the balance.

So, watch how your day goes.  How many hours can you handle on your own before you have to talk to someone.  How do you feel when you have to do paperwork? Are you able to follow a schedule – no? you probably had better work in a company than be self-employed.  Or maybe you are pretty unproductive during the day, but at night you just get things done.  Maybe you could be self-employed and then be able to socialize more with friends during your free hours. If you can’t figure out health insurance, taxes, etc on your own, maybe you should work for a company.  Or maybe you are good at getting whatever help you need since you get along with people.  Then you can work from home. You have to weigh it all. Yes, it is overwhelming and you are going to have to try things out to see what you like or can bear.  Good luck. 

Kate M (not verified) says...

Hi Luiza! The one thing I wish someone had told me when I was leaving high school is: You do not have to know what to do. In fact, you shouldnt' try to figure out "what you are going to be" yet.  I felt like I had to *know* what I was going to do and carried that weight for a long time.Maybe someone did tell me and I didn't listen. But I hope you hear me:)! Some people know what they want to do and what work is important to them, but many (and probably many of the people who say they know) don't know. And that is ok. I'm going to say that twice- it is more than ok to not know what you want to do. In fact, I wouldn't trust it if you did! I surely had no idea, but kept on pretending like I did because I felt like I had to "have a direction". Take time to experiment. If you are going to school, take one course in different departments. Search to find the things that interest you and make you feel energetic about the next day. Take some time off before school and do an internship or travel or just work a little bit. The future is uncertain- it always was. But uncertainty isn't doesn't just mean *danger*, it also means beautiful possibility. And take time now to faceplant into as many possibilities, well, as possible. 

Topaz (not verified) says...

Hey! So I'm not sure if you are spiritual at all but believing in a higher power is very helpful, you don't have to be some religious freak but to have a relationship with God even just a little helps with uncertainty. Realising that God has a plan for you and all you have to do is follow your heart helps a lot. Just speaking out your thoughts (prayer) to God, knowing he is there for support. Write in a journal your thoughts to just put them on paper and decipher your thoughts. You need to put your mind at rest and stop thinking about what you think you should do, you need to sit with yourself, ignore social media, technology, distance your mind from distractions and feel what it is your heart desires. You may not want to go to college straight away, you may need a year or even two to figure out what it is you want to do. You may want to volunteer or work to build experience, confidence and understanding of what drives you, what makes you happy and fulfilled. Do not pressure yourself to figure out what you "Think" you need or should be doing. There is no point studying a course you have zero passion for. You need some time to with yourself to understand what it is you are passionate about to pursue.
Also you probably do have a bit of an idea what you enjoy, (what was your favourite subject in highschool?) but you are concerned about certain factors such as pleasing your parents, wanting to look important to others in a certain profession, making lots of money, but all that truly matters is doing a job you are passionate about whether that is acting, sports, biology etc. Whatever it is you enjoy doing pursues it and give it your all, having a career you enjoy will not feel like work. You have to listen to yourself and your heart, only YOU know what makes you happy and what makes your mind and heart smile. Good luck and everything will work out. Stop overthinking and stressing there is NO WRONG decision to make. 

Ayodele Fiyinfoluwa Esther (not verified) says...

This was really helpful. God bless you. 

Cameron B (not verified) says...

Hey!

My names cam and I'm from New Zealand and I'm also in my last year of high school. I'm not sure if this will help you but for me I was so stressed about whether i should stay in school and go to university or leave school and work full time. My brain and my heart was pulling me in all sorts of directions and I didnt know what to do. But quarentine actually helped me to take a step back and think about what really important and now In two months I'm about to drop out of school and bike around NZ!! An option I would never have thought of if I hadn't tooken a step back to reevaluate what's important to me. So maybe just try taking a step back and thinking about what will make you happiest. After all what's the point in being alive if you arent going to live? Good luck anyways :)

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